The Ramblings of the Titanium Don

Do You Have Some Days You Feel Like You’re Living a Lie?

I believe that everyone has some days like this. Who in the hell am I? That’s the question, isn’t it? Who are you? Then, because that question alone isn’t sufficient, where, how, and why also get tossed into the mix. Everyone makes choices every day. Some are small and largely automatic. Some are huge with massive effects/affects and/or consequences. Whatever the case might be, you will have both good days and bad days. Among these, some good days are life-changing,

Why is The Unknown Path So Damned Scary?

Because it’s unknown – and thus, uncertain. On the one hand, I’ve never been one for plans, lists, and the like. It’s always felt genuine and true to myself to be more improvisational in my approach to life. On the other hand, I’m a Virgo. Sometimes I get utterly ordered and freakishly clean, arrange, and set stuff up. When it comes to choosing and walking a given path in my life, this can be challenging. Loose and ready for anything

What Are You Doing Today and How Does it Make You Feel?

Today is one-of-a-kind. What will you choose to do with that? I have just completed an annual vacation that was interrupted by the pandemic for two years. Every summer since 1996, I have spent 1-2 weeks at a massive medieval reenactment event called the Pennsic War. It tends to draw 10,000+ people to it for numerous medieval classes, combats, glamping, and socializing from all over the world. Due to COVID-19, the event was cancelled in 2020 and 2021. This year,

How Is The Struggle An Important Part of Any Chosen Path?

Because without the struggle we lack the impetus for growth and change. One of the hardest aspects of working to improve our lives is stepping out of our existing comfort zones. Why is it called a comfort zone? Because it’s comfortable. Though that’s not wholly accurate. More than being comfortable, our comfort zone is about familiarity. It’s what we know, are used to, and consider deep down to be the norm. Such that it is. This is why we often

Why Are We What, How, Where, Who, and Why We Are?

Why we are – and all else – depends on circumstances both in and out of our control. Please pause a moment. Look around you and then make note of where you are. How did you get there? What made you decide to be where you are, right now? Is this where somewhere you actually want to be – or not? For various reasons, you are where you are. Maybe you’re somewhere you have chosen – or not. And even

When We’re On Our Life Paths We’re Not Always Walking Alone

Our life paths belong to us alone – but that doesn’t mean we walk them wholly alone. At the start of 2012, I began Pathwalking. This regular weekly blog would evolve into a whole life philosophy. Through this process, I have been choosing paths for my life experience for the past 11 years. These have been some of the best years of my life. Many things have changed over this decade-plus – the vast majority of it being for the

What is it about Expecting Both the Least and the Most from Myself?

It’s not expecting the least and the most from ourselves that’s the trouble. It’s the expectation itself. Our harshest critics tend to be ourselves. We set the highest bars, frequently judge on shifting expectations, and give the harshest criticism to ourselves. I don’t know about you, but often, I would not accept the kinds of things I think and say to myself were they to come from someone else. And yet – I know I’m not alone in this. I

Can We Really Do Much of Anything to Change Anything At All?

Yes, we can change anything. But it begins with ourselves. This weekend, two dear friends got married. Both, in the time I have known them, have changed in many ways. And the journey to get to this place together was not easy for either of them. But surrounded by friends and family, they pledged their love and lives together. Who you were is not who you are. And who you are is not who you will be tomorrow. That’s the

If You Believed That You Could Do It – What Would You Do?

What you could do if you believed in yourself is not just words on a motivational poster. In my experience, do you know who we tend to have the hardest time believing in? Ourselves. Look at who people tend to believe in. Talking heads, politicians, oligarchs, demagogues, and leaders with fleeting power on multiple levels. And that’s just the individuals that people believe in. What about abstract entities and intangibles? People believe in countries, sports teams, religions, God, ridiculous conspiracy

What Are You Intentionally Doing to Be Where You Desire to Be?

To get where you desire to be, what are you doing? I ask myself this question more than I feel like I should. Perhaps I’m alone in this. But then, maybe not. What are you doing to go where you desire to be? What does that even mean? For me, it’s about being who, where, how, why, and when I desire to be in this life. This is both a matter of the now, as well as where I will