The Ramblings of the Titanium Don

Why Is Genuine Gratitude Always Positive?

Tangible or intangible, big or small, gratitude is always empowering. There is no such thing as negative gratitude. Sure, there’s false gratitude, but that’s not gratitude. Genuine, true, real gratitude is always positive.   Genuine gratitude is an expression of appreciation. Appreciation is a direct pathway to kindness, compassion, and empathy. Everyone, everywhere, desires kindness, compassion, and empathy (sometimes inappropriately jealously, which is how we get so many who want it but refuse to give it. But I digress). Kindness,

How is Love the Most Positive Emotion That There Is?

Because love is both bigger and simpler than you think and feel that it is. Shopping at the grocery store, I saw that all the Valentine’s candy was on display. Chocolate hearts everywhere. Valentine’s Day is my least favorite holiday. The reasons are many, and frankly inconsequential to this story – save one. Love is falsely represented by Valentine’s Day. How’s that? Everywhere you look, Valentine’s Day celebrates relationships, intimacy, romance, and various other notions of overblown, romantic love. It

Can You Practice Self-Care While Still Caring About Others?

Yes, you absolutely can practice self-care while still caring about others. I’d like to debunk a few myths here. First – self-care is NOT selfish. Period, end of story. Yes, elements of self-care might appear selfish from without. Saying “no” for your mental health, refusing to participate in the drama of others, and no longer doing things that hurt you mentally and emotionally will appear selfish to others. Note – true selfishness involves intent. Malice of forethought. An action taken

You Only Can Help You

You Can Only Help You It’s important to be there for your friends and loved ones…but this is more important. There is only one you. The only person who knows what’s best for you is you. Yet if you are a caring person, you are probably a giver. As such, likely you put yourself last. What’s more, it’s all-too-easy to believe that any other option is an act of selfishness. Of course you come last. Other people in your life,

Family Has Multiple Definitions

Family isn’t necessarily blood and can be a source of tremendous positivity. You were born into a specific family. If you are anything like me, they have some interesting quirks, foibles, and other oddities about them. As you grew up, you may have grown closer…or further apart. Don’t get me wrong, I love my family. For the most part, however, they’d don’t get me. I have taken many paths over the years that have confused and confounded them. My life,

How Does Love Matter?

Love is far simpler than we tend to make it. Storytellers across the ages have been informing us that love is this grand, complex, amazing thing.  And while it certainly can be, in truth it is much less grandiose. I have frequently written here about the ability we all possess to manifest the things we want in life.  We are, at our ultimate core, energy.  Energy vibrates at various frequencies.  Low frequency vibration draws low, negative things to us.  High

Ten Things Making Me Happy

In response to a great deal of awful things from the start of this year, I want to share with you ten things in my personal life that are making me happy. While Valentine’s Day is my least favorite holiday, the message of love it conveys is worth spreading.  Rather than keep it to one day designed to generate revenue for florists, chocolatiers and card companies, I think spreading love every day is a fine thing. Love begins with the

Will Your Path Make You Happy?

What is important to me is that I live a good life, and am happy more often than not. We all have different priorities.  Nobody’s emotions are exactly the same.  While we may give our emotions the same names, odds are how they feel to each of us differs. Taking that another step, what makes me happy is going to be different from what makes you happy.  Not just because of how it may feel differently to each of us,

Do You Love Yourself?

Do you love yourself? This is not a trick question.  How do you feel about yourself? Modern society tends to look askance at self-love.  Why?  Because our society frequently deals in extremes, and on this scale the extremes are selfishness and selflessness. A great deal of our fear-based society focuses on greedy, intolerant, ignorant, selfish people.  Government, religious and business leaders frequently show us exactly that.  Selfishness in the extreme, to the detriment of everyone else. Because that’s such a

What is Well-Intentioned Resistance?

As you walk your chosen paths, you will meet well-intentioned resistance. Well-intentioned resistance is when people give you news and information that is “for your own good” or to “tell it like it is” or to otherwise offer advice, in order to keep you from making “poor” choices.  This comes from those closest to you, and can be very disconcerting. Society has certain norms and expectations of us.  We are supposed to go through the motions.  You work five days

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