Everyone has bad days. Everyone experiences relentless negativity.
While I created these weekly posts to generate positivity, in order to help myself and anyone reading along, I acknowledge that there are days it simply does not work. No matter what we employ, no matter what we try, this day is terrible.
There is nothing wrong with having days where nothing works. There is nothing wrong with having days where everything seems to go wrong. You are going to be hurt, get angry, and feel depressed. You may experience a desire to either curl up in a pillow fort in the living room, scream at someone, smash something, cry to exhaustion, or all of the above in due course.
Seeking out positivity is not about denying negativity. That would simply be impossible. These are opposite sides of the same coin. Ergo, you really could not have the one without the other. You will experience and spread negativity sometimes, because that’s human nature.
However, once this no-good-terrible-awful-lousy-bad day comes to an end, you get to choose whether you will let it linger, or let it go. Will you carry that negativity into the next day, or release it and strive to find better?
This is the part that we CAN choose. Yes, we will have bad days and feel negative emotions, and that is perfectly ok. But we also get to choose to carry that forward, or work on letting it pass and starting with a clean slate.
Practice makes perfect, but it’s practice for a reason.
I also acknowledge that this is not always possible. If you despise your job, it is very hard to face it day-in and day-out. Certain people cannot be avoided or neglected forever. Nobody can predict flat tires, hailstorms, getting fired from a job or dumped from a relationship.
Even still, when we encounter this, we do get to choose how long we want to feel it. Sometimes it doesn’t feel that way, and sometimes we really do need to soak in the negativity in order to understand it, before we let go of it. But we have more control over our emotional state than we realize. How long we let negativity dominate our days is entirely up to us.
Get angry. Feel hurt. Express your frustration and depression. It’s unhealthy to neglect these feelings. Just remember it’s equally unhealthy to hold onto them for long, so don’t cling to them.
Finding positivity is not hard, but it does require action.
Knowing that there are going to be days where nothing makes us feel better, we can let them happen and cope. When we accept that negativity happens, we can better understand positivity; when we strive to create more positivity we empower ourselves. When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings in the collective consciousness. We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings. When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for. Gratitude leads to happiness. Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude. Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.
This is the one hundred eighty-third entry of my Positivity series. It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone. Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.
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