The Ramblings of the Titanium Don

Explorations of Conscious Reality Creation and Other Matters

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How Can I Best Use Time?

Time is relative.  Our perception of it is variable, fluctuates, and changes depending on how much attention we are paying to it.

Einstein told us that time is an illusion.  More specifically, he said, “The distinction between the past, present and future is only a stubbornly persistent illusion.”  Yet our whole society obsesses over these distinctions.

TimeLast week, I wrote about my tendency to always put my work on conscious reality creation ahead of me.  Not in the here-and-now, but coming soon or just ahead or some similar notion.  All this week, I have written about how many people, myself included, use the New Year as a point of renewal.  As I continue to work on crossing the bridges between my worlds, I am also working on defining just what my worlds are.

It is easy for me to make a case that crossing the bridges can apply to not just the different forms of writing I partake in, but in time.  The past, the present and the future are often perceived as having either imperceptible or enormous gaps between them.  More often than not, people see them as far apart, requiring, at the least, bridges for crossing.

Past, present and future, according to Einstein, are in fact non-distinct.  They are an artificial illusion we have created for ourselves.  Why?  Because time is like a flowing river.  Like the river, we have a need to find both its beginning and its end.

I have been working on better living in the now.  This is particularly tricky.  Not only because I struggle to not focus on the past or look ahead to the future.  I am also torn between my personal and immediate now, and the now of our society.

“Time is the reef upon which all our frail mystic ships are wrecked.”  – Madam Arcati, from Noël Coward’s Blithe Spirit.

When I start scrolling through Facebook to read updates from my friends, I am also inundated with news.  Some is biased, some is scary, some is infuriating…all of it is sensational.  The headlines are meant to get our attention, and immediately set our emotions in action.

When I manage to fall down this rabbit hole, it becomes increasingly difficult for me to keep focused on the reality I want to manifest with conscious reality creation.  When idiotic, childish madmen are making threats about deploying weapons of mass destruction, and uncaring, unsympathetic rich white dudes are only about making themselves richer, how can anything I want to create for myself matter?

I need to remind myself that what I want to manifest does matter.  Why?  Because if I want to make a difference in this world, I can only start by making my life as full as I can.  To do that, I need to use my consciousness to create my reality, manifest my desires, and share it with you.

When, here and now, I see my dreams made manifest, I can share my process.  Than I can help anyone else do the same.  Even with the variables between what I want for my life, what you want, and what someone else might want, the process is no different.  As I make it happen, I will be more capable to help others do the same.

I mentioned in Pathwalking this week that I was taking an online course from Jen Sincero in creating new and better habits called You Are A Badass at Habits.  One of the things she talks about is how habits are more prevalent than we think.

“We only get to be in our bodies for a limited time, why not celebrate the journey instead of merely riding it out until it’s over?” – Jen Sincero, You Are A Badass

Habits are more than just smoking, over-eating and brushing your teeth.  They also include the routines we do every day by rote.  Or, to put it another way, habitually.

One of the dominant habits I have developed is to surf Facebook when my mind wanders.  This inevitably has me reading more news that makes me feel negative, and as I feel bad my mind wanders further.  Then, look at that, I am still not consciously creating the reality of my choosing.

The time has come to change this habit.  Reading through Facebook, in particular when my mind starts to wander, is like stopping in the middle of the bridge.  Not to look out at the chasm below or the clouds above, but to look at my own feet.  Or worse, the screen on my phone, while ignoring what’s actually around me.

And that is the thing I have to keep in mind.  While I can write about how I feel, vote in the next election, or partake in a protest, I can’t do anything more about the bad things I encounter.  I can, however, work on what I am thinking, how I am feeling, and intentional actions I can take in regards to my own life.  When I work on living better, I can impact others better.

This is not going to be an easy habit to break.  But I recognize that I need to.  Time will tell how I do with it.

As always, thank you for crossing the bridges between my worlds with me.

 

This is the sixty-seventh entry of my personal journey, the Crossing the Bridges series.  My collectively published writing can be found here.

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Pathwalking 266

One of the hardest questions for many people to answer is – what do you want?

For some, the reason this is difficult is because of fear that if they answer wrong, they’ll be unhappy with the outcome.  For some, there are many things they want and that is causing them to waffle.  For some they sincerely do not know what they want.  However, in all probability, it’s some combination of all of the above.

Decision making can be surprisingly challenging.  Some people just know what they want, make a choice, process complete.  Some people need to sleep on it, think it over, explore multiple angles, and have as complete information as they can get before deciding.  Some people get so flustered by choices before them, they frequently make no decision at all, or when they do there is so little conviction behind it that they might as well have not bothered.

Why are we so afraid to choose wrong?  Very few decisions are truly life or death, and while many do have consequences, few are irreversible.  Certainly we might find ourselves somewhere we would prefer not to be because of a choice we made, but there are times when the unexpected consequence of a choice turns out to be even better than what we were deciding on in the first place.

Let me clarify here that this in reference to the very personal choices we make in regards to what we want for our own lives.  Yes, the world today is full of people who make decisions without any thought behind them, and they appear to end up in ludicrous places or cause other issues.  This is a far broader matter, though it is in part a reflection of the inability of many to know what they want and choose as such.

Pathwalking is about seeking out and choosing my own destiny, my own path in life to achieve the things I want.  I have, over the five years of this process I’ve shared, expressed that there will always be multiple paths, because life is not so simple or one-size-fits-all.  Once the goal of an intended path has been reached, there will be a new goal and a new path to travel.

That’s also a scary thing for many.  You go through all the trouble of doing all the things to get what you want…and then once you have it, how long do you get to enjoy it before you need to choose again?  Why bother if every time you succeed at reaching the completion of the path you have to start again?

That’s the thing – it’s actually a GOOD thing to have more paths to choose.  Whether we like it or not, life is always in motion, frequently shifting, changing, ever forward.  We will encounter new people and experience new things, and this in turn will change us.  When we change we have new goals, new values, new ideas to explore, and unlike the rest of the animal kingdom, we frequently get to partake in creation.

Most of the rest of the animals on this planet have only one goal.  Survive.  They do not care about ambitions, success and failure, how other people think of them, fun, stress, and so on.  They simply live life, strive to survive and thrive, and that’s the long and short of it.  Humans lead far more complex existences.

In regards to Pathwalking in Practice, how does one explore and take some form of action in regards to the decision making process?  This can take several forms, so I want to address one that is specific, and one that is broader.

On the broad choices – the original question I asked is, What do you want?  What are you seeking from this life?  There are certainly many different things, tangible or intangible, that this applies to.  A job, finding a lover, a home, a friend- these are all goals we want to achieve.  One of the challenges for me on this end, personally, is clarity.  I need to be clearer, more definite about the end result I desire.

SO – I am writing it down.  That is my action – answer the question.  What overarching thing is it I want from a given path I am walking?  What end result am I desiring?  I have a vague idea of the answer, but I think one reason why I have yet to accomplish it is that I am not totally clear.  I will write it out to create that clarity.

On the subject of specific choices – there are always decisions to make.  Every day we get to ask questions like what do I want to do for dinner; do I go to the gym; what shirt should I wear today; and so on.  For many, even these simple, day-to-day questions can cause paralysis.

The action I will take is to not answer with “I don’t know” or “Why don’t you choose?” or the ever popular, “Well what do YOU want?”  I can take a moment, and by a moment I mean less than a minute, but I then have to choose something.  I need to be decisive rather than indecisive, and take action.

Thought is where every path begins.  Then you feel it out.  Then you act upon it.  As I am looking to show others my methods for walking one’s own paths in life, putting matters into practice are how I will take this to the next level.  That’s one of MY chosen paths.

What’s your Pathwalking in Practice plan?  What do YOU want?

 

This is the two-hundred sixty-sixth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas and my personal experiences in walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

Pathwalking 265

Sometimes keeping things in your head is exhausting.

I am a thinker.  I am constantly thinking about things, great and small, major and minor, important and less so.  From food I want to eat to world situations to speculation about the next Star Wars movie to finances, I am constantly thinking.

The problem with constantly thinking is that I am frequently finding darker thoughts clouding my emotions.  When you start to let negative emotions dominate, you wind up having a very difficult time not just manifesting what you want, but simply living day to day and generally functioning.

This is where a particular Pathwalking in Practice application comes to mind.  Specifically, journaling.

I often forget, which is why I frequently remind myself here, the power of writing things down.  It doesn’t need to be a long, drawn out process.  But sometimes just writing out what I am thinking, what’s on my mind, where my head is at the given moment helps me to regain my clarity, my focus.

Last week I talked about asking myself questions, four times a day.  More, I needed to write out my answers when I asked them.  How am I?  What am I thinking?  What am I feeling?

I have not succeeded at getting this down four times a day, but three consistently.  The effect?  I do feel that I have a better sense of my emotional state.  Unfortunately, I see I am all-too-frequently feeling negative, but being more aware of this I can work to correct it.

One of the ways to work at this is journaling.  If I write down just what on earth is in my head, it can help me to gain clarity, and to get a better understanding of just what is going on in there.  If I am finding too much negativity in the answers to my questions, why is that?  Is it something I can control, or is it an outside thing I can’t do much with or about?  What’s going on in my thought process that’s causing me to feel negative?

There are times just writing out what you cannot say is immensely helpful.  Letters to yourself, to people who have made you feel hurt, to inanimate objects, to grand entities that couldn’t care less about you or your existence – all of these have value.  Writing it out gets it out of your head, and lets you move forward.

Some people, like me, prefer to type.  Have you seen my handwriting?  I swear, when I go too fast, I can barely read it.  Typing?  I can type nearly as fast as I can think, and this I CAN read.

Some people prefer the feel of pen on paper, and they like to be able to flip the pages and read their thoughts without having to sit at a tablet or smartphone or computer or such.  It makes no difference, really, so long as you get the words out of your head and onto a page.

The catharsis of this is incredibly powerful.  When you write things out, good or bad, you move them clear of your mind and make room for new things.  Yes, I am sure you can argue that our minds have infinite capacity.  I argue that pretty frequently myself.  But the thing is, when emotions are involved, we often wind up focused on our feelings, and particularly emotions we would prefer to be without.

Negative emotions are NOT more powerful than positive.  The trouble is, our society has become far more reactionary than actionable.  We fight against this or that, we wait and see and then fix problems, rather than be more proactive and work together to build better from the start.

We also tend to bottle things up.  We hold onto bad feelings in particular, we get all stressed out about all kinds of situations.  Then we let them fester until we cry, or scream, or get sick…or even die.

As a part of Pathwalking in Practice, keeping a journal can be tremendously helpful in any number of ways.  Whether paper, an online format, your smartphone’s notes, or a Word document; maintaining a journal and collecting your thoughts can go a long ways towards finding and negotiating any given path.

I post to this blog a minimum of three times a week.  Positivity every Monday, Pathwalking on Wednesday, and now Crossing the Bridges on Friday.  Atop of that I also throw down an occasional post about something topical or my writing process or some other things that’s gotten in my head.  To all intents and purposes, this is my journaling.

If you are not a blogger like I am, I would suggest starting out with finding a few minutes every day to simply ask yourself, “What’s on my mind?”  It need not be lengthy, it doesn’t have to be uber-super-detailed, but it should be something you can write out, and give you a chance to get into your own head for a little self-examination.

Ultimately, this is a very empowering action.  Journaling allows us to reach within, draw it out, put it in front of ourselves so that we can create clarity.  When we gain clarity, we can more easily manifest the lives we wish to.  There is still work to be done, but its always easier when we have clarity.

Journaling is a great means to better walk the path of your choosing.  More Pathwalking in Practice.  Do you keep any sort of journal for yourself?

 

This is the two-hundred sixty-fifth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas and my personal experiences in walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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Carl Jung stated, “What you resist persists.”

This was talking about avoiding or denying aspects of the self, but it is still completely applicable to consciousness creating reality, and overly focusing on what you do not want.

One of the important aspects of Pathwalking in Practice is awareness.  What am I aware of right now?  Beyond that, and possibly more importantly, what am I thinking about right now?

Subconsciously, we may be chewing on something we read, we may be focused on that conversation we had or overhead, we may be thinking about a thing we actually DO NOT WANT.  Part of this comes from general human nature, I presume, but I think a lot of it actually comes from our society.

We live in a society where the truth is now considered less important than opinion.  Everyone is entitled to an opinion, and they feel they can maintain it even when faced with an opposite truth.  Entitled, by the way, IS the correct word for this.  “I believe ‘x’, so despite the irrefutable proof that ‘x’ is untrue, I will continue to believe and you can take a hike.  Proof?  Whatever, I believe in ‘x’, my belief is stronger than your ‘proof’, so go away before I get violent.

Further, we are constantly inundated with messages of opposites.  Look at elections.  How often do we only see the candidates go off on the awfulness of their opponent and why you should not vote for them, rather than tell us something constructive and useful about themselves and their policies?

It should be no wonder that we wind up with our focus on what we DO NOT WANT, far more often than actually looking to what we DO want.

So what?  It’s what I don’t want, so that’s what I am focusing on.  The problem with this is that while our intent may be to NOT create that thing we’re being conscious of, the Universe only receives the focal point.  Ergo, what you resist persists applies, and while you focused on not creating that terrible thing, lo and behold now the thing you didn’t want is manifest.

Focus is focus.  This is why it is so vitally important to be AWARE of the world around you, but more than that to be AWARE of your own mind, your own thoughts, your own beliefs.  This is why asking yourself “How am I?” and “What am I thinking?” and “What am I feeling?” whenever you can is hugely important.

Yes, it can feel like an absolutely ginormous amount of work to have to monitor your thoughts and feelings so closely.  I know that everyone has times of the day and moments where they are doing something that just carries them along and work gets done and such.  However, once you leave that mode, do you ask yourself any of these three questions, or do you just keep going on?  Chances are you don’t inquire, so you do find yourself just keeping on.

Why does that matter?  Because if you read something that made you angry, or took part in a conversation that was upsetting before you began whatever it was that set you into automatic mode without need of much thought, your subconscious likely has been chewing on it the whole time.  If you resume being more present, but don’t question your own awareness at all, chances are you will continue to give thought and focus and energy to a thing you don’t want.

This has always been a challenge for me, personally.  I get caught up in my own head.  I want to stay informed, because it’s important to me to know what is going on, even when it involves things that get me feeling angry or otherwise negative.  The trouble is, if I don’t question “How am I?” or “What am I thinking?” or “What am I feeling?” that thing I don’t want has lodged itself into my subconscious.  Hours or more later, I wonder why I feel anxious or blue or discontent or flustered, and because I can’t readily recall what it was that began me down this path, I become more distraught with feeling this way and not knowing the how and why.

As a part of Pathwalking in Practice, one of the things that must be implemented is taking more time to ask yourself “How am I?” and “What am I thinking?” and “What am I feeling?”  In doing this, you pull yourself into the moment, and you become more aware.  When you are more aware, you can do better with getting ahold of your thoughts, and from your thoughts get ahold of your feelings, which will invariably lead to allowing you to be in control of your actions.

As a matter of practicing what I am preaching, the how of this will work as such:  Not long after waking up, I need to question myself about my state of being, my thoughts and my current feelings, with the three questions of “How am I?” and “What am I thinking?” and “What am I feeling?”.  Again, around lunch time, I need to ask these questions.  Dinner time, round three.  Lastly, and in many respects most importantly, right before I go to bed the questions must be asked.

To further empower this practice – for the first week of this, I need to WRITE THE ANSWERS DOWN.  This will also help me to see if there is any particularly dominant thought, feeling or state of being I am experiencing.  This, in turn, will help me to see where I am currently at, and if I am helping myself along this path to go where I want to go, or if my thoughts, feelings and state-of-being might actually be sabotaging me.

Pathwalking in Practice – simple questions and answers, and putting them on the page for accountability of the process.  Care to join me with this challenge?

 

This is the two-hundred sixty-fourth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas and my personal experiences in walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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This week I continue to work with Pathwalking in Practice.

Last week I broke down the three means I believe everyone lives their life by:  letting life live you, curling up in a ball and waiting to die or living the life you want.  Pathwalking is a means to the end of living the life I want to live the most, and has evolved into a self-help philosophy I believe I can do more with, for myself and for others.

How will I do more with this?  Last week I mentioned the idea of working with actionable items, tools that could be employed in the process of Pathwalking.

The root of the actionable items comes from the process itself, discussed in detail last week.  To manifest our destinies, it takes thought, feeling and intentional action.  As simple as these are, though, in our complex society we require additional tools to help create our focus, and allow us to better consciously create our realities.

There are tools we can employ to better help with our work with conscious creation.  They are not always obvious, they might sometimes seem a bit off-topic, but they can be of great assistance none-the-less.

It is my intent to take Pathwalking outside of this blog.  I want to help other people to live better, more desirable lives, and to find their own empowerment.  This is how I wish to empower myself.  Part of doing this is creating these actionable items, so that I have something to build upon and share with others, a means to the desired end.  This is the act of putting Pathwalking in Practice.

Yes, not everything will work the same for others as it does for me, but I still believe that having tools available to us to aid this process is beneficial, and I believe that part of my personal calling in this life is to not only find my paths, but to help others with the same process.  The blog is only the beginning.  Part of the next step is creating the actionable items to work with past that.

What are the actionable ideas?  This is very much a work in progress, but it will follow the three basic steps to any manifestation – thought, feeling and intentional actions.  This will be an overview, a template I intend in the coming weeks to build up with more detail.

The first is expressing gratitude.  Before we begin to seek something new, before we take that idea and build it up to something more, we need to have gratitude for that which is already ours.

Gratitude is an outstanding base for creating positive thoughts and feelings, and from there creating new things.

To begin this, we must find the things we have RIGHT NOW for which we are grateful.  Size doesn’t matter, tangible vs intangible is unimportant, what IS important is that we express gratitude for what we have.

Then, we need to remember our gratitude, and create a means to remind ourselves to be grateful.  When the outside world is getting you down, or you are having a bad day, having something that triggers feelings of gratitude will help restore positive energies.

After that, we need to check in with things to be grateful for daily.  This is not a one-and-done matter; daily expression of gratitude makes room to gain more things for which to be grateful.  What’s more, we cannot just write-down the things we are grateful for…we need to feel them.

For more than a year I have been writing down from five to six things nearly every day for which I am grateful.  The issue has been that from time to time I have missed a day, and more than that I have simply written down five things, but took no extra time to actually FEEL grateful for them.

So in the interest of putting Pathwalking in Practice, I need to not only continue to write down at least five things for which I am grateful daily, I need to take at least a little extra time to FEEL them.  I need to not just put them on the page, I need to feel gratitude for them, and put extra focus into the process.

Beyond this, it is important to find and feel gratitude as often as possible.  Even when you are inundated with negativity and bad news about the world at large, finding and feeling grateful will keep you in a place where you can be more constructive, and a positive force in the world.

To assist with this, I have been borrowing an idea I gleaned from The Secret.  Lee Brower explains in The Secret that in order to help himself remember to express gratitude frequently, he carries a rock in his pocket.  Whenever he reaches into the pocket for whatever reason, when he touches the rock he thinks about and feels something to be grateful for.

For a few years now, I have carried a stone of some sort in my pocket.  I strive, whenever I reach into my pocket and touch that stone, to think about and feel gratitude for something in my life.  The what is not important…it is the action that matters.  However, I need to make it more of a practice to FEEL grateful, and not just think about gratitude.

Pathwalking in Practice – taking more time and actions for feeling gratitude.  Gratitude for what you have opens you up to what you desire.  Care to join me with this challenge?

 

This is the two-hundred sixty-third entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas and my personal experiences in walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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With the start of this new year, I want to begin working on a new aspect of Pathwalking.

Tentatively, this will be called Pathwalking in Practice.

Pathwalking in Practice is setting up actionable items in order to better work on conscious reality creation.

What is an actionable item?  The things you do to actually walk the path you are choosing.

Everything we choose begins at the same point.  There is a thought, an idea, an inspiration.  Something you read opens up a channel in your mind; someone says something that starts the wheels in your head turning; you are just doing whatever you are doing, maybe driving a car or reading a book or dozing off to sleep or eating or showering or watching TV, and you have a thought.  Whenever it comes, and whatever it is, when you get this concept to work on, it begins with thought.

Thought is the beginning.  Grand and glorious or small and unremarkable, the thought is the beginning.

Many of our thoughts are fairly trivial and commonplace and action requires very little else.  I should get sushi for lunch or I should go to bed now or I want coffee or I need to turn left here and so on and so forth.  These require very little of anything else for action to come of them.

There are slightly more complex thoughts people have that require something further before they move to action.  She’s cute, I should ask her out or Maybe I should take a different route to practice or I should apply for that promotion at work or I want to invest in that stock or I want to tell him I love him and such.  There are some people who need little else beyond these thoughts to take action, but for more of us they do require additional thought, and more importantly feeling.

Feeling is the next step.  Despite the attempts of many to feel little or nothing, it takes feeling to turn a thought into action.  Some people just go with their gut, and act.  They can handle those slightly more complex, but not too complex thoughts, and just go with it.  Some people, though, need to feel it out.  Not just give it further thought, but feeling as to the result.  If I ask her out and she says no, how will I feel?  What if she says yes, how will that make me feel?  Don’t be impulsive, consider the consequences!  You are now working from feeling, before you decide to take action.  This is not a bad thing, it is part of the process to turn a thought into a thing.

Which brings us to the more complex concepts which start as thought, and almost certainly require feeling before we take action.  I think I want to ask her to marry me or I want to move to Portugal and start my life all over or I want to open my own coffee shop or I want to quit my job and run for office.  These things usually cannot be done instantly, they require time and process, so as such you have the thought, you move on to feel it out, and then you take action to make it happen.

As simple as the idea of consciously creating your reality by applying feeling and intentional action to thought seems, for most of us we need more than that.  The complexity of our society and our day-to-day lives mostly make this seem like overly-simplistic, hippy-dippy, new-agey, mumbo jumbo pie-in-the-sky rose colored grade A bullshit.  Hard not to hear that skeptical voice in your head scoff, Consciousness Creates Reality?  Yeah, right…so where the hell is my flying car and the million dollars I want to see in my bank account?

Yet Consciousness DOES Create Reality.  It’s not always obvious, and there are certainly events that happen that make us thoroughly question the truth of this, but it doesn’t change it.  Further, even if you cannot fully wrap your mind around this notion, I believe that everyone has exactly THREE choices for how to live life.

What three choices are those?  I believe they are: 1) Let life live you.  This is what most people do with their lives.  They go with the flow, what happens, happens, and from time to time they see awesomeness occur, but they seldom directly effect it.  2) Curl up in a ball and wait for death.  This can be literal, but more often this is the people who expect nothing but bad things to happen or they make excuses for everything or spend life in prayer for an afterlife, rather than bothering to live this one.  3) Live the life you desire.  You choose your experiences, you strive to get more out of life, you take actions and make choices and fight to have the life you most desire.

Yes, I am generalizing, and yes, we all shift between these three notions from time to time, but I still maintain and firmly believe that one of these concepts usually dominates.  Some people find perfect contentedness in any of these three ways of living, and I would not begrudge them that.  If you are satisfied with the life you are living, more power to you!  But if, like me, you want to live the life you most desire, and its different from what you currently are experiencing, it requires more choices and decisions and intentional actions.

This is what Pathwalking is all about.  I have spent the past five years working out this self-help philosophy concept.  There have been two-hundred sixty-two different posts, espousing various ideas, concepts, ways and means for choosing our own destinies.  Now I want to take this further, and present you with tools to help traverse your path as I employ them in traveling along my own.

I will be working to further Pathwalking in Practice, because I think both you and I will benefit from a toolkit we can use to consciously create the reality we most want from life.

Are you living the life you most want to live?

 

This is the two-hundred sixty-second entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas and my personal experiences in walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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This has been an interesting year.

In some respects this goes with the Chinese curse of “May you live in interesting times”.  In some respects it has simply been full of odd and unusual, fascinating things.  In some respects it has just been interesting as opposed to uninteresting…and in some ways it’s very much Joss Whedon’s definition from Serenity: Mal: “Define interesting?” Wash: “Oh god oh god we’re all going to die?”

Much of the latter is due to the outside world, and things I personally can do little to directly impact.  I voted in the election, I continue to stand up for anyone who is feeling unsafe in these uncertain times, and I will continue to do whatever I can to offer support in any way my friends and loved ones needs should matters deteriorate.

What I cannot continue to do is focus on those things, because I can’t directly change them.  I will resist where necessary, call out BS when appropriate (and possibly less so, depending), and I will donate time, effort and if possible money to worthy engines in place to support love over hate, unity over separation, inclusiveness over exclusivity and so on.

What I need to focus on now, however, is my own life, my own paths, my own thoughts and feelings and actions.  If I get caught up in matters I want to change but can only indirectly effect without putting my own house into order, so to speak, I will be of no good to anyone.

What does that mean?  What it means is that I need to turn my focus away from this big-picture stuff, and look at my own life, my own accomplishments, my own thoughts and feelings and actions.  I need to work on me, do what is necessary for myself, and pay attention to this little corner of the world which I call my own.

One of the key matters in regards to this, though, is not to get caught up in self-recrimination, or judgement in regards to selfishness.  This is self-care, not a selfish act.  If I do not work on my own mindfulness, my own awareness and the here-and-now, I will be able to do very little to have any real impact on the bigger picture.

It is impossible for me to ignore the big picture.  The results of the Presidential election and surreal uncertainty borne of that; the tragic number of popular celebrity deaths; the devastation of war in Syria and elsewhere; the rise of arch-conservative powers around the globe in response to the changing world; all of these are noteworthy, all are matters of concern of varying degrees, and some may even have devastating consequences and are frightening.  Yet they are beyond my personal reach, beyond my ability to have a direct impact and effect worthwhile change.

These matters are relevant, but I personally can do little about them.  It’s important to acknowledge that.  But I am not ignoring them or disregarding them…I am keeping mindful of their goings-on, and I am looking for ways that I CAN effect change, whether it’s writing an opinion piece on these matters or donating to a cause to help change them or support something better than them, or some other manner I have not thought of that WILL be effective.

That being said, it’s time to review NOT the big-picture year-that-was, but rather my own, personal 2016.  What has this past year wrought for me, and how will that impact my paths?

On many levels this has been a good year.  I got this new job which has been good for me on multiple levels, published the first full-length novel in my Steampunk series, maintained this blog and Positivity and added a third weekly post with Crossing the Bridges, and strengthened all of my relationships, whether intimate, personal or professional.  I have been tracking my diet and exercise, though I still have a ways to go with that.  I have gotten a long ways into writing a cool space opera I look forward to sharing one day.

There have been some less-than stellar bits.  My weight has been like a yo-yo all year, and my mental state, in especial the last couple months, has been kind of rough.  I’ve had doubt and uncertainty about some of my chosen paths, but apart from that I am working to consider my thoughts, what I am feeling, and from there how I am acting more carefully.

This particular year has been rough for many people on many levels, but it is coming to an end.  I would certainly never tell anyone how to grieve for the things that they grieve for, but I would suggest that we cannot remain focused on grief.  We need to find our strength, and to focus on that if we want to consciously create a better reality.

Mourn the things you need to, but find good things to celebrate.  Everyone has something from the passing year that was not awful, and we need to give that energy and attention, too.  I know that can be difficult, but if all of our attention remains on negative things, we tend to create more things to feel negative about.  Take a moment to give some attention to positive things, because I know that’s what I want to have more of for myself, and I suspect you likely feel the same.

The New Year is upon us.  If we truly want it to be better than the year that is ending, we need to look to better things to come.  May your paths be true and strewn with few obstacles and many wonders.

What do look forward to in the New Year?

 

GOAL LOG – Week 51:

Diet:  Fairly unchanged, though a bit of overindulgence with the holidays.

Exercise: Only one day at the gym.

Writing:  The three blogs got written

Meditation:  One day of mediation, about 7 minutes.

Gratitude: I wrote five things I was grateful for six days last week.

Please note that The Goal Log will be relocated in two weeks to my Crossing the Bridges posts.

This is the two-hundred sixty-first entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas and my personal experiences in walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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This is where it all began, five years ago:

How can I make a difference?

This question comes up for me fairly often. I want to help other people see the world in the way that I see it. NOT in a ‘my way is the one true way’ idea at all. On the contrary – I want people to disagree with me. I want them to consider these words, and reject them if they disagree. I want them to think, to consider, to ponder their own view on similar topics.

Just before New Year’s 2012, I determined I would take action instead of make a resolution.  From that plan, the first Wednesday of January, 2012, I took my first Pathwalk.

After the initial fifty-two weeks, I challenged myself to continue.  After the next, again I was determined to maintain this topic and these posts.  Now, I cannot imagine my life without sharing this notion and taking this journey.

This is the two-hundred and sixtieth week I have shared a Pathwalk.  Five years.  As I look back on the idea and philosophy I have begun, I am filled with both a sense of awe and of wonder at all I have written about, what I have and have not accomplished, and what I wish to see from this as I continue.

I published the first year of Pathwalking in book form.  In the future, I want to take this even further, and find ways to work on coaching sessions and talks to share the idea, and to help others find and walk paths of their own.

It was not until the seventh week that I really explained just what Pathwalking is.  The notion of taking a spiritual “walkabout”, and seeking to get to know the self better along the way.  I think, up until then, I may have been still trying to fully piece it together for myself.

Five years have passed now, and I have worked hard with the idea of conscious reality creation, and finding and walking my own path in this life.  Sometimes it comes fairly easily, while at other times it’s certainly a challenge.  Yet I am fairly sure that since I started this, I have enjoyed a more connected, fuller life.

I have developed some key tenets for Pathwalking, which anyone and everyone can apply to their lives.  I am constantly working with these notions to live my life, and to improve upon it.  Some days are easier than others for applying these, but I strive to work with them in order to build the life I most desire to live.

Consciousness Creates Reality.  This, right here, is Life, the Universe and Everything.  I know a lot of people believe themselves to be victims of circumstance or that they actually have very little control of their lives.  While yes, you can’t do anything for anyone else and their life, you can control how you approach you own life.  If you believe you are a victim, if you see only darkness at every turn, odds are pretty good you get exactly that.  But when you can see that life is full or light and possibility, and you can take the wheel of the car and be in control, you become empowered.  When you are feeling empowered, that can take you virtually anywhere you could desire.

Thought, feeling and intentional action move the Universe.  In order to consciously create reality, we have to start with the thoughts about what we want, feel out what it will be like to have the goal, then take intentional actions.  The Secret uses a somewhat, I think, loftier idea with ask, believe, receive.  Yet the message is the same, and you can really manifest almost anything when you take a conscious approach to life.

Awareness is consciousness.  We love our technology, our phones and tablets and other toys.  Ironically, the devices designed to connect us often serve exactly the opposite purpose.  We easily lose track of our awareness of the here and now, and as such our thoughts, feelings and actions lose direction, and our intent to manifest…whatever, meets resistance.  It’s important to stop, ask ourselves “How am I feeling?” and really become aware in the present moment.  Lessons of the past and thoughts on the future are important, but if we are not present we will find ourselves like a car in neutral – engine running, but not going anywhere.

Knowledge is Power, and Empowerment.  I am always learning, always seeking new information about a wide range of topics.  I see the world full of endless possibility, and I love to explore and discover more about it all the time.  The more we know, the more we empower ourselves.  What’s more, things are constantly changing, and the more we choose to learn the more we can face changes and handle them.

Change is inevitable.  Pure and simple, change happens.  Some is in your control, some not so much.  However, when we apply knowledge and awareness and give thought and feeling to our actions, we can face change ready for any good or bad it may show us.  Yoda said “Always in motion is the future,” which could translate to change is unpredictable.  Understanding this, we can face changes to the world around us that are outside of our control by taking control over our own existence, and working with that.

Gratitude is focus.  When we take time to be grateful for the things, people and experiences we have in our lives, we gain focus on matters, and with that focus can work with change to gain new knowledge to become aware, then to think about what we need for ourselves, feel gratitude for that need, and take intentional actions to create it.  If we are not grateful for that which we already have, we are not conscious of our reality, so creating a different one is going to be neigh on impossible.

These are the key tenets to Pathwalking that I have experienced over the past five years.  I hope that you have enjoyed this journey with me, and will continue along your own path, checking in with mine for ideas to live the best lives we can.  Thank you for being my inspiration.

How is the journey along your own paths going?

 

GOAL LOG – Week 50:

Diet:  Fairly unchanged.

Exercise: Two days of fencing.

Writing:  The three blogs got written, and I worked on a new story idea one day.

Meditation:  I got in no meditation last week.  Must fix that.

Gratitude: I wrote five things I was grateful for four days last week.

Please note that The Goal Log will be relocated, come January, to my Crossing the Bridges posts.

 

This is the two-hundred sixtieth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas and my personal experiences in walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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There is a difference between being influenced by outside forces, and getting assistance from them.

For some people this is not an easy distinction to make, but it’s a very important one.

We are constantly surrounded by outside influences.  Most of the social media sites are a part of this.  They are striving for our attention, they want us to do and think and feel certain ways, which may or may not be compatible with what we REALLY want to do and think and feel.

Many people seek, some intentionally, some not, to persuade you to fall under their influence.  Some of this is malicious, some not so much.  People want you to feel a certain way about this topic or that, they want you to act upon something or other, they want you to think just like they think, so that they may furnish you with an opinion.  They want to influence you to buy their product, vote for their candidate, worship their deity, give up your rights because you don’t know better, or take away another’s rights because you should be afraid of them.

On the other side of that coin, though, are people offering or providing assistance.  They may also seek to influence you, but never without your consent.  They will ask you if they can provide you with help or show you a thing or what-have-you.  They are less about giving you their opinion and way and more about helping you find your own opinion and way.

How can you tell the difference between being influenced and assisted?  Generally influence is unsolicited.  They are pushing their beliefs and opinions on you, they are taking actions to sway you that might feel coercive or pushy or otherwise not really wanted.  Assistance is usually solicited, but not always.  Someone assisting you is helping you to work out your own beliefs, form your own opinions to take action.  If they opine for you or tell you what they believe, it is not in a manner to persuade you to do the same, but more as an example for you to work from.

Assistance feels helpful.  It provides answers to questions and solutions to problems that resonate with your core beliefs and feelings and thoughts.  Receiving assistance is a positive experience, helping you to move forward and learn and grow.

Further, almost nobody seeks influence.  Of course there are people out there who would much rather not make any decisions for themselves, and so they want to be influenced by others.  They want to be told how they should think and feel.  But most of us don’t like when other people tell us how to behave.

That’s what a lot of this boils down to.  The influencers want a specific way of behavior, and for whatever reason take umbrage with the massive individuality of people.  We all have unique backgrounds, we all think in our own way, and we all have separate hopes and dreams and aspirations for our lives.  Some people find all this diversity overwhelming and intimidating.

I never try to influence anyone to walk anyone’s path but their own.  Pathwalking, as I practice is, is NOT for everyone.  How I Pathwalk versus how you Pathwalk is going to differ, because we come from different places and are on different paths.  Even if, like me, you are a writer trying to get to the next level and empower people to be inspired, you are not going about it exactly the same way that I am.

I seek out assistance from time to time.  There are people who know things I do not.  There are always new books to read or listen to that will give me new insights, new ideas and new ways to find the life I want for myself.  Opinions and ideas are changeable, so every new piece of information can take me to all kinds of different places.

Some may not recognize the difference between influence and assistance.  If you are trying to force your opinion or ideas onto others, you are working as an influencer.

I have been teaching fencing for twenty years.  I can teach any single person two to four different means to an end.  I offer to assist by showing them what I think may be best for them, but I always make it clear that my way is NOT the One True Way, and that another may show them something else down the line that works even better for them.

It is slightly less easy to recognize unasked for assistance from influence, but language is a big cue.  If someone says, “May I offer a suggestion?” or “Have you considered” or “I know it’s none of my business, but did you view if from this angle?” they are trying to assist.  If someone says, “Let me tell you how this is done,” or “You’re wrong, let me tell you how it is (vs let me explain WHY you are wrong,” or “I know it’s none of my business, but you should know this is how it is,” likely they are working at influencing.

Assistance is often needed and wanted.  We get stuck on a problem or reach a crossroads we cannot traverse without help.  Sometimes, we don’t seek it, but it finds us anyhow.  Somebody makes a suggestion or offers an idea or shows us something that opens new channels and provides us with new directions.

Assistance is a positive force for change.  Influence is a negative force for control.  Be conscious of how you feel when you are faced with influence or assistance, so that you know which you are receiving.

Do you prefer to be asked, or told?

 

GOAL LOG – Week 49:

Diet:  Holiday season is tricky, but working on it.

Exercise: Two days of fencing, one at the gym.

Writing:  The three blogs got written, and I worked on my sci-fi novel on one day.

Meditation:  I meditated one day last week, about 6 minutes.

Gratitude: I wrote five things I was grateful for six days last week.

 

This is the two-hundred fifty-ninth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas and my personal experiences in walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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I frequently write about how we alone can control our thoughts, our feelings and our actions.  Yes, they can be influenced by outside people and things, but they are still under our own direct control.

Feelings in particular can be heavily influenced from without.  Feelings are frequently reactions to stimuli, so much of the time it is the things outside of us that cause us to experience emotions.

If someone compliments you, kisses you, smiles at you, invites you to a party, tells you some great news about their life, you are going to feel good.  When someone insults you, shoves you, yells at you, breaks up with you, or tells you terrible news about their life, you are going to feel bad.

The key here is what you hold on to.  When you are feeling good you generally seek more things to continue that feeling.  Of course, when you are feeling bad you might also subconsciously seek more things to continue THAT feeling.

We often do not recognize when we have allowed our feelings to be unduly influenced.  We feel what we are feeling, and do not realize that we can change this when we are feeling something we do not want to feel.

It is important to recognize, first and foremost, that NOBODY can feel good all the time.  We are all human, and we are a paradox of emotions, and as such to really feel positives we also must be able to really feel negatives.  There are reasons why we need to feel anger, remorse, displeasure, concern, and even certain kinds of fear.  They protect us, they help us grow, they allow us to recognize mistakes and issues and to change course when necessary to correct them.

The problem arises when we decide to allow negative emotions to dominate our being, and when we blame other matters for these emotions.  Yes, something or someone may very well have been what triggered the emotion, but after a while you take on all responsibility for holding onto it, in especial if it does not suit you.

The ultimate examples of this are grudges, feuds, and long-held false beliefs and negativity towards people and things.  This is where the term “I hate” becomes so incredibly dangerous.  Hatred is a powerful negative emotion, from which it is very hard to turn.  When we hold onto something based on a happening of weeks, months, even years ago or more, we create this steadfast negative space that can easily dominate our lives.

Yes, experiencing negative emotions is important, and not to be dismissed, but how long we choose to hold onto them is another matter.  Overall, negative emotions are more destructive than constructive (and I recognize this statement is not true for everyone, but for the majority of people it is).  Downward spirals are born of one negative emotion leading to another leading to another and so on until you are depressed, anxious, scared, distressed, lost…or any combination of these.

This is why it is so very important to ask ourselves, “How am I feeling?”  It’s incredibly easy to passively just go along with your day, doing the things you do, and never checking in with your feelings.  Meanwhile, lurking below the surface you could be feeling melancholy, concerned, anxious, frustrated, angry, hurt…take your pick.

This becomes especially important in a society with such instantaneous news and information.  It’s almost impossible to scroll through Twitter or Facebook or G+ without coming across an upsetting news story, real or fake, or people talking about the bad day they are having, or financial woes, or all kinds of other matters that are negatively slanted.    Some people only ever tweet about the miseries of their lives, some people seek constant victim reassurance and sympathy, and let’s not even get started on matters of national, international and global concern.    The more of these you encounter, the more likely, if you do not check in with yourself by asking “How am I feeling?” they will negatively influence your emotional state.

Further, we all tend to be really busy.  Most of us have responsibilities that eat up much of our time, and so emotions get shunted to passivity.  We get caught up in the activities we are working on, and we completely lose sight of our emotional state, and let it be a passenger in the jump seat way at the back of the vehicle.

There are times where our emotional state is a hindrance to things.  Certainly there are times where we are so focused on an activity that our passive emotional state becomes completely unimportant.  But when we get done with whatever it is that has occupied us so thoroughly, it’s surprisingly easy for our emotions to find their way right on top of us again.  How often do you find yourself suddenly feeling down and wonder where it came from?  This is most likely it – a formerly passive emotion, wrought of something that happened a while back, is now at the forefront of your awareness.

Once we ask ourselves, “How am I feeling?” we have taken an active position.  After we do that, we are further ready to take control, and alter our emotional state if it is not one conducive to us getting anywhere we may intend to go. Controlling how we feel is mostly a matter of active versus passive knowledge of our emotional state.

Seems easy enough.  Of course, it’s not easy, and takes a bunch of work.  I know what I need to do with this information, and I need to make certain I take more time to ask myself, “How am I feeling?”

How do you WANT to feel?  How ARE you feeling?

 

GOAL LOG – Week 48:

Diet:  Getting better about tracking again.

Exercise: Two days at the gym last week and two days of fencing.  Improving.

Writing:  The three blogs got written, and I worked on my sci-fi novel on four different days.

Meditation:  I meditated two days last week, for 6 and 7 minutes or so, respectively.

Gratitude: I wrote five things I was grateful for six days last week.

 

This is the two-hundred fifty-eighth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas and my personal experiences in walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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