The Ramblings of the Titanium Don
Ramblings

Tag: self-care

Why Is It So Hard to Just Be Yourself?

Nobody is at fault or to blame, but neither does anyone tend to teach you this. Two of the most distressing things that dominate our society are the expectations of others and the “shoulds.” Early in our lives, before we’re even scientifically capable of self-awareness, our parents and other family members guide us. Eventually it moves from guidance to direction. Instilling good habits in the young is very useful throughout life. Brush your teeth twice a day, fasten your seatbelt

Can You Have Guides Along Your Paths in Life?

Yes, but recognize the difference between guidance, obedience, and blind faith. I frequently point out that you, and you alone, live in your head, heart, and soul. Nobody else is in there, it’s only you. Hence, you’re the only one who can think, feel, intend, and act for you. All choices for your life belong to you alone. Nobody else can live your life for you. Neither can anyone else control you unless you cede any form of control to

How Come Mindset Matters With Everything You Choose To Do?

Mindset gives choices direction and intent. But not choosing is also a choice. Do you vote? Or are you one of those people who believes that your vote doesn’t count, so why bother? Voting or not voting is a choice. Choose to vote – even when your choices are between different stripes of asshole – and you are doing the minimal action available to you to impact the world at large. Choose not to vote, and you’re choosing to let

Can A Negative Experience Be Used for Positivity?

Life is a matter of balance and choices. For every extreme, there’s an opposite extreme. Up and down. Small and large. Left and right. Black and white. Tall and short. Good and evil. Positive and negative. Often, these extremes are personified as opposite sides of a coin. The problem with this is that coins are flat, and most things exist not at either extreme end, but somewhere between them. Take black and white, for example. Between these extremes is every

Sometimes Should Doing Nothing Be What We Should Be Doing?

The constant go-go-go of our culture isn’t healthy or sustainable. I frequently write about the need for action. If you desire to make any changes in your life, you must act. Conscious reality creation, mindfulness, and any work to manifest anything you desire requires you to do something. Rather than living life passively, going with the flow, and allowing life to just live you – taking action, doing something – is how you can be in control of who, what,

Do You Think You’re the Only One Feeling Uncertain?

Spoiler alert – you’re not the only one. Though we tend not to talk about it in this way – COVID-19 changed the world. First, we learned that many people, in the face of a public health crisis, will take extraordinary steps to protect themselves, those they care about, and even total strangers. We also learned that many people will take advantage of a public health crisis for personal gain, are horridly selfish, self-centered, and that they couldn’t care less

The Positivity of Being Your Truest Self Isn’t Easy

But it’s totally worth it – because you are worth it. Are you your genuine self? Maybe, like me, you’ve worn different masks in various situations. This was the “self” you presented to specific audiences, for diverse reasons. One mask at work, one at school, one for friends, one for family, one in private, one in public. Group ‘X’ of people you spend time with get one mask, while group ‘Y’ gets another. There’s nothing evil, dishonest, or deceitful in

When the People Who Share My Heart Don’t Get Me?

How do I handle this along life’s paths? My family largely doesn’t get me. They love me, I know that. But they don’t get me. What does that mean? I do things, take approaches to matters, and live in ways that cause them to scratch their heads, wonder how I can possibly be content or happy this way, and probably question my sanity. My dating habits and relationship choices in my 20s and 30s made no sense to them. That

One Simple Tool for Positivity and Mindfulness

This requires next to no time on any given day. People are busy. I don’t know anybody who isn’t almost constantly on the go. Between work, errands, socializing, and a general societal need for near-perpetual motion – people seldom pause for more than a moment or two. Even when forced to take a break – like during the Pandemic – people mostly didn’t emerge with greater respect for themselves and their time. This is part of the mental health crisis

Sometimes You Truly Need a Change of Perspective

Your point of view – no matter how broad you think it – is restrictive. I pride myself on my ability to regularly see all sides of a given argument. Even if I vehemently disagree with the other side – I can still see it. My side, their side, and sometimes even the absolute between or apart from both is evident. However, it’s come to my attention that, even if I can see more than one side to a given

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