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How Do You Choose To Feel Today?

Do you want to feel good or bad today?  Positive or negative?  Empowered or disempowered?

How do you choose to feel?Despite the insanity of the world at large, or our jobs, or our families and friends, or any other outside influences, WE get to choose how we want to feel.  It’s our decision to feel good or bad, strong or weak, empowered or disempowered.

This feels like a lie, doesn’t it?  Welcome to Monday, the start of the work week.  Oh look at the continued insanity in Washington, DC.  What’s the deal with this unbelievable weather?  End of the month, bills are coming due…overwhelming, right?  Only if you allow it to be.

It’s all too easy to get caught up in this.  Social media is all over bad news, and not just bad news but sad, frustrating, infuriating news.  It’s almost like there is this unspoken challenge to see how angry or sad or otherwise negative they can make people feel.  History says it can go a long ways.

When we allow this to affect us, it can be really difficult to see that we are still in control.  That’s because if we are disempowered, we cede control.  When we cede control, the infamous “they” take it for themselves.

Sometimes it’s really easy to just give in.  All the negativity in media can seriously overwhelm even the most positive person.  We’re bombarded by it, and being emotional creatures, it’s hard not to have it phase us.  Yet the more we allow for the negativity to soak into our psyche, the more disempowered we become.

We can choose how to feel.

I am in no way saying that you’re never going to feel negative feelings.  One of the driving forces of our existence is using a negative thing to inspire a positive thing.  The challenge is not allowing it to overwhelm us.  We can empower ourselves to take these negative things, feel them out, then release them in some form or other.

Choose to feelI know that I sometimes lose track of how I am feeling, and allow negativity to linger.  Holding onto that is going to disempower me.  When I feel disempowered, I will succeed at finding more things to make me feel bad.  Sound familiar?

Take a deep breath.  Allow yourself to feel negativity, let it flow through you, and then LET IT GO.  Release negativity, and do what you can to bring in positivity.  In this way we can empower ourselves, and the forces that strive to disempower us lose their potency.  I know I prefer to feel good, don’t you?

Finding positivity is not hard, but it does require action.

Knowing that we are inundated by negative, disempowering messages, we can choose how to take them in, and whether we allow them to disempower us.  When we feel the disempowering negativity, but choose to release it rather than hold onto it, ultimately we empower ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we frequently spread that feeling to others around us; as such, we can build more positive feelings in the collective consciousness.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the one hundred ninety-fifth entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

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Why Does the World Need More Positivity?

The world needs more positivity.

Why?  Because when we feel positive, we feel good.  When we feel good, we enhance the ability to draw more good to ourselves.  As such, we empower ourselves.  When we are empowered, we are capable of almost anything.

Unfortunately, we are living in a fear-based society.  We are inundated with negativity, we are told that there is lack and scarcity, and that we should fear the unknown, the untested, and the unfamiliar.  We sensationalize things to fear, and we continue as such to draw more to us.

The downside of instantaneous global communications is that we are hyper-aware of every single thing that happens.  Trouble is, what we are kept the most informed about is bad news.  Natural disasters, terrorist attacks, war and various atrocities dominate the news media.  As if that weren’t enough, to score higher ratings they strive to sensationalize these negative things, which just gives them more power.

And just to add insult to injury, the rise of fake news and opinion and blind faith in place of science and research makes it worse.  Fear mongers, religious leaders and conspiracy theorists have become all-too-readily accepted.  The negativity they are spewing fuels society’s fires.

We can overcome them, however.  But to do this, we can’t fight fire with fire.  We need to fight fire with water, dark with light.  We need to find and express more positivity.  We need to turn away from the negativity, and stop empowering it.  We need to overcome the fear with every positive tool we can muster.

The key is Positivity.

If we can focus more on finding the good in the world, we can use it to supplant the bad.  Like attracts like, that’s the Law of Attraction.  When we focus on positivity, we can attract more of it to us.  We can empower ourselves, and when we feel empowered we are capable of helping to empower others.

Even if you think the notion of the Law of Attraction is bunk, what harm is there in creating more positivity?  Does anyone really enjoy living in fear?  Does anyone really want to be lacking?  Does anyone want to feel bad, hurt, sad, or otherwise negative?  If we strive more to feel positive and good, we can disrupt the fear.

I am not suggesting ignoring the world around us.  But instead of feeding the hate, the fear, the lack…we need to find the love, the peace, the abundance.  We are better than this.  We each are empowered to discover that.  That is where positivity comes in, and that is why the world needs more of it.

Finding positivity is not hard, but it does require action.

Knowing that we live in a fear-based society, we can choose if we want to feed the fear, or overcome it.  When we create more positivity in the world, we can break from the negativity, we can disempower the fear and in turn empower ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings in the collective consciousness.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the one hundred seventy-eighth entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

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Things we should care about – versus – things we should not

I am going to overly-simplify this, because I think we have lost sight of the things we should care about, versus the things that are really not all that important in the grand scheme of life, the universe and everything.

Here is a list, in no particular order, of things we should care about:

  • Our health
  • The health of our friends and family
  • Our welfare
  • The welfare of our friends and family.
  • Our happiness.
  • The happiness of our friends and family.
  • Being treated fairly and treating others in the same manner that we want to be treated.

These are pretty much the main things that I can think of that we should give our energy and attention to.

Here are the things we should not ignore, but that we should not really care quite so much about, in no particular order:

  • Politics
  • Political corruption.
  • Corporate greed and corruption.
  • Religious fundamentalists and intolerance.
  • Nationalisms.
  • Differences in gender, differences in sexual proclivities, differences in spiritual matters.

Last but not least, this is the list of things we really should not care about at all, and we need to stop giving so much attention to:

  • Celebrities.
  • Gossip.
  • Professional athletes.
  • Politicians and religious leaders.
  • Hate mongers.
  • War mongers.

I believe that it is time to focus more on the things we have the ability to put our intent on, rather than the distractions and circuses we see in the modern mediascape. We need to be less concerned with who is gay or straight, conservative or liberal, black or white, male or female, religious or atheist and all other polar oppositions. We need to focus on ourselves and the people we care about and give more of our time and energy to that.

Opening more channels for more people to be free in no way lessens the freedom for the rest of us. The universe is abundant, and as such there is more than enough freedom and peace and happiness for everyone.

Give that some though before you post that next critical meme, that next negative political cartoon, that next news article about a given politician, celebrity or athlete and their doings. It is true that the less attention they get the louder they will become…until, ignored, they fade back into the background noise.

When we take our focus away from these largely unimportant things and place it on ourselves and the people around us, I believe we can all be stronger, better balanced and happier.

Just an idea I wanted to share.

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There is some scary stuff happening in the world around us right now.

In the United States we have this surreal situation in Missouri. I had really thought we left the hatred and fear and racism of the 1960’s back in the 20th century, but we seem to have all of that back again here and now.

In the Ukraine we have separatists who are likely backed by the Russians stirring up nationalistic troubles.

The Israelis and Palestinians of the Gaza Strip cannot come to peace and are killing one another once again.

As if that wasn’t enough, we are inundated with news of various acts of nature like storms and wildfires and potential volcanic eruptions and such. To call it all disheartening is an understatement.

All of these awful things beg one question. Why bother? Why bother to make and choose a path in this life when so many random awful things can interfere and disrupt that path?

The simple answer – because we have no control over these things. I cannot control what is happening in the world, I cannot control the actions of others.

I CAN, however, control my own actions, my own choices, my own destiny. In fact, this is one of the few things in the world over which I have nearly absolute control.

So what? You might go on and question, Isn’t control over anything at all an illusion? Plain and simple – no. While there are a finite number of things in life we have control over, control is not just an illusion.

I can control my emotions. I can control where I place myself in the world at large. I can control whom I associate with, and what I do with the people I spend time with in my life. I can control what I do with my time, and I can control day to do who I am. Certainly there are times this is not so easy, and without a doubt sometimes these are difficult matters, but I am still in control of them none-the-less.

I know there are finer points and semantics to be argued on this topic. Sometimes controlling how you feel is difficult at best due to outside influences. If I am lacking in money where I will be might be limited. Despite the control we can choose to wield, sometimes we still do not, even arguably cannot take it for ourselves.

Pathwalking is about finding and choosing your own path in life. It is making your own way in the world, discovering and exploring your own destiny. I have reiterated the point time and again that Pathwalking is about taking control over who you are, and what you do in this life.

Being inundated by so much negative and unsettling news can really do a number on you. And while it is good to stay informed, it is not necessary to let ourselves be overwhelmed. There is ALWAYS something happening out there that will rile us up, make us angry, make us upset and frustrated. I am not stating that as a negative thing, just a fact. That’s simply the nature of the media and our modern instantaneous news cycle. But since we can control how we allow ourselves to feel, we can choose to not let this affect us.

Again, I am not at all suggesting anyone be ignorant of the world around them. But we all need to keep more open minds, and we need to focus less on what we cannot control, and more over what we can. It is certainly a possibility that some world event will directly effect a course you might choose. It may be part of your path to join a protest or start an organization to do something about a problem in this world. Pathwalking recognizes no limits to possibilities.

I also believe that if we focus more on the things we can control, and we spend more time on our own lives and our own happiness, that will have its own impact on the world. Many of the scary things out there have to do with disempowerment and misery and sadness. People caught up in terrible situations who have no control, swept up in situations that leave little to no room for personal control or escape. I believe that the more empowerment we take, the less we will be caught in out-of-control extremes.

Watching and reading and discussion all the dark and scary world events around us feeds them energy. Go ahead and learn about them, but don’t linger with them. If we take them into ourselves and let these things become a part of our paths, we are giving away empowerment. I know I do not like the feeling of being powerless, and I am pretty certain that neither do you. Nor does anyone.

Let’s focus on our own lives, and the paths we are walking. We can be mindful of the world around us, and all that is happening, but we should not allow those things to dominate our thoughts and actions…unless that IS our path.

Lastly – if you find you have been thrown from your path by an outside influence such as world events, don’t feed negativity and annoyance and anger and frustration at the problem, or more importantly at yourself. Remember, that negativity impacts your path and your ability to walk it. Let it go, and focus instead on empowering your life. We all have days that are bad, we all get distracted from our paths by various influences, and we all make choices that prove to be wrong. Don’t let that throw you off…take a deep breath, release it and keep moving forward.

We can control if we learn of these things and continue walking our paths, or if we let them overwhelm us and shake us from what we want to do.

How do you take your news, and how do you let it influence your Pathwalk?

 

This is the one-hundred thirty eighth entry in my series. These weekly posts are specifically about walking along the path of life, and my desire to make a difference in this world along the way. Feel free to re-blog and share.  Thank you for joining me.

The first fifty-two weeks (Year One) of installments of Pathwalking is available in print and for your Kindle.

Positivity: Fantasy

Sometimes the mind needs an escape.

Fantasy is a wonderful means to that end.  Fantasy, in its many and varied forms, can not only provide an excellent escape for the mind, it can also awaken new ideas and deeper creativity.

I love being able to experience fantasy.  In addition to all the amazing and wondrous things we humans can create, we can develop stories in incredible places on worlds that only come to being from creative minds.

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Throughout history fantasy has been a means of escape.  In ancient Greece Aristophanes was entertaining crowds with works of fantasy.  In Elizabethan England William Shakespeare was creating an abundance of comedies and tragedies.  Today, we have an amazing array of media providing us fantasy on a multitude of levels.

Books, theatre, television, movies and the internet offer us endless fantasy to escape from all the negativity of the world.  Sometimes multiple media can provide a different viewpoint on the same subject.  A perfect example of this is Peter Jackson’s movie variation of JRR Tolkien’s Lord of the Rings and The Hobbit.  Another, and the inspiration for this particular topic, is George RR Martin’s Game of Thrones (Song of Ice and Fire) Series in booth print and television.

Since my childhood fantasies have sparked my imagination.  As a very young child it was Star Wars
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, and the opening where a ship comes flying in from above being blasted at by a larger ship behind.  I was hooked.  As I got older I read and watched more fantasies, and between space operas and Dungeons and Dragons I found the best escapes from things that made me unhappy or feeling negative.

There is nothing like a great scene in a book to get your mind going; or that epic musical score to evoke emotions; or that amazing cinematography to spark the color of your own imagination and make you feel alert and creative.  Fantasy provides so many means to finding Positivity, it is a pity we don’t allow ourselves more time to escape and reset from the mundane world.

Beyond the places we can take our minds in fantasy, there are many places we can take the body as well.  Whether in a live-action role playing game, a Civil War re-enactment, events with the Society for Creative Anachronism, or some Con or other – we can choose to dress up as someone other than who we are, from a time or place real or imagined, and be someone else for a while.

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One word of caution.  Like any drug or escape of any kind, it is possible to lose yourself in fantasy.  Within limits is all well and good to escape and give the mind something else to do, but leaving the real world and losing yourself in the bargain is not worth it.  Like all good things, moderation needs to be kept in consideration.

Finding positivity is not hard, it just requires action.  Knowing that you can turn to fantasy to escape the everyday for a time is a tremendous comfort.  Knowing that you can choose a fantasy to escape to, you can make time to let your mind wander and reset.  You are empowered with the ability to enjoy fantasy and allow for the creation of Positivity.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the eleventh entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to reblog and spread the positivity.

Our society and attitudes about rape

Rapists are never the victim.

Shame on anyone who believes otherwise.  Anyone who committed an act of rape and was found guilty is a criminal.  Period.

Rape has very little to do with sex.  Rape is about power.  Dominance.  Aggression.

Anyone who is a victim of rape should receive care, should receive sympathy and assistance.  They should not receive scorn, derision, or shaming.

I am astounded that our society today leans towards explaining away a terrible crime, focusing on a lost possibility and a lost future, rather than the awful crime committed.

Of course there are false accusations of rape that occur.  Of course some who are innocent are found guilty.  But that should not lessen the nature of the crime in general.  That should not be taken into account when the evidence is overwhelming, incriminating, and unmistakable.

How dare we as a society accept the coverage of such a travesty.  The situation out of Steubenville is just one example of the unfortunate state of our society in this moment.  Victims of rape are badgered, disenfranchised, and treated as though they were the ones who did wrong.

NO ONE who is raped “asked” to be.  No means no.  Nonconsensual sex acts are rape.  The rapists made a choice – a bad choice, to violate a person in possibly the most awful manner imaginable.  When caught and convicted, they should pay their debt to society.

Blaming the victim of a rape is unacceptable.  “She shouldn’t have gotten that drunk,” “If she didn’t dress so provocatively, she’d be better off,” “If she wasn’t such a tease, this would never have happened,” “She knew the risks,” “He’s a man, men do not get raped”.  BULLSHIT.  All of these statements are unacceptable.  Unwanted sexual acts are rape.  And they are not the fault of the person who was raped.  Period.

We are all taught right from wrong as we grow up.  No one “put them in that situation” with regards to the choice a rapist made.  Everybody should know that forcing someone into an unwanted sexual act is WRONG!  End of story.

As far as our society has come in the past 100 years, we are still so male-dominated, so patriarchal, that we just accept unchanging attitudes with silence.

This has to stop.  WE have to express our disgust at this, and we need to show the media, the law enforcement agencies, and rapists that this is wrong.

This cannot just come from celebrities like Henry Rollins and politicians and activists.  This needs to come from you and I.  Men, women, EVERYONE needs to consider what we are creating, the world we are making.  We have to stop accepting what we are given that we know to be wrong, and stand up and take action for what we know is right.

Think about it.

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