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How to Make Monday YOUR Day

Today will be whatever you make it be.

It’s far too easy to approach Monday and the traditional start of the work week with distress, trepidation, displeasure, and unhappiness.  There is an entire culture of Monday woe in this society, which has been and continues to be capitalized on, and as such gets reinforced.

Does anyone want Monday to suck?  I am pretty sure the answer is NO.  I don’t really know anyone who wants to be miserable, who wants to have a bad day and a bad week, or who craves feeling powerless and unhappy.

We are all so much more powerful than we give ourselves credit for.  For real, we are the creators of the world in which we live.  My favorite line from Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory has always been, “We are the music makers, and we are the dreamers of the dreams.”  In other words, we have control over the lives we live.  We choose the beat we dance to in this life, and the dreams we experience.

Keeping this in mind, why do we so readily ascribe lousiness to Monday?  Because that’s our culture.  We have this wide-ranging belief that Monday, as the beginning of the new work week, is going to probably be no fun, distressing, and generally unpleasant.

If like attracts like, and consciousness creates reality, what do you think approaching Monday with dread is going to do?  Further, why perpetuate this negative, frankly depressing approach to a day in our lives?  We are only on this earth for a limited time.  Yeah, there are going to be days that suck, and there are going to be issues and problems and challenges to be had, and sometimes it really is easiest to just go with it, go with the flow, let it be as it will be.

However, we have a choice.  Rather than fall into this notion and allow for another lousy Monday, another set-up for a less-than-desired work week, why don’t we seek better?  Why don’t we use the tools we have available to us like gratitude and positivity generators to change the station, tune in more desirable music?

Yes, we will need to expend some effort to break from the norm.  It could make people look at us askance, and wonder why we aren’t doing things in the same way they are.  So what?  If like attracts like, and consciousness creates reality, if we approach the week from a positive perspective, then we are apt to attract more positives our way.

Monday needn’t start us off in deficit, we have the ability instead to begin in abundance.  Wouldn’t you rather look to be content and happy than distraught and unhappy?  Seems like a no-brainer to me.

Finding positivity is not hard, but it does require action.  Knowing that we have the power to choose how to approach the start of the work week, we can work on choosing to approach it from a place of abundance.  When we see the day for possibility rather than for impossibility, we empower ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings in the collective consciousness.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the one hundred seventy-sixth entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

In relation to Positivity, check out my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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Five Quick-and-Easy Positivity Generators

Everyone prefers to feel good over feeling bad.

Finding positivity is about finding ways to feel good.  We live in a society that feeds on a steady diet of negativity.  Fear is a tool employed by many differently “leaders” to keep people in line, and sensationalism sells and gets more clicks on social media.  This can make it far easier to live in fear and negativity than to find positivity.

Also, it’s Monday…so most of us are going to work after a weekend off.  It is widely accepted that Mondays should be loathed.  I figure, why start the work week in negativity and set that tone for the week, when we can create positivity and allow ourselves to feel better.

There are many, many things that generate positivity, but the follow five are things you can do with little or no effort, more than once in a given day, and they will help.

  1. Smile. Seriously, just take a minute and smile.  You don’t need to laugh, you don’t need to have anything in particular to smile about, simply smile for a minute or so, and see how you feel.
  2. Breathe deeply. Take at least two minutes to breathe deeply, intentionally.  Really focus on the breathing, and let the air in.  You’d be surprised how just breathing and not doing anything else will make you feel.
  3. Sit or stand more erect. Consider your posture.  When you slouch and slump, there is no energy flow.  When you stand up straight or sit up straight, you energize your core, and you would be surprised how that will improve your mood.
  4. Stretch. Roll your neck, roll your shoulders, stretch out your arms and legs for a minute or two. These are the only bodies we have, and we tend to abuse them.  Stretching doesn’t just keep our joints and muscles strong, it also helps us relax and feel more flexible.
  5. Disconnect. Go offline for a few minutes.  Take a short walk.  Step away from whatever you are doing and reset yourself.  This can be less than five minutes, and I always have suspected this is part of the allure for smokers.  You get away from it all a few minutes to get your nicotine fix.  Well, for non-smokers, we also need a few minutes to get away and break from things.  Leave your computes, tablets and phones behind for 1 to 5 minutes, and free yourself.

None of these things need to take more than five minutes, and can take as little as one minute.  All of them will allow us to feel better, and I know that I prefer to feel good over feeling bad.  It seems so very simple, and yet we tend to neglect this all too easily.

There are other options out there, but I suggest rather than getting caught up in the negativity of the world at large, each of us can generate positivity for ourselves, and from there we might find we can do much, much more than we think.

Finding positivity is not hard, but it does require action.  Knowing that there are little things we can do to feel good, we have tools at our disposal to improve our days.  When we make the effort to use these tools to check and alter our feeling, we empower ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings in the collective consciousness.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the one hundred seventy-fifth entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

In relation to Positivity, check out my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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Where can you find Positivity?

Positivity can be found anywhere we look.

There are all sorts of thing, big and small, that can bring about positivity.  Sometimes they are easier to see than others.

We are alive and breathing.  We have amazing technology at our fingertips.  We are capable of loving and being loved.  We can have, do or be pretty much anything we desire.  There is sky above us and earth beneath our feet.

I know that it can feel like an impossible struggle to find positivity out there.  Sometimes the weather is upsetting, at times those we love and respect are disappointing us, and don’t even get me started on the state of politics in the world today.  And yet, even with all that taken into account, there are still ways to uncover and relish in positivity.

Sometimes we just need to slow down, take a breath, and maybe step away from things that are giving us more negativity than we desire.  Sometimes we need distractions, finding things to make us smile and laugh or otherwise redirect our thought processes.

Gratitude and inclusion can go a very long ways towards generating positivity.  Doesn’t it feel good to hear someone say “thank you?”  Do you know that saying “thank you” can be just as powerful, if not more so?  Expressing gratitude in our lives builds positive energy like nothing else can…and it’s really, really easy.

Perfect example – today in the United States is Memorial Day.  I want to say Thank You to everyone who has given of themselves to serve the country and protect and defend what we believe in.  Thank you, also, to those who offer the closest support to these men and women.  Thank you.

Our society is currently experiencing a real problem with exclusion.  We are being artificially divided by race, color, creed, religion, gender, and any other artifice one could devise so that those who feel they are in power can stay there.  When we work to be inclusive instead, however, we can generate an unbelievable amount of positivity, and when we work together we all benefit.

Yes, finding positivity can feel pretty hard.  But finding and generating positivity is good for our overall wellbeing, and it is always available to us – we just have to seek it out, and keep ourselves open to it.

Finding positivity is not hard, but it does require action.  Knowing that we can find positivity almost anywhere that we look for it, we can open ourselves up to new ways to feel good and be happier.  When we make the effort to uncover and partake of positivity, we make ourselves feel healthier, and as such we empower ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings in the collective consciousness.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the one hundred seventy-fourth entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

In relation to Positivity, check out my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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How to Build Positivity: Getting into Better Shape

Taking steps to get in shape can generate massive positivity.

Getting in shape can also take a number of different forms.  Health is not simply measured as physical, but also mental, spiritual and emotional.  Giving attention to any one of these can improve our quality of life and be massively positive, while working on more than one or all of them can be hugely empowering.

Everyone is familiar with processes for getting into shape physically.  Diet and exercise, skin care, and other activities to maintain and improve ourselves are where the majority of the focus tends to go when we strive to get in shape.  We eat better, we exercise more, we work on taking better care of these physical vessels where we will exist for our whole time on earth.

Getting into shape mentally can take several different forms.  Reading books and listening to lectures or taking other steps to improve our knowledge base, playing games to sharpen our minds, getting enough rest…anything that provides the mind stimulus or flexibility gets us into mentally better health.  Mental health also involves dealing with matters such as anxiety and depression, and working on keeping ourselves together in the best manners possible.

Getting into spiritual shape is easy to neglect.  Everyone has different types and degrees of faith, whether we are talking about a belief in God, or the Universe, or even in yourself.  This is not about religion, that’s a wholly separate idea.  Spiritual health is believing that we can do great things, that we can find and create the impossible, and that we recognize and care for our inner light, the energy that is our core being, our souls.  This is the least tangible aspect we possess in ourselves, but one that should not be neglected.

Emotional health is separate from mental health, in that our feelings and state of mind can differ.  Granted, when we feel low, when we are down or sad or depressed we will have a harder time creating the things we most desire.  Yet we are completely able to take ahold of and change our emotional state at will.  Exercising this particular ability really helps us to get into the best possible shape emotionally we can.

There are two particular activities that can help us get into better physical, mental, emotional and spiritual shape.  The first is simply breathing.  Pausing to breathe intentionally from time to time heightens our awareness, draws more oxygen into our bloodstream, can clear the mind and help get ahold of our emotions, and raises the spirit.  The second is meditation.  Taking the time to be still and enter into the place of no mind provides even more stimulus and shaping up than intentional breathing.

Working on getting into better shape is always a matter of positivity, no matter what aspect you are working on to that end.

Finding positivity is not hard, but it does require action.  Knowing that we can work on getting into better shape mentally, spiritually, and emotionally as well as physically, we gain an amazing tool for building positivity.  When we work on improving our state of being within any of these realms, we empower ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings in the collective consciousness.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the one hundred seventy-third entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

In relation to Positivity, check out my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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Positivity: Fresh Air

Cliché though it may be, there is nothing like fresh air to clear your head.

I like to take a few minutes during my work day to get a sun/air break.  Step outside, get some fresh air, escape the stale office air and my computer.

There is something cleansing, both physically and emotionally, in breathing in fresh air.  It awakens the senses, it rejuvenates the soul, it opens us up to possibilities.

I know that this is super-trite, but I find for me, at least, when stepping outside I breathe deeper than I do when I am in the office.  There is something about the open air under the sky that causes me to draw more breath.

We seriously take the power of breathing for granted.  I mean, for real, this is the single most automatic thing we do.  Our bodies demand oxygen to survive, so we are always subconsciously breathing.  Yet frequently we employ breath to calm our nerves and steel our resolve and to prepare of cope with a given situation.  How often do we “take a deep breath” to allow a moment to get clear on our thoughts before we speak, or to keep ourselves from expressing excess anger or frustration?

One of the reasons why focusing on your breathing is a primary key for mediation is because we are always doing it.  It’s automatic, it requires no thought, and we do it every single minute of every single day of our lives.  When we concentrate on it, focus on breathing in and out, we ultimately become aware, conscious and present in the here-and-now, which in turn lets us tune out the constant chatter in our brains for the preferred void of meditation practice.

When we become frustrated; when we get angry; when we are particularly tired, getting fresh air and being conscious of our breathing can go a long ways towards building and sustaining more positivity.  We all want more positive things in our lives, and this instinctive act provides us a mechanism to easily build more.

If you are currently feeling less-than-good about anything, take a moment, go out for some fresh air.  Breathe deeply, intentionally, and see if that begins to improve your mood.  I know it often works wonders for mine.

Finding positivity is not hard, but it does require action.  Knowing that getting some fresh air and being conscious of our breathing we can clear away negativity, we gain a tool that is always with us, all the time.  When we take the time to get some fresh air, to breathe deeply, intentionally and fully consciously, we empower ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings in the collective consciousness.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the one hundred seventy-second entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

In relation to Positivity, check out my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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Pathwalking 231

While it is usually best to do things in moderation, sometimes extremes are called for.

When your energy is stagnant, and you need to redirect the flow, this can call for an extreme action in order to set everything in motion.

For example: I have put on some unwanted weight.  I have been working to take it off, but the process is moving very, very slowly, and I need to give it a jumpstart, I believe.

So, in addition to my usual goal logging activities, I am going to put myself on a restricted diet for June.  I am eliminating certain foods from my diet.  Last time I did the same, in the past, I saw swift results.  I want to do that again, because I need to have change in this matter.

This is not a matter of defeat, instead I see it as a matter of taking charge.  Like other aspects of the notion of Pathwalking, I am taking control of my actions and being accountable so that I can shrink my body down some, so that I can fit into clothing that I currently cannot wear.

Further, it has come to my attention (though I was aware of this before) that a healthy body is important for a healthy mind.  Healthier bodies can better cope with depression and other stresses, and that is always a good thing.

Why am I choosing to do this?  Because I need to change my overall mindset about any number of matters I am dealing with in my life presently.  Because I want to take control, and to take a specific, inspired action to effect some change.

Pathwalking is the active practice of choosing my own destiny.  I alone choose the paths I wish to walk, and this is no different.

Over the years I have turned to any number of outside resources to help me with my conscious creation of reality.  Whether it was The Secret, The Map, Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, The Four Agreements, The Fifth Agreement, The Book of Five Rings, or the latest book to pass through my hands, You are a Badass – ALL of them have a similar message.  Thought, Emotion, Action.  No one of these individual matters will make conscious reality creation possible, all three are necessary.

There are always more steps, always bits and pieces that you might need to go through different sources to glean.  For example, it’s all well and good to approach life with the intent to walk your own path, and to choose your own destiny.  But it is difficult if you do not address old, useless, deep-seated beliefs that could be getting in your way.

Have I written about this before?  In particular The Map and You are a Badass really address this topic.  If you have old, outdated beliefs, even from as far back as childhood, they can very well cause you to sabotage your efforts to manifest at the worst, and to make the work twice as complicated along the way at the least.

I have spent most of my life believing that I am fat.  And because I hold that to be true, hmmm, big surprise, I have been struggling with my weight pretty much all the time.  I also have been told that my weight is an issue for me since I was a kid, so it is very ingrained within me to hold to this belief, and so this has been my reality.

I can’t just think I am thin and it will be so.  Can’t just FEEL that I am thin and, poof, all the excess weight will be gone.  Doesn’t work that way.  This is why I am taking action, action I feel rather inspired to take, along with changing my thought process to not focus on weight loss, but to focus on achieving the body I want.  Positive approaches always work better than negative ones.

Meanwhile, I need to ALSO address the old, underlying beliefs about this from my childhood.  Whether it was being the last kid picked for the teams, being called the chubby kid, being told that I had to lose weight continuously – I need to resolve these issues, and focus instead on wellness, on creating a more ideal body, and on living in the now with regards to this exercise, rather than focusing on my past or on the future result.

Over the next month it is my intent to work on two specific things.  First, I need to work on taking more actions.  The goal log has been helpful, but too passive.  I am going to work on making it more direct, and more purposeful.  I need to make sure I meet ALL of the goals daily, which includes writing, meditation, exercise and gratitude.  The log is a check-list of things I need to accomplish, actions that need to be done.

Equally important, in regards to any actions I am taking, I need to explore old beliefs that could be sabotaging me.  I find that while I have made a lot of strides in the four-and-a-half years I have been Pathwalking, I am still not totally walking the paths I most desire.  I have taken many steps upon them, but there needs to be more.  I want to really walk the paths of my choosing, not just take steps along the way.  I think one reason this has been an issue is because I have not dealt with some old, limiting beliefs from my past, and that is something I need to work on.

In truth, working out old, unnecessary beliefs is a means to an end.  It IS an inspired action, and an important step to further Pathwalking.  Pathwalking allows me to consciously create my reality, and to manifest the life I want to lead.  I know from personal experience that this can be done, now I am exploring new means to the end.

Thank you for joining me on Mr. Titanium Don’s Wild Ride.  Please keep your arms and legs inside the car at all times, and hang on!

What do you know about your own past beliefs, and limits they may be putting on your present?

 

GOAL LOG – Week 21:

Due to being on vacation, the Goal Log was not maintained.  Returning next week with a revised purpose, as above.

 

This is the two-hundred thirty-first entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas and my personal experiences in walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

Pathwalking 230

Just breathe.

It is not cliché.  Sometimes the best thing you can do is to just breathe.

I have been feeling off for a few days now.  I have gotten a lot of things done, and I haven’t had anything bad happen, I have just not felt quite right.  I have felt off.  My energy has been low, and my spirits too.

We all have bad days.  We all have times when we are off, and while we can seek out the solutions to our issues, there are times when all we can do is to just breathe.

Yes, I have written many times that it is best to find ways to not just go with the flow, and that nobody by I am responsible for how I am feeling.  Despite this, I am, after all, only human, so there are still going to be days where I cannot get out of my own head, get out of a funk, and I feel low.

One of the keys to Pathwalking is to work on living in the here-and-now.  Rather than getting caught up in the past or stuck thinking about the future, I want to work on being wholly present in the present.

That being written, when the here-and-now feels bad, feels low and is hard to break out of, what do you do?  This is when you just breathe.

Focusing on just breathing allows me to regain my perspective.  There may be a negative situation at hand that is making me feel down, it may be cloudy weather, it may just be old data I am having trouble getting out of my head.  Whatever it is, when I stop and just breathe I have an opportunity to reset, to pause, to get back clarity within the moment.

When I focus on just breathing, I can clear my head of anything that is getting in my way.

I am my own largest critic.  When I am not living up to my own expectations of myself, I can get annoyed, get disheartened, and that is often the place where I begin to sabotage myself.  I do not believe in my own abilities, and I become fearful of both failure and success.

When I just breathe, I am able to re-assess my position on myself.  I am able to take a more favorable view of myself, and while I am still likely to be somewhat critical, I can still do better with being less judgmental of myself in any negative ways.

Just breathe.

Sometimes I need to remember that this is sufficient.  If I just breathe, and do the things I need to do in a day I am doing well.  I don’t need to be a high achiever, I don’t need to be a super-hero, I don’t need to be amazing…I just need to be me.  I only have to do the best I can do in being me.

This is the key of this statement.  There is no need to be someone I am not, for myself or for anyone else.  I just need to keep breathing, keep working on being the best me that I can be, and that is what is most important.

I want to be important, I want to have an impact on the world in a positive way.  I want to do great things, some altruistic and some probably selfish.  But the more important thing I want to do is to be true to myself, my ideals, and the paths I have chosen.

I just breathe, and I can better see the work I am doing to achieve that.

Today may not be the best of days.  But so long as I just breathe, and work through, I can still maintain and improve upon who I am and what I want to do.  I alone choose what is best for me.

I think I often expect too much from myself.  When I fail to live up to the notions I have for myself, I don’t simply get discouraged, I have to contend with my depression.  I have to arm and armor myself to do battle with the black dog once again.

I have been fighting this battle all of my life, and I am not ashamed to admit that.  But when I allow myself to just breathe, when I can live in the here-and-now, I can always come out victorious.

Just breathe.  There is tremendous power in this very simple notion.

Do you allow yourself moments to regain perspective?

 

GOAL LOG – Week 20:

Diet: I am continuing to write out what I eat daily.  I have a large change I plan to implement in June, a temporary idea to jumpstart getting myself into shape.

Exercise: Fencing happened twice last week, and I made it to the gym once.  I also got in some additional physical labor.

Writing:  Only got in one day of writing.  Need to work on that.

Meditation:  Only 2 days of meditation, at least 6 minutes each day.

Gratitude: I wrote out 5 or 6 things to be grateful for nearly every day last week…but I missed a day.  Made up for it by writing out 10 things the next day.

 

This is the two-hundred thirtieth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas and my personal experiences in walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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