The Ramblings of the Titanium Don

Explorations of Conscious Reality Creation and Other Matters

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Why Does Empathy Matter?

Empathy can better the world around us.  For what it’s worth, I am an empath.

What that means is that I can feel the emotions of people around me, sometimes better than I can feel my own.  The difference between simply feeling empathy and being an empath is that, as an empath I ALWAYS feel things.  With empathy, it is an emotion that can be switched on and off far more easily.

EmpathyBecause I am an empath, I frequently find myself experiencing emotions outside of myself, and it can be a bit jarring at times.  However, it is in part because of my empathic senses, I shared everything I blog about with you.

Why?  Because I know if I am having thoughts and feelings on the topics I choose to write about, you probably have had similar ones.  Maybe not exactly the same, since we are all different from one another, but similar.

How we feel the emotions we feel differs.  Depth, sensation, the actual way in which we feel things varies from person to person.  This boils down to every single emotion, because we are individuals.

However, and this is really important, the similarities in what these emotions are shouldn’t be ignored or disregarded.  And, further, nobody’s emotions and sense of feelings are greater or lesser than anyone else’s.

Have you ever been told that you didn’t love someone as much as they loved you?  Or that you didn’t hurt as much as they did?  The truth of this is that while we can experience the same emotions, we won’t necessarily feel them the same way.  The depth, frequency, sensation and overall understanding is going to vary depending on who you are, how you process things, and other random and not-so-random variables.

I believe that my empathic ability helps me to be a better writer, fiction or otherwise.

Empathy is not just for an empath.

As I look at my social media feeds, I am almost overwhelmed by a lot of what I am seeing.  The world we live in today is rocked by so much fear, so many messages of scarcity and lack.  One thing that I think would be of tremendous help to the world would be more empathy.

Look at the politicians here in the USA.  Because they care far more about themselves and their contributions from the NRA and other special interests, they do nothing but offer meaningless “thoughts and prayers” for the latest shooting victims.  Maybe enacting some gun control laws and making mental health care less stigmatized and readily available to people?  Nah, we don’t need that.  Rather than show some empathy to real people with real struggles, they have nothing for anyone but themselves and those who benefit them.

When our “leaders” do not need to have empathy, people take their cues from them, and don’t feel the need to have it either.  How many people feel a few deaths are a small price to pay for the right to bear arms?  What about the people who think health care doesn’t need to be readily affordable for everyone?  How many people think they their struggles are greater than anyone else’s, and that there is not enough, so they must keep others away?

Empathy allows you to put yourself in the other person’s shoes.  This is where some confuse this for sympathy.  I can best describe it thus: sympathy is saying, “wow, I’m so sorry you are going through that,” whereas empathy is saying, “I see how you are feeling, and I want to understand your feelings.”  Empathy is understanding, and I think we need a lot more of that in this world.

Empaths tend to want to understand.

The things I write are, in part, for me.  I have these really cool stories I need and want to write out, and these ideas about how consciousness creates reality I need to explore.  As an empath, I want to understand, but I also want to help others to understand.  This is why I feel the need to share my stories, because I think they can be openings for other people’s imagination.  Because I believe that consciousness can create incredible realities, I want to share my own process with this.

Feeling empathy towards other people is how we build bridges and create the best world we can.  Empathy is where we can see that this is a world of abundance with room for more prosperity and good for everyone.

When you see the terrible things happening in the world at large, consider your response.  Can you empathize with people who are suffering?  I think that if we find and feel more empathy, we can do a whole lot more to make this world a better place for everyone.

As always, thank you for crossing the bridges between my worlds with me.

 

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Why is Feeling Joyful Important?

One of the goals of Pathwalking is to enhance the things in life that make us feel joyful.

I want to work on choosing the life I most desire to lead.  Consciousness creates reality, and I want to choose the reality that brings me joy and happiness.

JoyfulThis can be particularly challenging, especially in today’s society.  We are bombarded every day with horrid, awful, ugly, unpleasant things.  Terrible people, selfishness, greed, and a deluge of messages about lack and scarcity.  Maybe, if we are truly fortunate, for every ten pieces of negative information we receive one piece that’s positive and uplifting.

Because the overarching narrative of our society is one of insufficiency and deficiency, it is really important to keep focused on our own, personal awareness.  Being mindful of what we are thinking, feeling, and from there acting upon is key.

One of the issues that this brings up is selfishness.  Many of us have been raised to put others before ourselves.  That can be family, friends, coworkers, anybody.   We believe that the needs of the many always outweigh the needs of the one, and put ourselves last.  Or worse, when we do something for ourselves, we have to resist the feeling that we are being selfish…or else do twice as many things for other people to make up for it.

Finding things that make us feel joyful is not selfish.  Why?  Because when we feel joyful, we spread that to others.  Like sorrow and grief and all the negative emotions, holding onto and expressing positive emotions is contagious.

What’s the difference between joy and happiness?  For the purpose of this post, it boils down to the abstract versus the emotion.  The concept of happy is broad and vague.  Joyful, however, is a more readily defined emotional state.

Joyful thoughts, feelings and actions create happiness.

What makes me happy is not necessarily the same as what makes you happy.  Perfect example – fencing.  I have been fencing for more than half my life now.  Almost without fail, if I am having a bad day, when I fence it makes me feel happy.  I take great joy in fencing, and while it is slightly less when I am not at my best, it’s still there.  Similarly, writing makes me happy.  I love spilling words out of my head and onto the page or screen.

There are people who find fencing ludicrous and silly.  I know people who find putting down words thoroughly challenging, and unpleasant.  What makes each of us feel joyful and develops happiness varies wildly.  But the importance of manifesting things that make us happy is almost immeasurable.

It is easy to get lost in the seas of social media.  Twitter, Facebook, and don’t even get me started on the rabbit hole that is Pinterest.  However, when we start to focus on the negativity, and see all the greedy, selfish, terrible people in positions of leadership and authority, it can be really hard to find things that bring us joy.

But that makes it even more important that we pause, and be mindful and aware of our thoughts, our feelings, and subsequent actions we take.  If we are holding onto negativity, we tend to create and draw more to us.  How many times, when you felt bad, did you manage to keep finding things to make yourself feel even worse?  That’s conscious reality creation…or, when we are not being mindful, unconscious or subconscious reality creation.

As I traverse the paths of my life, I strive to find opportunities to develop and experience more joy.

Creating joyful things draws more joyful things out.

Neglecting ourselves for the sake of others and sacrificing our goals, our happiness, and anything else is not the noble notion many give it.  Why?  Because it makes the following statement:  Because there is not enough, I will go without.  When we sacrifice our time, energy, money, and so on for other people, we tell ourselves that it’s noble and good in order to counter the negative feelings sacrifice tends to produce.  When we give and give and give of ourselves, but then do no self-care, we deplete what we have.

If the universe is abundant, aren’t we, as extensions of the universe, also abundant?  Yes…but while the universe is made of infinite energy, the energy contained in the meat-suits we occupy on this planet is finite.  This is why we rest, meditate and sleep.  We need to restore our energies, in order to have enough on any given day.  When we sacrifice ourselves, we deplete that energy, and if we deplete too much we get depressed, sick, and even so ill as to threaten our physical existence.

When we take care of ourselves, we have more to share.  This is applicable to the spiritual, emotional and physical levels.  When we do joyful things we build up our reserves, and become more capable of giving more.  When we have more, we can give more.  It’s a stunningly simple concept we still feel we can mostly ignore.

It is not selfish to care for ourselves.  There is a fine line between giving and giving away from a lack mentality.  Giving comes from the heart, and makes us feel good.  Giving away comes from the head, and we have to tell ourselves we’ve done good to counter feeling bad.  Sound familiar?

Let go of any guilt feeling joyful might bring.

This is one of the larger issues we are facing as a society right now.  When so many people have it so bad, how can I feel joyful?  We see all this negativity, and when we find our own positivity, we might just find ourselves feeling guilty for that.

There will always be someone who is experiencing loss, grief, sadness, depression, distress, and every negative emotion you can imagine.  Empathy and compassion are important, but that does not mean we should not do things for ourselves that make us feel joyful.  Why?  Because the law of attraction states that like attracts like.  Feed the negative, it grows.

Every single one of us has had an experience where we were feeling good, and then someone grieving or injured or otherwise hurt happened by.  Suddenly, we feel guilty that we feel good when they feel awful.  This is empathy.  It’s a natural feeling, but we do not need to cease to be happy for them, but rather empathize, show compassion, and let go of the guilt.  Eventually those people will be past their unhappiness, and then your joy can help make them feel good again, too.

Be kind.  Be loving.  Let yourself find joy in the paths you are walking.  Consciousness creates reality, and when we are joyful we can manifest amazing things.

What makes you feel joyful?

 

This is the three-hundred-nineteenth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas for, and my personal experiences with, walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

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How Does Joy Create Positivity?

Pure, unadulterated joy.

Don’t you love that feeling?  The freedom, the release, the positivity?  That feeling of comfort and warmth and bliss that makes you smile and remember what it is to be alive?

JoyWe are so inundated with dread, fear, anger, hatred, division and harsh reality.  Everyone is constantly being subjected to grim news and intolerance and denial of joy.  We are slaves to community, to jobs and finances and responsibilities that rob us of pure joyfulness.

I believe that what we all seek in life, when all is said and done, is joy.  We want to feel that sensation, and we want to experience the freedom and positive energy that comes with it.  Almost every act we commit is in search of joyfulness.

Because we are so surrounded by negativity we do not give enough credit to the little things that make us feel joyful.  For example – I have been enjoying the trailers for Avengers: Infinity War, Black Panther, and finally Solo: A Star Wars Story.  For up to two minutes there is that swell of music, the images of heroic characters doing all kinds of cool stuff.  This makes me feel like a kid again, stirs that feeling of bliss within me.  It’s like a drug, coursing through my veins…and that is not a bad thing.

Imagination.  Imagination is joy.  That, for me, involves sharing my ideas for Conscious Reality Creation and my imaginative worlds.  Whether I am creating a blog post, a work of fantasy, Steampunk or sci-fi…or an inventive conversation with an eight-year-old child.

My wife and I used to frequent a Chinese buffet.  The family that runs it are familiar and friendly, and they have two sons.  The younger loves to chat, and somehow we had gotten into a silly conversation about knock-out gas.

The joy of silliness creates positivity

I informed him that the good knock-out gas is always purple.

“But what about green knock-out gas?” he’d asked.  “Turns you inside out.”  Oooooooh.  “Red knock-out gas? “  “Causes farting.”  He laughed.  “What about yellow?”  “Uncontrollable urge to pee.”  “How about blue?”  “Freezes you solid, but your eyes still work.”  And so on and so forth through a rainbow of colors and ten minutes of joyful, unrestrained laughter had passed.

JoyThe takeaway from this is that joy is something we spend too little time on and with.  We need to feel joyful because it is a freedom that is, in many respects, the ultimate happiness.  Joy is the goal of positivity, and we need to seek out the things that make us feel joyful, big and small, for both our mental and physical health.

Finding positivity is not hard, but it does require action.  Knowing how joy is a form of pure positivity, we can strive to find more joyful things in our day-to-day lives.  When we get lost in joyful things, we feel free, and when we feel free we empower ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

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Ten Things Making Me Happy

In response to a great deal of awful things from the start of this year, I want to share with you ten things in my personal life that are making me happy.

While Valentine’s Day is my least favorite holiday, the message of love it conveys is worth spreading.  Rather than keep it to one day designed to generate revenue for florists, chocolatiers and card companies, I think spreading love every day is a fine thing.

10 Things Making me HappyLove begins with the self.  When I love myself, and my life, I can give more love out.  When I am grateful for these things I love, I draw more things to love to me.

This is the Law of Attraction in action.  Consciousness Creates Reality.  The actions we give our thoughts and feelings to will draw good or bad into our lives.

One of the main reasons I write this blog, and post three times a week, is to remind myself about the importance of this.  I desire to manifest some pretty amazing things into my life, and that requires me to be grateful for what I already have.  Sometimes this can be difficult, not because of a lack of gratitude, but more because of outside influences making me feel negative.

Spend any amount of time on Facebook or other social media, and see how positive you can stay.  Read one article about the incredible selfishness of the US President and Congress, and try not to get angry.  When the hobby world I like to spend time in experiences derision, it can be incredible frustrating.

The Ramblings of the Titanium Don, with Positivity on Mondays, Pathwalking on Wednesdays, and Crossing the Bridges on Fridays, is where I can offer up empathy for an all-too-often senseless world.  Thus, I give you some love today.

Ten Things that are making ME happy.

This is in no particular order, fyi.

  1. My friends. I have some of the most incredible friends. They offer me love and support and sounding boards as I walk my crazy paths.  You are incredible people, and you make me very, very happy.
  2. My wife. This might get a tad sappy, and she will probably tell you that this makes her throw-up in her mouth a little. I married an incredible woman.  She is my partner, my equal, my favorite companion.  It never ceases to amaze me how much having someone who understands me like she does matters.  She makes me very, very, happy.
  3. The SCA. The Society for Creative Anachronism has played an integral part of my life for over 26 years now. I have met amazing, talented, wonderful people playing this game, and found my favorite hobby.  Also, the SCA helped get me out of my shell, and I believe is why I am more extrovert than introvert now.
  4. Fencing. While this is a part of the SCA, I need to put it here separately. I have found very few things in life that bring me such joy.  Everything about fencing I love, from the various weapons to the melee combat to the people doing it.  I love teaching fencing to new people almost as much as I love fighting.  If I am having a lousy day, fencing practices ALWAYS make me happy.
  5. Writing. Putting words to the page is joy. I can make words fly and sing in ways that even surprise me from time to time.  Even when I find myself having trouble writing this blog, words on the page make me happy.

Five things that make me happy down, five to go.

  1. Reading. I do not read enough. This isn’t about articles online or social media, this is about books.  Fiction, non-fiction, self-help, whatever…reading is weightlifting for the mind.  No matter how strong I think I am now, reading will make me stronger.  That makes me happy.
  2. Music. As I am writing this, my Writer’s Mix is playing off my old MacBook. This mix is largely movie and TV scores, including the various Star Wars films, Game of Thrones, Lord of the Rings and more.  Also, some classical music and cinematic New-Age by David Arkenstone.  In the car, I usually rock out or play something to sing along to.  Music, however, can alter my mood, and ultimate contribute to being happy.
  3. My cats. We have two cats. They are brats in their own unique way, but when they purr and do adorable things, it’s hard not to feel happy.
  4. My office. We recently moved, and with this I gained a home office. I have created a space that feels akin to a pillow-fort from childhood.  Comfortable, warm, and thoroughly ME.  Every time I come in here, I am home, and that makes me happy.
  5. You. Yes, this is utterly cheesy, but knowing that you have read this, and are reading my blog, makes me incredibly happy. Whether you agree or disagree with the things I write, it makes me happy to know that you read me.  Thank you!

Life can be rough.  We all go through difficult times.  But we can always find things that will make it better.

Hold on to your happy.

When we stressed out, and we feel bad, and the world seems terrible, there is always something we can find that will remind us of happiness.  Nobody can or frankly should be happy all the time.  But even when we are sad, angry, grieving, depressed, or otherwise feeling negative, we can seek out and find things that are happy.  I hope that by sharing some of mine, I can help you find yours.

As always, thank you for crossing the bridges between my worlds with me!

 

This is the seventy-first entry of my personal journey, the Crossing the Bridges series.  My collectively published writing can be found here.

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How Do We Work Together?

We are stronger when we work together than when we work apart.

Pathwalking may be an individual act, but that does not mean it happens in a vacuum.  Humans are social creatures.  We have people whom we interact with every day on every imaginable level.  Working with each other instead of against one another can take us even further than we might hope.

Work TogetherModern society has an unfortunate tendency to work from a divide-and-conquer approach.  We are inundated with messages of lack, insufficiency, and competition.  We are divided along every imaginable line, from race to gender to height to religion to nationality to education, and any other trait you can conceive of.

Because of the pervasive messages of greed and hoarding, we find it increasingly hard to believe that this is an abundant universe.  When we are told over and over again about how we need to take for ourselves before this, that or the other thing runs out, we become divided further.

I have written before that Pathwalking is not a selfish act, but every path we may be taking is unique to us as individuals.  My paths are not your paths.  Certainly there might be similarities, but they are still not the same.

Most importantly here, though, is recognizing that as we walk our individual paths, and work towards our specific goals, we aren’t denying anyone else theirs.  Me acquiring the things I want from life doesn’t prevent you from doing the same.  That is what living in an abundant universe is all about.

Because we are stronger when we work together, we have the ability to offer each other assistance, support, and love along the paths we traverse.  This empowers all of us, and that is good for everyone.

Work together as individuals.

Celebrating our diversity is a good thing.  We are, each and every one of us, unique creatures.  We look different, we think, feel and act differently from one another.  Yet we are also social creatures, and we are abundant across this planet.

Our diversity is not something that should tear us apart, it should help us to work together.  Celebrating what makes us each unique is an opportunity to learn from one another, and to grow not only as individuals, but as a society.  Celebrating our diversity will let us work together more, and develop abundance.

We will always find things to disagree about.  Again, this is part of human nature.  Empathic people think, feel and act differently from non-empaths.  There are people who work from the heart, and people who work from the head.  People can be emotional, logical, illogical, and everything in between.  The number of things available to separate us are stunning, but are not greater than the number of things that bring us together.

How is that possible?  Because this is an abundant universe.  There is more than enough of all the things we desire.  Lack, greed and insufficiency sells better than abundance and prosperity for all.  I believe this is why we are so frequently bombarded by such.

I wrote about community recently, and how important it is to our wellbeing.  One the biggest and most important communities in my life has experienced matters that made us work together, and soon after new matters that tore us apart.  The former was empowering, despite the sadness and grief that brought everyone together.  The latter stoked anger, division, and intolerance, disempowering us.  Two extremes in far too short a span of time.

It is during these types of situations that we are sorely tested.

Work together as communities.

Why did we form a given community in the first place?  Yes, there are communities we are born into and others we move into.  But there are also communities we choose for ourselves.  Whether it’s a religion, a fandom or social community, those which we choose are chosen because they provide us with something we need or want.  That can encompass a lot of different things, of course.

No matter how much we hold in common, we will have disagreements.  People do stupid things.  Everybody, and I mean everybody, is perfectly imperfect in their own way.  There are times when it is necessary to counter things that happen, and demand action.  So long as there is inaction, protest and positive resistance are called for.

This can take time.  This can divide our communities in unexpected ways.  As such, it’s imperative to be mindful of our words, our thoughts, and our actions.  When we work together we can build better.  When we break apart, everything can, and probably will, crumble.

I am not in any way advocating for accepting something you disagree with.  What I am suggesting is that we need to be more mindful of dividing and tearing ourselves apart.  When we allow ourselves to be broken, we make it ever more difficult to empower, and to build greater things.

Is there a way to work together for change rather than be torn apart?  This is something all-too important that we do not give sufficient energy to.  Consciousness creates reality.  When we are aware, we can manifest almost anything we can imagine.

Be mindful.  Remain aware.  Work together when you can with as many as you can, and we can change the negative messages and make this world a better place for everyone.

Work together to raise frequencies.

The collective consciousness can draw in people who are not conscious creators.  That’s how we manifest things we don’t want, because our focus and attention is to negativity.  When we work together, we can build anything we can imagine.  Did Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. change the message of racial hatred and intolerance with division?  No, he did it by bringing people together.  Buddha and Jesus advocated inclusion and love for one another.  These greats recognized that when we work together, we can make the world a better place.

Choose wisely when you are faced with difficulties, no matter what they are.  Don’t let yourself be divided and conquered by life.

Who do you choose to work together with for the paths you are walking?

This is the three-hundred-eighteenth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas for, and my personal experiences with, walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

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Are You Kind?

Be kind to yourself.  Give kindness to others.

I am sitting here this morning, trying to come up with words for this post, and I have been doing my usual routine.  I go to Facebook, I play a couple games, and I read through a bunch of posts.

KindThere are a lot of discouraging things going on out there.  So much anger, so much fear, such unbelievable negativity.  Is this really the world we want to live in?

I don’t know about you, but I am not a fan of this.  Of course it’s important to stay informed, but the volume of bad news is just thoroughly distressing.  It overwhelms, and I can’t help but wonder what good, if any, I can do here?

I can be better to myself.  I can treat myself like I want to be treated by others, and then I can extend that out to the people around me.

Positivity this week covered taking one step at a time, while Pathwalking covered the power of tenacity.  I have been having a hard time coming up with a topic for Crossing the Bridges, because I have a lot in my head, and am having a difficult time centering.

Anger and anxiety have been clouding my mind this morning. I am feeling somewhat helpless in the face of all the negativity I have been reading.

It is, of course, ok to feel angry, to feel bad, to get annoyed by these things.  The problem is holding onto them too tightly.  If I allow my feelings to stay here and fester, I will lower my frequency, and I will have an ever-increasingly difficult time getting where I want to go.

Pause.  Breathe.  Refocus.  Most of all…be kind.  I need to be kind to myself.

Being kind is a key to conscious reality creation.

I know that like many people, I am often the least kind to myself.  There is a lot of self-doubt, criticism, uncertainty that crops up in my life.  When I am focused on these things, they cause me to not think so well of myself.  This is not a terribly useful approach to life.

So I need to be more kind to myself.  It’s all well-and-good to be kind to others, but if I do not show myself kindness, then I actually have less to share, too.  Like pretty much everything in the universe, it all starts with the individual.

Consciousness creates reality.  If I am focused on negative things, on unkind things, what do you think I am drawing into my life?  No surprise here – more things I would prefer not to draw to myself.  Thus it’s really important that I remember to treat myself kindly, and to be gentle towards my heart and mind.

When I am more kind to me, I build more ability to be kinder to others.  Positivity begets positivity.  The best way to empower anyone else is to empower myself.

This past month has been rough.  Sure, I can dwell on this…or I can acknowledge it, and strive to make every day a good day.  One step at a time, one day at a time.  Frequently that really is the best approach.

Sometimes the toughest things to do are the simplest.  Self-love and kindness towards self should be really easy.  Yet often, they are the most challenging act to take part of.  It is important to remember that being kind to others is great, but being kind to myself is also extremely important.

Remember that kind acts beget kindness.

As always, thank you for crossing the bridges between my worlds with me.

 

This is the seventieth entry of my personal journey, the Crossing the Bridges series.  My collectively published writing can be found here.

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What Is Tenacity?

Tenacity, like patience, has never been my strongest suit.

One of the keys to succeeding at reaching the destination of any given path, though, is tenacious resolve.

What does it mean to have tenacity?  It is best described as the ability to stick-to whatever you are trying to make happen.  I often picture this as a dog with her jaws fastened to a stick she just will not relinquish.  She would rather hold onto it then let it go, even to be thrown.  That is tenacious resolve.

TenacityIn the steps of conscious reality creation (thought, feeling and action), tenacity is particularly important to feeling.  This is where unwavering resolve in feeling the desired goal, as though it is already complete, is so incredibly important.

Most of the great inventors who have changed the world had a singular vision.  They saw the thing they wanted to create.  Maybe they knew how it could come about, but likely they didn’t.  Still, they believed.  They felt it in their soul as being real.  Nothing would derail them from their feeling that they could make their invention happen.  That’s what it is all about.

Manifestation of anything we desire begins with thought.  I have this idea.  Then, we have to give that thought feeling.  It feels amazing to see this idea become reality.  Having the idea in my possession improves my lifeThis idea makes me happy.  Yes, the initial feeling is going to likely look ahead.  But visceral feelings in the here-and-now are how we consciously create reality and make the idea manifest.

From the thought and feeling there will be intentional action.  I am making a list of all the cool things the idea, manifested, will let into my life or I am inspired to take this action for the idea.

Tenacity is the difference between “Try” and “Do”.

How often do I refer to this quote from Yoda?  “Try not…do, or do not…there is no try!”  The reason Yoda tells Like this is because he needs to fully believe in no other outcome but what he is aiming for.  To mentally prepare to try can leave room for doubt.  Try is soft, and opens us up to letting go.  Well, I tried becomes an excuse to quit.

Doing is much more solid.  I did it is a bold, solid statement.  Even if it takes multiple attempts, I did it a dozen times before I got it done is still completion.

Even if, at the conclusion, you didn’t get the end result you intended, you did the thing.  Failure still teaches.  Yoda states this rather plainly, too.  “The greatest teacher, failure is.”  Often we learn more from failing than we do from succeeding.

How does that work?  When I started working after college, over my career I have worked for a lot of different companies.  In multiple instances, I watched them make mistakes and do things poorly, so I was unsurprised when they failed.  It is my belief that I learned more about how to run a business and manage people by seeing how NOT to run a business and mange people.  Those failures were excellent teachers.

Still, for a long time I continued to bounce from job to job.  Often something about a given job just wasn’t the right fit for me.  I recognized that I should probably be my own boss.

Over the years I played with numerous business ideas.  I even started a small business for a multitude of small business consulting options.  I can come up with a lot of reason why it didn’t work out, but the truth is – I lacked the tenacity.

Tenacity gets the job done.

Because I didn’t give my business the attention it deserved, it didn’t go anywhere.  It didn’t fail, it just didn’t do anything.  I had a job here and there, but I didn’t push.  There was some attempts to promote and market myself, but in truth all I can say here is that I tried.  And because that was all the energy I gave this idea, and I didn’t just DO for my business, it faded out.

It has now been six years since I began Pathwalking.  This has caused some very positive changes in my life.  Yet I am still not exactly where I want to be.  Why?  Tenacity.  I try a lot, but I don’t do as frequently.  This inaction keeps me where I am…not quite where I want to be.

I have the thought.  I know how it should feel.  That is where I get stuck.  Sometimes this is self-sabotage, rooted in my long-time fear of abandonment due to success or failure.  There are times I lack the necessary ambition to push when I know that I should.  There are as many excuses as drops of water in the ocean, but the truth is I need more tenacity.

To that end, I am blogging here three times a week, and have redesigned the concept of the entire blog.  Every other week I am writing up some sort of blog post to my author website, too.  Still, I could be writing more than I am, and researching options to better promote and sell my novels.  This is where I need to work on being more tenacious.

If I am going to walk the path to becoming a best-selling author, I know what I need to do.

No room for doubt, be tenacious!

Recently, I completed a 21 day course from Jen Sincero for changing a habit.  As she points out, 80% of the people who pay for such a course do not complete it.  Why?  They do not use their tenacity to see it through.

Pathwalking to achieve conscious reality creation requires a lot of stick-to-itiveness, or rather, tenacity.  Recognizing this, I can see what more I need to do to manifest my desires.  I know where I need to focus my feelings with more willfulness.

I am writer.  Which means that I need to work on everything that will hone my craft.  Tenaciously.

What have you pursued tenaciously?

 

This is the three-hundred-seventeenth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas for, and my personal experiences with, walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

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How Does One Step Build Positivity?

Some days you just take one step at a time.  Then follow it with another…and another…and so on.

For myself and many of my friends and loved ones, last week was a serious downer.  We lost people who meant a great deal to us.  Losing people special to us is hard.  Returning to our regularly scheduled lives can feel particularly trying.

One StepWhen I look for positivity every week, I acknowledge that nobody lives in a good headspace all the time.  We get into arguments, car accidents, troubles with coworkers and friends, disagreements with loved ones, and experience losses.  Part of the human condition is that we will be challenged along the way.

At times we can meet these challenges with fierce determination, empowerment, and high energy.  Sometimes, though, we face these matters with hunched shoulders, tired hearts and minds, and low energy.  We wonder what it would be like to have it easy.

These are the days we have to take it one step at a time.  This is when living in the moment, taking the next immediate step is the best option.  Too many things in our heads, too much sorrow, too much worry can weigh us down.  Faced with that, life still go on.  The sun will rise and set, even on a cloudy day.

On these days, the importance of just taking a single step, then following it with another, and another, cannot be emphasized enough.  Sure, we could make the choice to wallow in our negative feelings, and let them linger.  But when we do that, we let life live us, and we yield control.  We disempower ourselves, and generally will continue to feel worse and worse.  The negative feelings are not gone, but we can put them aside and keep moving forward.

One step is how every journey begins.

Nothing begins without a single step.  Thought is a step, feeling is a step, action is a step.  Between each of these, more steps are taken.  Even when we are not feeling it, even when we are feeling bad, every step along the way is positive.  Each step that we take moves us onwards, and that is good.

Just One StepWe all have bad days.  Every single one of us gets hurt, feels pain both physical and emotional, and wonders how to move on.  It is at these times that we need to find the attitude shifters, work on our mood, ask the right questions, and take one step at a time.

You’ve got this.  I believe in you.  You are here.  There is positivity in that alone.

Finding positivity is not hard, but it does require action.  Knowing that every individual step counts towards moving us on, no matter how bad things might be, we can take that single step.  When we follow that one step with another, and we continue along the way, we empower ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we frequently spread that feeling to others around us; as such, we can build more positive feelings in the collective consciousness.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the two-hundred and seventh entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

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Life is Energy

Life is energy, and energy is life.

When we lose people dear to us, their energy has not gone…it has been transmuted back to the Universe.

Life is EnergyWe will miss the people we care about when they leave us.  Their energy may be gone from our lives, but it is not truly gone.  Energy can never be created nor destroyed, just transformed into a new form.

As I am sitting at my desk writing this, I am witnessing the sun rising outside my window.  Its light and energy are comforting, but also inspiring.  Like the sun, I am also capable of rising above the horizon and making my way across the sky.

This has been a particularly trying week.  My friends and family and I are all hurting because we have suffered loss.  Two people who held very different places in my heart are gone.  I will never experience their energy in my own life again…but I take comfort in knowing that their energy is not really gone.

When I work to consciously create my reality, I am striving to manifest a life that makes me happy.  To do that, I have to manipulate my own energy, so that I can be attuned to a higher frequency.  The higher the frequency I am tuned in to, that better things I can consciously create for myself.

The losses I have experienced make me sad.  I grieve for those who have passed…but I also am comforted in knowing that their energies are still out there.  When I think of the two amazing men who have passed, I remember that they lived lives that were filled with passion, inspired people around them, and made them both happy.  In their memory, as I work on manifesting my life, I hope to work from their examples.

Life is where we are right here, right now.

In this moment I feel sadness not just for those who are lost, but for all those grieving their losses.  I don’t believe that we can ever be prepared to say goodbye to those we love.  Unfortunately, this life, in these meat-popsicles, is finite.  The energy that is our root will continue always, but it will change form when our time on this planet is over.

Our society has a particular obsession with looking forward and looking backwards.  Seldom do we work in the here-and-now.  I fall prey to that a lot myself, and have been actively working on changing it.

The two men that we have lost were very different, but had one thing in common.  They lived fully every day.  They were, as far as all reports go, happy.  The happiness they expressed in their lives inspired people around them.  Both of them impacted a lot of lives, and both have left holes in the hearts of many.

They may be gone…but their energy is not.  They showed us that life is precious, and from their examples we can choose to live big, do what we can to be good people, and find what makes us happy.

Over the next couple of days both men will be memorialized.  Tears will be shed, and the memories of the impressions they made will flood over us.  But when this process is over we will go on.  In their memories, I am going to work even harder to use their examples and be the best person I can be.

Neither of these men did anything specifically to be an example.  They simply lived, every day, as best they could.

I can live life, or let life live me.

Too often I have let life live me.  It’s pretty easy to do…you just go with the flow, let the patterns of every day carry you.  There are people who find satisfaction in this.  But I desire to have more than just an everyday existence.  I want every day to learn new things, to live with all the passion I can, and to be the best me that I can be.

Consciousness creates reality.  If I am conscious of what I am thinking, feeling, and the actions that I take, I am able to be in control over my life.  Admittedly, this is not always easy.  When I spend too much time caught up in the goings-on across Facebook and other social media, or getting angry at the things I have no control over, I let my subconscious do the driving.

The memory of those I lost, and how they lived, can inspire me to be more aware.  Though I miss them in this moment, and I feel sad at their loss, I know that they both would want me to go on, and live well.  No matter who we lose in this life, I believe that they want us to keep living as fully as possible.

Wakes, funerals and memorials are not for the dead…they are for the living.  This is where and how we say goodbye.  Yes, it is an ending…but the energy of these lost souls is not gone, just transmuted, and spread further across the Universe.  Our loss is the Universe’s gain.  I don’t know if that gives you comfort, but it inspires me to live the best I can.

Energy is life, and life is energy.

As always, thank you for crossing the bridges between my worlds with me.

 

This is the sixty-ninth entry of my personal journey, the Crossing the Bridges series.  My collectively published writing can be found here.

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How Does Loss Effect You?

Loss is a part of Pathwalking.

Because life is ever changing, and because we are not static creatures, we will experience losses along our paths.  Some are good for us, some less so.  The hardest loss to take is that of a friend or loved one.

When we lose people, grief is different for every one of us.  In a society where we often look at the “norms”, how we grieve is one of those things that no two people manage the same.

LossSome people go numb.  Others get really angry.  Depression and sadness are typical.  Almost any emotion you can think of may come from loss.  There is no right or wrong way to feel this, even when you might feel nothing.

This week has been a challenge because I have lost two people who held different places in my heart.  The world has dimmed some due to their absence from it.

I know how I handle grief is unique to me.  Overall, I think about the impression people have made on me when they were here.  Yes, I will miss them, but I tend to give most of my energy to remembering the good moments I was fortunate enough to share with those I have lost along the way.

For me, there is a detachment that comes of my grief.  I tend to take a more clinical approach to my losses, and while I am sad that someone is gone from my life, I think because of how I see everything as energy, I don’t think of them as truly lost.

“Luminous beings are we…not this crude matter,” Yoda said.  And I believe that is the truth.  When we leave these earthly vessels, we become a new form of energy.  As such, nobody is truly lost.

Grief over loss, whatever form it takes, can alter our paths.

Often, when we suffer a loss, it will cause a certain amount of reflection.  When it is a permanent loss, such as death, this can shift how we approach our path in life.

Expected or unexpected, losing a loved one can create a pretty major change in how you continue on.  Everybody needs time to adjust to such a change, and when we are understanding of this we can be of the most help in these times.  Some adjust quickly, some not so much.

Whether or not a loss alters the paths you are walking, it is important to keep moving forward.  It is my belief that the people we care about and lose would most want us to keep on in their absence.  They would want us to continue living, growing, and choosing paths for ourselves.

Again, I am not in any way discounting grief.  My point here is that it’s important to still go on, keep living our own lives, and let the memories of those we have lost strengthen us.

It is my belief that everyone we encounter in our lives serves some purpose.  Friends, lovers, acquaintances, coworkers, even random drivers who cut us off on the highway teach us things.  They enter into our lives for a finite period of time, and have some sort of impact on us.

Losing the people we care about also impacts us.  The light that they shared with us is gone.  But I like to remember that the fire has only dimmed, because they will live on in my memory.  Whether this will impact my path or not, I will occasionally turn my eye to that fire, and let the memories warm me.

Loss can provide strength.

In the immediate aftermath of a loss, we feel grief, hurt, anger, numbness, frustration, rage, depression, fear, and/or any combination of these.  We can and will experience almost any conceivable emotion.  When we accept this, and let the feeling flow through us, we can let go of what we do not need and hold onto what we do.

Consciousness creates reality.  Because we have control over only our own individual existences, things can and will happen that will throw us off.  We will find ourselves focused on things that are negative.  These feelings are no less valid, unless we let them dominate and control us.

Nobody’s life is entirely absent of negativity.  In part this is because we need to feel the bad to appreciate the good, and everything in between.  Whatever form grief takes for you, in time it will fade.  It may always leave a pang, because there is a hole in our hearts from these losses.  But we can and will go on.

Sometimes loss will strengthen our resolve.  We want to do better than we are now.  It can cause us to choose to live bigger, love deeper, and take on the world in order to best effect it.  In the memory of those who are gone, we can improve ourselves, and feel more empowered to control our lives.

I will miss the two I lost this week.  But I know that both would encourage me to continue on with my dreams, my goals and aspirations.  I will do everything I can to be the best me I can be, and honor their memories.

How do you handle loss?

 

This is the three-hundred-sixteenth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas for, and my personal experiences with, walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

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