The Ramblings of the Titanium Don

When the People Who Share My Heart Don’t Get Me?

How do I handle this along life’s paths? My family largely doesn’t get me. They love me, I know that. But they don’t get me. What does that mean? I do things, take approaches to matters, and live in ways that cause them to scratch their heads, wonder how I can possibly be content or happy this way, and probably question my sanity. My dating habits and relationship choices in my 20s and 30s made no sense to them. That

Are Your Feelings – Positive or Negative – Always Valid?

Yes, your feelings are always valid. But understanding them is another matter. You’ve probably been in a situation where you had an emotional response someone deemed inappropriate or disproportional. You were overreacting, taking it too hard, overthinking it, or what-have-you. It did not help your situation, did it? Chances are it increased it, or made you more stubborn and deepened the feeling. What’s more, they might have been correct. You were overreacting, taking it too hard, overthinking it, or whatever.

Why Is Maintaining an Abundance Mindset So Challenging?

An abundance mindset often stands against real and imagined aspects of reality. I recognize and acknowledge that my life is good. Not to brag, but in the grand scheme of things, my life is good. I have an incredible partner, jobs I like, a career I love, friends, a roof over my head, and many things above and beyond basics. For this, I am deeply grateful. So many people in the world are not in this position. There’s room for

Can I Please Stop Second-Guessing and Self-Sabotaging Myself?

I would very much like to be done second-guessing and self-sabotaging. Despite the effort I have been making for over a decade to live life on my own terms, choosing my own paths – there is an ongoing challenge I can never seem to shake. Every path I choose, every approach I take, even when I am being super-mindful – I am second-guessing and self-sabotaging. Having just finished reading Gary John Bishop’s Stop Doing that Sh*t: End Self-Sabotage and Demand

How Does Toxic Positivity Actually Differ from True Positivity?

Toxic positivity is disempowering and does more harm than good. I am a big proponent of positivity. We live in a fear-based society, constantly bombarded by negative messages. Because they are so predominant, more positivity is the best offense to combat them. But all too often, positivity gets carried too far and turns toxic. And toxic positivity disempowers and makes the negativity worse. How? By mistreating negativity. Like it or not – negativity IS. Bad things happen. Shit goes down.

A Not-So-Bitter Pill to Swallow

Releasing a long-time fear isn’t the bitter pill I thought it might be. For most of my life, the opinions of others have been of the utmost importance to me. I’ve sought approval, recognition, and generally being liked. More and more, though, it’s become increasingly evident to me that this doesn’t matter. At least, not in the way I tend to emphasize it. What do I mean? The short answer is that the opinions of others are not what makes

Why Choose Positivity?

Because choosing positivity empowers you. Every day, you have choices. Get out of bed or sleep in? Oatmeal or yogurt for breakfast? Make or order lunch? Steak or chicken for dinner? Go to bed at 10 or 11? These choices are frequent, constant, and seemingly insignificant. But they are neither inconsequential nor insignificant. Life is all about choices. Great or small, everything you choose impacts everything you do. For example – let’s say you sleep in. And sleep past your

Focusing Within Gives You More Control Than Focusing Without

I need to put less into focusing on the things outside of my control. We live in a crazy world. After a year that featured massive, necessary social change due to a pandemic, an awful election and ongoing ugliness after it, and massive uncertainty – there is a light at the end of the tunnel. But that light isn’t the same for everyone. For some people it’s daylight – for others, it’s an oncoming train. This is largely dependent on

How Can Saying No Be Positive?

Saying No is a matter of self-care and empowerment for your life. No is not necessarily negative. This can be an odd concept to wrap your head around, but recognizing the incredible positivity in saying No can open you up to a lot of potential and possibilities. How can No possibly not be negative? This is a misunderstanding of a word that in and of itself has a simple meaning, but that gets turned into a much broader, bigger, powerful

How Does Self-Doubt Impact You?

Self-doubt and indecision will complicate Pathwalking. I strive to be less doubtful about who I am, and to do better with making decisions about my life.  Pathwalking is about choosing for myself, rather than letting random chance just happen. Yet I still question if I am deserving of this.  I doubt myself, my abilities to do the things I want to do.  This in turn can make me indecisive, and I get stuck in uncertainty. Self-doubt comes from many places. 

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