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What Do I Want To Give The World?

I want to give back to the world.

One of my greatest desires is to give something of value to the world.  Whether it’s entertainment in the fiction that I write, insight from this blog, lessons in medieval rapier combat, or a pun to make someone crack a smile, I want to be a giver.

GiveOne of the risks of this, though, is focusing more on giving than receiving anything in return.  When in the course of day-to-day life one needs to earn a living, this can present a particular challenge.

I am working on reconciling this idea.  How?  By seeing and acknowledging the difference between being a giver and taker.

This has been covered both in Positivity and Pathwalking this week, but to reiterate, giver’s give from a place of abundance, with no real expectation of anything in return.  Takers may give from time to time, but it is with a demand for something in return.

That something can take a bunch of different forms.  Money, favors, praise, etc.  A giver does what they do to assist, help, and often empower.  A taker does what they do to curry favor, gain for themselves, and usually in order to disempower.

Yes, I want to get paid to be a writer.  My books are not available on Amazon for free.  This in part because this is how I want to cross the bridges between writing for fun and writing for a living.  Writing for a living is still fun for me, but I’d like to earn money doing it.

I have studied some ways with which I could monetize this blog.  Yeah, I would really like to make some money writing these posts.  But it is more important to me to maintain my principles and be a giver.

To give is not to sacrifice.

I think this is one of the issues I have to work with.  I’m aware of a lot of artist types like myself that hold onto several beliefs about money and integrity.

That’s one issue.  The other is how often we are told that you can’t make money as a writer/painter/sculptor/actor and so forth.  Only the very lucky few, such as Steven King, Salvador Dali, Leonardo DaVinci or Will Smith make it big.  Everyone else is struggling.

Earning an income can be difficult in the best of times.  Job security is pretty laughable in this day-and-age.  Even people in industries known to make good money find challenges.  Taking that into account, trying to cross the bridges between where I am now and where I want to be, it comes as no surprise that I feel rather conflicted.

I want to give, but not sacrifice in the process.  This is why there are certain types of writing I only do for money.  There was a small magazine I wrote three or four articles for, to put my name out there.  Free press.  But after one of my articles was the cover story, I said, “Hey, I am a writer.  I don’t normally just give this stuff away, so please pay me.”  Suffice it to say, they didn’t want any more articles for me.

Did I sacrifice something?  Truth is, no.  Continuing to write without pay would have made me angry.  Sure, I would have gotten my name out a few more times as a published writer, but I would have sacrificed my time and my energy, and gotten nothing in return.

Does that make me a taker?  No.  Why?  Because this is not a matter of selfishness, it is a matter of self-care.

Selfish versus selfless is the difference between take and give.

Do you expect a plumber to come into your home, fix a leak, install a toilet, and not get paid?  Would you expect a doctor to perform a surgery on you free of charge?  Of course not.  So how come people expect artistic types to give away our work for free?

Yes, I want to give value to the world.  Yes, I want to get paid to do this thing I love.  How do I reconcile being a giver versus being a taker?  To a large degree, it all comes down to intent.

To receive fair value for services rendered is how our society works.  The problem comes in when we get confused between levels of value, fair versus unfair, and greed.  Presently, a great deal of what we see in regards to the wealthy is a staggering level of greed.  The unfortunate, unintended trickle-down from this is a blurring if the lines.

As such, wanting to receive fair value for my writing while still giving something back is not a selfish act.  It doesn’t mean I am ending my blog, nor am I about to start charging you to read it.  But in the process of consciously creating reality, I want to manifest a career as a professional writer.  This is my ultimate goal.

The why of my goal, however, is because I want to give something more to the world.  Whether I take you away to a fantasy world, make you laugh, or help you manifest a better life with conscious reality creation, it all is about my greatest desire to give.

Give from a place of abundance.  Do so with joy and passion.  Give because it feels incredible.  That is my intent in manifesting the life I most desire to live.

As always, thank you for crossing the bridges between my worlds with me.

 

This is the sixty-fifth entry of my personal journey, the Crossing the Bridges series.  My collectively published writing can be found here.

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How Does a Pathwalker Be a Giver?

Givers get as much as they give.

A lot of people do not recognize this for how powerful it is.  But the power of giving, when it comes from a place of abundance, actually creates more to be given.

Pathwalking is about finding the path for ourselves.  Taking control over our own individual destiny, making use of conscious reality creation to manifest the life we desire to live.

One of the key reasons behind Pathwalking, at least for me, is to make the best use of the skills I have.  I want to use my talents not only as a writer, but as an empathic intuitive to do some really cool things.

As such, there is a lot of giving involved in this.  I don’t just want to do the things I want to do for myself.  I want to share them.  To be a giver, I want to put myself out there to do what I can to make the world a better place.

We are living in particularly trying times.  There is a constant, seemingly never-ending flood of negativity, lack, and artificial competition washing over us through social media.  Resisting and countering this can be trying at best, and sometimes utterly exhausting.

Paulo Coelho wrote a book called Warrior of the Light.  I cannot recommend this book enough (alongside The Alchemist, which is one of my very favorite books).  The notion of a Warrior of the Light is very similar to Pathwalking.  It is full of anecdotes for how to achieve our individual destinies, and do good in the world.

I have often written about how Pathwalking is not a selfish act.  To properly define this, it is necessary to understand the fundamental difference between a giver and a taker.

What’s the difference between a giver and a taker?

I mentioned this briefly in this week’s Positivity post, but it totally bears repeating.  A giver will give their time, their energy, their assistance from a place of openness, abundance and a desire to make a difference.  This is sometimes great, and sometimes small.

A taker, on the other hand, takes the time, energy and assistance from others and hoards it.  They express no gratitude, and expect you to give them more and more, with little or no thought about anyone but themselves.  They also generally believe in lack, and that there is not enough to share with anyone else.  If they do give, they do so expecting something in return.

To be a giver requires a lot less than most people think.  Smile at a stranger.  Hold a door.  Let that guy into your lane on the road.  Seemingly insignificant bits, perhaps, but they add up, and they build positivity.  They also feel good to do.

Some takers are unintentional.  Upbringing, poor examples, various and sundry other issues.  Most, because they believe there is finite amounts of most things, take and hoard because they believe that if they don’t, there won’t be enough.  Takers are usually selfish.

This is why Pathwalking is not a selfish act.  Most of the people seeking to walk their own path in life and consciously create their own reality, are givers.  Why?  Because working in the here-and-now, as Pathwalking frequently requires, makes us more aware.  When we are aware, we see our impact on other people.  To manifest abundance, we need to think, feel and act on abundance.  This, frankly, makes us a giver.

Further, by giving, we tell the Universe that we believe there is more-than-enough.  A giver expresses their belief that because of the abundance in the Universe, you can share.

Being a giver is both tangible and intangible.

There are many tangible things we can give people.  Hugs, money, and numerous other items.  Most giving, frankly, is intangible.  Smiles, ideas, a shoulder to cry on, and so forth.

A lot of people see selflessness as this enormous, grandiose gesture.  The thing is, it can be.  But for the most part, it’s little things.  Being selfless means being a giver, and that takes much less than people realize.

My friend needs help researching something.  I provide a contact to someone with the knowledge to help.  A loved one needs to vent about a situation.  I call, and we talk.  You, like me, are trying to manifest your destiny.  I share my struggles and my path to help you work on yours. In all of these scenarios, I am not asking for anything in return.  There are no conditions associated with what I do.  This is what being a giver is all about.

This is one of the biggest and most important differences between a giver and a taker, the selfless and the selfish.  A giver seeks nothing in return.  A taker expects something for anything they give.  The selfless person gives because it feels good to give.  The selfish person might give, but they do so to prop themselves up somehow, and do so to gain something in return.

It is important, however, to recognize the difference between giving and sacrificing.  Giving is from a place of abundance, and is about sharing plenty.  Sacrificing is from a place of lack, and is about going without in order to let another have something.  Sacrificing is nearly as unhealthy at being a taker.  Sure, you give, but you then go without because you think there isn’t enough.  Going without to give is not healthy giving.

A giver recognizes an abundant universe.

I give because I believe that there is plenty where that comes from.  Whatever it is, tangible or intangible, giving makes me feel good.  It is a lot easier to find and walk any given path when I can share my work on it.  That is a big part of what giving is all about.

Givers get as much, maybe even more, as they give.

What do you do to be a giver?

 

This is the three-hundred-twelfth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas for, and my personal experiences with, walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

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How Does Giving Create Positivity?

Giving is an amazing force for Positivity.

Some people go through this life and make accommodations for others, take time to help people in a myriad of ways, and do things for people without a second thought.  They are people who give time, energy and more, so that others may benefit.  They don’t even consider what they do to be giving.

GivingGiving is a powerful tool.  We have an amazing capacity to give on an incredible number of levels.  We can give both material and immaterial things that will change the lives of the people around us.  This, in turn, creates change in our own lives.

Often this is small.  You give someone a smile, a nod, a wave…and unknowingly brighten their day.  Sometimes it is larger, like a hug or a cup of coffee or holding open a door.  Once in a while this is tremendous, giving hours of your time for another’s benefit, donating blood, marching in a protest, or raising funds to help someone in need.

No matter the size or amount of effort involved, giving is a powerful creator of positivity.  We can give a piece of ourselves to help improve the lives of others in many ways, shapes and forms…and we can do so frequently.

Make certain before you give that you have the energy and wherewithal to give.  It is impossible to give when you are running on empty, lacking, and not feeling good about yourself.  If you are in a place of futility and frustration giving will not feel good.  You are better off making certain that you are giving from a place of abundance, in order to give in the most full and meaningful way.

Giving from a place of abundance matters.

It is important to be aware of how the act of giving makes you feel, and be certain you are giving and not sacrificing.  The universe is a place of abundance, and there is more than enough for everyone.  Thus, sacrifice is not a necessary component of giving and generating positivity.  When you sacrifice to give to another, you are empowering the lack mentality.  Consciousness creates reality, and going without in order to “give” creates more lack rather than abundance.

GivingSacrifice doesn’t feel good, and is very different from giving.  Where sacrifice is a message in lack, giving is a message of abundance.  It’s imperative to make certain that you give from a place of abundance, in order to give in the most full and meaningful way.  The act of giving should empower both you and the person(s) in receipt of your gifts.

It is also important when you are giving to know the difference between those who receive, and those who take.  When what you give is received with gratitude, positivity and goodwill are created.  When what you give is taken, and it is not considered adequate or sufficient and/or no gratitude has been expressed, negativity and resentment may be created.  You may feel emotionally depleted, and find not only that you are not creating positivity, but in fact generating negativity.

To give feels good.  It creates positive energy both for you as the giver, and the person in receipt of whatever you are giving.  Generosity creates feelings of gratitude, and that generates more positivity.

Finding positivity is not hard, but it does require action.

Knowing that giving can create vast amounts of positivity, you can make it a practice, great or small, to be a generous and giving soul.  When we give from a place of abundance, we feel more abundant, and thus empower ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we frequently spread that feeling to others around us; as such, we can build more positive feelings in the collective consciousness.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

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Pathwalking 133

Giving is important to having balance in life.

Some people don’t even consider what they do to be giving.

Some people go through this life and make accommodations for others, they take time to help people in a myriad of ways, and they just do things for other people without a second thought. They are people who give time, energy and more so that others may benefit.

Giving is a powerful tool. We have an amazing capacity to give on an incredible number of levels. We can give both material and immaterial things that will change the lives of the people around us.

Often this is small. You give someone a smile, a nod, a wave, and unknowingly brighten their day. Sometimes it is larger, like giving a hug or a cup of coffee or holding open a door. Once in a while this is tremendous, giving hours of your time for another’s benefit, giving blood, raising funds to help someone in need.

No matter the size or amount of effort involved, giving is a powerful action. We can give a piece of ourselves to help improve the lives of others in many ways, shapes and forms, and we can do so frequently.

Those who choose to walk their own path, despite many elements of the process being solitary, often give of their energy as they walk their path. I, for example, share this blog as I work out my own journey.

There are, of course, some vital matters to make note of on this subject.

It is hugely important that before you give, you are not running on empty. It is impossible to give when you are empty, and not feeling good about yourself, without it being hollow. You are better off making certain that you are full, complete, and giving from a place of abundance in order to give in the most full and meaningful way.

This raises another important issue. Giving versus sacrificing. Giving feels good. It is a means to express yourself, to share your own fortune and to help others have a better life experience. Sacrificing not only does not feel good, it is telling the Universe that you believe there is not enough, that there is a lack of whatever it is you are going without, and that is ok. Sacrificing yourself in order to be generous and giving will not make you feel more positive or happier in life, it will actually make you feel negative, more sad and lost.

Society is always telling us we have to sacrifice in order to have what we want. In a universe of abundance and plenty that is simply untrue. Yes, this seems very hard to believe, in especial when you are faced with difficult odds. This does not make it any less true. Giving and sacrificing are diametrically opposed concepts.

It is also very important to know the difference between those who receive, and those who take. When what you give is received with gratitude positivity and goodwill are created. When what you give is taken, and no gratitude has been expressed you may become depleted and find not only that you are not feeling joy in sharing, but you may even begin to not feel good about the practice of giving. When you are giving to someone who is a taker, often the giving turns into sacrificing because no amount of giving on your part is ever sufficient.

These are fine lines and blurred lines and complicated notions to compartmentalize in this manner. Sometimes it is hard to distinguish between giving and sacrificing, receivers and takers. Sometimes we get so caught up in the practice that while it may start in one manner it evolves or devolves into another. Like pretty much everything I bring up in Pathwalking, you need to consider all sides of a situation, and do the most thorough analysis that you can.

I believe that if more people pay attention to giving versus sacrificing, and work with the power of gratitude that giving can create, we could go a long ways towards building a better world. Despite what society wants us to believe, and despite all the bad news we are constantly inundated with, I still think that people are inherently capable of good and positive things.

Giving can happen on every level anybody could need. You can give of the mind, of the body and of the spirit, sometimes in equal parts. Giving as you walk your own path in life can create new pathways and open new doors and provide all kinds of interesting waypoints on any journey.

Finally, giving is not always an external act. I can give myself a break, I can give myself praise, I can give myself joy, I can give myself opportunities. When I give to myself, and this is an important distinction as opposed to taking for myself, I can open the same channels of positivity that giving to others does. Further, when you give to yourself, you build the abundance you need to have in order to better give to others.

Giving can have a rather profound effect on your actions. Giving can be a powerful mean to find and travel the paths you walk in life.

Do you give to yourself what you give to others?

 

This is the one-hundred thirty third entry in my series. These weekly posts are specifically about walking along the path of life, and my desire to make a difference in this world along the way. Feel free to re-blog and share.  Thank you for joining me.

The first fifty-two weeks (Year One) of installments of Pathwalking is available in print and for your Kindle.

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