The Ramblings of the Titanium Don

Explorations of Conscious Reality Creation and Other Matters

Month: December 2016 (Page 1 of 2)

Today and the New Year (2016/2017)

Today.

Today is.  That’s all, today is a day.

The question is, what will you make of today?  How will you treat today differently from how you treated yesterday and how you will treat tomorrow?

As we enter into the new year, and we prepare to celebrate the transition from the one to the other, we should all take a moment to consider what last year wrought, both good and bad, and what we might want for next year.

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This past year was, for many, deeply depressing.  Too many popular celebrities left us too soon, we experienced an utterly distressing election, and have watched a world stage grow increasingly disturbing and more and more uncertain.  But beyond those big-picture matters, 2016 was a year like any other, full of personal ups and downs, wins and losses, good, bad and otherwise.

What do you want for the new year?  I know we all have concerns, fears, and interests in the coming year.  But if consciousness creates reality, then we need to find good things for ourselves, first in the today, then for tomorrow.

There are only three questions we need to ask ourselves to start better consciously creating our reality.

Question one: How are you feeling?  Asking this awakens your awareness, and lets you assume control over your thoughts and emotions.  Question two: What am I grateful for?  Finding things, no matter their size or shape, for which to express gratitude will put you in a more positive mindset, and help further your awareness about how you are feeling.  Question three: What do I want for the new year?  Not the bad things you DON’T want, do not give them any additional focus or attention – examine those things which you DO want.  The things that will help you to live the best life you can.

Today is.  What today is is wholly yours to determine.  You, and you alone, can create your life, and this is an opportunity to create one that is what you want.  New Year’s Eve brings out resolutions in many to improve their lives – but I would suggest we take this chance to instead look closely at the day, and not just make a resolution to do some thing or other next year – but instead find the awareness of TODAY, of this moment, and use that to start off the new year with the most positive emotional ammunition we can horde for a better year.

Happy New Year to one and all!

Crossing the Bridges: The New Year

The New Year is frequently used as an opportunity to get a new start to things.

Many people make resolutions, which amount to often grand plans for sweeping changes.  Years ago, I decided that while resolutions are all well and good, they are soft, non-committal, and easily disregarded.  This is why I started instead of creating New Year’s Resolutions, to take New Year’s Actions.

I began to blog regularly five years ago, as a result of my 2012 New Year’s Action.  I decided that I would blog once a week, and from that Pathwalking was born.  Now, five years on, I am blogging regularly three times a week, and consider this a win.

Last year I decided to create my Goal Log.  This is my Google sheet on which I track my diet, exercise, writing and meditation practice.  Next week it will mark the start of the 2nd year of my log, and it will become a part of this post going forward.

The point of all of this is that with the New Year, I am examining new things I want to do, new actions I want to take for myself.  Having acknowledged that there are some possible challenges due to outside influences in the coming year, this will be particularly important.

I have some concern about feeling selfish in making choices for my own personal advancement.  However, as I noted last week, if I don’t work on my own life, I will have little to nothing to give to anyone else, and will have a particularly hard time assisting others.

So, what are the things I want to do with my life in the coming year?

Let’s start with the things lacking in a specific timeline.  I need to edit Harbinger, the third book in The Source Chronicles series, so that I can send it to an editor and then publish it in the fall.  I would like to finish the space opera I am working on, and maybe figure out a title for it.  I need to pick up where I left off in Guardians, the fourth book in The Source Chronicles.  I started another story I want to work on as well.

This brings me to a definite goal.  When I get Journey of a Thousand Miles… back from the editor, I need to do my own work on it, and get it formatted for publishing.  I need to write/edit these things at least three days a week.  In addition to working on the blog posts, I need to be better about taking the time to write and edit.  I need to act on this.

Along this line are practices I have been trying to turn into a habit for a while.  Exercise and Meditation.  I find that when I take even 4 minutes to meditate a day, I am better focused, more aware, and more capable to get things done in my waking hours.  Likewise, exercising energizes me, makes my body feel less flabby and uncontrolled, and helps clear my head of unwanted negativity.

All of these appear in the Goal Log, and have for a year.  Yet I am still lax about them.  Why?  I can make up any number of excuses, but the primary issue is poor habits and distractions.

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Poor habits generally ARE the distractions, but because I allow them to work the way they do, they have become poor habits along the way.  Because they are part of my regular routine, they are habitual.  I think admitting this to myself is the first step in changing them.

What habits need to go?  In the morning, rather than stumble out of bed and get online to check social media and e mails, I need to start my day, prep my lunch and breakfast, MEDITATE, and then head to the gym for EXERCISE.  This is particularly challenging, because I have been starting off my day with this same action for several years.  Old habits die hard, they say, and they can be particularly challenging to break.

After work, on days I don’t go to a fencing practice, I tend to go home, and veg in front of the TV.  This is all well and good, for a time – but my wife generally goes to bed a couple hours before I do.  During those two to three hours, rather than continue to watch TV, or half-watch while goofing off online, I should be WRITING and EDITING.  Again, I habitually browse social media and half-watch TV most nights, so this is another long-held habit that I am challenged to break.

I both want and need to make these changes.  Why?  Because if I am going to cross the bridges I want to cross and accomplish the things I most want to, I have to do something new.  I have to get out of my current routines, because they are poor.  NOT bad, this is not a matter of good and bad, just poor.  Why poor?  Because I know there is better I can choose.  I need to be disciplined enough to make that choice, and to take the necessary actions I am completely aware of to take this forward.

What action can I take to further this plan?  My coach suggested I begin working with lists.  I know many people who live by lists they make for things, which is not something I regularly do.  However, in light of my prior inability to stick with making the changes I want, I figure nothing ventured, nothing gained.

Positive action for change for the New Year.  Let’s see how I do with this going forward.

Thank you for crossing the bridges between my worlds with me!

 

This is the fourteenth entry of my personal journey, the Crossing the Bridges series.  My collectively published writing can be found here.

Pathwalking 261

This has been an interesting year.

In some respects this goes with the Chinese curse of “May you live in interesting times”.  In some respects it has simply been full of odd and unusual, fascinating things.  In some respects it has just been interesting as opposed to uninteresting…and in some ways it’s very much Joss Whedon’s definition from Serenity: Mal: “Define interesting?” Wash: “Oh god oh god we’re all going to die?”

Much of the latter is due to the outside world, and things I personally can do little to directly impact.  I voted in the election, I continue to stand up for anyone who is feeling unsafe in these uncertain times, and I will continue to do whatever I can to offer support in any way my friends and loved ones needs should matters deteriorate.

What I cannot continue to do is focus on those things, because I can’t directly change them.  I will resist where necessary, call out BS when appropriate (and possibly less so, depending), and I will donate time, effort and if possible money to worthy engines in place to support love over hate, unity over separation, inclusiveness over exclusivity and so on.

What I need to focus on now, however, is my own life, my own paths, my own thoughts and feelings and actions.  If I get caught up in matters I want to change but can only indirectly effect without putting my own house into order, so to speak, I will be of no good to anyone.

What does that mean?  What it means is that I need to turn my focus away from this big-picture stuff, and look at my own life, my own accomplishments, my own thoughts and feelings and actions.  I need to work on me, do what is necessary for myself, and pay attention to this little corner of the world which I call my own.

One of the key matters in regards to this, though, is not to get caught up in self-recrimination, or judgement in regards to selfishness.  This is self-care, not a selfish act.  If I do not work on my own mindfulness, my own awareness and the here-and-now, I will be able to do very little to have any real impact on the bigger picture.

It is impossible for me to ignore the big picture.  The results of the Presidential election and surreal uncertainty borne of that; the tragic number of popular celebrity deaths; the devastation of war in Syria and elsewhere; the rise of arch-conservative powers around the globe in response to the changing world; all of these are noteworthy, all are matters of concern of varying degrees, and some may even have devastating consequences and are frightening.  Yet they are beyond my personal reach, beyond my ability to have a direct impact and effect worthwhile change.

These matters are relevant, but I personally can do little about them.  It’s important to acknowledge that.  But I am not ignoring them or disregarding them…I am keeping mindful of their goings-on, and I am looking for ways that I CAN effect change, whether it’s writing an opinion piece on these matters or donating to a cause to help change them or support something better than them, or some other manner I have not thought of that WILL be effective.

That being said, it’s time to review NOT the big-picture year-that-was, but rather my own, personal 2016.  What has this past year wrought for me, and how will that impact my paths?

On many levels this has been a good year.  I got this new job which has been good for me on multiple levels, published the first full-length novel in my Steampunk series, maintained this blog and Positivity and added a third weekly post with Crossing the Bridges, and strengthened all of my relationships, whether intimate, personal or professional.  I have been tracking my diet and exercise, though I still have a ways to go with that.  I have gotten a long ways into writing a cool space opera I look forward to sharing one day.

There have been some less-than stellar bits.  My weight has been like a yo-yo all year, and my mental state, in especial the last couple months, has been kind of rough.  I’ve had doubt and uncertainty about some of my chosen paths, but apart from that I am working to consider my thoughts, what I am feeling, and from there how I am acting more carefully.

This particular year has been rough for many people on many levels, but it is coming to an end.  I would certainly never tell anyone how to grieve for the things that they grieve for, but I would suggest that we cannot remain focused on grief.  We need to find our strength, and to focus on that if we want to consciously create a better reality.

Mourn the things you need to, but find good things to celebrate.  Everyone has something from the passing year that was not awful, and we need to give that energy and attention, too.  I know that can be difficult, but if all of our attention remains on negative things, we tend to create more things to feel negative about.  Take a moment to give some attention to positive things, because I know that’s what I want to have more of for myself, and I suspect you likely feel the same.

The New Year is upon us.  If we truly want it to be better than the year that is ending, we need to look to better things to come.  May your paths be true and strewn with few obstacles and many wonders.

What do look forward to in the New Year?

 

GOAL LOG – Week 51:

Diet:  Fairly unchanged, though a bit of overindulgence with the holidays.

Exercise: Only one day at the gym.

Writing:  The three blogs got written

Meditation:  One day of mediation, about 7 minutes.

Gratitude: I wrote five things I was grateful for six days last week.

Please note that The Goal Log will be relocated in two weeks to my Crossing the Bridges posts.

This is the two-hundred sixty-first entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas and my personal experiences in walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

Positivity: Remember, We Are All One

We are all one.

I’ve said it before, I’ve written it before, but it bears repeating.  We are all one.

We are all composed first and foremost of energy.  Energy, which can neither be created nor destroyed, just transmuted from form to form.  Beneath the skins of so many colors, under the genders we claim for ourselves, we are all made of exactly the same stuff.  We are all one.

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This time of year for some is hugely joyous, while for others it is terribly sad and lonely.  No matter where we fall in that spectrum, there is tremendous positivity that can come of recognizing that we are all one.

It doesn’t matter what ethnicity you claim, what nation you come from, what religion you do or do not ascribe to.  We are all made of the same basic stuff, we are all composed at our deepest core of energy, and as such we are all one.

Recently, we have been frequently reminded of our differences.  We are standing on the brink of tremendous uncertainty and concern for the future because fear of our differences has been exploited to empower a very small group of people, and disempower many.

When we remember that we are all one, when we stop fighting over the petty differences of sex, skin color, nationality, religion, sexual orientation, wealth and so forth, we position ourselves to create incredible positivity, and to build a world better for each and every one of us.

Before we stand against one another, before we further our divisions and our dislike and outright hate, we need to remember that we are, at the end of the day, all one.  We are all the same, and we are stronger together than we are apart.  That’s part of why certain powers want us disempowered – because together we are much more powerful than they can handle.

Do not be afraid of the unknown.  Do not fear change.  Don’t let gender, religion, nationality or political affiliation cause you to think of someone as lesser than you.  We are all one.  We are each made of the same stuff, we are all part of a greater whole, and together we can build virtually anything we can imagine.

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Before you get angry at this group of people or those fanatics or that pack of lunatics, consider a different approach.  Instead of opposing that which we dislike, why not find something to support?  Like attracts like, so if we work on something positive, something better than what we fear we will receive, we can strive to build something we DO want.

We are all one.  When all is said and done, despite the artifice of the things that divide us, we ARE all one.  Consider that well, because it is truly a positive force.

Finding positivity is not hard, it just requires action.  Knowing that we are all one, we can strive to work together more than further that which divides us.  When we work together to build something, we empower ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the one hundred fifty-second entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

In relation to Positivity, check out my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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Crossing the Bridges: Optimism for the Future

I’m not feeling it today.

I have attempted more than once to start this post, and every single start has stumbled.  I get maybe an intro paragraph, and then can’t go forward.

Why am I not feeling it today?

Because I have gotten too caught up in outside influences.  Because the madness of the world around me is interfering with my own thoughts and feelings, and I can neither shut it out nor replace it with something more useful, something that will feel better.

I cannot deny that the President-elect frightens me.  He doesn’t think before he tweets, and if he does that makes this situation even scarier.  His followers accept only what he provides them as truth, despite all empirical evidence that he is one of the biggest liars in the history of liars.  We are stepping into more uncertainty in regards to our safety, our security, and our individual freedoms than we have faced in something like fifty or sixty years.

I am attempting to do the things I can do to have any effect on this situation to maintain stability, to help those who are in more danger of persecution than I am, and to keep calm and soldier on day to day.

Because I am aware that consciousness creates reality, I need to work harder than I am to not let the fear take ahold of me.  I know this, I feel this…and yet I am having a particularly difficult time with this.

Now the President-elect has rekindled an old childhood fear.  He’s not just sabre rattling, he’s threatening to restart the nuclear arms race.  After decades of de-escalation, he wants to go back to the 1980’s and begin the madness all over again.

I was one of those sensitive children who was more afraid of nuclear war than any unseen boogey-man.  Growing up in the Midwest like I did, the sirens going off signaled either a tornado, or the warheads flying…and both evoked primal fear in me well into my twenties.

I know that if I fall prey to this, I might as well give in.  I might as well stop writing about taking ahold of my own destiny and living a life I most desire to live, because if I let this dictate how I am going to live I might as well quit.  If I let this fear overwhelm me and dictate my actions going forward, I become everything I do not want to be.

I have many things I still want to do with my life, and this is throwing me off like nothing else has in many a year.  I am finding this particular outside influence to be unsettling me, and I am both scared about the uncertainty of the future and annoyed with myself for letting myself feel so victimized.

I am in control of my own life.  I am in control of my own emotions.  I can and I will overcome this.  I will still live my life, but I will be vigilant for any actions I need to take to keep my worst fears from becoming true.

If I live letting a fear from my past effect my here-and-now, and concerns about an unwritten future dictate my actions, I am not living up to my own beliefs, my own philosophy for this life.  I still think that I can do and be so very much more.

I also need to wrap my head around the belief that in being more for myself, I am not acting selfishly.  In fact, by doing more for myself I will be better armed to take on any challenges that may arise along the way.  The future is not yet written, and while I am concerned about what lies ahead, only in the here and now can I do any good, for myself or for anyone else, and that is something.

Today has been hard.  But there are so many different bridges I want to cross.  Yes, I have been feeling overwhelmed in general, but the outside situation has exacerbated it.  I need to remember, and to remind myself, that I can do this.  I am still in control, and I can overcome the negativity and I can get control and feel better.

We live in uncertain times, and while I am concerned, I am choosing to not let that overwhelm me.  For those of you out there who are also afraid, we are in this together.  I still believe that we have the power to handle this, that we can work together to overcome any insanity the President-elect spews.  I am remaining vigilant, but I cannot live life believing the worst possibilities, in part because that way lies madness, and in part because I most certainly do NOT want to consciously create that reality.

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Today is one day in the chain of days that make up my life.  Not every day is going to be a good day, that’s not the way life works, but I can choose to let the negativity linger, or I can take some kind of action to deal with it, and to move forward.

I know I am not alone in feeling this.  What I want to say to you is this – we are in this together.  But we all need to turn our focus away from opposition to the insanity, and instead support something better, work to build something to overcome this.  Support freedom, support peace, support ways we can work together to help those who are not feeling this fear understand, and hopefully join us in unifying rather than dividing the world.

I still believe that, deep down, we all want peace.  We all want to find love.  We all want to belong.  The fear of change and that which is different is being used to undermine the nation, but I think that if we respond by showing them that they have nothing to fear from change and that which is different, we can do something to improve matters for everyone.  Optimistic?  Maybe…but the alternative is not who I am, and not the world I want to live in.

The old adage goes that it is always darkest before the dawn.  This darkness is a last gasp before dawn, and the light of the dawn will be stronger than the dark overwhelming us now.  I know that’s cliché, I know it’s pie-in-the-sky optimism, but I would much rather manifest something good than something bad, wouldn’t you? Thank you for crossing the bridges between my worlds with me!

 

This is the thirteenth entry of my personal journey, the Crossing the Bridges series.  My collectively published writing can be found here.

Pathwalking 260

This is where it all began, five years ago:

How can I make a difference?

This question comes up for me fairly often. I want to help other people see the world in the way that I see it. NOT in a ‘my way is the one true way’ idea at all. On the contrary – I want people to disagree with me. I want them to consider these words, and reject them if they disagree. I want them to think, to consider, to ponder their own view on similar topics.

Just before New Year’s 2012, I determined I would take action instead of make a resolution.  From that plan, the first Wednesday of January, 2012, I took my first Pathwalk.

After the initial fifty-two weeks, I challenged myself to continue.  After the next, again I was determined to maintain this topic and these posts.  Now, I cannot imagine my life without sharing this notion and taking this journey.

This is the two-hundred and sixtieth week I have shared a Pathwalk.  Five years.  As I look back on the idea and philosophy I have begun, I am filled with both a sense of awe and of wonder at all I have written about, what I have and have not accomplished, and what I wish to see from this as I continue.

I published the first year of Pathwalking in book form.  In the future, I want to take this even further, and find ways to work on coaching sessions and talks to share the idea, and to help others find and walk paths of their own.

It was not until the seventh week that I really explained just what Pathwalking is.  The notion of taking a spiritual “walkabout”, and seeking to get to know the self better along the way.  I think, up until then, I may have been still trying to fully piece it together for myself.

Five years have passed now, and I have worked hard with the idea of conscious reality creation, and finding and walking my own path in this life.  Sometimes it comes fairly easily, while at other times it’s certainly a challenge.  Yet I am fairly sure that since I started this, I have enjoyed a more connected, fuller life.

I have developed some key tenets for Pathwalking, which anyone and everyone can apply to their lives.  I am constantly working with these notions to live my life, and to improve upon it.  Some days are easier than others for applying these, but I strive to work with them in order to build the life I most desire to live.

Consciousness Creates Reality.  This, right here, is Life, the Universe and Everything.  I know a lot of people believe themselves to be victims of circumstance or that they actually have very little control of their lives.  While yes, you can’t do anything for anyone else and their life, you can control how you approach you own life.  If you believe you are a victim, if you see only darkness at every turn, odds are pretty good you get exactly that.  But when you can see that life is full or light and possibility, and you can take the wheel of the car and be in control, you become empowered.  When you are feeling empowered, that can take you virtually anywhere you could desire.

Thought, feeling and intentional action move the Universe.  In order to consciously create reality, we have to start with the thoughts about what we want, feel out what it will be like to have the goal, then take intentional actions.  The Secret uses a somewhat, I think, loftier idea with ask, believe, receive.  Yet the message is the same, and you can really manifest almost anything when you take a conscious approach to life.

Awareness is consciousness.  We love our technology, our phones and tablets and other toys.  Ironically, the devices designed to connect us often serve exactly the opposite purpose.  We easily lose track of our awareness of the here and now, and as such our thoughts, feelings and actions lose direction, and our intent to manifest…whatever, meets resistance.  It’s important to stop, ask ourselves “How am I feeling?” and really become aware in the present moment.  Lessons of the past and thoughts on the future are important, but if we are not present we will find ourselves like a car in neutral – engine running, but not going anywhere.

Knowledge is Power, and Empowerment.  I am always learning, always seeking new information about a wide range of topics.  I see the world full of endless possibility, and I love to explore and discover more about it all the time.  The more we know, the more we empower ourselves.  What’s more, things are constantly changing, and the more we choose to learn the more we can face changes and handle them.

Change is inevitable.  Pure and simple, change happens.  Some is in your control, some not so much.  However, when we apply knowledge and awareness and give thought and feeling to our actions, we can face change ready for any good or bad it may show us.  Yoda said “Always in motion is the future,” which could translate to change is unpredictable.  Understanding this, we can face changes to the world around us that are outside of our control by taking control over our own existence, and working with that.

Gratitude is focus.  When we take time to be grateful for the things, people and experiences we have in our lives, we gain focus on matters, and with that focus can work with change to gain new knowledge to become aware, then to think about what we need for ourselves, feel gratitude for that need, and take intentional actions to create it.  If we are not grateful for that which we already have, we are not conscious of our reality, so creating a different one is going to be neigh on impossible.

These are the key tenets to Pathwalking that I have experienced over the past five years.  I hope that you have enjoyed this journey with me, and will continue along your own path, checking in with mine for ideas to live the best lives we can.  Thank you for being my inspiration.

How is the journey along your own paths going?

 

GOAL LOG – Week 50:

Diet:  Fairly unchanged.

Exercise: Two days of fencing.

Writing:  The three blogs got written, and I worked on a new story idea one day.

Meditation:  I got in no meditation last week.  Must fix that.

Gratitude: I wrote five things I was grateful for four days last week.

Please note that The Goal Log will be relocated, come January, to my Crossing the Bridges posts.

 

This is the two-hundred sixtieth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas and my personal experiences in walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

Positivity: No One is Alone

I know that this time of year can be rough for many.  For those of you struggling, I want you to know that you are NOT alone.

We are all in this together.  Each of us finds highs and lows with this season, but I recognize for many it’s particularly unpleasant.  For those of you who feel that way, please know that you are not on your own.

I know what it feels like to be depressed, sad, lonely and uncomfortable.  I understand what you might be going through if you are struggling right now.  I know that we are not by any stretch of the imagination alone in this, and that is an enormous positive.

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Together, we can overcome the blahs.  We can take on the parts of this time of year that make us feel down, that keep us in bed under the covers as long as possible.  Because you are not alone, there is strength in numbers.

I think it’s important for people to know that they have resources available to them, to which they can turn for comfort and support.  Every single one of us on this planet, despite perceived differences, are family.  We are ALL one.  We are all in this together.

The world often seems obsessed with the notion of dividing and conquering.  We separate ourselves from one another through all kinds of artifices, including gender, skin color, religion, nationality, income, sexual orientation, class, and so on and so forth.  Yet below all of these supposed identities, we are all one.  We are all the same at our core, pure energy.

You are not alone.  We are not alone.  We are so much more powerful than we realize.  We can do all kinds of amazing things.  When we can see the positives of this world, and we can feel good about our lives and our options and all the chances we have to make more of ourselves, we can do anything.

No one is alone.  We are all in this together.  I am here for you, even if we don’t know one another in the real world, even if you are a random stranger casually reading this blog.  I care about you, I want you to be happy, and that is why I share this.  Positivity leads to good feelings, and that is what we all deserve.

You have every right to be loved, to feel good about yourself, to be happy.  It doesn’t matter where you come from, it doesn’t matter what your status is, you are not alone and are worthy of all the good.  EVERYONE is worthy of good, and no one should be denied that.  My happiness is not diminished by your happiness, or hers or his or theirs, and we need to work more on recognizing that, rather than splitting ourselves apart in our efforts to gain what we desire.

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No one is alone.  You are not alone.  We’re in this together.  Let’s remember that and build bridges instead of burning them.

Finding positivity is not hard, it just requires action.  Knowing that no one is alone, we can work together to make the world a better place, and help each other out.  When we remind one another that we are not alone, we can see endless possibility, and in seeing that we empower ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the one hundred fifty-first entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

In relation to Positivity, check out my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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Crossing the Bridges: Action for Change

Change cannot be made without actions.

That’s just the way the universe works.  I can think it and feel it all I like…but unless I act upon it, it will not change.  It will remain an idea, a plan, a possibility – but nothing more.

Some actions are harder than others.  Sometimes this is due to excuses, sometimes due to distractions, and sometimes just outright laziness on my part.

I began, almost a year ago, to include a Goal Log atop Pathwalking.  Every week I account for daily tracking of my diet, my exercise, writing, meditation and gratitude.  In theory, this was a really good idea to make myself accountable to myself.  I would see what I am eating daily, exercise happening or no, writing projects happening, time given to meditation, and writing out at least 5 things for which I am grateful, daily.

I have maintained the Goal Log, by-and-large, with only a couple weeks missed.   However, while I am keeping track of things, I am still not sufficiently motivating to accomplish all that I want.  My diet is still all over the place; I don’t take the time to meditate daily that I know I need and know helps my headspace; while the blogs happen, other writing and editing often goes by the wayside; I am still not getting nearly enough exercise; while I am mostly good about writing out my gratitude, I am less good about FEELING grateful for the things I put down.

What’s the point of being accountable to myself if I don’t do anything with this?  Well, that’s the thing.  I need to act in order to better have what I want.  I need to make time for the things that matter, and not just write them down for the sake of putting them out there, but REALLY take advantage of them in order to manifest the life I want.

I think it was a couple of months ago I had stated my intent to get up in the morning and go to the gym.  Great intent.  I even made it once or twice.  But overall, I have not acted on this intention.

These things always involve a process that is, on the one hand, completely simple…while on the other hand, utterly complicated.  For example – think of the thing, feel what it will be like to have the thing you desire, put out intent, and ACT.  Four simple steps.

So let’s say the thing is to get healthy and exercise my body and mind more frequently.  This will feel good, my joints will be happier with me when I take off some weight and I can fit into all my clothing better, I will feel less stressed, and so on and so forth.  The intent is to get to the gym more regularly, take time to meditate daily, and to eat better overall.  All great stuff – but now comes the time to ACT.  Take action, go to the gym more regularly and meditate for a few minutes daily and be better about what I eat and how much.

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Easier said (or in this case typed) than done.  I can plan the plan, that’s terrific…but unless I actually take the necessary actions, all I have is an impressive plan with no substance.

My Pathwalking blog began from taking a New Years Action rather than a Resolution.  It began as intent to Blog Once A Week, and I began…and am just about to hit the 5 year mark from the start!  I have done it before – now it is wholly up to me to do it again.

Fortunately, I have several friends who are also striving to be healthier, and they frequently post to social media with #TeamDoItAnyway.  I will be joining in with them, and as such feel accountable to someone other than myself, which may serve as an additional motivator.

In an effort to start my day earlier and take time to meditate and get to the gym – I am in the process of acquiring a new alarm clock.  Yes, I could use my mobile phone to do this, but I would much rather have a dedicated machine for this purpose.  Again – acting on my intentions.

It is all about action.  This is where I tend to fall short whenever I seek to get from the planning stage to the happening stage.  I am a great planner, but I tend to fall short on my actions.  Here is a perfect opportunity to remedy that…I know the steps, now I just need to actually take them.

I wrote previously about Knowing the Path vs Walking the Path, and this plays into that idea, too.  I know what I want to do here, which is all well and good…but this is an old, old habit in need of changing. Change will only come if I act, and I know what the action must be.  I know what I want, I know what I have to do, all I can do now is do it.

I am striving to do a better job of acting on my intentions.  I have goals I want to achieve, and they will never be reached if I do not act upon them.  Sometimes it does feel like I am swimming against the current, and repeating the same thing over and over expecting different results, but it’s a process, and I alone can act upon it.  Thanks for letting me express this to you, and feel free to hold me accountable.  Thank you for crossing the bridges between my worlds with me!

 

This is the twelfth entry of my personal journey, the Crossing the Bridges series.  My collectively published writing can be found here.

Pathwalking 259

There is a difference between being influenced by outside forces, and getting assistance from them.

For some people this is not an easy distinction to make, but it’s a very important one.

We are constantly surrounded by outside influences.  Most of the social media sites are a part of this.  They are striving for our attention, they want us to do and think and feel certain ways, which may or may not be compatible with what we REALLY want to do and think and feel.

Many people seek, some intentionally, some not, to persuade you to fall under their influence.  Some of this is malicious, some not so much.  People want you to feel a certain way about this topic or that, they want you to act upon something or other, they want you to think just like they think, so that they may furnish you with an opinion.  They want to influence you to buy their product, vote for their candidate, worship their deity, give up your rights because you don’t know better, or take away another’s rights because you should be afraid of them.

On the other side of that coin, though, are people offering or providing assistance.  They may also seek to influence you, but never without your consent.  They will ask you if they can provide you with help or show you a thing or what-have-you.  They are less about giving you their opinion and way and more about helping you find your own opinion and way.

How can you tell the difference between being influenced and assisted?  Generally influence is unsolicited.  They are pushing their beliefs and opinions on you, they are taking actions to sway you that might feel coercive or pushy or otherwise not really wanted.  Assistance is usually solicited, but not always.  Someone assisting you is helping you to work out your own beliefs, form your own opinions to take action.  If they opine for you or tell you what they believe, it is not in a manner to persuade you to do the same, but more as an example for you to work from.

Assistance feels helpful.  It provides answers to questions and solutions to problems that resonate with your core beliefs and feelings and thoughts.  Receiving assistance is a positive experience, helping you to move forward and learn and grow.

Further, almost nobody seeks influence.  Of course there are people out there who would much rather not make any decisions for themselves, and so they want to be influenced by others.  They want to be told how they should think and feel.  But most of us don’t like when other people tell us how to behave.

That’s what a lot of this boils down to.  The influencers want a specific way of behavior, and for whatever reason take umbrage with the massive individuality of people.  We all have unique backgrounds, we all think in our own way, and we all have separate hopes and dreams and aspirations for our lives.  Some people find all this diversity overwhelming and intimidating.

I never try to influence anyone to walk anyone’s path but their own.  Pathwalking, as I practice is, is NOT for everyone.  How I Pathwalk versus how you Pathwalk is going to differ, because we come from different places and are on different paths.  Even if, like me, you are a writer trying to get to the next level and empower people to be inspired, you are not going about it exactly the same way that I am.

I seek out assistance from time to time.  There are people who know things I do not.  There are always new books to read or listen to that will give me new insights, new ideas and new ways to find the life I want for myself.  Opinions and ideas are changeable, so every new piece of information can take me to all kinds of different places.

Some may not recognize the difference between influence and assistance.  If you are trying to force your opinion or ideas onto others, you are working as an influencer.

I have been teaching fencing for twenty years.  I can teach any single person two to four different means to an end.  I offer to assist by showing them what I think may be best for them, but I always make it clear that my way is NOT the One True Way, and that another may show them something else down the line that works even better for them.

It is slightly less easy to recognize unasked for assistance from influence, but language is a big cue.  If someone says, “May I offer a suggestion?” or “Have you considered” or “I know it’s none of my business, but did you view if from this angle?” they are trying to assist.  If someone says, “Let me tell you how this is done,” or “You’re wrong, let me tell you how it is (vs let me explain WHY you are wrong,” or “I know it’s none of my business, but you should know this is how it is,” likely they are working at influencing.

Assistance is often needed and wanted.  We get stuck on a problem or reach a crossroads we cannot traverse without help.  Sometimes, we don’t seek it, but it finds us anyhow.  Somebody makes a suggestion or offers an idea or shows us something that opens new channels and provides us with new directions.

Assistance is a positive force for change.  Influence is a negative force for control.  Be conscious of how you feel when you are faced with influence or assistance, so that you know which you are receiving.

Do you prefer to be asked, or told?

 

GOAL LOG – Week 49:

Diet:  Holiday season is tricky, but working on it.

Exercise: Two days of fencing, one at the gym.

Writing:  The three blogs got written, and I worked on my sci-fi novel on one day.

Meditation:  I meditated one day last week, about 6 minutes.

Gratitude: I wrote five things I was grateful for six days last week.

 

This is the two-hundred fifty-ninth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas and my personal experiences in walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

Positivity: Imagination and Creativity

While it’s important to focus on the here-and-now, and not get caught up in memories of yesterday and plans for tomorrow, it is also important to remain creative and imaginative.

Creativity and imagination are the things that most set us apart from the rest of the animal kingdom.  Unlike the rest of the creatures crawling, swimming and flying around this planet, we have deep, incredible, miraculous powers of creativity.

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Sure, birds build nests and beavers construct elaborate damns that can all be really unique, but no other creature on this planet harnesses energy from fossil fuels, wind and sun; no other creature builds cities of glass and stone and steel; no other race creates mechanical means to transport themselves across the globe other than their own feet; we stand uniquely creative in our power to do that.

We have developed astounding things in the past century that have set us apart even further.  The technology to create electronic words and images and transmit them instantaneously across the globe is creativity only heard of in fantasy not so incredibly long ago.

Our world is what it is today because of astounding creations wholly unique to humanity.  We are better able to connect with one-another across the globe, and to work together to create nearly anything we can think of.  Our only limitation is our imagination.

We can imagine a world of peace, capability, freedom and Positivity for all.  We can imagine a world that is better, happier, more open and tolerant and accepting than this one.  We have taken steps to create that world, and we can continue to imagine new ways to create new things that are better than what we have now.

Current circumstances, largely tied to concerns about the future, make this seem like a pipe dream in some ways.  But if we do not imagine and create, we cannot change what we are facing, and that is not something I for one am willing to accept.  We can imagine a better world, and from that point we can go ahead and create that world.

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Imagination and creativity are phenomenal forces of Positivity.  Forces every single one of us can employ.  Thoughts lead to feelings which take us to actions, and from there we can do amazing things.

Finding positivity is not hard, it just requires action.  Knowing that our imagination can take us to all kinds of new and amazing places, we can use that to create bigger and better things for ourselves.  When we imagine and create incredible things, through our imagination and creativity we empower ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the one hundred fiftieth entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

In relation to Positivity, check out my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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