The Ramblings of the Titanium Don

Explorations of Conscious Reality Creation and Other Matters

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Where Is My Intent?

I have been working with the question of the intent for my life a long time, now.

For decades, my answer was usually, “I don’t know what I want.”  I became particularly skilled at saying “I don’t know”.  Over time, my indecision extended out to include restaurants, jobs, relationships, hairstyles…you name it.  When it came to decision-making, I left that to anyone else that I could.

IntentLess than ten years ago, however, I began to really think about what I wanted from my life.  I became less indecisive, and started to make choices.  Eventually I began to act with far more intent than not.

Over time I have begun to achieve more of the things I set out to do.  I finished and self-published my novels, began to blog regularly, got into a stable relationship, and overall started to work on manifesting the life I most desired to have.

Some people know from a pretty young age just who and what they want to be.  Some people never figure this out at all.  Then there are people who think they know, but then keep changing their minds.  The term I have seen for this nowadays is FOMO – Fear Of Missing Out.  If I choose wrong, what might I miss?  I spent a lot of time in this place.

There have, of course, been moments of brilliant and not-so-brilliant conscious reality creation in the course of my life.  On many of those occasions, I didn’t realize I was manifesting my experience.  There were, however, a few times along the way that I got it.  I thought, felt, and intentionally acted upon the intended goal.  I had no doubt, did not second guess, saw and accepted only the one outcome, and sure enough that’s what I got.

Intent needs to be in the now.

The idea behind crossing the bridges has been my personal work to bridge the gaps I perceive in my life.  Or more specifically, lives.  There is the vastly different types of writing I do, which includes multiple genres of fiction; different non-fictions like this blog, my humorous narrative, and other empowerment and self-help works; business and professional writing that seldom gets my name attached to it.  Different formats, all me.  This is also ignoring Malcolm, my SCA persona, and all the things I do there.

The initial issue was, can I write all these different things under one nameOr do I created different personas for different genres?  I created these posts as part of the solution, and started to work from here.

After spending a great deal of my life uncertain of my intent, I know what it is I want now.  The life I want to make manifest is clear.  I know who I am, who I want to be, and what it will be like to get there.

Then I reach this same problem.  I can see it…ahead.  In my mind’s eye I envision what it will be like…soon.  Before me are the things I want to have, the person I want to be, the life experience I want to enjoy.  Here I am, right on the cusp, and I am so very nearly there I can almost taste it.  Every single one of my senses anticipates how it will feel, how it will be.

Consciousness creates reality.  If I always see these things ahead of me, as not yet happened, then why am I surprised I can’t quite get what I desire?

I need to be aware of when my intent is for.

If my intent is focused ahead instead of in the now, is it any surprise I frequently feel as if I am on the cusp of achieving my desire, but can’t get over that last hump?

This applies to numerous things in my life.  My weight, my career, my overall goals.  All of these I can see as I want them to be.  But I leave them ahead of me, down the line, coming soon.  They are not getting the fuel they need in the here-and-now to truly come into being.

The key to manifestation of any goal is to see it as already done.  How many times have I written this over the years?  It doesn’t matter, because until I take it to heart and apply it, I need to keep writing it down.

When I have consciously created my reality before, I KNOW, without a shred of doubt, that I saw only one possible outcome.  What’s more, I saw it as already done, not coming up or down-the-line, but done.  I wasn’t healing, I was healed.  The car I needed wasn’t going to be acquired soon, it was already mine.  No doubts, no second-guesses, no skepticism, already a done-deal.

It is this spirit I need to take to heart.  I have to get out of seeing things ahead of me, and see them here-and-now.  I have to let go of my doubt, stop second-guessing, and think, feel and act with intent on these things today.

Action with intent manifests conscious reality creation.

This is not me placing the blame on society, but acknowledging that part of my issue is there.  We live in a society obsessed with the past and future, rarely focused on the now.  Too much time reading things on social media can subconsciously pull me away from the now.  Knowing this, I see what I need to work on.

I need to find and take more intentional actions in order to get out of my own head.  The specifics will require some work.  As I have written before, and will certainly write again, nothing worth having is ever too easy.  I know what I want from my life.  Now, right now, I need to envision it as here.  Not coming up, not soon, not ahead, but here.

Consciousness creates reality.  New mantra/affirmation: I see myself living in abundance, with all the joy and awesomeness and people I love surrounding me.  Rinse, repeat.  Manifest the life I desire.

I hope that the coming New Year brings you everything you wish to create.  As always, Thank You for crossing the bridges between my worlds with me.


This is the sixty-sixth entry of my personal journey, the Crossing the Bridges series.  My collectively published writing can be found here.

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Who Gives You Permission?

You need nobody’s permission to walk your own path in life.

But you will receive an awful lot of advice, and help both useful and not from people.

When you decide to walk your own path, if, like mine, it is in any way unconventional, people will question it.  When enough people question what you have chosen, inevitably YOU will begin to question it, too.

We all have people in our lives who feel they have carte blanche in regards to advising and giving permission for us to live our lives a certain way.  Some are at a completely surreal level, so remote and removed from our lives that, truly, they have only as much power as we give to them.

A perfect example, and I mean this with no offense or disrespect, is God.  It does not matter if you view God from a religious standpoint of Judaism, Christianity, Islam or any other mono-theistic practice – some will argue you need his/her/its permission to do pretty much anything you might choose.  Without God’s blessing, some might argue, you have nothing.  Don’t even get me started on how some religious leaders will use some form of permission from God to oppress, be intolerant, deny science, or whatever meets their personal agenda.

This leads to the next surreal level, still remote and removed, where permission might be passed down or not.  Leaders in government, religion, and business love to tell us what we can and cannot do.  Sometimes they use the law to do this; other times they use tradition or obscure rules.  Many workplaces have specific rules about what we can and cannot wear, some of which is logical while some it just arbitrary and controlling.  For some, to feel empowered, they do all they can to disempower all others.

You don’t need to seek anyone’s permission.

The plain and simple truth is that when you are choosing your own path, you don’t need to seek anyone else’s permission to do so.  This is YOUR life, and nobody but you can live it.

Now we come to the people who are not-so-far removed.  Friends and loved ones.  The people who are directly a part of your life often feel they have every right to opine about your choices.

If what you are choosing is in any way unusual, people may feel the need to remark about it.  Unusual, by the way, is a loaded term.  For some it is about anything we choose that is well outside the norm, such as a career choice requiring some major life changes or a big move or doing something unlike anything you have done before.  For some, it’s as simple as not within their worldview perspective.

Everybody has a different view about how life works, yet we readily ignore this fact.  Since we are constantly inundated in our society with black or white, good or bad, either/or, up or down, Republican or Democrat, and nearly any other extreme you can think of – we find ourselves set in competition against one another.  Realistically, of course, the majority fall somewhere in the middle between any two extremes.

In many ways, because of this, people feel they have a duty to keep us in the expected path.  Society says you go to school, get a degree, get a job.  From there you get married, have kids, send them to school, then retire to a warmer clime.  Deviation from that path is deviant, and suspect, and you have permission to warn people when they stray.

Well-meaning permission changes nothing.

The thing is, because we all make our own choices in life, the only person we have to get permission from is ourselves.

Please keep in mind, I am not advocating for breaking any laws, outright anarchy, or blowing-off loved ones.  What I am saying is that you, and you alone, know what will make you happy in this life.  That being said, it’s entirely up to you to choose what will be best for you.

It can be very useful to get advice and consult with friends and loved ones.  It certainly is helpful when you have people to support you when you strive to take control over your own destiny.

I believe, to some degree, the need for permission comes from our childhood.  As children we have to get permission from our parents to do something different, to borrow the car, to stay out past curfew and such.  This gets so ingrained in us that we still feel an inherent need to seek permission when we take on something new and/or different.

Your path belongs to you, and you alone.  You may feel that you should get somebody’s permission to do whatever it is you are doing, but in truth, you don’t.  The only person who needs to approve of you and your life is you.

We are social creatures.  Even the most introverted still seek validation and comfort from without from time to time.  When our choices go outside of comfort zones, ours or those of others, it can be scary.  It can be pretty daunting, too.  Know that you are not alone, and you don’t need to get approved by anyone else.

Permit yourself to be all you want to be.

Our time on this planet is finite.  I want to experience it as fully as possible.  In order to do that, I am consciously creating my reality by making choices I intend to allow me to manifest a great life.  Even when I am faced with naysayers and well-meaning negativity, I know what I want to manifest.  I give myself permission to pursue my passion and strive to live my dream.

This, in turn, will not have a negative impact on anyone else.  The Universe is abundant, and my achieving goals will not deny anyone else the chance to do so, too.  There is plenty of what we want, since we all want different things.  We do not need approval or permission from anyone outside of ourselves.

Do you feel a need to get permission to walk the paths of your choosing?


This is the two-hundred ninety-ninth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas for and my personal experiences with walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

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The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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Positivity: The Family you choose

You can choose your family.

I know that they say you cannot choose your family – but you can.

Yes, there is family that you are born into. Yes, your blood family can be complicated, argumentative and unsupportive as much as they can be loving and magnificent.

Family is not just those you are related to by blood. Family is not simply brothers and sisters and aunts and uncles and cousins and such – family can be more. Family can be people who are more than friends.

What does that mean? There are people that you choose who become more than friends. These are the people you associate with, take meals with, enjoy laughter and care about nearly as much (and even sometimes more) as those you are related to by blood.

Chosen family can be a far larger, more complicated unit that you enjoy the company of more than any others. These are the people you most want to spend your time with, no matter what you are doing.

The media has spent a lot of time lately talking about non-traditional families. You get family units with two mothers or two fathers and such. More than that, family can be a group of people who share interests and a non-traditional form of community.

Despite the people you are related to by blood, you can in fact choose your family. Sometimes it’s simple, sometimes it makes no sense to anyone but you – yet you have the choice.

Finding positivity is not hard, it just requires action. Knowing that we can choose the people we call family, we can use those choices to build up more and greater Positivity. Selecting for ourselves the people we call family can totally empower ourselves. When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings. We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings. When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for. Gratitude leads to happiness. Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude. Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.


This is the seventy-third entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

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