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How Does a Pathwalker Be a Giver?

Givers get as much as they give.

A lot of people do not recognize this for how powerful it is.  But the power of giving, when it comes from a place of abundance, actually creates more to be given.

Pathwalking is about finding the path for ourselves.  Taking control over our own individual destiny, making use of conscious reality creation to manifest the life we desire to live.

One of the key reasons behind Pathwalking, at least for me, is to make the best use of the skills I have.  I want to use my talents not only as a writer, but as an empathic intuitive to do some really cool things.

As such, there is a lot of giving involved in this.  I don’t just want to do the things I want to do for myself.  I want to share them.  To be a giver, I want to put myself out there to do what I can to make the world a better place.

We are living in particularly trying times.  There is a constant, seemingly never-ending flood of negativity, lack, and artificial competition washing over us through social media.  Resisting and countering this can be trying at best, and sometimes utterly exhausting.

Paulo Coelho wrote a book called Warrior of the Light.  I cannot recommend this book enough (alongside The Alchemist, which is one of my very favorite books).  The notion of a Warrior of the Light is very similar to Pathwalking.  It is full of anecdotes for how to achieve our individual destinies, and do good in the world.

I have often written about how Pathwalking is not a selfish act.  To properly define this, it is necessary to understand the fundamental difference between a giver and a taker.

What’s the difference between a giver and a taker?

I mentioned this briefly in this week’s Positivity post, but it totally bears repeating.  A giver will give their time, their energy, their assistance from a place of openness, abundance and a desire to make a difference.  This is sometimes great, and sometimes small.

A taker, on the other hand, takes the time, energy and assistance from others and hoards it.  They express no gratitude, and expect you to give them more and more, with little or no thought about anyone but themselves.  They also generally believe in lack, and that there is not enough to share with anyone else.  If they do give, they do so expecting something in return.

To be a giver requires a lot less than most people think.  Smile at a stranger.  Hold a door.  Let that guy into your lane on the road.  Seemingly insignificant bits, perhaps, but they add up, and they build positivity.  They also feel good to do.

Some takers are unintentional.  Upbringing, poor examples, various and sundry other issues.  Most, because they believe there is finite amounts of most things, take and hoard because they believe that if they don’t, there won’t be enough.  Takers are usually selfish.

This is why Pathwalking is not a selfish act.  Most of the people seeking to walk their own path in life and consciously create their own reality, are givers.  Why?  Because working in the here-and-now, as Pathwalking frequently requires, makes us more aware.  When we are aware, we see our impact on other people.  To manifest abundance, we need to think, feel and act on abundance.  This, frankly, makes us a giver.

Further, by giving, we tell the Universe that we believe there is more-than-enough.  A giver expresses their belief that because of the abundance in the Universe, you can share.

Being a giver is both tangible and intangible.

There are many tangible things we can give people.  Hugs, money, and numerous other items.  Most giving, frankly, is intangible.  Smiles, ideas, a shoulder to cry on, and so forth.

A lot of people see selflessness as this enormous, grandiose gesture.  The thing is, it can be.  But for the most part, it’s little things.  Being selfless means being a giver, and that takes much less than people realize.

My friend needs help researching something.  I provide a contact to someone with the knowledge to help.  A loved one needs to vent about a situation.  I call, and we talk.  You, like me, are trying to manifest your destiny.  I share my struggles and my path to help you work on yours. In all of these scenarios, I am not asking for anything in return.  There are no conditions associated with what I do.  This is what being a giver is all about.

This is one of the biggest and most important differences between a giver and a taker, the selfless and the selfish.  A giver seeks nothing in return.  A taker expects something for anything they give.  The selfless person gives because it feels good to give.  The selfish person might give, but they do so to prop themselves up somehow, and do so to gain something in return.

It is important, however, to recognize the difference between giving and sacrificing.  Giving is from a place of abundance, and is about sharing plenty.  Sacrificing is from a place of lack, and is about going without in order to let another have something.  Sacrificing is nearly as unhealthy at being a taker.  Sure, you give, but you then go without because you think there isn’t enough.  Going without to give is not healthy giving.

A giver recognizes an abundant universe.

I give because I believe that there is plenty where that comes from.  Whatever it is, tangible or intangible, giving makes me feel good.  It is a lot easier to find and walk any given path when I can share my work on it.  That is a big part of what giving is all about.

Givers get as much, maybe even more, as they give.

What do you do to be a giver?

 

This is the three-hundred-twelfth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas for, and my personal experiences with, walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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Why Might You Set Aside Your Path?

Once in a very great while, your path will need to be set aside for that of another.

I know that I am constantly writing about how, to consciously create reality, we have to choose for ourselves.  This is always true.  But every now and then our own path is not as important as the path of another.

How does that work?  We all have people in our lives who are important to us.  They are loved ones, close friends, people we care about who we will take actions to help when needed.  Because we are human beings, and we are social animals, this means that occasionally we may find our own path shunted off to a side for theirs.

This is the kind of thing that will happen in very specific circumstances.  We need to care for someone who is ill.  There is a move happening, and either we are going along or assisting with completing that.  Something has happened to our loved one that requires our support, and that cannot be ignored or neglected.

This is why Pathwalking is not a selfish act.  Because while each and every one of us has our own paths to choose, we seldom are completely alone in this life. There will be times that our own paths take a back seat to reality.

The important thing to know about this is that the path is not being abandoned.  Rather, we are placing it further back in our agenda of activities we partake of day to day.  Instead of the paths we walk being the primary activity in our life, they are relegated to secondary or even tertiary, depending on the situation.

No path is greater than any other.

My path is not yours.  Nobody can choose the path of another, unless you cede the choice away.  Most importantly of all, nobody’s path is greater than anyone else’s.  What this comes down to is that every path anybody can walk is equally important to any other.

I am walking a path towards becoming a more influential and financially prosperous writer.  That’s probably not yours.  Maybe your path is to create a household of love and joy.  Perhaps it is to be the best at the job you do.  Yours could be to travel to a specific exotic locale.  It’s entirely possible your path is to complete your daily to-do list.

No matter how seemingly grand or miniscule the path is, it’s not more or less important than any other.  Paths differ because people differ.  I am not you, you are not me, and so on.  Because that’s the case, this is where I at least see proof that we live in an abundant universe.

There are more than seven billion people on this planet alone.  There may be similarities amongst our desires, but how they feel to us, what it takes to achieve them, and the why likely differs dramatically.

It’s for this reason that, while we certainly cannot alter anyone else’s path unless they let us, we can still influence them.  When someone sees you do good, or succeed at a similar goal to their own, they can be encouraged or discouraged by that.  You may not even intend to have an influence, but since nobody can feel emotions like anyone else, this is outside of all control.

This is why we sometimes set our own path aside to help someone else on theirs.

There are a couple of important things to keep in mind if this occurs.

There needs to be no bitterness, hostility, anger, upset, or negativity about setting your own path aside.  If you make this choice but feel badly about it, then chances are you will resent the person whom you are setting yours aside for.

Perfect example.  This particular Pathwalk has appeared later in the day than I normally post.  Why?  Because it was more important that I help someone I love with a path they must walk.  I am in no way upset about this, it was more important to be there for my loved one than to do what I felt that I needed to do.  I set aside mine for a bit, but now I am returning to it.

This is the other major thing about this process.  While it is a good thing to be there for those we love and to set our own paths aside for a time to do that, it is important that we do not forget those we desire.  I am not advocating allowing loved ones to suffer or be in distress, but it’s important that you not neglect your own path.

This is why it’s key to set aside your path out of love, and with the intent to return to it.  It should not be for long, unless it happens that you need to change it anyhow.

No one is on a path completely alone.

Because we have people in our lives that matter to us, we’re never truly walking a given path alone.  From time to time we will walk along the path of another without having to set our own aside.  But there are also times where ours takes a backseat.  This is part of regular human interaction, and how we help our loved ones with the paths they are walking.

Have you had to set your path aside from a loved one?

 

This is the three-hundred-fifth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas for, and my personal experiences with, walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

Please take a moment to subscribe to this blog!  Even if you have done so before, there is new material, and a gift with your subscription.

 

Positivity: Help

There is great power in both helping, and allowing yourself to be helped.

Some people see needing assistance as a weakness. They see needing other people to do whatever it is they are trying to do as a sign of failure. But the truth is, we need people. What’s more, there are going to be times when we need help from people. Further, there are times when giving aid is equally important.

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I don’t know anybody who can do everything. I know a lot of people with a lot of different skills and a variety of talents. But nobody I know can do everything. As such, situations will arise in our lives where we cannot find answers or solutions to problems without help.

Some people find accepting help a difficult idea. For some psychological reason beyond my own understanding, we find it easier to give help than to ask for help. Somehow, the notion of giving aid to another is one of strength, while accepting aid is one of weakness. But either way, giving or receiving, there is great positivity in helping.

How is help a positivity generator? Because when you give someone assistance, you feel grateful for being able to make their life better, or help them solve a problem. On the other side, when you have an issue and someone helps you resolve it, you feel grateful for their assistance. Gratitude is one of the most positive forces in the universe, and a massive building block for positivity.

Helping someone else seems easier because it shows your own abilities, skills, and knowledge base. You have the answer to that problem, the connection another person needs, the ride to the airport, or even the shoulder to cry on. It is harder for some people to accept that someone else can provide the answer you seek, someone else can help you network, you might need someone’ shoulder to cry on. We are only human, and help, given or received, is a positive thing.

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Which brings me to the one caveat in this. It is important to know the difference between receiving help and taking help. Receiving is help that is accepted at face value, no expectation of reciprocation, no price. You receive that help with gratitude. Taking help is help that comes with a price, tit for tat, and the person helped is ungrateful for the aid. This notion is a further contributor to why some are less comfortable with being helped. But if you give gratitude for help received, you are not a taker.

Finding positivity is not hard, it just requires action. Knowing that both giving help and receiving help are generators of positivity, you can open yourself up to more helpfulness on either side. Allowing yourself to provide aid and to receive aid will build up positive energies, and help to dissolve negative feelings. When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for. Gratitude leads to happiness. Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude. Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the forty first entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

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