The Ramblings of the Titanium Don

Can You Practice Self-Care While Still Caring About Others?

Yes, you absolutely can practice self-care while still caring about others. I’d like to debunk a few myths here. First – self-care is NOT selfish. Period, end of story. Yes, elements of self-care might appear selfish from without. Saying “no” for your mental health, refusing to participate in the drama of others, and no longer doing things that hurt you mentally and emotionally will appear selfish to others. Note – true selfishness involves intent. Malice of forethought. An action taken

To Not Get Together with Family This Year is Good

To not get together with family this year increases the odds of doing so next year. This is an ugly truth. But, as a result of people choosing to get together at Thanksgiving, the numbers of COVID-19 cases and deaths have been ramping up. This week ends with Christmas, which for many people represents the biggest of family gatherings. However, the pandemic is NOT over. Yes, there is a vaccine – but it’s important to recognize a vaccine is NOT

What is Selfishness?

This post contains affiliate banner links. For more info, see my disclosures.   Selfishness is not what you think it is. This can be particularly challenging, because a great deal of the way in which we perceive our universe attributes much to selfishness.  And while there are certainly some tremendously selfish people out there, much of what people see as selfish is not. I want to begin with a broad definition of what selfishness is NOT.  Selfishness is not taking

Who Are You Trying to Impress?

There is nobody you need to impress but yourself. I know that this seems like a lie.  But it is one of the greatest truths there is. There are always going to be people who dislike you, or disapprove of you.  When they are acquaintances it’s a very different thing than when they are close friends or family.  Some of the ideas we have, decisions and choices we make, actions we take will not align with other people’s values, beliefs,

How Does Caring Empower?

Caring for others will always increase Positivity. Human beings are social creatures.  Yes, there are introverts, extroverts, and ambiverts, but we all still have a basic need for some interaction.  Even the most introverted people I know still give and receive care. Caring and empathy are connected.  I believe that every reasonable person cares when they see others hurting, whether that is hurting spiritually, emotionally or physically.  Empathizing with people going through things can build tremendous positivity. When we express

What is Well-Intentioned Resistance?

As you walk your chosen paths, you will meet well-intentioned resistance. Well-intentioned resistance is when people give you news and information that is “for your own good” or to “tell it like it is” or to otherwise offer advice, in order to keep you from making “poor” choices.  This comes from those closest to you, and can be very disconcerting. Society has certain norms and expectations of us.  We are supposed to go through the motions.  You work five days

Things we should care about – versus – things we should not

I am going to overly-simplify this, because I think we have lost sight of the things we should care about, versus the things that are really not all that important in the grand scheme of life, the universe and everything. Here is a list, in no particular order, of things we should care about: Our health The health of our friends and family Our welfare The welfare of our friends and family. Our happiness. The happiness of our friends and