The Ramblings of the Titanium Don

Explorations of Conscious Reality Creation and Other Matters

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Why Might You Set Aside Your Path?

Once in a very great while, your path will need to be set aside for that of another.

I know that I am constantly writing about how, to consciously create reality, we have to choose for ourselves.  This is always true.  But every now and then our own path is not as important as the path of another.

How does that work?  We all have people in our lives who are important to us.  They are loved ones, close friends, people we care about who we will take actions to help when needed.  Because we are human beings, and we are social animals, this means that occasionally we may find our own path shunted off to a side for theirs.

This is the kind of thing that will happen in very specific circumstances.  We need to care for someone who is ill.  There is a move happening, and either we are going along or assisting with completing that.  Something has happened to our loved one that requires our support, and that cannot be ignored or neglected.

This is why Pathwalking is not a selfish act.  Because while each and every one of us has our own paths to choose, we seldom are completely alone in this life. There will be times that our own paths take a back seat to reality.

The important thing to know about this is that the path is not being abandoned.  Rather, we are placing it further back in our agenda of activities we partake of day to day.  Instead of the paths we walk being the primary activity in our life, they are relegated to secondary or even tertiary, depending on the situation.

No path is greater than any other.

My path is not yours.  Nobody can choose the path of another, unless you cede the choice away.  Most importantly of all, nobody’s path is greater than anyone else’s.  What this comes down to is that every path anybody can walk is equally important to any other.

I am walking a path towards becoming a more influential and financially prosperous writer.  That’s probably not yours.  Maybe your path is to create a household of love and joy.  Perhaps it is to be the best at the job you do.  Yours could be to travel to a specific exotic locale.  It’s entirely possible your path is to complete your daily to-do list.

No matter how seemingly grand or miniscule the path is, it’s not more or less important than any other.  Paths differ because people differ.  I am not you, you are not me, and so on.  Because that’s the case, this is where I at least see proof that we live in an abundant universe.

There are more than seven billion people on this planet alone.  There may be similarities amongst our desires, but how they feel to us, what it takes to achieve them, and the why likely differs dramatically.

It’s for this reason that, while we certainly cannot alter anyone else’s path unless they let us, we can still influence them.  When someone sees you do good, or succeed at a similar goal to their own, they can be encouraged or discouraged by that.  You may not even intend to have an influence, but since nobody can feel emotions like anyone else, this is outside of all control.

This is why we sometimes set our own path aside to help someone else on theirs.

There are a couple of important things to keep in mind if this occurs.

There needs to be no bitterness, hostility, anger, upset, or negativity about setting your own path aside.  If you make this choice but feel badly about it, then chances are you will resent the person whom you are setting yours aside for.

Perfect example.  This particular Pathwalk has appeared later in the day than I normally post.  Why?  Because it was more important that I help someone I love with a path they must walk.  I am in no way upset about this, it was more important to be there for my loved one than to do what I felt that I needed to do.  I set aside mine for a bit, but now I am returning to it.

This is the other major thing about this process.  While it is a good thing to be there for those we love and to set our own paths aside for a time to do that, it is important that we do not forget those we desire.  I am not advocating allowing loved ones to suffer or be in distress, but it’s important that you not neglect your own path.

This is why it’s key to set aside your path out of love, and with the intent to return to it.  It should not be for long, unless it happens that you need to change it anyhow.

No one is on a path completely alone.

Because we have people in our lives that matter to us, we’re never truly walking a given path alone.  From time to time we will walk along the path of another without having to set our own aside.  But there are also times where ours takes a backseat.  This is part of regular human interaction, and how we help our loved ones with the paths they are walking.

Have you had to set your path aside from a loved one?

 

This is the three-hundred-fifth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas for, and my personal experiences with, walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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Positivity: Help

There is great power in both helping, and allowing yourself to be helped.

Some people see needing assistance as a weakness. They see needing other people to do whatever it is they are trying to do as a sign of failure. But the truth is, we need people. What’s more, there are going to be times when we need help from people. Further, there are times when giving aid is equally important.

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I don’t know anybody who can do everything. I know a lot of people with a lot of different skills and a variety of talents. But nobody I know can do everything. As such, situations will arise in our lives where we cannot find answers or solutions to problems without help.

Some people find accepting help a difficult idea. For some psychological reason beyond my own understanding, we find it easier to give help than to ask for help. Somehow, the notion of giving aid to another is one of strength, while accepting aid is one of weakness. But either way, giving or receiving, there is great positivity in helping.

How is help a positivity generator? Because when you give someone assistance, you feel grateful for being able to make their life better, or help them solve a problem. On the other side, when you have an issue and someone helps you resolve it, you feel grateful for their assistance. Gratitude is one of the most positive forces in the universe, and a massive building block for positivity.

Helping someone else seems easier because it shows your own abilities, skills, and knowledge base. You have the answer to that problem, the connection another person needs, the ride to the airport, or even the shoulder to cry on. It is harder for some people to accept that someone else can provide the answer you seek, someone else can help you network, you might need someone’ shoulder to cry on. We are only human, and help, given or received, is a positive thing.

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Which brings me to the one caveat in this. It is important to know the difference between receiving help and taking help. Receiving is help that is accepted at face value, no expectation of reciprocation, no price. You receive that help with gratitude. Taking help is help that comes with a price, tit for tat, and the person helped is ungrateful for the aid. This notion is a further contributor to why some are less comfortable with being helped. But if you give gratitude for help received, you are not a taker.

Finding positivity is not hard, it just requires action. Knowing that both giving help and receiving help are generators of positivity, you can open yourself up to more helpfulness on either side. Allowing yourself to provide aid and to receive aid will build up positive energies, and help to dissolve negative feelings. When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for. Gratitude leads to happiness. Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude. Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the forty first entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

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