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How Does Praise Empower?

Everybody likes to receive praise.

When you do a thing, and you do it well, receiving praise for it feels amazing.  It is incredibly empowering, and it serves as an affirmation of the choices you make along the way.

For whatever reason, though, our modern society eschews praise.  We have an almost surreal talent for criticism, but when it comes to praise, we seem to display something of an aversion to it.

PraiseI suspect that one of the reasons for this is because there is a backlash borne of false praise.  When we over-emphasize the celebration of mediocrity, and heap praise for simple participation, we disempower in the interest of inclusion.  We praise all, or we praise none.

Yet we are almost obsessed with criticism.  Now don’t get me wrong, there are situations where this is completely called for, like politics.  An example of where this is over-the-top is when it comes to celebrities.  There is an entire industry of media focused on what they wear, their level of fitness, whom they are dating, and so on.  Snarking at celebrities is accepted as the price they pay for being public figures.

Unfortunately, this carries over to everyone else.  People tend to criticize and comment on the people in their lives with far more negativity than positivity.  What we forget is that, while we don’t actually do these things maliciously, they impact the people around us and lower all of our frequencies.

Consciousness creates reality.  When you are focused on the flaws and negatives of the people around you, that is what you draw more of to you.  It does bounce back.  Heap criticism and comments at people, and they will be returned to you.  This, in turn, makes nobody feel terribly empowered.

Praise raises our frequencies.

Everything in the universe is based in energy.  All energy has a frequency.  Low frequencies are made of low feelings, low energy.  High frequencies are made of high feelings and high energy.  The low makes us feel bad, the high makes us feel good.

This is why praise matters.  A lot of work environments people experience involve trying to avoid criticism and disapproval, thus cultivating low vibrations and frequencies.  Avoiding getting judged by our bosses and coworkers is not empowering, and doesn’t feel good.

When we work in an environment where praise is given for jobs well done, achievements that are made, and good performance, we are empowered.  This type of environment cultivates high vibration and frequencies.  Working for reward is empowering, and feels good.

I can’t think of anyone who does not prefer to be rewarded over being penalized.  Being given an accolade feels good and empowers us to continue to perform at high energy.  When we receive penalties and judgements if we do not meet a given standard, we are disempowered, and likely to continue to find little or no satisfaction in what we do.

Is it easier to criticize than to praise?  No.  However, I think because a lot of energy was given to praising for simply participation and averageness, praise comes less easily.

Again, it’s important to look at our society.  Everywhere you look people are being criticized and judged for anything you can imagine.  While some is justifiable, like in the case of our government, much of it is not.  While the majority is not intended to be mean, it still lowers the vibrational frequencies of our energy.  Thus, we are great at making ourselves and others feel bad.

Like pretty much everything in the world, starting small can snowball.

Be aware of whether you are offering praise or judgement.

It starts with us.  How often do you wind up talking about someone you care about or love critically?  Does it come rather easily?  Is your criticism more observational than malicious?  How does it make you feel?

I love my friends and family, but I am frequently being critical of things they do.  It doesn’t come from a place of spite or intentional meanness.  I think it’s a matter of comparison to my own thought processes on a given situation.

The challenge is to be aware.  Oh, look, something else that comes down to awareness of the here-and-now.  When I am thinking about the people in my life, when I am critical of their actions, I am lowering all of our frequencies.  Ergo, it is up to me to consider this, and change my reactions consciously.

One of the best ways to do this is to find reasons and means to praise.  If I can offer praise I am raising all of our frequencies.  Praise makes everyone feel good, and when we feel good, we choose more wisely, and I believe consciously, our thoughts, feelings and actions.

Recognize false praise and constructive criticism.

Two words of caution here.  First – false praise.  Praising for mediocrity can be as disempowering as criticism.  Wow, you got out of bed this morning – good for you! is rather mocking.  This is where we lose the power praise can generate.  Praise can still be for simple things, such as you look good today or I like that shirt on you or you are raising incredible kids.

Second – constructive criticism.  This is a real thing, and can actually be empowering.  Criticism feels bad.  That pie you baked wasn’t very good makes you feel lousy.  Thank you for baking that pie.  Could I offer some flavoring suggestions? might still be awkward, but opens the door to dialogue rather than judgement.  There are times people need help to improve in some way or other.

Praise can be incredibly empowering.  When you are walking a path you have chosen for yourself, praise goes a long ways to make the journey better.  Consider how criticism and praise make you feel, be aware of how you are thinking and speaking about people around you.  Raise everyone’s frequency by offering praise.

Like I said in Positivity this week – You are amazing.  No matter if we know one another or not, I want you to know that I believe you are amazing, and can do incredible things.

What praise have you offered of late?

 

This is the three-hundred-fifteenth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas for, and my personal experiences with, walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

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Why Start Pathwalking?

Why did I start Pathwalking six years ago?

When I decided that I needed to blog weekly, I came up with this idea.  Pathwalking is the living, breathing process of using consciousness to create reality in order to manifest the life I most desire.

Consciousness creates reality.  How do I know this?  Because I have done it.  I know that when we are aware and totally present in the here-and-now, we can build our existence however we most desire for it to be.  We are only as limited as we believe or disbelieve.

One of the largest issues I have faced with this process has been my ability to be in the here-and-now.  Often, I find myself thinking ahead or looking back.  More dangerous than that, though, I allow myself to become distracted with things happening way outside of myself in the here-and-now over which I have no control.

You don’t have to spend all that much time on Facebook or Twitter to encounter messages of lack, intolerance, hatred, and numerous other forms of negativity.  Truth be told, if we spend too much time focused on this, not only will we lose hope, but we will also believe the world is an awful, terrible place going straight to hell in a handbasket.

StartYes, there are some pretty terrible things happening out there.  Greed, corruption, a lack in compassion and empathy appear to be at an all-time high.  Things are difficult for many people in the world today.  But the truth of it is…things are not nearly so dire as they may appear.

How can I say that?  Because the vast majority of people out there are simply going through the motions and living their lives.  They experience triumphs and tragedies along the way, but overall they simply live.

We can start to look for the better things out there.

The news media, whatever form it takes, is going to aim at sensationalism.  It really doesn’t seem to matter if there is bias or not, they are going to shout something loud and intriguing to get your attention.  More often than not, they will spin negatively, because getting people angry, no matter which side they are on, sells.

Yes, it sells.  When the sales pitches are fear, lack, scarcity and us-versus-them, usually we are having something sold to us.  And let’s face it, when we are told there is a limited supply or that we don’t want the other guy to have an advantage over us, we tend to buy.

It is for this reason that it’s so important to start being aware of our own lives, right here, right now.  Why?  Because the only thing we have any control over, directly, is our own lives.  It is our individual thoughts, feelings and actions that we can have any true influence over.

Rather than be concerned with things out of our control, we need to alter our focus to those things we can change.  What I am thinking about, feeling through and intentionally acting upon is going to allow me to manifest my life.

Unless, of course, I let my subconscious do most of the heavy lifting.  When we do not work in the here-and-now and be mindful of how we think, our subconscious will take over, and we will wind up not being where we want to be.

I have refined the process of Pathwalking over the years, but I am still developing it.  I expect, because this is how life works in general, that I will always be developing it.

Start now, not later, to change focus.

I recently signed up for an online course by Jen Sincero, author of my favorite self-help book, You Are A Badass.  She is witty, clever, funny, and an engaging writer and speaker.  The course is in releasing old habits that do not serve for new ones that do.

There are several habits I hold onto which I believe are interfering with my Pathwalking.  One of the primary methods for building new habits is repetition.  As such, I have created what Jen Sincero calls a “Mantra of Mightiness” that I am repeating frequently, in order to better empower myself.

Conscious reality creation will start to become manifestation when you see only one outcome.  You may not know exactly how you will get to the place you want to be, and the total details might be vague.  But there is no doubt, no second-guessing, no other option but success in manifesting what you are desiring.

This can be ginormous.  It can also be microscopically small.  But that doesn’t matter, because the more we consciously create our realities, the better realities we can make for ourselves.  This, in turn, can show other people they, too, can do better.

Pathwalking is not just a philosophy, but a practice.  The best way to start is to become aware of your thoughts in the here-and-now.  Once you have this awareness, you can examine your feelings as well.  After that, it gets easier to find intentional actions to take.  It is from intentional actions that we manifest that which we are desiring.

Another key factor I need to reconcile myself with is that this needs to start fresh every single day.  When I start letting my day go by rote, and routines and patterns set in, my subconscious will be doing the driving.

Start anew every day.

Every single day is new.  No matter how similar today may be to yesterday, it’s a new day.  There are differences, and variations to everything.  Some of these are noticeable while others are not.  The really cool thing about this is that no matter how awful the day before was, today has the potential to be whatever you want it to be.

I know things outside of our control happen all the time that can make any given day unpleasant.  We are emotional creatures, and bad things happen because that’s the nature of the Universe.  Bad things happen so that we will know the good things.  When we start by anticipating bad things, we set our subconscious loose to run the show.  Right here, in this moment, in the here-and-now, we can sit down in the driver’s seat and take this bus anywhere we really want to be.

I hope that this new year brings you down an incredible path.

What new thought processes will you start today?

 

This is the three-hundred-fourteenth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas for, and my personal experiences with, walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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How Do You Think, Feel and Act on Positivity?

You can think positive all you want.  However, if you put nothing behind it, no energy, feeling, or action, it will be ineffective.

ThinkI am pretty sure that everything has at one point or another been exposed to the notion of the “power of positive thinking”.  On the surface, the idea that if you think good and positive thoughts, life will be better in numerous ways.

Too easy, right?  Well, that’s not untrue.  Think whatever you want, positive or negative, but without corresponding feeling, you can’t manifest anything at all.

When I began writing positivity almost four years ago, it was in reaction to posts all across social media of almost hopeless negativity.  I wanted to offer a different, positive perspective, in order to provide an alternative to the prevailing attitude.

Positivity follows the basic principles of conscious reality creation.  THINK positive, yes, but also FEEL positive and make an intentional ACT from there.  Thinking positive is a third of the equation, and if you do not feel it, you won’t act on it, and positivity will not be generated.

In the current climate of our world, this is really hard.  Our government is doing unspeakably awful things against the people they are supposed to be representing.  Corporate greed is surreal.  The world stage is fairly messy, and let’s not even go into any detail about climate change, revelations of sexual harassers, and so on.

Pretty daunting, right?  It is.  Yet still, finding positivity among all of this negativity is imperative.  I am in no way advocating ignoring these issues.  But rather than give them a ton of attention and endless focus, we need to seek positive things to think and feel about.  Like attracts like.  Want more good things, or bad?  I know which I prefer.

Think, feel, and act on positivity in the here-and-now.

Society has an unhealthy obsession with the past and the future.  I am unsure why, but that’s how we operate.  When we place our energies in the here-and-now, though, we gain awareness of the world around us, but more than that we become aware of ourselves.  This is where generating positivity is most important.

Think, Feel, ActWhen you ask yourself How am I feeling? or What am I thinking? or the like, you immediately become aware of the now.  When you are aware of the now, you know what your prevailing thoughts are.  It is here-and-now that you can at least take a moment to think, feel, and act on positivity.

It may not seem like much, but every major change begins with a single, small step.

Think and feel positivity.  Action will come of that, and we can improve the world around us in this way.

Finding positivity is not hard, but it does require action.

Knowing that to think positive is just the beginning, we can work from there to feel it as well.  When we take the thought of positivity and feel it, then act upon it, we can make it manifest, and with that we empower ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we frequently spread that feeling to others around us; as such, we can build more positive feelings in the collective consciousness.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the two-hundred and first entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

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How Do You Feel Positive?

You woke up today.  That is tremendously positive.

You have air in your lungs.  Your heart is beating.  You have thoughts in your head.  These are all filled with positive energy.

Positivity 191You are reading these words on a computer, tablet or phone.  The positivity of that is impressive.

It is very easy to forget that the positive exists in the smallest, most trivial things in our lives.  Just being alive and living every day is immeasurably positive.

I know that it can be easy to lose sight of this.  Reading the news will make almost anyone feel negative.  I know many people who are struggling with money, health, weight, relationships, work, time management, and other matters that make it hard for them to feel good about life.  It often feels as if the negativity outweighs the positivity, and that there is far more bad than good in our world.

I know it may not feel like the truth, but you and I can control this.  We get to choose, every day, if we want to let the negativity overwhelm us, or if we want to find positives in this world.

Feeling Positive IS stronger than feeling negative.

That feels like a lie.  Except, in an abundant universe, it’s the truth.  We are just so used to being inundated with negatives that it can feel like positivity is at a premium, and hard to come by.

This is why recognizing the positive in the small things that make up our everyday lives is so useful.  We are here.  We have choices each and every day.  Sure, there are times we get frustrated, and we are made to feel as though this life is pointless.  Except, I want you to know, it is not.

You are valuable.  You are important, and You matter.  This is the truest thing for you to know and recognize about your life.

We are energy at our core.  The entire universe is made up of energy.  From the smallest nanoscopic particle to galaxies across the cosmos itself, all of it boils down to energy.  Energy can neither be created nor destroyed, it just changes form.  Energy in its most raw form is neutral.  We get to choose if we want to generate the negative or the positive in our lives.

Feel positiveWe get to choose if we want to live in a positive world, or a negative one.  The decision to only recognize things that make us feel bad is really, truly up to each and every one of us.  It takes very little to find positivity…if you make the effort to do so.

We should not ignore that negative things happen.  There are things which we need to actively work to better and things we can do little to nothing about.  Sometimes we are going to feel negative about the world…but it is up to us whether we feel it, or choose to sink into it and let it overwhelm our senses.

I know that I prefer to feel good rather than bad.  I think it’s worth it to seek every possible way to make this so.  How do you want to feel?

Finding positivity is not hard, but it does require action.

Knowing that there is positivity in the littles, most mundane aspects of our lives, we get to choose if we want to acknowledge it or not.  When we seek out positivity in the little things, we can overcome the seemingly vast amounts of negativity the world presents us, and as such we empower ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings in the collective consciousness.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the one hundred ninety-first entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

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How Does Self-Doubt Impact You?

Self-doubt and indecision will complicate Pathwalking.

I strive to be less doubtful about who I am, and to do better with making decisions about my life.  Pathwalking is about choosing for myself, rather than letting random chance just happen.

Yet I still question if I am deserving of this.  I doubt myself, my abilities to do the things I want to do.  This in turn can make me indecisive, and I get stuck in uncertainty.

Self-doubt comes from many places.  Perceived failures, discipline or lack thereof, wrong choices, disproven beliefs, mistakes, miscommunication, and a lack of outside validation.  It is unfortunately easy to blame those outside forces for causing self-doubt, but this is totally an inside job.

If I am doubting myself, then it’s all on me.  The only person inside my head is me.  Nobody else can think for me, unless I give up my free will and let them.

As if that’s not enough of a complication, focusing on the things that I am doubting about myself draws more things.  The self-talk in my head is too negative, and as such not very productive.  I berate myself, see my flaws, get upset with mistakes and missteps and perceived failures too easily.

This complicates Pathwalking, because I get focused on things I don’t want for myself, and then of course that will create more of those.  I get more doubtful, and then get frustrated when I am unproductive, and become distracted because I can’t focus.

Self-doubt is a liar.

This is a hard truth to accept.  Your self-doubt is a lie.  It is that nagging voice in your head telling you that you are unacceptable.  This is the voice saying you are worthless.  It’s the brain weasels running around aimlessly, probably giving you a headache.

When we believe the worst of ourselves, we don’t feel terribly good.  This is where depression is born, and the lying black wolf will make us indecisive about all kinds of things.  You start to question decisions, ideas, plans and goals when you doubt yourself.

Self-doubt may be a wholly internal matter, however its cause can be rooted in outside forces and influences.  When you do not receive validation, whatever form that may take, it can be disheartening.  If you are not recognized for your skills and contributions, you may begin to question your value and worth.

This gets even more complicated when the outside forces are loved ones.  If your own family makes you question your value and worth, it’s hard not to doubt yourself.  When your friends tell you things “for your own good” that might upset you, this too can make you doubtful.  That’s particularly rough when they are questioning your choices, and causing you to question them in turn.

Self-doubt can lead to indecision.

When you doubt yourself, you start to doubt your choices.  You begin to wonder if you are making good choices, or bad choices.  As such, this can lead you to either not make a choice, or to be particularly indecisive.

I have spent a great deal of my life in indecision.  Rather than choose wrong, I either didn’t choose at all, or hmmmed and hawed until I either had no choices remaining, or only one choice available.  I didn’t choose to pursue professional radio after college because I doubted I would be able to build a similar life to that which I had in Podunk, Middle America.  No pursuit of a professional theatre career was every truly initiated by me, because there is huge amounts of uncertainty when it comes to theatre and success.  I didn’t put my focus into turning my writing into a career in my twenties because I listened to those who said that it didn’t pay.

The indecision of my twenties and thirties was fueled by my self-doubt, and unsurprisingly my self-doubt was fueled by my indecision.  Because I spent nearly two decades constantly doubting myself and being indecisive, I did not find financial, career, or relationship successes.  I came to believe that I was a failure, and that I didn’t deserve to succeed because of my mistakes along the way.

I began to believe my own doubts were true.  Maybe I was a failure, maybe I was unworthy of respect.  How could I turn this around and change the dialogue?

Turn self-doubt into self-worth.

I have begun to see now that I am a worthwhile individual.  I contribute to the world around me, helping friends and family and even strangers when I can.  There is worth in what I do, and rather than get hung up on long-term and overarching success, I need to see success in the small things in life.

Often this is still easier said than done.  I am currently striking out on my own to find freelance writing jobs and take my existing work to the next level.  With my desire to be a bestselling author, I am working on finding ways to increase sales of my work, and get myself out there.

Now I have the opportunity to live what I have been writing about for almost six years.  Pathwalking is choosing my own destiny, making choices and deciding to have the life I most want.

Self-doubt is a saboteur.  I know that some days I am going to feel like I am not able to do this, and that I lack the discipline.  I allow those who mean well but say upsetting things to get inside my head; negative news well outside my control impacts my thoughts.  This needs to be acknowledged because it is there, and unavoidable.  But, once I have done that, I need to them proceed to let it go.

I am capable of anything I set my mind to.  I need to be bold, make decisions, and not let my self-doubt interfere with the paths I am walking.

What do you do when faced with self-doubt and indecision?

 

This is the two-hundred ninety-eighth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas for and my personal experiences with walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

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Five Questions for Restoring Positivity

Restoring Positivity can be challenging.

April 2017 March for ScienceHere in the United States, we have recently been inundated by messages of hatred, intolerance, bigotry and worse.  Active hate groups are feeling empowered by certain elements of our government, and have been spewing their venom unabashedly.

Hard to feel positive in the face of this.  And yet, Positivity is the key to overcoming the hate.

Here are five questions which will help us to restore our Positivity when we are feeling powerless, sad, angry, or otherwise negative.

Five questions to restore Positivity

  1. What am I grateful for? Gratitude is probably the single most powerful tool for creating Positivity.  When we feel grateful for things in our lives, we will increase things to be grateful for.
  2. Who do I love/Who loves me? Love is a major part of Positivity for all of us.  Love raises our frequency, and allows us to feel better in the face of things that do not feel good.  While at times it may seem hard to believe, love is more powerful than hate.
  3. What is good in my life? Yes, this is a matter of gratitude, but from a different perspective.  Rather than just being grateful for things we have, we are actively seeking the good in our lives.
  4. What can I do about the bad I see? This is a more loaded question, but seeking answers will often present solutions that will help us to feel positive in the face of negativity.  There are always options available, and sometimes just asking ourselves what they are is the key to changing our feelings.
  5. How am I feeling? While this may seem like a no-brainer, it’s amazing how frequently our emotions simply run wild.  We just go with what input we are receiving, but don’t question how that is actually making us feel.  Negativity comes in many forms, and each can be handled with different things to be fixed.  Altering anger may be different from altering frustration; changing hopelessness could be different from changing sadness, and so on.  Knowing how we actually feel is important.

Restoring Positivity Restores Us

Mount VernonWhen we run low on cope, finding means to restore our Positivity actually restores us.  Positivity allows us to feel better about life, the universe and everything.  There will always be happenings that will make us feel negative, and that’s not a bad thing, per se.  But holding onto negativity only draws in more negativity, so actively seeking Positivity is important to our wellbeing.

Finding positivity is not hard, but it does require action.  Knowing that there are questions we can ask to restore our sense of Positivity, we can take steps to improve how we are feeling.  When we take control of our emotions and work on removing negative feelings, we empower ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings in the collective consciousness.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the one hundred eighty-fifth entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

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What if you can only feel Negativity today?

Everyone has bad days.  Everyone experiences relentless negativity.

No matter how hard we try, no matter the attitude shifters or positive things for our awareness we work to use, there are going to be bad days.

While I created these weekly posts to generate positivity, in order to help myself and anyone reading along, I acknowledge that there are days it simply does not work.  No matter what we employ, no matter what we try, this day is terrible.

There is nothing wrong with having days where nothing works.  There is nothing wrong with having days where everything seems to go wrong.  You are going to be hurt, get angry, and feel depressed.  You may experience a desire to either curl up in a pillow fort in the living room, scream at someone, smash something, cry to exhaustion, or all of the above in due course.

Seeking out positivity is not about denying negativity.  That would simply be impossible.  These are opposite sides of the same coin.  Ergo, you really could not have the one without the other.  You will experience and spread negativity sometimes, because that’s human nature.

However, once this no-good-terrible-awful-lousy-bad day comes to an end, you get to choose whether you will let it linger, or let it go.  Will you carry that negativity into the next day, or release it and strive to find better?

This is the part that we CAN choose.  Yes, we will have bad days and feel negative emotions, and that is perfectly ok.  But we also get to choose to carry that forward, or work on letting it pass and starting with a clean slate.

Practice makes perfect, but it’s practice for a reason.

I also acknowledge that this is not always possible.  If you despise your job, it is very hard to face it day-in and day-out.  Certain people cannot be avoided or neglected forever.  Nobody can predict flat tires, hailstorms, getting fired from a job or dumped from a relationship.

Even still, when we encounter this, we do get to choose how long we want to feel it.  Sometimes it doesn’t feel that way, and sometimes we really do need to soak in the negativity in order to understand it, before we let go of it.  But we have more control over our emotional state than we realize.  How long we let negativity dominate our days is entirely up to us.

Get angry.  Feel hurt.  Express your frustration and depression.  It’s unhealthy to neglect these feelings.  Just remember it’s equally unhealthy to hold onto them for long, so don’t cling to them.

Finding positivity is not hard, but it does require action.

Knowing that there are going to be days where nothing makes us feel better, we can let them happen and cope.  When we accept that negativity happens, we can better understand positivity; when we strive to create more positivity we empower ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings in the collective consciousness.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the one hundred eighty-third entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

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Why Does the World Need More Positivity?

The world needs more positivity.

Why?  Because when we feel positive, we feel good.  When we feel good, we enhance the ability to draw more good to ourselves.  As such, we empower ourselves.  When we are empowered, we are capable of almost anything.

Unfortunately, we are living in a fear-based society.  We are inundated with negativity, we are told that there is lack and scarcity, and that we should fear the unknown, the untested, and the unfamiliar.  We sensationalize things to fear, and we continue as such to draw more to us.

The downside of instantaneous global communications is that we are hyper-aware of every single thing that happens.  Trouble is, what we are kept the most informed about is bad news.  Natural disasters, terrorist attacks, war and various atrocities dominate the news media.  As if that weren’t enough, to score higher ratings they strive to sensationalize these negative things, which just gives them more power.

And just to add insult to injury, the rise of fake news and opinion and blind faith in place of science and research makes it worse.  Fear mongers, religious leaders and conspiracy theorists have become all-too-readily accepted.  The negativity they are spewing fuels society’s fires.

We can overcome them, however.  But to do this, we can’t fight fire with fire.  We need to fight fire with water, dark with light.  We need to find and express more positivity.  We need to turn away from the negativity, and stop empowering it.  We need to overcome the fear with every positive tool we can muster.

The key is Positivity.

If we can focus more on finding the good in the world, we can use it to supplant the bad.  Like attracts like, that’s the Law of Attraction.  When we focus on positivity, we can attract more of it to us.  We can empower ourselves, and when we feel empowered we are capable of helping to empower others.

Even if you think the notion of the Law of Attraction is bunk, what harm is there in creating more positivity?  Does anyone really enjoy living in fear?  Does anyone really want to be lacking?  Does anyone want to feel bad, hurt, sad, or otherwise negative?  If we strive more to feel positive and good, we can disrupt the fear.

I am not suggesting ignoring the world around us.  But instead of feeding the hate, the fear, the lack…we need to find the love, the peace, the abundance.  We are better than this.  We each are empowered to discover that.  That is where positivity comes in, and that is why the world needs more of it.

Finding positivity is not hard, but it does require action.

Knowing that we live in a fear-based society, we can choose if we want to feed the fear, or overcome it.  When we create more positivity in the world, we can break from the negativity, we can disempower the fear and in turn empower ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings in the collective consciousness.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the one hundred seventy-eighth entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

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Pathwalking 132

I have often written about how important emotion is to Pathwalking.

You cannot simply choose to think through what you want to manifest in your life, you have to feel it. If you cannot put the feeling behind the thought, and then add corresponding action, you will more-or-less turn about in a circle.

It is an absolute necessity that you not only think and take action to choose your path, but you also feel your way along it. If you do not put the feeling energy behind your thought and action, your path will be particularly difficult.

I know that I am making the same point multiple times, but there is a very personal reason why that is the case. I am currently dealing with a single, overwhelming emotion: anger. Multiple situations in my personal life have come up recently that are leading to my emotional state being dominated by anger.

I have stated previously that you cannot only have positive, good emotions. Negative, bad emotions are necessary because there has to be a balance. Life is too complex and too multifaceted to not have both extremes, and the majority of our time is spent somewhere between them.

I have also reiterated more than once that we are in control of our emotions. That does not mean that we are machines capable of making a change to our emotional state at the flip of a switch. What it does mean is that we can choose whether to hold onto an emotion, or to let it go.

Some emotions are more powerful than others. Or rather, they FEEL more powerful. Anger is a very powerful emotion. Authors frequently use anger in fantasy to channel energy, sometimes for good but more often than not for bad (I’m thinking Harry Dresden versus Darth Vader, here). Anger can be particularly overwhelming, in especial when it is directed outside of ourselves. It can easily dominate our senses, and from anger a lot more negativity can be built.

For me, the one emotion I have had the easiest time tapping into has been anger. I have spent years learning how to cope with and let anger pass through, and not overwhelm me when I feel it. I have put a great deal of effort into taking control of this powerful emotion, and finding outlets to vent so that I do not yell and scream, throw things, or punch walls (all things I was notorious for in my youth). I have found more productive, less destructive means to pass my anger.

There are multiple situations happening in my life right now that are making me angry. For the first time in many years, I am finding that anger is dominating my actions, my thoughts, and my emotions. What’s more, I am angry over situations that I have little to no control over.

It builds up, too. It starts from multiple small incidents, then gradually builds to bigger issues, and greater problems, and then whole life situations involving other people. It is partially a matter of outside influence and control, but also a matter of misunderstanding between us. What’s more, I am not seeing how I can resolve these matters before they might get even uglier.

It is important to acknowledge that I am angry. If I don’t, and I let it build up without release, I will return to my old, bad habits and start destroying things (walls, inanimate objects, my voice, etc). That, in turn, will add being angry at myself for losing control…and you can see how this can snowball into a large, difficult to escape downward spiral. I would very much like to avoid that happening.

So, what do I do now? Just putting this out here has been cathartic. I find that the more I put these thoughts into written form, the less my hands are shaking and the more calm I am feeling. One major problem with anger dominating one’s emotional state is that rationale is difficult to claim. That is why you have to acknowledge and find healthy ways to vent anger – in order to seek rational, reasoned decision, rather than acting in the heat of the moment and possibly taking regrettable actions.

I am walking a path that I have chosen. It is flawed, it has a large number of bumps and twists and turns and unexpected detours, but it is my path. I do not have to stay this path, I can choose another. I have to remember that. This is my journey, my experience, and I can make of it what I choose.

I acknowledge that I have run into obstacles along my path that are angering me. I am faced with a choice about how to deal with these. I can let them fester and bubble and boil over…or I can find release for them, and start thinking about how to move forward in the most constructive manner. The former is easier than the latter, but I am still at the point where I remember what happens when I let the former win this debate, and how much worse that makes me feel. I believe that I can choose the latter, and take positive, useful steps forward from here.

There are times when a single emotion will dominate our paths. Sometimes that is a positive emotion, sometimes it is a negative one. It is important, to continue along your path, or even to choose a new path, to recognize the need to restore balance, and to keep moving forward.

Easier said than done. You are reading my words here, and seeing a portion of the action I am taking to regain my perspective. Like you, I am glad that while this path may be for me and me alone, I am never truly alone upon it.  Thank you.

How do you deal with an overwhelming emotion?

 

This is the one-hundred thirty second entry in my series. These weekly posts are specifically about walking along the path of life, and my desire to make a difference in this world along the way. Feel free to re-blog and share.  Thank you for joining me.

The first fifty-two weeks (Year One) of installments of Pathwalking is available in print and for your Kindle.

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