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How Does Love Matter?

Love is far simpler than we tend to make it.

Storytellers across the ages have been informing us that love is this grand, complex, amazing thing.  And while it certainly can be, in truth it is much less grandiose.

I have frequently written here about the ability we all possess to manifest the things we want in life.  We are, at our ultimate core, energy.  Energy vibrates at various frequencies.  Low frequency vibration draws low, negative things to us.  High frequency vibration draws higher, positive things to us.

Like attracts like.  That is the Law of Attraction.  Yes, I know some people consider this notion to be total hooky-spooky, new-agey, hippy-dippy, crunchy granola bullshit.  Lots of different books and self-help and spiritual guides have been written about this idea, some more, some less credible than others.

LoveThe thing of it is, when you actually experience this notion for yourself, you can’t help but believe.  I have had too many experiences over the years where I know that I succeeded at consciously creating my reality.  I had a thought, gave it unwavering feeling, and took intentional actions that got me where I needed and wanted to go.

Pathwalking is taking actions to move the thoughts and feelings into reality so as to manifest what we want for our lives.  I have written before that I see three ways to live.  Be a passenger in the car that is life and life live you; curl up in a ball and await death; get behind the wheel of your life-car and take life out for a spin around town.  Pathwalking is choosing roads to traverse as you move through life.

Some days are easier than others.  One of the best ways to manifest our desires is to work with love.

Love is high frequency.

Returning to the notion of the frequency of vibrations, the highest frequency is love.  For many, though, this idea makes it seem largely unattainable.  I have a lot of single friends who lament that today is Valentine’s Day, and they haven’t anyone to love.  Except in reality, love is much easier to find and feel.

We have been led to believe that love involves choirs of angels singing and various other shenanigans.  But love is much, much more than that.  Love is in the people we call friends and family, pets, arts, and numerous every-day happenings.  Love is constantly surrounding us, but because we hold these oversized notions of what it can and should be, we frequently misunderstand it.

When closely into this, you will see that we choose to use a lot of alternative words and phrases to talk about love.  For example, The Force.   Yes, I know this is science fiction, but that doesn’t mean the message isn’t valid.  As Obi-Wan said of The Force, “It’s an energy field created by all living things. It surrounds us and penetrates us; it binds the galaxy together.”  This is a perfect description of love in its purest form.  It’s everywhere, all around us.  We just have to recognize and engage with it.

We live in a society that frequently focuses on lack, scarcity, and competition.  The truth is, however, that we live in a universe of abundance, plenty, and compassion.  Recognizing the high frequency vibration of love opens us to receive this message, and to create more incredible things.

Unfortunately, it’s all too easy to lose sight of this.  So much negativity, hatred, contempt, greed, and a lack of empathy is expressed all across social media, it can be discouraging.  But because like attracts like, we can change it.

You have more love than you realize.

Today is Valentine’s Day.  I am going to state, certainly not for the first time, that I am not a fan of this particular holiday.  One of the things I dislike the most about this holiday is the expectation of artificial acts and expressions of love.  This is not a one-day-a-year thing, love is everyday.

Love is a much simpler construct than we tend to recognize.  It is the sun warming the world; the rain watering the flowers; the wind billowing the sails; a song bringing tears to your eyes.  It is almost unimaginable how vast the concept truly is, and how much it encompasses.  Love is a force for creating Positivity.

You are loved.  Doesn’t matter if you are married, dating, single, whatever.  You are loved.  The Powers-That-Be helped your core energy into the meat suit you’re roaming the planet within because you provide a value to the world.  Maybe you know what it is, and maybe you don’t, but you matter.  You are loved.

When we better recognize that we are loved, we become better empowered to consciously create reality.  That is why love is the highest frequency we can vibrate at.

There is one really important thing I want to clarify here.  Many people will tell you that they have been hurt by love.  Love stinks, is blind, deaf, dumb, and infuriating.  The truth is, however, that love cannot be the source of hurt.  Feeling a lack or scarcity of love is where we find and create hurt.  Also, when we mistake other emotions such as lust, obsession, longing, desire, and worship for love, they can be sources of hurt.

Further, we have far more control over how we feel than we generally take.  We tend, however, to let things linger that we should let go of.

Love empowers.

We all have things happen to us along the way that will cause us to feel bad.  The severity of some of these things will also cause feelings to linger.  Some are easier than others to let go of.  But there are things that happen to us that make us feel deep sadness, which it can be difficult to shake for any number of reasons.

Love can temper this.  This is because love is an emotion of empowerment.  When you recognize that you are loved, you can employ this to feel better.  It is through feeling loved that we can overcome anything, whether it’s physical, emotional, or spiritual.  When we see that we are loved, we can move mountains.

When you see that love is unbelievably abundant, you can manifest just about anything you can imagine.

Do you recognize and know, really KNOW, that you are, in fact, loved?


This is the three-hundred-twentieth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas for, and my personal experiences with, walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

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How Do We Work Together?

We are stronger when we work together than when we work apart.

Pathwalking may be an individual act, but that does not mean it happens in a vacuum.  Humans are social creatures.  We have people whom we interact with every day on every imaginable level.  Working with each other instead of against one another can take us even further than we might hope.

Work TogetherModern society has an unfortunate tendency to work from a divide-and-conquer approach.  We are inundated with messages of lack, insufficiency, and competition.  We are divided along every imaginable line, from race to gender to height to religion to nationality to education, and any other trait you can conceive of.

Because of the pervasive messages of greed and hoarding, we find it increasingly hard to believe that this is an abundant universe.  When we are told over and over again about how we need to take for ourselves before this, that or the other thing runs out, we become divided further.

I have written before that Pathwalking is not a selfish act, but every path we may be taking is unique to us as individuals.  My paths are not your paths.  Certainly there might be similarities, but they are still not the same.

Most importantly here, though, is recognizing that as we walk our individual paths, and work towards our specific goals, we aren’t denying anyone else theirs.  Me acquiring the things I want from life doesn’t prevent you from doing the same.  That is what living in an abundant universe is all about.

Because we are stronger when we work together, we have the ability to offer each other assistance, support, and love along the paths we traverse.  This empowers all of us, and that is good for everyone.

Work together as individuals.

Celebrating our diversity is a good thing.  We are, each and every one of us, unique creatures.  We look different, we think, feel and act differently from one another.  Yet we are also social creatures, and we are abundant across this planet.

Our diversity is not something that should tear us apart, it should help us to work together.  Celebrating what makes us each unique is an opportunity to learn from one another, and to grow not only as individuals, but as a society.  Celebrating our diversity will let us work together more, and develop abundance.

We will always find things to disagree about.  Again, this is part of human nature.  Empathic people think, feel and act differently from non-empaths.  There are people who work from the heart, and people who work from the head.  People can be emotional, logical, illogical, and everything in between.  The number of things available to separate us are stunning, but are not greater than the number of things that bring us together.

How is that possible?  Because this is an abundant universe.  There is more than enough of all the things we desire.  Lack, greed and insufficiency sells better than abundance and prosperity for all.  I believe this is why we are so frequently bombarded by such.

I wrote about community recently, and how important it is to our wellbeing.  One the biggest and most important communities in my life has experienced matters that made us work together, and soon after new matters that tore us apart.  The former was empowering, despite the sadness and grief that brought everyone together.  The latter stoked anger, division, and intolerance, disempowering us.  Two extremes in far too short a span of time.

It is during these types of situations that we are sorely tested.

Work together as communities.

Why did we form a given community in the first place?  Yes, there are communities we are born into and others we move into.  But there are also communities we choose for ourselves.  Whether it’s a religion, a fandom or social community, those which we choose are chosen because they provide us with something we need or want.  That can encompass a lot of different things, of course.

No matter how much we hold in common, we will have disagreements.  People do stupid things.  Everybody, and I mean everybody, is perfectly imperfect in their own way.  There are times when it is necessary to counter things that happen, and demand action.  So long as there is inaction, protest and positive resistance are called for.

This can take time.  This can divide our communities in unexpected ways.  As such, it’s imperative to be mindful of our words, our thoughts, and our actions.  When we work together we can build better.  When we break apart, everything can, and probably will, crumble.

I am not in any way advocating for accepting something you disagree with.  What I am suggesting is that we need to be more mindful of dividing and tearing ourselves apart.  When we allow ourselves to be broken, we make it ever more difficult to empower, and to build greater things.

Is there a way to work together for change rather than be torn apart?  This is something all-too important that we do not give sufficient energy to.  Consciousness creates reality.  When we are aware, we can manifest almost anything we can imagine.

Be mindful.  Remain aware.  Work together when you can with as many as you can, and we can change the negative messages and make this world a better place for everyone.

Work together to raise frequencies.

The collective consciousness can draw in people who are not conscious creators.  That’s how we manifest things we don’t want, because our focus and attention is to negativity.  When we work together, we can build anything we can imagine.  Did Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. change the message of racial hatred and intolerance with division?  No, he did it by bringing people together.  Buddha and Jesus advocated inclusion and love for one another.  These greats recognized that when we work together, we can make the world a better place.

Choose wisely when you are faced with difficulties, no matter what they are.  Don’t let yourself be divided and conquered by life.

Who do you choose to work together with for the paths you are walking?

This is the three-hundred-eighteenth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas for, and my personal experiences with, walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

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What Do I Want To Give The World?

I want to give back to the world.

One of my greatest desires is to give something of value to the world.  Whether it’s entertainment in the fiction that I write, insight from this blog, lessons in medieval rapier combat, or a pun to make someone crack a smile, I want to be a giver.

GiveOne of the risks of this, though, is focusing more on giving than receiving anything in return.  When in the course of day-to-day life one needs to earn a living, this can present a particular challenge.

I am working on reconciling this idea.  How?  By seeing and acknowledging the difference between being a giver and taker.

This has been covered both in Positivity and Pathwalking this week, but to reiterate, giver’s give from a place of abundance, with no real expectation of anything in return.  Takers may give from time to time, but it is with a demand for something in return.

That something can take a bunch of different forms.  Money, favors, praise, etc.  A giver does what they do to assist, help, and often empower.  A taker does what they do to curry favor, gain for themselves, and usually in order to disempower.

Yes, I want to get paid to be a writer.  My books are not available on Amazon for free.  This in part because this is how I want to cross the bridges between writing for fun and writing for a living.  Writing for a living is still fun for me, but I’d like to earn money doing it.

I have studied some ways with which I could monetize this blog.  Yeah, I would really like to make some money writing these posts.  But it is more important to me to maintain my principles and be a giver.

To give is not to sacrifice.

I think this is one of the issues I have to work with.  I’m aware of a lot of artist types like myself that hold onto several beliefs about money and integrity.

That’s one issue.  The other is how often we are told that you can’t make money as a writer/painter/sculptor/actor and so forth.  Only the very lucky few, such as Steven King, Salvador Dali, Leonardo DaVinci or Will Smith make it big.  Everyone else is struggling.

Earning an income can be difficult in the best of times.  Job security is pretty laughable in this day-and-age.  Even people in industries known to make good money find challenges.  Taking that into account, trying to cross the bridges between where I am now and where I want to be, it comes as no surprise that I feel rather conflicted.

I want to give, but not sacrifice in the process.  This is why there are certain types of writing I only do for money.  There was a small magazine I wrote three or four articles for, to put my name out there.  Free press.  But after one of my articles was the cover story, I said, “Hey, I am a writer.  I don’t normally just give this stuff away, so please pay me.”  Suffice it to say, they didn’t want any more articles for me.

Did I sacrifice something?  Truth is, no.  Continuing to write without pay would have made me angry.  Sure, I would have gotten my name out a few more times as a published writer, but I would have sacrificed my time and my energy, and gotten nothing in return.

Does that make me a taker?  No.  Why?  Because this is not a matter of selfishness, it is a matter of self-care.

Selfish versus selfless is the difference between take and give.

Do you expect a plumber to come into your home, fix a leak, install a toilet, and not get paid?  Would you expect a doctor to perform a surgery on you free of charge?  Of course not.  So how come people expect artistic types to give away our work for free?

Yes, I want to give value to the world.  Yes, I want to get paid to do this thing I love.  How do I reconcile being a giver versus being a taker?  To a large degree, it all comes down to intent.

To receive fair value for services rendered is how our society works.  The problem comes in when we get confused between levels of value, fair versus unfair, and greed.  Presently, a great deal of what we see in regards to the wealthy is a staggering level of greed.  The unfortunate, unintended trickle-down from this is a blurring if the lines.

As such, wanting to receive fair value for my writing while still giving something back is not a selfish act.  It doesn’t mean I am ending my blog, nor am I about to start charging you to read it.  But in the process of consciously creating reality, I want to manifest a career as a professional writer.  This is my ultimate goal.

The why of my goal, however, is because I want to give something more to the world.  Whether I take you away to a fantasy world, make you laugh, or help you manifest a better life with conscious reality creation, it all is about my greatest desire to give.

Give from a place of abundance.  Do so with joy and passion.  Give because it feels incredible.  That is my intent in manifesting the life I most desire to live.

As always, thank you for crossing the bridges between my worlds with me.


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How Does a Pathwalker Be a Giver?

Givers get as much as they give.

A lot of people do not recognize this for how powerful it is.  But the power of giving, when it comes from a place of abundance, actually creates more to be given.

Pathwalking is about finding the path for ourselves.  Taking control over our own individual destiny, making use of conscious reality creation to manifest the life we desire to live.

One of the key reasons behind Pathwalking, at least for me, is to make the best use of the skills I have.  I want to use my talents not only as a writer, but as an empathic intuitive to do some really cool things.

As such, there is a lot of giving involved in this.  I don’t just want to do the things I want to do for myself.  I want to share them.  To be a giver, I want to put myself out there to do what I can to make the world a better place.

We are living in particularly trying times.  There is a constant, seemingly never-ending flood of negativity, lack, and artificial competition washing over us through social media.  Resisting and countering this can be trying at best, and sometimes utterly exhausting.

Paulo Coelho wrote a book called Warrior of the Light.  I cannot recommend this book enough (alongside The Alchemist, which is one of my very favorite books).  The notion of a Warrior of the Light is very similar to Pathwalking.  It is full of anecdotes for how to achieve our individual destinies, and do good in the world.

I have often written about how Pathwalking is not a selfish act.  To properly define this, it is necessary to understand the fundamental difference between a giver and a taker.

What’s the difference between a giver and a taker?

I mentioned this briefly in this week’s Positivity post, but it totally bears repeating.  A giver will give their time, their energy, their assistance from a place of openness, abundance and a desire to make a difference.  This is sometimes great, and sometimes small.

A taker, on the other hand, takes the time, energy and assistance from others and hoards it.  They express no gratitude, and expect you to give them more and more, with little or no thought about anyone but themselves.  They also generally believe in lack, and that there is not enough to share with anyone else.  If they do give, they do so expecting something in return.

To be a giver requires a lot less than most people think.  Smile at a stranger.  Hold a door.  Let that guy into your lane on the road.  Seemingly insignificant bits, perhaps, but they add up, and they build positivity.  They also feel good to do.

Some takers are unintentional.  Upbringing, poor examples, various and sundry other issues.  Most, because they believe there is finite amounts of most things, take and hoard because they believe that if they don’t, there won’t be enough.  Takers are usually selfish.

This is why Pathwalking is not a selfish act.  Most of the people seeking to walk their own path in life and consciously create their own reality, are givers.  Why?  Because working in the here-and-now, as Pathwalking frequently requires, makes us more aware.  When we are aware, we see our impact on other people.  To manifest abundance, we need to think, feel and act on abundance.  This, frankly, makes us a giver.

Further, by giving, we tell the Universe that we believe there is more-than-enough.  A giver expresses their belief that because of the abundance in the Universe, you can share.

Being a giver is both tangible and intangible.

There are many tangible things we can give people.  Hugs, money, and numerous other items.  Most giving, frankly, is intangible.  Smiles, ideas, a shoulder to cry on, and so forth.

A lot of people see selflessness as this enormous, grandiose gesture.  The thing is, it can be.  But for the most part, it’s little things.  Being selfless means being a giver, and that takes much less than people realize.

My friend needs help researching something.  I provide a contact to someone with the knowledge to help.  A loved one needs to vent about a situation.  I call, and we talk.  You, like me, are trying to manifest your destiny.  I share my struggles and my path to help you work on yours. In all of these scenarios, I am not asking for anything in return.  There are no conditions associated with what I do.  This is what being a giver is all about.

This is one of the biggest and most important differences between a giver and a taker, the selfless and the selfish.  A giver seeks nothing in return.  A taker expects something for anything they give.  The selfless person gives because it feels good to give.  The selfish person might give, but they do so to prop themselves up somehow, and do so to gain something in return.

It is important, however, to recognize the difference between giving and sacrificing.  Giving is from a place of abundance, and is about sharing plenty.  Sacrificing is from a place of lack, and is about going without in order to let another have something.  Sacrificing is nearly as unhealthy at being a taker.  Sure, you give, but you then go without because you think there isn’t enough.  Going without to give is not healthy giving.

A giver recognizes an abundant universe.

I give because I believe that there is plenty where that comes from.  Whatever it is, tangible or intangible, giving makes me feel good.  It is a lot easier to find and walk any given path when I can share my work on it.  That is a big part of what giving is all about.

Givers get as much, maybe even more, as they give.

What do you do to be a giver?


This is the three-hundred-twelfth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas for, and my personal experiences with, walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

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How Does Giving Create Positivity?

Giving is an amazing force for Positivity.

Some people go through this life and make accommodations for others, take time to help people in a myriad of ways, and do things for people without a second thought.  They are people who give time, energy and more, so that others may benefit.  They don’t even consider what they do to be giving.

GivingGiving is a powerful tool.  We have an amazing capacity to give on an incredible number of levels.  We can give both material and immaterial things that will change the lives of the people around us.  This, in turn, creates change in our own lives.

Often this is small.  You give someone a smile, a nod, a wave…and unknowingly brighten their day.  Sometimes it is larger, like a hug or a cup of coffee or holding open a door.  Once in a while this is tremendous, giving hours of your time for another’s benefit, donating blood, marching in a protest, or raising funds to help someone in need.

No matter the size or amount of effort involved, giving is a powerful creator of positivity.  We can give a piece of ourselves to help improve the lives of others in many ways, shapes and forms…and we can do so frequently.

Make certain before you give that you have the energy and wherewithal to give.  It is impossible to give when you are running on empty, lacking, and not feeling good about yourself.  If you are in a place of futility and frustration giving will not feel good.  You are better off making certain that you are giving from a place of abundance, in order to give in the most full and meaningful way.

Giving from a place of abundance matters.

It is important to be aware of how the act of giving makes you feel, and be certain you are giving and not sacrificing.  The universe is a place of abundance, and there is more than enough for everyone.  Thus, sacrifice is not a necessary component of giving and generating positivity.  When you sacrifice to give to another, you are empowering the lack mentality.  Consciousness creates reality, and going without in order to “give” creates more lack rather than abundance.

GivingSacrifice doesn’t feel good, and is very different from giving.  Where sacrifice is a message in lack, giving is a message of abundance.  It’s imperative to make certain that you give from a place of abundance, in order to give in the most full and meaningful way.  The act of giving should empower both you and the person(s) in receipt of your gifts.

It is also important when you are giving to know the difference between those who receive, and those who take.  When what you give is received with gratitude, positivity and goodwill are created.  When what you give is taken, and it is not considered adequate or sufficient and/or no gratitude has been expressed, negativity and resentment may be created.  You may feel emotionally depleted, and find not only that you are not creating positivity, but in fact generating negativity.

To give feels good.  It creates positive energy both for you as the giver, and the person in receipt of whatever you are giving.  Generosity creates feelings of gratitude, and that generates more positivity.

Finding positivity is not hard, but it does require action.

Knowing that giving can create vast amounts of positivity, you can make it a practice, great or small, to be a generous and giving soul.  When we give from a place of abundance, we feel more abundant, and thus empower ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we frequently spread that feeling to others around us; as such, we can build more positive feelings in the collective consciousness.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.


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What Is Reality?

Reality is how we perceive the world around us.  It both is and isn’t that simple, of course.

No less an authority than Albert Einstein said, “Reality is an illusion, albeit a persistent one.”  What that means is that what we perceive as our reality is different for everyone.

To me, this thoroughly supports the notion that consciousness creates reality.  Since the reality we perceive is completely individual, and a persistent illusion, isn’t it completely logical that we can create our own?

We can all agree that our perception of the world around us is what we name reality.  We can see it, smell it, feel it, touch it, hear it, even taste it.  Yet there is more to the world than just that which we can sense.  Everything is energy, and energy is constantly flowing all around us.  This is also, I would argue, real.

As children, we are less invested in accepting the reality we’re presented with.  How many kids have imaginary friends that are almost completely real to them?  The wonder that children view the world with, before we tell them the what of things, is impressive.  The world a child considers to be real encompasses numerous illusions that, as they get older and “educated”, fade away.

I am in no way saying education is bad.  Quite the contrary, the more we know, the more we gain.  The issue is not education, it’s losing a sense of wonder with the world around us.

So many people feel “trapped”, or “stuck” or otherwise held back from things they want by the reality they perceive.  They have lost sight of wonder and joy be becoming entrapped by a world they think is beyond their control.

Conscious reality creation transmutes the illusion.

I am always seeking new wonders in this world.  I love hiking in nature and coming across a beautiful, tree-lined path or rocky river offering me never-before-seen vistas.  It is from these experiences that I still believe in a wondrous world, full of endless possibility.

When we lose sight of that, and get caught up in the world as we currently perceive it, we are disempowered.  Once that happens, it’s difficult at best to move past, and regain a sense of curiosity and possibility for what could be.

Pathwalking is my ideal for creating a life I most want to live.  Rather than let the world as I currently perceive it be that which I live in, I want to consciously create a better reality.  It is my desire to change how I perceive my world, and manifest one more to my liking.

If this which I already perceive is but an illusion, then changing it is a matter of practice.  It’s up to me to change what I sense, and create something even better.

I know you might be thinking to yourself, what is it with this hooky-spooky mumbo-jumbo?  Einstein meant something totally different with that statement.  Sure, I’ll give you that is possible.  But then, consider this:

Just over a hundred years ago, the first commercial airline came into being. Horse drawn vehicles still outnumbered cars.  There were no satellites, cellular phones or fitness trackers.  That reality was long ago changed, arguably far more drastically than any prior hundred year period.  The illusion of our world shifted considerably into what we have today.

Anyone can change their world.  Anyone.  Some changes are going to be colossal, wide-ranging, and life-changing.  Most, though, will be individual, but could be equally life-changing.

Whose illusion of reality is it?

Relationships change our reality.  So do new places we live, jobs we work, and locations we visit.  How we each perceive these things is wholly unique.  The way I see the world differs from your way, or that of any other.

This is why we can choose our illusion.  You and I possess the ability to consciously create our reality.  When we empower ourselves, and recognize this for the truth, there’s a lot more that we can do than we currently believe there to be.

Unfortunately, one of the big challenges with this is our fear-based society.  Everywhere we turn we see lack, are told there is not enough, and that we need to be afraid of *insert racial group or religious entity or other nonconformists here*.  To add to this, whenever someone violates or otherwise does something that is not the “social norm”, we tend to scoff at it.  Rather than support the new, frequently we warn of dangers and pitfalls.

Everyone makes poor life choices.  This is part of the human experience.  Frequently, we believe that our choices are more limited than they actually are.  We get worn down by the lack and fear of our culture, and accept the illusion before us as truth.

The world has been changed before.  It will be changed again.  Change is inevitable.  We have the power within us to direct change, rather than be a pawn of it.  We do it all the time, but much of it we take for granted.

When you change your clothes, hair, job, or car, you alter the illusion of your reality.  It is a small alteration, but everything is built up from the small stuff.  If you find yourself dissatisfied with larger matters, you have the power to take control over it.

What do you want your reality to look like?


This is the three-hundred-sixth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas for, and my personal experiences with, walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

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The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

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How Do You Feel Positive?

You woke up today.  That is tremendously positive.

You have air in your lungs.  Your heart is beating.  You have thoughts in your head.  These are all filled with positive energy.

Positivity 191You are reading these words on a computer, tablet or phone.  The positivity of that is impressive.

It is very easy to forget that the positive exists in the smallest, most trivial things in our lives.  Just being alive and living every day is immeasurably positive.

I know that it can be easy to lose sight of this.  Reading the news will make almost anyone feel negative.  I know many people who are struggling with money, health, weight, relationships, work, time management, and other matters that make it hard for them to feel good about life.  It often feels as if the negativity outweighs the positivity, and that there is far more bad than good in our world.

I know it may not feel like the truth, but you and I can control this.  We get to choose, every day, if we want to let the negativity overwhelm us, or if we want to find positives in this world.

Feeling Positive IS stronger than feeling negative.

That feels like a lie.  Except, in an abundant universe, it’s the truth.  We are just so used to being inundated with negatives that it can feel like positivity is at a premium, and hard to come by.

This is why recognizing the positive in the small things that make up our everyday lives is so useful.  We are here.  We have choices each and every day.  Sure, there are times we get frustrated, and we are made to feel as though this life is pointless.  Except, I want you to know, it is not.

You are valuable.  You are important, and You matter.  This is the truest thing for you to know and recognize about your life.

We are energy at our core.  The entire universe is made up of energy.  From the smallest nanoscopic particle to galaxies across the cosmos itself, all of it boils down to energy.  Energy can neither be created nor destroyed, it just changes form.  Energy in its most raw form is neutral.  We get to choose if we want to generate the negative or the positive in our lives.

Feel positiveWe get to choose if we want to live in a positive world, or a negative one.  The decision to only recognize things that make us feel bad is really, truly up to each and every one of us.  It takes very little to find positivity…if you make the effort to do so.

We should not ignore that negative things happen.  There are things which we need to actively work to better and things we can do little to nothing about.  Sometimes we are going to feel negative about the world…but it is up to us whether we feel it, or choose to sink into it and let it overwhelm our senses.

I know that I prefer to feel good rather than bad.  I think it’s worth it to seek every possible way to make this so.  How do you want to feel?

Finding positivity is not hard, but it does require action.

Knowing that there is positivity in the littles, most mundane aspects of our lives, we get to choose if we want to acknowledge it or not.  When we seek out positivity in the little things, we can overcome the seemingly vast amounts of negativity the world presents us, and as such we empower ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings in the collective consciousness.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.


This is the one hundred ninety-first entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

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Who Gives You Permission?

You need nobody’s permission to walk your own path in life.

But you will receive an awful lot of advice, and help both useful and not from people.

When you decide to walk your own path, if, like mine, it is in any way unconventional, people will question it.  When enough people question what you have chosen, inevitably YOU will begin to question it, too.

We all have people in our lives who feel they have carte blanche in regards to advising and giving permission for us to live our lives a certain way.  Some are at a completely surreal level, so remote and removed from our lives that, truly, they have only as much power as we give to them.

A perfect example, and I mean this with no offense or disrespect, is God.  It does not matter if you view God from a religious standpoint of Judaism, Christianity, Islam or any other mono-theistic practice – some will argue you need his/her/its permission to do pretty much anything you might choose.  Without God’s blessing, some might argue, you have nothing.  Don’t even get me started on how some religious leaders will use some form of permission from God to oppress, be intolerant, deny science, or whatever meets their personal agenda.

This leads to the next surreal level, still remote and removed, where permission might be passed down or not.  Leaders in government, religion, and business love to tell us what we can and cannot do.  Sometimes they use the law to do this; other times they use tradition or obscure rules.  Many workplaces have specific rules about what we can and cannot wear, some of which is logical while some it just arbitrary and controlling.  For some, to feel empowered, they do all they can to disempower all others.

You don’t need to seek anyone’s permission.

The plain and simple truth is that when you are choosing your own path, you don’t need to seek anyone else’s permission to do so.  This is YOUR life, and nobody but you can live it.

Now we come to the people who are not-so-far removed.  Friends and loved ones.  The people who are directly a part of your life often feel they have every right to opine about your choices.

If what you are choosing is in any way unusual, people may feel the need to remark about it.  Unusual, by the way, is a loaded term.  For some it is about anything we choose that is well outside the norm, such as a career choice requiring some major life changes or a big move or doing something unlike anything you have done before.  For some, it’s as simple as not within their worldview perspective.

Everybody has a different view about how life works, yet we readily ignore this fact.  Since we are constantly inundated in our society with black or white, good or bad, either/or, up or down, Republican or Democrat, and nearly any other extreme you can think of – we find ourselves set in competition against one another.  Realistically, of course, the majority fall somewhere in the middle between any two extremes.

In many ways, because of this, people feel they have a duty to keep us in the expected path.  Society says you go to school, get a degree, get a job.  From there you get married, have kids, send them to school, then retire to a warmer clime.  Deviation from that path is deviant, and suspect, and you have permission to warn people when they stray.

Well-meaning permission changes nothing.

The thing is, because we all make our own choices in life, the only person we have to get permission from is ourselves.

Please keep in mind, I am not advocating for breaking any laws, outright anarchy, or blowing-off loved ones.  What I am saying is that you, and you alone, know what will make you happy in this life.  That being said, it’s entirely up to you to choose what will be best for you.

It can be very useful to get advice and consult with friends and loved ones.  It certainly is helpful when you have people to support you when you strive to take control over your own destiny.

I believe, to some degree, the need for permission comes from our childhood.  As children we have to get permission from our parents to do something different, to borrow the car, to stay out past curfew and such.  This gets so ingrained in us that we still feel an inherent need to seek permission when we take on something new and/or different.

Your path belongs to you, and you alone.  You may feel that you should get somebody’s permission to do whatever it is you are doing, but in truth, you don’t.  The only person who needs to approve of you and your life is you.

We are social creatures.  Even the most introverted still seek validation and comfort from without from time to time.  When our choices go outside of comfort zones, ours or those of others, it can be scary.  It can be pretty daunting, too.  Know that you are not alone, and you don’t need to get approved by anyone else.

Permit yourself to be all you want to be.

Our time on this planet is finite.  I want to experience it as fully as possible.  In order to do that, I am consciously creating my reality by making choices I intend to allow me to manifest a great life.  Even when I am faced with naysayers and well-meaning negativity, I know what I want to manifest.  I give myself permission to pursue my passion and strive to live my dream.

This, in turn, will not have a negative impact on anyone else.  The Universe is abundant, and my achieving goals will not deny anyone else the chance to do so, too.  There is plenty of what we want, since we all want different things.  We do not need approval or permission from anyone outside of ourselves.

Do you feel a need to get permission to walk the paths of your choosing?


This is the two-hundred ninety-ninth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas for and my personal experiences with walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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How Joy Empowers Us

Living in joy is the ultimate goal.

I don’t want to spend my time at a desk, working for someone I might not entirely respect, doing something that bores me.  Life is just too short for that.  Rather, I want to do something that makes me happy.

Have you ever been told that “You have to work for a living” or “you gotta do what you gotta do” or “you have to make ends meet” or similar?  Likely, I suspect you have.  How come we so readily accept that work should be joyless and soul-crushing?

Crossing the Bridges 51Think about it.  Even if you are not working at something that isn’t ideal, how many people do you know that do?  How many friends and loved ones complain more about where they work than not?

How come we accept this?  Why have we decided that it’s perfectly ok to spend the majority of our waking hours being unhappy?

Yes, we can argue about “responsibility” and “being an adult” and on and on.  But consider this: we are only in these bodies, on this planet, for about a century – give or take a decade or two.  While our essence is energy, and will not be destroyed when we pass away, in these meat-popsicles our time is finite.

Not only is our society fear-based, but it’s also lack-minded.  We are inundated with messages that there is not enough, that we have insufficient supplies, that things are lacking.  This in turn leads some to hoard all kinds of things, and deny others because of this mentality.

Joy is a matter of abundance.

The universe is abundant.  Despite our being constantly told that it’s not, it actually is.  We are capable of manifesting pretty damned amazing things, when we get out of our lack mindset.

This is something I have been working on for some time.  I tend to get caught up in the lack mentality, and because of this I have spent a great deal of my life indecisive.  I couldn’t decide what I actually wanted, so frequently made no choice at all.  In my possession are many old journals, where entries from my thirties are all about being down, lacking satisfaction and joy and so on.

For years, I would tell you that my theme song was U2’s I Still Haven’t Found What I’m Looking For.  This applied to my home, job, relationships, spiritual state, financial state, yadayadayada.  I complained a lot,  questioned everything, and felt very alone.

What changed?  I started to take action.  As I have mentioned many times, Pathwalking was borne of a New Year’s Action, to begin to write weekly.  From there, I began to take on this idea of conscious reality creation and making choices.  Lo and behold, I started to experience changes I wanted to see.

I got into a stable relationship.  There was a job I mostly enjoyed.  The SCA continued to provide me with an outstanding social outlet.  I was writing, and began to see works published.  I began to truly pursue my joy.

How come I didn’t do this sooner?  In part, because I believed when I was told “writers don’t make much money” and “you can’t make a decent living as a writer” and similar.  Most of these statements were made to me not maliciously, but “for my own good” and to help me make choices along the way.

Joy is too important to ignore.

We tend to give our pursuit of happiness and joy a lot less attention than we should.  We have accepted the narrative of our society that happiness and joy come in small doses.  While I acknowledge that it’s impossible to live in joy all the time, I still want to experience it more frequently than its negative opposites.

I know that I have to earn a living, that I need to contribute to society in a productive manner, and always strive to do my best.  What I do not accept is that I should spend most of that time discontent.  Must I accept that the majority of my day should be spent doing something that is unsatisfying, and leaves me unable to experience much joy?  I say no.

You can go ahead and call me irresponsible.  I accept that society largely will think I am crazy for working on conscious reality creation to manifest a joyful life.  But when all is said and done, the ultimate goal I believe everyone is in pursuit of is joy.

Changing the lack mentality and fear-based society we live in can feel really daunting.  This is why it starts with each and every one of us.  When I stop feeding the lack and fear machines, and instead empower the abundance and contentment engines, I believe I can help empower others.  It is not selfish to seek abundance and joy for ourselves when we act on sharing it.

Abundance for joy.

I am working on taking a new approach to my day.  When I start to feel like I am lacking, I will actively work on focusing on abundance.  I will use gratitude for the things I have, and see the abundances of my life.  Even the little, easy to take for granted things are a matter of abundance.  Rather than focus on things I don’t have, I will work on focusing on gratitude for the things I have.

Viewing the world as abundant instead of lacking is something we can all do to change it.  We can’t ignore the problems of the world, but instead of lamenting them, we can work on making our own individual lives abundant and joyful.  I think this is totally a worthwhile goal, don’t you?

As always, thank you for crossing the bridges with me.


GOAL LOG – Week 36:

Diet:  Mostly back on track, writing it out again.

Exercise:  Fencing two days, one day at the gym, one energetic hike.

Writing:  The three blog posts were done; a blog post to my author website; a couple days of writing in the sci-fi story.

Meditation:  Five of seven days last week, never less than 10 minutes.

Gratitude:  I was grateful for 5 things a day, over 5 days.


This is the fifty-first entry of my personal journey, the Crossing the Bridges series.  My collectively published writing can be found here.

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How does Pathwalking Help Other People?

You cannot help the world if you don’t help yourself.

Pathwalking is about seeking out your own destiny.  Walking your own path in life.  Pathwalking is about living life to the fullest, striving for the best experiences.

It can be very hard not to feel that this idea is selfish.  It is even more difficult when you see the state of the world today.  The constant deluge of information, specifically negativity, greed, and selfishness, can be disconcerting.

I try not to get political in Pathwalking, but I feel the need presently.  The so-called “Health Care” bill the US Senate has proposed is beyond horrific.  It’s the ultimate in selfish, greedy, surreal cruelty.  The ACA may be imperfect, but this “replacement” is nothing short of inhuman.  If this legislation passes, millions will needlessly suffer.

Why is this?  Because these people in power care for nobody but themselves.  I’m sorry if you find this generalization offensive, but that’s how I see this.

How come I am taking this unusual approach?  Because when we are inundated by news of unbelievable egotism, greed and indecency, it’s hard to see the line between self-care and selfishness.

Self-help is not selfish.

Doing things to take care of yourself is not selfish.  When we don’t put ourselves first, we leave ourselves with little, if anything, to give to anyone or anything else.

I understand this feeling all-too-well.  Knowing that we need to resist, to protest, to speak out against this ugliness, it feel like the self shouldn’t be a priority.  It’s even tougher when we have jobs and maybe employer health insurance and possibly even good health not to feel like we need to give more.  We have good things, shouldn’t we accept it as sufficient and keep giving more?

The simple answer is no.  If we are not completely satisfied with our own paths and self-care, we need to continue striving to help ourselves.  This works directly with the Law of Attraction, and conscious reality creation.  The more we have, the more we have to give.

I believe that it’s easy to tell the difference between self-care and selfishness.  How?  How it feels.

Self-Care is Abundance.  Selfishness is Lack.

When we take the time to live the best life we can, to be happy with who we are and what we do, we feel abundant.  We feel good, we feel positive, and when we feel that way we want to share.  That is what helping yourself with self-care feels like.  You want to give because you have more than enough.

This is not just about tangibles like time and money.  This is also about intangibles like friendship, love and support.  I share this blog because I don’t just want to find my own paths, I want to help you do the same.  If I help you in any way, I feel good about doing that.

Selfishness hoards your time, your money, your energy.  Being selfish means you feel like there is not enough.  You don’t want to share because you are afraid things will become depleted if you do.  Selfishness comes from fear, entitlement, and a feeling of insufficiency, among other places.  Selfish feels lacking, and cares for nobody else.

The ability to help others comes from abundance.

Plain and simple, you help because you have more than enough to do so.  Even if you do not have everything you need, or even want, you still feel abundant.  From that place of abundance you have the strength to give, to lend that helping hand.  That is why self-care matters.  You have to have enough for yourself to give.

If you are driving your car from one end of the country to the other, along the way you will need to fill the tank.  You can only go so far before your fuel is depleted.  This is completely true of the self, too.  When you don’t care enough for yourself, you deplete what you have, and won’t be able to give easily or joyfully to others.

Which leads to an important distinction.  Sacrifice.  Sacrifice is a lack mentality.  Why?  Because sacrificing says, “Since there is not enough, I will go without.”  If you deny your own good to do good for others, you will do less good than you desire.  If in the process of helping someone else achieve something you do not, that can build resentment.  Resentment in turn can lead to selfishness, because due to feeling lacking and previous sacrifice, now you feel a need to take for yourself and share nothing.  Hence, perpetuating lack mentality.

Compromise is not sacrifice.

Another important distinction needs to be made here.  Compromising means you accept certain conditions that may not be exactly what you want.  Yet, this is not due to feeling lack, but rather to satisfy some other condition.  For example, let’s say you and a partner agreed to sell something you jointly own.  You think the proceeds should be split 50/50, your partner believes they should get 70% of the profit.  You point out why the proceeds should be split evenly, your partner concedes only a little bit, but still believes they should get 65%.

Maybe you are right that things should be split evenly, and while you could argue and drag out matters, to keep the peace you decide to compromise, and accept.  You choose compromise because keeping the peace and being happy matters more than being right.  It might stick in your craw some, but in the end your choice will keep everyone happier.  This is also a matter of self-care, and something to consider when walking your chosen paths.

You cannot help the world if you don’t help yourself.  Self-care is not selfish, and allows you to have even more to give.  What matters of self-care have you done lately?


This is the two-hundred eighty-seventh entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas for and my personal experiences with walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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