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Who Are My People?

I love my people.

Who are my people?  My people are the ones who I turn to for support, whom I look to for guidance, and whom I share a great many commonalities.

Crossing the Bridges 57I have found the majority of my people in the SCA.  Twenty-six years in the Society for Creative Anachronism has introduced me to a lot of people who are as into history and fantasy as I am.  My geeky tribe, frequently of fellow misfits.

Yes, I was one of those dorky/geeky kids in High School who existed either in the choir room, on or behind the stage, never amongst the popular kids.  I played no sports, my friends and I played Dungeons and Dragons.  I didn’t drink alcohol, but I consumed an ungodly amount of Mt. Dew.  My letter jacket was for letters earned in choir and theatre.

In college, when I moved halfway across the country, I made a good circle of equally geeky friends.  I also discovered the SCA, but didn’t truly dive in until I had graduated.  But when I did, I found my people.

I have previously written about the difference between persons and people.  While today I am referring to my people, they are my persons.  They are not the random world population that can often be incredibly frustrating.  My people, however, might not be your people.  By the same token, your people might not be my people.

This harkens to my favorite George Carlin routine about stuff.  Your stuff is stuff while other people’s stuff is shit, and vice versa.

Our people are like our stuff.  While we might have ever increasing circles of people, not all meet the same criteria.

Variations of my people.

There are several thoughts I have on how I categorize my people.  There are those I am closest to.  These are the people I want to spend the most time with, and whom I share the most about myself with.  We have connections on a lot of different levels, and I would move mountains for these people.

Then there are the people whom I consider friends, but am not as close to.  There is still a great deal of myself I share with these people, and I care about them as well.  Our connections are likely fewer than those I am closest to, but I would still take a great many actions for these people.

After that, there are the people whom I may not know as well, but share a commonality with me.  Some are SCAdians like me, and we have the hobby we participate in in common.  We may only be friends on social media, or we may only encounter one another at events from time to time, but we do not really know each other well.  These are still my people, overall, though while there are actions I will take for them, they are fewer.

Along the same line are the writers I know.  I am a part of several different writing communities online.  Because we all strive in the craft and arte of writing, we have something pretty amazing in common.  We share ideas and tricks and standards for our writing on a large number of different topics.  Mostly we only know each other online.  Yet these are my people, overall, and there are things I will do to be of help to them.

Why do all these people matter?

As I work on crossing the bridges between the worlds I perceive, some real, some imagined, recognizing that my people are rather numerous can be a huge source of hope.

Hope matters, particularly in the face of a lot of what is going on in the world around us.  So much negativity, so many terrible things of varying degrees, it’s really easy to lose hope.  Why bother?  Will any of it matter if any of these possible worst case scenarios before us come to pass?

Yes.  All of it matters.  Consciousness Creates Reality.  As such, if we allow ourselves to be drawn down into the negativity happening in the world, guess what we create more of?  But if we have hope, and we have our people, and we can rely on our people in different ways, we can strive to manifest better.

This is why I love my people.  You keep me going when I look at the negativity of the world, and I cannot tell you just how much I appreciate that.  You are a source of strength, and I thank you for that.

Keep this in mind whenever you start feeling like it’s pointless.  There IS still hope for a better world.  We have our people, and while we cannot directly change how anybody feels, we can effect the sensitivity, and we can work to create better.

My people are circles around me, ever increasing in distance, but still counted among my people.  Where my people and your people might overlap, we have an opportunity to change the conversation with a greater circle.  When we can see this, we can see that hope is a good thing, and we can create almost anything we can imagine.

Appreciate all your people.

Gratitude is a major source of positivity.  When we are grateful for people and things, we tend to discover more to be grateful for.  Gratitude feels good.

These bridges I want to cross may be for me alone, but I never truly cross them on my own.  That may be totally cheesy, but that doesn’t make it any less true.  Thank you for taking the journey with you.  Thank you for being my people.

As always, thank you for crossing the bridges between my worlds with me.

 

GOAL LOG – Week 42:

Diet:  I have not been keeping track again this week.

Exercise:  Fenced twice, one day with a bunch of walking, but that was it.  Knee injury is still lessening my exercise.

Writing:  Four blog posts, and a lot of work on the sci-fi story.

Meditation: Only two days last week, for 5 and 6 minutes.

Gratitude:  I was not tracking gratitude again.

 

This is the fifty-seventh entry of my personal journey, the Crossing the Bridges series.  My collectively published writing can be found here.

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How Are Our Persons Different From People?

The people who become our persons in this life can be an amazing source of Positivity.

If, like me, you find that overall people make you crazy, you understand this distinction.  What it boils down to is those who we get close to in various ways are persons, as opposed to those who are the faceless masses we refer to as people.

Positivity 192People in this sense tend to drive us nuts.  They cut you off on the road, they elect idiots to office, they disbelieve in scientific facts, etcetera.  Most of us, at least my persons, generally agree that people suck.

Trouble is, we live in a world with more than 7 billion people.  If we all have even a dozen persons, that means that we are surrounded by people.  And we tend not to think well of people.

Dehumanization has been a tactic used to divide and conquer for time immemorial.  All across human history peoples go to war, disagree about religion, possessions, social stratifications, and so on.  Look at the whole NFL protest business happening now.  The protesters are attempting to call attention to injustice and social inequality…but to dehumanize them, their detractors want you to think they are disrespecting men and women in the military.

While it is a great source of positivity to have our persons, looking at people in opposition creates more negativity.  Consciousness creates reality.  What we focus on and think about we tend to draw more of to ourselves.

When we think poorly of people in the general sense, we empower those awful things we don’t want.  We give it attention and energy, and we further expand the chasm between those we call our persons and the general people of the world.

Think better of people.

People vs personsThis is a challenge.  I often comment that people suck.  I get angry about the vast amount of greed, selfishness, foolishness and ignorance constantly brought to the forefront of our collective consciousness.  When we post memes on social media, read and watch news stories, and follow the tweets of the narcissist-in-chief, we get more deeply divided and as such, conquered.

We like, love and respect our persons.  We tend to dislike, loathe, and disrespect people.  I know that before I comment again about how much people suck, I am going to think about how disempowering that is, to both them and me.

Is it possible, if we extend the positivity we generate from our persons to people, we can make the world better?

Finding positivity is not hard, but it does require action.

Knowing that we think much better of our persons than we do people in general, we can get a sense of how we generate a lot of negativity.  When we stop saying that people suck, and let ourselves be divided and disempowered, we can work on thinking about people more like our persons.  Thus we empower them, and empower ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings in the collective consciousness.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the one hundred ninety-second entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

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How Do Your People Create Positivity?

Your people are a huge contributor to positivity.

There is a difference between people, and YOUR people.  People in the general sense of the world, like the population of the planet, can be utterly infuriating.  But YOUR people are those whom you hold close.  Your confidants, family, friends and loved ones.

Positivity 189We all have individuals that improve our lives.  Members of the human race that help us find calm, find happiness and peace and joy.  There is someone out there whom we can turn to for support, whether physical, emotional or spiritual.

We all have tribes we create, collectives of people who we want to make time with and for.  Our clan are the ones we know have our backs, and that we can work with to generate surreal amounts of positivity.

It is important, however, to avoid getting into an “us versus them” mentality.  No two individuals think alike or act alike.  Because of that we need to remember that there is more than enough room for our differences.  Things get messed up, of course, when we develop intolerance between our populations, and fight against one another.

As small as the planet is, there is more than enough room for us all to coexist.  It doesn’t matter what race, nationality, gender, sexual proclivity, religion or what-have-you we consider ourselves a part of.  We can all work together with one another to positively make the world a better place.

Be united, not divided.

Today is the anniversary of a terrible tragedy.  One group who hated the lifestyle choices of another attacked, intent on mass murdering thousands and terrorizing a nation.  Rather than unite in positivity against these negative forces, we have become further divided.  We have allowed them to change our way and deepen the fear-based society’s narrative.

Your PeopleThe “us versus them” mentality continues to be exploited by many of our so-called leaders so that they can divide and conquer.  Don’t believe me?  All you have to do is look at the current political climate.  The President works with nobody who doesn’t feed his ego, and supports negatively divisive groups.  Congress is so divided that they spend more time plotting against one-another than doing anything useful to improve the lot of the nation.

We have our people, but rather than working with our people against others, we need to get our groups to work together.  From there, we have the ability to drive massive positivity.  We can change the message, and change the world for the better.

Finding positivity is not hard, but it does require action.

Knowing that you have your people to commiserate with, you can work with your community to build more and more positivity.  When we work together within our peoples, and then reach out to others to work with them and their people, rather than against them, ultimately we empower ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings in the collective consciousness.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the one hundred eighty-ninth entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

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How does Pathwalking Help Other People?

You cannot help the world if you don’t help yourself.

Pathwalking is about seeking out your own destiny.  Walking your own path in life.  Pathwalking is about living life to the fullest, striving for the best experiences.

It can be very hard not to feel that this idea is selfish.  It is even more difficult when you see the state of the world today.  The constant deluge of information, specifically negativity, greed, and selfishness, can be disconcerting.

I try not to get political in Pathwalking, but I feel the need presently.  The so-called “Health Care” bill the US Senate has proposed is beyond horrific.  It’s the ultimate in selfish, greedy, surreal cruelty.  The ACA may be imperfect, but this “replacement” is nothing short of inhuman.  If this legislation passes, millions will needlessly suffer.

Why is this?  Because these people in power care for nobody but themselves.  I’m sorry if you find this generalization offensive, but that’s how I see this.

How come I am taking this unusual approach?  Because when we are inundated by news of unbelievable egotism, greed and indecency, it’s hard to see the line between self-care and selfishness.

Self-help is not selfish.

Doing things to take care of yourself is not selfish.  When we don’t put ourselves first, we leave ourselves with little, if anything, to give to anyone or anything else.

I understand this feeling all-too-well.  Knowing that we need to resist, to protest, to speak out against this ugliness, it feel like the self shouldn’t be a priority.  It’s even tougher when we have jobs and maybe employer health insurance and possibly even good health not to feel like we need to give more.  We have good things, shouldn’t we accept it as sufficient and keep giving more?

The simple answer is no.  If we are not completely satisfied with our own paths and self-care, we need to continue striving to help ourselves.  This works directly with the Law of Attraction, and conscious reality creation.  The more we have, the more we have to give.

I believe that it’s easy to tell the difference between self-care and selfishness.  How?  How it feels.

Self-Care is Abundance.  Selfishness is Lack.

When we take the time to live the best life we can, to be happy with who we are and what we do, we feel abundant.  We feel good, we feel positive, and when we feel that way we want to share.  That is what helping yourself with self-care feels like.  You want to give because you have more than enough.

This is not just about tangibles like time and money.  This is also about intangibles like friendship, love and support.  I share this blog because I don’t just want to find my own paths, I want to help you do the same.  If I help you in any way, I feel good about doing that.

Selfishness hoards your time, your money, your energy.  Being selfish means you feel like there is not enough.  You don’t want to share because you are afraid things will become depleted if you do.  Selfishness comes from fear, entitlement, and a feeling of insufficiency, among other places.  Selfish feels lacking, and cares for nobody else.

The ability to help others comes from abundance.

Plain and simple, you help because you have more than enough to do so.  Even if you do not have everything you need, or even want, you still feel abundant.  From that place of abundance you have the strength to give, to lend that helping hand.  That is why self-care matters.  You have to have enough for yourself to give.

If you are driving your car from one end of the country to the other, along the way you will need to fill the tank.  You can only go so far before your fuel is depleted.  This is completely true of the self, too.  When you don’t care enough for yourself, you deplete what you have, and won’t be able to give easily or joyfully to others.

Which leads to an important distinction.  Sacrifice.  Sacrifice is a lack mentality.  Why?  Because sacrificing says, “Since there is not enough, I will go without.”  If you deny your own good to do good for others, you will do less good than you desire.  If in the process of helping someone else achieve something you do not, that can build resentment.  Resentment in turn can lead to selfishness, because due to feeling lacking and previous sacrifice, now you feel a need to take for yourself and share nothing.  Hence, perpetuating lack mentality.

Compromise is not sacrifice.

Another important distinction needs to be made here.  Compromising means you accept certain conditions that may not be exactly what you want.  Yet, this is not due to feeling lack, but rather to satisfy some other condition.  For example, let’s say you and a partner agreed to sell something you jointly own.  You think the proceeds should be split 50/50, your partner believes they should get 70% of the profit.  You point out why the proceeds should be split evenly, your partner concedes only a little bit, but still believes they should get 65%.

Maybe you are right that things should be split evenly, and while you could argue and drag out matters, to keep the peace you decide to compromise, and accept.  You choose compromise because keeping the peace and being happy matters more than being right.  It might stick in your craw some, but in the end your choice will keep everyone happier.  This is also a matter of self-care, and something to consider when walking your chosen paths.

You cannot help the world if you don’t help yourself.  Self-care is not selfish, and allows you to have even more to give.  What matters of self-care have you done lately?

 

This is the two-hundred eighty-seventh entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas for and my personal experiences with walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

Seven Sources to Inspire Positivity

Sources to inspire Positivity can be found anywhere.

Some sources of inspiration are easier to come by than others.  Yet knowing we have an endless pool of resources, we can be inspired and find Positivity in all sorts of unexpected places.

It’s important to keep in mind that inspiration doesn’t need to be a grandiose, earth-shattering something.  We can be inspired by surprisingly mundane and uncomplicated things.  Inspiration can be that simple spark that gets you to eat healthy, to go to the gym, to keep a journal, to make a shift for the better.  Sometimes it’s the littlest, straightforward things that can lead to the grandest changes.

What are some examples of simple inspiration?   The following list is by no means complete, but reveals a range of simple sources of inspiration to build positivity.

  1. Music. I think we often forget just how amazingly powerful music is.  We can listen to a slow, melancholy tune and reflect on the past, or get pumped to take a run by a heavy beat.  Music can be an incredible source of inspiration.
  2. Light. Sometimes a brightly lit room or a sunny sky can totally inspire your feelings.  There is something about light that can inspire emotions like nothing else.
  3. Dark. There is something to be said for the void that is dark.  When you take away one of your senses, you often heighten others.  When we are in darkness we can see less, which in turn opens imagination in possibly unexpected and inspirational ways.
  4. Color. Color can change our mood, it can make us feel warm or cold, it can be a source of inspiration to awaken all sorts of desire for change.
  5. People. Just spending time with other people can open you up to inspiration.  Maybe someone you know is doing something pretty amazing.  Or maybe you have people to work with to learn new ideas.
  6. Meditation. When you manage to pause and still your mind, you open yourself to all sorts of possibilities.  That’s one of the cool things about meditation – you open yourself up to communicate with Universal Energy, and since that is the source of everything, anything is possible.
  7. Reading. I think everyone I know has had a moment where they read something that opened up channels in their mind they were not expecting.  They found an idea they had not considered, and that inspired something that may not have occurred to them otherwise.

These seven sources are extremely common, are generally encountered every single day, and frequently are just in the background of our lives.  Yet they still have the power to inspire us to change, to try new things, to experience a fuller, more positive life.

You can never have too many sources for inspiration to create more positivity.

Finding positivity is not hard, but it does require action.  Knowing that we have endless resources to source out inspiration, we can also see that we have numerous options to generate positivity.  When we get inspired we learn, we grow, we change, we become energized and we empower ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings in the collective consciousness.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the one hundred seventy-seventh entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

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An open letter to fellow Americans

Dear America,

When did we accept hatred as the standard?  When did we decide that after almost a century of progress it was perfectly ok to allow unrestrained racists, sexists, bigots, misogynists, warmongers and fearmongers to be our leaders again?  When did we decide that it was better to praise and follow the blindly faithful and ignorant rather than the logical and intelligent?

How did we get to this place where our choices for leadership from one party includes a zealot and a narcissist and the other side is a corporate shill and an idealist?

The one side became polarized over the past 30 years or so because they allowed special interests, religious fanatics and closeted bigots gain control.  And they wonder why they cannot stop this monster Dr. Frankenstein has unleashed on us?

The other side became polarized over the past 30 years or so because they allowed special interests, a lack of conviction and an unclear agenda gain control.  And they wonder why so many distrust the party leaderships’ Chosen One and prefer the idealist?

Do you want this country to return to segregation, to the failed principles of separate but equal?  Do you want the corporate bosses to be your slave masters again?  Do you really want to see those who are poor and disabled and hurting simply left to die?  Do you want to allow the greedy to destroy this planet so they can turn ludicrous profits that never trickle down to anyone else?  Do you want to live your life in fear?

This is what you have to take into consideration when it comes to the election this year.  I am not just talking about the Presidency, I am talking about ALL of those up for reelection.  Congress has become an obstructionist mouthpiece of those who pay for their elections.  Special interests and corporate hacks have taken control, and they will not stop until the rich are so rich that they can afford to leave the planet they are destroying, while the rest of us let them take everything we hold dear and wonder where it all went wrong.

Fear is not a healthy basis for a system of government.  Hate, exclusionism, greed, racism, bigotry, misogyny and sexism are all just alternate versions of fear.  Fear enslaves us to the will of others, and those who have the power continue to make it clear that they want only to garner more power.

Please stop being afraid, America.  Please stop fearing change, stop fearing the unknown, stop being afraid of anyone and anything different from you.  Please remember that our Declaration of Independence that was the blueprint for the forming of this nation says,  “We hold these truths to be self-evident, that ALL men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.”

America is not a land of Christians only.  It is not a land of Whites only. America is not a land of men only.  It is not a land of rich only.  It is NOT a nation of exclusion – American was founded on the principles of inclusion.

Building walls to keep out those who are different is not American.  Creating laws that forbid marriage is not American.  Creating laws that belittle ANY citizen, black or white, man or woman, gay or straight, religious or atheist is NOT American.  We are a nation of tolerance, we are a nation of freedom, we are a nation of inclusion…and it is time that we reclaim that.

Please release the fear, America.  Isolating ourselves, registering those who hold different beliefs and limiting resources for only the wealthy is what this nation was founded to stand against.  What we choose this year will reverberate very differently from our past choices.  We can reclaim our nation from the greedy, from the special interests, from those who don’t care about us but only about themselves…or we can give them even more power, and disempower ourselves and let America truly cease to be great.

Fear is not the answer.  Fear is un-American.  Please, please examine this and consider if you want to empower the people who only take, and are giving nothing back to you but fear, death, poverty, and war.

Is being American about being afraid?  No.

Please stop being afraid, America.  For the sake of us all, for the sake of our children, do not let fear make your decision in these elections.

With Respect,

A concerned American.

My Birthday gift to YOU

In celebration of my birthday tomorrow, I have decided to do a FREE promotion of Seeker (The Source Chronicles Book I) for the Kindle.

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Please spread the word to all your friends!

Seeker (The Source Chronicles Book I) – FREE for Kindle tomorrow (September 2nd) and Thursday (September 3rd).

Denied his powers, a prophesied sorcerer must reclaim what he’s lost. Caught up in a rebellion between a powerful King and his equally strong-willed daughter in a land where sorcery is forbidden, he must reclaim his abilities so he might reach his destiny to restore the glory of sorcery lost in a tragedy five millennia ago, to prevent the forces of chaos from overrunning the world.

Seeker (The Source Chronicles Book I) is a young adult/fantasy novel.

 

Seeker – Kindle Countdown Sale

In celebration of my birthday next week, I have decided to do a FREE promotion of Seeker (The Source Chronicles Book I) for the Kindle.

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I would GREATLY appreciate if you would spread the word to all your friends!

Seeker (The Source Chronicles Book I) – FREE for Kindle September 2nd and 3rd  (next Wednesday and Thursday) in celebration of my birthday!

Denied his powers, a prophesied sorcerer must reclaim what he’s lost. Caught up in a rebellion between a powerful King and his equally strong-willed daughter in a land where sorcery is forbidden, he must reclaim his abilities so he might reach his destiny to restore the glory of sorcery lost in a tragedy five millennia ago, to prevent the forces of chaos from overrunning the world.

Seeker (The Source Chronicles Book I) is a young adult/fantasy novel.

 

Seeker – Kindle Countdown Sale

Books make excellent gifts! Even eBooks!

Today (Friday 12/12) through Sunday (12/14), Seeker – The Source Chronicles I, is on sale for Kindle for just $.99.

I thought a holiday promotional sale was a good idea.

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There is an element of Seeker I have not written about before – and that’s the human element. The world of t’Thera may be a fantasy world, but even the sorcerous are human. Like the people we all know, these humans are flawed. Perfectly imperfect. They make mistakes, they do foolish things…but they also learn from them. They grow and change and evolve.

I have worked hard to create characters that are unmistakably human. Whether noble or common, magical or not, these are people who are not just caricatures of men and women, but multi-faceted people.

I strived to make the people and world uniquely interesting, and I hope if you have read my blog you might find the fantastical characters I have created relatable, and realistic. I know that the genre of Fantasy has a lot of works within it, and that certain tropes are well worn and played a hundred different ways…but I think I have offered here some original approaches, and some pretty awesome characters.

Follow the link above and here to get your own copy of Seeker.

(Please note – $.99 sale may have been scheduled to launch at 8am PACIFIC time – so on the East Coast may not be live til 11am).

Thank you for your continued support!

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PS: Finder – The Source Chronicles II – is now undergoing its first round of edits. It is my intent for it to be available by November 2015.

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Jealousy is a useless emotion.

Our emotions serve numerous purposes.  They let us feel beyond intellect, beyond the most basic knowledge into a far broader world.  Our wide gamut of emotions is part of what makes each of us so unique.

Most emotions serve a purpose.  They let us know if we are in a positive or negative mindset.  They let us express ourselves beyond words, facial expressions, and any other physical gestures.  Emotions cover a vast array of topics, range from the good to the bad to the indifferent, and are a part of how our souls express themselves in the world.

When it comes to all the emotions we are capable of feeling, there is no emotion more useless than jealousy.

What IS jealousy?  Dictionary.com defines it thus:

noun

1.jealous resentment against a rival, a person enjoying success or advantage, etc., or against another’s success or advantage itself.

2.mental uneasiness from suspicion or fear of rivalry, unfaithfulness, etc., as in love or aims.

3.vigilance in maintaining or guarding something.

4.a jealous feeling, disposition, state, or mood.

An expression of resentment directed at someone or something, suspicion, uneasiness.  Jealousy is an emotion that we do not really hold for ourselves, but against another.

Pathwalking is about controlling our choices, taking control over our emotions, and seeking and making our own destinies.  Jealousy is an emotion that has nothing to do with the self, and as such is a useless emotion.

Jealousy is tough to identify because it often hides as another emotion.  Unwarranted anger, fear, that uneasy feeling in the pit of your stomach.  Jealousy rarely stands on its own, it chooses and even hijacks other emotions to use as disguises, because jealousy on its own serves no purpose at all.

I have written more than once that you have no control over anyone else.  No matter how much I share about my ideas and Pathwalking, I cannot make you walk a path, I cannot change you as a person, I cannot directly change the external.  The only thing anyone can truly take control of is personal, internal things.

Jealousy is an emotional response based wholly on an external factor.  There might be something that causes me to become jealous, and from there the only thing I can get is negativity.  Negative begets negative, I write often, and as such I will not be able to easily walk my path if I am in that headspace.

Jealousy can take on so many forms.  It is the attention a loved one is getting from another.  It is the award you see a fellow get that you feel you are more worthy of.  It is the promotion you are passed over for by another.

What is jealousy, really?  It is a lack of self-esteem.  We become jealous because something happens that makes us question our own worth, our own deserving of the things we want.  Jealousy is a manifestation of doubt, discontent, confusion that we direct at another.  It is a cleverly disguised emotion that does not serve anyone in any way, except to give us someone or something other than ourselves to blame our discontent on.

How do I identify and discard jealousy?  This is hard.  We all find ourselves having instances of jealousy, but it often takes someone else to point out to us that our anger, our mistrust, our discontent is jealousy.

The first step is to be more in touch with my own emotions.  Ask – How am I feeling?  What am I feeling?  Why am I feeling this?

Why is important in regards to jealousy.  It is asking why that will identify the external issue, and help to locate and deal with the internal one.

The most important thing here is to acknowledge that jealousy is a useless emotion.  It does nothing to improve life, it does nothing to help you along your path, it does not serve you in any positive manner.  Accepting the uselessness of jealousy is the first step in combating its grip on your other, hijacked emotions.

We cannot be positive and happy all the time, I know that.  But we can choose how long to live with and dwell in negativity.  We can certainly identify and stamp out jealousy and its ineffectuality.  I believe that if more people lived less jealously of other people, we might all find greater contentment in smaller and more meaningful things.

Can you see why jealousy is meaningless?

 

This is the one-hundred fifteenth entry in my series. These weekly posts are specifically about walking along the path of life, and my desire to make a difference in this world along the way. Thank you for joining me.

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