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How Does Praise Empower?

Everybody likes to receive praise.

When you do a thing, and you do it well, receiving praise for it feels amazing.  It is incredibly empowering, and it serves as an affirmation of the choices you make along the way.

For whatever reason, though, our modern society eschews praise.  We have an almost surreal talent for criticism, but when it comes to praise, we seem to display something of an aversion to it.

PraiseI suspect that one of the reasons for this is because there is a backlash borne of false praise.  When we over-emphasize the celebration of mediocrity, and heap praise for simple participation, we disempower in the interest of inclusion.  We praise all, or we praise none.

Yet we are almost obsessed with criticism.  Now don’t get me wrong, there are situations where this is completely called for, like politics.  An example of where this is over-the-top is when it comes to celebrities.  There is an entire industry of media focused on what they wear, their level of fitness, whom they are dating, and so on.  Snarking at celebrities is accepted as the price they pay for being public figures.

Unfortunately, this carries over to everyone else.  People tend to criticize and comment on the people in their lives with far more negativity than positivity.  What we forget is that, while we don’t actually do these things maliciously, they impact the people around us and lower all of our frequencies.

Consciousness creates reality.  When you are focused on the flaws and negatives of the people around you, that is what you draw more of to you.  It does bounce back.  Heap criticism and comments at people, and they will be returned to you.  This, in turn, makes nobody feel terribly empowered.

Praise raises our frequencies.

Everything in the universe is based in energy.  All energy has a frequency.  Low frequencies are made of low feelings, low energy.  High frequencies are made of high feelings and high energy.  The low makes us feel bad, the high makes us feel good.

This is why praise matters.  A lot of work environments people experience involve trying to avoid criticism and disapproval, thus cultivating low vibrations and frequencies.  Avoiding getting judged by our bosses and coworkers is not empowering, and doesn’t feel good.

When we work in an environment where praise is given for jobs well done, achievements that are made, and good performance, we are empowered.  This type of environment cultivates high vibration and frequencies.  Working for reward is empowering, and feels good.

I can’t think of anyone who does not prefer to be rewarded over being penalized.  Being given an accolade feels good and empowers us to continue to perform at high energy.  When we receive penalties and judgements if we do not meet a given standard, we are disempowered, and likely to continue to find little or no satisfaction in what we do.

Is it easier to criticize than to praise?  No.  However, I think because a lot of energy was given to praising for simply participation and averageness, praise comes less easily.

Again, it’s important to look at our society.  Everywhere you look people are being criticized and judged for anything you can imagine.  While some is justifiable, like in the case of our government, much of it is not.  While the majority is not intended to be mean, it still lowers the vibrational frequencies of our energy.  Thus, we are great at making ourselves and others feel bad.

Like pretty much everything in the world, starting small can snowball.

Be aware of whether you are offering praise or judgement.

It starts with us.  How often do you wind up talking about someone you care about or love critically?  Does it come rather easily?  Is your criticism more observational than malicious?  How does it make you feel?

I love my friends and family, but I am frequently being critical of things they do.  It doesn’t come from a place of spite or intentional meanness.  I think it’s a matter of comparison to my own thought processes on a given situation.

The challenge is to be aware.  Oh, look, something else that comes down to awareness of the here-and-now.  When I am thinking about the people in my life, when I am critical of their actions, I am lowering all of our frequencies.  Ergo, it is up to me to consider this, and change my reactions consciously.

One of the best ways to do this is to find reasons and means to praise.  If I can offer praise I am raising all of our frequencies.  Praise makes everyone feel good, and when we feel good, we choose more wisely, and I believe consciously, our thoughts, feelings and actions.

Recognize false praise and constructive criticism.

Two words of caution here.  First – false praise.  Praising for mediocrity can be as disempowering as criticism.  Wow, you got out of bed this morning – good for you! is rather mocking.  This is where we lose the power praise can generate.  Praise can still be for simple things, such as you look good today or I like that shirt on you or you are raising incredible kids.

Second – constructive criticism.  This is a real thing, and can actually be empowering.  Criticism feels bad.  That pie you baked wasn’t very good makes you feel lousy.  Thank you for baking that pie.  Could I offer some flavoring suggestions? might still be awkward, but opens the door to dialogue rather than judgement.  There are times people need help to improve in some way or other.

Praise can be incredibly empowering.  When you are walking a path you have chosen for yourself, praise goes a long ways to make the journey better.  Consider how criticism and praise make you feel, be aware of how you are thinking and speaking about people around you.  Raise everyone’s frequency by offering praise.

Like I said in Positivity this week – You are amazing.  No matter if we know one another or not, I want you to know that I believe you are amazing, and can do incredible things.

What praise have you offered of late?

 

This is the three-hundred-fifteenth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas for, and my personal experiences with, walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

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Pathwalking 256

I will do what I have to do when and if the time comes.

In the meantime, I cannot live my life anticipating possibilities.  In especial, focusing on worst-case scenarios.  There’s a terrible idea – get fixated on awful, no good, scary things, and consciousness creates reality.

We are now living in particularly uncertain times.  We are witnessing an unprecedented situation in America due to our President-elect’s vast unpredictability, and his particularly vulgar, hate-spewing supporters (I am being specific here in regards to the KKK, neo-Nazis, various white-supremacists and other hate groups openly celebrating and feeling empowered).     There is an unbelievable amount of fear, concern, and hopelessness because no one knows if they’ll be interred, deported, lose their health benefits, retirement benefits, state aid, or be a victim of a hate crime.

A part of me feels guilty in continuing along my own path.  Shouldn’t I do something more?   Isn’t there something I can do to help people in this situation?  Is it totally selfish of me to continue as I’ve been?  Is it not more important that I seek to do something that will benefit others more than myself?

Well, the answer is yes and no.  Put simply, I cannot do anyone else any good if I am running on empty.  If I am not empowering myself how on earth can I empower or help anyone else?

These forces are all about disempowering us.  They want control, for themselves and a select few.  They want us fearful, powerless, and cowed.  They prefer us worried because in worrying we are more prone to chew on our fingernails and fret over what happens next rather than to take action of any kind.

Pathwalking is empowering myself.  I am making the necessary effort to expand my life and achieve my goals, the main one being to help inspire and empower others.

So while I may be feeling somewhat selfish in working on my own empowerment, I also recognize that if I do not empower myself, I can do very little for anyone else.  Coming from a place of strength and hope and positivity will produce vastly better results than coming from a place of weakness and fear and negativity.

Still difficult not to feel guilty about keeping focus on myself.  But this is not selfishness nor narcissism, this is working on my own self-love and self-respect, so that I can share that with others.

Despite all this uncertainty, for the most part life is unchanged.  In the world of social media and instantaneous information we are completely overwhelmed with a constant stream of negative information.  This terrible thing that awful business those atrocious people and so forth.  In the immediate here-and-now I still have to live today, and go to work and take various actions for my life experience.

There are actions we can take now.  We can express that we will be beacons of hope and light standing out from the darkness and despair.  We can call our Congresspeople and remind them that we are who they actually are supposed to be working for, and that we would really prefer they help us.  We can stand together, ignoring race and gender and sexual orientation and religion and skin color, and show them we will not be intimidated.  We can write blogs about finding our own empowerment, and show them we will not be victims.

I think to some degree our present matters are due to people living in the past, real or imagined, fearful of the future, uncomfortable with progress they think is leaving them behind.  But each and every one of us can be accountable for our own thoughts and feelings and actions, and we can choose to work in the here-and-now to empower ourselves, do what we can and be prepared without being intimidated.

I am grateful for my life.  I have fantastic friends and loves, a roof over my head, technology at my fingertips, abundance and stability.  If and when these things are threatened I will take action, but right here, right now, they just are.  Rather than allow myself to be swept up in the tide of negativity with my own negativity, I need to be empowered so that I can share that with you and everyone.

Empowerment of the self is in no way selfish, it is akin to weightlifting at the gym.  When you are empowered, you are stronger spiritually, and when your spirit is strong you can do more for yourself, and for those around you.  As such I can and must continue to walk my paths, because anything else would be denying my empowerment…and that’s precisely what they want.

It is not selfish to live in the now, and to be focused on things that will empower.  I encourage you to remain vigilant, but don’t get so caught up in the dark possibilities that you help collectively manifest them.  The anti should be met with the pro, negativity with positivity, hatred with love, disempowerment with empowerment.

Stay strong.  Stay grateful for what you have, but don’t deny what you are working towards for fear of uncertainty.  The future is not yet written, and we cannot live in it or be fearful of it.  We need to be stronger than that, we need to be empowered and to know that we can still choose our own way.

Here and now be prepared, but be present.  My paths are many, and in empowering myself to walk them so are the possibilities.

What are you doing for your own empowerment?

 

GOAL LOG – Week 46:

Diet:  I’ve gone a bit off the rails.  I am eating too much and more poorly.  Need to reign this back in.

Exercise: Fencing happened once last week, and I spent more-or-less a whole day on my feet as well.

Writing:  The three blogs got written.

Meditation:  I meditated only on 1 day last week, for 9 minutes.

Gratitude: I wrote five or six things I was grateful for two days last week.

I am striving to get back on this.

 

This is the two-hundred fifty-sixth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas and my personal experiences in walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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What do you do when you reach a dead end on the path you’re traversing?

This doesn’t happen too often, but from time to time you may find that the path you are on has not only forked, but actually ended unexpectedly.

Why?  How does a chosen path simply come to an end?  The universe works in mysterious ways.  You get laid off from the job where you were seeking that promotion; or you wreck your knee and need to get surgery; or your house burns down; or some other, utterly unpredictable matter occurs and the path you were on becomes moot.

So what do you do?  What keeps you from giving up on trying to walk your chosen path and just giving in and letting life live you?

Perseverance is needed.  I have stated before that we have more than one path in this life.  Further, we are often on multiple paths at the same time.  Just because a chosen path has become a dead end doesn’t mean we should give up on Pathwalking.  It just means that we need to rethink our position and consider where to go from there.

Maybe the path you have chosen is too specific.  For example, that promotion at your job.  Yes, it may come with a big raise and more vacation time and other perks, but what if instead of focusing on that promotion you focused on the bigger picture.  A better job with more money and other perks.  When you limit the vision to narrow focus, like a promotion at your current job, instead of opening the way to wider possibility, you might inadvertently set yourself up to hit that dead end.

Change is scary.  Small changes are less scary, but still disconcerting.  We as a species are huge fans of comfort.  Soft clothes, warm rooms, the touch of loved ones, the old familiar things.  This is part of why we sometimes get caught up in a fervor for the past, in especial when we remember it as more perfect than it was, or even idealize it as something that we don’t realize never existed.

Thus when we reach a dead end, it’s tempting to retrace our steps.  The thing is, we need to always keep moving forward.  You can’t undo what is done, you can’t rebuild what has transpired in the past, you have to focus on the now and keep moving forward.

This is another reason why we might encounter a dead end:  We get so narrowly focused on the end result that we miss signs in the here and now.  This is almost literally ignoring the “detour” and “road closed ahead” signs along the path, until you reach that dead end and wonder how and why you got there.  If you had been more aware of your surroundings and the here-and-now, you may have been prepared to change your path, or to plan alternatives.

Rather than turn around and retrace our steps, it is best if we reach that dead end to pause.  Get clear on where you are, right at the moment of reaching that end.  Look for the positive in why this path is closed to you.  Figuratively, maybe there was a cliff because the bridge you intended to cross is out, and you might have walked right over the edge were it not a dead end.

Literally, maybe the company you have been working for is doing some less-than-legal things, and getting promoted and remaining there means you may have gone down with the ship when they were investigated by a federal agency.  Maybe damaging your knee now prevented you from a far more serious and irreparable injury.  Maybe the house may have burned to the ground in the middle of the night, with you and your family within it.

It is often hard to see the good in these situations, in especial when you were anticipating the win that was the end of the path.  Why did this happen to me?  How did I miss it?  You begin the rounds of remorse, self-recrimination, self-pity, and other negative feelings that of course don’t serve you.

It is very tempting to go back, retrace your steps, and try to figure out what went wrong.  I acknowledge that it’s healthy to analyze the how of your situation, but often we wind up backtracking, and possibly trying the same thing again, but from a slightly different angle.

If you find yourself at a dead end, you need to get as totally into the present as you can.  Focus on the here and now, focus on your breathing and your thoughts and feelings, and consider what you want.  Why did you choose this path?  What was the goal?  Was the goal too narrow?  Did you focus so tightly that you missed the signs?  What are your options?  What new paths can you choose to explore?

I’m sure it comes as no surprise that this is easier said than done.  We want to know and understand the how and the why of our dead-ended path.  This is not necessarily a bad thing to explore, but you need to avoid getting caught up in it to the exclusion of seeking and starting along a new path.

Last, but not least, let’s talk about the outside influences and the matters beyond our control.  We really only have control of our own individual lives.  I alone am accountable for my actions, my thoughts, and my feelings.  Though at times outside influences can “make” us do and feel and think things, we still choose to allow that.  The truth is that when all is said and done, this is wholly ours, and ours alone.

The dead end may be the result of an outside matter beyond my own control, but I, and I alone, can think about it, understand my feelings in regards to my situation, and take action to move beyond it.

There are ALWAYS paths available to us.  Sometimes they come easily, and sometimes they require more thought and exploration.  But we are never without options.

What will you do if your path comes to a dead end?

 

GOAL LOG – Week 45:

The goal log has not been maintained over the last week and a half or so.  I am remedying this currently.  Stay tuned.

 

This is the two-hundred fifty-fifth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas and my personal experiences in walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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We are not in competition.

I have written about this before, but given the monstrous, and seriously ugly, conclusion of the race for the Presidency, it bears repeating.

We all got swept up into this thing.  Whether because we read the news and supported or didn’t support a candidate, or if we were simply drawn into the current by unavoidable conversations, posts on social media, and so forth, we all found ourselves looking differently at one another.  We found ourselves competing over matters both great and small, but which, when all is said and done, we have limited control over.  We may have called it an election, but it really was a great big, unpleasant, divisive competition.

I didn’t compete with anyone.  Maybe not directly, no, but indirectly, yes, we kind of did.  This election was so incredibly divisive that we almost took glee in watching one or the other flounder during the process. Many got angry or discouraged or depressed by friends, family and coworkers who did not take the same view they did, and now, this being over, we need to set this aside and work together again.

That’s the trouble with this nature of competition.  It is utterly and completely artificial.  We were inundated with messages of choose me or your way of life and that which you hold dear will be no more.  People became fervent believers that if their choice for office lost, we would all be lost.

The thing is, despite unpleasantness as a result of the election, whether real or perceived, we are not actually in competition.  What we are faced with is being the unwilling participants in a game of divide and conquer.

That’s why those striving to attain “power” set us up in competition.  Divide, and conquer.  When you pit everyone against everyone, you set up competition, even where none actually, factually, exists.

I ideologically disagreed with the one side, and feared for our nation’s wellbeing.  I was afraid of that corrupt person scoring the win, and ruining the country.  It had nothing to do with me.  Except, truth be told, it had everything to do with us as individuals, because they set us to competing with one another.  And this was a truly abhorrent, contentious process we were put through for months and months.

It is time to change our mindset, and to realize that we are not in competition with each other.

First, let me state for the record that not ALL competition is bad.  Hey, sports are a thing, games and activities where someone wins and someone loses help build character and can stimulate growth.  In those very specific contexts, competition is a fine thing.

When it comes to our individual lives, and living them to the best of our abilities, we are not in competition.  Yes, we might all want to be living in abundance, and we certainly all want to be content and even happy with our lives.  But the form that this takes varies quite a lot between each and every one of us.

I have chosen Pathwalking as a means to manifest the life I want most for myself.  It’s not just a quick-fix process that will ultimately allow me to reach my goal, but it lets me be in control of my own destiny.  I am choosing for myself what I want, and I am working in that context to get myself there.

The things that make me feel content, the things I want and the experiences I wish to have are not going to be the same as yours.  Sure, there may be parallels, even some outright similarities, but that doesn’t limit any of us.  This is an abundant universe, and everything we want and need is out there, we just need to stop competing with each other and align our thoughts, feelings and actions to draw things to us.

This takes work.  It requires practice to get it right, but it is totally worth it.  Thus far, it doesn’t work for me every time, but that’s due to my own inability to get my thoughts, feelings and actions totally in alignment, not due to lack or competition.

There are going to be some very angry, very depressed, very let-down people out there today.  They will feel that they lost.  They may be afraid for the future, possibly in a personal level and possibly on a grander scale.  The results of the election will be felt around the world, because not matter the outcome the divisions it either created or exposed or enhanced won’t just fade into the background without work.

That work begins by recognizing that we are not in competition.  That begins with each of us.  We get to choose whether to work for the things we want, or against those who have the things we don’t want.  Consciousness creates reality, so if we focus on what we don’t want, the odds go higher that we might just get it.  We need to work on not competing, on seeing this country, this world, this universe as a palace of abundance rather than a place of lack.  We need to stop widening gaps between us, and build bridges instead.

We are thus empowered.  We are not in competition.  Consider that when you face your day today, whether you are feeling victorious or defeated.

Do you believe in lack or abundance?

 

This is the two-hundred fifty-fourth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas and my personal experiences in walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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There are always going to be days where it feels like it just does not matter.  But they are a lie.  It matters.  YOU matter.

I have those days when I get out of bed, and no matter how much sleep I have gotten I am still feeling totally wiped out.  And no matter how much coffee I consume, I still feel like I would much rather crawl back into my nice warm bed and sleep more.  Of course, this would be pointless, since once I am up and getting onto things, I am up and getting onto things.

Then what’s worse is when you get nothing but negative reinforcement.  Reading social media of late has been a real landmine.  Greed, violence, threats of disaster and warfare and a truly ugly election are just infuriating, maddening, and hugely upsetting.  I know I start to feel overwhelmed, and like no matter what I do, it just does not matter.

But it does.  It really really does.

Whether or not you believe this – you matter.  You are important to me, whether or not I know you.

Give me a break.  You’re just saying that.  No, I’m not.  It’s true.  You matter to me.  You are important to me. I care that you are out there, whether or not I know you.

Why?  Because I may not know you, but I know your intent.  I know that you, like me, are seeking to find your own way in life.  It may not be an every day activity, it’s most likely not in the way I am doing it, nor the same as the life I am seeking to create for myself; but I know that what you want is to have a life where you find contentment, satisfaction, and if at all possible happiness.

Unless you are a sociopath or some other type who enjoys pain and suffering and wants to see the world burn – you are also striving to live your life in the best way you can.  You don’t want to hurt people, you don’t want to be a burden on society, you don’t want to struggle to make ends meet, you want to have the things and people and experiences that appeal the most to you.

What you want may have some similarities to what other people want, but probably they vary rather a lot.  Every experience we have, no matter how similar it may be, is always unique to each and every one of us.  You want your corner of the universe to be what you want it to be.

That’s the way it is for everyone.  No matter how much we disagree, no matter how widely our opinions vary, that’s what all of us want.  Unfortunately, some see the world as full of lack, and being a place of competition; and that is why they so closely guard the things that they see as being theirs.  This is why homophobia, racism, sexism, misogyny and hatred come out as they do.  They are borne less of a place of malicious intent and more from a place of fear of losing what you already have to the unknown, the unfamiliar, and the dissimilar to you and your own way of life.

You are deserving of the good things you want.  You deserve to have the life you crave.  You are worthy.  You matter.  What you want matters.  What you think matters.  To me, you matter.

Look, we all think differently.  We all process information differently.  Of course we find people who have similar views and approaches and methods, but they still differ.  Even utterly identical twins are not the same as one another in every way, they are still individuals.  One of the ways we form the communities we do is so that we surround ourselves with like-minded individuals.  But we are all different, none-the-less.

Everybody matters.  We live in a universe that is abundant, not lacking.  When we buy into the lack mentality, when we begin believing that there is not enough and that we have to struggle to find our equal share of the pie, we contribute to that negativity, and it makes us feel bad.

I get sucked into it, too.  It’s really hard to stay in the know about what’s going on out there, and not get overstimulated.  So much bad news, so much negativity.  People we consider friends, coworkers and family are being thrust into opposing corners by the divides created by lack mentality.  The reality of the whole “Us versus Them” mentality is that when all is said and done, it is really “Us versus Us.”  No one is lesser, no one is unimportant, when all is said and done, we all matter, even when we believe different things.

Some days I know how much you struggle to just keep going.  I’m with you.  I go through those days, too.  You matter.  And I would bet that you matter to more people than just me.  But more than that, you matter.  Your hopes, dreams, aspirations and very existence matter.  That’s the truth, plain and simple.

We live in an abundant universe.  I know that seems like it’s not true all too regularly, but I assure you, it’s true.  This life is precious, you are precious, and you matter to the Universe, no matter what your lot in life is, what struggles you endure, or what you have to go through.

Thank you for being.

Do you realize that even if you disbelieve, you DO matter?

 

GOAL LOG – Week 43:

Diet:  Still going pretty well.

Exercise: Fencing happened once last week, but I didn’t get to the gym.  I did, however, take a walk around my neighborhood and get exercise on two other days, for four total.

Writing:  Just the three blogs got written.

Meditation:  I meditated on 4 days, at least 5 minutes each day.

Gratitude: I wrote five things I was grateful for three days last week.

Must strive to get back on track with these goals.

This is the two-hundred fifty-third entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas and my personal experiences in walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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It’s not that there always needs to be a fixed destination.  Life is about the journey, after all, so it is certainly both logical and even necessary that from time to time you walk a path, but the goal is not wholly clear.

Yes, it is important to have an idea, to have a plan.  But sometimes there are days where you just are on the paths, walking along, and though you have an end goal in mind, it is far out of sight.

Like any good TV show with an over-arching plot, there will be episodes where the plot is very clearly being driven forward.  But then, once in a while, they throw one in that just stands alone, but hardly touches the overall plot.

We all have days like this.  Days where we just go.  Doesn’t feel like we’re really moving along, per se, but there you are.

The thing is, this is perfectly normal.  Every single day can be luminous and exciting and full of change and discovery and learning and growing.  But then, some days, you simply be.

That’s the important takeaway here.  I think that as a society we have forgotten how to simply BE.  I mean, just in this moment, this very second sitting here reading these words, just BE.

What does that mean?  That’s the part that has become rather ill-defined, I think.  What does it mean to just be?

First – it means rather than looking back where you came from, or looking ahead to where you are going, you just relish the here-and-now.  Live in the moment, be completely present at this very juncture, and experience what’s going on around you.

We give surprisingly little attention to the here and now.  How often do we coast through our day, focused on deadlines and after-work or after-school plans, or meals, or watching the show later, or even snuggling in bed with a pet or book or loved one?

Where are you, right now as you read this?  What do you feel?  What do you see?  What do you smell?  What are you sensing in your immediate surroundings?  Is this a familiar, regular place where you spend a great deal of your time?  What are you currently thinking?  What are you currently feeling?

It amazes me how easy it is to be caught up in what’s next more than what’s now.  As I am typing out these words, I am playing my favorite Writer’s mix off iTunes.  The allergy med I took hasn’t kicked in yet, so I’m sniffling a bit.  I smell the coffee I brewed.  The sky is getting brighter as the sun is coming up over the trees outside, which are either colorful, or leafless as autumn is winding down.  I am wearing my favorite flannel shirt, which is so very soft.  I am feeling content, contemplative, and empowered as I work.

That was a moment in time where I allowed myself to simply be.  I looked around my desk and the room and soaked it in and relished that moment.  It was nothing profound or earth-shattering, it just was a moment I was being.

Yes, I need to finish this up so I can jump in the shower, get my lunch prepped and head off to work.  I’ll contend with the usual traffic, and I know that there are a number of things on my plate that need to be taken care of throughout the day.  But that doesn’t mean I shouldn’t take time to enjoy moments of just being.

When we become completely conscious of where we ARE, versus getting caught up in where we were and where we need to be or where we are going, we will actually struggle less with stress and anxiety because we better connect with ourselves.  Thinking too much on the past or too far into the future disempowers us, because we allow ourselves to get lost in regrets, concerns, second-guessing actions and choices we have made or are making.

Lao Tzu is credited with saying, “If you are depressed you are living in the past.  If you are anxious you are living in the future.  If you are at peace you are living in the present.”   I find that when I take the time to BE, in the present, I get a much better handle on depression and anxiety.  I become truly empowered to see the world around me in this moment, and bask in the glory of being.

I am alive.  I have a job, I have a roof over my head.  I have loved ones and acquaintances and animals to share my being with.  I am not my past, I am not my future, I am me, here and now, as I am.  This is both unbelievably simple to grasp, and yet surprisingly complicated to accept sometimes.

The other cool thing about just being, I find, is this:  Take a moment to look around you.  Really look around your space.  Don’t just use your eyes, use all of your senses.  See if you can find something you have not noticed before.  It doesn’t have to be grand, it could be a splotch on the wall, a color in a print you previously just glanced over, the writing on a pen.  This might be something that has been there all along, for days or weeks or even years, but in the here and now you are finding something new about it.

That is what makes just being so powerful.  When we are present, in the moment, there are unexpected wonders to discover.  When we simply be, we are completely empowered, and we gain insight that will ultimately benefit the paths we are walking.

Do you see how empowering simply ‘being’ can be?

 

GOAL LOG – Week 42:

Diet:  Still going pretty well.  I still need to work on portions, however.

Exercise: Fencing happened three times last week, and I got to the gym twice.

Writing:  Just the three blogs got written.  I really need to give more time to this particular habit.

Meditation:  I meditated only on 3 days, at least 4 minutes each day.

Gratitude: I wrote five things I was grateful for five days last week, and six things once.

 

This is the two-hundred fifty-second entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas and my personal experiences in walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

Pathwalking 251

Consciousness creates reality.

I write that a lot.  Why?  Because this is the truth.

Consciousness creates our reality.  What we concentrate on, give thought and feeling and energy and action to, we create.  We manifest things into our life, and we build or destroy our personal world.

I know that for a lot of people this seems like total BS.  We live in a world that seems to be beyond our control.  We didn’t manifest our debts, our illnesses, the politicians or any of those things.  Except…truthfully…yes we did.

How?  Because when we do not consciously work to manifest, we do so on the subconscious level.  The Universe doesn’t recognize don’t and not and no and other negative statements, it recognizes what you are putting your focus onto.

The Powers-that-be only recognize you are putting thought and feeling into things.  So when you are focusing on negative things, and the things you do not want, unless you consciously work to do otherwise, you are likely to get those negative things in some form or other.

It is easier to consciously create than subconsciously create.  That’s why it takes more time and seems less obvious when we subconsciously create things we don’t actually want.

As a society, we want people to simply go with the flow.  We want to follow the expected patterns and “adult” if we want to have things and be accepted in our community.  This is why we have only two major political parties in the US, because somewhere along the way in our history we just accepted this as being the norm, and unchangeable.  This is why we still have major issues with racism and sexism and other matters of equality in this country…because there are still whole communities who hold onto their way being the only way, the way it has always been, and damn anyone who tries to change it.

Have you ever noticed that more often than not our news and media outlets use sensationalism to get us to read their stories?  They provide us with an outrageous headline to grab our attention, and then more often than not inundate us with vast amounts of negativity.  If you really look at the articles that are produced out there, how many take a negative slant versus a positive one?

What’s my point?  When we allow ourselves to be barraged with these negative messages, and we read and seek more of them out and then share them, we contribute to the group consciousness.  As such, we tend to unwillingly draw matters into our lives that we probably don’t want.

Because we focus largely on huge matters, beyond our own day-to-day lives, we let our subconscious create reality.  I read that report, and it got me really angry.  My friend shared that meme and it made me feel really sad.  All I see is war and devastation and greed, is that all there is in this world?  I am totally selfish if I am not also lacking, right?  Guess what sort of reality this subconscious thinking is going to create?

How do you get clear of the group think?  How do we not let our subconscious create reality?  By being conscious of what we want to create.  We can’t focus on what we don’t want, we need to focus on what we DO want.  We have to change our frequency to shift out of the group conscious and move from subconscious to conscious creation.

Shift our frequency?  The Universe is made entirely of energy.  Everything at its root is energy.  That includes me, you, clouds, planets, galaxies and such.  That’s just the visible stuff.  Beyond that is a world of radio frequencies and infrared light and air and other unseen energies.  All energy vibrates at a frequency.  Like attracts like.  Change the vibration, change the frequency, change what you attract, change the reality you are creating.

I know many people who see this as hooky-spooky bullshit.  I, however, believe, because I have seen too much proof that this is not hokum, that this really is how the universe works, and that consciousness can create reality.

You get that money to cover that problem at the last minute because you put all your intention into getting that money.  You don’t get sick when everyone else gets the flu because you focused on and only saw yourself as being healthy.  You attract a person to you that you want to be intimate with because you focused on feeling what it would be like to be with them.  Conscious effort into our thoughts, feelings and actions really can create our reality.

I would like to challenge you if you disbelieve.  Focus on something small.  I don’t know what, but it should be something believable to you.  Don’t just pay it lip service, don’t approach it with sarcasm and snark.  For example: let’s say you want to find a five dollar bill in an unexpected place.  Well, think about it…feel what it will feel like to find it, imagine and really get grateful for finding it.  You have to believe that it is already in your possession, that you have already found it and that it will simply appear.

Your inner skeptic has to be silenced for this to work.  If you hold onto even the slightest doubt about the notion of consciousness creating your reality, in all likelihood you will prove yourself right.  You won’t create this thing, and you won’t have anything but further proof that this is all a bunch of hippy-dippy crap.

Let me offer you one further challenge.  Why not try conscious reality creation?  If you are not happy with your life, if you are not where you want to be, what harm is there in trying to be conscious of what you manifest?  I know that I prefer to be in the driver’s seat when it comes to MY paths.  So I continue working on conscious creation.

Would you rather take control of your reality and manifestations and create subconsciously or consciously?

 

GOAL LOG – Week 41:

Diet:  Still going pretty well.

Exercise: Fencing happened once last week, and I got to the gym twice.  I also spent a day on the golf course of all things.

Writing:  One day of writing, plus the three blogs.  I really need to up this particular habit.

Meditation:  I meditated only on 2 days, for 7 minutes both times.

Gratitude: I wrote five things I was grateful for five of seven days last week.

I am still adjusting my schedule.  Attempting a new habit/pattern is proving a tad more challenging than anticipated.  Work in progress.

 

This is the two-hundred fifty-first entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas and my personal experiences in walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

Pathwalking 250

Decide to decide.

I cannot tell you how many times in my life I have found myself at some crossroads or other because I refused to decide to decide.

Decision making is only challenging if you choose for it to be so.

For a lot of my life, I was the King of Indecision.  I totally should have bought myself a crown.

When I made the decision to take action for the New Year, nearly five years ago now, it wasn’t just lip service or a soft, easily neglected resolution.  I chose an action, and I took it.  I made a plan, I spelled it out, and I acted upon it.

Creating and maintaining Pathwalking has been one of the best things I have ever done for my life.  I continue to share my journey because, despite bumps and twists and turns and changes of direction along the way, I continue to learn and grow and find more happiness in the life I want to live.

When I was younger, I tended to fear that if I made the wrong decision, I would regret it.  What if I chose to commit to her, and someone better comes along?  What if I move here, but I get a job offer there?  What if I take this job, when I should have taken that job?  And so on and so forth.

As such, I frequently chose not to decide.  I would hmmmm and haw for a while, and then either make no clear decision at all, or wait until the decision was somehow made for me.

I know there are people in this life who do well letting others decide for them.  Or simply going with the flow and not having to choose between many different things.  If you can have and be happy in that sort of life, more power to you.

Because I decided on more than one occasion not to decide, I sometimes have wondered just what I missed out on.  No regrets, per se, just considering the things I could have done but didn’t because I made no choice or didn’t reach a clear decision.

The thing of it is, by-and-large, no decision is permanent.  No decision is so utterly cast in the soul of the universe it cannot be changed.  Of course there are exceptions to this rule.  When you decided to leap off a cliff you can’t reverse the dive.  But apart from that, most decisions, even after they are made, can be altered.

Why does it matter if you decide to decide?  Because no path that is chosen will be tread upon if you don’t decide to traverse it.  I can think about, research, and map out numerous paths for myself.  But until I decide to decide upon a path, it’s nothing more than an idea, and there is no action.

This was why I decided to make New Year’s Actions rather than resolutions.  Resolving is an idea, but acting is a powerful decision.  I can resolve to lose thirty pounds of excess weight all I want.  Until I alter my diet and change my exercise routine or an act combining these plans, all it can be is an idea without purchase.

When we take action, we have generally reached a decision.  We have decided that this thing will happen, and so we act to make it so.

Manifestation, I am frequently pointing out, comes from a combination of thought, feeling and action.  If all I do is think about something but don’t feel it out and act upon it, I go nowhere.  Even if I think about it and feel it out, without action, I am still probably going nowhere.  When I act upon my thoughts and feelings, a decision has been made, and manifestation will be the end result.

It never occurred to me before that decision and action really are one.  Thinking about losing weight then feeling what it will be like to be lighter are all well and good, but until I have decided to take action to make this happen, I will remain exactly where I already am.

I still oftentimes neglect to make a decision.  I still will look at my options, and waffle between whatever they are, rather than acting upon them and deciding.  Recognizing this tendency in myself, and wanting to effect change in my life, I will consider that when next I might be feeling indecisive about a thing.

We all can choose paths for ourselves.  We all have nearly infinite choices of paths for our lives.  The thing is, we need to decide that we want to walk them for ourselves, rather than allow others to choose for us.

It’s also important to acknowledge that sometimes I will decide wrong.  First, this is perfectly normal.  We all make bad decisions.  The key is that I am deciding.

Even when the decision is wrong, action has been taken.  Now I have the opportunity for a new action, a new decision is made, and I move on.

Life changes.  We change.  That is how nature runs its course.  The thing is, we can decided if we want to curl up in a ball, wish everything remained as it was and await death; or we can just let it happen around us, and not choose for ourselves but just see where the current takes us; or we can grab the wheel and steer this life where and how we want it.

Sometimes not deciding is still a decision…just not a terribly solid one.

Think.  Feel.  Act.  In action, there is decision.  Decision is the difference between choosing and not choosing the lives we most desire to lead.

What decisions do you need to make that you might not be?

 

GOAL LOG – Week 40:

Diet:  Still going well.

Exercise: Fencing happened three days last week, and I got to the gym twice.

Writing:  One day of writing, plus the three blogs

Meditation:  I meditated four days, for a minimum of at least 6 minutes.

Gratitude: I wrote five things I was grateful for five of seven days last week.

 

This is the two-hundred fiftieth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas and my personal experiences in walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

Pathwalking 249

How do you want to feel?

This is an important question I do not think we ask of ourselves enough.  Not only do we not ask of ourselves, How do I feel?  But neither do we ask, How do I want to feel?

It is easy to forget that when all is said and done, I and I alone am responsible for how I feel.  Period.

Whether or not I feel good or bad, happy or sad, anxious or excited, frustrated or stimulated, I am the only one who can feel what I am feeling as I am feeling it, and I am the only one who can decide if I want to feel it.

Despite this, we still readily believe that others have the power to affect our feelings. You make me so mad; that crazy politician enrages me; you’ve made me happier than I ever thought possible; you make me feel joy and so on and so forth.  While others can most certainly influence the way we feel, they are unable to make us feel anything at all.

It all falls upon each of us individually.  Nobody but me makes me feel happy, sad, anxious, tense, excited and so on.  If I am feeling contented, that is what I am experiencing for myself.  If I am feeling anxious, that is not because someone else placed that feeling upon me, it is simply my current emotional state of being.

We live all-too-frequently in this residual experience.  Because we often neglect to simply live in the now, we are a product of who we were then, whether then is minutes, hours, days or even years ago.  Often right now what we are feeling about ourselves is a residual matter based on the past.

If you don’t believe me, let me illuminate the concept for you.  At some point in the past let’s say you went to your mom and dad to ask for more allowance money.  Let’s say that not only did they say no, they also yelled at you for not keeping your room clean.  Fast forward years later to your first job.  You think you are deserving, and go ask the boss for a raise.  Not only does he say no, he yells at you about a project that isn’t even yours, but gives you no chance to get a word in edgewise, and denies you.

Today you woke up feeling anxious.  The butterflies are making your stomach queasy, and you are feeling completely off.  Today is the day your current boss is having that meeting with you, and that promotion and subsequent pay raise are on the line.  Given the previously mentioned past events, why do you think you are feeling this anxiety?  Is it really about today’s situation, or is it based on your past experiences?

When we are able to recognize this for what it is, we can begin to ask How do I want to feel? of ourselves.  We can see that the feelings we are having, if they do not suit us, can be changed, if we make the choice to change them.

This, however, can be a very difficult process.  Most of us are so used to simply having the feelings we are having and rolling with them that the notion of taking ahold of and actively CHANGING them seems rather foreign.

It certainly feels easier to give the power of how we’ve been made to feel over to others, rather than to take control for ourselves.  Part of this is because it feels easier to place blame than to take responsibility.  Part of this is that believing we can be in control of our own feelings at any time is an alien concept.

How do you get hold and take control of how you are feeling?  That’s part of the challenge.  For me, the process works best with the following steps

  1. Ask – How am I feeling? Get clear on the specific emotion(s) I am experiencing at this moment.
  2. Ask – How do I want to feel? Usually if I am feeling negative, I would prefer to feel positive.
  3. Quiet my mind – I need to reflect on what has brought me to this state, in order to adjust it. This could take just a moment’s pause, or may require a longer meditation.
  4. Release – Rather than hold onto the emotion I do not want, I have to take an action to release it. Wave it goodbye, thank it for protecting me, visualize it sinking into the ground or flying away; some sort of mental action needs to occur to achieve release.
  5. Take action – I choose the emotion I would prefer to feel, and take some sort of action to replace what I don’t want.  That action could be a brisk walk, a brief cry, a primal scream, singing a song, finding something that makes me laugh, etc.  Action is absolutely necessary to drive any change.

Important note: This is NOT a surefire means to an end.  This is the process I work to employ, and it may not work for you.  However, any attempt you do make to take hold of and control your feelings will require some combination of thought, feeling and action.

Everything we want to manifest requires a mix of thought, feeling and action.  We have the gift of these complex emotions, but with it we have the empowerment to be in control of them for ourselves.  Take that into consideration the next time you are not feeling as you might wish to feel.

How do you want to feel?

 

GOAL LOG – Week 39:

Diet:  I continue to mostly avoid sugar, and I am still working at portioning.

Exercise: Fencing happened twice last week, and I got to the gym once and shot archery.

Writing:  Three days of writing.

Meditation:  I meditated five days, for a minimum of at least 5 minutes.

Gratitude: I wrote five things I was grateful for four of seven days last week.

 

This is the two-hundred forty-ninth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas and my personal experiences in walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

Pathwalking 248

Everything is energy.

At its core, in its simplest, most elegant form every single thing you can see, touch, taste, and smell is energy.  Every one of us, no matter our skin color, ethnicity, gender or other chosen identifier is energy.

The earth, the sun, the other planets in the solar system and everything, absolutely everything, is comprised of energy.  Both science and spirituality agree on this point, though they might use different phraseology to explain it.

Since every single thing in the universe is made of energy, that means that every single thing in the universe is vibrating at one frequency or another.  While there are probably infinite frequencies imaginable, still many things will vibrate at like frequencies, and as the Law of Attraction will tell you, like attracts like.  Those things will vibrate towards one another.

We are energy.  Because we are energy, we are vibrating at a frequency.  These frequencies ebb and flow and change, as pure energy ebbs and flows and changes.  Because of our unique consciousness, we humans are capable of recognizing our vibrating energy, and we are able as such to consciously change it.

One of the challenges of this, however, is due to the Law of Attraction.  Because human nature craves acceptance, companionship, and connection we tend to attune ourselves to other people out there.  Unconsciously, we will change our frequency and attune it to others who vibrate as we do.

This is how we get mob mentality.  When a group of people are all vibrating at the same frequency, that energy gains power.  Think of it like this.  If your car is in a parking lot and your radio is tuned to a specific station at a reasonable volume, that’s one thing.  But if every single radio of every car in the lot attunes to the same frequency, the volume will increase.  Instead of one reasonable source of that frequency, there are now many, so the overall volume will go up.

This is why people inadvertently will wind up in “the wrong place at the wrong time”.  They have unconsciously tuned in to the same frequency, which might happen to be a bad frequency.  Because of this they are swept up in the energetic current, and things happen.

Energy doesn’t care if you are male or female, wise or wicked, full of love or full of hate.  Energy in its most pure form is utterly and completely neutral.  It just is.  It cannot be created nor destroyed, it just exists in whatever form it has taken.  Eventually it will transmute to another form.

When we realize that we can consciously create our own reality, we have taken control of the radio, so-to-speak.  We can choose whether we want to tune it into NPR, or the local Rock station, or just listen to the static of unused frequencies.  We make the effort not to unconsciously attune to the random frequencies of those around us, and instead choose for ourselves of our own accord.

Pathwalking is about recognizing that we can choose what frequencies to vibrate at.  And yes, I do use the plural because we are not static creatures with static frequencies.  We often would like to think that we are.  We find moments that we want to stretch on and on for as long as we can….but they will change, because energy is always changing.

It is easy to get caught up in the massive energies groups can produce.  All you have to do is watch or read the news.  Between terrorists creating chaos, a surreal Presidential election, epic corporate greed and everything else of that nature being reported on, it’s really really easy to tune into that frequency.  As such it’s all too easy to get angry, indignant, even enraged by what is happening out there.  But like all the cars in the same lot tuning their radios to the same station, we cause the volume of those things to increase, and as such gain momentum.

To some people this idea may seem like utter bull.  Nobody wants to create bad things for themselves, or for the world at large.  That’s true, but energy in its most pure form has no desire, is neither good nor bad, it only takes the forms we assign it.  If we all focus on something negative, we get more of it because we’ve raised the volume, despite not consciously choosing to do so.

I know that we are all busy.  We all have our obligations, our jobs and families and time committed to various and sundry things.  But if we take just a minute here and there throughout our day, and consciously consider what we are thinking and feeling, and how we are acting, we can change our frequency to something we desire.

Because we all have things to do, it is unbelievably easy to let our subconscious drive the bus.  We go with the flow, we do the thing.  We get up go to work or school, go home, veg in front of the TV or online for several hours, go to bed, rinse, repeat.  It’s really easy to lose ourselves in the patterns of our day-to-day, but if we fall too deep into our subconscious, when we become dissatisfied it can be a greater effort to consciously take the wheel.

If, like me, you want to walk a path of your own choosing, it’s important to recognize that your energy flow needs to be addressed.  Simply asking yourself “how am I feeling”, or “what am I thinking”, or even “what am I doing” from time to time will bring your attention to conscious creation.  I’m fairly surprised by how seldom I ask this of myself, and yet it’s vitally important to getting control over my energy, and allowing me to consciously create the reality I want.

Last but not least, we need to acknowledge that we cannot control anyone else’s energy.  We can influence it, certainly, but we cannot direct it or otherwise control it.  It’s not like being the passenger in the car, where you can reach to the stereo and change the frequency even if you’re not driving.  Each and every one of us is able to tune our own frequency, though our individual frequencies sometimes do align with one another.

Consciousness creates reality.  What frequencies do you want to tune in to?

 

GOAL LOG – Week 38:

Diet:  I continue to mostly avoid sugar, and I am doing better with portioning.

Exercise: Fencing happened three days last week, and I got to the gym three days.

Writing:  Four days of writing.

Meditation:  I meditated every day but one last week, for a minimum of at least 4 minutes.

Gratitude: I wrote five things I was grateful for six of seven days last week.

 

This is the two-hundred forty-eighth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas and my personal experiences in walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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