Everybody wants to have fun.
What I consider fun you might not, and what you consider fun I might not. But so long as my fun does not interfere with your fun, and vice versa, what’s wrong with anything we are doing in the name of fun?
Yes, of course there are exceptions to this. If you find fun in doing things that hurt other people, or humiliate them, or otherwise hinders their life, that’s not cool. Fun at the expense of another is not the kind of fun that’s alright for all.
Fun is an expression of joy. When you are having fun you are feeling joyful, and joy is the ultimate expression of happiness. When all is said and done, I think everyone simply wants to be happy. Not the giddy, lost-for-words ecstatic happily-ever-after happy, I mean happy in that sense of feeling whole, and complete. Happy as opposed to feeling down or, for that matter, unhappy.
What I consider fun is not fun to other people. Writing for me is fun, and I know lots of people for whom writing is, in fact, painful in some way. I love trivia games, I know people who cannot stand playing trivia games. I know people who will happily spend the weekend watching sports on TV, which is not my idea of a good time. I know people who consider an afternoon on the golf course time well spent, but this doesn’t do anything for me.
What do you find fun? I don’t think we ask that of ourselves frequently enough. We get so caught up in the things we have to do, the responsibilities, the obligations and the necessities, we neglect fun. And fun is something we need.
As children we played. That took all kinds of forms, some social and some less so. We ran around kicking a ball, we played tag, hide-and-go-seek, or we explored the backyard alone creating adventures with our actions figures, or having adventures with invisible friends playing spy. We played, because we were having fun, and as kids that was the end-all-be-all of our existence.
As adults we frequently neglect that we still need to play. It may take on different forms, but not necessarily. Sure, I find a long drive on a windy country road in a sporty car a joyful idea, A movie night with my friends is always fun; but I also still want to climb up that tree and hike around that rocky path, imagining I’m an adventurer, or being a medieval persona and playing with swords.
So long as what someone else considers fun does not involve ruining mine or other people’s fun in a malicious way, I say game on! Life is too short to get easily offended, and we need to stop letting petty nuisances turn into real problems, and stop letting ourselves care so much about others and their thoughts and actions, and care more about what makes us happy.
Are you having fun? If not, why not?
Finding positivity is not hard, it just requires action. Knowing that we all want to have fun, but what we consider fun is going to differ, we can accept that all fun is not the same to everyone. When we remember that other people have the need to have fun, and that they seek exactly what we seek in that, we actually empower ourselves. When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings. We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings. When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for. Gratitude leads to happiness. Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude. Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.
This is the one hundred twenty ninth entry of my Positivity series. It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone. Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.
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