The Ramblings of the Titanium Don

Explorations of Conscious Reality Creation and Other Matters

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How Do We Work Together?

We are stronger when we work together than when we work apart.

Pathwalking may be an individual act, but that does not mean it happens in a vacuum.  Humans are social creatures.  We have people whom we interact with every day on every imaginable level.  Working with each other instead of against one another can take us even further than we might hope.

Work TogetherModern society has an unfortunate tendency to work from a divide-and-conquer approach.  We are inundated with messages of lack, insufficiency, and competition.  We are divided along every imaginable line, from race to gender to height to religion to nationality to education, and any other trait you can conceive of.

Because of the pervasive messages of greed and hoarding, we find it increasingly hard to believe that this is an abundant universe.  When we are told over and over again about how we need to take for ourselves before this, that or the other thing runs out, we become divided further.

I have written before that Pathwalking is not a selfish act, but every path we may be taking is unique to us as individuals.  My paths are not your paths.  Certainly there might be similarities, but they are still not the same.

Most importantly here, though, is recognizing that as we walk our individual paths, and work towards our specific goals, we aren’t denying anyone else theirs.  Me acquiring the things I want from life doesn’t prevent you from doing the same.  That is what living in an abundant universe is all about.

Because we are stronger when we work together, we have the ability to offer each other assistance, support, and love along the paths we traverse.  This empowers all of us, and that is good for everyone.

Work together as individuals.

Celebrating our diversity is a good thing.  We are, each and every one of us, unique creatures.  We look different, we think, feel and act differently from one another.  Yet we are also social creatures, and we are abundant across this planet.

Our diversity is not something that should tear us apart, it should help us to work together.  Celebrating what makes us each unique is an opportunity to learn from one another, and to grow not only as individuals, but as a society.  Celebrating our diversity will let us work together more, and develop abundance.

We will always find things to disagree about.  Again, this is part of human nature.  Empathic people think, feel and act differently from non-empaths.  There are people who work from the heart, and people who work from the head.  People can be emotional, logical, illogical, and everything in between.  The number of things available to separate us are stunning, but are not greater than the number of things that bring us together.

How is that possible?  Because this is an abundant universe.  There is more than enough of all the things we desire.  Lack, greed and insufficiency sells better than abundance and prosperity for all.  I believe this is why we are so frequently bombarded by such.

I wrote about community recently, and how important it is to our wellbeing.  One the biggest and most important communities in my life has experienced matters that made us work together, and soon after new matters that tore us apart.  The former was empowering, despite the sadness and grief that brought everyone together.  The latter stoked anger, division, and intolerance, disempowering us.  Two extremes in far too short a span of time.

It is during these types of situations that we are sorely tested.

Work together as communities.

Why did we form a given community in the first place?  Yes, there are communities we are born into and others we move into.  But there are also communities we choose for ourselves.  Whether it’s a religion, a fandom or social community, those which we choose are chosen because they provide us with something we need or want.  That can encompass a lot of different things, of course.

No matter how much we hold in common, we will have disagreements.  People do stupid things.  Everybody, and I mean everybody, is perfectly imperfect in their own way.  There are times when it is necessary to counter things that happen, and demand action.  So long as there is inaction, protest and positive resistance are called for.

This can take time.  This can divide our communities in unexpected ways.  As such, it’s imperative to be mindful of our words, our thoughts, and our actions.  When we work together we can build better.  When we break apart, everything can, and probably will, crumble.

I am not in any way advocating for accepting something you disagree with.  What I am suggesting is that we need to be more mindful of dividing and tearing ourselves apart.  When we allow ourselves to be broken, we make it ever more difficult to empower, and to build greater things.

Is there a way to work together for change rather than be torn apart?  This is something all-too important that we do not give sufficient energy to.  Consciousness creates reality.  When we are aware, we can manifest almost anything we can imagine.

Be mindful.  Remain aware.  Work together when you can with as many as you can, and we can change the negative messages and make this world a better place for everyone.

Work together to raise frequencies.

The collective consciousness can draw in people who are not conscious creators.  That’s how we manifest things we don’t want, because our focus and attention is to negativity.  When we work together, we can build anything we can imagine.  Did Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. change the message of racial hatred and intolerance with division?  No, he did it by bringing people together.  Buddha and Jesus advocated inclusion and love for one another.  These greats recognized that when we work together, we can make the world a better place.

Choose wisely when you are faced with difficulties, no matter what they are.  Don’t let yourself be divided and conquered by life.

Who do you choose to work together with for the paths you are walking?

This is the three-hundred-eighteenth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas for, and my personal experiences with, walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

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Why Do Words Matter?

Words matter.

What that means is that what you write or say can have an impact, positive or negative.  Do you build or destroy with your words?  Inspire or terrorize?  Spew love or hate?  Give or take?

Words matterPeople often forget just how important the words we use are.  Sometimes we fear the power of certain words and phrases, but neglect that there are always options.

There are more than 200,000 words in the English dictionary, when you include the obsolete words some people won’t let die.  New words and slang words and words in other languages and such also exist, so the choices are nearly endless.  There are words for pretty much everything, at least on the surface.

I know that there are feelings that are difficult to put words to.  There are plenty of words that have multiple meanings as well, so that just adds another layer of complexity.  That is why words are so very important.

The thing is, we sometimes pay little heed to the words we are using.  We often throw away a word here or there, and while we may attach nothing to it, because of the complexities of language we shift an intent or emotion or even a whole situation to something other than what we thought.  That is why words matter, and we should choose with more care than we frequently use.

Why?  Because when there is a big, overwhelming negative situation, adding on to it with our own negativity makes it grow.  Something vast and overwhelming only gets more vast and overwhelming the more we give it focus, attention, and support.

Choose your words wisely.

Sometimes people choose the words that they do because they want to obscure, misdirect, and even soften the impact of a given situation.  The words expressed still matter, and when people choose what they say or write, with forethought, they are making a statement.  Replacing one word for another to soften impact by choice matters.

WordsIn the face of a recent, negative, ugly situation, I am seeing words used to build positivity.  People are choosing to show their support and offer love, tolerance, and inclusion with their words.  Choices are being made to express good, and to stand together in the face of something unpleasant.

As a writer, I choose my words with care.  I recognize the power in the words I use, and because words matter as much as they do, I strive to use them in the best possible ways.

Words matter.  Consider the power of what you put out there and what words you use to express your thoughts, feelings and actions.

Finding positivity is not hard, but it does require action.

Knowing that words matter as they do, we can choose more consciously what words we use to express ourselves.  When we employ our words more thoughtfully, we gain control over how we want to think, feel and act, and of course as such we empower ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the two-hundred and eighth entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

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Are You Kind?

Be kind to yourself.  Give kindness to others.

I am sitting here this morning, trying to come up with words for this post, and I have been doing my usual routine.  I go to Facebook, I play a couple games, and I read through a bunch of posts.

KindThere are a lot of discouraging things going on out there.  So much anger, so much fear, such unbelievable negativity.  Is this really the world we want to live in?

I don’t know about you, but I am not a fan of this.  Of course it’s important to stay informed, but the volume of bad news is just thoroughly distressing.  It overwhelms, and I can’t help but wonder what good, if any, I can do here?

I can be better to myself.  I can treat myself like I want to be treated by others, and then I can extend that out to the people around me.

Positivity this week covered taking one step at a time, while Pathwalking covered the power of tenacity.  I have been having a hard time coming up with a topic for Crossing the Bridges, because I have a lot in my head, and am having a difficult time centering.

Anger and anxiety have been clouding my mind this morning. I am feeling somewhat helpless in the face of all the negativity I have been reading.

It is, of course, ok to feel angry, to feel bad, to get annoyed by these things.  The problem is holding onto them too tightly.  If I allow my feelings to stay here and fester, I will lower my frequency, and I will have an ever-increasingly difficult time getting where I want to go.

Pause.  Breathe.  Refocus.  Most of all…be kind.  I need to be kind to myself.

Being kind is a key to conscious reality creation.

I know that like many people, I am often the least kind to myself.  There is a lot of self-doubt, criticism, uncertainty that crops up in my life.  When I am focused on these things, they cause me to not think so well of myself.  This is not a terribly useful approach to life.

So I need to be more kind to myself.  It’s all well-and-good to be kind to others, but if I do not show myself kindness, then I actually have less to share, too.  Like pretty much everything in the universe, it all starts with the individual.

Consciousness creates reality.  If I am focused on negative things, on unkind things, what do you think I am drawing into my life?  No surprise here – more things I would prefer not to draw to myself.  Thus it’s really important that I remember to treat myself kindly, and to be gentle towards my heart and mind.

When I am more kind to me, I build more ability to be kinder to others.  Positivity begets positivity.  The best way to empower anyone else is to empower myself.

This past month has been rough.  Sure, I can dwell on this…or I can acknowledge it, and strive to make every day a good day.  One step at a time, one day at a time.  Frequently that really is the best approach.

Sometimes the toughest things to do are the simplest.  Self-love and kindness towards self should be really easy.  Yet often, they are the most challenging act to take part of.  It is important to remember that being kind to others is great, but being kind to myself is also extremely important.

Remember that kind acts beget kindness.

As always, thank you for crossing the bridges between my worlds with me.

 

This is the seventieth entry of my personal journey, the Crossing the Bridges series.  My collectively published writing can be found here.

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What Is Tenacity?

Tenacity, like patience, has never been my strongest suit.

One of the keys to succeeding at reaching the destination of any given path, though, is tenacious resolve.

What does it mean to have tenacity?  It is best described as the ability to stick-to whatever you are trying to make happen.  I often picture this as a dog with her jaws fastened to a stick she just will not relinquish.  She would rather hold onto it then let it go, even to be thrown.  That is tenacious resolve.

TenacityIn the steps of conscious reality creation (thought, feeling and action), tenacity is particularly important to feeling.  This is where unwavering resolve in feeling the desired goal, as though it is already complete, is so incredibly important.

Most of the great inventors who have changed the world had a singular vision.  They saw the thing they wanted to create.  Maybe they knew how it could come about, but likely they didn’t.  Still, they believed.  They felt it in their soul as being real.  Nothing would derail them from their feeling that they could make their invention happen.  That’s what it is all about.

Manifestation of anything we desire begins with thought.  I have this idea.  Then, we have to give that thought feeling.  It feels amazing to see this idea become reality.  Having the idea in my possession improves my lifeThis idea makes me happy.  Yes, the initial feeling is going to likely look ahead.  But visceral feelings in the here-and-now are how we consciously create reality and make the idea manifest.

From the thought and feeling there will be intentional action.  I am making a list of all the cool things the idea, manifested, will let into my life or I am inspired to take this action for the idea.

Tenacity is the difference between “Try” and “Do”.

How often do I refer to this quote from Yoda?  “Try not…do, or do not…there is no try!”  The reason Yoda tells Like this is because he needs to fully believe in no other outcome but what he is aiming for.  To mentally prepare to try can leave room for doubt.  Try is soft, and opens us up to letting go.  Well, I tried becomes an excuse to quit.

Doing is much more solid.  I did it is a bold, solid statement.  Even if it takes multiple attempts, I did it a dozen times before I got it done is still completion.

Even if, at the conclusion, you didn’t get the end result you intended, you did the thing.  Failure still teaches.  Yoda states this rather plainly, too.  “The greatest teacher, failure is.”  Often we learn more from failing than we do from succeeding.

How does that work?  When I started working after college, over my career I have worked for a lot of different companies.  In multiple instances, I watched them make mistakes and do things poorly, so I was unsurprised when they failed.  It is my belief that I learned more about how to run a business and manage people by seeing how NOT to run a business and mange people.  Those failures were excellent teachers.

Still, for a long time I continued to bounce from job to job.  Often something about a given job just wasn’t the right fit for me.  I recognized that I should probably be my own boss.

Over the years I played with numerous business ideas.  I even started a small business for a multitude of small business consulting options.  I can come up with a lot of reason why it didn’t work out, but the truth is – I lacked the tenacity.

Tenacity gets the job done.

Because I didn’t give my business the attention it deserved, it didn’t go anywhere.  It didn’t fail, it just didn’t do anything.  I had a job here and there, but I didn’t push.  There was some attempts to promote and market myself, but in truth all I can say here is that I tried.  And because that was all the energy I gave this idea, and I didn’t just DO for my business, it faded out.

It has now been six years since I began Pathwalking.  This has caused some very positive changes in my life.  Yet I am still not exactly where I want to be.  Why?  Tenacity.  I try a lot, but I don’t do as frequently.  This inaction keeps me where I am…not quite where I want to be.

I have the thought.  I know how it should feel.  That is where I get stuck.  Sometimes this is self-sabotage, rooted in my long-time fear of abandonment due to success or failure.  There are times I lack the necessary ambition to push when I know that I should.  There are as many excuses as drops of water in the ocean, but the truth is I need more tenacity.

To that end, I am blogging here three times a week, and have redesigned the concept of the entire blog.  Every other week I am writing up some sort of blog post to my author website, too.  Still, I could be writing more than I am, and researching options to better promote and sell my novels.  This is where I need to work on being more tenacious.

If I am going to walk the path to becoming a best-selling author, I know what I need to do.

No room for doubt, be tenacious!

Recently, I completed a 21 day course from Jen Sincero for changing a habit.  As she points out, 80% of the people who pay for such a course do not complete it.  Why?  They do not use their tenacity to see it through.

Pathwalking to achieve conscious reality creation requires a lot of stick-to-itiveness, or rather, tenacity.  Recognizing this, I can see what more I need to do to manifest my desires.  I know where I need to focus my feelings with more willfulness.

I am writer.  Which means that I need to work on everything that will hone my craft.  Tenaciously.

What have you pursued tenaciously?

 

This is the three-hundred-seventeenth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas for, and my personal experiences with, walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

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How Does One Step Build Positivity?

Some days you just take one step at a time.  Then follow it with another…and another…and so on.

For myself and many of my friends and loved ones, last week was a serious downer.  We lost people who meant a great deal to us.  Losing people special to us is hard.  Returning to our regularly scheduled lives can feel particularly trying.

One StepWhen I look for positivity every week, I acknowledge that nobody lives in a good headspace all the time.  We get into arguments, car accidents, troubles with coworkers and friends, disagreements with loved ones, and experience losses.  Part of the human condition is that we will be challenged along the way.

At times we can meet these challenges with fierce determination, empowerment, and high energy.  Sometimes, though, we face these matters with hunched shoulders, tired hearts and minds, and low energy.  We wonder what it would be like to have it easy.

These are the days we have to take it one step at a time.  This is when living in the moment, taking the next immediate step is the best option.  Too many things in our heads, too much sorrow, too much worry can weigh us down.  Faced with that, life still go on.  The sun will rise and set, even on a cloudy day.

On these days, the importance of just taking a single step, then following it with another, and another, cannot be emphasized enough.  Sure, we could make the choice to wallow in our negative feelings, and let them linger.  But when we do that, we let life live us, and we yield control.  We disempower ourselves, and generally will continue to feel worse and worse.  The negative feelings are not gone, but we can put them aside and keep moving forward.

One step is how every journey begins.

Nothing begins without a single step.  Thought is a step, feeling is a step, action is a step.  Between each of these, more steps are taken.  Even when we are not feeling it, even when we are feeling bad, every step along the way is positive.  Each step that we take moves us onwards, and that is good.

Just One StepWe all have bad days.  Every single one of us gets hurt, feels pain both physical and emotional, and wonders how to move on.  It is at these times that we need to find the attitude shifters, work on our mood, ask the right questions, and take one step at a time.

You’ve got this.  I believe in you.  You are here.  There is positivity in that alone.

Finding positivity is not hard, but it does require action.  Knowing that every individual step counts towards moving us on, no matter how bad things might be, we can take that single step.  When we follow that one step with another, and we continue along the way, we empower ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we frequently spread that feeling to others around us; as such, we can build more positive feelings in the collective consciousness.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the two-hundred and seventh entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

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Life is Energy

Life is energy, and energy is life.

When we lose people dear to us, their energy has not gone…it has been transmuted back to the Universe.

Life is EnergyWe will miss the people we care about when they leave us.  Their energy may be gone from our lives, but it is not truly gone.  Energy can never be created nor destroyed, just transformed into a new form.

As I am sitting at my desk writing this, I am witnessing the sun rising outside my window.  Its light and energy are comforting, but also inspiring.  Like the sun, I am also capable of rising above the horizon and making my way across the sky.

This has been a particularly trying week.  My friends and family and I are all hurting because we have suffered loss.  Two people who held very different places in my heart are gone.  I will never experience their energy in my own life again…but I take comfort in knowing that their energy is not really gone.

When I work to consciously create my reality, I am striving to manifest a life that makes me happy.  To do that, I have to manipulate my own energy, so that I can be attuned to a higher frequency.  The higher the frequency I am tuned in to, that better things I can consciously create for myself.

The losses I have experienced make me sad.  I grieve for those who have passed…but I also am comforted in knowing that their energies are still out there.  When I think of the two amazing men who have passed, I remember that they lived lives that were filled with passion, inspired people around them, and made them both happy.  In their memory, as I work on manifesting my life, I hope to work from their examples.

Life is where we are right here, right now.

In this moment I feel sadness not just for those who are lost, but for all those grieving their losses.  I don’t believe that we can ever be prepared to say goodbye to those we love.  Unfortunately, this life, in these meat-popsicles, is finite.  The energy that is our root will continue always, but it will change form when our time on this planet is over.

Our society has a particular obsession with looking forward and looking backwards.  Seldom do we work in the here-and-now.  I fall prey to that a lot myself, and have been actively working on changing it.

The two men that we have lost were very different, but had one thing in common.  They lived fully every day.  They were, as far as all reports go, happy.  The happiness they expressed in their lives inspired people around them.  Both of them impacted a lot of lives, and both have left holes in the hearts of many.

They may be gone…but their energy is not.  They showed us that life is precious, and from their examples we can choose to live big, do what we can to be good people, and find what makes us happy.

Over the next couple of days both men will be memorialized.  Tears will be shed, and the memories of the impressions they made will flood over us.  But when this process is over we will go on.  In their memories, I am going to work even harder to use their examples and be the best person I can be.

Neither of these men did anything specifically to be an example.  They simply lived, every day, as best they could.

I can live life, or let life live me.

Too often I have let life live me.  It’s pretty easy to do…you just go with the flow, let the patterns of every day carry you.  There are people who find satisfaction in this.  But I desire to have more than just an everyday existence.  I want every day to learn new things, to live with all the passion I can, and to be the best me that I can be.

Consciousness creates reality.  If I am conscious of what I am thinking, feeling, and the actions that I take, I am able to be in control over my life.  Admittedly, this is not always easy.  When I spend too much time caught up in the goings-on across Facebook and other social media, or getting angry at the things I have no control over, I let my subconscious do the driving.

The memory of those I lost, and how they lived, can inspire me to be more aware.  Though I miss them in this moment, and I feel sad at their loss, I know that they both would want me to go on, and live well.  No matter who we lose in this life, I believe that they want us to keep living as fully as possible.

Wakes, funerals and memorials are not for the dead…they are for the living.  This is where and how we say goodbye.  Yes, it is an ending…but the energy of these lost souls is not gone, just transmuted, and spread further across the Universe.  Our loss is the Universe’s gain.  I don’t know if that gives you comfort, but it inspires me to live the best I can.

Energy is life, and life is energy.

As always, thank you for crossing the bridges between my worlds with me.

 

This is the sixty-ninth entry of my personal journey, the Crossing the Bridges series.  My collectively published writing can be found here.

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How Does Loss Effect You?

Loss is a part of Pathwalking.

Because life is ever changing, and because we are not static creatures, we will experience losses along our paths.  Some are good for us, some less so.  The hardest loss to take is that of a friend or loved one.

When we lose people, grief is different for every one of us.  In a society where we often look at the “norms”, how we grieve is one of those things that no two people manage the same.

LossSome people go numb.  Others get really angry.  Depression and sadness are typical.  Almost any emotion you can think of may come from loss.  There is no right or wrong way to feel this, even when you might feel nothing.

This week has been a challenge because I have lost two people who held different places in my heart.  The world has dimmed some due to their absence from it.

I know how I handle grief is unique to me.  Overall, I think about the impression people have made on me when they were here.  Yes, I will miss them, but I tend to give most of my energy to remembering the good moments I was fortunate enough to share with those I have lost along the way.

For me, there is a detachment that comes of my grief.  I tend to take a more clinical approach to my losses, and while I am sad that someone is gone from my life, I think because of how I see everything as energy, I don’t think of them as truly lost.

“Luminous beings are we…not this crude matter,” Yoda said.  And I believe that is the truth.  When we leave these earthly vessels, we become a new form of energy.  As such, nobody is truly lost.

Grief over loss, whatever form it takes, can alter our paths.

Often, when we suffer a loss, it will cause a certain amount of reflection.  When it is a permanent loss, such as death, this can shift how we approach our path in life.

Expected or unexpected, losing a loved one can create a pretty major change in how you continue on.  Everybody needs time to adjust to such a change, and when we are understanding of this we can be of the most help in these times.  Some adjust quickly, some not so much.

Whether or not a loss alters the paths you are walking, it is important to keep moving forward.  It is my belief that the people we care about and lose would most want us to keep on in their absence.  They would want us to continue living, growing, and choosing paths for ourselves.

Again, I am not in any way discounting grief.  My point here is that it’s important to still go on, keep living our own lives, and let the memories of those we have lost strengthen us.

It is my belief that everyone we encounter in our lives serves some purpose.  Friends, lovers, acquaintances, coworkers, even random drivers who cut us off on the highway teach us things.  They enter into our lives for a finite period of time, and have some sort of impact on us.

Losing the people we care about also impacts us.  The light that they shared with us is gone.  But I like to remember that the fire has only dimmed, because they will live on in my memory.  Whether this will impact my path or not, I will occasionally turn my eye to that fire, and let the memories warm me.

Loss can provide strength.

In the immediate aftermath of a loss, we feel grief, hurt, anger, numbness, frustration, rage, depression, fear, and/or any combination of these.  We can and will experience almost any conceivable emotion.  When we accept this, and let the feeling flow through us, we can let go of what we do not need and hold onto what we do.

Consciousness creates reality.  Because we have control over only our own individual existences, things can and will happen that will throw us off.  We will find ourselves focused on things that are negative.  These feelings are no less valid, unless we let them dominate and control us.

Nobody’s life is entirely absent of negativity.  In part this is because we need to feel the bad to appreciate the good, and everything in between.  Whatever form grief takes for you, in time it will fade.  It may always leave a pang, because there is a hole in our hearts from these losses.  But we can and will go on.

Sometimes loss will strengthen our resolve.  We want to do better than we are now.  It can cause us to choose to live bigger, love deeper, and take on the world in order to best effect it.  In the memory of those who are gone, we can improve ourselves, and feel more empowered to control our lives.

I will miss the two I lost this week.  But I know that both would encourage me to continue on with my dreams, my goals and aspirations.  I will do everything I can to be the best me I can be, and honor their memories.

How do you handle loss?

 

This is the three-hundred-sixteenth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas for, and my personal experiences with, walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

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Why is Community Important?

Community is important.

Because human beings are social creatures, we seek out like-minded individuals to form communities with.  This is where religious groups, civic organizations, and even nations come into being.  People who share one or more interests/beliefs join together and form a community.

Community - Positivity 206We often look at this from a “big picture” sense.  We live in a given community and such.  What I am talking about in this instance is that which we choose to identify with, and what that can mean for us.

I have been actively participating in the Society for Creative Anachronism for over 25 years now.  The overall community that makes up the SCA in-and-of itself is pretty amazing.  Within the group, we form other communities, like among fencers, heralds and artisans.  Some create households, which work much life families, except that you choose the people you include as such.

This is what, I think, community is meant to be.  We come from disparate parts of the world, various backgrounds and education levels, socio-economic statuses, and so forth.  Yet we identify as a part of a broader community.  When there is tragedy, we come together to support one another.

Like any such organization, there are differences.  We have our disagreements.  But when all is said and done, this community is an amazing source of strength, and I have formed some of the finest friendships of my life from here.

The amount of positivity this community is capable of creating is tremendous.  Together, we support one another, and we work to foster an inclusive, fun cultural identity to be shared.

It is not perfect, but then, what in this world is?  We may be the “island of misfit toys”, but often that strengthens the community we build.

The Greater Notion of Community also matters.

We suffered a terrible loss in the smaller community I am a participant of.  We are grieving together, and in our shared experience offering our support to one another in this unfortunate time.

CommunityToday in the USA is Martin Luther King Day.  It is a day to honor a man who worked to change the greater community of a nation to be more inclusive, more equal, more loving.  Because of the blatant racism of our current President, our nation needs to remember now more than ever the effort to build a new and better community Dr. King put forth.

The diversity of our greater community is something to be celebrated.  We have opportunities to learn a great deal from one another, and this is a day to honor that.

Community, whether greater or smaller, should be about sharing love, peace, comfort and joy.  This is a place to build and celebrate positivity together, even when we suffer a tragedy.

To my family in the SCA, I grieve with you for our loss.  To my family that is the USA, I honor our diverse cultures, and will do whatever I can to help build a more equal and loving world like what Dr. King envisioned.

Finding positivity is not hard, but it does require action.

Knowing that community can bring us together, we have a powerful tool to work together to build a better world.  When we come together as a community, we have the opportunity to share a great many things, and when we empower one another in our communities, we empower ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we frequently spread that feeling to others around us; as such, we can build more positive feelings in the collective consciousness.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the two-hundred and sixth entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

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Am I Worthy and Deserving?

I am worthy and deserving of awesomeness in my life.

It’s interesting how often I need to remind myself of this.  There have been many instances where I do not feel as though I deserve to have the things I desire in my life.

Worthy and DeservingCrossing the Bridges is the most personal of my weekly posts.  I am exploring not only my philosophies and approaches to life, but my actual, factual life.

In Positivity I pointed out that YOU are amazing!  Part of the reason for this is because recognition of worth is something we take too often for granted.  Along this same line, Pathwalking involved looking at the empowerment of praise.  Praising can raise our frequencies.  Higher frequencies are associated with better feelings.  I don’t know anyone who doesn’t want to feel good.

For much of my life, I have struggled with my self-esteem.  Some of this is borne of depression, some of it is life experiences along the way.  Recognizing my own self-worth, and deserving of good things has proven to be challenging at times.

While getting outside validation of my worth can help, it’s really a matter of me recognizing my own deserving.  Am I worthy of success, abundance, and overall good things in my life?  Logically, I know the answer is yes.  But feeling it is where the challenge often lies.

Feeling emotions has been a struggle for me most of my life.  Sure, there are several instances from my past I can point to for this, but they do not matter now.  No, I am an adult.  I need to take responsibility for how I feel.  When I am not feeling right, it’s up to me to work in the here-and-now to adjust that.

There is never a quick-fix when it comes to this.

Recognizing being worthy and deserving is not a selfish act.

One of the other issues that comes from this is a fear of being perceived as selfish.  We are socially so inundated by stories of unbelievable greed and selfishness, it’s hard not to see any act that does not help other people as one that’s not selfish.

Taking care of ourselves is not the same as being selfish.  Being selfish comes from a lack mentality.  It’s the notion that there is not enough to go around, so I have to hoard what there is.  Greed is of the same ilk, and a monetary form of selfishness.

When I say I am deserving and worthy of awesomeness in my life, I am also suggesting that you are, too.  But in order to have more to give, I need to have some for myself.

We live in an abundant universe.  This is not an easy thing to recognize, because our society is hyper-focused on lack and scarcity.  Consciousness creates reality.  The more we focus on what we don’t want, the more we are in danger of creating.

I am a good person.  Maybe I am not always the best office worker, and from time to time I can be stubborn.  But I am a good person, with a good heart.  I want to live a life with abundance and prosperity.  Not just so that I can have more of the things I want, but so that I can also give more.

The awesomeness I am worthy and deserving of is both tangible and intangible.

Nobody but you can determine your own worth.  Yet regularly, we turn to peers and loved ones for affirmation.   The thing is, even if they tell us we are worthy, we might not feel it.

This is why I am stating in the open that I am worthy and deserving of a good life.  Because everyone is.

We are worthy even when we screw up.

Every single one of us is perfectly imperfect.  Part of the human condition is that we’re going to get it wrong.  We will cause someone to feel hurt, or disrespected, or unloved.  We will make mistakes.  There will be foul-ups both great and small along the way.  These are the lessons that help us to grow.  They do not lessen our worth.

I have been reciting a new Mantra or Mightiness, as Jen Sincero calls it, for almost two weeks.  As often as I am putting it out there, I need to do so even more.  It reminds me of my worth, and that I deserve to be abundant and happy.

There is always work to be done.  This is actually a good thing, because that work is how we grow.  I have a lot of things I am aiming to do with my life.  I know that I can make them happen.

Abundance and prosperity are things I am worthy and deserving of, just the same as you are.  It is ok to be aware of this.  Awareness is consciousness, and consciousness creates reality.

As always, thank you for crossing the bridges between my worlds with me!

 

This is the sixty-eighth entry of my personal journey, the Crossing the Bridges series.  My collectively published writing can be found here.

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How Does Praise Empower?

Everybody likes to receive praise.

When you do a thing, and you do it well, receiving praise for it feels amazing.  It is incredibly empowering, and it serves as an affirmation of the choices you make along the way.

For whatever reason, though, our modern society eschews praise.  We have an almost surreal talent for criticism, but when it comes to praise, we seem to display something of an aversion to it.

PraiseI suspect that one of the reasons for this is because there is a backlash borne of false praise.  When we over-emphasize the celebration of mediocrity, and heap praise for simple participation, we disempower in the interest of inclusion.  We praise all, or we praise none.

Yet we are almost obsessed with criticism.  Now don’t get me wrong, there are situations where this is completely called for, like politics.  An example of where this is over-the-top is when it comes to celebrities.  There is an entire industry of media focused on what they wear, their level of fitness, whom they are dating, and so on.  Snarking at celebrities is accepted as the price they pay for being public figures.

Unfortunately, this carries over to everyone else.  People tend to criticize and comment on the people in their lives with far more negativity than positivity.  What we forget is that, while we don’t actually do these things maliciously, they impact the people around us and lower all of our frequencies.

Consciousness creates reality.  When you are focused on the flaws and negatives of the people around you, that is what you draw more of to you.  It does bounce back.  Heap criticism and comments at people, and they will be returned to you.  This, in turn, makes nobody feel terribly empowered.

Praise raises our frequencies.

Everything in the universe is based in energy.  All energy has a frequency.  Low frequencies are made of low feelings, low energy.  High frequencies are made of high feelings and high energy.  The low makes us feel bad, the high makes us feel good.

This is why praise matters.  A lot of work environments people experience involve trying to avoid criticism and disapproval, thus cultivating low vibrations and frequencies.  Avoiding getting judged by our bosses and coworkers is not empowering, and doesn’t feel good.

When we work in an environment where praise is given for jobs well done, achievements that are made, and good performance, we are empowered.  This type of environment cultivates high vibration and frequencies.  Working for reward is empowering, and feels good.

I can’t think of anyone who does not prefer to be rewarded over being penalized.  Being given an accolade feels good and empowers us to continue to perform at high energy.  When we receive penalties and judgements if we do not meet a given standard, we are disempowered, and likely to continue to find little or no satisfaction in what we do.

Is it easier to criticize than to praise?  No.  However, I think because a lot of energy was given to praising for simply participation and averageness, praise comes less easily.

Again, it’s important to look at our society.  Everywhere you look people are being criticized and judged for anything you can imagine.  While some is justifiable, like in the case of our government, much of it is not.  While the majority is not intended to be mean, it still lowers the vibrational frequencies of our energy.  Thus, we are great at making ourselves and others feel bad.

Like pretty much everything in the world, starting small can snowball.

Be aware of whether you are offering praise or judgement.

It starts with us.  How often do you wind up talking about someone you care about or love critically?  Does it come rather easily?  Is your criticism more observational than malicious?  How does it make you feel?

I love my friends and family, but I am frequently being critical of things they do.  It doesn’t come from a place of spite or intentional meanness.  I think it’s a matter of comparison to my own thought processes on a given situation.

The challenge is to be aware.  Oh, look, something else that comes down to awareness of the here-and-now.  When I am thinking about the people in my life, when I am critical of their actions, I am lowering all of our frequencies.  Ergo, it is up to me to consider this, and change my reactions consciously.

One of the best ways to do this is to find reasons and means to praise.  If I can offer praise I am raising all of our frequencies.  Praise makes everyone feel good, and when we feel good, we choose more wisely, and I believe consciously, our thoughts, feelings and actions.

Recognize false praise and constructive criticism.

Two words of caution here.  First – false praise.  Praising for mediocrity can be as disempowering as criticism.  Wow, you got out of bed this morning – good for you! is rather mocking.  This is where we lose the power praise can generate.  Praise can still be for simple things, such as you look good today or I like that shirt on you or you are raising incredible kids.

Second – constructive criticism.  This is a real thing, and can actually be empowering.  Criticism feels bad.  That pie you baked wasn’t very good makes you feel lousy.  Thank you for baking that pie.  Could I offer some flavoring suggestions? might still be awkward, but opens the door to dialogue rather than judgement.  There are times people need help to improve in some way or other.

Praise can be incredibly empowering.  When you are walking a path you have chosen for yourself, praise goes a long ways to make the journey better.  Consider how criticism and praise make you feel, be aware of how you are thinking and speaking about people around you.  Raise everyone’s frequency by offering praise.

Like I said in Positivity this week – You are amazing.  No matter if we know one another or not, I want you to know that I believe you are amazing, and can do incredible things.

What praise have you offered of late?

 

This is the three-hundred-fifteenth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas for, and my personal experiences with, walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

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