The Ramblings of the Titanium Don

Did You Know that You Are Worthwhile and Deserving?

Yes, you. The other day I felt particularly down. I was chewing on thoughts about recognition from others that hadn’t come, how few of my friends and family have bought my books, and how it often feels like nobody cares what I write and share here. My therapist was sick, my wife is going through enough of her own crap that she didn’t need mine on top of it. There is nobody among my friends I’m presently close enough to

Find The Good In Yourself First

You are a good, worthy, and deserving person. The world appears – on many levels – to be going truly mad. Every week, writing about positivity, I always manage to find something to write about. But that doesn’t mean it’s not especially challenging. Looking at the outside picture of the world at present is deeply frustrating, distressing, and too close a look can be depressing. Despite my attempts to spend less time on social media – a serious harbinger of

Are You and Your Life Worthwhile and Deserving of What You Desire?

No matter what it is – you ARE worthwhile and deserving. Everyone has bad days. That’s part of the human experience. Even the happiest, most upbeat, and most positive people have bad days. That’s the yin/yang of the Universe at play. I know how it feels when you’re depressed. That sense of worthlessness, that you are unable to win, that no matter what you do, the Universe hands you shit sandwiches – and hovers over you until you take a

Why You Don’t Need to Love Yourself but DO Need to Like Yourself

It’s because you are always with yourself, all the time. But that’s just the start. Nobody is ever, truly, alone. Why? Because no matter where you go, there you are. Or in other words – you always have yourself. Here’s the thing – your entire life, you have yourself. That means that you have all that you are, good, bad, and otherwise, always with you. For many people, that’s disconcerting. You have yourself – but isn’t that a lonely proposition?

Are Your Feelings – Positive or Negative – Always Valid?

Yes, your feelings are always valid. But understanding them is another matter. You’ve probably been in a situation where you had an emotional response someone deemed inappropriate or disproportional. You were overreacting, taking it too hard, overthinking it, or what-have-you. It did not help your situation, did it? Chances are it increased it, or made you more stubborn and deepened the feeling. What’s more, they might have been correct. You were overreacting, taking it too hard, overthinking it, or whatever.

Why Is It Important and Positive to Be Yourself?

Because yourself is the only person you can be. What that looks like, however, is up to you. I had to put a great deal of work into becoming who I am. That’s not to say in any way, shape, or form that I’m fully-formed or perfect. Nope, I’m still a work in progress. But the choice to be myself – and to work on what that means – was mine. It’s really important to be yourself. Why? Because who

Which Do You Fear More – Rejection or Suffering?

It’s not the rejection you fear so much as the suffering that’ll come with it. Nobody likes to suffer. Suffering – mentally, emotionally, physically, or spiritually – is unpleasant. The pain that comes with suffering – tangible or not – is unpleasant, distressing, uncomfortable, and just plain awful. But do you know what’s worse than suffering? Often – the fear over how and what it’ll be. Frequently, we don’t recognize suffering as our fear. It gets cloaked in another, more

Is It Really Worth the Effort?

You alone know if it’s really worth the effort – or not. What is “It”? That depends, I suppose. Various things that we can experience will qualify as “it.” Might be something big and scary or small and mundane. “It” might be getting up early to go for a walk. Or it might be applying for that dream job you’ve always wanted. Maybe “it” is finally cleaning out the walk-in closet in your bedroom. Perhaps “it” is taking the time

Should You Allow Yourself to Take Time Off?

Yes, you absolutely should take time off – and here’s why. I am terrible at taking time off. There is a certain sense of guilt that comes with what are my obligations. Even those that are self-imposed. When I don’t meet those expectations, I feel bad. That can turn negative on a dime, and before you know it the brain weasels start chittering. You’re bad, you are worthless, what do you think you are doing? etc. For this reason, taking

Why Should You Write Down Your Ideas and Interesting Thoughts ASAP?

When you write down your ideas, they become harder to lose or misplace. This is not the article I was originally writing. Nope, that article was on a completely different topic. I was about halfway done writing it. Then, my computer crashed. The usual recovery file that tends to pop up when I restart MS Word didn’t. After spending probably more time than I should have searching for this – it all proved to be for naught. The worst part?

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