The Ramblings of the Titanium Don

Explorations of Conscious Reality Creation and Other Matters

Month: July 2016 (Page 1 of 2)

Pathwalking 239

While you, and you alone, can choose and walk a given path, you don’t necessarily need to do so on your own.

The key is to know the difference between allowing someone to offer guidance, advice and help versus control, obstruction and discouragement.

Nobody knows everything.  Plain and simple, nobody knows everything.

Because that’s the case, everyone needs to seek help, advice and assistance from time to time.  While we may each have our own expertise, there will always be something we do not have familiarity with, and we may need to learn.

One of the best things about this life we have is that there is always something new to be learned.  There is always something I don’t already know, which I can study and learn and gain new experiences from and with.

So how do you find assistance, and determine if it is helpful or hurtful?

There are three distinctly different ways in which you may be aided in the path you are working on.  To be fair, I am generalizing here, but this is still an important consideration.

First – help from a person.  You look for an expert in the field, a guide, a coach, or an assistant.  You take an inspired action, and you choose someone to provide the help you need.

This can take several forms.  You hire a coach, you have a sit-down conversation with a confidant, you engage a contemporary, you dive into a philosophical discussion with a stranger at the pub.  Whatever form it takes, you have actively sought out this help, and are trying to get answers, assistance, and maybe even direction.

The challenge is to not give away your power to another.  Sometimes the answer you receive will not be the answer you need.  How will you know?  You will know by how it makes you feel.

If you feel that the information the helper you commiserated with does not resonate with you, consider seeking other advice.  But if you didn’t get the answer you wanted, but your gut tells you it’s still the right info, consider what to do with it.

When you choose to seek help in this manner, you have to keep in mind that some people will have their “best intentions” for you, and in the process attempt to control, obstruct or discourage whatever it is you are working on.  You alone are inside your own head, so only you can decide if the advice you receive in any way aligns with your thoughts, your feelings and your actions.

When you seek out help in whatever manner you do, remember that you are still the one walking the path, you just needed information to continue, or options to make the best choices, or an alternative perspective to your own, or something else of this nature.  If you are seeking help in order to let someone else control your path, it’s a question of how strongly you believe in the path you have chosen, and whether the time has come to choose another.

Second – help from a passive source.  I have read any number of books on all kinds of different topics.  Some have been in the holistic self-help pantheon, some have been more business oriented and professional.

There is a vast wealth of information out there, and as such numerous tomes have been written about nearly every topic you can imagine.  However, some of that information is wildly speculative, some of it is outright incorrect, and some of it may not resonate with you.

I have read or listened to any number of books on the concept of consciousness creating reality.  Some have had a greater impact than others, and some have been in a language that resonated more with my own thought process.  Each has value, and each has given me assistance on my chosen paths in different ways.

I only want to caution you in giving all your power to the ideas of another.  When you read something that makes sense to you and speaks to you in whatever manner it does, just check to make sure you are empowering yourself, not passing your empowerment away.  How does what you have read make you think, feel, and want to act?  That will tell you where you are at.

Third – help from random sources.  This is the trickiest to make use of, and this sometimes requires a leap of faith.

How do random sources work?  You put your trust in the universe to give you guidance.  An omen, signs and portents.  For example, you are watching TV, and a commercial for a product that you really could use on your path comes on.  Less obvious, a character on a program makes a statement that resonates with you, and opens a new channel of information.  As you are driving down the highway a billboard inspires you, or the name on a semi-truck somehow answers a question you’ve been asking.  A random phone call from a friend shifts your path as you needed.

Once again, the caution here is to be careful not to disempower yourself.  Pathwalking is about empowering ourselves, choosing where we want to direct our lives and the destiny we want to walk to.

Seeking for help is not a weakness.  Everyone needs assistance from time to time.  Know that you have choices, and you can get what you need to achieve the goals you’ve set along your path.

Where do you turn when you want aid and advice?

 

GOAL LOG – Week 29:

Diet: I am still eating pretty decently.  The only downside was having a sugary cereal in the house, and not wholly resisting its sweet crunchiness.  Onwards and forwards.

Exercise: Fencing happened twice last week.  I need to increase my activity, as apart from some walking that was pretty much it.

Writing:  Two days of writing.  Working to ramp this back up, though I’ll be largely off for a week-and-a-half when I go on vacation.

Meditation:  Six days of meditation, at least 4 minutes each day.

Gratitude: I wrote out 5 or 6 things to be grateful for six out of seven days.

 

This is the two-hundred thirty-ninth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas and my personal experiences in walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

Positivity: An Amazing time to be Alive

We live in an amazing time.

We have the technology to communicate across the globe instantly.  We have miniature computers we carry around on our persons that began life as portable cellular telephones.  We have cars that can stop themselves, and are equipped with cameras and indicators for blindspots.  We have produce year-round from every climate in our grocery stores.

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Right now we are being bombarded by fear of all the change that this technology represents.  There are people who see globalization as a change of their way of life so vast and unpredictable, they take a reactionary stance.  That’s why the Brexit vote went the way it did, and that’s why Trump got the nomination as the Republican candidate in the US.

What they cannot see is the incredible Positivity in the broadening of our world.  We are capable of learning more about other cultures, virtually exploring other places and even traveling the world than any other time in history.  We live in an amazing time, because we are all capable of choosing anything we might want.

The positivity in the possibility of this world is immense.  However, too many people’s fears are being played.  The minority who fear this amazing world are shouting as loudly as they can, trying to hold on to the small, comfortable piece they fear will be taken from them.  They see a world that is so vast and inifinite, that they fear being lost in the endless possibilities instead of relishing them.

We need to show these people how much better this new world can be than the old.  When we let go of nationalism, racism, misogyny, bigotry, and all other fears of the “other” and work together, we could develop this world on unimaginable levels.  When we don’t let our skin color, sexual orientation, nationality, social class, money, or religion divide us, and we work together, we could end poverty, find cures for diseases, and visit the stars and explore beyond what we already know outside of our world.

Change can be scary.  Some people prefer to keep to their relatively small, comfortable place in the world based on an identifying factor such as gender, religion, nationality and so forth.  Some people see a world so vast and infinite that they huddle instead inside the familiar, afraid that they will lose the small things they have.  What they cannot see is that if they let go of their fear they could have exponentially more of the things they most desire.

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We live in an amazing time.  We have endless possibility before us, tools like nothing the world has ever known, but for some this has been too much, too fast.  Rather than resist them and allow their voices to grow louder in fear and anger, we need to love them, and raise up our voices louder than theirs in hope and joy.  We need to show them that they will not be lost in this sea of possibility, because we can help guide them into this bigger, better, amazing world.

Carl Jung said, “What you resist persists.”  Instead of responding to negativity with negativity, let’s start spreading more joy, more love and more positivity loudly and proudly, and build together the potential of this amazing world we have before us.

Finding positivity is not hard, it just requires action.  Knowing that we live in an amazing time that some people fear, we can take a new approach to show them the positivity of it.  When we more loudly proclaim our love and joy over their fear and anger, we can help empower them by empowering ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the one hundred thirtieth entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

In relation to Positivity, check out my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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Positivity: An Amazing time to be Alive

We live in an amazing time.

We have the technology to communicate across the globe instantly.  We have miniature computers we carry around on our persons that began life as portable cellular telephones.  We have cars that can stop themselves, and are equipped with cameras and indicators for blindspots.  We have produce year-round from every climate in our grocery stores.

7-16-2

Right now we are being bombarded by fear of all the change that this technology represents.  There are people who see globalization as a change of their way of life so vast and unpredictable, they take a reactionary stance.  That’s why the Brexit vote went the way it did, and that’s why Trump got the nomination as the Republican candidate in the US.

What they cannot see is the incredible Positivity in the broadening of our world.  We are capable of learning more about other cultures, virtually exploring other places and even traveling the world than any other time in history.  We live in an amazing time, because we are all capable of choosing anything we might want.

The positivity in the possibility of this world is immense.  However, too many people’s fears are being played.  The minority who fear this amazing world are shouting as loudly as they can, trying to hold on to the small, comfortable piece they fear will be taken from them.  They see a world that is so vast and inifinite, that they fear being lost in the endless possibilities instead of relishing them.

We need to show these people how much better this new world can be than the old.  When we let go of nationalism, racism, misogyny, bigotry, and all other fears of the “other” and work together, we could develop this world on unimaginable levels.  When we don’t let our skin color, sexual orientation, nationality, social class, money, or religion divide us, and we work together, we could end poverty, find cures for diseases, and visit the stars and explore beyond what we already know outside of our world.

Change can be scary.  Some people prefer to keep to their relatively small, comfortable place in the world based on an identifying factor such as gender, religion, nationality and so forth.  Some people see a world so vast and infinite that they huddle instead inside the familiar, afraid that they will lose the small things they have.  What they cannot see is that if they let go of their fear they could have exponentially more of the things they most desire.

IMG_1695

We live in an amazing time.  We have endless possibility before us, tools like nothing the world has ever known, but for some this has been too much, too fast.  Rather than resist them and allow their voices to grow louder in fear and anger, we need to love them, and raise up our voices louder than theirs in hope and joy.  We need to show them that they will not be lost in this sea of possibility, because we can help guide them into this bigger, better, amazing world.

Carl Jung said, “What you resist persists.”  Instead of responding to negativity with negativity, let’s start spreading more joy, more love and more positivity loudly and proudly, and build together the potential of this amazing world we have before us.

Finding positivity is not hard, it just requires action.  Knowing that we live in an amazing time that some people fear, we can take a new approach to show them the positivity of it.  When we more loudly proclaim our love and joy over their fear and anger, we can help empower them by empowering ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the one hundred thirtieth entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

In relation to Positivity, check out my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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Election 2016

I am sorry if this offends you, but I feel rather strongly about this, so I am going to say it.

This is the reality of the situation.  We have two choices for President.  Trump or Clinton.  Unless you agree with a self-aggrandizing, hate-mongering, sexist, racist narcissist, it is in your best interest to vote for Clinton.  She may well be the status quo, and a corporate shill, but that is of far less import than we give it.  I know a lot of people thoroughly dislike her, and for that matter I am not her biggest fan either.  But we have ONLY these two choices, whether we like it or not.  She is the best of them by far.

America has two choices for President this year.  I am sorry if you are a supporter of one of the third party candidates, but the sad truth is that they can’t win, because the system is designed to stop them from doing so.  Want to change that?  It won’t change from the top.

This is the truth, whether you want to believe it or not.  You cannot change the system from the top down.  The continued failure of the theory of Trickle-Down economics has proven that.

Thus, you can throw away your vote for President if you so choose, but the statement you are making by voting for your third party candidate might as well be a shout in the middle of the dessert, because it will have the same effect.

Want to change the system?  Since you can’t do it from the top, let’s address the much, much larger issue at hand.  Congress.  The President DOES NOT MAKE LAW.  Read the Constitution, the President signs or vetos laws, but DOES NOT make them.  That’s Congress’ job.  And they are not doing their job.

We have an embarrassing, useless, obstructionist body politic right now.  There are so many people in office who just should not be there.  They are focused on meaningless drivel, and doing nothing to address important matters that could improve the lives of the people they are supposed to represent.  Their elections are the ones we should care the most about.  They are the people in office we should REALLY concern ourselves with.

Do you know who your Congresspeople are?  Take a look at the lawmakers, people.  These are the people we should be focusing on, not the people running for President.  I believe that ALL of the House of Representatives is up for election this year.  Want to change the system?  Get rid of these nimrods and get in new blood where it counts.

Want to support a third party?  How about a third party candidate for Congress?  Bernie Sanders is NOT a Democrat, but he understood that to have ANY chance he had to run for President as one.  We need more independents and third party men and women in the House and the Senate.  THAT is how we change the system.

It might seem like a bleak reality, but that’s what we have.  We need to accept that, and choose the less frightening of the two choices before us.  Meanwhile, let’s turn our attention towards the scary, do-nothing people in Congress, and start making the change that would do our nation the most good.

We CAN change the system.  But we have to work our way from the bottom to the top, not the other way around.

Election 2016

I am sorry if this offends you, but I feel rather strongly about this, so I am going to say it.

This is the reality of the situation.  We have two choices for President.  Trump or Clinton.  Unless you agree with a self-aggrandizing, hate-mongering, sexist, racist narcissist, it is in your best interest to vote for Clinton.  She may well be the status quo, and a corporate shill, but that is of far less import than we give it.  I know a lot of people thoroughly dislike her, and for that matter I am not her biggest fan either.  But we have ONLY these two choices, whether we like it or not.  She is the best of them by far.

America has two choices for President this year.  I am sorry if you are a supporter of one of the third party candidates, but the sad truth is that they can’t win, because the system is designed to stop them from doing so.  Want to change that?  It won’t change from the top.

This is the truth, whether you want to believe it or not.  You cannot change the system from the top down.  The continued failure of the theory of Trickle-Down economics has proven that.

Thus, you can throw away your vote for President if you so choose, but the statement you are making by voting for your third party candidate might as well be a shout in the middle of the dessert, because it will have the same effect.

Want to change the system?  Since you can’t do it from the top, let’s address the much, much larger issue at hand.  Congress.  The President DOES NOT MAKE LAW.  Read the Constitution, the President signs or vetos laws, but DOES NOT make them.  That’s Congress’ job.  And they are not doing their job.

We have an embarrassing, useless, obstructionist body politic right now.  There are so many people in office who just should not be there.  They are focused on meaningless drivel, and doing nothing to address important matters that could improve the lives of the people they are supposed to represent.  Their elections are the ones we should care the most about.  They are the people in office we should REALLY concern ourselves with.

Do you know who your Congresspeople are?  Take a look at the lawmakers, people.  These are the people we should be focusing on, not the people running for President.  I believe that ALL of the House of Representatives is up for election this year.  Want to change the system?  Get rid of these nimrods and get in new blood where it counts.

Want to support a third party?  How about a third party candidate for Congress?  Bernie Sanders is NOT a Democrat, but he understood that to have ANY chance he had to run for President as one.  We need more independents and third party men and women in the House and the Senate.  THAT is how we change the system.

It might seem like a bleak reality, but that’s what we have.  We need to accept that, and choose the less frightening of the two choices before us.  Meanwhile, let’s turn our attention towards the scary, do-nothing people in Congress, and start making the change that would do our nation the most good.

We CAN change the system.  But we have to work our way from the bottom to the top, not the other way around.

Pathwalking 238

My path is good for me, but probably not for you.  As we are not in competition, I would be happy to help you along your path in whatever way I can.

Competition is a fine thing in certain respects.  My baseball team versus your team, track stars running for the best time, fencers fighting to best one another, and for that matter most competitive sports.  Competition in the everyday, for the most part, is unhealthy.

This is not just a straight-up notion, either.  We become competitive on a number of different issues, in a number of different ways that are disempowering.

First there is the obvious.  Competing for jobs, competing for food, competing to be classier, richer, smarter than anyone else.  This is the fruit of lack mentality, of the belief that there is not enough of insert-object-x-here for everyone, so we have to struggle to get it for ourselves.  I would bet that your social media channels are as clogged with this sort of competition as mine are.

Then there is the somewhat less obvious forms of competition.  They got ‘x’, so now I should have ‘x’.  I had to struggle to accomplish ‘y’, how come they didn’t have to work half as hard?  Why do I get paid two-thirds of what he gets paid for the same work?  This is the competition of resentment, of wanting our own slices of the same pie but seeing the pie as finite rather than infinite.

What it all boils down to is the same issue.  We live in a society of lack mentality.  The people whom we place in positions of power, and the media empires bombarding us with so-called news and information, are continuously telling us that we have to get it now before supplies run out! and such.  We see this world as being full of limitations, we see that there is not enough of this, tha,t or the other thing, and we are set-up to struggle to have the things we want.

Why?  Because this disempowers us.  If we are disempowered, they can control us.  Or, at the very least, they can work hard to direct how we think, how we feel and how we might act as such.

Look at the elections in the United States at the moment.  Or for that matter, look at the vote on remaining in the EU or not that happened in Great Britain.  People in power play on our fears, play on the things we are concerned the most about, like jobs and money and security, by telling us how we need to take back what already belongs to us, and that if we do not make or unmake these changes or avoid these people we will have even less.  They present us with a tiny pie and claim this is all there is, and there is certainly not enough to go around.  Grab it, any way you can, and never mind the consequences.  They’ll handle everything for us.

How incredibly disempowering is that?  And yet a stunning number of people believe it to be true.  There just is not enough, we’re all in competition, get out of my way because I WILL get what is mine before you can take it from me!

This is not the truth.  This is the lie that could unravel our entire society if we let it.  We compete where competition is unnecessary because we allow ourselves to be disempowered, and we believe that this is a universe of lack, insufficiency, and exclusion.

The truth is very much the opposite of this.  We live in a universe of more-than-enough, we live in a world of abundance, and we have the power to receive whatever we want.  But we have to start empowering ourselves, and we need to recognize that this is not a competition.

Your path varies from mine because you are experiencing this life differently from how I am.  You want to do things that I do not want to do.  You find fun where I don’t.  You may hold any number of beliefs that vary from mine.  That is ok.

The universe is full to bursting with abundance.  Any lack or deficiency is our own making.  We are not in competition to outdo each other.  We can have all the wealth, love, happiness and even power that we might desire.  To get it, we have to empower ourselves.

What do you want from your life?  What makes you happy?  What makes you feel full?  From the spiritual to the physical, the intangible to the tangible, we have different needs and desires, and there is no need to compete for them.  In an abundant universe they are already out there, waiting for us to take hold of them.

How?  By taking back our own empowerment.  We have to stop going with the masses, stop allowing a very small few tell us how it is or how it should be, and we need to consider what we individually want, and how we might achieve it.  Instead of searching without for the things that will make us feel safe, secure and happy we need to turn within.  We need to recognize that each and every one of us has the power to create the world as we most want it to be, and that doing so does not need to deny anyone else their wants and needs.

Look at the things you think about and talk about during the day.  How often are you focused on the concerns of others instead of your own?  How often do you give away your empowerment to another, to an issue outside of yourself, to concerns and fears and anger?  Are you focusing on things that you can take control of to better your own life, or are you focusing on things you can really do little to nothing about?

Be your own empowerer.  Don’t be concerned so much with the paths of others, and focus instead on your own.  This is how we can change the course of our society, by working from within instead of trying to force change from without.  We are not in competition…unless you care to duel in the fencing lists with me.  We can strive for our hearts’ desires without having to compete to get them.

Are you focused on your own paths, or the paths of others?

 

GOAL LOG – Week 28:

Diet: I am still eating pretty well, still eating less bread and pasta and the like.  Had some ice cream once last week, and am happy to report I don’t really feel like returning sugar to my diet.

Exercise: Fencing happened twice last week, as did archery one day.  I do need to get back to the gym and to increase my overall exercise.

Writing:  Two days of editing.  Finished what I was working on, but I need to continue to work on writing and editing.

Meditation:  Four days of meditation, at least 6 minutes each day.

Gratitude: I wrote out 5 or 6 things to be grateful for every day last week.

 

This is the two-hundred thirty-eighth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas and my personal experiences in walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

Pathwalking 238

My path is good for me, but probably not for you.  As we are not in competition, I would be happy to help you along your path in whatever way I can.

Competition is a fine thing in certain respects.  My baseball team versus your team, track stars running for the best time, fencers fighting to best one another, and for that matter most competitive sports.  Competition in the everyday, for the most part, is unhealthy.

This is not just a straight-up notion, either.  We become competitive on a number of different issues, in a number of different ways that are disempowering.

First there is the obvious.  Competing for jobs, competing for food, competing to be classier, richer, smarter than anyone else.  This is the fruit of lack mentality, of the belief that there is not enough of insert-object-x-here for everyone, so we have to struggle to get it for ourselves.  I would bet that your social media channels are as clogged with this sort of competition as mine are.

Then there is the somewhat less obvious forms of competition.  They got ‘x’, so now I should have ‘x’.  I had to struggle to accomplish ‘y’, how come they didn’t have to work half as hard?  Why do I get paid two-thirds of what he gets paid for the same work?  This is the competition of resentment, of wanting our own slices of the same pie but seeing the pie as finite rather than infinite.

What it all boils down to is the same issue.  We live in a society of lack mentality.  The people whom we place in positions of power, and the media empires bombarding us with so-called news and information, are continuously telling us that we have to get it now before supplies run out! and such.  We see this world as being full of limitations, we see that there is not enough of this, tha,t or the other thing, and we are set-up to struggle to have the things we want.

Why?  Because this disempowers us.  If we are disempowered, they can control us.  Or, at the very least, they can work hard to direct how we think, how we feel and how we might act as such.

Look at the elections in the United States at the moment.  Or for that matter, look at the vote on remaining in the EU or not that happened in Great Britain.  People in power play on our fears, play on the things we are concerned the most about, like jobs and money and security, by telling us how we need to take back what already belongs to us, and that if we do not make or unmake these changes or avoid these people we will have even less.  They present us with a tiny pie and claim this is all there is, and there is certainly not enough to go around.  Grab it, any way you can, and never mind the consequences.  They’ll handle everything for us.

How incredibly disempowering is that?  And yet a stunning number of people believe it to be true.  There just is not enough, we’re all in competition, get out of my way because I WILL get what is mine before you can take it from me!

This is not the truth.  This is the lie that could unravel our entire society if we let it.  We compete where competition is unnecessary because we allow ourselves to be disempowered, and we believe that this is a universe of lack, insufficiency, and exclusion.

The truth is very much the opposite of this.  We live in a universe of more-than-enough, we live in a world of abundance, and we have the power to receive whatever we want.  But we have to start empowering ourselves, and we need to recognize that this is not a competition.

Your path varies from mine because you are experiencing this life differently from how I am.  You want to do things that I do not want to do.  You find fun where I don’t.  You may hold any number of beliefs that vary from mine.  That is ok.

The universe is full to bursting with abundance.  Any lack or deficiency is our own making.  We are not in competition to outdo each other.  We can have all the wealth, love, happiness and even power that we might desire.  To get it, we have to empower ourselves.

What do you want from your life?  What makes you happy?  What makes you feel full?  From the spiritual to the physical, the intangible to the tangible, we have different needs and desires, and there is no need to compete for them.  In an abundant universe they are already out there, waiting for us to take hold of them.

How?  By taking back our own empowerment.  We have to stop going with the masses, stop allowing a very small few tell us how it is or how it should be, and we need to consider what we individually want, and how we might achieve it.  Instead of searching without for the things that will make us feel safe, secure and happy we need to turn within.  We need to recognize that each and every one of us has the power to create the world as we most want it to be, and that doing so does not need to deny anyone else their wants and needs.

Look at the things you think about and talk about during the day.  How often are you focused on the concerns of others instead of your own?  How often do you give away your empowerment to another, to an issue outside of yourself, to concerns and fears and anger?  Are you focusing on things that you can take control of to better your own life, or are you focusing on things you can really do little to nothing about?

Be your own empowerer.  Don’t be concerned so much with the paths of others, and focus instead on your own.  This is how we can change the course of our society, by working from within instead of trying to force change from without.  We are not in competition…unless you care to duel in the fencing lists with me.  We can strive for our hearts’ desires without having to compete to get them.

Are you focused on your own paths, or the paths of others?

 

GOAL LOG – Week 28:

Diet: I am still eating pretty well, still eating less bread and pasta and the like.  Had some ice cream once last week, and am happy to report I don’t really feel like returning sugar to my diet.

Exercise: Fencing happened twice last week, as did archery one day.  I do need to get back to the gym and to increase my overall exercise.

Writing:  Two days of editing.  Finished what I was working on, but I need to continue to work on writing and editing.

Meditation:  Four days of meditation, at least 6 minutes each day.

Gratitude: I wrote out 5 or 6 things to be grateful for every day last week.

 

This is the two-hundred thirty-eighth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas and my personal experiences in walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

Positivity: Fun

Everybody wants to have fun.

What I consider fun you might not, and what you consider fun I might not. But so long as my fun does not interfere with your fun, and vice versa, what’s wrong with anything we are doing in the name of fun?

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Yes, of course there are exceptions to this.  If you find fun in doing things that hurt other people, or humiliate them, or otherwise hinders their life, that’s not cool.  Fun at the expense of another is not the kind of fun that’s alright for all.

Fun is an expression of joy.  When you are having fun you are feeling joyful, and joy is the ultimate expression of happiness.  When all is said and done, I think everyone simply wants to be happy.  Not the giddy, lost-for-words ecstatic happily-ever-after happy, I mean happy in that sense of feeling whole, and complete.  Happy as opposed to feeling down or, for that matter, unhappy.

What I consider fun is not fun to other people.  Writing for me is fun, and I know lots of people for whom writing is, in fact, painful in some way.  I love trivia games, I know people who cannot stand playing trivia games.  I know people who will happily spend the weekend watching sports on TV, which is not my idea of a good time.  I know people who consider an afternoon on the golf course time well spent, but this doesn’t do anything for me.

What do you find fun?  I don’t think we ask that of ourselves frequently enough.  We get so caught up in the things we have to do, the responsibilities, the obligations and the necessities, we neglect fun.  And fun is something we need.

As children we played.  That took all kinds of forms, some social and some less so.  We ran around kicking a ball, we played tag, hide-and-go-seek, or we explored the backyard alone creating adventures with our actions figures, or having adventures with invisible friends playing spy.  We played, because we were having fun, and as kids that was the end-all-be-all of our existence.

As adults we frequently neglect that we still need to play.  It may take on different forms, but not necessarily.  Sure, I find a long drive on a windy country road in a sporty car a joyful idea, A movie night with my friends is always fun; but I also still want to climb up that tree and hike around that rocky path, imagining I’m an adventurer, or being a medieval persona and playing with swords.

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So long as what someone else considers fun does not involve ruining mine or other people’s fun in a malicious way, I say game on!  Life is too short to get easily offended, and we need to stop letting petty nuisances turn into real problems, and stop letting ourselves care so much about others and their thoughts and actions, and care more about what makes us happy.

Are you having fun?  If not, why not?

Finding positivity is not hard, it just requires action.  Knowing that we all want to have fun, but what we consider fun is going to differ, we can accept that all fun is not the same to everyone.  When we remember that other people have the need to have fun, and that they seek exactly what we seek in that, we actually empower ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the one hundred twenty ninth entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

In relation to Positivity, check out my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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Positivity: Fun

Everybody wants to have fun.

What I consider fun you might not, and what you consider fun I might not. But so long as my fun does not interfere with your fun, and vice versa, what’s wrong with anything we are doing in the name of fun?

7-16-1

Yes, of course there are exceptions to this.  If you find fun in doing things that hurt other people, or humiliate them, or otherwise hinders their life, that’s not cool.  Fun at the expense of another is not the kind of fun that’s alright for all.

Fun is an expression of joy.  When you are having fun you are feeling joyful, and joy is the ultimate expression of happiness.  When all is said and done, I think everyone simply wants to be happy.  Not the giddy, lost-for-words ecstatic happily-ever-after happy, I mean happy in that sense of feeling whole, and complete.  Happy as opposed to feeling down or, for that matter, unhappy.

What I consider fun is not fun to other people.  Writing for me is fun, and I know lots of people for whom writing is, in fact, painful in some way.  I love trivia games, I know people who cannot stand playing trivia games.  I know people who will happily spend the weekend watching sports on TV, which is not my idea of a good time.  I know people who consider an afternoon on the golf course time well spent, but this doesn’t do anything for me.

What do you find fun?  I don’t think we ask that of ourselves frequently enough.  We get so caught up in the things we have to do, the responsibilities, the obligations and the necessities, we neglect fun.  And fun is something we need.

As children we played.  That took all kinds of forms, some social and some less so.  We ran around kicking a ball, we played tag, hide-and-go-seek, or we explored the backyard alone creating adventures with our actions figures, or having adventures with invisible friends playing spy.  We played, because we were having fun, and as kids that was the end-all-be-all of our existence.

As adults we frequently neglect that we still need to play.  It may take on different forms, but not necessarily.  Sure, I find a long drive on a windy country road in a sporty car a joyful idea, A movie night with my friends is always fun; but I also still want to climb up that tree and hike around that rocky path, imagining I’m an adventurer, or being a medieval persona and playing with swords.

7-16-3

So long as what someone else considers fun does not involve ruining mine or other people’s fun in a malicious way, I say game on!  Life is too short to get easily offended, and we need to stop letting petty nuisances turn into real problems, and stop letting ourselves care so much about others and their thoughts and actions, and care more about what makes us happy.

Are you having fun?  If not, why not?

Finding positivity is not hard, it just requires action.  Knowing that we all want to have fun, but what we consider fun is going to differ, we can accept that all fun is not the same to everyone.  When we remember that other people have the need to have fun, and that they seek exactly what we seek in that, we actually empower ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the one hundred twenty ninth entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

In relation to Positivity, check out my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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Pathwalking 237

Everyone is familiar with the phrases quitters never win and winners never quit.  However, I think everyone also knows this is not always the truth.

There are numerous things that need to be quit.  Plenty of less-than-stellar habits like smoking, excess drinking, overeating, being overly judgmental and such.  There are other behaviors that one might consider quitting, like always talking over others, low self-opinion, inactivity and such.

What is the relation of quitting to Pathwalking?  Accepting that, sometimes, you need to quit one thing to start another.

This is not a simple notion, however.  Before you quit something, unless you know it’s a habit that gets in your way of living the fullest life, or a relationship that makes you miserable, you need to consider if you are quitting because you are afraid, if you are quitting because you have tried and failed too many times, or if you are quitting because you know it is time to move on.

Quitting when you are afraid is surprisingly common.  Every single self-help, holistic book I have read or listened to has addressed just this.  At the cusp of realizing one’s dream, at that point where, despite not seeing results you are just about to manifest what it is you have been striving after…you call it quits.  You throw up your hands, and get angry and declare, “This stuff is crap!  I give up!”  Often, this is the result of fear.

Twin fears are usually at play here.  The fear of failure, equal to the fear of success.  You are afraid to fail, and when you have put a lot of time and effort and heart and soul into something and you are not seeing any results, it can be hugely frustrating.  You become discouraged, and you get tired of all the effort.  Despite knowing you have made good choices, despite feeling it to your core that this is where you are supposed to be going…you call it, and walk away.  Instead of failing, you end it on your own terms, and quit.

This seems like an emotionally solid option, but it’s not.  In time, you will probably find yourself wondering what could have been…or even restarting the process and having to work to and through that same point again.

On the other side of this coin, you are at that same point, so close to victory you can almost taste it, but so frustrated with all the effort you’ve expended…and yet, you begin to question what happens if you succeed?  How will other people react?  How will this affect my relationships?  How might this change me?  How will this REALLY make me feel?  What if I prove I am right, and I get what I want?  Oh no, I might succeed, and with success there might be consequences…so you call it, and walk away.  Instead of succeeding and experiencing the change success might bring, you end it on your own terms, and quit.

This may bring emotional relief to the fear of what might have been, but odds are you will soon find yourself questioning why you gave up.  Why didn’t you see it through?  What were you afraid of?  The fear of success is less familiar than the fear of failure to most people, but it can be equally if not more crippling.

Quitting out of fear is no reason to quit.  Especially when most of your fears are intangibles that can do little to no harm.

Quitting when you have failed too many times is a double-edged sword.  Similar to quitting out of fear, just because you have tried and failed a dozen times doesn’t necessarily mean you should quit.  Many of the greatest minds in this world tried and failed dozens of times before they succeeded.  Sometimes it’s a matter of changing your approach, sometimes it’s a question of timing, and sometimes you are missing that one, small necessary thing, but on the five-thousandth try you will make it fly.

I have had my writing rejected by at least two or three dozen agents and publishers.  I didn’t quit writing, and instead turned to self-publishing to put my work out there.  Now I am trying to promote my work and increase sales, but though I have tried many many methods to make this happen, I have not quit, and have no intent of doing so.

Now here’s the other edge of that same sword.  Albert Einstein is credited with saying, “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results.”  You keep taking the same steps, thinking the same thoughts, putting forth the same actions, and making the same efforts over and over again, and over and over again you do not get the result you desire.  Maybe you give it a small tweak here, a slight adjustment there, but nonetheless you are doing the same exact thing again and again and again.

This takes a great deal of self-awareness.  You have to really analyze this thing you have been doing, and decide if maybe, just maybe, it is time to call it quits and move on.  This is a very hard action to take, because it may ultimately make you feel like you’ve expended a lot of effort for nothing…but sometimes it is the best choice, in order to take a new and more useful path.

Which leads to quitting because you know it is time to move on.  Maybe that job is just not right for you anymore.  Maybe this relationship is no longer healthy.  Maybe you’ve come to realize that the goal you have been striving for is not really what you want.  Maybe being happy is more important to you than being acceptable to others.  Whatever the case may be, situations can arise where it is in your best interest to quit.  Often this gets drawn out, and frequently we seriously question if this is wise, but in general when you quit in this manner you become relieved, and you open up new channels to the life you most want.

Quitting should seldom be the first answer.  But there is no shame in walking away from a path that will not suit you, and that will not make you happy.  Sometimes winners win because they quit something that, ultimately was in fact a loss.

Is there anything you have quit, or might need to quit to create the life you most desire to live?

 

GOAL LOG – Week 27:

Diet: I am still eating well, and still eating far less bread and pasta and the like while continuing to keep away from candy and other sugars of that sort.

Exercise: Fencing happened twice last week.  Dog sitting continues, which meant there were several, daily long walks, of two to four miles each.  Much exercise, but no trips to the gym.

Writing:  One day of editing.  It’s better than none at all.

Meditation:  Two days of meditation, at least 5 minutes each day.

Gratitude: I wrote out 5 things to be grateful for every day last week.

This is the two-hundred thirty-seventh entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas and my personal experiences in walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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