The Ramblings of the Titanium Don

Explorations of Conscious Reality Creation and Other Matters

Month: August 2016

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If you want to change the world, you have to begin with changing yourself.

It is that simple, and of course at the same time that complicated.

Change is challenging.  I don’t want to call it hard, because really it’s not that hard to make change.  But change IS challenging.

Why?  Because change is frequently a journey into the unknown.  We take steps into unexplored territory, to places we have never been, maybe even never really dreamed about.  Change is different.  Change is exciting and terrifying and a huge ball of crazy emotions.

To change the world, we have to begin much, much smaller.  We have to begin with ourselves.  Our own visions, desires, intentions and actions are where all change stems from.  If we do not change from within, we would be hard pressed to even recognize change from without.

Yes, sometimes there is a big, huge idea or thing that leads to change from the outside.  When you are hit by a car or receive the job of your dreams or meet your soul mate, those are gargantuan changes that are effected from outside of yourself.  The world at large is changed from without from time to time as well, though frequently this is rather violent, involving revolution or a devastating natural disaster or what-have-you.

The simplest and most profound way to change the world is by changing yourself.

The biggest mistake most people make, and I certainly make it, is that we consider change.  We envision change.  We have these fantastic ideas about how we will change ourselves, do the things we need to do, and improve our lives.  Plans, concepts, methods are considered, and change feels like it is on the horizon and we’re ready for it.

What’s missing?  Action.  Specifically, inspired action.  Intentional action.  I can plan, plot, devise and consider all the ideas for change I want…but unless I take some sort of action, all I have is a notion of change, but no real change.

For a lot of people, the process feels like action.  I came up with this awesome idea to change my life, I am really psyched about it, I got it all planned out…and now I am exhausted.  Planning is action, right?  Except it’s not.  Planning is not doing.

This is why instead of making New Years Resolutions, I began to take New Years Actions.  I can resolve to do a thing all I want, but the actual doing is a whole other matter.

So I want to change the world, but I know that first and foremost I need to change myself.  I can plot and plan until the cows come home, but without taking any action nothing will change.

Things change whether we act or not.  This is true, however, do you have any real control over those changes?  Were those changes of your making, or were they spawned from someone or something else?  If I say I am planning to change my job, and then do nothing, but get laid off from my current job along the way, certainly I’ve experienced change.  But I didn’t choose it.

Pathwalking is about choice.  This is MY life, and I alone get to live it.  I want to change this thing or that thing.  To change, there has to be intentional action.

What’s the difference between intentional action and regular action?  Simple – intentional action is purposeful, decisive.  It means something to you, it carries weight and feeling.  Regular action just kind of happens, and we are all guilty of taking “action” to look busy or just to feel as if we are doing SOMETHING.  That is usually going to get us nowhere, at least not where we are aiming to go.

Once you determine what changes you want to make, and take intentional actions to effect those changes, you are doing the thing that will get you where you want to go.  In this way, you change the world.

There are any number of powers-that-be, authority figures, so-called leaders and the like who want us all disempowered.  They want to control us, they want us to be good little sheep and play by their rules, live as they see fit.  Some are dynamic and charismatic, some are narcissistic and fear-mongering.  They throw around phrases and ideas like “change the world”, but really what they are after is their own narrow vision.  Real change is individual.  Because the world as we each perceive it is so vastly different.

How I see this world is not how you see it.  Sure, there are points we agree upon, I don’t doubt, but none-the-less our world views are dissimilar.  Because of environment, upbringing, ethnicity, gender and other self-identifiers our views of the world at large differ far more than we realize.  This is not a world of either/or, good/bad, black/white, male/female and such…it is a wider, more colorful, more diverse world in an even larger, more colorful and more diverse galaxy in an infinitely gargantuan universe.

The limits we create are our own.  When we recognize this, the changes we can make are infinite.  And when we change ourselves, we truly do change the world, because each and every one of us lives in a different, but shared world.  Change ourselves for the better, change the world for the better.

Make the plan, but take the intentional action.  If you want to change the world, you have to begin with changing yourself.

What do you want to change about the world?  What do you want to change about yourself?

 

GOAL LOG – Week 34:

Diet:  Overall, still decent.  I continue to mostly avoid sugar.

Exercise: Fencing happened twice week, and I got to the gym once.  Still a work in progress.

Writing:  I didn’t think I did it, but I managed to get in 3 days of writing last week.

Meditation:  Three days last week, at least 6 minutes each of those days.

Gratitude: I wrote five things I was grateful for every day last week.

 

This is the two-hundred forty-fourth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas and my personal experiences in walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

Positivity: Forgive Yourself

The hardest person to forgive is yourself.  There is tremendous positivity in forgiveness.

Whether you are not meeting what you think other people expect of you, or more likely you are not living up to your own expectations, you probably have experienced a need to forgive yourself, and that can be challenging.

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It is important that we recognize we are only human, and forgive ourselves when we are less-than-perfect.

Thing is, everyone is perfectly themselves, and as such perfectly imperfect.  Perfection, like beauty, is in the eye, or probably more likely the mind of the beholder.

We all tend to set ourselves up to fail from time to time.  We have grand goals, plans big or small, intentions and activities plotted.  However, as any strategist can tell you, no plan survives contact with the enemy.

You planned to attend your friend’s barbecue.  You intended to wash the car.  You were not going to eat that donut.  You planned to do the laundry.  Then something happened, and the plan did not come to fruition.  Now you feel guilty for failing, and as such you are feeling bad.

Life happens.  You missed the barbecue because you had to take care of a sick pet.  You meant to wash the car, but took a nap instead.  That donut had really tasty filling and was irresistible.  Instead of doing the laundry you watched a movie.  Were any of these things done to intentionally hurt anyone?  Was there malicious intent?  If, as is probable, the answer is no…then forgive yourself.  You are allowed to do something else and change your plans.

Most of the time when we feel guilty about letting someone else down, we mostly have let ourselves down.  We did not live up to our own expectations.  Frequently the thing we think caused offense to someone else was not even a blip on their radar.  So who needs to forgive you?  You do.

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Why should you forgive yourself?  Because unless you have done something malicious or underhanded or inappropriate to someone else, then the person who needs to forgive you is in all probability you.  Everyone understands that things happen, that plans fall apart, and life is ridiculously imperfect.  Forgive yourself when you do not live up to your own self-expectations, because you deserve to be free of guilt and similar negativity.

Easier to forgive others than ourselves.  But there is so very much positivity in forgiving ourselves.  Life is simply more joyful when we recognize and work with this.  I know it’s not always easy, but that doesn’t make it any less worthwhile.

Finding positivity is not hard, it just requires action.  Knowing that you are only human, and that life can throw you unexpected curveballs, you can choose to forgive yourself for not living up to your own expectations.  When we forgive ourselves and recognize that we have no need of the guilt and other negative emotions we have without that forgiveness, ultimately we empower ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the one hundred thirty-fourth entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

In relation to Positivity, check out my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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Pathwalking 243

We all experience things that cause us to have an immediate, negative emotional response.

Last week I wrote about not holding onto that and letting it take hold of you.

So, what are some means by which to cope with a negative emotional response?

Everyone can employ something different, and there is of course no one true response.  Also, situationally, different matters may call for a different response.  Some options for releasing that immediate negative response could include meditation, crying, screaming, taking it out on a punching bag, kicking a can across the lawn, and so on.

Depending on intensity, and what the emotion is and how deep it runs, combinations of actions may be required to allow for release.

I need to clarify a couple points before I go on.  First – this is specifically about that immediate, negative emotional response to something that has happened.  That gut-wrenching, upsetting, intense emotional feeling, whether it is anger, upset, sadness, rage, jealousy, or some other visceral reaction to something.  High-energy negativity, which could easily spiral into more, deeper negativity along the way if it is not acknowledged and then redirected.

Second – it is absolutely impossible to avoid this.  Congratulations, we are all human, and as such we all are susceptible to experiencing deep feelings, both positive and negative.  Because that is the case here, I want to acknowledge that this happens, and that it presents you choices to be made, despite the belief that such deep emotion can feel like it is impossible to stop.

Third – Negative emotions can be useful.  When you are in danger, when you have been used and/or abused by someone, when you finally realize that a situation you are in no longer works for you and this immediate negative emotion occurs, that can powerfully move you onwards.  This can be the inciting incident that helps you to see a situation of some sort might need to be changed, and as such can serve a purpose.

Fourth – To know positive emotions, we need to know the negative as well.  This is a dichotomy.  The opposite sides of the same coin.  The yin to the yang.  We can’t understand feeling good if we don’t understand feeling bad.  Believe me, having very little good emotion but an overbalance of negative is rough and unsustainable.

Finally – this idea is about control.  Rather than letting that immediate, powerful negative emotion take control of you and send you into a tailspin or downward spiral of further negativity, be it sadness, depression, guilt, anger or what-have-you, this is about taking back control of the matter and processing it so that you move on, rather than have your purpose and you plans derailed.

Because that immediate, negative reaction and emotional response can be so powerful, it can cause you to proceed in a direction you do not want to go.  Nobody I know wants to feel more anxious, more depressed, more guilty, more angry and so forth.

Rather than let that happen, action is required in order to release the negativity, so that you can move on.

It begins with acknowledging that something has happened.  Feel that feeling, this is in no way about denying or repressing the negative emotion.  It is good to feel it, the matter at hand here is letting it linger.

Once you recognize that it might be lingering, you need to examine that negative emotion or emotions, and determine what it might take for you to let them go.  What action can you take that will help you to feel better, and to seek out more positive experiences?

Suggestions I made previously include crying it out, ranting and screaming, meditating, punching or kicking something (preferably something that won’t cause you or someone else injury), going for a walk or a run, writing out a letter you won’t necessarily send, finding something you can break, and so on.  This needs to be an action, because action is the best means of transition from one place to another, even when those places are emotional.

It is important to note here that, just because you take actions to release the negative emotions, they may not simply be gone.  Depending on what triggered this, you may need to take a daily action to expand upon the release, you might need to use a different action to also give you release, etc.  Further, things may happen along the way that bring the initial negative emotional response back to the surface.  The idea here is that we can’t not feel negative emotions, but we can work on not allowing them to take root, and to be our way of approaching life, the universe and everything.

Shit happens.  We all have good days and bad days, and every single one of us will experience something where, emotionally, we will get hurt.  This is part of the human condition.  The question is, will you let that hurt make you a victim of life, or will you choose a different path?

Lastly, please know that you are not alone.  You might feel like you are, you may feel as if you are enduring far too much negativity, but no matter how intense it is, you are not alone.  I’ve been there.  So has almost everyone else.  We can get past these moments, and we can still choose and walk the paths we desire.

How do you release negative emotions?

 

GOAL LOG – Week 33:

Diet:  Overall, decent.  I think I still need fewer carbs, but I continue to mostly avoid sugar.  Summer is nearly over, and I’ve had NO ice cream!

Exercise: Fencing happened one day last week, and that was pretty much it for exercise.  I need to adjust this a lot.

Writing:  Apart from the blogs, zilch.  I totally need to get back into writing and editing daily.

Meditation:  Four days last week, at least 4 minutes each of those days.

Gratitude: I wrote five things I was grateful for every day last week.

 

This is the two-hundred forty-third entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas and my personal experiences in walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

Positivity: Perception

You get to choose how you perceive the world.

Do you perceive this world as a place of terror, of agony, of hopelessness and sadness?  Or do you see this world as a place of possibility, of joy, of hope and happiness?

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Yes, I cannot deny that bad things happen in the world.  There are people who are sick, war refugees, homeless, and other undesirable realities.  However, our overall perception of the world is individual, and we get to choose whether we perceive a world of negativity or a world of positivity.

It often feels like this is not true.  Frequently it seems hard to believe that we have any power at all.  But nonetheless, each and every one of us gets to choose our own perception of the world around us.

I should further explain that I am not advocating seeing the world through rose-colored glasses.  This is not about pie-in-the-sky unreality, this is about your personal angle of perception.  Do you choose to approach your view of the world from a negative space, or a positive one?

You get to decide if you see a world of possibility or a world of futility.  A world of experience or endurance.  A world of potential or a world of struggle.  You can choose how to perceive this world, no matter what is happening out there around you.

When we get so caught up in these huge, seemingly world-dominating matters, we fail to see that we can choose our own individual experiences, and from there effect how the world will work for us.  We can perceive a world of excitement and hope or dread and fearfulness.

Keep that in mind as you scroll through your social media outlets.  Be cognizant of what you post, and what you read, and try not to allow your perception to be colored by the deluge of negativity.  Seek out things that make you feel good.

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Being informed is good, but being inundated is unnecessary.  You don’t need to drown in negative perceptions of the world; instead you can choose to swim through and seek out the good.

You choose how you perceive the world around you.  Consider that well.  Then choose wisely.

Finding positivity is not hard, it just requires action.  Knowing that you can choose your own perspective on life, you can change both your present mindset and your outlook.  When we see the world for its possibilities, and in a positive light, ultimately we empower ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the one hundred thirty-fourth entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

In relation to Positivity, check out my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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Pathwalking 242

Ultimately, when it comes to how I feel, I am the only one who has any say.

For a lot of people, this seems hard to believe, I don’t doubt.  Why?  Because things happen that elicit an emotional response we have no control over.

Which is not true.

I agree that things happen that cause an emotional response.  Yes, we get into car accidents, we spill food on our clothes, we get hurt by someone we love, we do something we feel bad about later.  The immediate emotional response is a thing that happens, and that we cannot necessarily alter.

What we can change, however, is the emotion after that initial response.

The real issue I see in both myself and in others is how long I let that initial emotional response take hold of me.  Yes, I might feel sad, or angry, or insignificant, or hurt, or whatever negative matter you care to insert when whatever happens, happens.  However, it is what I do with that initial response that is important.

There are several ways in which we can and likely do handle that initial emotional response.  The challenge is in whether we gain control of the emotion, or let the emotion control us.

Most people simply go with it.  They feel whatever emotion has come up, they probably dwell on it for a time, and eventually it fades away.  This process will take variable amounts of time depending on the person, and how they manage themselves and their state of being.  There is nothing wrong with this response, and it’s pretty natural.

Some people, however, let that initial emotional response become a downward spiral.  She broke up with me!  I am obviously no good.  Clearly I don’t deserve to be happy.  I am worthless.  I am unlovable.  The downward spiral leads to deeper negativity, sadness, and quite possibly depression.

Depression is bad enough.  But what’s more problematic is when people allow their negative emotional responses to dictate their lives.  They suffer from depression, they have panic attacks, they might even allow themselves to become a victim.

I want to clarify the meaning of victim in this context.  I am not talking about someone who has been attacked or raped or otherwise victimized in some way.  I am talking about emotional victimization.  I am not even talking about emotional abuse, I am talking about when a person allows themselves to be victimized by their own emotional response and the downward spiral it has triggered.

To be fair, almost everyone goes through this at some point in their life.  Someone hurt you emotionally, you got upset and felt bad about it, but then you got angry and started questioning why me? and over time you were the victim because of how that person hurt you.  Probably this happened when you were still in middle school or high school.

Some people, however, do not learn a better response, and they continue to be victimized emotionally every time they get dumped, lose a job, don’t get invited to a party, and so on.  They let their hurt become their life, and they are constantly a victim.

After we have the initial emotional response to whatever situation we are facing, we get to choose how we will handle it from there.  Yes, I am upset or hurt or sad, but what do I do with it now?

This is why I say that when it comes to how I feel, I am the only one who has any say.  I can linger in the initial negative emotional response of whatever situation I am dealing with, or I can choose to find a way to let it go and move on.

No, this is not easy, in especial if you are an emotional person.  When you are the type of person who lives more in their heart than in their mind, I suspect that this is particularly challenging.  Yet ultimately I am the one who feels what I feel.

Additionally, people who have clinical depression and anxieties and similar issues have this challenge further magnified.

Nobody else feels what you feel, or how you feel it.  Period.  Oh sure, we give common names to feelings like happy, sad, love, hate, fear, joy and whatnot.  But how they feel is different for each and every one of us, which is where how we understand the intensity of emotions between one another gets particularly broken down.

This is why after we have that initial intense emotional response to a situation, it is important to check in with ourselves and determine if we really want to hold onto it, or work it out in some way.

This is not about forgetting something bad has happened.  Life is full of ups and downs, and I do not deny bad things happen.  But how long we hold onto those bad feelings is entirely under our control.  We need to develop coping mechanisms that will help us to release those bad feelings, and move on with our lives lest we become victims of our own emotions.

How?  That’s a challenge worthy of further exploration.  The short answer is that we need to choose means to release the way we are feeling so that we can change it.  Meditation, crying, screaming, taking it out on a punching bag, kicking a can across the lawn can all work, depending on intensity, and what the emotion is and how deep it runs.

This does not make the emotional response go away, but it does make it easier to not hold onto it, and be ruled by bad feelings.  Next week I will further explore means to change our emotional responses.

How do you handle things that make you feel bad?

 

GOAL LOG – Week 32:

Note – I did not maintain my goal log during my vacation.  Restarted it this week, so it will be back next week.

 

This is the two-hundred forty-second entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas and my personal experiences in walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

Positivity: Rest

Everybody needs a chance to rest.

Whether it is merely a few minutes, a night, or an extended vacation, rest is essential to our wellbeing.  We might have things that need to be done frequently, but we still need to rest and relax from time to time.

Despite negative connotations in the idea of rest, such as slacking off or laziness or other similar perceptions, there is enormous positivity in resting.

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Resting allows us to change our focus.  Resting allows us to recover from strains physical, mental and/or emotional.  Resting gives us a chance to restart, to alter our approach, to examine where we have been, where we are and where we are going.

So how come our society doesn’t seem to like us to rest?  I suspect that this is borne of the incessant need to always be productive, to always be doing something, to always be in motion lest we be perceived as inferior, and as such we get passed up or passed by or otherwise fail.

It often feels like our society rewards people who never stop, never slow, never seem to take a break from action.  However, we are only human.  We all need to take breaks, to collect our thoughts, to rest and recuperate, to take new directions and actions in our lives.

Rest can take any number of forms.  A few minutes reading Facebook off your phone at work.  A walk outside in the sun.  Grabbing coffee and chatting with friends and/or coworkers.  Meditating.  Falling into your favorite spot on the couch and watching something on TV for a while.  Playing a game.  Taking a trip to the beach and lying in a hammock with icy beverages for a week.  Rest in all of these forms is hugely positive.

It’s important to recognize the difference between rest and distraction.  Rest is just that, a break, a pause, time out or time off for a period.  Distraction is taking a new action or following a new process that is just a different form of busy work or pseudo-productivity that does not provide the break from stimulus we need for our greater positivity and overall wellbeing.

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Nobody can go twenty-four-seven.  It’s just not possible, we all need to rest, which is different from sleep.  We need breaks that allow us to shift ourselves physically, emotionally and intellectually or some combination of these, and allow ourselves a chance to discover lots of means for positivity.

Rest is good for our health on every level, and should not be something we deny ourselves.  We all deserve rest for our wellbeing, and from our wellbeing to build greater positivity in our lives.

Finding positivity is not hard, it just requires action.  Knowing that everybody needs to rest, we can seek out and find mean to take these necessary mental, physical and emotional breaks.  When we allow ourselves to get rest, whether its short breaks of lengthy vacations, we uncover better means to empower ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the one hundred thirty-third entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

In relation to Positivity, check out my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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Pathwalking 241

It’s that time of the year again.  As you are reading this, I am on vacation.

I wanted to look back and see what I wrote last year at this time.  That, in turn, led me to read what I had written the previous year during this same week.

I didn’t stop there.  I paused and took a quick look back to all of my previous Pathwalks that were posted while I was on my annual vacation.  This year is my fifth.

Why does it matter that I still Pathwalk while on my vacation? This is the question I find I must pose to myself.

The first thing I should mention is that this is the twenty-first year I am attending the Pennsic War.  I have been to every consecutive one of these grand events during that time, alongside ten to fifteen-thousand others, for the past twenty years.

The Pennsic War is a two-week long event of the Society for Creative Anachronism, a world-wide medieval re-creation society I have been a part of since college, twenty-five years total this fall.  I have made amazing friends across the world in the years I have participated in this game, and this event is one of the biggest and most colorful.

I generally attend for about ten days total, and spend those days walking all over the place, fencing, shooting archery, and enjoying the company of some of my favorite people.  Many of you who read this might even be with me, or possibly facing me across the field.

When I created Pathwalking, it began as part of a New Years’ Action.  Rather than a resolution, when 2011 became 2012, I determined that I would take an action, and that action was a weekly blog.  It has been more than four-and-a-half years, and I continue these weekly posts, exploring this philosophy I continue to develop and work to improve upon.

Ok, so what?  Well, one of the things I most enjoy about attending Pennsic is that, being medieval re-creation, we dress in time-period appropriate garb, and use the event to escape the pressures of our modern society.

Twenty years ago this was quite a lot easier.  They used to bring in banks of pay-phones, for which there were still usually lines, to accommodate ten-thousand people checking in at home from time-to-time.

With the popularization of cellular phones, which themselves have evolved into incredible micro-computers, it is easy to remain connected to the real world, and still keep tabs on the wonders of social media, and of course the news.

Personally, I choose to use this vacation to escape from the modern world.  This is why, while yes you are reading a new post, I wrote this ahead of time and set it up to post on this day, while I am offline resting, relaxing, and having a good time with friends.

Yes, I have an iPhone and can totally connect to Facebook and G+ and Twitter.  I could even connect a larger wireless device and still write this on my vacation for posting.  However, I choose to disconnect, because this is part of my reset process.

In a past year I wrote about how disconnecting from time to time is a very helpful thing.  I mean, looking at the awful political climate here in the United States, let along other world happenings; it is rather soothing to be able to disconnect and escape from the insanity.

Yet it is important to me that I keep up with my action, and these weekly posts still go on.  It is extremely important to me that I maintain this unbroken chain, and that I keep the action I took for myself going.  Four and a half years on, I have not missed a week, and strive to keep going with that.

So what’s the point of this rambling post this week?  I want to say thank you.  Thank you for continuing to travel with me on my path.  I created Pathwalking for my own need to find my own way in life, and decided to share because I thought it might be a helpful notion for others.

However, as I have continued this through the years, knowing that I have touched others with these posts, and my ideas, I am even more grateful that I have you to bounce this concept off of.  You are why it is important to me that this post is still here, even when I am taking a break from the so-called real world.

I have written a lot across these posts.  Two-hundred and forty-one weeks, as many posts, a lot of different topics of focus, sometimes a different angle on a previously discussed matter.  While I take my vacation from my job and from the instantly-connected world, and social media, this is too important to me to let go, because you are so important to my path.

This might be a bit sappy, I suppose, but I still feel I need to express to you my gratitude.  Thank you for reading, and I hope you will continue to travel these paths with me, as you explore your own.

What do you do on your vacations?

 

GOAL LOG – Week 31:

Note – I am not maintaining my goal log during my vacation, but still want to leave this here.

Diet: I am probably not eating my best, but likely burning it off with the walking alone.

Exercise: If this is a typical Pennsic, I am walking miles every day, and fencing, and shooting archery, and getting a ton of exercise in.

Writing:  Likely little of this is happening.

Meditation:  Unknown.

Gratitude: I hope to be maintaining this.

 

This is the two-hundred forty-first entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas and my personal experiences in walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

Positivity: The Zone

Seek things that can put you in the zone.

What is the zone?  The zone is that place where you are in perfect harmony with the universe.  You aren’t thinking, you are just being.  Whatever you might be doing while in the zone is often effortless, seems impossibly easy, and is immensely positive.

A lot of different references to the idea of the zone have been made throughout history.  Miyamoto Musashi in his Book of Five Rings referred to the zone as “the place of no mind”.  Some people call it the void.  Some call it nirvana.  However you might refer to it, the zone is the ultimate place of the here-and-now and nowhere all at once.

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Too often we get focused on the past or looking towards the future.  We neglect being in the now, we don’t mind where we are at this moment.  Or, conversely, we see the now based on the results of past and future, as we feel down or concerned or anxious or nearly any other negative feeling.

When we are in the zone, we are completely present but still detached.  Athletes reference this state of being most frequently, that place where the muscle memory takes over and instead of overthinking you just move through.

Meditation is a great way to get yourself into the zone, but by no means the only way.  When you are sitting still, when you are taking a walk, when you are working out at the gym, when you are showering before going to work you can get yourself into the zone, perfectly present yet detached and able to generate immense positivity.

How can you be both present and detached?  By not letting emotions, in especial negative emotions, dominate your thought.  We often get caught up in our emotions, concerns about past actions, worries about upcoming events, coping with people or events we dread either past or present.  But when we are in the zone we can be in the present in thought alone, detached from emotion.

Yes, I frequently write about the need to think, feel and act to manifest.  However, its easy to overthink, overfeel, and even overact.  You think past the idea to the pitfalls and potential problems.  You feel good about one thing, but bad about how others might react.  When you act you do so beyond just intention, but into unnecessary steps that either do not help or in truth hinder the goal.

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In the zone you can be wholly present but detached, and that is always positive.  Why?  Because it is a place of peace and utter calm where action and thought just feel good, and no other emotion intrudes.  We are ultimately empowered when we find the zone, and we should strive to be there more often.

In the here-and-now in the manner getting into the zone brings us, that is what pure positivity feels like.

Finding positivity is not hard, it just requires action.  Knowing that we can all find ways to get into the zone, or the place of no mind, or the void, whatever you call it, we can strive to reach it.  When we get ourselves to that place, we can feel pure positivity, and with that we empower ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the one hundred thirty-second entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

In relation to Positivity, check out my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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I frequently write about energy.

I believe that everything, at its core, is energy.  That is the center of the Universe, that is the point of origin for all.  We begin and end as energy, neither created nor destroyed, frequently transmuted.

Over the past half a year plus, I have been working to meditate more frequently.  Why?  Because meditation is the ultimate means to connect to source energy.

What is source energy?  Source energy is pure energy in the air, surrounding us, penetrating us, binding the galaxy together.  Yes, it is The Force, but it is still a very real thing.  Nevertheless, source energy, or universal energy, is the ultimate.

We are made of energy at our deepest, most intricate level.  Everything we can see, touch, smell or otherwise engage with is made of energy.  And of course, the devices that connect us across the world utilize energy in a wholly different form.  It is everywhere, and it is constant, and it cannot be created nor destroyed, just transmuted and repurposed.

Meditating, as I explained earlier this week in Positivity, is a great means to allow one to connect and disconnect with the universe.  On the one hand you can seek out your own inner thoughts and manage them in new ways, while on the other you can utterly lose yourself and join source energy for a time.

However you choose to meditate, this is an ultimate chance to pause, to get ahold of yourself, to experience the world while connected with everything at its most base existence…and yet be disconnected from it all.

Why does connecting with source energy matter?  Because it provides us with an opportunity to ultimately examine ourselves.  Not just the past and present, and not the immediate, touchable here-and-now, but our core, true, intentional selves.

What does that mean?  In Billy Joel’s The Stranger, the opening line is “Well we all have a face that we hide away forever, and we take them out and show ourselves when everyone has gone.”  The thing is, we don’t just wear faces for other people, we wear them for ourselves, too.

Sometimes this is a necessary evil.  When you get out of bed after a restless night of insomnia, stub your toe, then drop the cap of your toothpaste down the drain and burn your tongue on the first cup of coffee,  chances are you might just spiral into a terrible day.  However, if you work to leave that all behind and put on a different face, you don’t show up to work carrying with you that crazy, no good, terrible morning.

You choose to put on a different face in part for yourself, so that you can do what needs to be done, and in part for everyone else, so that you don’t present to them a bitter, angry, flustered person nobody would want to be around, yourself included.

So we are constantly putting on different faces, different attitudes, and as such leaving behind our genuine selves.  Frequently, who we really are is covered under a different persona that has been cultivated to help you walk the path you have chosen.

Connecting with source energy allows us to get ourselves beneath the faces we wear, under the surface and deep into our core.  We get to venture to a place where, merging into Universal energy, we needn’t wear even our skin, so we can be our most real, most genuine, most true self.

This is not always easy.  Sometimes when I meditate, getting into the zone is challenging.  There are times I can neither focus nor unfocus, and I might just sit there quiet for more time than truly getting to merge into that source energy.  But I strive to achieve this goal, because I love the ultimate freedom deep mediation opens me up to.

When you go to source energy, you become energy.  This is where we begin, it is where we will end, we simply have transmuted into this meat suit we present to the world, fat, thin, short, tall, black, white male, female, or what-have-you.  The real, core you and me is energy, and meditating connects us back to source energy, back to the core of it all.

By converging with source energy, we allow ourselves to be fully, completely and totally open to endless possibilities.  We are ultimately free to experience both the little and the grand things.  We can find the answers to almost all of our questions, because when we are one with Universal energy everything is possible.

This is why energy is so important.  When we recognize that we are pure energy at our own core, and we seek to connect to the energy at the core of the universe, we can find calm, peace, contentment, and all the answers we could possibly desire.

I am striving to meditate daily because I find that the sensations I experience when connecting to Universal energy are incomparable.  I find that if I mediate in the morning my day feels more connected, and I feel as though I am better able to manage everything the comes my way.  If I mediate in the night I find that my sleep is more restful, and I am better able to do things like write these posts or work on other necessary projects.

When we recognize that we are energy, and that energy is the root of it all, we can make better choices and more happily traverse the paths we have chosen for our lives.

Do you connect yourself to core energy?

 

GOAL LOG – Week 30:

Diet: I am still eating fairly decently.  Had more sugar this past week, feel I need to cut back further on that and on carbs still as well.

Exercise: I was a bit of a slug this week, apart from a night of packing up the car after a day up and down many stairs.  Otherwise, not my week for exercising.  Next week is Pennsic, so TONS of walking, fencing and exercise on the horizon.

Writing:  See above.  And next week will probably be little-to-no writing, as I will be away and focused on other things.

Meditation:  Seven total days of meditation, no less than 5 minutes each day.

Gratitude: I wrote out 5 things to be grateful for every day.

 

This is the two-hundred fortieth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas and my personal experiences in walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

Positivity: Meditation

Meditation can do a lot of good.

We live in a world of almost endless noise.  Everywhere we turn we are inundated with information, with calls for help, action, and choices to be made.  People often can’t just be content with the sounds of nature and carry music or employ some other distraction.  Noise everywhere.

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Mediation is often misunderstood.  The word alone, for many, conjures images of people sitting cross-legged, palms up, chanting “Om” repeatedly.  This is a valid form of meditation, but by no means the only one.

Meditation is taking time-out to let your thoughts just flow about while you work to connect with source energy.  You try to find balance, find stillness, find a connection to the Universe.  It is not necessarily quieting your mind, but that is frequently an effect of the practice.  Meditating can change your state of being.

Some people do meditate cross-legged in the classic lotus position.  Some meditate from a chair.  Some people meditate lying down.  Eyes closed or focused on a single point, you focus on your breathing, or a noise or music in the background, or energy flowing into your body, or some combination of all these.  You connect to something more out there, and as such you connect more with you.

This is an amazing means to generate positivity in our lives.  We can use meditation to work out unpleasant thoughts and negative energy and draw in happy thoughts and positive energy.  Once you have taken the time to begin meditation, you can thoroughly build from that foundation.

Meditating gives focus, can clear the mind, and opens channels to different energies.  This is an opportunity to create new positivity.  This can be a really simple but effective means to an end.

Yes, everybody is busy, and yes, time as we perceive it is frequently at a premium.  But it is not necessary to spend all that much time in your day, relatively speaking, to meditate.  All of the studies and medical and scientific and metaphysical experts say that even a few minutes a day is seriously good for our mental health.

Finding just five minutes in the sixteen plus hours you’re awake every day to meditate may seem challenging, but the reward in positivity you can build with that short but powerful span is worthwhile.  In a world full of so much negativity, we could all use more tools to generate greater positivity.

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Every tool we can employ to make our lives better can be used to make our world better overall.  Taking time to connect with source energy is a stronger connection with yourself.  The connection with the self that comes with meditation, whatever form you choose, is pretty magnificent.  When we connect more with ourselves, the connections we have with others only get stronger.

Finding positivity is not hard, it just requires action.  Knowing that everyone can practice meditation, and that it is a relatively simple act requiring not much time at all, we can make use of meditating to generate positivity.  When we close out that noise and focus on connecting with source energy, we better empower ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the one hundred thirty-first entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

In relation to Positivity, check out my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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