The Ramblings of the Titanium Don
Ramblings

Category: Positivity

Why Is It So Hard to Just Be Yourself?

Nobody is at fault or to blame, but neither does anyone tend to teach you this. Two of the most distressing things that dominate our society are the expectations of others and the “shoulds.” Early in our lives, before we’re even scientifically capable of self-awareness, our parents and other family members guide us. Eventually it moves from guidance to direction. Instilling good habits in the young is very useful throughout life. Brush your teeth twice a day, fasten your seatbelt

Why is Real Positivity About A Choice of Approach?

Positivity is a choice that combines thought, feeling, intent, and action. There is no telling what life will hand you today. No matter what you plan or prepare for, shit happens. People disappoint you, expectations aren’t met, and life will throw you curve balls out of nowhere. One day you might think, hey, it’s only a quarter mile to the post office, and the weather doesn’t suck. I should walk rather than drive. A great idea, until you wake up

How Do You Respond to Upsetting, Annoying, and Disappointing Things That Happen?

Not the initial, visceral response, but what you do next. I’m about to publish my first new book in 2 years. This is super exciting because this book is the conclusion to the series I’ve been working on since 2015. Saturday morning, before departing for an all-day event 2 hours away, I checked my email. The eBook variation – available for pre-order – had been canceled. WTAF? They claim I didn’t upload the final file in time. But I’m completely

How Do We See More Clearly That It’s Not a Race?

The human race is not, in fact, a race at all. Nearly every message you receive, no matter the source, is a constant reminder that you need to go go go. Keep going. Always doing. Rest is for the wicked. You can sleep when you’re dead. And so on. The idea of the “rat race” created this notion, long ago, that life is a constant race. Being first. As such, gets a whole lot of emphasis and is given importance.

Can A Negative Experience Be Used for Positivity?

Life is a matter of balance and choices. For every extreme, there’s an opposite extreme. Up and down. Small and large. Left and right. Black and white. Tall and short. Good and evil. Positive and negative. Often, these extremes are personified as opposite sides of a coin. The problem with this is that coins are flat, and most things exist not at either extreme end, but somewhere between them. Take black and white, for example. Between these extremes is every

Why Are Intentions and Feelings Frequently Misaligned?

No matter your intentions, you have zero control over anyone’s feelings but your own. Lots of people approach things with good intentions. But what does that mean? It means that you might say or do something that’s not intended to be hurtful, mean, offensive, or otherwise upsetting. You have good or neutral – not bad – intentions. How come, even when your intentions are neutral or good, you still cause hurt to someone? Because you can control the feelings of

Do We Really Need Positivity to Live Our Best Lives?

Genuine, non-toxic positivity is essential for everyone. Toxic positivity is all over the place. Tons of messages about the power of positive thinking, the Law of Attraction, manifestation, happiness, and living our best lives all reduce down to positivity. Toxic positivity both blatantly and subtly tells you all negative thoughts and feelings are bad and must be avoided, ignored, disregarded, and not allowed to take root. This is a lie. Why? Because nobody – and I mean nobody – lives

Can Gratitude for What You Have Get You What You Desire?

Yes. But it also alters what you genuinely desire in important, positive ways. Overall, I have an amazing life. I’m deeply grateful for all that I have. This begins with the basic necessities. This includes ample food, more than adequate shelter, and enough clothing that I need to donate things I seldom or never wear to a worthwhile charity. Beyond the basic necessities of life – food, clothing, shelter – I am incredibly grateful for the other “needs” that are

What If You Could Program Your Brain Like a Computer?

Spoiler alert – you can totally program your brain like a computer. The human brain is an incredibly complex piece of machinery. Everything the brain does – whether on the unconscious, subconscious, or conscious level – is simply astounding. Without our unique, complex, multifaceted brains, we’d be far more like the rest of the animal kingdom. Human beings are the only animals on this planet who can adapt to any environment, communicate instantaneously around the globe via artificial electronics, and

Why Not Find Your Joy Where You Find Your Joy?

Don’t let anyone rain on your parade. People love to knock things. Especially online. Everywhere you turn, someone has derogatory comments or criticism regarding things that bring people joy. For example, I am loving the Ahsoka series from Star Wars nearing the end of its initial run. Yet I’ve seen multiple posts about why it sucks, what’s wrong with it, and so on. Sorry if it’s not bringing you joy the same as it’s bringing me joy. An even better

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