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Why Does the World Need More Positivity?

The world needs more positivity.

Why?  Because when we feel positive, we feel good.  When we feel good, we enhance the ability to draw more good to ourselves.  As such, we empower ourselves.  When we are empowered, we are capable of almost anything.

Unfortunately, we are living in a fear-based society.  We are inundated with negativity, we are told that there is lack and scarcity, and that we should fear the unknown, the untested, and the unfamiliar.  We sensationalize things to fear, and we continue as such to draw more to us.

The downside of instantaneous global communications is that we are hyper-aware of every single thing that happens.  Trouble is, what we are kept the most informed about is bad news.  Natural disasters, terrorist attacks, war and various atrocities dominate the news media.  As if that weren’t enough, to score higher ratings they strive to sensationalize these negative things, which just gives them more power.

And just to add insult to injury, the rise of fake news and opinion and blind faith in place of science and research makes it worse.  Fear mongers, religious leaders and conspiracy theorists have become all-too-readily accepted.  The negativity they are spewing fuels society’s fires.

We can overcome them, however.  But to do this, we can’t fight fire with fire.  We need to fight fire with water, dark with light.  We need to find and express more positivity.  We need to turn away from the negativity, and stop empowering it.  We need to overcome the fear with every positive tool we can muster.

The key is Positivity.

If we can focus more on finding the good in the world, we can use it to supplant the bad.  Like attracts like, that’s the Law of Attraction.  When we focus on positivity, we can attract more of it to us.  We can empower ourselves, and when we feel empowered we are capable of helping to empower others.

Even if you think the notion of the Law of Attraction is bunk, what harm is there in creating more positivity?  Does anyone really enjoy living in fear?  Does anyone really want to be lacking?  Does anyone want to feel bad, hurt, sad, or otherwise negative?  If we strive more to feel positive and good, we can disrupt the fear.

I am not suggesting ignoring the world around us.  But instead of feeding the hate, the fear, the lack…we need to find the love, the peace, the abundance.  We are better than this.  We each are empowered to discover that.  That is where positivity comes in, and that is why the world needs more of it.

Finding positivity is not hard, but it does require action.

Knowing that we live in a fear-based society, we can choose if we want to feed the fear, or overcome it.  When we create more positivity in the world, we can break from the negativity, we can disempower the fear and in turn empower ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings in the collective consciousness.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the one hundred seventy-eighth entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

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Where can you find Positivity?

Positivity can be found anywhere we look.

There are all sorts of thing, big and small, that can bring about positivity.  Sometimes they are easier to see than others.

We are alive and breathing.  We have amazing technology at our fingertips.  We are capable of loving and being loved.  We can have, do or be pretty much anything we desire.  There is sky above us and earth beneath our feet.

I know that it can feel like an impossible struggle to find positivity out there.  Sometimes the weather is upsetting, at times those we love and respect are disappointing us, and don’t even get me started on the state of politics in the world today.  And yet, even with all that taken into account, there are still ways to uncover and relish in positivity.

Sometimes we just need to slow down, take a breath, and maybe step away from things that are giving us more negativity than we desire.  Sometimes we need distractions, finding things to make us smile and laugh or otherwise redirect our thought processes.

Gratitude and inclusion can go a very long ways towards generating positivity.  Doesn’t it feel good to hear someone say “thank you?”  Do you know that saying “thank you” can be just as powerful, if not more so?  Expressing gratitude in our lives builds positive energy like nothing else can…and it’s really, really easy.

Perfect example – today in the United States is Memorial Day.  I want to say Thank You to everyone who has given of themselves to serve the country and protect and defend what we believe in.  Thank you, also, to those who offer the closest support to these men and women.  Thank you.

Our society is currently experiencing a real problem with exclusion.  We are being artificially divided by race, color, creed, religion, gender, and any other artifice one could devise so that those who feel they are in power can stay there.  When we work to be inclusive instead, however, we can generate an unbelievable amount of positivity, and when we work together we all benefit.

Yes, finding positivity can feel pretty hard.  But finding and generating positivity is good for our overall wellbeing, and it is always available to us – we just have to seek it out, and keep ourselves open to it.

Finding positivity is not hard, but it does require action.  Knowing that we can find positivity almost anywhere that we look for it, we can open ourselves up to new ways to feel good and be happier.  When we make the effort to uncover and partake of positivity, we make ourselves feel healthier, and as such we empower ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings in the collective consciousness.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the one hundred seventy-fourth entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

In relation to Positivity, check out my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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How to Build Positivity: Getting into Better Shape

Taking steps to get in shape can generate massive positivity.

Getting in shape can also take a number of different forms.  Health is not simply measured as physical, but also mental, spiritual and emotional.  Giving attention to any one of these can improve our quality of life and be massively positive, while working on more than one or all of them can be hugely empowering.

Everyone is familiar with processes for getting into shape physically.  Diet and exercise, skin care, and other activities to maintain and improve ourselves are where the majority of the focus tends to go when we strive to get in shape.  We eat better, we exercise more, we work on taking better care of these physical vessels where we will exist for our whole time on earth.

Getting into shape mentally can take several different forms.  Reading books and listening to lectures or taking other steps to improve our knowledge base, playing games to sharpen our minds, getting enough rest…anything that provides the mind stimulus or flexibility gets us into mentally better health.  Mental health also involves dealing with matters such as anxiety and depression, and working on keeping ourselves together in the best manners possible.

Getting into spiritual shape is easy to neglect.  Everyone has different types and degrees of faith, whether we are talking about a belief in God, or the Universe, or even in yourself.  This is not about religion, that’s a wholly separate idea.  Spiritual health is believing that we can do great things, that we can find and create the impossible, and that we recognize and care for our inner light, the energy that is our core being, our souls.  This is the least tangible aspect we possess in ourselves, but one that should not be neglected.

Emotional health is separate from mental health, in that our feelings and state of mind can differ.  Granted, when we feel low, when we are down or sad or depressed we will have a harder time creating the things we most desire.  Yet we are completely able to take ahold of and change our emotional state at will.  Exercising this particular ability really helps us to get into the best possible shape emotionally we can.

There are two particular activities that can help us get into better physical, mental, emotional and spiritual shape.  The first is simply breathing.  Pausing to breathe intentionally from time to time heightens our awareness, draws more oxygen into our bloodstream, can clear the mind and help get ahold of our emotions, and raises the spirit.  The second is meditation.  Taking the time to be still and enter into the place of no mind provides even more stimulus and shaping up than intentional breathing.

Working on getting into better shape is always a matter of positivity, no matter what aspect you are working on to that end.

Finding positivity is not hard, but it does require action.  Knowing that we can work on getting into better shape mentally, spiritually, and emotionally as well as physically, we gain an amazing tool for building positivity.  When we work on improving our state of being within any of these realms, we empower ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings in the collective consciousness.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the one hundred seventy-third entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

In relation to Positivity, check out my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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Positivity: Fresh Air

Cliché though it may be, there is nothing like fresh air to clear your head.

I like to take a few minutes during my work day to get a sun/air break.  Step outside, get some fresh air, escape the stale office air and my computer.

There is something cleansing, both physically and emotionally, in breathing in fresh air.  It awakens the senses, it rejuvenates the soul, it opens us up to possibilities.

I know that this is super-trite, but I find for me, at least, when stepping outside I breathe deeper than I do when I am in the office.  There is something about the open air under the sky that causes me to draw more breath.

We seriously take the power of breathing for granted.  I mean, for real, this is the single most automatic thing we do.  Our bodies demand oxygen to survive, so we are always subconsciously breathing.  Yet frequently we employ breath to calm our nerves and steel our resolve and to prepare of cope with a given situation.  How often do we “take a deep breath” to allow a moment to get clear on our thoughts before we speak, or to keep ourselves from expressing excess anger or frustration?

One of the reasons why focusing on your breathing is a primary key for mediation is because we are always doing it.  It’s automatic, it requires no thought, and we do it every single minute of every single day of our lives.  When we concentrate on it, focus on breathing in and out, we ultimately become aware, conscious and present in the here-and-now, which in turn lets us tune out the constant chatter in our brains for the preferred void of meditation practice.

When we become frustrated; when we get angry; when we are particularly tired, getting fresh air and being conscious of our breathing can go a long ways towards building and sustaining more positivity.  We all want more positive things in our lives, and this instinctive act provides us a mechanism to easily build more.

If you are currently feeling less-than-good about anything, take a moment, go out for some fresh air.  Breathe deeply, intentionally, and see if that begins to improve your mood.  I know it often works wonders for mine.

Finding positivity is not hard, but it does require action.  Knowing that getting some fresh air and being conscious of our breathing we can clear away negativity, we gain a tool that is always with us, all the time.  When we take the time to get some fresh air, to breathe deeply, intentionally and fully consciously, we empower ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings in the collective consciousness.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the one hundred seventy-second entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

In relation to Positivity, check out my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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Positivity: Joy

Joy is one of the ultimate expressions of love.

We tend to not do nearly enough things that bring us joy.  We believe the lie that joyful things should only come in small doses, and that it is a limited achievement that should be particularly savored.

Why is this true?  Because we have accepted it as so.  Yet, really, it is not the truth.  Joy can and should be one of the driving motivations for everything we do.

Are we here on this planet, running around in these meat suits, simply so that we can labor and toil in sometimes unpleasant situations to earn currency to buy the essentials, let alone everything else?  Or are we here to experience life, to live as fully and abundantly as we can, with new adventures on a frequent basis?

If consciousness creates reality, and we live in an abundant Universe – and I am certain this is the truth of how it really is – then joy is not something that you store away like retirement money in an IRA.  Joy is an experience to be had as frequently as possible.

What is joy?  Joy is a feeling of tremendous happiness and excitement.  It is the thrill a dog shows its owner every single time they return home, no matter how long or not they have been gone.  The obvious pleasure and happiness as a dog squeaks and rumbles and wags their whole butt in addition to their tail, hardly able to contain his or her self.  That is a perfect example of joy.

What brings you joy?  There are things that we often take for granted, like listening to a cat purr as you pet it; savoring the flavor of the perfect chocolate mousse; the excitement as the trumpets blare at the opening credits of your favorite movie; the ding of a text message on your phone from your sweetie; all of these can bring us joy, and make us feel good.

Why does this matter?  Because we live in a world where our society is inundated with messages of lack, of sorrow, of fear and anger.  Changing this has to start small, and that means we can and should start with ourselves.  If consciousness creates reality, and everyone and everything is energy, then we all vibrate at various frequencies.  If we resonate joy, we draw more joyful things to us.  Joy being positive, it will draw more good things our way.  The end result is that we will be happier, and when each of us can be happier we can then strive to share that with others and change society.

Love is the ultimate in drawing positive energies our way.  Joy is an expression of love, and I know I prefer joyful things to sorrowful…don’t you?

Finding positivity is not hard, but it does require action.  Knowing that joy is an expression of love, which draws more good things to us, we can work to experience more joyful things.  When we work with things that bring us joy, we make ourselves happier, and when we are happier we empower ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings in the collective consciousness.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the one hundred seventy-first entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

In relation to Positivity, check out my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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Pathwalking 279

Finding the balance between living in the now and setting goals for the future is uniquely challenging.

Pathwalking is about taking control of your destiny, and making choices along the path of life to manifest what you want from it.  This is not just living life come-what-may, like so many people do, but instead making decisions, making choices about raising your vibrational energy, and manifesting a life you want to live.

Why bother?  Because I don’t know about you, but I want to wake up in the morning excited to face my day.  I want to enjoy every moment of my day, not spend long periods of it wishing I were elsewhere, or doing something else, or being someone I am currently not, but could still become.  We are here in this reality to learn, to grow, to be the most we can be.

While one can certainly take an aimless journey along a given path, having a goal gives us a reason, gives us a purpose, gives us something to strive for.  Maybe it will make us better, maybe it will make us more abundant, but ultimately it’s probably something that will make us happy.

Yet, in order to get from here to there, it’s insanely important to live in the now.  While this may seem like a contradiction, it’s actually the key to success.

Let’s go with my goal.  I intend to be a best-selling author.  Great, I have the goal at the end of my path.  Now, here and now, what thoughts, feelings and actions can I take to get to that goal?  It is important I do not neglect the present, because this is where I am; yet it’s equally important that I do not get lost in the past, hashing over matters that I wanted to change or do differently.

Time is relative.  Einstein taught us that time is illusionary, and that our perception of it is unique to ourselves.  I got into this further in a recent Crossing the Bridges.  However, current reality is the product of past thought, feeling and action.  That’s simply the way it works, we are who we are based on how we thought, what we felt and how we acted before now.

To get to where we desire to be in the future, it’s important to be aware of how we are thinking, feeling and acting in the now.  This will allow us to direct our energy, to raise vibrational frequency, and to consciously create our desires.  The past is past, simple as that, and only by working with awareness here and now can we affect the outcome for the future we wish to manifest.

BUT, of course, the danger is focusing on that future and neglecting the present.  If you lose touch of where you are RIGHT NOW, because you are focusing on the outcome, life continues to live you, and you give control away.  Your subconscious can create your reality, but chances are you will not get what you most want.  This is why awareness, consciousness of here and now, is the key to manifesting the desired outcome.

Yes, we need to learn lessons from the past, because those who do not study history are doomed to repeat it.  Yes, we need to visualize the future as if it’s already here, but that is not about daydreaming as much as bringing the idea into your awareness, HERE AND NOW, to make it part of your consciousness.  Once we think and feel the desired outcome as though it is already a part of our here and now, a part of our current awareness, then we give it the vibration and energy to consciously create reality as we most desire it.

That’s crazy, right?  Except by living in the now, while envisioning the desired outcome in the future ALSO in the now, we empower our potential, and increase the energy needed to consciously create just that.  That is, of course, what Einstein was talking about.  When we understand, really understand, that time is wholly based on our individual perception of it, we get to choose to take control of it, or be a victim of it.

We frequently blame time for lack, for limitation, for failure.  But time is an illusion.  Any lack and limitations we put on time are entirely of our own doing.  Which means we have the power to choose for ourselves how best to use time.

One major issue in all of this is society.  Our society is absolutely obsessed with linear time.  Our entire culture frequently gets hyper-focused on matters of linear time, so much so that we have created precision atomic clocks in order to measure its’ passing.   We are always looking at time in straight lines, viewing yesterday, examining tomorrow, calling ourselves too old or too young, saying we are running out of time, time marches on, and so on and so forth.  Is it any wonder we are so easily distracted from living in the now?

Here’s the real kicker in all of this.  I do not know the best way to live in the now.  I have been thoroughly indoctrinated into the societal obsession with time, and my work to withdraw from that perception is a challenge.  But because I desire to consciously create the reality I most want to have, I am doing anything and everything I can think of to more regularly live in the here and now.

What tools do I have to employ for this process?  That is a question I will examine further next week.

Do you live in the past, future or present most frequently?

 

This is the two-hundred seventy-ninth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas and my personal experiences in walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

Positivity: This is Good Because…

One way to approach the unexpected is to look at it and consider, “This is good because…”

This is one of the best mechanisms I have ever come across for redirecting negative thinking.  Jen Sincero explains it in her outstanding book You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Live an Awesome Life (I cannot recommend this particular book enough).  When you encounter the unexpected, this idea can totally turn it around, and give you a more positive perspective where it might otherwise be lacking.

When you get pulled over by the cops for speeding, or dumped by your lover, or simply face a typical Monday, applying this can help shift your thinking, and raise up your vibration to bring in more positivity.  I got pulled over.  This is good because maybe I avoided getting into an accident and having an even larger expense.  I got dumped.  This is good because he/she clearly was not right for me.  Monday.  This is good because anything is possible.

Our perspective is unique to each and every one of us.  How I see the world is not how you see the world, nor anyone else.  We all come at life from different places.  This is why small groups of people all believe things that larger groups of people can empirically prove to be untrue.  While this can be a disadvantage when it comes to larger groups, more often than not it can actually be advantageous to us as individuals.

We live in an abundant universe.  Yes, I know that that can be hard to see sometimes.  But that does not diminish the truth of this statement.  The universe is full to overflowing with anything and everything we can conceive of.  Reframing the negativity to create positivity is a matter of raising our vibrational energy, and when we vibrate at a higher frequency we create better things for our lives.

How you perceive the world around you is wholly your perspective.  You have more control over this than you think, which is why when you are faced with a negative, redirecting it to something positive can help how you feel.  I know that I prefer to feel positive and good way more than I prefer to feel negative and bad.  Approaching unexpected things, or even unwanted and expected things, with the notion of seeking out a “This is good because” can open us to better possibilities.

This is not just the proverbial silver lining in a given cloud.  This is about turning around certain situations so as not to lower our vibrational energies, and manifest more of what we do not want.  Consciousness creates reality; like attracts like.  When we see we can choose to maintain a higher frequency and draw better to ourselves, we manifest more of the things we desire.

This is good because it means that I can find a way to handle anything that comes my way, no matter what it may be.  It’s all a matter of perspective.

Finding positivity is not hard, but it does require action.  Knowing that when we can look at a given situation and reason out a “this is good because”, we can alter our perspective for the better, and we give ourselves a number of helpful options.  When we see that we can find a positive from nearly any negative situation, we raise our vibrational energy, and in the process we empower ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings in the collective consciousness.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the one hundred seventieth entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

In relation to Positivity, check out my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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Pathwalking 278

Breaking the routine is hard.

When you have set up habitual ways of doing things, it is tremendously difficult to change them.

We don’t recognize all of our habitual behaviors as habits.  When we think of habits, we think of things like smoking and drinking and chewing off our fingernails and so on.  But any routine we do on a regular basis is a habit.

Oftentimes, when we get stuck on the path we are trying to traverse, or having issues with conscious reality creation, we need to identify and change bad habits.

The thing is, “bad” is a relatively subjective term.  Many of the habits we deem as bad are extremes.  Many of our other habits that are bad are simply unhealthy, unproductive, often poor behaviors that sabotage our progress or hold us hostage in some way.

I have been working on changing my morning routine.  I want to get to the gym.  I have started to get up earlier, and set the coffee maker on a timer every night.  I have been working to shift away from my old routine of get up, make coffee, go online, putter about for an hour or two, then go to work.

Breaking from routine is challenging.  There is often comfort in routine.  Like an old bathrobe you luxuriate in, routine is soft and familiar and safe.

Many of the self-help themed books I have read and listened to describe how, to make changes and get where you want to be in life, you have to get uncomfortable.  You need to do things that are not the norm, that break your routines and patterns and create new behaviors and habits.

I need to step berating myself and using poor self-talk when I do not reach the goal I am setting.  I need to let every day stand all on its own, because then the next day has the potential it needs to be different, and to represent the changes I need and want to make.

Pathwalking is about choice.  I have chosen a path I want to take.  However, more than just choice, I also have to look at what I do from day to day along the way.  If, as I frequently have written, the journey is as important, if not more important, than the destination…then every action while on the journey should not be ignored, and needs to be considered.

Pathwalking is not easy.  There are days I face my choices and become flustered, uncertain, even displeased and distressed.  Why am I doing this?  How come this is taking so long?  Why doesn’t this seem to be working?  Will I ever run out of questions?

Life is all about learning.  I am learning new things every single day.  There is always something new to learn, something more to understand and to discover.  Quite probably the best way to learn is to ask questions.  Questions bring us awareness, and awareness is key to conscious reality creation.

As I write this, I am perfectly aware that I am feeling frustrated.  I am not where I want to be, and I cannot see how or when this situation might change.  I am feeling blah, feeling defeated, tired, distressed and unhappy.  I am questioning many things about my existence, and I am not seeing answers.

Yet I know that I need to persist, to break through this moment.  I can choose to let this negative feeling linger, or I can seek out a means by which to overcome it.  I can wallow in self-pity and annoyance over not making the change to my habits I want, or I can move past it, and I can shift my focus to positive things.

I am affected by weather.  Grey skies tend to bring down my mood.  I am affected by politics.  I cannot even begin to describe the largely negative emotions I feel over the current situation in the USA and elsewhere.  I am, like everyone else, affected by the world around me.

Like working to change my habits, I get to choose whether to allow these outside influences to dominate my thoughts and feelings…or to acknowledge them, find a healthy means to release them, and then move on.  Maybe I need to type out a long and angry rant about things…maybe I need to find a punching bag to beat.  Maybe I need to scream and shout and push out the negative feelings.

If I am not succeeding at making change, I need to acknowledge that, then work on letting it go.  Once I release it, and only after I release it, I can work to build something better.

Breaking the routine is hard.  Life is generally made up of many different routines, so imbedded in our days that we seldom even see them.  Getting free of them is tricky, because first you have to see them for the ineffectual habits that they are.  Then, you can’t hold onto the ways they make you feel bad if you want to change them.  You have to find a way to release, to let them go…and then you can move forward.

We all have good days and bad days.  The challenge is allowing negativity to linger and continue to bring us down…or to find release, and seek out better.  Breaking the routine is a challenge, but I believe the end result, even if I cannot currently see it, will be totally worthwhile.

What routines do you need and want to break in your life?

 

This is the two-hundred seventy-eighth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas and my personal experiences in walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

Positivity: You Know Yourself Better Than You Think You Do

Who knows you best?

Easy.  YOU.

Nobody knows you, quite like YOU do.  You are the most cognizant of your strengths, your weaknesses, your hopes, your dreams, your fears, your goals, your moral compass, your ethics, etc.

You are the leading expert on YOU.  You, and you alone, know your every secret, every laudable and damnable detail of your whole entire life.  You are your own most intimate companion.

Why is this a part of positivity?  Because you have the ability to choose how you view yourself, and that is an incredible opportunity for creating massive good and tons of positivity.

We all have thoughts about the people around us.  Some are rather passive and benign, while some are much more rigid and, frankly, may be judgmental.  Likewise, people have opinions about each and every one of us.  Some are passive and benign, and some of course are rigid and judgmental.

All too often we care more about what these people think of us than what we think of ourselves.  Worse, we often let the opinions of others cloud our opinion of ourselves.  We spend all sorts of time trying to figure out what so-and-so’s problem with us is, and then start to question what we do and how we do it, we start to second-guess matters…and that way leads madness.

That’s not to say that the opinions of others are completely valueless.  If multiple people tell you that you are being too hard on someone, or worse too hard on yourself, it could prove to be the reflected image of yourself you need to see in order to make necessary adjustments.

You know what is best for you.  You know what you need, who you need, what you want, and you know why.  And when you do not have the answers right away, or you have decisions to make and are full of uncertainty, you know yourself better than you think you do.  You are the ultimate receptacle for everything about yourself, and that is positive in ways that are truly immeasurable.

No other animal on Earth, at least as far as we know, has the ability to think and reason and evolve in the same way that we do.  We get to choose where and how we want to live, what we want to do with our time on this planet, and whether to be a caring and generous person or a selfish and greedy individual.

But no matter what you choose, you know you better than anyone else.  The positivity of that is the biggest advantage you have for creating the happiest YOU that you can be.

Finding positivity is not hard, but it does require action.  Knowing that you are the subject expert on the topic of YOU, you can make all kinds of choices to generate tremendous positivity in your life.  When we realize that we know ourselves better than anyone else can, and we embrace the power to create what we need and want from life that that represents, we empower ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings in the collective consciousness.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the one hundred sixty-ninth entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

In relation to Positivity, check out my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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Give up, change tactics, start over, or keep pushing on?

Everybody experiences points where you realize that you have to choose.  Give up the path you are on, change tactics for your approach to it, start a new approach to the path from the beginning, or keep pushing as you are.

This can be a loaded issue, because there are pros and cons to all four options.  Only you can decide which is going to be best in the given situation.

I am not a fan of giving up.  I often feel that giving up is telling the Universe, ok, fine, you win.  I am obviously barking up the wrong tree here, so I quit!  Giving up is not surrendering to the Universe to let things happen, giving up is admitting and accepting defeat.  You came, you saw, you tried, and you are done.

That’s not to say that, sometimes, it is necessary to give up.  Maybe you realize that this path you have chosen is NOT the right one for you.  Maybe you have a new view or opinion, and you just cannot see this to its conclusion.  Maybe this path is simply wrong for you.  Giving up is loaded down with negative connotations, but sometimes this is the best response.  Sometimes you just have to admit, yes, I chose poorly or I have had enough of this or the likeThe key to avoiding the negativity of giving up is making a new effort immediately after.

Rather than give up, there are other options.  Changing tactics is looking at the path you are on, how you are traversing it, and recognizing that, perhaps, this is not working.  Is it the path itself, or the way in which you are traveling it?  This is where changing tactics comes into play.

It is easy to forget the importance of the journey itself.  We live in a society that is all-but obsessed with achieving goals.  Yet frequently during the course of the journey itself, we are likely to make all kinds of new and unexpected discoveries.  This can be of tremendous value to our given paths.

Very few paths are straights and obstacle-free.  Most twist, turn, double back, have bumps and detours and boulders along the way.  Along the course of the path itself there are always new discoveries to be made.  When, in the process of travelling a given path, we see that it is too strewn with obstacles, we might need to change the tactic for walking this path.

How do you change tactics mid-path?  The approach changes.  You may have been going at it from one angle, but now you see you need to try another angle. You may have been working on a frontal assault, now you realize you need to approach from the flank.  You may have been using a boat to sail the steam, now you need an ATV to cross the rocky shoreline the stream ended at.  Same path, new tactic for approaching it gets employed.

Sometimes you have come a long way down your path, and you reach a point where you realize you need to either quit or change your tactics.  But there are times when simply changing tactics is likely to produce the same result, and you are still completely certain of this path you have chosen, so quitting is not an option.

Maybe you need to start over.

There is a difference between starting over, and choosing a wholly new path.  Starting over is working with the same end goal in mind, but rather than remain on the path you chose in the beginning, you start over.   You reach this point when you know with certainty that this is the path you desire, but you see that you need to begin it all over.

One way to look at this is like looking at dealing with getting lost.  Sometimes when you get lost, and you are still attempting to go somewhere you want to go, you go back to the beginning and start again.  Maybe you choose a different tool to help you get from where you are beginning to the end goal than you chose before.  Maybe you walk instead of drive, fly instead of swim or similar.  Same path you have been traversing, but now you start all over, and change how you trek upon it.

And then, from time to time, you decide that your best course of action is to just keep pushing on.  You may consider giving up, you might think about changing your tactics, you might consider if you need to start over…but determine you are going where you need to, how you want to, and you should keep pushing on.

This will often keep us from quitting when it gets hard or deciding to mess up what we’ve already accomplished by beginning anew or changing our tactics.  The pitfall of this, of course, is continuing the same thing again and again and expecting a different result.

All of these choices are perfectly valid.  The key to making them, and any decision in regards to Pathwalking, is clarity.  It begins with thought, which gets transmitted to feeling, and from there actions are taken.  Thought is the first step on the path, feeling is the next, action the next, repeat as necessary.

Give up, change tactics, start over, or keep pushing on?  You alone know what will work for you, and so long as you keep your mind as clear of negativity as you can, and you stay focused, you cannot choose wrong.  And somehow, even if you do, you can make new choices and seek and travel new paths.

What will you do when you reach that point of choice on one of your paths?

 

This is the two-hundred seventy-seventh entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas and my personal experiences in walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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