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Am I Being Proactive?

You may have noticed that by-and-large I only post positive, proactive thoughts.

Part of the reason why I choose this is because I feel horridly inundated by negativity.  There are so many things happening in the world right now that are upsetting.  Sometimes it is really hard to stay focused on creating good, because it feels increasingly futile.

Crossing the Bridges 55I began writing Positivity on Mondays to combat frequent negative messages at the start of the work week.  This has been really useful both for myself and others.  Pathwalking always takes a positive spin on the world, because the primary reason I choose to walk my own path is to create good in my life.

Consciousness creates reality.  So, when I continue to get angry over what the dumbass-in-chief does, or the inaction of Congress, or people denying science, logic and reason, is it any surprise I keep finding more?  Is it at all shocking that my motivation slips away?

I am frustrated.  This sinking feeling I often get as I browse Facebook and other social media is not useful.  Of course, the more attention and energy that I give to being concerned over where the world is heading distracts me from what I can control.

This is a systemic problem.  I know I am not the only one who, in the interest of staying in the know, winds up overwhelmed.  There are people I care about who are going to be, if they are no already, effected by a lot of these awful things.

What good does working on being proactive and positive do in the face of this insanity?

Proactive and positive are a force for good.

Because we manifest what we focus on with conscious reality creation, we have a choice.  I get to decide if I want to contribute to the feelings of anger, futility and hopelessness I am inundated with…or if I want to try to change the message.

This is not easy.  Maintaining my motivation to be proactive and positive is challenging.

I have mentioned before that I have long battled depression.  With the current state of the world as it is, and my empathic sensibilities, it’s been difficult.  I read and listen to a LOT of various self-help, motivational and similar works to build up my strength and fight off depression.

Because I have been working extra hard to combat depression, I am having trouble taking advantage of the opportunity right in front of me.  All my writing about conscious reality creation, and here I am in the midst of the perfect opportunity to make it go…and I am finding it difficult to be motivated to do so.

I recognize that there are steps I can take to work with this.  I just need to motivate myself to take them.

A friend recently asked me if I re-read my own work.  Truth is, once I have written and posted to the blog, I seldom go back to it.  I am great at offering insight into conscious reality creation, but not so good about going back and heeding my own advice.

I can write about actions I will take all day.  Motivating to take them, though, is another thing.

Proactive means taking the initiative.

Posting to the blog became a regular thing when I took an action on New Year’s rather than make a resolution.  I didn’t resolve to do something, I did something.  Action was taken.  I made a conscious choice to do, not to try.

Yoda said it best.  “Do or Do Not, there IS no try!”   I need to take ahold of my emotional state, follow my own words and be responsible for my own feelings.  It is time to take the initiative, stop letting myself be inundated by the negativity, and create the reality I want.

How?  Well, first, I need to spend less time online.  I already stopped visiting Twitter regularly because I didn’t need that volume of unnecessary and upsetting information.  The time has come to do the same to Facebook.  Keep messenger active so I can communicate with my friends, but close Facebook itself most of the time.

Second – I need to go back and reread what I have written.  I know that my writing impacts others.  That being the case, it’s really proactive of me to see if what I write can serve its primary purpose and impact ME.  This isn’t a selfish matter at all…it is an acknowledgment of the multi-purposefulness of what I write here.

Third – I need to stop getting down on myself when I get distracted, get upset over matters beyond my control that are happening, and so on.  I need to forgive myself for not living up to my own expectations of myself.  When I am feeling unmotivated, I need to allow myself a moment to feel it, but then I need to use an attitude shifter or another tool to be proactive and better consciously create reality.

Being proactive is empowering.

Finally, I must keep at it.  I cannot give up on myself, my goal to manifest the life I want, and using my consciousness to create my reality.  I alone can feel my feelings, and take actions appropriate or inappropriate.

Crossing the bridges is me consciously creating my reality.  I’ve got this.  I have done it before, and I will do it now.  The life I want and desire is mine to manifest, and I am deserving of it.  I know this.  It’s on me, and me alone to work with it.

As always, thank you for crossing the bridges with me.

 

GOAL LOG – Week 40:

Diet:  Mostly on track, but not writing it out

Exercise:  Fenced twice, but I did something to my right knee, so I’ve not been hitting the gym.

Writing:  Three blog posts, some work on the sci-fi story.

Meditation: Only two days last week, for 9 and 10 minutes.

Gratitude:  I was grateful for 5 things three days last week

 

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Will Your Path Make You Happy?

What is important to me is that I live a good life, and am happy more often than not.

We all have different priorities.  Nobody’s emotions are exactly the same.  While we may give our emotions the same names, odds are how they feel to each of us differs.

Taking that another step, what makes me happy is going to be different from what makes you happy.  Not just because of how it may feel differently to each of us, but because the what of happiness is such a wide perspective.

Right now our society is beset by people who care about nobody but themselves.  Business leaders and government officials have been particularly selfish and uncaring.  Many see the world as a pie, but a singular, small, limited pie, with only a few slices to go around.  Rather than use their ability to produce unlimited pie, they hoard what they have and try to convince everyone else that this is the truth.

There is not enough pie to go around.  I am going to take this all for myself, and none for you.  Of course, if they viewed this as limitless instead, we would all have more to share, more to give, more in general.

The Universe is vast beyond our ability to comprehend it.  Further, the Universe is abundant.  This is not a place of lack and want, it is a place of more than enough and plenty.  It’s important to recognize this because I believe that a tremendous amount of our unhappiness comes from feeling lack.

We all want to feel.

This is something we often deny.  I think one of the reasons for the popularity of the notion of Vulcans in Star Trek is the lack of emotion.  When you don’t feel emotion, you don’t feel want, and as such you don’t feel lack or loss.  Emotions are viewed as weakness, and showing them often is considered socially unacceptable.

Thing is, like it or not, we are emotional creatures.  Humans feel things.  Good and bad, happy and sad, ecstatic and angry, and everything in between – having emotions is part of the human experience.  Taking this out further, I believe that the thing we most want from our lives is to feel positive emotions.

Why do you do the things you do?  Because at the end of the day, you want to feel good.  Yes, this is a generalization, but I believe that most of us want to experience good things in our lives.  We want to be happy, or at least content, with the lives we lead.

It’s all well and good to just be.  If that makes you happy, then more power to you.  But if you are displeased with life more often than otherwise, I am pretty sure that you are probably working to find ways to be more content.  Means to be happier.

Pathwalking is about choosing for ourselves how our lives are to be.  Yes, that involves working towards goals, some of which are material.  But even the material goals are meant to be part of something more, something greater.  My goal may be to become a best-selling author, but WHY I want to achieve that is because in the end, I believe that that will make me happy.

Happy and nature versus society.

We have been presented with a pretty standard expectation of what life should be.  There is a widespread belief on the part of our society for what we should be doing, how we should be living, and what we should expect.  While on the one hand we encourage people to dream and strive to grow bigger than they are, on the other hand we discourage them from stepping away from the common.  Often we tell them that taking their own path is fraught with risk, and an unacceptably low chance of reward.

Is it any wonder our society often seems kind of schizophrenic?  We tell you that this is the land of opportunity, but then we advise you not to take a chance.  You get told that you should strive to be more than you are, but then people tell you they’re afraid you’ll fail.  We play on fear so frequently that we find that state of being to be perfectly ok.

I for one do not want to live in a state of fear.  Life is too short and too full of possibilities for me to accept that fear should dominate me.  Yes, things can happen to you when you take a risk…but things can also happen to you when you DON’T take chances.  We often are lead to believe that it’s better not to try at all than to try and fail.

Do you know what our world would be like today if many of the great innovators had accepted that?  If they had not tried and failed and tried again, so many modern conveniences we take for granted just would not exist.  Sometimes failure is the best teacher.

In the end it’s all about emotions.

Frequently the things we want are material.  From the physical like cars and homes and jewelry to the abstract like good jobs, great relationships and wealth, these are tangible things.  Yet why do you think you want the tangible things you want?  Because you believe they will make you happy.

This is part of why we all want different things.  What makes me happy is going to be different from what makes you happy, him happy, her happy, them happy, and so on.  We all want different things, and even when we want similar things they may be for different reasons.  My point is, the things we want are actually manifested tangibles of the intangibles we truly desire.

I do not know anybody who wants to be unhappy.  Even the people I know who seem to take some sort of pleasure in being frequently miserable do not actually desire for that to be their state of being.  In the end, the paths we walk are lead to a good emotional place.

Acknowledging this can go a long ways towards understanding ourselves better.  When we recognize that we have emotional needs, I believe we can do better with our self-care.

Last and certainly not least – you deserve to be happy.  Really, truly, you do.  You are worthy of having a good and happy life.  I know that may be hard to believe sometimes – I certainly struggle with it.  But it is unequivocally true.

How do you think the things you want from your path will make you happy?

 

This is the three-hundred-first entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas for and my personal experiences with walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

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The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

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What Do You Take-Away From This?

What you take-away from a less-than-desirable situation is important.  Seeing the good you learned from the bad is the key to this.

We all have bad experiences.  There are going to be things that happen that are infuriating, complicated, difficult and unpleasant.  Life cannot always be perfect.  Frankly, if it was, I think we’d all get really really bored of it.

When bad things happen – and they will – what you take away from them is important.  If you find yourself angry, resentful, distressed or feeling otherwise negative, that will impact you negatively.  However, if you can find good that has come of it, you can generate positivity instead.

What you take-away from any given situation is actually totally yours to control.  Since you are the only one inside of your own head, you get to choose how you feel after anything good or bad happens.

Certainly there are automatic and gut reactions to things.  You get angry, you get hurt, you feel annoyed by what happened.  In the moment, hard not to feel such.  But, after that, you choose how long you hold onto it.  You get to choose how far you take that feeling.

As such, if you are feeling negative about something initially, when you focus on that, you’ll get more.  Consciousness Creates Reality, so focus on what you don’t want, you will create more of it.  This will manifest further bad feelings, and complicate whatever it is you are trying to achieve.

A thing happened.  It produced a negative response and emotion in you.  The take-away is entirely yours to choose.  Acknowledge it, then let it fester and likely draw more negatives…or acknowledge it, and figure out what you can learn from it that’s a positive.

Initial reaction is not what you take-away, unless you choose that.

First, let’s make note of a couple things.  We all make mistakes.  Everybody screws up from time to time.  What’s perfect about everybody is that nobody is perfect.

The bad or annoying or unfortunate thing has happened.  Made me feel negative.  Yup, that’s how it is.  Now, what have I learned from it, and what can I take away from it?

Let’s explore a couple examples:

  • You have credit cards in collections because you rang up too much debt. What is your take-away?  Negative: I am a total screw-up, and a failure.  Positive: I now know I need to be more responsible with my money. 
  • Your relationship/marriage/partnership failed. What is your take-away?  Negative: I suck at relationships.  I never get it right, I am unworthy.  Positive: I learned what does not work in a partnership for me, and can work to avoid that in the future.  I am wiser and worthwhile.
  • You have a crisis, great or small, to deal with. What is your take-away?  Negative: Why do I always have to deal with this crap?  Why me?  Can I just live without an emergency?  Positive: I am the eye in the middle of the storm.  I can handle anything, and am stronger because I know what I am capable of.  I’ve learned something useful from this.

You get to choose just what it is you take-away from everything that happens to you.  That being the case, you get to decide if you want to hold onto and create more negativity, or let-go of the negative and create positivity.

Take-away what you want to manifest.

Conscious Reality Creation means that we strive not to be a victim of circumstance.  Things can and will happen outside of our control, but that does not mean we have no ability to react to them at all.

Emotions are entirely on you and me.  Nobody but you can feel what and how you feel, and as such nobody can make you feel a certain way or no.

Pathwalking is about choosing for ourselves.  I know that I prefer to have some modicum of control over the life I am living.  Every situation is going to present you with a chance to have a take-away, but what that will be is up to you.

This week, for whatever reason, has been rough for me.  Not sure why, but I have had a hard time focusing and achieving what I want to.  I was sleepy, and could not easily concentrate on writing and editing.  Some things got done, but not as much as I wanted.

That was Monday.  When Tuesday rolled around, and I felt much the same, I began to get upset.  I was angry at myself for being lazy.  This in turned led to self-annoyance with my inability to achieve what I had intended to do, and I was getting down on myself for ever perceived misstep.

Last night I reconsidered what my take-away was.  Rather than berate and ultimately self-sabotage myself, I now know I can work on means to improve my focus, and to accept that we all have off days.  I can choose to stop seeing what is not working in my life, and focus instead on what is.

Conscious reality creation goes deep into one’s core.

To manifest what you want from life, it can’t just be a side thought, it has to be your only thought on the matter.  When I was recovering from injuries all I focused on was total healing.  All conscious reality creation works from complete, hyper-focus.

Today I am feeling the best I have in a while.  Staying mindful of the take-away from my situation is doing wonders for my psyche.

What have you taken-away from your life situations?

 

This is the three-hundredth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas for and my personal experiences with walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

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What if you can only feel Negativity today?

Everyone has bad days.  Everyone experiences relentless negativity.

No matter how hard we try, no matter the attitude shifters or positive things for our awareness we work to use, there are going to be bad days.

While I created these weekly posts to generate positivity, in order to help myself and anyone reading along, I acknowledge that there are days it simply does not work.  No matter what we employ, no matter what we try, this day is terrible.

There is nothing wrong with having days where nothing works.  There is nothing wrong with having days where everything seems to go wrong.  You are going to be hurt, get angry, and feel depressed.  You may experience a desire to either curl up in a pillow fort in the living room, scream at someone, smash something, cry to exhaustion, or all of the above in due course.

Seeking out positivity is not about denying negativity.  That would simply be impossible.  These are opposite sides of the same coin.  Ergo, you really could not have the one without the other.  You will experience and spread negativity sometimes, because that’s human nature.

However, once this no-good-terrible-awful-lousy-bad day comes to an end, you get to choose whether you will let it linger, or let it go.  Will you carry that negativity into the next day, or release it and strive to find better?

This is the part that we CAN choose.  Yes, we will have bad days and feel negative emotions, and that is perfectly ok.  But we also get to choose to carry that forward, or work on letting it pass and starting with a clean slate.

Practice makes perfect, but it’s practice for a reason.

I also acknowledge that this is not always possible.  If you despise your job, it is very hard to face it day-in and day-out.  Certain people cannot be avoided or neglected forever.  Nobody can predict flat tires, hailstorms, getting fired from a job or dumped from a relationship.

Even still, when we encounter this, we do get to choose how long we want to feel it.  Sometimes it doesn’t feel that way, and sometimes we really do need to soak in the negativity in order to understand it, before we let go of it.  But we have more control over our emotional state than we realize.  How long we let negativity dominate our days is entirely up to us.

Get angry.  Feel hurt.  Express your frustration and depression.  It’s unhealthy to neglect these feelings.  Just remember it’s equally unhealthy to hold onto them for long, so don’t cling to them.

Finding positivity is not hard, but it does require action.

Knowing that there are going to be days where nothing makes us feel better, we can let them happen and cope.  When we accept that negativity happens, we can better understand positivity; when we strive to create more positivity we empower ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings in the collective consciousness.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

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How does Finding Good in Bad Things Make Life Better?

Even when things look really bleak, we can still find good in them.

We are living in interesting times, in many ways like the Chinese curse.  There are a lot of people who seem hell-bent on messing with social order, let alone taking away good things for people in the name of politics and money.

Yes, this is mostly a pretty terrible thing.  And yet, there has been good to have come of it.  People are taking more notice, taking more action, and striving to have their voices heard.  We are seeing effort participating in the dialogue, and maybe from there we will see positive change of it.

Here’s the thing to keep in mind.  If we focus on the bad, and we focus on anger, and the things that are negative out there, we will draw more of them to us.  That’s the way conscious reality creation works.  What you focus on, think about, feel about, and act on – you bring out more of.

It’s far too easy to get caught up in this madness.  What terrible thing did the President say or Tweet today?  How much further will Congress erode our democracy?  What is North Korea up to?  If we give this our attention, we energize it, and that will only amplify it, and draw more of it to us.

I know I don’t want that.  I can’t imagine anyone who does.

While it’s hard enough to not let national and international matters steal our attention, what do we do when we have more personal negativity to contend with?  What can we do to find good things in problems we are encountering on a more direct level?

Is there good to be found?

There is always something good to be found in bad things.  Flat tire on the way home from work?  Maybe that kept you from being part of a far worse accident.  Lost your job?  Perhaps it was not a great job for you, and now you can get something better.  Family member dying from cancer?  When they pass, they will no longer be suffering.

Jen Sincero, in You Are A Badass (I CANNOT recommend this book enough), writes about the notion of exploring unexpected and unwanted situations by stating, “This is good because” and taking it from there.  Certainly there will be times this is more of a struggle than other times, but that does not lessen its power to change how you are thinking and feeling.

I am in no way advocating for denial of bad feelings.  We are only human, we are going to have experiences that make us feel bad, and that we would rather not endure.  Everybody gets broken up with, loses a job, fails a test, gets injured, loses family and friends due to anything from disagreements to death.  We are going to have miserable experiences.  Full stop.  However, when this happens – if we dwell on them, keep our focus on them and let them dictate further emotions, we are more likely to gain more bad feelings similar to them.

Another issue with modern society is our tendency to not bother with accountability.  We love to blame, we love to pass the buck, we love to make excuses rather than take responsibility.  You hurt me and you made me feel this way and you make me so angry are all-too-common statements.  Without a doubt, other people can be the catalyst for our feelings, but only we can feel them for ourselves.

Focus on that which you can control.

I cannot do anything about what our government is doing, except to write letters, make phone calls, and vote in elections.  I can spread awareness about injustices, but if I am wholly focused on that negativity, I will only get angrier, frustrated, and draw more ways to feel angry, frustrated and negative overall.

The challenge is to be active, do something productive and constructive, but keep focus on that which you can directly effect.  I can share my own thoughts, try to persuade you to my way of thinking, but I cannot control how you will feel.  Period, end of story.  You, and you alone, feel what you feel, and the same applies to me.

That being written, it’s important to tighten our focus, and take an approach to work with the things we do have control over.  Our individual corners of the universe may seem insignificant in the grand scheme of things, but they are the only aspects of life we have total control over.

Pathwalking is about finding and traversing our own ways in life.  This is not the simplest idea, and there are challenges and obstacles and curves along the way.  Yet rather than letting life happen around us, we are choosing to take charge, and be aware of those things we can control.

We have no control over anyone else’s life choices.  This is why it’s important to be more aware of our own lives, our own existence, and to focus on working with what we have to make the best of the lives we are living.

This is Good Because…

…we get to choose.  This is Good Because we can find almost any path we desire, and take the journey of our life upon it.  Consciousness Creates Reality.  I want to manifest the most joyful, amazing, fulfilling life I can.  I am not a slave to anyone else, I am not beholden to anyone but me when it comes to my feelings.

Yes, it is important to be aware of what’s going on out there.  We need to be aware of this world to participate in it.  But there is a line between being aware and being overwhelmed, and it is so, so easy to cross that line.

Be the best you that you can be.  Walk the path that makes you feel the most good, the most happy, the most accomplished that you can.   When you experience unpleasant, unwanted and negative things in life, choose to process them and let them go; or hold onto them and let them dominate your life, and draw more similar negatives to you.

We are far more powerful than many would want us to be believe.  We are all creators, and we are all capable of manifesting incredible things.  Try to keep that in mind the next time you despair.

What good can you find in bad things you are experiencing?

 

This is the two-hundred ninety-first entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas for and my personal experiences with walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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Ten Positive Things for your Awareness

Positive things feels better than negativity.

This is a simple statement of fact.  Negativity simply put does not feel good.  Positivity does.

Nobody wants to feel bad, angry, distressed, upset, depressed, or any of the myriad of negative feelings we can feel.  Yet we practically bathe in negativity daily.

Why?  Because we are utterly immersed in it.  Social media is full of complaints, the news is often upsetting or depressing, and we tend to think about it, talk about it, and explore it thoroughly in the name of being “in the know”.

What IS positivity?  Positivity is being aware of what we are thinking, and consequently feeling.  When we are conscious of our thoughts and feelings we can work to better escape from the negativity surrounding us.  Positivity is not letting the negativity bring us down, but seeking good to lift us up.

There are any many, many positive things to think about and focus on.

Positive things.

The following is a partial list.  There are many, many more positive things out there, and at different times different things will work for you.

  1. Laughter.  Laughing changes our frequency, and makes us feel good.
  2. Sunshine.  Sunlight warms us, and can bring contentedness.
  3. Moonlight.  The moon is like an incredible beacon in the night.
  4. Music.  Words or not, music can impact and change our mood quickly.
  5. Meditation.  Nothing like quieting the mind to reset your feelings.
  6. Driving.  Sometimes traveling along the road at a decent clip provides a good escape.
  7. Exercise.  Movement causes physiological change, which in turn can generate positivity.
  8. Writing.  Getting matters out of your head can shift your perspective.
  9. Reading.  Escape reality in fiction, or learn better ways to help yourself within it.
  10. Smiling.  Just putting a smile on your face, even if you are not feeling it, can shift your attitude.

There are numerous options to generate positivity in our lives.  Some are specific to only you, and there’s nothing wrong with that.  No matter how negative you are feeling, there is always something positive for you to reach to.  This list is incomplete, go ahead and make your own – and keep it someplace easily turned to.

Finding positivity is not hard, but it does require action.

Knowing that positivity feels better than negativity, and it’s a matter of being aware of how we feel, we can work to change the bad to good.  When we become aware of our feelings, and we strive to find more positivity for ourselves, we not only feel better, but we empower ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings in the collective consciousness.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the one hundred eighty-second entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

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Can Positivity Make You Happy?

Ultimately, everybody wants to be happy.

I believe that’s what we all most want.  Happiness.  When we are happy, we are more capable of living a complete, satisfying life.

Positivity is a direct path to happiness.  Happiness is one of the ultimate in positive feelings, which is why it’s so important that we find and cultivate it as much as we can.

There is more than enough anger, intolerance, unhappiness and outright hatred in the world.  Adding to that only generates more.  Since consciousness creates reality, when that’s our focus, that’s what we create more of.  Getting inundated with and overwhelmed by all this negativity just draws more of it in.

This is why it’s important to look for and find things that make us feel happy.  Positivity, in any form that it takes, is a lead-in to happiness.  Positive is equal to good, and good is a feeling that can evolve into happy.

Happy is simpler than we make it out to be.

This is not about that blissful, euphoric, overindulgent happy that movies and TV try to sell us; nor is it the Happily Ever After of a fairy tale.  No, this is that feeling in the pit of your stomach, that sensation that makes you want to smile, maybe even laugh.  Honest, simple, happiness.

Rather than allow the sheer volume of negativity across social media, and all the insanity of politics and religion and such of modern society dominate us, we need to remain aware.  We need to be more familiar with our state of mind, our state of being.  From there, we will be better able to combat all the negative messages, and create better.

We cannot change the world if we do not change our small corners of it.  If you don’t feel good, how can you help anyone else feel good?  I fall into this trap myself from time to time, which is part of why I write about this frequently.  These Positivity posts were created to remind myself about the necessity of finding means to feel good, as much as they were created to help you do the same.

Want rather than DON’T want.

Last but very much not least, remember that the Universe doesn’t recognize messages like I don’t want to feel this way or that…it only registers want to feel this way or that.  This is why focusing on positivity to create more of it is imperative.  It is one of the keys to happiness.  Awareness of thought, feeling and action leads to conscious reality creation; ergo we are all cable of creating amazing, happy lives – and share them.

Finding positivity is not hard, but it does require action.  Knowing that ultimately, we all want to be happy, and positivity is a key to this, we can work on our awareness of positivity, and seek more of it.  When we find positivity, and we use positive things to make ourselves feel good, this can lead to us feeling happy; ultimately we empower ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings in the collective consciousness.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

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What is an Attitude Shifter?

What is an attitude shifter?  An attitude shifter is something you can think about or focus on that will make you feel good.

Shifters can come in any number of forms.  A picture of a person, place or thing that makes you feel happy.  A song or movie dialogue or comedy routine that puts you in a good mood.  A scent, the smell of something that brings your mind to positive thoughts.  Pretty much anything that stimulates your senses in a manner that makes you feel good can serve as an attitude shifter.

Because shifters can take on so many forms and can come from a vast landscape of lifetime experiences, it is a good idea to choose specific shifters.  It is also a good idea to have certain shifters that can be used in particular circumstances, as some may be more readily reached than others.

Attitude shifters are more often than not memory.  They are the recollection of a thing, whatever sense it stimulates, that is most useful in changing your mood.  Because you are working on a memory, you do not need to have a physical object in order to use the shifter.  This can be very useful when you are somewhere you cannot physically change, but mentally take a new approach – meetings, waiting in line, horrid traffic, etc.

How do you know if something is an attitude shifter for you?

When you think about that image; scent; touch; or taste; sound; or emotion; does it put a smile on your face?  Does it make your heart happy?  Does it make you feel good?  If the answer is yes, then you have found a shifter.

Using attitude shifters takes practice.  It is not hard work, it is conscious work.  All too often we get caught up in the goings-on around us, and let the neutrality or negativity overwhelm us.

Two steps for employing attitude shifters

  1. Ask yourself this question – How do I feel? You might be amazed how seldom you actually pause to ask that.  If you are feeling good or feeling positive, you don’t need an attitude shifter.  In fact, the experience may create a new shifter for future use.  When you find that you are feeling nothing or you are feeling negative, go to:
  2. Choose an attitude shifter. Sometimes this takes more work than others, depending on whether the situation you are in is passive or active. Remember that child’s laugh; think about that song that makes you want to dance; remember holding your lover’s hand – or whatever shifter you can use to change your attitude.  If one is not working – choose another.

The great thing about attitude shifters is that they are many, varied, and constantly being renewed.  It is not so difficult to take a moment in your mind to bring forth that memory in order to change how you are feeling.

Finding positivity is not hard, but it does require action.

Knowing that you can employ tools to shift you attitude, you can change your feelings.  When we change how we are feeling, and working on feeling good, we empower ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings in the collective consciousness.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the one hundred seventy-ninth entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

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What do I want from my Reality?

What do I want?

I have been asking this question of myself for most of my adult life.  It is both the single most basic question I can ask, as well as massively loaded.  This is a question that can be rooted in the past, awareness in the present, or looking to the future, which complicates things further.

One of the more complex issues I encounter with this question has long been its opposite.  I was less sure of what I DID want, than of what I DIDN’T want.  While that can be useful, it can also be distracting.  In many ways it becomes the ultimate procrastination.

I spent my twenties indecisively.  I went from relationship to relationship and job to job, always seeking the greener grasses.  While getting hit by that car shifted my thinking in many ways, I proceeded to spend my thirties in nearly the same indecision.  Relationships came and went, jobs came and went, and I never made a decisive choice about anything.

Now, in my forties, I am deciding my life.  I have begun to work with consciously creating my reality.  This has required me to undo a lot of long-held beliefs that no longer serve me, which in turn slows the process, sometimes seemingly to a crawl.

I have decided.

I have been posting to this blog at least weekly for over five-and-a-half years.  Twice weekly for almost three-and-a-half years.  Thrice weekly for forty weeks now.  This was the result of me deciding to do something.  It was one of the first solid, unquestioned decisions I made after decades of indecisions.

Now, in my forties, I have come to realize the importance of decision.  Rather than hmm and haw and deliberate endlessly, I am working with deciding.  This is not always easy, as I have spent most of my adult life afraid that the wrong decision would make me unhappy, so more often than not I decided not to decide at all.

One of the pitfalls of this realization for me is a vague sense of regret.  How much of my time did I waste on my lack of decisions?  However, the other side of the same coin is recognizing all that I learned from my previous, indecisive ways.

Now that I know how powerful working with decision is, I am forgiving myself for my past missteps and non-steps, and working more in the here-and-now on being who I want to be.

Present reality is a product of the past.

This concept is very hard for me to wrap my head around.  Yet every single self-help and spiritual book I have read or listened to espouses this same idea.  The life I have, right now, is the result of decisions made and not made in my past.  Because consciousness creates reality, decision is a product of conscious choice.  When I decide, I am the one responsible for the reality I am creating.

Knowing this, and not being entirely satisfied with my current reality, I am working on making more conscious decisions to create better.  I can take better care of my body and mind; I can do work that makes me happy rather than saps my energy; I can focus on abundance to bring more good into my life, and the lives of those I care about.

I am completely aware of this.  I know how this works.  Knowing what I want and making decisions in the here-and-now will build the life I most desire.  Yet I still struggle with indecision, and not letting outside influences upset me.

World news can be distressing.  The American political landscape is thoroughly upsetting.  Friends are struggling with all kinds of different issues.  Awareness of these things is important, so long as I don’t let them interfere with my decision making process.  The only life I can directly influence and effect is my own.  The only reality I can consciously create is mine.

Knowing what I want is just a step across the bridge.

Change is scary.  The unknown can be unsettling.  Stepping out of my comfort zone has always been particularly challenging, but I have done it before successfully.  I went to college halfway across the country all on my own, and restarted my life.  After college I moved to New Jersey, again restarting my life.  I completely recovered from serious injuries without ever considering any alternative.  So what is holding me back now?

Me.  I am holding me back.  I know what I want, but not how to make it happen.  Yet everything I know about conscious reality creation, every book I have read or listened to tells me the same thing.  To move out of my comfort zone I have to get uncomfortable.  I need to decide to get clear of my limiting beliefs, to take the necessary steps and go for it.

The how is not my concern.  It is the decisions that need to be made.  I need to let go of the uncertainty, the fear, the doubt, the indecision.  The time to decide is now.  I am not my past, and unless I work in the present I will not attain my desired future.  Nothing is holding me back, except of course for me.

What do I want?

I want to be decisive.  I want to live in the now.  I want to consciously create the reality that will have me waking up every morning with a sense of excitement for the day ahead.  I want to straighten my back, square my shoulders, and take steps across the bridges, head held high and confident.  I know what I want.  As always, thank you for crossing the bridges with me.

 

GOAL LOG – Week 26:

Diet:  Overall I have been good on my food intake, though slightly less so when in Knoxville last weekend.

Exercise:  Fencing two days, one lap around the small lake three different days, four laps around the small lake one day, and a trip to the gym.  Exercised four solid days last week.

Writing:  The three blog posts were done.

Meditation:  Four of seven days last week, never less than 7 minutes.

Gratitude:  I expressed gratitude for 5 things on four days last week.

 

This is the fortieth entry of my personal journey, the Crossing the Bridges series.  My collectively published writing can be found here.

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Why Does the World Need More Positivity?

The world needs more positivity.

Why?  Because when we feel positive, we feel good.  When we feel good, we enhance the ability to draw more good to ourselves.  As such, we empower ourselves.  When we are empowered, we are capable of almost anything.

Unfortunately, we are living in a fear-based society.  We are inundated with negativity, we are told that there is lack and scarcity, and that we should fear the unknown, the untested, and the unfamiliar.  We sensationalize things to fear, and we continue as such to draw more to us.

The downside of instantaneous global communications is that we are hyper-aware of every single thing that happens.  Trouble is, what we are kept the most informed about is bad news.  Natural disasters, terrorist attacks, war and various atrocities dominate the news media.  As if that weren’t enough, to score higher ratings they strive to sensationalize these negative things, which just gives them more power.

And just to add insult to injury, the rise of fake news and opinion and blind faith in place of science and research makes it worse.  Fear mongers, religious leaders and conspiracy theorists have become all-too-readily accepted.  The negativity they are spewing fuels society’s fires.

We can overcome them, however.  But to do this, we can’t fight fire with fire.  We need to fight fire with water, dark with light.  We need to find and express more positivity.  We need to turn away from the negativity, and stop empowering it.  We need to overcome the fear with every positive tool we can muster.

The key is Positivity.

If we can focus more on finding the good in the world, we can use it to supplant the bad.  Like attracts like, that’s the Law of Attraction.  When we focus on positivity, we can attract more of it to us.  We can empower ourselves, and when we feel empowered we are capable of helping to empower others.

Even if you think the notion of the Law of Attraction is bunk, what harm is there in creating more positivity?  Does anyone really enjoy living in fear?  Does anyone really want to be lacking?  Does anyone want to feel bad, hurt, sad, or otherwise negative?  If we strive more to feel positive and good, we can disrupt the fear.

I am not suggesting ignoring the world around us.  But instead of feeding the hate, the fear, the lack…we need to find the love, the peace, the abundance.  We are better than this.  We each are empowered to discover that.  That is where positivity comes in, and that is why the world needs more of it.

Finding positivity is not hard, but it does require action.

Knowing that we live in a fear-based society, we can choose if we want to feed the fear, or overcome it.  When we create more positivity in the world, we can break from the negativity, we can disempower the fear and in turn empower ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings in the collective consciousness.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the one hundred seventy-eighth entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

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