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Are You Kind?

Be kind to yourself.  Give kindness to others.

I am sitting here this morning, trying to come up with words for this post, and I have been doing my usual routine.  I go to Facebook, I play a couple games, and I read through a bunch of posts.

KindThere are a lot of discouraging things going on out there.  So much anger, so much fear, such unbelievable negativity.  Is this really the world we want to live in?

I don’t know about you, but I am not a fan of this.  Of course it’s important to stay informed, but the volume of bad news is just thoroughly distressing.  It overwhelms, and I can’t help but wonder what good, if any, I can do here?

I can be better to myself.  I can treat myself like I want to be treated by others, and then I can extend that out to the people around me.

Positivity this week covered taking one step at a time, while Pathwalking covered the power of tenacity.  I have been having a hard time coming up with a topic for Crossing the Bridges, because I have a lot in my head, and am having a difficult time centering.

Anger and anxiety have been clouding my mind this morning. I am feeling somewhat helpless in the face of all the negativity I have been reading.

It is, of course, ok to feel angry, to feel bad, to get annoyed by these things.  The problem is holding onto them too tightly.  If I allow my feelings to stay here and fester, I will lower my frequency, and I will have an ever-increasingly difficult time getting where I want to go.

Pause.  Breathe.  Refocus.  Most of all…be kind.  I need to be kind to myself.

Being kind is a key to conscious reality creation.

I know that like many people, I am often the least kind to myself.  There is a lot of self-doubt, criticism, uncertainty that crops up in my life.  When I am focused on these things, they cause me to not think so well of myself.  This is not a terribly useful approach to life.

So I need to be more kind to myself.  It’s all well-and-good to be kind to others, but if I do not show myself kindness, then I actually have less to share, too.  Like pretty much everything in the universe, it all starts with the individual.

Consciousness creates reality.  If I am focused on negative things, on unkind things, what do you think I am drawing into my life?  No surprise here – more things I would prefer not to draw to myself.  Thus it’s really important that I remember to treat myself kindly, and to be gentle towards my heart and mind.

When I am more kind to me, I build more ability to be kinder to others.  Positivity begets positivity.  The best way to empower anyone else is to empower myself.

This past month has been rough.  Sure, I can dwell on this…or I can acknowledge it, and strive to make every day a good day.  One step at a time, one day at a time.  Frequently that really is the best approach.

Sometimes the toughest things to do are the simplest.  Self-love and kindness towards self should be really easy.  Yet often, they are the most challenging act to take part of.  It is important to remember that being kind to others is great, but being kind to myself is also extremely important.

Remember that kind acts beget kindness.

As always, thank you for crossing the bridges between my worlds with me.


This is the seventieth entry of my personal journey, the Crossing the Bridges series.  My collectively published writing can be found here.

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Positivity: Kindness

A little kindness could change the whole world.

With all the animosity, racism, sexism and outright hatred being shouted so loudly of late, we each need to do our part to show more kindness.  This could change everything.


I think it’s safe to say that we all want to live decent, comfortable, happy lives.  I don’t know anyone who wants to struggle, or to be in a constant state of fear, or to be miserable.   I think that some people hate like they do because they are afraid, because they feel intimidated and disempowered, so they channel anger and hostility because that makes them feel something more powerful than the powerlessness of fear they don’t recognize for what it is.

We all can do something about this.  Instead of spreading intolerance and being harsh, we can take a moment to be kind.

People can be infuriating, both on a personal and a global scale.  I often say that while I like certain individual people, over all the human race disturbs and distresses me.  That is an unfair statement on my part, and I need to practice more kindness myself.

Why?  Because directing meanness at someone usually creates more hostility and anger and hate.  Why do we think that more hate is the answer to hate?  We need to practice kindness, because that is what I am pretty sure we would all prefer.

Consider this – you wake up in the morning feeling out-of-sorts.  You’ve slept poorly, you go to work and you join everyone complaining about the upcoming elections.  This is unfair.  That is terrible.  Why will no one do anything about this issue?  How does that make you feel?

Now consider this – you wake up in the morning feeling out-of-sorts.  You’ve slept poorly, and you go to work and ask your coworker how their weekend was.  How are your friends and family?  Want to get a cup of coffee?  Want to split a donut with me?  Let me help you with that bag.  Wasn’t that episode of that show awesome?  How does that make you feel?


This is not a grand, sweeping, ginormous change we have to make.  It’s a matter of redirection.  If we want to experience more acts of kindness in our lives, we need to give more kindness.  It costs nothing, but it is priceless.  Kindness is nothing but positivity, and I am pretty sure we can never have too much of that.

Acts of kindness are empowering.  The more we empower others, the more we empower ourselves.  I can see only good things that will come of that.

Finding positivity is not hard, it just requires action.  Knowing that we all want to experience kindness from the people in our lives, we can work on practicing more acts of kindness ourselves.  When we are kind to the people around us, friend, family, or random stranger, in empowering them with kindness we empower ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.


This is the one hundred fourteenth entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

In relation to Positivity, check out my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.


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