The Ramblings of the Titanium Don

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How Does Inspiration Create Positivity?

Inspiration comes in many forms.

Different things inspire different people, of course.  People can find inspiration in any of the five senses.  The taste of chocolate.  A piece of music.  The smell of fresh brewed coffee.  Sunlight in your eyes.  The feel of silk beneath your hands.  That sense of comfort and love from those closest to you.  Any of these alone or in combination can spark the imagination and inspire great things.

InspirationInspiration has been personified throughout history.  The Nine Muses of Greek antiquity, Calliope, Cleo, Polyhymnia, Terpsichore, Thalia, Melpomene, Urania, Erato, and Euterpe, for example.  Each Muse was believed to provide inspiration to writers, artists, great leaders and the like.  Even to this day we use the term “finding my muse” when we speak of a quest for inspiration.

What if, along the way, you become uninspired?  What if you find it hard to be inspired?  If those things that inspired you before no longer hold the magic they did, how can you be inspired?

Everyone and everything changes.  Life today may be similar to life yesterday.  And it might seem the same tomorrow.  But every day is different.  Sometimes this is subtle, such as sun or clouds and ambient temperature.  Sometimes this is not, like an unexpected relationship or some tragic event.  No matter what it is, life is never the same from day to day, even when it feels as though it is.  As such, what inspires you now may not inspire you later.

Because inspiration can come in so many forms you can always find something new.  A new stimulus to the senses can have a different effect on you, and awaken your desire to consciously create your reality.

Inspiration builds positivity.

InspirationInspiration is how our world can be changed for the better.  I has led to the design of monolithic architecture, sculpture, paintings, poetry and grand works of entertainment.  George Lucas was inspired to created the Star War universe.  It was inspiration that led Martin Luther King Jr. to declare to the world “I have a dream,” and Ghandi to seek independence for his nation.

Inspiration is not always so grand.  Feeling inspired can be the reason you get out of bed in the morning.  Inspiration can cause you to clean your home.  You may find yourself inspired to ask that person out and begin a relationship.  Inspiration is what leads you from one path in life to choose another.

We can always seek out and find inspiration.  When we do, we can use this to find, create, and have a more positive, healthy attitude and life.  Feeling inspired may at times seem elusive, but it is always out there, whether it finds you or you find it.

Finding positivity is not hard, but it does require action.

Knowing that we can be found by inspiration or find inspiration of our own lets us awaken possibility.  When we have inspiration, great or small, it can endow us with the ability to open ourselves to wholly new and different experiences, which helps us to empower ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the two-hundred and tenth entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

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What Makes Me Feel Satisfied?

I have worked any number of jobs that didn’t leave me feeling satisfied.

We all have to earn a living, right?  You can’t just laze about your home, on a beach, or wander aimlessly all the time, because clothing, food and shelter cost money.  Also, frankly, doing nothing at all gets pretty boring pretty fast.

SatisfiedWhen I started college, I remember preparing to register for my first classes.  It was orientation, and I had not yet chosen my major.  I told my dad that I was going to major in procrastination and hesitation, with a minor in bureaucratic red tape.  He laughed, I laughed…and then I ruined his golf game because I get in line with my temporary advisor at 6am so that I could get into the classes I desired to take, and was done early.

The irony of this is that, in many respects, I really did choose procrastination and hesitation as my major.  Yes, I got my Bachelor’s degree in four years, but after college I was aimless.  The degree program and studies in college that I chose satisfied me, but were not, in the real world after college, sustainable.

Thus I spent my mid-twenties bouncing between jobs, and places I called home.  Then, I got hit by a car crossing a street, and would become the Titanium Don.  A year of my life went to recovery.

My body was changed, not just because of the fused bones in my right leg and titanium plates in my shoulder, but the muscle groups recovered in many unique ways.  Because I was not satisfied with the notion of recovering at any-old pace, I pushed, and pushed, and got past several of the obstacles my doctors expected.  No limp when I walk, and full use of my right arm.

What does it take for me to be satisfied?

After my recover and my return to a more-or-less normal life, this question continued to pop up.  What did it take for me to be satisfied by my life?  I found a job I was good at, but that bored me.

It was during this period, however, that Seeker was professionally edited.  Not only did my novel get thoroughly improved, but I learned how to strengthen my own writing, and became a far more skilled editor.

Perhaps it was my equal fears of success and failure, and the underlying fear of abandonment…or maybe it was my penchant for indecision, procrastination and hesitation…but I was not satisfied.  Satisfaction didn’t come from dating, the new home I moved into didn’t bring it about, and while I got a job I actually truly loved, the pay was not so satisfying.

My best friend told me on more than one occasion that consciousness creates reality.  I sort of accepted that idea, but didn’t really give it much attention.  Except on more than one occasion, I had used it successfully.

As I began to explore this idea, and found the best therapist I had ever seen, my life began to shift.  I was starting to find things that satisfied me.  I started to date an amazing woman, I got a couple different opportunities to publish some of my writing, and the notion of a New Year’s Action birthed Pathwalking.

It has been more than six years, now, since I started blogging weekly.  Rather than continue to submit my novels to agents and garner more rejections, I decided to self-publish.  That woman I was dating became my wife, and I began to realize that more things in my life made me feel satisfied than I had been acknowledging.

The satisfaction from the little things is actually huge.

When we look at the “big picture” of the society we live in, it’s easy to lose sight of the little things in life.  Every single day presents new opportunities, new options, new experiences.  Of course life throws curveballs, and we need to do things that are less fun like taking out the garbage, cleaning the toilet, and scooping the litter boxes.  Expressing gratitude for the things and people we have in our lives can help us feel satisfied, even in the face of bad days.

Currently, I have reached a point in my life where I am working on manifesting the life I want.  I am seeking ways to earn my living with my writing, because this is what makes me feel most satisfied.  This weekly section of the blog was created was so that I could explore how to bridge the gaps I envision between the styles of writing I do.  This blog, and the work in conscious reality creation, is as important to me as the fictional worlds of fantasy, Steampunk and sci-fi I write.

Published novels can lead to pay.  Nothing I have put out has become any sort of best-seller, yet.  Sure, I suppose it is a form of arrogance on my part to desire that sort of status, but as a writer with a lot of characters, stories and worlds in my head, I believe it is possible.

Conscious reality creation is an idea I can take several steps beyond this blog.  Maybe a podcast, and possibly speaking engagements to explore how this can and does work for everyone, when we are aware of what we think, how we feel, and the intentions of our actions.

Am I afraid of how it might feel to feel satisfied?

Maybe.  I long ago came to the conclusion that my fear of failure has an equal partner in a fear of success, both of which lead to the deeper, underlying fear of abandonment.  It is not the easiest path, but I am striving to create the joy I most desire, and crossing the bridges between my writing styles is the key to that.

I blogged on my author website that I was launching a Patreon.  I have been studying just what exactly Patreon is, and the best description I can provide is this:  Patreon is a place where people have the opportunity to be your patron.  They have a chance to provide you with support for that which you provide to them.  To quote Patreon directly: “Patreon is a membership platform that makes it easy for creators to get paid.”

Why do I want to do this?  What am I aiming to accomplish?  I want to be able to put into action the conscious reality creation I am blogging about.  As I continue to share the ideas of this blog, I want to be able to contribute more to my household and pay bills.

Today, I launch my Patreon.  It is my goal that this will allow me to create more, cross more bridges, and live a life that will bring me satisfaction on more levels.  I believe that what I have to offer is of tremendous value, and while I worry that this might come across as selfish, I believe that there is nothing unreasonable about taking this step.

Thank you for being a part of my journey.  Thank you for your continued support.

As always, thank you for crossing the bridges between my worlds with me.

This is the seventy-second entry of my personal journey, the Crossing the Bridges series.  My collectively published writing can be found here.

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Why is Feeling Joyful Important?

One of the goals of Pathwalking is to enhance the things in life that make us feel joyful.

I want to work on choosing the life I most desire to lead.  Consciousness creates reality, and I want to choose the reality that brings me joy and happiness.

JoyfulThis can be particularly challenging, especially in today’s society.  We are bombarded every day with horrid, awful, ugly, unpleasant things.  Terrible people, selfishness, greed, and a deluge of messages about lack and scarcity.  Maybe, if we are truly fortunate, for every ten pieces of negative information we receive one piece that’s positive and uplifting.

Because the overarching narrative of our society is one of insufficiency and deficiency, it is really important to keep focused on our own, personal awareness.  Being mindful of what we are thinking, feeling, and from there acting upon is key.

One of the issues that this brings up is selfishness.  Many of us have been raised to put others before ourselves.  That can be family, friends, coworkers, anybody.   We believe that the needs of the many always outweigh the needs of the one, and put ourselves last.  Or worse, when we do something for ourselves, we have to resist the feeling that we are being selfish…or else do twice as many things for other people to make up for it.

Finding things that make us feel joyful is not selfish.  Why?  Because when we feel joyful, we spread that to others.  Like sorrow and grief and all the negative emotions, holding onto and expressing positive emotions is contagious.

What’s the difference between joy and happiness?  For the purpose of this post, it boils down to the abstract versus the emotion.  The concept of happy is broad and vague.  Joyful, however, is a more readily defined emotional state.

Joyful thoughts, feelings and actions create happiness.

What makes me happy is not necessarily the same as what makes you happy.  Perfect example – fencing.  I have been fencing for more than half my life now.  Almost without fail, if I am having a bad day, when I fence it makes me feel happy.  I take great joy in fencing, and while it is slightly less when I am not at my best, it’s still there.  Similarly, writing makes me happy.  I love spilling words out of my head and onto the page or screen.

There are people who find fencing ludicrous and silly.  I know people who find putting down words thoroughly challenging, and unpleasant.  What makes each of us feel joyful and develops happiness varies wildly.  But the importance of manifesting things that make us happy is almost immeasurable.

It is easy to get lost in the seas of social media.  Twitter, Facebook, and don’t even get me started on the rabbit hole that is Pinterest.  However, when we start to focus on the negativity, and see all the greedy, selfish, terrible people in positions of leadership and authority, it can be really hard to find things that bring us joy.

But that makes it even more important that we pause, and be mindful and aware of our thoughts, our feelings, and subsequent actions we take.  If we are holding onto negativity, we tend to create and draw more to us.  How many times, when you felt bad, did you manage to keep finding things to make yourself feel even worse?  That’s conscious reality creation…or, when we are not being mindful, unconscious or subconscious reality creation.

As I traverse the paths of my life, I strive to find opportunities to develop and experience more joy.

Creating joyful things draws more joyful things out.

Neglecting ourselves for the sake of others and sacrificing our goals, our happiness, and anything else is not the noble notion many give it.  Why?  Because it makes the following statement:  Because there is not enough, I will go without.  When we sacrifice our time, energy, money, and so on for other people, we tell ourselves that it’s noble and good in order to counter the negative feelings sacrifice tends to produce.  When we give and give and give of ourselves, but then do no self-care, we deplete what we have.

If the universe is abundant, aren’t we, as extensions of the universe, also abundant?  Yes…but while the universe is made of infinite energy, the energy contained in the meat-suits we occupy on this planet is finite.  This is why we rest, meditate and sleep.  We need to restore our energies, in order to have enough on any given day.  When we sacrifice ourselves, we deplete that energy, and if we deplete too much we get depressed, sick, and even so ill as to threaten our physical existence.

When we take care of ourselves, we have more to share.  This is applicable to the spiritual, emotional and physical levels.  When we do joyful things we build up our reserves, and become more capable of giving more.  When we have more, we can give more.  It’s a stunningly simple concept we still feel we can mostly ignore.

It is not selfish to care for ourselves.  There is a fine line between giving and giving away from a lack mentality.  Giving comes from the heart, and makes us feel good.  Giving away comes from the head, and we have to tell ourselves we’ve done good to counter feeling bad.  Sound familiar?

Let go of any guilt feeling joyful might bring.

This is one of the larger issues we are facing as a society right now.  When so many people have it so bad, how can I feel joyful?  We see all this negativity, and when we find our own positivity, we might just find ourselves feeling guilty for that.

There will always be someone who is experiencing loss, grief, sadness, depression, distress, and every negative emotion you can imagine.  Empathy and compassion are important, but that does not mean we should not do things for ourselves that make us feel joyful.  Why?  Because the law of attraction states that like attracts like.  Feed the negative, it grows.

Every single one of us has had an experience where we were feeling good, and then someone grieving or injured or otherwise hurt happened by.  Suddenly, we feel guilty that we feel good when they feel awful.  This is empathy.  It’s a natural feeling, but we do not need to cease to be happy for them, but rather empathize, show compassion, and let go of the guilt.  Eventually those people will be past their unhappiness, and then your joy can help make them feel good again, too.

Be kind.  Be loving.  Let yourself find joy in the paths you are walking.  Consciousness creates reality, and when we are joyful we can manifest amazing things.

What makes you feel joyful?

 

This is the three-hundred-nineteenth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas for, and my personal experiences with, walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

After more than 6 years of Pathwalking, I will be launching a Patreon to garner support for these works, and more.

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How Does Joy Create Positivity?

Pure, unadulterated joy.

Don’t you love that feeling?  The freedom, the release, the positivity?  That feeling of comfort and warmth and bliss that makes you smile and remember what it is to be alive?

JoyWe are so inundated with dread, fear, anger, hatred, division and harsh reality.  Everyone is constantly being subjected to grim news and intolerance and denial of joy.  We are slaves to community, to jobs and finances and responsibilities that rob us of pure joyfulness.

I believe that what we all seek in life, when all is said and done, is joy.  We want to feel that sensation, and we want to experience the freedom and positive energy that comes with it.  Almost every act we commit is in search of joyfulness.

Because we are so surrounded by negativity we do not give enough credit to the little things that make us feel joyful.  For example – I have been enjoying the trailers for Avengers: Infinity War, Black Panther, and finally Solo: A Star Wars Story.  For up to two minutes there is that swell of music, the images of heroic characters doing all kinds of cool stuff.  This makes me feel like a kid again, stirs that feeling of bliss within me.  It’s like a drug, coursing through my veins…and that is not a bad thing.

Imagination.  Imagination is joy.  That, for me, involves sharing my ideas for Conscious Reality Creation and my imaginative worlds.  Whether I am creating a blog post, a work of fantasy, Steampunk or sci-fi…or an inventive conversation with an eight-year-old child.

My wife and I used to frequent a Chinese buffet.  The family that runs it are familiar and friendly, and they have two sons.  The younger loves to chat, and somehow we had gotten into a silly conversation about knock-out gas.

The joy of silliness creates positivity

I informed him that the good knock-out gas is always purple.

“But what about green knock-out gas?” he’d asked.  “Turns you inside out.”  Oooooooh.  “Red knock-out gas? “  “Causes farting.”  He laughed.  “What about yellow?”  “Uncontrollable urge to pee.”  “How about blue?”  “Freezes you solid, but your eyes still work.”  And so on and so forth through a rainbow of colors and ten minutes of joyful, unrestrained laughter had passed.

JoyThe takeaway from this is that joy is something we spend too little time on and with.  We need to feel joyful because it is a freedom that is, in many respects, the ultimate happiness.  Joy is the goal of positivity, and we need to seek out the things that make us feel joyful, big and small, for both our mental and physical health.

Finding positivity is not hard, but it does require action.  Knowing how joy is a form of pure positivity, we can strive to find more joyful things in our day-to-day lives.  When we get lost in joyful things, we feel free, and when we feel free we empower ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the two-hundred and ninth entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

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Ten Things Making Me Happy

In response to a great deal of awful things from the start of this year, I want to share with you ten things in my personal life that are making me happy.

While Valentine’s Day is my least favorite holiday, the message of love it conveys is worth spreading.  Rather than keep it to one day designed to generate revenue for florists, chocolatiers and card companies, I think spreading love every day is a fine thing.

10 Things Making me HappyLove begins with the self.  When I love myself, and my life, I can give more love out.  When I am grateful for these things I love, I draw more things to love to me.

This is the Law of Attraction in action.  Consciousness Creates Reality.  The actions we give our thoughts and feelings to will draw good or bad into our lives.

One of the main reasons I write this blog, and post three times a week, is to remind myself about the importance of this.  I desire to manifest some pretty amazing things into my life, and that requires me to be grateful for what I already have.  Sometimes this can be difficult, not because of a lack of gratitude, but more because of outside influences making me feel negative.

Spend any amount of time on Facebook or other social media, and see how positive you can stay.  Read one article about the incredible selfishness of the US President and Congress, and try not to get angry.  When the hobby world I like to spend time in experiences derision, it can be incredible frustrating.

The Ramblings of the Titanium Don, with Positivity on Mondays, Pathwalking on Wednesdays, and Crossing the Bridges on Fridays, is where I can offer up empathy for an all-too-often senseless world.  Thus, I give you some love today.

Ten Things that are making ME happy.

This is in no particular order, fyi.

  1. My friends. I have some of the most incredible friends. They offer me love and support and sounding boards as I walk my crazy paths.  You are incredible people, and you make me very, very happy.
  2. My wife. This might get a tad sappy, and she will probably tell you that this makes her throw-up in her mouth a little. I married an incredible woman.  She is my partner, my equal, my favorite companion.  It never ceases to amaze me how much having someone who understands me like she does matters.  She makes me very, very, happy.
  3. The SCA. The Society for Creative Anachronism has played an integral part of my life for over 26 years now. I have met amazing, talented, wonderful people playing this game, and found my favorite hobby.  Also, the SCA helped get me out of my shell, and I believe is why I am more extrovert than introvert now.
  4. Fencing. While this is a part of the SCA, I need to put it here separately. I have found very few things in life that bring me such joy.  Everything about fencing I love, from the various weapons to the melee combat to the people doing it.  I love teaching fencing to new people almost as much as I love fighting.  If I am having a lousy day, fencing practices ALWAYS make me happy.
  5. Writing. Putting words to the page is joy. I can make words fly and sing in ways that even surprise me from time to time.  Even when I find myself having trouble writing this blog, words on the page make me happy.

Five things that make me happy down, five to go.

  1. Reading. I do not read enough. This isn’t about articles online or social media, this is about books.  Fiction, non-fiction, self-help, whatever…reading is weightlifting for the mind.  No matter how strong I think I am now, reading will make me stronger.  That makes me happy.
  2. Music. As I am writing this, my Writer’s Mix is playing off my old MacBook. This mix is largely movie and TV scores, including the various Star Wars films, Game of Thrones, Lord of the Rings and more.  Also, some classical music and cinematic New-Age by David Arkenstone.  In the car, I usually rock out or play something to sing along to.  Music, however, can alter my mood, and ultimate contribute to being happy.
  3. My cats. We have two cats. They are brats in their own unique way, but when they purr and do adorable things, it’s hard not to feel happy.
  4. My office. We recently moved, and with this I gained a home office. I have created a space that feels akin to a pillow-fort from childhood.  Comfortable, warm, and thoroughly ME.  Every time I come in here, I am home, and that makes me happy.
  5. You. Yes, this is utterly cheesy, but knowing that you have read this, and are reading my blog, makes me incredibly happy. Whether you agree or disagree with the things I write, it makes me happy to know that you read me.  Thank you!

Life can be rough.  We all go through difficult times.  But we can always find things that will make it better.

Hold on to your happy.

When we stressed out, and we feel bad, and the world seems terrible, there is always something we can find that will remind us of happiness.  Nobody can or frankly should be happy all the time.  But even when we are sad, angry, grieving, depressed, or otherwise feeling negative, we can seek out and find things that are happy.  I hope that by sharing some of mine, I can help you find yours.

As always, thank you for crossing the bridges between my worlds with me!

 

This is the seventy-first entry of my personal journey, the Crossing the Bridges series.  My collectively published writing can be found here.

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Why Do Words Matter?

Words matter.

What that means is that what you write or say can have an impact, positive or negative.  Do you build or destroy with your words?  Inspire or terrorize?  Spew love or hate?  Give or take?

Words matterPeople often forget just how important the words we use are.  Sometimes we fear the power of certain words and phrases, but neglect that there are always options.

There are more than 200,000 words in the English dictionary, when you include the obsolete words some people won’t let die.  New words and slang words and words in other languages and such also exist, so the choices are nearly endless.  There are words for pretty much everything, at least on the surface.

I know that there are feelings that are difficult to put words to.  There are plenty of words that have multiple meanings as well, so that just adds another layer of complexity.  That is why words are so very important.

The thing is, we sometimes pay little heed to the words we are using.  We often throw away a word here or there, and while we may attach nothing to it, because of the complexities of language we shift an intent or emotion or even a whole situation to something other than what we thought.  That is why words matter, and we should choose with more care than we frequently use.

Why?  Because when there is a big, overwhelming negative situation, adding on to it with our own negativity makes it grow.  Something vast and overwhelming only gets more vast and overwhelming the more we give it focus, attention, and support.

Choose your words wisely.

Sometimes people choose the words that they do because they want to obscure, misdirect, and even soften the impact of a given situation.  The words expressed still matter, and when people choose what they say or write, with forethought, they are making a statement.  Replacing one word for another to soften impact by choice matters.

WordsIn the face of a recent, negative, ugly situation, I am seeing words used to build positivity.  People are choosing to show their support and offer love, tolerance, and inclusion with their words.  Choices are being made to express good, and to stand together in the face of something unpleasant.

As a writer, I choose my words with care.  I recognize the power in the words I use, and because words matter as much as they do, I strive to use them in the best possible ways.

Words matter.  Consider the power of what you put out there and what words you use to express your thoughts, feelings and actions.

Finding positivity is not hard, but it does require action.

Knowing that words matter as they do, we can choose more consciously what words we use to express ourselves.  When we employ our words more thoughtfully, we gain control over how we want to think, feel and act, and of course as such we empower ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the two-hundred and eighth entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

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Are You Kind?

Be kind to yourself.  Give kindness to others.

I am sitting here this morning, trying to come up with words for this post, and I have been doing my usual routine.  I go to Facebook, I play a couple games, and I read through a bunch of posts.

KindThere are a lot of discouraging things going on out there.  So much anger, so much fear, such unbelievable negativity.  Is this really the world we want to live in?

I don’t know about you, but I am not a fan of this.  Of course it’s important to stay informed, but the volume of bad news is just thoroughly distressing.  It overwhelms, and I can’t help but wonder what good, if any, I can do here?

I can be better to myself.  I can treat myself like I want to be treated by others, and then I can extend that out to the people around me.

Positivity this week covered taking one step at a time, while Pathwalking covered the power of tenacity.  I have been having a hard time coming up with a topic for Crossing the Bridges, because I have a lot in my head, and am having a difficult time centering.

Anger and anxiety have been clouding my mind this morning. I am feeling somewhat helpless in the face of all the negativity I have been reading.

It is, of course, ok to feel angry, to feel bad, to get annoyed by these things.  The problem is holding onto them too tightly.  If I allow my feelings to stay here and fester, I will lower my frequency, and I will have an ever-increasingly difficult time getting where I want to go.

Pause.  Breathe.  Refocus.  Most of all…be kind.  I need to be kind to myself.

Being kind is a key to conscious reality creation.

I know that like many people, I am often the least kind to myself.  There is a lot of self-doubt, criticism, uncertainty that crops up in my life.  When I am focused on these things, they cause me to not think so well of myself.  This is not a terribly useful approach to life.

So I need to be more kind to myself.  It’s all well-and-good to be kind to others, but if I do not show myself kindness, then I actually have less to share, too.  Like pretty much everything in the universe, it all starts with the individual.

Consciousness creates reality.  If I am focused on negative things, on unkind things, what do you think I am drawing into my life?  No surprise here – more things I would prefer not to draw to myself.  Thus it’s really important that I remember to treat myself kindly, and to be gentle towards my heart and mind.

When I am more kind to me, I build more ability to be kinder to others.  Positivity begets positivity.  The best way to empower anyone else is to empower myself.

This past month has been rough.  Sure, I can dwell on this…or I can acknowledge it, and strive to make every day a good day.  One step at a time, one day at a time.  Frequently that really is the best approach.

Sometimes the toughest things to do are the simplest.  Self-love and kindness towards self should be really easy.  Yet often, they are the most challenging act to take part of.  It is important to remember that being kind to others is great, but being kind to myself is also extremely important.

Remember that kind acts beget kindness.

As always, thank you for crossing the bridges between my worlds with me.

 

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What Is Tenacity?

Tenacity, like patience, has never been my strongest suit.

One of the keys to succeeding at reaching the destination of any given path, though, is tenacious resolve.

What does it mean to have tenacity?  It is best described as the ability to stick-to whatever you are trying to make happen.  I often picture this as a dog with her jaws fastened to a stick she just will not relinquish.  She would rather hold onto it then let it go, even to be thrown.  That is tenacious resolve.

TenacityIn the steps of conscious reality creation (thought, feeling and action), tenacity is particularly important to feeling.  This is where unwavering resolve in feeling the desired goal, as though it is already complete, is so incredibly important.

Most of the great inventors who have changed the world had a singular vision.  They saw the thing they wanted to create.  Maybe they knew how it could come about, but likely they didn’t.  Still, they believed.  They felt it in their soul as being real.  Nothing would derail them from their feeling that they could make their invention happen.  That’s what it is all about.

Manifestation of anything we desire begins with thought.  I have this idea.  Then, we have to give that thought feeling.  It feels amazing to see this idea become reality.  Having the idea in my possession improves my lifeThis idea makes me happy.  Yes, the initial feeling is going to likely look ahead.  But visceral feelings in the here-and-now are how we consciously create reality and make the idea manifest.

From the thought and feeling there will be intentional action.  I am making a list of all the cool things the idea, manifested, will let into my life or I am inspired to take this action for the idea.

Tenacity is the difference between “Try” and “Do”.

How often do I refer to this quote from Yoda?  “Try not…do, or do not…there is no try!”  The reason Yoda tells Like this is because he needs to fully believe in no other outcome but what he is aiming for.  To mentally prepare to try can leave room for doubt.  Try is soft, and opens us up to letting go.  Well, I tried becomes an excuse to quit.

Doing is much more solid.  I did it is a bold, solid statement.  Even if it takes multiple attempts, I did it a dozen times before I got it done is still completion.

Even if, at the conclusion, you didn’t get the end result you intended, you did the thing.  Failure still teaches.  Yoda states this rather plainly, too.  “The greatest teacher, failure is.”  Often we learn more from failing than we do from succeeding.

How does that work?  When I started working after college, over my career I have worked for a lot of different companies.  In multiple instances, I watched them make mistakes and do things poorly, so I was unsurprised when they failed.  It is my belief that I learned more about how to run a business and manage people by seeing how NOT to run a business and mange people.  Those failures were excellent teachers.

Still, for a long time I continued to bounce from job to job.  Often something about a given job just wasn’t the right fit for me.  I recognized that I should probably be my own boss.

Over the years I played with numerous business ideas.  I even started a small business for a multitude of small business consulting options.  I can come up with a lot of reason why it didn’t work out, but the truth is – I lacked the tenacity.

Tenacity gets the job done.

Because I didn’t give my business the attention it deserved, it didn’t go anywhere.  It didn’t fail, it just didn’t do anything.  I had a job here and there, but I didn’t push.  There was some attempts to promote and market myself, but in truth all I can say here is that I tried.  And because that was all the energy I gave this idea, and I didn’t just DO for my business, it faded out.

It has now been six years since I began Pathwalking.  This has caused some very positive changes in my life.  Yet I am still not exactly where I want to be.  Why?  Tenacity.  I try a lot, but I don’t do as frequently.  This inaction keeps me where I am…not quite where I want to be.

I have the thought.  I know how it should feel.  That is where I get stuck.  Sometimes this is self-sabotage, rooted in my long-time fear of abandonment due to success or failure.  There are times I lack the necessary ambition to push when I know that I should.  There are as many excuses as drops of water in the ocean, but the truth is I need more tenacity.

To that end, I am blogging here three times a week, and have redesigned the concept of the entire blog.  Every other week I am writing up some sort of blog post to my author website, too.  Still, I could be writing more than I am, and researching options to better promote and sell my novels.  This is where I need to work on being more tenacious.

If I am going to walk the path to becoming a best-selling author, I know what I need to do.

No room for doubt, be tenacious!

Recently, I completed a 21 day course from Jen Sincero for changing a habit.  As she points out, 80% of the people who pay for such a course do not complete it.  Why?  They do not use their tenacity to see it through.

Pathwalking to achieve conscious reality creation requires a lot of stick-to-itiveness, or rather, tenacity.  Recognizing this, I can see what more I need to do to manifest my desires.  I know where I need to focus my feelings with more willfulness.

I am writer.  Which means that I need to work on everything that will hone my craft.  Tenaciously.

What have you pursued tenaciously?

 

This is the three-hundred-seventeenth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas for, and my personal experiences with, walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

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How Does One Step Build Positivity?

Some days you just take one step at a time.  Then follow it with another…and another…and so on.

For myself and many of my friends and loved ones, last week was a serious downer.  We lost people who meant a great deal to us.  Losing people special to us is hard.  Returning to our regularly scheduled lives can feel particularly trying.

One StepWhen I look for positivity every week, I acknowledge that nobody lives in a good headspace all the time.  We get into arguments, car accidents, troubles with coworkers and friends, disagreements with loved ones, and experience losses.  Part of the human condition is that we will be challenged along the way.

At times we can meet these challenges with fierce determination, empowerment, and high energy.  Sometimes, though, we face these matters with hunched shoulders, tired hearts and minds, and low energy.  We wonder what it would be like to have it easy.

These are the days we have to take it one step at a time.  This is when living in the moment, taking the next immediate step is the best option.  Too many things in our heads, too much sorrow, too much worry can weigh us down.  Faced with that, life still go on.  The sun will rise and set, even on a cloudy day.

On these days, the importance of just taking a single step, then following it with another, and another, cannot be emphasized enough.  Sure, we could make the choice to wallow in our negative feelings, and let them linger.  But when we do that, we let life live us, and we yield control.  We disempower ourselves, and generally will continue to feel worse and worse.  The negative feelings are not gone, but we can put them aside and keep moving forward.

One step is how every journey begins.

Nothing begins without a single step.  Thought is a step, feeling is a step, action is a step.  Between each of these, more steps are taken.  Even when we are not feeling it, even when we are feeling bad, every step along the way is positive.  Each step that we take moves us onwards, and that is good.

Just One StepWe all have bad days.  Every single one of us gets hurt, feels pain both physical and emotional, and wonders how to move on.  It is at these times that we need to find the attitude shifters, work on our mood, ask the right questions, and take one step at a time.

You’ve got this.  I believe in you.  You are here.  There is positivity in that alone.

Finding positivity is not hard, but it does require action.  Knowing that every individual step counts towards moving us on, no matter how bad things might be, we can take that single step.  When we follow that one step with another, and we continue along the way, we empower ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we frequently spread that feeling to others around us; as such, we can build more positive feelings in the collective consciousness.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the two-hundred and seventh entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

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Why is Community Important?

Community is important.

Because human beings are social creatures, we seek out like-minded individuals to form communities with.  This is where religious groups, civic organizations, and even nations come into being.  People who share one or more interests/beliefs join together and form a community.

Community - Positivity 206We often look at this from a “big picture” sense.  We live in a given community and such.  What I am talking about in this instance is that which we choose to identify with, and what that can mean for us.

I have been actively participating in the Society for Creative Anachronism for over 25 years now.  The overall community that makes up the SCA in-and-of itself is pretty amazing.  Within the group, we form other communities, like among fencers, heralds and artisans.  Some create households, which work much life families, except that you choose the people you include as such.

This is what, I think, community is meant to be.  We come from disparate parts of the world, various backgrounds and education levels, socio-economic statuses, and so forth.  Yet we identify as a part of a broader community.  When there is tragedy, we come together to support one another.

Like any such organization, there are differences.  We have our disagreements.  But when all is said and done, this community is an amazing source of strength, and I have formed some of the finest friendships of my life from here.

The amount of positivity this community is capable of creating is tremendous.  Together, we support one another, and we work to foster an inclusive, fun cultural identity to be shared.

It is not perfect, but then, what in this world is?  We may be the “island of misfit toys”, but often that strengthens the community we build.

The Greater Notion of Community also matters.

We suffered a terrible loss in the smaller community I am a participant of.  We are grieving together, and in our shared experience offering our support to one another in this unfortunate time.

CommunityToday in the USA is Martin Luther King Day.  It is a day to honor a man who worked to change the greater community of a nation to be more inclusive, more equal, more loving.  Because of the blatant racism of our current President, our nation needs to remember now more than ever the effort to build a new and better community Dr. King put forth.

The diversity of our greater community is something to be celebrated.  We have opportunities to learn a great deal from one another, and this is a day to honor that.

Community, whether greater or smaller, should be about sharing love, peace, comfort and joy.  This is a place to build and celebrate positivity together, even when we suffer a tragedy.

To my family in the SCA, I grieve with you for our loss.  To my family that is the USA, I honor our diverse cultures, and will do whatever I can to help build a more equal and loving world like what Dr. King envisioned.

Finding positivity is not hard, but it does require action.

Knowing that community can bring us together, we have a powerful tool to work together to build a better world.  When we come together as a community, we have the opportunity to share a great many things, and when we empower one another in our communities, we empower ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we frequently spread that feeling to others around us; as such, we can build more positive feelings in the collective consciousness.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the two-hundred and sixth entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

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