The Ramblings of the Titanium Don

Head and Heart – Thoughts and Feelings – Speak Different Languages

Head and heart are often tied together. But thoughts and feelings are very different. Lots of people have made this observation over the years. The head and heart – thoughts and feelings – can be in vastly different places, and often don’t speak the same language. I’ve written about this a lot over the years. The head and heart can often conflict because of how much they differ. This is one reason why people will do something they know –

How Do We Learn to Embrace Change Rather than Fear It?

We need to work more with mindfulness to embrace change. There are two topics I cover repeatedly. Fear and change. Why? Because we live in a fear-based society and change is the only constant in the Universe. What’s more, fear of change drives many, many people and the things they do. Accepting the inevitability of change goes a long way towards learning to embrace it. But that’s not easy to do because of how fear is so broadly exploited. What

How Are Actions More More Powerful than Resolutions?

Actions don’t just speak louder than words – they move and change everything. New Year’s Eve is almost upon us. Besides various forms of celebration people participate in around the world – lots of people make New Year’s Resolutions. They resolve to go to the gym more, quit smoking, eat fewer carbs, spend less time surfing social media, and other similar notions. But there is a major problem with resolution. It’s rather impotent. How do I mean? Let’s begin by

How Might We Use the New Year for New Positivity?

The new year is an excellent time to start fresh – if you so choose. It’s hard to believe that 2021 is coming to a close. Seriously – how are we less than a week from the start of 2022 already? The past 2 years have been utterly unusual for everyone. The global pandemic forever changed the world in ways we still haven’t fully realized. We have seen utter extremes between the best in some people and the worst in

For Some, Positivity is Extra Hard This Time of Year

It can be extra difficult to remember that positivity and all its elements are already inside us. For some people, the holidays are the best time of the year. Get-togethers with family and friends; amazing meals and treats; notions of joy, cheer, goodwill, and the like – and presents, of course. Yet for some people, the holidays are the worst time of the year. Reminders of loneliness; incompatibility of non-Christian religions; struggles to meet expectations; dealing with family and the

Do You Accept What is or Choose What Could Possibly Be?

What could possibly be is less improbable than you might imagine. I frequently use the phrase “it is what it is”. What I often fail to realize is that while the intent of saying “it is what it is” is to avoid argument and debate – it can also empower unwanted things. That additionally denies potential and possibility to accept what is. Admittedly, my regular use of this is to end debates with my mom. Sure, it often cuts short

Is It Empowering to Acknowledge That I Know That I Don’t Know That?

Recognizing that I don’t know that opens me to options to learn, grow, and control change. There are some things I know a lot about. And there are even more things that I know a little about. This can be both incredibly useful – and slightly dangerous. Useful, because I perceive what I realize to the extent that I know it. Be it something I know a little or a lot about – what I already discern has limits. There

Something Bad Is Sometimes What It Takes to Improve Your Life

The Universe is a paradox. Hence, sometimes something bad can turn out to be good. My life was forever changed 22 years ago. On November 30th, 1999, I decided to walk the quarter-mile or so from my apartment to the post office. When crossing the busy highway between home and my destination, I was struck by a car (and it was a hit-and-run incident). Fortunately, I have zero memory of the accident itself. For the next week or so, there

You can Always Choose Something – Right, Wrong, Big, Small, or Whatever

There is massive positivity in knowing you can always choose something, no matter the situation. I’ve had many experiences in my life where it felt like I had few to no choices available. Or worse, there were choices – and they were all bad. Or at least felt bad and less than optimum at the time. But so long as you are alive, you can always choose something. It’s easy, however, to lose sight of this. Many of the leaders

How Can Today Be Made into a Notable Special Occasion?

You can choose to treat today as the special occasion you desire for it to be. Our culture has a major love affair with celebrating special occasions. These include birthdays, anniversaries, holidays, graduations, and many massive achievements like promotions, marriages, births, and so on. The focus, however, often gets rather narrow when it comes to defining a special occasion versus the everyday. People put so much energy, time, attention, and investment into a given special occasion that they ignore all