The Ramblings of the Titanium Don

I Don’t Hate Myself, But Some Days I Don’t Like Myself

Kindness, compassion, and empathy are necessary for ourselves, too. Today I got really upset. Angry, mostly. At myself. Why? Because I’ve put on a bunch of weight, I have a bizarre nerve pinch in my left hand that’s causing recurrent pain depending on my grip, I’m a bit flustered trying to decide on a new editor for my book series, I feel like I’m letting people in my life down, I’m failing to live up to my potential, work as

Do You Know That You Are Capable of Truly Amazing Things?

Don’t sell yourself short. One of my favorite lines from the original Star Wars, though Han Solo said it at the time in extreme arrogance, in another context resonates with me. “Sometimes I even amaze myself.” Here’s the thing. Do you have even the slightest inkling of what you’re capable of? Beneath your conscious mind, but not entirely connected to your subconscious mind, you have truly incredible capabilities.   For some, this manifests in obvious ways. Such people are empaths,

The Positivity of Being Your Truest Self Isn’t Easy

But it’s totally worth it – because you are worth it. Are you your genuine self? Maybe, like me, you’ve worn different masks in various situations. This was the “self” you presented to specific audiences, for diverse reasons. One mask at work, one at school, one for friends, one for family, one in private, one in public. Group ‘X’ of people you spend time with get one mask, while group ‘Y’ gets another. There’s nothing evil, dishonest, or deceitful in

How Does Non-Toxic Positivity Better Your Life Experience?

Non-toxic positivity is a creative force for self-care and improvement. The word “positivity” might set your teeth on edge. That’s probably because you’ve been exposed to all the toxic positivity out there. Toxic positivity is the idea that if you think positive – and ONLY positive – your life will be the best it can be. What’s more, toxic positivity rather blatantly disregards, ignores, or turns a blind eye to anything that’s not positive. Positivity in this manner turns anything

How Do You Focus on Useful Things in the Face of Information Overload?

Inundated with information overload, how do you shift your focus to what you can control? Let’s face it – the world is mad. Spend any time whatsoever on social media, watching or reading the news – and you’re bombarded by all the evidence of the madness – and then some. The 24-hour news cycle doesn’t make us collectively more informed. In truth, it makes us more scared, distressed, and unhappy. We don’t know the world around us and what’s happening

Why You Don’t Need to Love Yourself but DO Need to Like Yourself

It’s because you are always with yourself, all the time. But that’s just the start. Nobody is ever, truly, alone. Why? Because no matter where you go, there you are. Or in other words – you always have yourself. Here’s the thing – your entire life, you have yourself. That means that you have all that you are, good, bad, and otherwise, always with you. For many people, that’s disconcerting. You have yourself – but isn’t that a lonely proposition?

Will the Truth Truly Set You Free?

I believe that the truth sets you free. But what IS the truth? Long ago, I came to this notion: There are three brands of truth. Mine, yours, and the absolute. The truth, as I perceive it, is colored by my life experiences, education, environment, associations, and the imperfection of memory. Just because I remember something having been a certain way doesn’t make it so. But the truth, as I believe it to be – no matter the topic –

Recognize and Embrace How Change Makes Rather than Takes Everything?

What change makes is literally everything. There is only one constant in the entire Universe. Change. Change will always happen. Sometimes it is so glacially slow and microscopically small that it seems not to be happening. Other times it’s cataclysmic, sudden, and ginormous. Either way – change is. It’s constant, unstoppable, and ineffable. Without change – nothing we know would be. In the words of Marcus Aurelius, “Is any man afraid of change? Why what can take place without change?

How Does Toxic Positivity Actually Differ from True Positivity?

Toxic positivity is disempowering and does more harm than good. I am a big proponent of positivity. We live in a fear-based society, constantly bombarded by negative messages. Because they are so predominant, more positivity is the best offense to combat them. But all too often, positivity gets carried too far and turns toxic. And toxic positivity disempowers and makes the negativity worse. How? By mistreating negativity. Like it or not – negativity IS. Bad things happen. Shit goes down.

How Does Journal Therapy Work?

I forgot how powerful journal therapy can be. Let me start by stating that I am in no way a medical professional, therapist, or the like. All of what I know is based on many different life experiences over the years. From the mid-90s through about 2004 I journaled regularly. I have multiple formerly blank books filled with many thoughts, feelings, intentions, and ideas from that period. When I maintained those journals, I was writing as little as weekly and

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