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How Do We Resist Hate and Fear?

Hate is never the answer.

We are all different.  You and I are not the same.  Even though we might have some similarities, we are still different.  We are individuals.  That means that each and every one of us is unique.

Yet, at the same time, we are all one.  Every single one of us, at our core, is just a being of light and energy.

We live in a fear-based society.  Recognizing this, we have to work extra hard to not be overwhelmed by fear.  Yoda put it rather well when he said, “Fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate, hate leads to suffering.”

The neo-Nazis, the so-called “alt-right”, the white supremacists, the KKK and all those groups are equal parts fear and hate.  They fear losing their identities, losing the power they believe they have, and they are afraid of change.  This leads to anger, which gets redirected as hatred for minorities, Jews and Muslims, women…take your pick.

I am in no way defending the actions of these people, but I do think we need to consider perspective.  To understand what others believe helps us find tools to combat their hate and fear.  We can be more capable when we stand up to them, and show them that their fear and hate do not empower them as they would believe.

Our society is suffering from deep fractures many do not recognize.  In the US, our government is a complete mess; many cannot tell the difference between propaganda and legitimate news and information; and the divide between the haves and the have-nots has grown almost exponentially.  Extremists have come to power, and they see only in black-and-white, ignoring the majority at the center and working to force viewpoints to their way of thinking.

Pathwalking can combat hate.

Pathwalking is about choosing our own destiny, our own fate in this life.  Rather than let life live me, I am striving to take control over that which I can.  My thoughts are my own, my goals belong to only me, and I want to live an extraordinary life of peace and joy.  I want to empower myself.

Yet despite the individuality of my purpose, I also want to empower others.  I share this philosophy because I believe that we can all benefit from greater self-awareness.  By becoming empowered, we can build amazing things.

Fear, anger and hate are not empowering.  One of the greatest mistakes these groups make is that they believe they empower themselves with their venom.  The exact opposite is true, however.  In disempowering the groups they are afraid of and hateful towards, they actually are disempowering themselves.  That is why they are standing on the other side of history, and despite a resurgence of soft political support, they are truly a minority.

The challenge is not fighting hate with hate.  It’s really really easy to dislike these people and their views and their actions.  They are hurtful, they are hateful, and not to put too fine a point on it, they come across as evil.  We can overcome their message, we are the actual majority here, but they are loud, they are backed by money, and they spew messages that bring us all low.

The right kind of resistance is not futile.

I am not advocating for going totally flower-child hippy on this.  We need to demonstrate, we need to march, we need to stand together to resist this evil.  Different is not bad.  When you get right down to it, everything at its core is energy.

It does not matter if you are black, white, male, female, transgendered, gay, straight, bi, Jew, Christian, Muslim, Buddhist, Atheiest, American, Russian, Korean, or whatever other labels you care to apply…at our core WE ARE ALL ONE.  We think differently, we have different goals, we have different wants and needs.  Yet even with all our differences, we are all one, all of us are light and energy at our core.

Reconciling our free-will and individuality of thought with our sameness of being is why we need to empower ourselves, and one another.  When we are aware of ourselves, we can do more for the world at large.  Mob mentality, and organized groups of haters lack awareness, or I don’t think they’d be so quick to spew their rancor.

Observe the reaction when individuals from the Charlottesville marchers were called-out.  When identified as part of the mob, they felt themselves empowered.  But as soon as they were named and individualized and shamed, many changed their tune, and attempted to lessen their role in hate-mongering.  Suddenly they were disempowered…though in truth they were always disempowered.

Hate can be overcome.

We need to take our own empowerment, and use it to overcome the disempowered masses.  One of the best ways to do this is to work on empowering them.  When we can show them that their lives are not being overtaken by that which they fear and hate, we can begin to help them see how disempowered they truly are by their so-called leaders, teachers, demagogues and the like.

Resist meeting hate with hate.  Love is not necessarily the opposite of hate.  Kindness, respect, sympathy, and aid are among the antonyms of hate, and can be used to combat it.  The more we are aware, the more we can help bring awareness to others.  With greater awareness, we can build a better world, and overcome the fear.

Hate is never the answer.  What do you do to resist the fear and hatred in our society?

 

This is the two-hundred ninety-fourth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas for and my personal experiences with walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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How does a non-planner plan?

Making a plan has not always been my strong suit.

I tend to take actions as needed, but planning?  Not so much.

From time to time I will make a plan.  But more often than not, I just go along and do what I need to do.

This is not tremendously compatible with the notion of conscious reality creation.

Make a planTake my writing, for instance.  A friend once told me there are two kinds of writers in the world – planners and pantsers.  Planners will develop detailed worldbuilding, chapter outlines, character biographies and other information before they even start to write the actual story.  Pantsers write by the seat of their pants.  They sit down, and they begin to write out what is in their head.  Along the way you develop character information, the world, even plot information as you go along.

I am a pantser.  I start to write, and along the way I figure out the plot and details of my characters and my worlds and so on.  The Source Chronicles began with a single character and a scene (which in the end appears later in the story as a flashback), then another scene with another character, then another…and then I’m a hundred pages in and the story is developing.

With a few exceptions that is how I write.  One of the wild things about the world of The Vapor Rogues was that, to write the first short story, I had to build a pretty complex world.  The world of The Source Chronicles didn’t get fully fleshed out until I was in the middle of Finder, before Seeker was edited.

The trouble is, conscious reality creation requires planning.

How does a non-planner make a plan?

Despite Pathwalking, the first step I took in developing my conscious reality creation, for over five-and-a-half years, I only recently have started to analyze that my planning skills are lacking.  Sure, I have had ideas for things I want to manifest in my life, but true plans to effect their manifestation have been less forthcoming.

For me, this presents several complications.  I have mentioned before that I tend to get too caught up in figuring out HOW this will all come to pass.  How will I get from this thought I have – I want to be a bestselling author – to manifestation of my idea?  I am feeling it out, I have written the books and published them…so now what?

This is where I have been stuck for a while now.  I know what I want.  I have given it a lot of thought, I have considered and felt what it will feel like to be the success I dream of being.  There have been intentional actions taken, such as editing and publishing my works.  And yet, here I am, barely selling a book or two a week.

This is why it may be necessary for me to consider better my planning.  I can imagine that this will take two distinct forms, but that I need to be careful my planning does not contradict or restrict what the Universe may offer me along the way.

What steps will be involved in my planning?

The first plan has to do with how it will feel to be a success.  I need to sit down and write out what it will feel like to live the life I want.  I’ve written out for myself what it looks like, but not what it feels like.  How will it feel to be working in my home office at my craft?  What will conventions and book signings feel like?  How will seeing my name on the bestseller’s list make me feel?

Once I answer these questions, because of how manifestation works, it’s important that I don’t feel it in the future…I need to feel it NOW.  It has to feel like it’s done, it IS, and that this is the life I have.  That is key to consciously creating reality.

The second plan has to do with what I am doing in the here and now.  This will help me to determine further intentional actions that will allow me to manifest my goal.  I have to plan to take time every day to feel through my thoughts.  I need to envision what my life will look like as if this is the life I am living now.  In doing that I open myself to finding inspiration.  Thus inspired, I gain insight to intentional actions I can take, and from there I give the energy needed to manifest the reality I seek to create.

Writing it out.

Writing out plans and scheduling myself is something of a foreign concept to me.  Yet I can see that this is something that is totally necessary to my wellbeing.  What’s more, this is absolutely a part of the process of conscious reality creation.

The action necessary is to not just say I need to write this out – it’s time to make it happen.  As always, thank you for crossing the bridges with me!

 

GOAL LOG – Week 32:

The goal log has not been fully maintained this week, as I am attending the Pennsic War.

 

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What is Intentional Action?

There is a difference between action and intentional action.

Action without intention can produce unintended results.  Further, it can hamper your conscious reality creation efforts.

The process of conscious reality creation is rather set.  Thought, feeling and action are linked together in this operation.  However, it is of vital importance that there be clarity, or else more likely you’ll find yourself wondering why you don’t seem to be getting where you want to go.

Thought is the easiest concept.  Everybody thinks (granted, some people don’t seem to think all that much).  Everyone develops concepts, ideas, intentions, notions and questions about life.  Thought is how everything starts, big or small, and no manifestation can begin without it.

This is why awareness is of so much import.  When you are not conscious of your thoughts, your subconscious is still thinking about things.  The subconscious will act upon a thought you lost track of, but never intended to make manifest.  Being aware of what you are thinking about is conscious reality creation, and intentional manifestation.

From thought there must be emotion.  If you do not feel anything into your thought, you will not give the thought enough power to be turned into anything but an idea.  That idea will gain no traction without thought.  Think of it this way…thought is the car, feeling is the fuel to make it go.

Again, it is good to be aware of your feelings in order to take the wheel from your subconscious.  When you read bad news, and start giving it a lot of thought and feeling, subconsciously you might create something you don’t actually want.  This is why awareness, or consciousness, is so valuable to building the life we most desire.

Action versus inaction.

You’ve had a thought, felt it out and given it power.  Now you need to take an intentional action.  If thought is the car, and feeling the gasoline, intentional action is putting the car in gear.  That’s the difference between action and intentional action.  Taking the action of putting your foot down on the gas pedal without putting the car in gear won’t move you at all.

By the same token, if you take no action, chances are you will also fail to move anywhere with your conscious reality creation.  However, considered and intentional action might require time before it happens.

We live in a society of go go go.  We want it NOW, we want it FAST.  Remember when your internet connection was dial-up, and it could take a few minutes to log in?  Nowadays, how do we feel when we aren’t instantly online?  We demand incredible speed, we want it blazingly fast, and it all has to happen as close to instantaneously as possible.

Time is an illusion.

Einstein told us that time is an illusion.  Yet we are obsessed with it, and we accept nothing less than immediate action.  But the Universe does not recognize human expectations of time.  It will move in its due course, sometimes as fast as we demand, but sometimes not.

The issue here is taking action for the sake of action.  We recognize that action is necessary, but rather than be intentional in how we act, we simply DO.  And then, when the result is not what we wanted, we become frustrated and wonder why we’re not manifesting what we set out to create.

Again, because our society tends to be reactionary, we frequently see action taken that is either insufficient to what it is addressing, half-assed, or otherwise less effective than wanted.  Demanding instant gratification will not always produce the desired effect.

What is the difference between action and intentional action?

Returning to the car analogy, if I stomp on the gas pedal without bothering to put the car in gear, the engine will rev and the exhaust might belch…but I won’t move where I want to.  If I put the car in gear and then step on the gas, now I am getting somewhere.  That’s intentional action versus action.

The action you take has a purpose.  There is intent, resolve, decision in that action.  It is not action for the sake of action, it is intended to take the thought and feeling and start moving it forward.  The thought and feeling can only begin the manifestation process.  To consciously create reality there must be action, too.

The biggest complication to this process is the how.  When we have that thought, and we know what we want to see our reality turn into, often we just do not see how it will come about.  Getting caught up in the how will invariably trip us up, and confuse this process.  Sometimes, in the process of working out the how, we take action because we think it will help.  However, if there is not intent behind that action…if we do not believe that this action is a must-have part of the conscious reality creation, it will not be helpful.

How does intentional action feel?

Any action taken in the process of conscious reality creation should feel good, it should feel right, it should almost feel effortless.  If it feels like a struggle, or a chore, or a complexity, it might not be what you need.  Fortunately, it’s not necessary to get this perfect to get it right.  Failure just provides us with another opportunity to succeed.

What intentional actions have you taken along your path?

 

This is the two-hundred ninety-third entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas for and my personal experiences with walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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How Important is Communication to Pathwalking?

There needs to be communication.  Even an empath is not a mindreader.

Some people are better at reading people than others.  The definition of how one reads people, though, it rather broad.

Multiple factors go into reading people.  Some are surface, some more in depth.  On the surface there is body language, gestures, stances, facial expressions and other visual cues that will inform you as to what someone is thinking.

Reading someone’s emotional state is a lot trickier.  Some people “wear their heart on their sleeve”, and all of their emotions are expressed in an obvious, readable way.

Certain emotions are physically expressed so as not to be missed.  Screaming in anger or frustration, yelling at someone, crying, laughing, smiling, and similar such expressions convey emotion to anyone in range.

Some people do not share so easily.  Maybe it’s because they have been hurt, maybe because they prefer to keep their feelings to themselves…it really doesn’t matter.  They prefer to not show their emotional state, and that is something to be respected.

As an empath, I can still usually read someone’s emotions, even when they are not in any way obvious.  But reading emotions has limitations, and may not be appreciated.

Reading people’s emotions is no substitute for communication.

Communication is often taken for granted.  In particular with the people we get closest to.  We have our familiars, those whom we frequently share with and know and understand.  One of the intimate aspects of this is subtle, passive, frequently non-verbal tells.

It can become very easy to “know someone’s mind”, and to expect certain behaviors, actions, attitudes and emotions from them.  This is a particular matter with the people we are closest to.  We get comfortable with one another, and we get into a pattern and a flow and familiarity.

People change.  Pure and simple, everyone and everything changes.  Most change is slow, subtle, practically invisible.  But the nature of the universe is change.  Yet we are frequently resistant to change because it is the unknown, it can be scary, unfamiliar, and possibly uncomfortable.

Somewhere along the way much of our society began to view change as something bad.  We even have romanticized the notion of freezing time, holding everything in place so that perfection can be achieved.  Of course, perfection, like beauty, is in the eye of the beholder, and change is going to happen because that is how nature functions.

The caterpillar becomes a butterfly.  The dinosaurs became petroleum.  Children become adults.  The sun rises and sets.  All of this is incontrovertible, it is how the universe functions.  Without change, we could not grow, we would not learn, we would not be able to be more than we are.

No two people change in the same way.  We talk about growing together and growing apart; yet we never do these things in the same way.  Even twins learn and think differently, no matter how connected or telepathically linked-up they might be.

Direct Communication Is Important.

No matter how emotionally connected we become with people, it is still vitally important that we communicate with one another.  So many of the problems we encounter in this society, not to mention among our interpersonal relations, are due to a lack of communication.

As I am choosing the paths I wish to walk, I know that nobody else can see inside my head.  What I am thinking, the notions I am working on, the plans I am making are mine and mine alone.  I strive to grow, to change, to learn all the time, and I am working to embrace change.

Pathwalking is not just about embracing change.  It is about accepting and working on controlling change.  Rather than letting things just happen, you are working on making them happen.  You are seeking to consciously create reality, so that you can have the best, most amazing life possible.

This is going to change you.  Directed change, but change none-the-less.  As such, those who love you and whom you love might not understand this.  They might be confused, they might get upset with you, they might resist because you are changing, and they can feel it.

This is why communication is so, so important.  We need to share with our loved ones what we are doing, why we are doing it, and where our thought process is going.  Yes, we might meet well-intentioned resistance in the process, but that does not lessen the need for open, honest communication.

Conscious communications.

Even when we are not talking about Pathwalking, we need to be more conscious of what we share with those we care about.  Being aware does not just apply to ourselves, in particular when we have people we share this life with in whatever form that takes.  This is why communicating what we are doing and how we are changing with one another empowers everyone.

When we work to be better communicators, we become better at sharing who we are, as well as who we want to be.  Knowing those we care for as best we can will bring us closer, and that is always a good thing.

How do you communicate with those you care about?

 

This is the two-hundred ninety-second entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas for and my personal experiences with walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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What Happens When the “Other Shoe” Drops?

When the other shoe drops, do you pick it up?

I have been anticipating this situation for several months now.  I had hoped to depart on my own terms, but I suspected this was coming.  So it was not much of a surprise.

The job I have held for the past year, and been duly grateful for, has come to an end.  Now my eight hours a day in a place where I was all-too-often bored, and frequently unhappy, is no more.

I am not upset nor angry about this.  Rather, I am seeing it as an opportunity to move my life forward.  Consciousness creates reality, and I know what it is I want to create.  There are bridges I want to cross, and cross them I will.

Since I was let go from the job, I have made excellent use of my time.  A while back I created a schedule I called A Day in the Life – The Life I Most Desire.  In that schedule I laid out my work day (starting at 8:30am), giving myself time for writing and editing, exercise, reading, lunch.  I even gave myself time to goof off in the morning, play games, put my brain in gear at my own pace.

How will this make me money?  That is not what I am currently focused on.  I am concerned with living life in the manner I have long desired, and from this action find everything I need to live as fully as I can.

Can I sustain this?  That remains to be seen.  I am striving to find a way, because this is how I want my life to be.

Can I make money doing what I love?

This is the elephant in the room, the question that most needs to be answered.  Can I work this all out so that I will make money doing this?  How can I make this happen?  Is there a way I can get this blog to make money; more books to sell; other options that involve writing for money?

The first step in manifestation is believing.  Faith, which I mentioned before, is important to conscious reality creation.  Most of all, faith in myself as a creator, and from there faith in the Universe.  Faith in my belief in conscious reality creation and manifestation.

I know that this works, as I have made it work before.  I need to apply it to now, to my life as it currently is, and to become whom I want to be.  To do that I have to think it, feel it, take actions like following this schedule I created to make it so.

The Secret approaches conscious reality creation with different words – Ask, Believe and Receive.  Action for the thought – ask; for the feeling, believe; for the intentional action, receive.  In thinking about this life I want to live, I am asking of myself to become a professional, full-time writer.  When it comes to feeling, I am believing that I have made this manifest.  Lastly, my actions are a reflection of my receiving what I have asked for.

Where do I go from here?

Now that I am not spending most of my waking hours in a place where I was unhappy, I am better able to feel positive, to feel how it feels to succeed at what I want.  Yes, I could dwell on the loss of my salary and changes to my benefits, but in what way will that be healthy?  I instead am making a choice to take this situation and make the very best of it that I can.

Life is too short to spend so much of it unhappy.  How come we accept so readily that this is what work is meant to be?  I know that I need to make money to pay for the things I want and need in life, but do I have to miserable making it?  Why do we so easily accept that at face value?

I think somewhere along the way we, as a society, have lost sight of what we work for.  We are not on this planet for the limited time we get to be here just to go through the motions, we are here to live.  We are here to experience life, good and bad, up and down, in all its amazing glory.  Spending eight or more hours every day in a place that leaves us exhausted, unhappy and stressed does not make any sense.

Yet we all know that we have to earn money, and to earn money we have to work.  The goal is often to earn as much money as possible, and that being the case we will take the jobs that pay the most and offer the best benefits, even when they do not make us happy.  That’s the standard way we do it.

I am not a standard person.

I have never been “normal”, whatever that means.  My life has regularly involved partaking of a different path, a unique way of being – sometimes by choice, but in my youth more often by circumstance.  For example, I didn’t choose for my parents to divorce when it was an uncommon thing in the 1980’s.  It was not my choice to be a part of the relatively small Jewish community in the ‘burbs of Minneapolis, surrounded by a majority of Lutherans.  I chose to pursue theatre in my high school rather than with the local JCC.  Then I chose to be the only graduate of my HS to attend Ithaca College in New York State.

Before I understood intentional actions and conscious reality creation, I frequently did unusual things.  I made choices that were entirely my own.  But due to my lack of understanding about conscious reality creation, I frequently have experienced being the square peg attempting to fit into the round hole.  I need to leave no room for doubt, and create the life I most desire.

Sometimes this is more challenging than not, but I am going to make it work.  As always, thank you for crossing the bridges with me!

 

GOAL LOG – Week 30:

Diet:  I’ve been pretty good this week overall, following a weekend of not as good.

Exercise:  Fencing one day, four days of various exercise at the gym, and an afternoon of swimming.

Writing:  The three blog posts were done; editing of Harbinger occurred; I did some work on my sci-fi novel.

Meditation:  Five of seven days last week, never less than 5 minutes.

Gratitude:  I expressed gratitude for 5 things on five days last week.

 

This is the forty-fourth entry of my personal journey, the Crossing the Bridges series.  My collectively published writing can be found here.

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What is Well-Intentioned Resistance?

As you walk your chosen paths, you will meet well-intentioned resistance.

Well-intentioned resistance is when people give you news and information that is “for your own good” or to “tell it like it is” or to otherwise offer advice, in order to keep you from making “poor” choices.  This comes from those closest to you, and can be very disconcerting.

Society has certain norms and expectations of us.  We are supposed to go through the motions.  You work five days a week, at least eight hours a day.  Get a job that pays the most money you can make, and expect that it might be soul-sucking and lacking in fun.  Have a romantic partner, because you’re not supposed to be alone.  Get a college education. 

When you break from those expectations, those who are closest to you may not understand.  They think that because you are doing something different and possibly risky, you don’t recognize the dangers.  They may well believe in you, but they also are firmly rooted in that which is considered “normal”.  What you are doing is alien, unusual, and thus suspect.

Meeting well-intentioned resistance is deeply frustrating.

The challenge of finding and choosing your own path, and breaking away from the societal norm is difficult enough.  When your loved ones question your choices, and your actions, it adds a whole layer of difficulty you don’t need.  Working on being more aware of your own thoughts, feelings and actions, then employing consciousness to create a new reality is huge.  Breaking from the expected is scary enough, but having other people add their fears to your work isn’t helpful.

Pathwalking is about taking control of life, choosing your own adventures.  When you come to terms with the notion that consciousness creates reality, it feels almost crazy.  Can it really be THAT easy to break away from a life that leaves me flat and build one that excites me?  Of course the answer is both yes and no, because becoming AWARE of how and what you are thinking, feeling and acting upon takes a lot of adjustment.

Adding outside influences to this mix is inevitable.  Unless you are completely alone in the world, or cut-off from news and social-media and whatnot, you will encounter outside influences.  It can be tough to avoid general outside influences, but it’s really hard to avoid loved ones, be they family or friends.

Don’t let the other people’s fear become your fear.

Because nobody but you can know what is in your head, explaining the path you are walking may feel futile.  Try though you might to show in detail how you are striving to manifest a life you want, some people simply won’t get it.  This is especially true when those people love you, and you love them, and they only want what they think is best for you.

This is one of the key issues, of course.  What THEY think is best for YOU.  How do they know?  How can they know?  Answer – they don’t.  But in their own experiences, what you are doing might seem unusual, might seem overly optimistic, might even seem crazy.  Because they don’t want you to be hurt, they offer you their own point-of-view, which is resistance to the change you are working to make.

It is human nature to protect those we love.  Whether that means standing between your child and a hungry lion, or trying to dissuade that child from an idea you don’t understand and fear might maul them in the same manner, it is viewed as protective, and a part of love.  Of course that makes it all-the-more insidious.

How do you accept that love without letting it affect you?

While our loved ones are throwing a wet blanket over our path in an attempt to stop us from being hurt, we, in turn, don’t want to hurt them.  Yet we generally won’t tell them to back off, or thanks but no thanks, or what-have-you.  Further, if they are the type to harp on a topic long enough, no matter how strong your psyche, it will wear you down and complicate the path you are walking.

What can you do about this?

First: Don’t take it in unless it REALLY resonates with you.  Sometimes, this outside perspective may show that you actually SHOULD step away from the path you are on.  Maybe the well-intentioned resistance opens a new path showing that which you are on won’t work.  However, once you’ve reached the point of meeting this resistance, this likely won’t be the case.

Second: Don’t argue.  It’s part of our nature to meet resistance with resistance.  This won’t dissuade the well-intentioned, they will take it as a sign that they are right.

Third: Don’t fully engage.  Thank them for their advice, but don’t really engage them to go further.  Change the topic.  Walk away.  Make an excuse to get off the phone or stop texting or whatever.

Fourth: Don’t discuss it with them in the future.  The people offering well-intentioned resistance have shown that they are not a good sounding board, so it might be best to steer clear of the topic as often as possible.

Fifth: Consult with a confidant for reassurance.  We are only human, and when our loved ones show that they don’t believe in our goals, well-intentioned or not, it hurts.  Talking with someone who supports your path can restore your confidence.

Keep walking your own path.

Pathwalking is a challenge.  However, I believe that manifesting the life I most desire, and being happy in what I do and how I spend my days is more important than going with the flow and being discontent.  This is why I am striving to choose for myself, and walk the best path for me that I can.

Have you met well-intentioned resistance along the way?

 

This is the two-hundred ninetieth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas for and my personal experiences with walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

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What Have I Done With Challenges?

Some challenges are better than others.

As I have mentioned before, the reason why this blog is called The Ramblings of a Titanium Don is due to two reasons. A title I get to assume from the Society for Creative Anachronism (the medieval re-enactment society I’ve been a part of for over 25 years); and the three titanium plates holding together my right clavicle.

Me, NYE 1999/2000. I am in a wheelchair in this picture.

In case you missed this: On the last day of November, 1999, I was struck by a car crossing a street a quarter-mile from home.   I suffered pretty severe injuries to my right leg, right clavicle, and nerve damage to my right arm.  What followed was a year of serious recovery and therapy, and some pretty wicked scars.

Yes, it was a hit-and-run.  No, they never caught the driver.  Now, nearly 18 years later, unless I show you the impressive scars (or you manage to hit the titanium plate with a sword while fencing against me) you wouldn’t know how broken I was.

Important life lessons were learned.

As I was starting my recovery, I discovered that there were three primary ways to live life.

  1. Go with the flow.  Let life live you.  Go about the routine, let time have its way with you and the natural ebb and flow of life carry you along.
  2. Curl up in a ball and wait for death.  Don’t experience life, complain about everything, blame everyone else, pray for the afterlife but mostly avoid this lifetime.
  3. Grab life like the proverbial bull by the horns, and take it for ride.  Make choices, take chances, fight and push and manifest what you desire.

I quickly learned that I preferred option 3.  My recovery surprised and delighted my therapists, my doctors, and my family and friends.  I defied expectations of both the speed of my recovery, and the totality of it.  It was during this period of my life that I came to recognize the power of consciousness creating reality.  I knew only one option.  There was no other choice.  I would walk again normally, I would fence again.  Hell, I would even run again with a fused tibia/fibula in my right leg.

This incident would redefine my life.  Over the course of the next decade and a half I shaped my life philosophy, and majorly embraced conscious reality creation to manifest my desires.  It’s not been without its struggles, and challenges, but it has redefined me in all sorts of unexpected ways.

Using the past to improve the present and future.

Every November there is a wonderful contest called National Novel Writer’s Month (NaNoWriMo).  The challenge: Compose a 50,000 word novelette in 30 days.  The prize:  The satisfaction of completing such a work.  I have faced this challenge several years, and completed a couple works (such as Vortex Pilgrimage).

In 2006, my second attempt at NaNoWriMo, I was debating what to write.  Several friends suggested that I should write out the story of my accident and recovery.  In particular many of the bits that had become some pretty funny stories years later.  I think we determined it might be an inspirational and humorous read for people.

This took my out of my comfort zone in several ways.  I was working a genre I did not normally do.  At that time I wrote sci-fi and fantasy more-or-less exclusively.  I also determined, because of the nature of the tale, to write in first person.  I normally work in third person perspective.

Most of all…there was a LOT of potential for embarrassment.  Yes, on the one hand I had this amazing recovery going on.  On the other, I was doing some rather uncool things (like cheating on my girlfriend).  How would this be received, not only by those involved in the story (even with the names changed), but by anyone who read it?

The very definition of Crossing the Bridges.

Suffice it to say, I wrote the story out.  I gave it an edit or two, and when I put up my author page, I included it in PDF for download.  When we first started dating my wife read it…and despite my less-than-chivalrous actions portrayed in the story, she stayed with me.

For a long time I have resisted sharing this.  Even though I have been told by several who read it this is one of my best works, I’ve been uncomfortable with taking it to a wider audience.  One reason is because I feared it might actually BE one of my best works.

What’s that all about?  Well, for a long time I was a sci-fi and fantasy writer.  It was these genres in which I most wished to be known.  I had a hard time wrapping my head around the notion of becoming known for anything else.

I am getting over that.  Hence this blog, and hence why I have finally have edited, and subsequently published The Journey of a Thousand Miles Begins With a Trip to the Post Office.

A sordid, funny, hopefully inspirational tale.

I hope you will consider getting a copy of my book, read, enjoy, and please review it!  I poured more of my heart and soul into this particular work, and told the story as truly as I could.  As always, thank you for crossing the bridges with me!

 

GOAL LOG – Week 28:

Diet:  Onwards and forwards.

Exercise:  Fencing two days, two days of a single lap around the small lake.  One day with a ton of walking.

Writing:  The three blog posts were done.

Meditation:  Five of seven days last week, never less than 6 minutes.

Gratitude:  I expressed gratitude for 5 things on three days last week.

 

This is the forty-second entry of my personal journey, the Crossing the Bridges series.  My collectively published writing can be found here.

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What Did You Learn Today?

You learn something new every day.

This is not just some cliché phrase, it’s literally true.  Some things we learn are huge and life changing, but most are minute and easy to overlook.

One of the greatest joys of life is that there is always something new to be learned.  Because there is always something new to learn, virtually no situation is impossible or irreparable.  We simply may be lacking in the necessary knowledge.

Learning is often tied in with change.  As we learn new things, we change our opinions, we change our technologies, our lives shift.  It is as inevitable as change itself, so it’s no surprise learning and change are linked.

One of the oddest things about people is our paradoxical resistance to change and desire to change.  We get comfortable with the world as it is, and dislike change.  Yet, at exactly the same time, we want to be happier, healthier, more centered, and that is a product of change.

Controlled change versus uncontrolled change.

While this is not a black and white, either/or concept, change generally happens in these two forms.  Controlled change, when we make choices like new jobs, new diets, new relationships and such.  Uncontrolled change is not in our hands, involves things like natural disasters, being dumped by a lover, getting fired from our jobs, breaking bones and being unable to exercise, and so forth.

Most people seek changes in their lives.  Some huge, some small, some subtle and some drastic.  In order to make changes, we usually have to learn something.  Examples of this include new dietary techniques, new job skills, new exercise routines, etc.

I suspect that because change can be so scary, and change is tied to learning, that this is where the current anti-intellectualism streak we’re seeing comes from.  All these new ideas we have available to us signify change, and people fearing change resist.  This partially explains science deniers, because science is all about learning and learning leads to change.

This is where choice is important.  When we choose to change, we increase our knowledge and learn more.  When we resist it, we still learn something, but it might not be the lesson we think it is.

Knowing can be a dangerous thing.

Knowledge is power.  The more we know, the more tools we have available to us.  One of my first self-help/spiritual reads was Shunryu Suzuki’s Zen Mind, Beginner’s Mind.  While it’s an excellent introduction to Zen practices, it also makes some interesting statements about learning and knowledge.  For example, “We should not hoard knowledge; we should be free from our knowledge.”  This might be open to interpretation, but I view it this way: what we know is not set in stone, we should always be open to knowing more.

We live in a society where people mistake demagogues for the wise.  The “knowledge” they impart has no basis in fact, but they claim to “know” things.  While I do not like to get political in this blog, the perfect example is climate change.  Science has shown us that mankind is effecting climate change in an unnatural way, but many of our leaders prefer to ignore science for their own “beliefs” on the topic.  They “know” better.

While I know a lot of things, most, if not all, are open to reexamination.  Because there are new things to learn, what I know today is probably going to be different from what I will know tomorrow.

Recognizing that knowing is ever-changing is a part of learning.  When we recognize this, we can choose to learn things in order to take control of change.

Wisdom is learning, not knowing.

The use of the words “I know” frequently close us off from change.  In especial when we take them as truth from outside influences without giving them a thorough examination.  The primary notion of Suzuki’s Zen Mind, Beginner’s Mind is that the “beginner” is always learning.  We gain experience, we gain knowledge, but so long as we keep our minds open like the beginner, we continue to learn and grow.  The wisdom of Zen practice is knowing that there is plenty you don’t know.

Stating “I know” with absolute certainty when it comes to self-actualization can be empowering, however.  Statements of this nature include I know I am amazing and I know I am the conscious creator of my reality and I know I am worthwhile and I know I am loving and lovable and such.  This is not conceit, its self-awareness.   Saying “I know” in this context is a matter of defining the self in positive, generative terms.

It has been long argued that human beings use only a fraction of our mental capabilities.  True or not, we can still conceive of and create amazing, incredible things that we have not created before.  Ergo, new learnings.  Only a hundred years ago global communications, computer technology, transatlantic flight and other modern conveniences were almost unimaginable.  But here we are, a century later, and look what all we have learned?  Science fiction postulates faster-than-light interstellar travel and other fantastical notions; but who’s to say we won’t learn these things in time?

Learning is joy.

I love to learn new things.  I also love to share the things I have learned with others.  This is why I write these posts, this is why I teach fencing, this is why I read self-help and spiritual books.  I love to learn, and there is always something new to be discovered and revealed and shared.

The world is pretty big.  The solar system is bigger.  Larger still is the galaxy.  On the same scale, the Universe is nearly infinite.  Great or small, there is always something new to learn, always experiences to be had.  Pathwalking is choosing to learn, to grow, to effect change for ourselves.

Every single day I learn something new.  This is what excites me most about life.  Everything new I learn opens up possibilities.  Consciousness creates reality, so there is always learning to be had.

What did you learn today?

 

This is the two-hundred eighty-ninth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas for and my personal experiences with walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

How do I Deal With a Test of Faith?

My faith is being tested.

I am facing a test of my belief in conscious reality creation.  Do I believe in myself, and my own ability to consciously create the reality I want to live in?  Do I believe I am manifesting the life I really want to experience?

I have always been the best at sabotaging myself.  There is no need for anyone else to interfere, I can do it just fine, thanks.  I always manage to find the right excuse, or the right issue, or what-have-you to keep small, to maintain the light, but not to increase its intensity.

Why do I sabotage myself?  Because change is scary.  Because my subconscious mind disbelieves I am deserving of the dreams I have.  There is an equal fear of success as there is of failure.  As much as I want to manifest a different life, there is comfort in what I currently have.

I know what I want, and I know that I have to trust the universe that I can manifest it.  The problem I run into is that my inner skeptic resists, and the challenge I experience from that is a lack of faith in consciousness creating reality.

How is my faith being tested?

I have a job that pays me a decent salary, and offers me some decent benefits, too.  I also get paid time off, PTO, which I have not had for quite some time.  This is something I’ve taken advantage of, and so I’ve enjoyed several long weekends, as well as a week at an SCA war in Mississippi, and gotten paid while not working.

Our timekeeping system at this job is wildly inaccurate.  As such, I was led to believe that I had considerably more PTO than I actually do.  In fact, I have so little PTO left that it will pretty much go to the remaining holidays of the year (yes, our system makes no distinctions, PTO is PTO).

This being a holiday week, the office was closed Monday and Tuesday.  To travel to an SCA event, I took today off.  Except, now, I cannot request to be paid for any of these three days.  Thus, I will only be paid for two days this week.

Will this hurt me financially?  Currently, I am happy to report that it will not.  And yet, I am slightly uncomfortable, and debating changing my plans.

In what way is this testing my faith?

I have written here before about my desire to move on from this job, and to write full time.  I write constantly about consciousness creating reality…but as soon as something uncomfortable happens, I shy away.  To be free to travel to events at will and choose how to spend my days is a major component of the reality I am striving to make manifest.  Do I have enough faith in my conscious reality creation to go with my original plan, and continue on the path I have chosen?

Every single self-help and spiritual book I have read or listened to says the same thing.  To manifest the life I want, I have to step outside of my comfort zones.  I have to get uncomfortable, I have to take chances and risks.  It is imperative that I have faith in the Universe to take my thought, feeling and action and make it real.  This is particularly important when the how is unknown…and frequently, the how is a mystery.

Yes, my job is stable, the pay is decent, and the dress code at the office is outstanding.  But this is not who I am, and this is not where I want to spend most of my waking hours.  I want to live the fullest, most joyful life I can.

Can I surrender to the Universe?

There is no denial that I am a bit of a control freak.  Hell, one of the points of Pathwalking is to take control of my destiny.  I have succeeded in consciously creating my reality before, when I had total faith in only one possible outcome.  Some of these experiences were enormous, and some far more minute.  But I know, logically, that I am able to manifest what I desire.  Yet emotionally, I have a much harder time accepting this.  Thus, this test of faith.

Do I truly believe that I can have the goal I am striving towards?  Am I deserving of this?  Can I succeed at manifesting the life I most desire?  Am I willing to get uncomfortable in making the life I want to make?  These are the questions of faith before me, and together they all boil down to this last question.  Can I surrender it all up the Universe?

Is my faith that consciousness creates reality as strong as I wish it to be?  Can I put out the thought, feel the emotion, and act intentionally without knowing all of the how of it, and let the Universe do its thing?  That’s the question with the glowing eyes boring into me.

Expressing my faith.

In showing my faith in the Universe, I am not changing my plans.  Uncomfortable is but a step when it comes to change.  I move forward, eyes wide open, trusting in my faith.  As always, thank you for crossing the bridges with me.

 

GOAL LOG – Week 27:

Diet:  I was lax over the past weekend, but apart from a higher carb intake, not so bad.

Exercise:  Fencing one day, two days of a single lap around the small lake.  One day with a ton of walking.

Writing:  The three blog posts were done.

Meditation:  Four of seven days last week, never less than 4 minutes.

Gratitude:  I expressed gratitude for 5 things on four days last week.

 

This is the forty-first entry of my personal journey, the Crossing the Bridges series.  My collectively published writing can be found here.

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Where do you find your Path?

Where do you find your path?

This can be a daunting question.  Finding the path you want to walk is a matter of necessity.

No two paths are the same.  Similar in some respects, but not the same.  For example, it is my personal goal to become a bestselling author.  While there are lots of bestselling authors out there, each of us will traverse different paths to that goal.

Knowing my path, where did I find it?  The simple answer is that I have found it in joy.  When I get the most lost in what I am doing, and I am happiest, that is where I found my path.

There are several universal means to finding the where of your own paths.  As such, where you find your path, different though it may be, originates from the same point.

Where do you feel most joyful?

This is the first question.  What do you do that brings you the most joy?  What makes you feel the happiest?  It is there you can find your path.

For me, there are two particular things that bring me absolutely tremendous joy.  Fencing and writing.  Whenever I get the chance to attend a fencing practice or weekend event, I fight with all the energy I can muster.  I absolutely love the game, love the feeling of swords in my hands, the difference in choice of weapons.  Learning a new move, or employing something unusual is exciting.  The joy I feel from the game moves me.

Writing is how I best express myself.  I can wrestle words into submission in any form I choose.  I love writing sci-fi and fantasy, but I also absolutely love writing my blog.  Sharing my thoughts on Positivity and Pathwalking and Crossing the Bridges makes me unbelievably happy.  It feels good to reach out to and support other people striving to live their fullest lives.

Even writing brochures and advertisements and web content is still fun for me.  Where mathematical equations frustrate me, creating with words to me is almost as easy as breathing.

Thoughts, feelings, and actions.

Everything begins in thought.  Every invention, every manmade notion began in thought.  You wouldn’t even have a path to consider traveling without a thought.  So the thought is the beginning.

To turn the thought into a thing, you have to feel it.  Feeling what it would be like to have your thought made manifest is important.  You need to power your thought with emotion, or you won’t create much of anything.  Feeling drives the thought into being.

From the thought, to the feeling, you move to intentional action.  Taking a step based on the feeling from the thought is where you begin your Pathwalking.  So you find your path in the thought, the feeling points you in the right direction, and the intentional actions you take move you along it.

We choose to walk our own paths because we want to control our own destinies.  There will always be new paths to walk, because life, the Universe, and everything changes.  While this can be somewhat daunting, it’s also pretty exciting.

Where do you lose track of time?

I have a friend I have been fencing with for quite some time now.  He and I will frequently fight at practice for a ludicrous amount of time.  Multiple passes, each of us attacking and defending, and on more than one occasion we’ve only stopped because we realized we had been at it for some time.  We’ve been known to go anywhere from thirty to forty-five minutes.  When each bout on average lasts less than a minute, this equates to a whole lot of fighting.

It is the joy of the game that makes us lose track of time.  Our bodies get tired, we perspire a whole lot, but we are having so much fun that we just don’t notice the time pass.  It is that feeling that will tell you where your path can be found.

Writing works the same for me.  Often, when I get going on a story or editing, I will completely lose track of time.  I won’t stop for anything because I am excited to get the idea out of my head and onto the page.  The words flow through me, and I have to put them out there.

Sometimes I will go back and read something I wrote, and I was so caught up in the moment that it’s almost unfamiliar.  Losing yourself to joy is a sure sign you’ve found your path.

Beware of outside influences “accepting” you.

I don’t know about you, but I have been told more than once that work is not supposed to be fun.  Work is something you do because you need to earn money.  You take the best paying job with the most benefits you can get, and you do it because that’s what society expects of you.  Do your job, earn your pay, take your joy in the little things but suck-it-up, because that’s how it works.

I have a very hard time accepting this notion.  Why?  Most adults in our society spend from six to twelve hours, a third to half of their time awake, every day, at work.   If your job bores you, leaves you dissatisfied, or worse stresses you out completely, is it worth it?  Is money and benefits but spending most of the day somewhere you are not joyful worthwhile?

We are only in this life for a limited time.  To spend the majority of that time unhappy is utterly illogical.  Yet we readily accept the notion that to participate in our society, we have to suck-it-up and do the job.  Take that commute, work for and with people you’d rather not spend time with, earn the money.  That is how we gain acceptance from society at large.

Find your path, find your joy, live huge.

This is why I have chosen to Pathwalk.  I don’t want to spend the precious time I am on this planet, in this body, unhappy.  Living the fullest life I possibly can is what I desire, and I want to manifest awesome things and contribute what I can to the world at large.  I want to live in joy, and I want to choose for myself what that means.

Consciousness creates reality, and I want to create the best reality I can.

Do you know where you will find your paths?

 

This is the two-hundred eighty-eighth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas for and my personal experiences with walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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