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Pathwalking 274

Surrendering to the Universe is not easy.

If, like me, you are almost obsessed with the how and why of things, then simply surrendering to the Universe is a particularly loaded concept.  It gets even more complicated if you are a skeptic or cynic.

What does it mean to surrender?  It means you have to have faith.

This, too, can be a really loaded concept.  We are frequently seeing around us people who are allowing their so-called “faith” to dictate any number of unsavory actions.  Intolerance, outright hatred, fear-mongering, terrorism and various other atrocities in the name of “faith” are all over the mediascape of the world.

Even more distressing, at least to me, are those who express so publicly their blind faith.  They deny science, they disregard certain aspects of modern medicine, they strive to force their “faith” into the public sector where it absolutely does not belong.  We are constantly exposed to these forms of so-called “faith”, which manages to cause chaos, discord and all kinds of negativity.

The difference between the faith involved in surrendering to the Universe and that espoused by those I mention above is tremendous.  They share a name, but they do not share the same intent, nor the same positivity and love.  That mentioned above is largely fear and lack based, but the faith of surrendering to the Universe is love and abundance based.

Yes, those who claim the kind of faith that allows them to deny science may think they are coming from a place of love, but in truth they are coming from a place of fear and lack.  Why else would they be so afraid that science may prove that which they believe to be wrong?

How does the faith of surrendering to the Universe work?  As I frequently write, consciousness creates reality.  You have a thought, you put your feelings into it, and then you take intentional actions.  Once you have done this…you let it happen.

This is the complicated part.  You’ve put the notion out there, you’ve felt it, you’ve taken actions…and yet there is still a waiting period.  This is where you have to surrender to the Universe, and this can be particularly challenging.

Surrendering to the Universe is not about just waiting for things to happen.  Yes, it may involve waiting, but it’s not like you are expecting money to rain from the sky or some other surreal, virtually impossible act to occur.  There is intent.  There is expectation.  There is belief and faith that what you have asked for, what you have set in motion will come to pass.

I have written before that there are no limits to the reality which our consciousness can create.  However, while there are no limits, there are our core beliefs, our current reality, and the shadows of our past that can and will affect our ability to work with this.

When I was severely injured, I thought only about being completely healed.  Yes, I knew the doctors were unsure just how completely I would recover, but I thought only about total and complete recovery.  I felt what it would be like to be whole and uninjured.  I took action, in pushing every single therapy session to and beyond my limits.  I knew it would not be instantaneous, so I surrendered to the Universe that it would be so, as quickly as possible, setting no expectation of time but that it would be how I expected it.  And it was.  And it is.

There is reality to this.  I had amazing doctors and therapists.  But even they were impressed by the speed and totality of my recovery.  I have some wicked scars, and my body looks funky in an x-ray…but unless you see that or I tell you about it, you’d never know.

I had unwavering faith that I would be healed in the end.  When I set that in my mind, I surrendered that to the Universe, and it was done.  This was in a dire circumstance.  Surrendering to the Universe does not have to be in response to something extreme.

Let’s say I want to acquire more money.  I need to think about abundance, and money coming to me.  I need to feel what it will feel like to have that money, and to do things with it that make me feel good.  Then I need to take intentional, inspired actions to set this in motion.  Surrendering to the Universe is not about expecting it to rain hundred-dollar bills, it is having that unwavering faith that your thoughts, feelings and actions will consciously create your desired reality.

If you are requesting creating a reality you do not believe to be realistic for you, surrendering to the Universe will do nothing.  You have to be conscious of your beliefs, and if you don’t believe that this can be done, well congrats, you are correct.  Skeptical about the conscious creation process?  Cynical that you can have what you desire?  No amount of surrendering will let this work.  You have the car, you have the key, but the battery is dead.  It may click, it may wheeze, but it won’t start.

Surrendering to the Universe is turning the key and knowing the car will start.  No hesitation, just power-up.  Yes, it is as easy as that…and at the same time, it’s not.  Until we gain real consciousness about the Universe being joyful, abundant and positive, surrender will be ineffective.  But when we do see the world in this way, when we do come to know at our core that this is how it works, we can build anything we want to.

My last thought on the topic of surrendering to the Universe is this: Why not?  I don’t want to live in a reality of lack, of intolerance, of fear and division and anger.  Despite happenings in the world at large, I believe, because I have made this happen many times before, that consciousness can create a better reality.  When my reality is better, I can help others to find a better reality for themselves.  I would rather believe that we can improve the world each individually than that we are trapped by our circumstances.  Silence the inner critic and surrender to the Universe.

What do you believe in strongly enough to surrender it to the Universe?

 

This is the two-hundred seventy-fourth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas and my personal experiences in walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

Pathwalking 273

Change is complicated.

First, it is imperative to acknowledge this statement:  CHANGE IS INEVITABLE.  Things change, because that is the nature of the Universe.

Because time is an illusion, how we perceive change varies.  Some change is quick and hard to miss.  Some is so glacially slow that we don’t realize that change is happening at all.  But everything changes, whether animal, vegetable or mineral.  Everything evolves, shifts, and transforms.

The desert was once a sea.  Seeds grow into plants.  Caterpillars become butterflies.  Children become adults.  Change is inevitable.

For many, this is not a good thing.  They get comfortable with how things are, the life they know, the people they keep around themselves and so on.  Change means that the familiar can be replaced by the unfamiliar, and the unfamiliar represents uncertainty.  Uncertainty leads to concern, to distress, to fear and even worse.

I have written about this many times before.  One of the reasons for this is because Pathwalking is about finding and claiming your own destiny, about making your own way in this world rather than letting it be made for you.  But even when you succeed, change will continue, and you will find yourself needing to change and adapt as well.

Pathwalking, therefore, seeks to effect change.  When you make choices for your own life, you choose how things will change, rather than simply having them be sprung upon you.

Yes, I know that some changes are not desirable.  Nobody likes to lose a job, a relationship, a financial investment and so forth.  Aging can be disturbing and scary; and don’t even get me started on our society and some of the madness going on out there.  But we still have the ability to be in control of our own lives, and our own journeys along our given paths.

One issue a lot of us face is the ease of complaint.  It is so very easy to complain about this, bitch about that, whine and snark with our friends about other people, places and things.  It’s particularly insidious when we are not directly complaining about our own lives and situations, but rather about other people and instances we’re experiencing.

I know that I can get caught up easily in a good snark fest.  Talking about those guys and the things they are doing that are annoying, infuriation, or simply foolish among your friends can make you feel like you’re getting it off your chest…but in truth we are perpetuating it, and taking it to new heights.

What has complaint got to do with change?  Simple – Consciousness Creates Reality.  The Law of Attraction doesn’t care what you are focused on, it will simply take that information and work to give you what you are telling it that you want.

A lot of what we complain about in other people is change.  We see them behaving badly, or otherwise contrary to what we thought we knew of them.  We may be disappointed, we may be confused, or we may simply be amazed by the change we see.  But the thing of it is, this is change which we cannot control.

I can only change things about myself.  I can change my style, my body, my job, my friends, my location, my choices.  All of these things will change, no matter what happens, sometimes subtly and other times abruptly.  I can choose whether to foster changes, or let them sneak up on me and just happen.

Change is complicated, but largely due to our beliefs that we can do very little about it.  In truth, we can create our own changes as we desire, on many different levels, and we can use that to our advantage on any path we walk.

Unhappy with your weight?  Change it.  Displeased about your hair color?  Change it.  Miserable at your job?  Change it.  Finished with your partner?  Change it.  You have the power, but only you can choose to wield it.

I am working on making changes that I feel will help me to not only walk the paths of my choosing, but also to leave me a happier, healthier, better prepared and capable person.  I have decided to not let change just happen as it will, but to consciously take control and effect those changes to get the outcome I desire.  Since change is inevitable, I might as well use that to my advantage.

We all evolve.  You can disbelieve the science all you want, that doesn’t make it any less true.  Evolution is change.  Humans have more power to choose how they change than any other creatures we are presently aware of on this planet.  I believe that if more people realized this, rather than allow the undue influence of certain parties, we would all be happier, more complete and certain that the Universe isn’t out to get us, but does in fact love us.

Change is complicated, but largely because we make it so.  What change do you most want to control?

 

This is the two-hundred seventy-third entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas and my personal experiences in walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

Pathwalking 272

How do you find the line between being informed, and being overwhelmed by information?

This is the question I find myself contending with fairly regularly of late.  Given all that is happening both in the USA and around the world, I find I need to remain informed, and keep in the know.

However, there are so, so many things happening that this quickly becomes overwhelming.

World news can be pretty crazy, but all the insane political actions happening in America right now are particularly frustrating.  Again, while I strive to not get political when Pathwalking, this is becoming increasingly unavoidable.  Between a President insistent on telling frequent, outright lies, a Congress interested only in their own power and their wealthy benefactors, increased blatant racism and sexism, not to mention the growing divisions in perception across the continent, this can be a total distraction from anything and everything else.

One key thing I am working on keeping in mind is that I can only do so much to effect these things.  Once I have done my part, I can continue to observe, I can write thought pieces on the given situation or open letters to Congress or requests to the disaffected for my blog.  I can participate in marches and protests as appropriate.

The danger of crossing the line between informed and overwhelmed is the effect this can have on the path I am walking.  When the politics and the anger over the negativity constantly inundates you, it is unsurprisingly easy to step off your path; or even to cease progress upon it; or leave it entirely.

I want to be in the know, I want to be aware of what is happening; but when this dominates my thoughts, it seeps into my feelings and can impact upon actions I might or might not take.  Suddenly a major outside influence is overtaking my paths, and before I know it I am somewhere I would really prefer not to be.

The challenge now is for me to walk my chosen paths, while keeping informed about what’s going on in the world, without letting these things I can do little-to-nothing about dominate my choices.

I’ve written about this before, but it has becoming increasingly difficult to simply observe and not get emotionally invested.  The utter lack of empathy on the part of our so-called leaders, the outright lies being spread, the greed and corruption of the system frequently being laid bare is difficult to ignore.  I want to remain aware of this, but even just staying in the know can be infuriating in the face of extremism.

Further, there is also to some degree lingering guilt about my personal desire to still walk my own chosen paths.  I am aware that if I do not care for myself and do what I need for me, I have nothing to share or give to help others.  And yet there is still a sense of selfishness in these actions; irrational emotions despite the logic of the thoughts I can’t ignore but need to keep control over.

So – how do I keep informed, but not overwhelmed?  How do I walk my chosen paths, and still help other people and worthy causes and not feel guilty?

First, I have chosen to take a unique break.  As you read this, I am on vacation, having a new experience in a new place, with very few of my usual companions around me.  This is going to put me very much in the now, as I will be in this place at this time, and largely focused on the here-and-now as I have this new experience.

See this week’s Positivity in regards to my thoughts on escaping, and the good that can come of that.

Second, the other component of this break is that, afterwards, I will take the opportunity to use this as a form of reset.  When I return to my regularly scheduled life and responsibilities and obligations, I am going to work on a new approach, striving to change some old habits and focus on the paths of my choosing.  I am going to work on actions to not just return to my usual patterns, habits and routines, but to use the week in the here-and-now to STAY in the now, and form some new habits.

Third, I am going to work on staying focused on the now.  A great deal of the frustration born of the news of the world is less in what is being done right now, and more in what is being presented.  Bills that Congress is deliberating over, the effects of Executive Orders on people and our society, terrible ideas being presented that are not yet here, but are unpleasant to think about as happening.  If I am focused on possible outcomes in an unwritten future, I am giving it energy, and since like attracts like, and consciousness creates reality, doing so is detrimental to my health and desires.

Take a break.  Reset.  Focus on the now.  This combination, I believe, will help me to stay the course on the paths of my choosing, and help me better to find what it is I want from life.  It is important as we walk our paths to not be overwhelmed by the things we cannot control, yet remain informed.  I think I have found my own line between informed and overwhelmed, and we’ll see how things turn out as I strive to change some long-held, well-ingrained habits and regular actions.

Do you know where your line between informed and overwhelmed is?

 

This is the two-hundred seventy-second entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas and my personal experiences in walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

Pathwalking 271

Empathy is not a weakness.

Empathy is not simply about understanding how someone else feels.  It is about understanding that, like you, other people have feelings, too.

We all have desires, we all have wants, we all have needs.  Some are similar, such as food, shelter, clothing, companionship.  Yet even with the similarities, they still will vary from person to person.   The foods and quantities of food vary, the desired shelter differs, we like different clothing based on our individual tastes, and we don’t all want the same companions.

Empathy is not just about feelings.  But it is very important to acknowledge that everybody feels.  Even the most robotic people we know still have feelings.  They may lock them away, or let logic be more dominant, but they are still there, still present.

The thing about empathy is that we are frequently approaching it from a place of lack, rather than abundance.

What does that mean?  Let’s look at empathy in regards to refugees.  Many people see them as parasites, people who will come in and take and take, and so they push to keep them away.   They believe there is not enough, whether that’s space, food, shelter or jobs, and so they want to keep them out and keep them away.

But if you see empathy as a part of abundance, then we can see in ourselves how awful it would be to lose our homes, lose our way of life, maybe even our loved ones, and be forced to flee.  We see these people not as parasites, but as people much like us, who just want to come and have a new place to call home, a safe place to live and work and just be.  We see that our place, our nation for example, has more than enough space, food, shelter and jobs, and we want to help them and bring them here, as we would want them to do for us were the roles reversed.

That is really what empathy is about.  How do I want to be treated?  If you see a world of lack, then there is an insufficiency of any number of things, tangible or otherwise.  But if you see a world of abundance, then there is more than enough to go around, and endless possibility.

I rarely get political when Pathwalking, but in regards to this topic I feel it is unavoidable.  In addition to the divide-and-conquer attitude of those in power in the United States currently, there is a major lack of empathy.  Repealing the Affordable Care Act will take away the ability for many people to maintain their health, and the reason given for this action is lack of some sort or other.  Where is the empathy for those who are sick, broke, struggling to be well?  Everybody wants to find love and companionship, so how do legal actions that work against LGBTQ people allow for that?  Immigrants?  Refugees?  The poor?  Anybody struggling to make ends meet?  What happened to caring about people?

Even worse, it has become increasingly acceptable to be rude and impolite.  Does anyone like it when people are rude to them, or treat them inhospitably?  Since I am pretty certain the answer is no, then how come people are either tolerating or themselves becoming increasingly rude, disrespectful, and argumentative?

It is not a weakness to be empathetic to other people, because that is simply acknowledging that we do not want to be treated that way, either.  Empathy is sensing how we want to be made to feel, how we want to be addressed, and giving just what we want to get.

Walking your own path is no reason to lack in empathy for others.  My path is not your path, your path is not his path or her path, and our paths are not their paths.  If, however, we are approaching the paths we are on from a place of lack, then we are in danger of lacking empathy for the paths of others, because we could see that there is not enough for all of us.

But if we approach the paths we are on from a place of abundance, we will have empathy for the paths of others, because we can see that there is enough for us all.  What we seek upon our paths differs, and in an abundant universe there is more than enough for each and every one of us.

We all need to see that empathy is a strength.  By being able to put ourselves into other people’s shoes, we can see what makes each and every one of us great.  We can see endless possibilities, and we can work together to remove limitations, lack and hopelessness.

With a bit more empathy, we can work together to build a much better world, and we can overcome the fear, the hate, and the intense negativity of those who prefer us divided so they can conquer.  The golden rule is not wrong, it is the truth of empathy – Do unto others as you would have done unto you.

Empathy is a strength.  Being empathetic towards our fellow human beings makes us better people, better citizens, and most of all better to ourselves.  Empathy empowers.

How do you want people to think of and treat you?

 

This is the two-hundred seventy-first entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas and my personal experiences in walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

Pathwalking 270

We live in an abundant universe.

Society, however, strives to contradict this fact.  We endlessly are bombarded with messages of insufficiency, wanting and lack.  It seems like everywhere we turn we are told there is not enough money to go around, dwindling resources, too little security, and overall an insufficient amount of this or that to accommodate everyone.

Worse, even where lack doesn’t exist, there are plenty of people who use the fear of lack to maintain control.  If we don’t keep them out they’ll take all your jobs; they are taking all the resources from us; there is not enough for everyone, so because this group is different we will deny them benefits; and so forth.

Whether this is an actual deficiency of things or just the fear of lack, the effect is the same.  We believe that life is hard, that we have to frequently struggle for the jobs/money/lovers/power/status because there is not enough to go around.  Many of those in power use precisely this to remain in power, because fear is an amazing tool.

Lack and fear are closely tied together.  Fear of lack in particular gets used frequently to “justify” denial of rights, denial of funding and outright rudeness.  And because like attracts like, the more of this we see and experience and give thought and feelings to, the more we are creating, despite the fact that nobody actually WANTS to be lacking or afraid of lacking.

The truth of this matter is that we live in an abundant Universe.  All of the things we find lacking are artifice; more of that which is lacking can be found, or an equal or better alternative will become available.

I know that in the current political and social climate, at least in the USA, that seems like a lie.  But this is the truth of the nature of the universe, whether we believe it or not.

We live in a world of abundance.  There is plenty of food, water, and air to go around.  All lack is artificial, created by governments and nationalisms and borders and money and other divisions of our own creation.  Yes, we should protect it from pollutions and poisons, but that is another artifice of our own creation that disturbs the true abundance.  Without these divisions, working together, there would be plenty for everyone.

How do we combat the dominant lack mentality?  Like all things related to ourselves, this has to be an inside job.  It’s easy to look outside of ourselves to find solutions to problems, to make changes.  But while looking outside of ourselves can provide us with ideas and concepts to work from, we have to make any necessary changes from within.

A lot of us have gotten caught up in trying to do things to help change the world.  Writing about truthful things, making calls to leaders, writing letters, attending protests, rallies and townhalls and so forth.  But if we neglect our own need for abundance and positivity, we will soon deplete our own energy, and begin to feel that lack mentality overtake us.

I have been contending with this for a long, long time.  I strive to see the world as abundant, I work hard to envision, to think about and feel prosperity and abundance for myself, my friends and my family.  But then I get caught up in the rhetoric, my bills come due, and my bank account never seems to be sufficiently full, save for very short spans.

Knowing that to create abundance I have to think about abundance, as an exercise in Pathwalking in Practice, it is time to add another daily question.  Joining How am I? What am I thinking? What am I feeling and Am I thinking about things ahead of me, or in the now? I am adding Do I feel abundant?

This is a starting point.  But I need to do more, in order to reset my mind to abundance.  In especial if the answer is “No”, I need to take action to start thinking about abundance, so that I can begin feeling abundance and take inspired actions to manifest abundance.

Like my daily gratitude, I need to make positive statements of abundance, and not just think them out, but FEEL them out.  These statements should be written out, and will include I have more than enough wealth; I have more than enough love; I have more than enough time; I have more than enough space; and anything else I feel should be abundant in my life.

I will write out three to five of these, at least twice if not three times a day.  As I write them, I will pause, and strive to FEEL them.  This, like gratitude, can’t just be a rote thing.  I need to think about this, to feel it, and from there I will find the inspiration to take intentional actions.

Of course this is easier said than done, but walking my own path in this life is worth every effort.  I need to remind myself that I live in an abundant universe, and this action of Pathwalking in Practice can do no harm, and will further my work in manifesting the destiny I want for myself.

Can you see your life with lack, or abundance?

 

This is the two-hundred seventieth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas and my personal experiences in walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

Pathwalking 269

Presumption can be majorly detrimental to your health.

What am I talking about?  I think it’s pretty safe to say that everyone, at one time or another, has stumbled across something that caused them to make a presumption about the future.   For example, you find an unwrapped present your loved one acquired, or a letter that’s not addressed with either good news or bad news, or you find a job listing from your own company that looks suspiciously like your job.

All of these will lead to presumptions.  Some are good – like excitement for receipt of the gift, anticipation of that good news, presuming you are going to be getting a promotion.  On the other side of the same coin, however, is the bad – like thinking that that gift is for someone else, anticipation of the bad news, or wondering if you are going to be fired from the job.

Meanwhile, you are thinking about the future, rather than focusing on the now.  Sure, if might be a good future you are looking at, but it’s still looking ahead.  If, however, you are looking to a negative future, in the here-and-now you may find yourself experiencing disquiet, anxiety, nervousness, short-temper and all kinds of less-than-productive emotions.

Lao Tzu is credited with saying, “If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the present. “  I recognize that this is a massive over-simplification, but it is none-the-less significant, in especial the notion of being at peace, living in the present.

I frequently write about consciousness creating reality.  I also frequently explore that in order to make anything manifest, you have to not only give it a great deal of pure focus and thought, feeling and inspired action, but you need to see it as being in the present.  So long as you see it in the future, it will stay in the future, always out-of-reach, always ahead at an unknown time and place.

This is where presumption can be detrimental to your health.  If you are presuming something good is coming, if for some reason it does not go as you expected, you will find yourself having to deal with the let-down.  If you are presuming something bad is coming, your anxiety and uncertainty related to that may make it worse than it will be.  Further, by giving it focus and attention, odds are you will help to manifest it coming into being.

Yes, it’s important to acknowledge that you cannot effect the actions of others.  You cannot influence your loved one to give that gift to you if its intended for another, you can’t stop the letter from being sent, and you can’t control if your boss has decided to fire you.  All you can do is what is right by and for you, and strive to be at peace in the now.

Living in the here-and-now is not always easy.  I find myself constantly striving to keep ahold of my focus, and to keep my mindset on the present as much as possible.  This is why I began the awareness questions with Pathwalking in Practice.  Every time I ask myself How Am I? What am I thinking? and How am I feeling? I immediately pull myself into the present.  Instant awareness in question and answer form.  As I am striving to manifest what I want in the here-and-now, and to stop seeing it ahead of myself, I am also asking, Am I thinking about things ahead of me, or in the now?  I am working on writing out the answers to these questions two to four times a day, as I strive to shift my mindset for my own self-improvement.

Society is particularly fond of looking backwards and forwards, and when they do look at the now it’s often with an eye to a quick-fix for something or various troubles rather than positives.  Often we make our presumptions about the future based on the past, which can also be detrimental to our health.  If every time you submit a query letter to an agent and get nothing but form-letter rejections, what do you presume will happen with the next query you submit?  Again, not healthy.

How do we combat the effects of presumption?  I honestly don’t know, but I have some ideas I am working with to do precisely this.  Primarily, I am working on trying to accept that what will be will be, and that I can only work and live in the now.  So, rather than fret about what may lie ahead, I am working in the here-and-now to do my best, be my best, and to live each day with purpose and positivity.  Easier said than done, but it is a work in progress.

When it comes to anticipation of something bad, I am striving not to focus on the possibility, and instead try to find a positive.  To borrow from Jen Sincero, author of You Are A Badass, I am striving to look at a negative presumption with the idea of exploring “this is good because”.  If the thing I do not want comes to pass, rather than focus on all its possible negativity, I am looking to find the positive.  “I do not want that thing to happen, but if it does, it is good because it will change my path for the better.”  Again, yes this can be a struggle, but wouldn’t you rather see silver linings than the clouds?

My goal is to better live in the here-and-now, and not allow presumptions of possible futures based on limited information have me feeling bad.  Rather than make presumptions, in particular negative presumptions, and in the process make myself anxious, sick-to-my-stomach and unhappy, I want to be at peace in the here-and-now.

How do you handle the effects of presumption?

 

This is the two-hundred sixty-ninth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas and my personal experiences in walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

Pathwalking 268

How clear is your vision?

This is the question I have been contending with for a while now.  It is, to some degree, due to a lack of clarity in my vision and my end goals that I find myself not achieving them as I most desire.

Part of my problem is that I sometimes want to hedge my bets.  I have a Plan A, a Plan B, and maybe even a Plan C.  The best part is, none of them are fully formed, either.

How does that work?  Well, I have a partially-formed notion of the path I want to walk.  This is Plan A, the main path I want to traverse.  Nearly parallel, though, I am also jumping from time to time to a different path or two, Plans B and C.  So rather than traverse one path and see where it is going, I am trying to travel along two or three.

It’s important that I pause and add some specificity here.  Yes, you can be on more than one path at a time when the goal at the end of the path differs with little difficulty.  I can be on one path with regards to career and another with regards to relationships, and not have the same difficulties.  Of course they can intersect and even parallel, but the difference in result does not lessen either’s clarity.

Is it possible to take two or three paths to the same place at a time?  Of course not.  Yes, you can often move along more than one road to get from point ‘a’ to point ‘b’.  They might even cross one another or intersect from time to time.  But it is impossible to travel on an eight-lane interstate freeway at seventy miles per hour while simultaneously rolling down a two-lane residential road at thirty-five with traffic lights every couple miles.

This is part of the problem in trying to negotiate more than one path towards similar goals at the same time.  Let’s look at my specific issue, being career.  As I have been discussing in my Crossing the Bridges posts, I have two distinct worlds I want to work in full-time when it comes to my writing.  One is the world of fiction, where I create and share my sci-fi, fantasy and other works.  The other is this stuff, Pathwalking, Positivity and my self-help philosophy stuff.

In trying to reconcile my two different worlds to a singular vision, I began to digress.  Rather than just looking at ways to expand and promote my writing, I started to consider how I might go about coaching.  Part of why I have begun to work on Pathwalking in Practice is to create something I can give instruction in to more people.

As I have been considering creating a coaching practice of some sort in order to share Pathwalking, I started to shift my focus towards steps I might need to take to get certified as a coach.  Classes, study so that I can do professional life and corporate coaching, and getting necessary certifications and recognition.

Not so long ago I began to receive corporate/life coaching.  I determined this was a step towards helping me work out just how to walk the path I want to the career I want.  One thing she pointed out to me was this – all we have talked about since we began to work together was my desire to write professionally.  Never before had I mentioned a desire to go into coaching.  Did I really want to take the steps involved, and was this really what I am after?

Almost instantly, I realized that, no, this was to some degree me hedging my bets.  I am unable to trust in and fully embrace and believe in my vision of myself as a best-selling author, and from there an inspirational speaker.  I lack the necessary clarity to realize my goal.

This is why clarity of vision is important.  This is why I have succeeded at manifesting my dreams and consciously creating my reality.  I was clear on the end result, I had a clear vision, and it came into being.  There was no question in my mind what the end goal was, and I got onto the path fully aware of where I intended it to end.  I will heal completely; I will replace my dying car; I will get that girl; and so forth.

The vision I need to place in my head, and more importantly KEEP in my head, is what I want at the end.  In this case, for this path, it’s this: I want to be a best-selling author.  From there, I want to sell screen rights to my work, and/or start creating movies and TV.  Alongside these, I want to become a public speaker on creating inspirational empowerment and conscious reality creation.

The other important point of clarity I need to work on is this: I cannot view this end goal as ahead of me, as down the line, as coming soon.  I need to see it as HERE AND NOW.  I need to keep this goal in mind as part of my present, not as my future.  So long as I keep seeing it as before me or coming up or eventually or even soon, that sends a definite message to the Universe.  I need to believe and feel this as if it is already my life, in order to truly draw it to me.

As a step towards adding greater clarity in my process, I am adding a fourth question to my daily awareness questions.  Joining How am I? and What am I thinking? and How am I feeling? I am adding Am I thinking about things ahead of me, or in the now?  This is yet another awareness checker, in order to better know my own mind, so that I can work on consciously creating the reality I most desire.

There are days this is more challenging than others.  But having clarity of purpose goes a very long ways towards building the life I want for myself, manifesting my dreams, and truly walking paths that I have chosen.

Are you clear on the goals of your life paths?

 

This is the two-hundred sixty-eighth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas and my personal experiences in walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

Pathwalking 267

Why does anyone want to be wealthy?  What is wealth?

American society, at least, has long believed in the idea that you can pull yourself up by your bootstraps, rise to the top and make yourself into a rich, successful individual if you just work hard enough.  Put your nose to the grindstone, work your ass off, and viola, you will be successful and rich.

Wealth, however, is a much broader topic.  Being wealthy is not achieved by counting the pennies in your pockets, it is much more than that.  Wealth is deeper, more involved than the simple idea of money, having vs not-having, and so on.

Our society puts far too much emphasis on how much money we each have.  This causes all kinds of problems for people, because money is a totally loaded topic.  For some, money is a good thing, and they see it as empowering and helpful.  For some, money is a bad thing, they see it as disempowering and hurtful.  Yet in order to do anything in this world, you have to have money for everything from the basics to the more advanced needs and wants we require.

Money is infuriating, because while it, in-and-of itself, is a neutral thing, people will use it for good and evil.  People will lord their money over those who do not have it, hoard it, and use it for their own greed to keep others down.  People will show incredible generosity, and give donations to worthy charities and people in need.  Most people use money to cover the basics, and with whatever they have beyond that to buy things that we hope will help us to be happy.

This is the biggest matter when it comes to money.  Happiness.  Money is often seen as the key to happiness.  If you have money, you will be happy because you can buy anything you want.  This, in turn, leads to the false belief that being rich and having plenty of money is being wealthy.  But the truth is, there is more to wealth than that.

What is wealth? From all that I have studied, wealth is abundance.  Abundance of not just material things like money and possessions, but also friends, health, loved ones, and awareness.  When you live in abundance, you are never wanting for companionship, love, freedom, or possibility.

Unfortunately, our society has problems with abundance.  We are constantly bombarded by messages of lack.  There is not enough to go around.  Money is scarce, jobs are scarce, your freedom is under attack because there is only so much to go around.  Why is that the message?  Because by keeping our society in a lack mentality, those in power believe this will keep them in power.  They offer to protect what we have, guard it jealously because there is little else to go around.  They convince us that because there is lack and not abundance, greed is acceptable.

This is the biggest lie in our society today.  Because of this lie, we are facing unprecedented levels of greed, of stinginess, but worse than that we have become more accepting of blatant acts of intolerance, cruelty, and indecency.  We see outright lies being told daily by our top government officials, and rather than call them out for it we analyze them, we track them, but we hardly hold anyone to be accountable.

It’s obvious why anyone wants wealth.  Is there anybody that does not want an abundance of good in their life?

So how do you attain wealth?  The key is abundance.  We need to think abundance, we need to feel abundance, we need to act abundant.  And of course, this is so, so much easier said than done.  Just to add insult to injury, it’s even harder given current circumstances.

It is important to note that wealth and abundance is NOT a selfish thing.  Having wealth, being abundant is not selfish.  In fact, the very definition of abundance is more than enough.  We frequently misrepresent the “wealthy” as selfish because we see these rich people hoarding their money, selfishly guarding what they have for themselves alone, and denying empowerment to others.  That is NOT truly wealth nor abundance.  The truly wealthy know there is more than enough to go around, and they share and spread abundance.

How does one apply abundance to Pathwalking in Practice?  This is particularly challenging.  In especial if you have bills to pay, debts owed, or are in any other way feeling lack.  What’s more, this is something that it might feel REALLY selfish to consider, given the state of the world today.  However, if we do not care for ourselves, how can we do any good for anyone else?

To think and feel abundance, you have to convince yourself that your life IS abundant.  You cannot see it in the future, you have to see it RIGHT NOW.  I think the best practice one can do to try and manifest more abundance, and to think and feel abundance, is to write out, first thing in the morning, five to ten times, an affirmation, such as I HAVE ENDLESS ABUNDANCE or I AM WEALTHY or I AM WEALTHY AND ABUNDANT.  Then, write it out again just before going to bed.

I know that this might stretch credulity, and it might feel like an outright lie.  But every single book I have read or listened to on the subject of consciousness creating reality, or the Law of Attraction, or just about any other self-help advice suggests something like this.  We have to alter our thinking to alter our feeling to allow us better actions to manifest the world we want.  It might not be easy, but is anything worth having ever easy?

Do you want to be wealthy?

 

This is the two-hundred sixty-seventh entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas and my personal experiences in walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

Pathwalking 266

One of the hardest questions for many people to answer is – what do you want?

For some, the reason this is difficult is because of fear that if they answer wrong, they’ll be unhappy with the outcome.  For some, there are many things they want and that is causing them to waffle.  For some they sincerely do not know what they want.  However, in all probability, it’s some combination of all of the above.

Decision making can be surprisingly challenging.  Some people just know what they want, make a choice, process complete.  Some people need to sleep on it, think it over, explore multiple angles, and have as complete information as they can get before deciding.  Some people get so flustered by choices before them, they frequently make no decision at all, or when they do there is so little conviction behind it that they might as well have not bothered.

Why are we so afraid to choose wrong?  Very few decisions are truly life or death, and while many do have consequences, few are irreversible.  Certainly we might find ourselves somewhere we would prefer not to be because of a choice we made, but there are times when the unexpected consequence of a choice turns out to be even better than what we were deciding on in the first place.

Let me clarify here that this in reference to the very personal choices we make in regards to what we want for our own lives.  Yes, the world today is full of people who make decisions without any thought behind them, and they appear to end up in ludicrous places or cause other issues.  This is a far broader matter, though it is in part a reflection of the inability of many to know what they want and choose as such.

Pathwalking is about seeking out and choosing my own destiny, my own path in life to achieve the things I want.  I have, over the five years of this process I’ve shared, expressed that there will always be multiple paths, because life is not so simple or one-size-fits-all.  Once the goal of an intended path has been reached, there will be a new goal and a new path to travel.

That’s also a scary thing for many.  You go through all the trouble of doing all the things to get what you want…and then once you have it, how long do you get to enjoy it before you need to choose again?  Why bother if every time you succeed at reaching the completion of the path you have to start again?

That’s the thing – it’s actually a GOOD thing to have more paths to choose.  Whether we like it or not, life is always in motion, frequently shifting, changing, ever forward.  We will encounter new people and experience new things, and this in turn will change us.  When we change we have new goals, new values, new ideas to explore, and unlike the rest of the animal kingdom, we frequently get to partake in creation.

Most of the rest of the animals on this planet have only one goal.  Survive.  They do not care about ambitions, success and failure, how other people think of them, fun, stress, and so on.  They simply live life, strive to survive and thrive, and that’s the long and short of it.  Humans lead far more complex existences.

In regards to Pathwalking in Practice, how does one explore and take some form of action in regards to the decision making process?  This can take several forms, so I want to address one that is specific, and one that is broader.

On the broad choices – the original question I asked is, What do you want?  What are you seeking from this life?  There are certainly many different things, tangible or intangible, that this applies to.  A job, finding a lover, a home, a friend- these are all goals we want to achieve.  One of the challenges for me on this end, personally, is clarity.  I need to be clearer, more definite about the end result I desire.

SO – I am writing it down.  That is my action – answer the question.  What overarching thing is it I want from a given path I am walking?  What end result am I desiring?  I have a vague idea of the answer, but I think one reason why I have yet to accomplish it is that I am not totally clear.  I will write it out to create that clarity.

On the subject of specific choices – there are always decisions to make.  Every day we get to ask questions like what do I want to do for dinner; do I go to the gym; what shirt should I wear today; and so on.  For many, even these simple, day-to-day questions can cause paralysis.

The action I will take is to not answer with “I don’t know” or “Why don’t you choose?” or the ever popular, “Well what do YOU want?”  I can take a moment, and by a moment I mean less than a minute, but I then have to choose something.  I need to be decisive rather than indecisive, and take action.

Thought is where every path begins.  Then you feel it out.  Then you act upon it.  As I am looking to show others my methods for walking one’s own paths in life, putting matters into practice are how I will take this to the next level.  That’s one of MY chosen paths.

What’s your Pathwalking in Practice plan?  What do YOU want?

 

This is the two-hundred sixty-sixth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas and my personal experiences in walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

Pathwalking 265

Sometimes keeping things in your head is exhausting.

I am a thinker.  I am constantly thinking about things, great and small, major and minor, important and less so.  From food I want to eat to world situations to speculation about the next Star Wars movie to finances, I am constantly thinking.

The problem with constantly thinking is that I am frequently finding darker thoughts clouding my emotions.  When you start to let negative emotions dominate, you wind up having a very difficult time not just manifesting what you want, but simply living day to day and generally functioning.

This is where a particular Pathwalking in Practice application comes to mind.  Specifically, journaling.

I often forget, which is why I frequently remind myself here, the power of writing things down.  It doesn’t need to be a long, drawn out process.  But sometimes just writing out what I am thinking, what’s on my mind, where my head is at the given moment helps me to regain my clarity, my focus.

Last week I talked about asking myself questions, four times a day.  More, I needed to write out my answers when I asked them.  How am I?  What am I thinking?  What am I feeling?

I have not succeeded at getting this down four times a day, but three consistently.  The effect?  I do feel that I have a better sense of my emotional state.  Unfortunately, I see I am all-too-frequently feeling negative, but being more aware of this I can work to correct it.

One of the ways to work at this is journaling.  If I write down just what on earth is in my head, it can help me to gain clarity, and to get a better understanding of just what is going on in there.  If I am finding too much negativity in the answers to my questions, why is that?  Is it something I can control, or is it an outside thing I can’t do much with or about?  What’s going on in my thought process that’s causing me to feel negative?

There are times just writing out what you cannot say is immensely helpful.  Letters to yourself, to people who have made you feel hurt, to inanimate objects, to grand entities that couldn’t care less about you or your existence – all of these have value.  Writing it out gets it out of your head, and lets you move forward.

Some people, like me, prefer to type.  Have you seen my handwriting?  I swear, when I go too fast, I can barely read it.  Typing?  I can type nearly as fast as I can think, and this I CAN read.

Some people prefer the feel of pen on paper, and they like to be able to flip the pages and read their thoughts without having to sit at a tablet or smartphone or computer or such.  It makes no difference, really, so long as you get the words out of your head and onto a page.

The catharsis of this is incredibly powerful.  When you write things out, good or bad, you move them clear of your mind and make room for new things.  Yes, I am sure you can argue that our minds have infinite capacity.  I argue that pretty frequently myself.  But the thing is, when emotions are involved, we often wind up focused on our feelings, and particularly emotions we would prefer to be without.

Negative emotions are NOT more powerful than positive.  The trouble is, our society has become far more reactionary than actionable.  We fight against this or that, we wait and see and then fix problems, rather than be more proactive and work together to build better from the start.

We also tend to bottle things up.  We hold onto bad feelings in particular, we get all stressed out about all kinds of situations.  Then we let them fester until we cry, or scream, or get sick…or even die.

As a part of Pathwalking in Practice, keeping a journal can be tremendously helpful in any number of ways.  Whether paper, an online format, your smartphone’s notes, or a Word document; maintaining a journal and collecting your thoughts can go a long ways towards finding and negotiating any given path.

I post to this blog a minimum of three times a week.  Positivity every Monday, Pathwalking on Wednesday, and now Crossing the Bridges on Friday.  Atop of that I also throw down an occasional post about something topical or my writing process or some other things that’s gotten in my head.  To all intents and purposes, this is my journaling.

If you are not a blogger like I am, I would suggest starting out with finding a few minutes every day to simply ask yourself, “What’s on my mind?”  It need not be lengthy, it doesn’t have to be uber-super-detailed, but it should be something you can write out, and give you a chance to get into your own head for a little self-examination.

Ultimately, this is a very empowering action.  Journaling allows us to reach within, draw it out, put it in front of ourselves so that we can create clarity.  When we gain clarity, we can more easily manifest the lives we wish to.  There is still work to be done, but its always easier when we have clarity.

Journaling is a great means to better walk the path of your choosing.  More Pathwalking in Practice.  Do you keep any sort of journal for yourself?

 

This is the two-hundred sixty-fifth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas and my personal experiences in walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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