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How Can Change Generate Positivity?

Change is inevitable, but can be a huge source of positivity.

Let’s face it.  Everything changes.  The world evolves, and whether you want to admit it or no, change is going to occur.

ChangeSeasons change.  The weather changes.  We humans have a unique ability to change our clothes, our homes, our lives, and our minds.  Changes just are.

Often we just let change occur.  The world is turning, things happen.  Sometimes we accept this.  Other times, we resist it.

It’s important to recognize positive resistance versus negative resistance.  There is a difference.  Marching to protest unjust policy, writing and calling members of Congress, petitioning and other forms of resistance are positive, and a focus for directing changes.

Holding onto the past, trying to force matters into an unnatural shape, standing against progress, or holding tightly to a disproven belief and similar forms of resistance are negative, and present obstacles to change.  Obstructing will seldom, if ever, get you where you want to go.

Renowned psychologist Carl Jung said, “What you resist not only persists, but will grow in size.”  Or, to sum up, What you resist, persists.  This is rather pertinent to change.  When we resist changes, as in the form of obstruction, we will get more of what we don’t want.

The Universe is pretty consistent in using consciousness to create reality.  However, the Universe does not recognize don’t, do not, don’t want, or undo.  The Universe recognizes only item and desire.  So if you say I do not want this, the Universe only gets the message of want this.

Because many people fear change, we tend to resist in the obstructionist manner.  It takes very little thought to see this for what it is.

Change happens.

Positivity 199 - ChangeWhen we accept that change is going to happen, like it or not, we can choose how to work with it.  Stand against it, or with it?  Resist by trying to redirect, or resist by obstruction?  The choice is more in or hands than we generally recognize.

When we choose change, we get to choose to make it positive.  If things are not how we want them to be, we can choose to change them for the better.  I know sometimes it feels hopeless, but it really isn’t.  This can be an incredible source for positivity in this world.

Finding positivity is not hard, but it does require action.

Knowing that change happens whether we like it or not, we can choose to work with change to generate positivity.  When we strive to direct it instead of resist it with obstructions, we empower ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we frequently spread that feeling to others around us; as such, we can build more positive feelings in the collective consciousness.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

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How Powerful Can Thank You Be?

Thank You are two of the most powerful words available to us.  Thank you is one of the most powerful phrases we can employ.

We frequently neglect just how powerful the words we use are.  Words matter.  What we say has an enormous impact on the world around us.

When we recognize how powerful our words are, we develop the power to make more of the world around us.  We can choose to alter our feelings, perspective, and world view with words.

This is true whether our choices are conscious or subconscious.  What we think about frequently develops feelings.  When we combine thought and feeling together, we can manifest almost anything we can think of.

This is why recognizing powerful words and phrases is important.  Because there is so much power within them, we need to use caution in our self-expression.

Awareness here is important, because when we are aware of our conscious thought in the here-and-now, we are better at having control over our lives.  When mindful of our conscious thought, we make choices about the words and phrases we energize, and that in turn effects what we manifest.

What are the most powerful phrases we have?  I certainly could not rank them, but in addition to Thank You, they include I Am, Please, You’re Welcome, I Love You, I Can, and I Do.  All of these are empowering phrases, capable of creating amazing things.

Gratitude is the keystone to conscious reality creation.  When we have gratitude for that which we have, material or immaterial, we let the Universe know we are appreciative.  Showing appreciation opens channels of positive energy, and empowerment, and that can create almost anything.  Gratitude for what we have creates room to bring in other things we want.

Thank You feels good, and shows appreciation.

Saying Thank You makes me feel good.  Hearing someone thank me for something makes me feel good.  Thank You generates positivity.  Gratitude for people, places, things, tangibles and intangibles alike says to the Universe, yes, I appreciate what is in my life.  Appreciation is both recognition and understanding.   Recognizing things for which to be grateful opens us to more understanding.  Consciousness creates reality.

When we are aware of this power, Thank You becomes a powerful phrase.  Everything in this universe at its core is energy.  Energy vibrates at a frequency, and like attracts like.  When your frequency of appreciation is high, you draw more things to you to appreciate.  You gain the ability to make more things to express gratitude for.

Because Thank You is so powerful, it is important to use this for the expression of genuine gratitude.  How frequently has Thanks Obama been used as a negative connotation?  Thanks for nothing is a statement of disempowerment.  As such, anytime we use Thank You in respects to things we DO NOT want, guess what we wind up attracting?

All of these powerful phrases work in this way.  When you say I Am Stupid it’s just as potent as saying I Am BrilliantPlease leave me alone carries a different energy than Please when asking for another cup of coffee.  You’re Welcome to do it better is equal in power to You’re Welcome spoken in gratitude.  I Can Do Nothing disempowers, whereas I Can Do Anything empowers.  I Do Not Know carries a different weight from I Do Know.  Even I Love You, while an expression of the most powerful energetic force in the Universe, can turn to negative when it is mistaken for obsession or possession.

Use Thank You to invoke empowerment.

As one of the most powerful phrases we have available to us, we are responsible for its use.  Using Thank You for genuine gratitude invokes empowerment.  We empower ourselves by expressing gratitude, and we empower those around us by giving it.

Human beings often fail to realize how much power we possess.  Because our society gets so caught up in fear and lack, we don’t see that the reality of the situation is one of joy and abundance.  We can choose how to feel, whether we let the fear overwhelm us or seek joy.  The Universe is abundant, the only lack we have is what we create for ourselves.

Employing these powerful phrases we have for empowerment can change the world.  Perpetuating the fear, anger, hatred, greed, corruption and intolerance we deluge our social mediascapes in only creates more things to feel negative towards.  Yes, there are bad people out there doing bad things on all kinds of different levels, and we cannot just ignore them.  But we can choose to change the conversation, direct it away from negativity, single-mindedness and lack to positivity, open-mindedness and abundance.

Thank You redirects the conversation.

This is why employing such a powerful phrase to express gratitude is so important.  When we are grateful we are more open, more positive, and better capable to see those who would disempower us for what they are.  When we recognize them as such, we are better equipped to resist them.  Because we cannot undo what is done, we need to work on being grateful for the material and immaterial we HAVE, while expressing thanks for those which we desire.  In this way, consciousness can create a better reality.

What are you saying Thank You for today?

 

This is the three-hundred-eighth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas for, and my personal experiences with, walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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How Does Being Aware Take Me Across The Bridges?

For me, being aware of my mindset, mindful of what I am thinking and feeling, is the key to creating what I truly desire from this life.

Conscious reality creation is the ultimate gift humankind has.  The other animals on this planet, no matter how intelligent they may be, don’t have the same capacity to create as we do.  We are the only animals that can build tools to allow us to travel anywhere across the globe, infinitely expand our knowledge base, and live in any environment.

AwareTo create anything at all, I have to begin with thought.  I have to think of an idea, and bring it into existence.  This applies to characters and worlds for my writing; a job I envision working; relationships with friends and lovers; ideas to make life better.

Great or small, thoughts are the starting point of everything.  I have had some pretty cool thoughts and ideas, but if I did not go to the next steps, they never got past this first point.

This is where I usually face the greatest challenge.  Feeling.  To consciously create reality, you cannot just think of a thing, you have to feel it.  I have been struggling with feeling for most of my life.

Let me get really personal here.  I was a smart, sensitive kid.  Didn’t know it back then, but as an empath I was good at feeling the feelings of others.  Due to things that happened in my youth, mostly around my parents’ divorce (and for the record, I am NOT blaming my parents here) I went into therapy.  Because this was the early 1980’s, there were no drugs like Prozac and such.  It was a difficult time, and I was hurting.  Some thirty years later, I learned that I had shut down.

I was aware of feelings, but not feeling them.

Logically, I reasoned out what these emotions were supposed to feel like.  I shared that with my therapists, and they thought I was adjusting.  For the most part, I was.  But…my ability to truly feel emotions was less developed than anybody realized until much later.

In my thirties, I found the best therapist I have ever had.  Together, we realized what I had done, and started the process of repairing it.  With that work, I became more aware of my emotions.  For the first time in my life, I was truly mindful of both thoughts and feelings.

Important tangent here.  I know a lot of people who have had traumas both emotional and physical, greater and less than my experiences.  In this week’s Pathwalking I wrote about accountability.  Thing is, while I could blame any number of people and factors for the issues I had in regards to emotions, I recognize that ultimately I did this to myself.  Blame could not fix it.  So I made a choice to acknowledge and then repair the damage, rather than get angry or depressed about it.

Once I became aware of the issues I had regarding emotions, I did the work to learn how to truly feel them.  It was in this process that I began to truly understand the idea of conscious reality creation.  I saw how I had healed from my accident faster and more completely than expected, because my thoughts and feelings wholly supported, expected, and worked towards that outcome.

Still, this has been an ongoing struggle for me.  Because the emotions I have recognized and expressed the longest are negative ones, like depression, anger, jealousy, and other fears, when I am not mindful and fully aware, guess where my subconscious goes?

Being aware will take me across all the bridges.

Because I am an empath, I feel the emotions of other people around me.  Due to spending probably too much time on social media, I get inundated with a whole lot of negativity.  Our fear-based society is being pushed around in new and horrifying ways.  Those in power are hiding their selfish agendas less and less, yet still enjoying control over a huge swath of the collective consciousness.

I am working to better recognize when I allow my subconscious to drive the bus.  I set myself up in my Pathwalking post to regularly ask at least two questions about my mindset, so that I am better aware of what I am thinking and feeling.

When my thoughts and feelings are aligned, taking intentional actions to manifest what I am desiring is virtually effortless.  When I allow doubts, or the negativity of the collective consciousness to get between my thoughts and feelings, I am like an inverted bicycle.  You can pedal the wheel round and round as much as you like, but you are not going to get anywhere at all.

I challenged myself to ask at least two of these questions several times a day.  What am I thinking?  What am I feeling?  How am I feeling?  Where is my mind?  What am I thinking about?  What am I focused on?  I know that when I ask these questions, I become aware of the here-and-now, and allow my conscious self to take the wheel.

One additional challenge with this that I tend to get down on myself when I do not live up to my own standards.

I need to be more aware of how I think about myself.

For most of my life I have chewed my fingernails off.  Trust me, I know this is a terrible habit.  For a while, I mostly stopped.  There they were, fingernails, and I actually needed to clip them like a normal person from time to time.  Recently, I have found myself chewing them off again.  If I do not make a conscious effort to restrain myself, when I am bored or nervous or frustrated I find myself removing a fingernail with my teeth.

It does not matter how aware of this, or any other emotion I am.  What matters is what I do with that knowledge.  Do I stop from biting my nails?  Will I acknowledge the negative feeling, and do something to change it?  Am I going to get mad at myself for not doing this, that or the other thing, or will I make the necessary change?  Being aware is only the beginning.  What I do with that mindfulness is the difference between manifesting the life I want, or never quite going to the places I desire to be.

I am aware.

What will I do with this awareness?  Stay tuned.  As always, thank you for crossing the bridges between my worlds with me.

 

GOAL LOG – Week 45:

Diet:  I was very conscious of what I was consuming, but not so good about writing it down.

Exercise:  Fenced once, did a bunch of walking.  Need to up this game.

Writing:  Three blog posts, and some other writing work.

Meditation: I really need to resume this.  One day this week, about 8 minutes.

Gratitude:  I was not tracking gratitude again.

 

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How Is Pathwalking Mindful?

When we are mindful of our thoughts, feelings and actions, we can walk any path.

The key to doing this is to work on spending more time in the here-and-now.  When we are mindful of where we are, at this very moment, we empower ourselves to best walk the paths for the lives we desire.

Mindfulness is awareness.  When we are aware, we have control.  Pathwalking is about taking control of the life we lead, so being mindful is imperative to success along the path.  If we are aware of what we’re thinking, how we are feeling, and from that what actions we intentionally are taking, we can make more informed and desired choices.

Being in the here-and-now, which I have discussed before, can be a particular challenge.  Why?  Because our society has this maniacal obsession with the past and the future.

We are constantly looking back at what was.  I know I am using this example a lot, but it’s really hard not to these days: Look at current American politics.  There is this obsession with taking us “back” to a time and place that never actually existed.  Recreating a nation of “values” and “morals” that existed, at best, in 1950’s television and movies.

On the other side of that coin, we’re frequently discussing the future.  We are looking ahead to things that don’t exist yet, even though they could.  We want to build this utopian world that might be possible, but is nearly equally as non-existent as the world that some want us to go back to that never was.

Here and now is where we have balance.  But when we live in the here-and-now, we have to pay attention to the world around us.  That would require accountability.

Being accountable is being mindful.

Another problem in modern society is a major lack of accountability.  Everyone finds someone to blame for this, that or the other thing.  We blame our parents for our emotional issues as adults.  Hell, the President tells outright lies and is seldom called out on it.  We almost take pride in avoiding being responsible for our feelings, thoughts or actions.

The sad truth is that accountability is not tremendously important in this society. Why does that matter?  Because when we do not take responsibility for our own actions, let alone our thoughts and feelings, we haven’t the strength to consciously create reality, let alone anything else.

When we are aware of what we are thinking, it allows us to be mindful of what we are feeling.  When I am thinking, damn this society is screwed up, that leads to my feeling sad, depressed, and angry.  If I do not accept this, and don’t take accountability for it, I can’t change it.

When I do take responsibility for how I am thinking and feeling, I can take control of them.  Rather than focus on my negative thoughts, I can instead think, if I write about conscious reality creation, that can be shared to spread more positivity.  From there, I will start to feel good about what I am doing, and that in turn will put me back in control.

When we think and feel negative, then act from there, consciously or subconsciously, we tend to create other than what we want.  Further, if we are not accountable for that creation, creating something new and better becomes that much more challenging.  This is why we need to be mindful of thoughts and feeling.

The mindful path is where we are now.

Being in the here-and-now allows us to truly be mindful of everything.  When we aren’t looking back to the past or ahead to the future, right here, right now, we just ARE.  This is the ultimate awareness, and this is where our paths can be found, traversed, and changed.

This is the hardest lesson for me much of the time.  I get caught up in all these outside influences, and lose track of the here-and-now.  When I work to be in the now, I can do more with my thoughts and feelings, and with that take better actions.

How do I stay in the here-and-now?  I need to ask myself more frequently, What am I thinking?  What am I feeling?  How am I feeling?  Where is my mind?  What am I thinking about?  What am I focused on?  Any one of this questions will snap my attention to the now.

It is so stunningly easy to lose track of the now.  Start browsing through Facebook or Twitter and see how long it takes you to get lost in social commentaries.  Watch how easily you can become flustered by news of idiocy and amoral politics.  Before you know it, you’re angry, feeling depressed, and your subconscious mind is driving the bus.

During the day, as we go about our activities and routines, it’s really easy to let our subconscious take control.  Because we tend to be utterly unaware of things, in particular our own hearts and minds, this becomes more and more the norm.  But we can do something about that.  We can be mindful of what we are thinking, how we are feeling, and what actions we take from there.

Being mindful is not as hard as it first appears.

This is my challenge for putting Pathwalking into practice for the next week.  I am going to ask myself at least two of the above questions three times a day for a week, and WRITE IT DOWN.  Not only will this keep me mindful of what I am thinking and feeling, but the action will make me accountable for it.

The goal of this practice is to make myself more aware in the here-and-now.  I believe that doing this will let me be a far better Pathwalker, and allow me to truly consciously create the reality I want to see.  Care to join me in this endeavor?

Are you mindful of your thoughts, feelings and actions?

This is the three-hundred-seventh entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas for, and my personal experiences with, walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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What Is Mindfulness?

Mindfulness is self-awareness.  It is knowing what you are thinking, how you are feeling, and who you are intent on being.

MindfulnessIt’s continuously amazing to me how easily we lose sight of mindfulness.  We get caught up in all the things around us, the attitudes and feelings of the people we surround ourselves with, and that in turn can overtake our own mindfulness.

Why is this important?  When someone is telling you about their bad day, or you are reading about the awful news from around the world, bombarded with stories of oppression, greed and people doing bad things to people – your mood, your attitude and your feelings are directly affected.

The idea of Positivity is to try and view life from a positive perspective.  Negative begets negative, and positive begets positive.  If you are looking at life through a dark and unpleasant lens, you will see an abundance of the dark and unpleasant things.  However, if you see life through a light and clear lens, you are now able to see it all.

Mindfulness is not about blindly seeing nothing but positive and happy and such.  It is about being aware of your thoughts and feelings.  It is about taking into account your surroundings, your mindset, your situation, your present self.  Being mindful is the first step towards being aware, and being aware is how you can choose to live more positively or more negatively.

How do I express mindfulness?

The simplest and easiest way to recognize mindfulness is to ask yourself direct questions.  What am I thinking?  What am I feeling?  How am I feeling?  Where is my mind?  What am I thinking about?  What am I focused on?  We are constantly asking our friends, families, coworkers, even random strangers questions like these.  Yet it is infrequent of us to direct these questions inwards.  Thus we lose mindfulness.

Positivity 197 - MindfulnessThis is not an act of selfishness.  Quite the contrary; you can do more for others around you when you know who and what YOU are about.  Being mindful begins with the self…but mindfulness of the self allows for greater mindfulness of those around you.  When you are more mindful of those around you, you will have a better idea of how you can help others in whatever ways you can.

Positivity is finding a positive place, a positive attitude.  Being mindful of what you are thinking, feeling, saying and thus projecting will allow you to break from negativity more easily.  This in turn will allow you to free yourself to be in a better, more positive headspace more frequently.  I believe that more Positivity in the world can only make the world a better, healthier, more balanced place for everyone.

Finding positivity is not hard, but it does require action.

Knowing that greater mindfulness is greater self-awareness, we can choose to focus on more positive things.  When we make the choice to focus on the positive we empower ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we frequently spread that feeling to others around us; as such, we can build more positive feelings in the collective consciousness.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the one hundred ninety-seventh entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

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Why Create Reality?

I love to create.

I began to write fiction when I was nine.  Even with some breaks here and there along the way, I have continued to create characters, worlds, and stories to tell about them.

Why Create Reality?Then, about six years ago, I began to post to this blog weekly.  Pathwalking on Wednesdays was the starting point.  Two years later, I added Positivity every Monday.  Just over a year ago, these posts called Crossing the Bridges came into being.

All three of these posts cover different things.  Pathwalking is my personal philosophy for living the best life I can.  Through Pathwalking, I discuss striving to choose the life I desire most, and consciously create reality as I most want to see it manifest.

Positivity was in reaction to an abundance of negative posts to social media.  With everyone feeling down on a Monday morning, I wanted to post something upbeat to change the collective consciousness towards something better, and positive.

Crossing the Bridges came into being as sort of a self-check-in.  I view my life to some degree as existing on these separate islands.  One is the real world, trying to earn money in a desirable fashion to cover living expenses and more.  The next is the fantasy world I spend most of my weekends in, running around the Kingdom of the East and fencing, heralding, and hanging out with friends.  Then there is my creative worlds, the writing I want to spread further and sell more of.

An online course I took about six months ago changed how I view this blog overall.  Instead of three individual posts that are unrelated, now they are part of the greater package.  The Ramblings of the Titanium Don took on a new direction, a blog exploring aspects of working on consciously creating reality.

There is always more to create.

I am exploring new creations all the time.  Whether I am composing a blog post, writing my sci-fi novel, or even working on a resume or other business copy, I enjoy the creative process.  When I get to create, I am enormously alert, aware, and content with the life I have.

Even when I struggle with a topic for one of the three weekly posts, the process of getting to create something still keeps it worthwhile.  I am making something new, and sharing it with you.  The positivity, joy, and wonder in that is rather awesome.

All three posts this week have been focused on the main orientation of the blog.  Consciousness Creates Reality.  I believe this.

Consciousness can also be defined as awareness, recognition, or even realization.

Create stands on its own, but could also be interpreted to mean to build, discover, or even establish.

Reality is the trickiest.  Yet without going into a philosophical debate about it, reality can be defined as existence, actuality, or even tangibility.

Why do these redefinitions matter?  If consciousness creates reality, then that means awareness discovers tangibility; recognition establishes existence; realization builds actuality.  We can even rearrange them to fit in any way.  Awareness establishes actuality.

When we are conscious of the thoughts, feelings and actions we take, we can create, build or establish a tangible reality.  This is manifestation of dreams into reality.  It is from this we can have virtually anything we want.

If this is so simple, how come everyone isn’t doing it?  Because we live in fear-based, lack-mentality society.  We are frequently told there is not enough to go around.  Then the greedy hoarders constantly paraded before us add to the negativity, causing us to second-guess if we can have the things we want, and remain a good person.

It takes effort to create.

We are a society of easy.  It has to be fast.  Instant gratification is barely fast enough.  Consciously creating reality can be quick, but seldom instantaneous.  Taking thought, putting feeling behind it, then intentional action requires some processing.  Thus, in order to manifest reality, we have to expend some effort.

This can cause any number of frustrations for people.  When we don’t see the results quickly enough, we get frustrated, and our power to manifest weakens with our resolve.  To consciously create reality, we have to believe it, completely, and know without doubt that it is come to pass.

It is hard to believe that right now we have what we desire.  In especial when, in the current illusion of our reality, we don’t.  Conscious reality creation works best when we presuppose the desired outcome is in the now.  See it as ahead, not quite there yet, it tends to stay ahead and not quite there.  A further challenge to the process.

I have made this work.  When the outcome was the only reality that could be, I achieved the goal intended.  I healed, got the girl, got the car, etcetera.  If I can apply my love to create things to the reality I most desire, I will be capable of crossing any bridge I encounter.

Consciousness creates reality.  I know this to be true.  Anything I want to create is mine for the making.  It’s up to me to use this and manifest the life I most desire to live.

Let’s see what I do next.

As always, thanking you for crossing the bridges between the worlds with me.

 

GOAL LOG – Week 44:

Diet:  I resumed mostly tracking my food intake this week, and was more conscious of it.

Exercise:  Fenced twice, did a bunch of walking.

Writing:  Three blog posts, and some other writing work.

Meditation: Three days this week, never less than 5 minutes.

Gratitude:  I was not tracking gratitude again.

 

This is the fifty-ninth entry of my personal journey, the Crossing the Bridges series.  My collectively published writing can be found here.

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Why Don’t I Understand?

There will always be things I just don’t understand.

Some are emotional.  I know people who feel certain ways about certain things that I simply cannot fathom.  No judgements, this is just a statement of fact.

Understand - Crossing the Bridges 58Some are logical.  Some judgement here, given notions like flat-earthers and racists and misogynists and the like.  I just don’t understand how logic and reason can go out the window for easily disproven beliefs.

For a long time I have said that life is about learning new things.  There is always something new to be learned, and mysteries to understand.  Things happen that need to be explored, good and bad, in order to be dealt with, understood, and in some instances prevented from recurring.

Despite this, there are things that I know I just won’t understand.  I can apply all the logic and reason I know, and it still won’t make any sense to me.  Yet because of my empathic nature, I not only want to understand it, but in some cases I want to fix it.

You think the earth is flat?  Let me show you all the reasons why this is untrue.  Do you believe that women are somehow inferior to men?  I want to help you to see how this is not the case.  Think trickle-down economics will work?  Allow me to find you the forty years worth of evidence that this is not so.

Because I don’t understand how people believe these things, I want to help them understand that they need to open themselves up to more reason and logic.  Unfortunately, a closed mind, or a resolved mindset cannot be dissuaded, forced open, or changed without a desire for change.

When I don’t understand, and want to fix that, I have to recognize that I can’t.

Why don’t you understand?

Asking this question can only effect one single person.  Me.  I am the only one who can answer this.  Why?  Because the only person who’s mind I can actually change is my own.  It’s imperative that I recognize that when I don’t understand someone or something else, I cannot change THEM, I can only change me.

I’m going to get really personal here a moment.  My wife’s family has a wholly different dynamic from my own.  It is so different, in fact, that in many respects it feels actually alien to me.  The way they care for one another, how they react to crisis, and how they relate to one another frequently makes no sense to me.

I try to understand this.  Because this is an emotional issue, and I might have a few issues of my own when it comes to emotions, this is often almost incomprehensible to me.  The hows and whys of their dynamic is completely different from anything I have experienced before.

Don’t misunderstand me, I love my in-laws.  Because my own family has a whole lot of different dynamics on all these levels, the way they are is wildly different from what I already know.

This is a key to understanding.  Our experiences throughout our lives are going to color how we perceive the world.  I was raised Jewish in the suburbs of Minneapolis, and my parents divorced when I was five.  My family is small, each parent has a single sibling, and they are not all that close.

My wife was raised Catholic in New Jersey, and her parents have been together for over forty years.  Her family is humungous, one parent has I think five siblings, and her family is very close.  Almost the polar opposite of what I know.

Understanding grows from experience.

The thing to realize is that I simple won’t ever fully understand some things.  That’s the nature of the world.  There are over seven billion people on this planet, speaking hundreds of different languages, coming from countless family dynamics, each with unique knowledge, experience, and their own understandings.

When we recognize this, we can do better with knowing what we understand.  Why?  Because we learn that there are things we just won’t understand.  Further, recognizing that you can’t necessarily make someone else understand what you do, you have more to work with.

As I work on crossing the bridges between my worlds, it occurs to me that the number of worlds I visualize for my life are pretty numerous.  Some of the worlds, those of my own creation, I completely understand.  Others, though, in particular those I share with other people, I will probably never completely get.

One of the most important things to recognize about this notion is that we all understand different things.  We cannot force anyone else to understand what we do.  Even when we are dealing with logical and reasonable matters, our differences will color what we define as logic and reason.

I believe that the more I understand about myself, the more I can help people gain their own understanding via my example.  When I consciously create reality, walk my own path, and manifest the life I desire, in my example I can help others do the same.

There are always new worlds around me.  I can build and cross bridges between them, even when I don’t understand everything about them.  Yes, it can be frustrating sometimes.  Yet, rather than see it negatively, we can see it as a challenge.  This can be a growth opportunity.  It’s a matter of what you understand.

As always, thank you for crossing the bridges between my worlds with me.

 

GOAL LOG – Week 43:

Diet:  I have not been keeping track yet again this week.

Exercise:  Fenced twice, but that was it.  Knee injury is still lessening my exercise more than I should let it.

Writing:  Three blog posts, and some work on the sci-fi story.

Meditation: Only a couple days this week.  I have to improve on that.

Gratitude:  I was not tracking gratitude again.

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How Do You Choose To Feel Today?

Do you want to feel good or bad today?  Positive or negative?  Empowered or disempowered?

How do you choose to feel?Despite the insanity of the world at large, or our jobs, or our families and friends, or any other outside influences, WE get to choose how we want to feel.  It’s our decision to feel good or bad, strong or weak, empowered or disempowered.

This feels like a lie, doesn’t it?  Welcome to Monday, the start of the work week.  Oh look at the continued insanity in Washington, DC.  What’s the deal with this unbelievable weather?  End of the month, bills are coming due…overwhelming, right?  Only if you allow it to be.

It’s all too easy to get caught up in this.  Social media is all over bad news, and not just bad news but sad, frustrating, infuriating news.  It’s almost like there is this unspoken challenge to see how angry or sad or otherwise negative they can make people feel.  History says it can go a long ways.

When we allow this to affect us, it can be really difficult to see that we are still in control.  That’s because if we are disempowered, we cede control.  When we cede control, the infamous “they” take it for themselves.

Sometimes it’s really easy to just give in.  All the negativity in media can seriously overwhelm even the most positive person.  We’re bombarded by it, and being emotional creatures, it’s hard not to have it phase us.  Yet the more we allow for the negativity to soak into our psyche, the more disempowered we become.

We can choose how to feel.

I am in no way saying that you’re never going to feel negative feelings.  One of the driving forces of our existence is using a negative thing to inspire a positive thing.  The challenge is not allowing it to overwhelm us.  We can empower ourselves to take these negative things, feel them out, then release them in some form or other.

Choose to feelI know that I sometimes lose track of how I am feeling, and allow negativity to linger.  Holding onto that is going to disempower me.  When I feel disempowered, I will succeed at finding more things to make me feel bad.  Sound familiar?

Take a deep breath.  Allow yourself to feel negativity, let it flow through you, and then LET IT GO.  Release negativity, and do what you can to bring in positivity.  In this way we can empower ourselves, and the forces that strive to disempower us lose their potency.  I know I prefer to feel good, don’t you?

Finding positivity is not hard, but it does require action.

Knowing that we are inundated by negative, disempowering messages, we can choose how to take them in, and whether we allow them to disempower us.  When we feel the disempowering negativity, but choose to release it rather than hold onto it, ultimately we empower ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we frequently spread that feeling to others around us; as such, we can build more positive feelings in the collective consciousness.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

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How Do I Interfere With My Path?

There are always things which will interfere with your chosen path.

Many of these things are beyond our control.  I can’t do anything about current government stupidity, hurricanes, foreign wars, and the overall negative attitude of other people.  Yes, I can write letters to the leadership, support hurricane relief funds, and take other proactive actions.  However, it’s important to recognize that this is limited, and needs to be proactive rather than reactive.

Why proactive?  Because if we are constantly reacting to the world around us, this reflects our subconscious being in control.  Consciousness creates reality, and if we are allowing our subconscious to do the driving, then we’re not taking control as we can.

This is where we get into the other things interfering with your chosen path.  You and me.  We will often do things, say things, think things that are actually contrary to the path we’re walking.  This is generally subconscious, which makes it more challenging to overcome.

I have written before about self-sabotage.  This is when I will prevent myself in some way from achieving a desired goal.  I get in my own way, and interfere with my path.  This will come from my fears of success and failure, and ultimate abandonment.

Even knowing, logically, what this is and where it comes from, it is rather easy to let the subconscious get control.  How does that happen?  Let’s say I am scrolling through Facebook, and I see an article about another terrible thing the government is doing.  This gets me upset, and if I don’t consciously release it, it lingers.  Anger, frustration, and subconsciously I am questioning, why bother?  If it’s all going to hell anyhow, what’s the point?

We allow things to interfere with us.

Before I know it, I find myself in front of the keyboard, and uninspired.  I am frustrated, I can’t focus.  Take a break, find a distraction, and then suddenly my day has flown by.  If I begin to question whether I accomplished what I wanted, and the answer is not what I desire, this may upset me.  If I don’t take hold of that, it can spiral out, and the next thing I know I am angry, questioning my purpose, skills, abilities, and worth…and my path has gotten away from me.

Does this strike a chord for you?  This is one of the largest forms of interference in our paths.  Rather than being kind and forgiving to ourselves, we are hyper-critical, self-doubting, and feel as if there is no worth in the path – or worse, no worth in ourselves.

As Admiral Ackbar would say, “It’s a trap!”  Getting stuck in your own head, subconsciously, can be detrimental to your path.  If we allow our subconscious to drive the bus, we cede our control, and interfere with the path we wish to walk.

Consciousness Creates Reality.  This is why it’s so important to be aware of our world.  When we don’t take an active role in being open and aware of the world around us, we inadvertently allow our subconscious to run the show.  Over time, this can cause us a great deal of distress, and will get in the way of any given day, let alone a desired path.

Yes, outside influences can effect this, but only if we let them.  Whether it’s personal, such as a loved one pissing you off; or societal, such as American politics, this can create negativity which the subconscious uses as fuel.

We can control our subconscious.

What it all comes down to is the majority of that which interferes with us is on ourselves.  We control how angry, upset, and how long we hold onto negativity.  When we believe things are bad, and that we are unworthy subconsciously, we interfere with manifesting our desires.

How do we deal with this?  First and foremost, we need to work on our awareness.  Yes, this is going to be somewhat challenging, but the more we do this, the easier it will become.  We tend to be all go go go, and thus seldom pause to analyze.  Many of us tend to be even less conscientious of this when it comes to ourselves.

I have mentioned previously the value in asking questions of ourselves.  How am I feeling?  What am I thinking?  What am I doing?  All of these simple questions of ourselves bring us to the here-and-now, and ultimately tap into our awareness.  When we are aware, we become more capable of seeing and dealing with any interference in our paths.

One of the problems with this is taking the time to actually ask these questions of ourselves.  Isn’t it amazing how quickly a day can just slip on by?  You’re working on things, or trying to work on things, and before you know it, the day is through.  Yet if we take a few moments, maybe once every two hours, to ask these quick questions, we can better be aware, and consciously create desired realities.

Is it really that simple?  I believe that it is.  Trouble is, in the interest of deep thought we humans seem to love adding unnecessary complexities.

There are things that interfere we will have to deal with.

Sometimes things happen that will interfere with your path, totally out of your control, that you won’t be able to just use awareness to rid yourself of.  Car accidents, a nasty headcold, getting fired from a job, dumped by a relationship, someone’s death, and the like happen.  They cannot be denied, and they can have unexpected consequences which might alter your chosen path.

How much any such thing interferes with life can still be your choice.  Recovering from injury and illness will take time, but attitude can help.  Modern medicine is incredible in many ways, but having a good attitude and keeping positive rather than negative can assist in healing.  Also, if you are feeling bad, do you really want to do anything that makes you feel worse?

When we are aware of our feelings, and we take the time to be conscious, we can manifest amazing things.  Any interference can be dealt with, when we take hold of it and choose to do so.  This can often be a challenge, but I believe that this can also lead to new and incredible realities which will make us feel good.  Let’s not let ourselves interfere with ourselves.

Do you recognize when you interfere with yourself?

 

This is the three-hundred-fourth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas for, and my personal experiences with, walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

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How Are Our Persons Different From People?

The people who become our persons in this life can be an amazing source of Positivity.

If, like me, you find that overall people make you crazy, you understand this distinction.  What it boils down to is those who we get close to in various ways are persons, as opposed to those who are the faceless masses we refer to as people.

Positivity 192People in this sense tend to drive us nuts.  They cut you off on the road, they elect idiots to office, they disbelieve in scientific facts, etcetera.  Most of us, at least my persons, generally agree that people suck.

Trouble is, we live in a world with more than 7 billion people.  If we all have even a dozen persons, that means that we are surrounded by people.  And we tend not to think well of people.

Dehumanization has been a tactic used to divide and conquer for time immemorial.  All across human history peoples go to war, disagree about religion, possessions, social stratifications, and so on.  Look at the whole NFL protest business happening now.  The protesters are attempting to call attention to injustice and social inequality…but to dehumanize them, their detractors want you to think they are disrespecting men and women in the military.

While it is a great source of positivity to have our persons, looking at people in opposition creates more negativity.  Consciousness creates reality.  What we focus on and think about we tend to draw more of to ourselves.

When we think poorly of people in the general sense, we empower those awful things we don’t want.  We give it attention and energy, and we further expand the chasm between those we call our persons and the general people of the world.

Think better of people.

People vs personsThis is a challenge.  I often comment that people suck.  I get angry about the vast amount of greed, selfishness, foolishness and ignorance constantly brought to the forefront of our collective consciousness.  When we post memes on social media, read and watch news stories, and follow the tweets of the narcissist-in-chief, we get more deeply divided and as such, conquered.

We like, love and respect our persons.  We tend to dislike, loathe, and disrespect people.  I know that before I comment again about how much people suck, I am going to think about how disempowering that is, to both them and me.

Is it possible, if we extend the positivity we generate from our persons to people, we can make the world better?

Finding positivity is not hard, but it does require action.

Knowing that we think much better of our persons than we do people in general, we can get a sense of how we generate a lot of negativity.  When we stop saying that people suck, and let ourselves be divided and disempowered, we can work on thinking about people more like our persons.  Thus we empower them, and empower ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings in the collective consciousness.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the one hundred ninety-second entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

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