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How Does a Pathwalker Be a Giver?

Givers get as much as they give.

A lot of people do not recognize this for how powerful it is.  But the power of giving, when it comes from a place of abundance, actually creates more to be given.

Pathwalking is about finding the path for ourselves.  Taking control over our own individual destiny, making use of conscious reality creation to manifest the life we desire to live.

One of the key reasons behind Pathwalking, at least for me, is to make the best use of the skills I have.  I want to use my talents not only as a writer, but as an empathic intuitive to do some really cool things.

As such, there is a lot of giving involved in this.  I don’t just want to do the things I want to do for myself.  I want to share them.  To be a giver, I want to put myself out there to do what I can to make the world a better place.

We are living in particularly trying times.  There is a constant, seemingly never-ending flood of negativity, lack, and artificial competition washing over us through social media.  Resisting and countering this can be trying at best, and sometimes utterly exhausting.

Paulo Coelho wrote a book called Warrior of the Light.  I cannot recommend this book enough (alongside The Alchemist, which is one of my very favorite books).  The notion of a Warrior of the Light is very similar to Pathwalking.  It is full of anecdotes for how to achieve our individual destinies, and do good in the world.

I have often written about how Pathwalking is not a selfish act.  To properly define this, it is necessary to understand the fundamental difference between a giver and a taker.

What’s the difference between a giver and a taker?

I mentioned this briefly in this week’s Positivity post, but it totally bears repeating.  A giver will give their time, their energy, their assistance from a place of openness, abundance and a desire to make a difference.  This is sometimes great, and sometimes small.

A taker, on the other hand, takes the time, energy and assistance from others and hoards it.  They express no gratitude, and expect you to give them more and more, with little or no thought about anyone but themselves.  They also generally believe in lack, and that there is not enough to share with anyone else.  If they do give, they do so expecting something in return.

To be a giver requires a lot less than most people think.  Smile at a stranger.  Hold a door.  Let that guy into your lane on the road.  Seemingly insignificant bits, perhaps, but they add up, and they build positivity.  They also feel good to do.

Some takers are unintentional.  Upbringing, poor examples, various and sundry other issues.  Most, because they believe there is finite amounts of most things, take and hoard because they believe that if they don’t, there won’t be enough.  Takers are usually selfish.

This is why Pathwalking is not a selfish act.  Most of the people seeking to walk their own path in life and consciously create their own reality, are givers.  Why?  Because working in the here-and-now, as Pathwalking frequently requires, makes us more aware.  When we are aware, we see our impact on other people.  To manifest abundance, we need to think, feel and act on abundance.  This, frankly, makes us a giver.

Further, by giving, we tell the Universe that we believe there is more-than-enough.  A giver expresses their belief that because of the abundance in the Universe, you can share.

Being a giver is both tangible and intangible.

There are many tangible things we can give people.  Hugs, money, and numerous other items.  Most giving, frankly, is intangible.  Smiles, ideas, a shoulder to cry on, and so forth.

A lot of people see selflessness as this enormous, grandiose gesture.  The thing is, it can be.  But for the most part, it’s little things.  Being selfless means being a giver, and that takes much less than people realize.

My friend needs help researching something.  I provide a contact to someone with the knowledge to help.  A loved one needs to vent about a situation.  I call, and we talk.  You, like me, are trying to manifest your destiny.  I share my struggles and my path to help you work on yours. In all of these scenarios, I am not asking for anything in return.  There are no conditions associated with what I do.  This is what being a giver is all about.

This is one of the biggest and most important differences between a giver and a taker, the selfless and the selfish.  A giver seeks nothing in return.  A taker expects something for anything they give.  The selfless person gives because it feels good to give.  The selfish person might give, but they do so to prop themselves up somehow, and do so to gain something in return.

It is important, however, to recognize the difference between giving and sacrificing.  Giving is from a place of abundance, and is about sharing plenty.  Sacrificing is from a place of lack, and is about going without in order to let another have something.  Sacrificing is nearly as unhealthy at being a taker.  Sure, you give, but you then go without because you think there isn’t enough.  Going without to give is not healthy giving.

A giver recognizes an abundant universe.

I give because I believe that there is plenty where that comes from.  Whatever it is, tangible or intangible, giving makes me feel good.  It is a lot easier to find and walk any given path when I can share my work on it.  That is a big part of what giving is all about.

Givers get as much, maybe even more, as they give.

What do you do to be a giver?

 

This is the three-hundred-twelfth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas for, and my personal experiences with, walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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How Joy Empowers Us

Living in joy is the ultimate goal.

I don’t want to spend my time at a desk, working for someone I might not entirely respect, doing something that bores me.  Life is just too short for that.  Rather, I want to do something that makes me happy.

Have you ever been told that “You have to work for a living” or “you gotta do what you gotta do” or “you have to make ends meet” or similar?  Likely, I suspect you have.  How come we so readily accept that work should be joyless and soul-crushing?

Crossing the Bridges 51Think about it.  Even if you are not working at something that isn’t ideal, how many people do you know that do?  How many friends and loved ones complain more about where they work than not?

How come we accept this?  Why have we decided that it’s perfectly ok to spend the majority of our waking hours being unhappy?

Yes, we can argue about “responsibility” and “being an adult” and on and on.  But consider this: we are only in these bodies, on this planet, for about a century – give or take a decade or two.  While our essence is energy, and will not be destroyed when we pass away, in these meat-popsicles our time is finite.

Not only is our society fear-based, but it’s also lack-minded.  We are inundated with messages that there is not enough, that we have insufficient supplies, that things are lacking.  This in turn leads some to hoard all kinds of things, and deny others because of this mentality.

Joy is a matter of abundance.

The universe is abundant.  Despite our being constantly told that it’s not, it actually is.  We are capable of manifesting pretty damned amazing things, when we get out of our lack mindset.

This is something I have been working on for some time.  I tend to get caught up in the lack mentality, and because of this I have spent a great deal of my life indecisive.  I couldn’t decide what I actually wanted, so frequently made no choice at all.  In my possession are many old journals, where entries from my thirties are all about being down, lacking satisfaction and joy and so on.

For years, I would tell you that my theme song was U2’s I Still Haven’t Found What I’m Looking For.  This applied to my home, job, relationships, spiritual state, financial state, yadayadayada.  I complained a lot,  questioned everything, and felt very alone.

What changed?  I started to take action.  As I have mentioned many times, Pathwalking was borne of a New Year’s Action, to begin to write weekly.  From there, I began to take on this idea of conscious reality creation and making choices.  Lo and behold, I started to experience changes I wanted to see.

I got into a stable relationship.  There was a job I mostly enjoyed.  The SCA continued to provide me with an outstanding social outlet.  I was writing, and began to see works published.  I began to truly pursue my joy.

How come I didn’t do this sooner?  In part, because I believed when I was told “writers don’t make much money” and “you can’t make a decent living as a writer” and similar.  Most of these statements were made to me not maliciously, but “for my own good” and to help me make choices along the way.

Joy is too important to ignore.

We tend to give our pursuit of happiness and joy a lot less attention than we should.  We have accepted the narrative of our society that happiness and joy come in small doses.  While I acknowledge that it’s impossible to live in joy all the time, I still want to experience it more frequently than its negative opposites.

I know that I have to earn a living, that I need to contribute to society in a productive manner, and always strive to do my best.  What I do not accept is that I should spend most of that time discontent.  Must I accept that the majority of my day should be spent doing something that is unsatisfying, and leaves me unable to experience much joy?  I say no.

You can go ahead and call me irresponsible.  I accept that society largely will think I am crazy for working on conscious reality creation to manifest a joyful life.  But when all is said and done, the ultimate goal I believe everyone is in pursuit of is joy.

Changing the lack mentality and fear-based society we live in can feel really daunting.  This is why it starts with each and every one of us.  When I stop feeding the lack and fear machines, and instead empower the abundance and contentment engines, I believe I can help empower others.  It is not selfish to seek abundance and joy for ourselves when we act on sharing it.

Abundance for joy.

I am working on taking a new approach to my day.  When I start to feel like I am lacking, I will actively work on focusing on abundance.  I will use gratitude for the things I have, and see the abundances of my life.  Even the little, easy to take for granted things are a matter of abundance.  Rather than focus on things I don’t have, I will work on focusing on gratitude for the things I have.

Viewing the world as abundant instead of lacking is something we can all do to change it.  We can’t ignore the problems of the world, but instead of lamenting them, we can work on making our own individual lives abundant and joyful.  I think this is totally a worthwhile goal, don’t you?

As always, thank you for crossing the bridges with me.

 

GOAL LOG – Week 36:

Diet:  Mostly back on track, writing it out again.

Exercise:  Fencing two days, one day at the gym, one energetic hike.

Writing:  The three blog posts were done; a blog post to my author website; a couple days of writing in the sci-fi story.

Meditation:  Five of seven days last week, never less than 10 minutes.

Gratitude:  I was grateful for 5 things a day, over 5 days.

 

This is the fifty-first entry of my personal journey, the Crossing the Bridges series.  My collectively published writing can be found here.

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