What you take-away from a less-than-desirable situation is important. Seeing the good you learned from the bad is the key to this.
We all have bad experiences. There are going to be things that happen that are infuriating, complicated, difficult and unpleasant. Life cannot always be perfect. Frankly, if it was, I think we’d all get really really bored of it.
When bad things happen – and they will – what you take away from them is important. If you find yourself angry, resentful, distressed or feeling otherwise negative, that will impact you negatively. However, if you can find good that has come of it, you can generate positivity instead.
What you take-away from any given situation is actually totally yours to control. Since you are the only one inside of your own head, you get to choose how you feel after anything good or bad happens.
Certainly there are automatic and gut reactions to things. You get angry, you get hurt, you feel annoyed by what happened. In the moment, hard not to feel such. But, after that, you choose how long you hold onto it. You get to choose how far you take that feeling.
As such, if you are feeling negative about something initially, when you focus on that, you’ll get more. Consciousness Creates Reality, so focus on what you don’t want, you will create more of it. This will manifest further bad feelings, and complicate whatever it is you are trying to achieve.
A thing happened. It produced a negative response and emotion in you. The take-away is entirely yours to choose. Acknowledge it, then let it fester and likely draw more negatives…or acknowledge it, and figure out what you can learn from it that’s a positive.
Initial reaction is not what you take-away, unless you choose that.
First, let’s make note of a couple things. We all make mistakes. Everybody screws up from time to time. What’s perfect about everybody is that nobody is perfect.
The bad or annoying or unfortunate thing has happened. Made me feel negative. Yup, that’s how it is. Now, what have I learned from it, and what can I take away from it?
Let’s explore a couple examples:
- You have credit cards in collections because you rang up too much debt. What is your take-away? Negative: I am a total screw-up, and a failure. Positive: I now know I need to be more responsible with my money.
- Your relationship/marriage/partnership failed. What is your take-away? Negative: I suck at relationships. I never get it right, I am unworthy. Positive: I learned what does not work in a partnership for me, and can work to avoid that in the future. I am wiser and worthwhile.
- You have a crisis, great or small, to deal with. What is your take-away? Negative: Why do I always have to deal with this crap? Why me? Can I just live without an emergency? Positive: I am the eye in the middle of the storm. I can handle anything, and am stronger because I know what I am capable of. I’ve learned something useful from this.
You get to choose just what it is you take-away from everything that happens to you. That being the case, you get to decide if you want to hold onto and create more negativity, or let-go of the negative and create positivity.
Take-away what you want to manifest.
Conscious Reality Creation means that we strive not to be a victim of circumstance. Things can and will happen outside of our control, but that does not mean we have no ability to react to them at all.
Emotions are entirely on you and me. Nobody but you can feel what and how you feel, and as such nobody can make you feel a certain way or no.
Pathwalking is about choosing for ourselves. I know that I prefer to have some modicum of control over the life I am living. Every situation is going to present you with a chance to have a take-away, but what that will be is up to you.
This week, for whatever reason, has been rough for me. Not sure why, but I have had a hard time focusing and achieving what I want to. I was sleepy, and could not easily concentrate on writing and editing. Some things got done, but not as much as I wanted.
That was Monday. When Tuesday rolled around, and I felt much the same, I began to get upset. I was angry at myself for being lazy. This in turned led to self-annoyance with my inability to achieve what I had intended to do, and I was getting down on myself for ever perceived misstep.
Last night I reconsidered what my take-away was. Rather than berate and ultimately self-sabotage myself, I now know I can work on means to improve my focus, and to accept that we all have off days. I can choose to stop seeing what is not working in my life, and focus instead on what is.
Conscious reality creation goes deep into one’s core.
To manifest what you want from life, it can’t just be a side thought, it has to be your only thought on the matter. When I was recovering from injuries all I focused on was total healing. All conscious reality creation works from complete, hyper-focus.
Today I am feeling the best I have in a while. Staying mindful of the take-away from my situation is doing wonders for my psyche.
What have you taken-away from your life situations?
This is the three-hundredth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas for and my personal experiences with walking along the path of life. I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.
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