The Ramblings of the Titanium Don

Explorations of Conscious Reality Creation and Other Matters

Month: April 2016

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Pathwalking is not the One True Way.

Simple as that.  This my personal philosophy for working on doing as I would wish to do to live the life I want to live.  This is my method for being in control of the things within my control.

I have in my four plus decades on this planet learned a lot of things.  I have experienced quite a bit, too.  I have seen, heard, read and otherwise gotten involved in many adventures, both good and bad.  Along the way information has come into my possession, and I have formulated my personal view of the world from this.

With certain exceptions, nothing is unchangeable.  Exceptions include the Earth rotates around the Sun, gravity does its thing and keeps us on the surface of the planet, the Earth is round, and similar irrefutable, scientific truths.

What we believe can be changed.  What I believed about the world and how life worked at the age of ten was not what I believed at the age of twenty; what I believed about the world and how life worked at the age of twenty is not what I believed at the age of forty.

Certain things remained the same over the years, but many were changed.  I learned things, experienced things, found things that changed my world and my perspective on it.

Sometimes this was easy.  I had been seeking out a change, I wanted something different for my life, and so on.  But other times this was hard.  I wanted things to be as they were and I did not want to see them change.  I wanted what I knew to remain constant, even though I had learned that it was not.

Some of these things are based in truths that change as we study them.  For example: when I was a kid I learned that dinosaurs were related to modern lizards.  Now science tells me they are more related to modern avians.

More of the truths we believe are based on opinions, experiences, what we do with our own lives.  We go to school and learn from our teachers not just the things that are in the books, but how to think.  The way we think academically is different in high school than it is in college, when we start to be more independent and begin to learn to think critically.  As our approach changes, what we know and believe changes.

This can get particularly sticky for many people.  You learn a thing, you believe that thing, and then something challenges it.  Perhaps you can defend it and continue to think as you do; or you refuse to accept that it is not as you think it is, and resist change; or you see the new perspective, and you adapt your take on it.

In my experience, most people don’t much like change.  I’m guilty of this as well, there have been many times I resisted changing because I didn’t want it.  Human nature is often to nest, and that’s not just settle down in a place to call home physically; we want to take comfort in our knowledge.  When that knowledge is challenged some react violently to not be affected by change.

Look at American politics right now.  The open hostility, the bigotry, the racism, the hatred is based on precisely this.  People are being challenged to think in a way counter to what they already do, and they do not want to give in.  Those seeking power are playing on people’s resistance to change, or people’s desire for it.  No change, change going forward, change going backwards.  What will draw the most people to vote for person ‘X’ and get him or her elected?  That’s what is stirring people right now.

There are certain things I have come to believe about how the Universe works.  Some I have seen for myself, some I have studied or read about, some are based on experiences, others are based on faith.  When I am challenged about my beliefs, depending on which is being challenged, I will either defend my position, refuse to accept that I may need to shift my view, or change to match the new data.

I believe that consciousness creates reality.  I believe that if we are more positive we build better things.  I believe that we are all empowered to choose for ourselves.  I believe that I alone control my emotional state, unless I give that power away.  I believe that I can find and walk my own path in this life.

Pathwalking is my philosophy.  I created this idea and shared it because I believe that I am happier when I take control of my life experience.  I have had issues, I have had good days and bad, but overall I believe that the choices I make are right for me.

You may think differently.  I expect you to.  I also respect that you may have a totally different perspective from mine.  I will not force my way on you and expect the same courtesy in return; however, I am all for a good, intellectual, well-thought debate and discussion on any given topic.  Maybe you can show me that I need to adjust aspects of my philosophy.

Life is a paradox.  The world is vast, but at the same time amazingly small.  We want stability but at the same time we want change.  We want control but at the same time we want to let others guide us.  Whatever paths we choose along the way, the challenges we face are what make us into who we are.

My answers to certain questions will differ from yours.  When we better accept that this ok, and we can coexist with our differences, we can work together to build a better world.

Pathwalking is my way.  What is yours?

 

GOAL LOG – Week 16:

Diet: I continue tracking my intake, and I’m seeing continued improvement in choices and portions.

Exercise: Fencing happened twice last week, and I hit the gym twice.  I did a large amount of walking on one day, so my I exceeded my goal.

Writing:  Five days of writing and editing.

Meditation: I spent at least 4 minutes meditating six days last week.

Gratitude: I wrote out 5 things to be grateful for every day last week.

 

This is the two-hundred twenty sixth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas and my personal experiences in walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

Positivity: Positivity in the Everyday

Some days the most positive thing is having the day before you.

We all have days when we wake up from a poor night’s sleep, or we have that thing on our mind, or we have residual issues from the day before we know we cannot simply leave behind.  That does not negate the positivity of simply being alive.

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I believe that we all frequently overlook the positivity in the simplest things in life.  Things we just take for granted as simply being, but that are in truth full to bursting with positivity.

I woke up this morning.  Might have been tired, still, perhaps a little groggy from allergies, maybe a bit sore from yesterday’s activities.  I am here.  I have a day full of potential ahead of me, and that is immensely positive.

I sat down for a bit and read a couple chapters from a book.  I can read and enjoy works of fiction, and that is hugely positive.  I have an e reader and books to choose from to do this with.  Again, more small things about which to be positive.

Here I sit before my keyboard typing out my weekly blog post.  I get to choose and share positivity with you, and THAT is hugely positive.  I get to explore with you ways to feel good about my day, about life, about what lies ahead and all sorts of options before me.

To many this is probably going to seem like a stretch.  You may think that I am scrambling for a topic and thus tossing this simplicity at you this week.  But this is much deeper and more crucial to recognize than we usually credit it.

Every single day I choose how I want to approach my life.  Do I want to follow along with the masses who see the world as a burnt up husk of fear and terror and disaster?  Or would I rather see how good it is to be here, in this time of instantaneous communication, a world of huge potential and endless possibility, a world of love and peace and renewal?

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I believe that this small shift in thinking, in seeing positivity in the littlest things every single day can further shift the big things.  The universe itself began as a microscopic spark that exploded into the infinite vastness of the cosmos we know surrounds us.  We are all creators, and we have so very much more power than we take for ourselves.  Seeing the positivity in the little things of the everyday can only help us build positivity in the bigger things, and from there the possibilities are virtually endless.

Positivity in the everyday.  Positivity as our approach to this life.  I know that I would rather feel good and hopeful than bad and hopeless, wouldn’t you?

Finding positivity is not hard, it just requires action.  Knowing that every little thought we have about the most mundane matters of the everyday can be redirected by each and every one of us, we have an important choice we frequently neglect.  When we look for and see the positivity in the simplest things in our everyday lives, this leads to creating positivity in the bigger things and with the creation of more positivity we empower ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the one hundred seventeenth entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

In relation to Positivity, check out my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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Why do I feel so stuck?  Why does it feel for every step forward I am taking two steps back?  Why is it for every perceived win I have two losses?  Why do I feel like I cannot manifest what I want to?

The short answer is Anger.

I have a lot of anger within me.  As I have become more adept at meditation I am getting better at digging into my inner psyche, and what I am seeing is a lot of anger.

What am I so angry about?

This is the challenge I am facing.  I need to ascertain the answer to this question, because I believe it is my repressed anger that is holding me back and preventing me from manifesting.

When I was younger I had a violent temper.  Didn’t hurt anyone or anything, but I did throw things, punch walls, scream out loud, kicked holes in doors.  Broke a number of cordless phones in my anger, tossed furniture about, had to patch up walls and doors that felt my wrath.

Over the years I have been in and out of therapy, and along the way even went on a prescription of Prozac a couple times.  I found new ways to cope with my anger, and the violence of my temper abated.

I don’t think I repressed my anger.  I still found expression for the anger.  I think what I did was not actually deal with the root of the anger I had.

I was still angry.  I was still upset about a thing.  I let it go, in the then, but I didn’t address it.  I either blew it off, let it pass, or I took another path away from it.  However, what I did not do was address it and actually deal with it.

Now I am realizing I have a great deal of anger I have not dealt with.  It is way beneath the surface, and I am learning that it is blocking me from accomplishing the things I want.  I am having trouble manifesting because my anger, which is rooted in fear, is causing me to disbelieve, to doubt, and as such manifestation becomes impossible.

When I have successfully manifested things I wanted and needed in the past I had no doubt, no disbelief, they just were.  I saw the outcome, and there was nothing that would be able to get between myself and the outcome.  That was that, and lo the thing I wanted to make manifest manifested.

I have a lot of unresolved anger, which is largely a result of much deeper rooted fears.  That anger has made me doubtful, and the doubt in turn prevents me from manifesting.

This is one big vicious cycle, of course.  I am angry, which in turn means all my doubts get magnified.  I want to see myself successful but then I see the balance in my bank account, the bills, the lack of sales of my books and the inability to land a decent job and constantly being without…surprise surprise I remain in this state of lack, I remain unable to create anything but what I already have, and that, in turn, contributes to my deep rooted unresolved anger.

Then, just to add a measure of fun, I get angry in the now.  I am angry that this is the situation I find myself in, and I am angry at myself for every perceived mistake, every negative emotion, every inaction – because I know that these are contributing to reinforcing my inability to manifest.  Anger is powerful.

How do I resolve this?  This is the part that is going to be the most challenging.  The short answer is that I have to forgive myself.

The past is passed.  I have to stop holding onto all the things of the past that I have been so angry about, and I have to forgive myself for feeling the way I feel.  I also have to be conscious of my current feelings, and not allow anger to be so dominant.

But I cannot just simply let it all go.  I need to dig into the roots of this long-held anger.  I need to sit down and write out what I am feeling angry about, deep down, and really examine the origins and the causes of my anger issues.  What fears have evoked this anger?  Why do I feel so angry about the things I am angry about so deep down?

This will require some major meditation and soul searching, but I believe that the outcome makes it quite worthwhile.  However, I also recognize that I am going to likely uncover some old wounds.  I am angry about a number of long-ago matters, and living with them in the here-and-now will require me to expose them so that I can seal them up more permanently.

At the root of all anger is fear.  I have written extensively about fear over the years, and I know that this particular journey will likely be gut-wrenching.  I need to remember in the process that I do not need to be angry about all these things from my past, and I need to feel my anger, work through it, and replace it, not let it go.  Replace it with forgiveness.  Replace the anger with peace.  Replace the anger with contentment.

That is the work ahead of me.  Dig out the roots of the anger, examine the fears that generated it, feel it out, get to the why of it and then replace it with something more constructive.  Letting it go has not let it go for me, so now the key is to replace it.

This is one of those fascinating obstacles along my path.  But I have no doubt I can work my way through it.  Thanks for being part of this journey.

Do you have unresolved fears and anger you haven’t gotten to the roots of?

 

GOAL LOG – Week 15:

Diet: I continue tracking my intake, and I’m seeing some improvement in choices and portions.

Exercise: Fencing happened but I only got to the gym 1 day.  However I took at least twenty-minute walks on three days.

Writing:  Six days of writing and editing.

Meditation: I spent at least 4 minutes meditating seven days last week.

Gratitude: I wrote out 5 things to be grateful for every day last week.

More progress.

 

This is the two-hundred twenty fifth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas and my personal experiences in walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

Positivity: Optimism

Optimism is a good thing.

I recently read a blog post by another author for whom I have a great deal of respect, and he was exploring how we have allowed pessimism and fatalism overcome reason.

Like attracts like.  If we want to be pessimistic about the future and all that it holds for us, likely this is what we are going to create for ourselves.  I don’t know about you, but I don’t want a bleak, dismal and unfortunate future.

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Hope is a good thing.  Optimism is hope, and there is nothing wrong with feeling hope.  We need to have hope, we need to see a brighter, better future.

This, however, starts will a better perspective on today.

If we look at the here and now as unfortunate, as bad, as full of fear and anger and hatred then that is what we are going to see.  Why do we only want to witness the bad, acknowledge all the terrible things happening?  Why do we allow ourselves to live in such tremendous fear?

I am not denying there are troubles in the world today.  But they are overblown, they are looked upon too closely, and I do not believe they are quite so bad as we are seeing them to be.  Yes, there are a lot of haters and a lot of bigots and misogynists and greedy people out there.  But there are also a lot of lovers, a lot of proponents of equality and generosity out there, too.

We need to look for and better acknowledge the optimism and the positivity, because I am pretty sure nobody actually wants to live in a place filled with hate and loathing and lack and pessimism.  We need to stop focusing so much on the bad and instead turn to look for the good.  We need to love more, and stop letting ourselves be bathed in this awful pessimism.

Is this message too hippy-crunchy for you?  If so, why does that matter?  We need to be more optimistic here and now, and not allow this terrible vision of tomorrow so many are believing in become reality.  We should have hope, we should see the promise of a better tomorrow and work more on making that our reality.  Each of us has the opportunity to do that, but we have to choose it for ourselves.

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I am an optimist for the most part, but with an oversize dose of skepticism.  I am working on being less skeptical, because I want to do what I can in my own small way to spread more positivity in this world.  I believe this is possible.  I am highly optimistic that our future is not bleak and barren, but grand and glorious and full of all sorts of possibility.

Optimism brings more positivity to the world.

Finding positivity is not hard, it just requires action.  Knowing that optimism is a good thing, we can express more hope and strive to envision both the good of today and a better tomorrow.  When we are optimistic about our lives, we can create so many incredible things, and when we are creating we empower ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the one hundred sixteenth entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

In relation to Positivity, check out my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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My next novel

I am in the process of editing my next full-length novel.

This is a follow up to the 2nd short story I wrote that was published in the anthology Spells and SwashbucklersThe Vapor Rogues is my Steampunk/Fantasy story, for which I built a really detailed world.

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The world I created was so rich that I felt the need to expand upon it.  As such, I have completed a first novel for a Steampunk series.  Clouds of Authority – A Vapor Rogues Novel will be available in early May.  Further, I will be doing a reading from the novel at the Steampunk Worlds Fair in Edison, NJ on the weekend of May 13th – 15th.

I will be sharing more details about this here, soon, though there is some information on the world (along with some crude drawings and other art) to be found at my Vapor Rogues website.

Here’s the thing.  This is a traditional novel, and will probably be in the neighborhood of 450 or so pages long.  I have come to realize, though, that I could easily split it into two parts and share it that way.

SO, I am asking, as readers, what would YOU like to see?  Please take a moment and fill out this poll:

Thank you for your continued support!

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I am not a fraud.

Why am I stating this?  Because I am sitting here in front of my computer, and struggling.  What am I supposed to be writing about this week?  What words of wisdom should I be sharing?   Why do I feel like I am a big fat liar?

For over four years I have been writing about this notion of walking my own path and finding my own way in the universe.  For over four years I have discussed ideas and means and methods and laid out plans and notions to take actions and make this happen.  I want to live a life entirely of my choosing and not being forced to let life live me.

Why do I constantly feel like I am a liar?  A failure?  A fraud?

I think the answer is societal influences.

I am in my early forties.  According to our society’s norm, I should be mid-career, established, doing the thing.  I should probably have a kid or two, and I should be working on setting aside things for my eventual retirement.

Suffice it to say, that’s not me.

All my life I have tended to not quite do what was expected of me.  As a teen I didn’t play along with my local Jewish community like everyone else did.  I was never part of any “in” crowd.  I chose to travel halfway across the country to attend college and I chose to major in a specialized artistic degree program.

Corporate America and I have never quite gotten along.  I am a lousy drone – when I see a status quo that I find fault with I tend to want to fix it or work around it.  I don’t like having to push for sales.  I can work in a team perfectly well, but if my leader is inflexible I will likely butt heads with him or her if we’re not on the same page.

I have chosen to find alternate employment.  I like small companies that need generalists who can do a ton of different things and switch gears quickly and easily.  I like to use my creativity on any and every level I can.  I like learning new and different things along the way.

However, because of this, I never stay in the same place for very long.  Most of the time this has been due to my own need for change, my own restlessness.  Sometimes I failed at the job and was let go.  Sometimes I just got frustrated with an inability to advance or be creative or outright displeasure with what I was doing and left for hopefully greener grass and sunnier skies.

With two exceptions, I have never been at the same job for more than three years.  I graduated college twenty one years ago.  My resume is colorful, to say the least.

Based on what this society expects of a man my age, I often find that I feel like I am a failure.  When I perform my volunteer job as a leader in a business community, I find that I feel like I am a fraud.  When people look to me for advice I find that I sometimes feel like I am a liar.

However, I need to more readily accept that this is all untrue.  Society is not whom I am living this life for.  I need to be true to myself, and when I apply that to how I am seen I can view my successes.

I have written five complete novels and three novellas.  I’ve gotten two short stories published and I have self-published two novels, a novella, and the first year of Pathwalking.  I’m about to publish a third novel, and I am in the middle of two more.  I have an idea for another story I am considering working on.

I blog twice a week regularly, sometimes more.  I do basic tech support for friends, family and the job I’ve been with on-and-off for more than twelve years.  In my hobby I have been recognized for the work I do and I teach my favorite game, and teach it well.

I may not be in a standard career earning a standard living like other men my age as society would expect me to be.  But I AM making my own choices for my life, and since I began to really work with this and to walk paths of my own choosing I have never been happier.  Of course I have moments of doubt, and feelings of inferiority, but in truth life is good.  I have amazing friends and family who support my unconventional ways, and I live life true to who I am.

Yup, it’s imperfect.  Yes, I am going to sometimes feel like I am flailing, failing, and unworthy.  I alone can control how I feel, and I choose to not accept these feelings of being a lesser person.

I am not a fraud.  I am not a failure.  I am not a liar.  I am the person I have chosen to be, and the genuine article as such.  I am a success, albeit in an unconventional manner.  I am not a liar, I make no bones about being the weird, geeky, odd-looking, unique individual I have become and continue to evolve.

I have set more active goals for myself this year.  Through this I am seeing ways to adjust my life that will allow me to accept myself for who I am and who I am choosing to be, and to disregard feeling like I am letting anyone else down.  I have chosen to work on finding and walking my own paths, and I need to not care what anyone else things of that.  I alone feel how I feel, and if I allow any entity, person, or society affect that I can change it.

I am genuine, not a fraud.  I am a success, not a failure.  What you see is what you get, I am not a liar.  I continue to work to better myself, and to take care of and be there for the people in my life.

Thanks for riding along on this crazy ride.

How do you feel about yourself?

 

GOAL LOG – Week 14:

Diet: I continue tracking my intake, and working to cut back just how much I am eating overall.

Exercise: Fencing happened and I got to the gym three times.  I spent another day on my feet and running a whole bunch, too.

Writing:  Four days of writing and editing.

Meditation: I spent at least 2 minutes meditating five days last week.

Gratitude: I wrote out 5 things to be grateful for every day last week.

Progress continues.

 

This is the two-hundred twenty fourth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas and my personal experiences in walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

Positivity: Possessions

While it is nice to have things, the reason for the having is far more important.

The things we have, the possessions we own can be a source of good in many respects.  And there will always be things we need versus things that we desire.  Things can be a source of positivity, but it is not the thing itself that has that power.

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The material things we have generally fall into three categories.  Things we need, like food, clothing, and shelter and the like; things that make life easier or more convenient like transportation, computers, mobile phones and various data devices; things we want, like boats and fancy cars and game consoles and other toys to enhance the lives we live.

We all want different material things.  Whichever of the three categories they fall into, what we want is different.  We don’t all want the same clothes, we don’t all eat the same foods and we have different needs for the where and configuration of our shelters.  Among the conveniences we get into the popular Apple vs PC debate, some people want motorcycles and some want sedans.  Even the additional things we want vary, because we all desire different toys to enhance our lives.

The important thing is that no matter which of these three categories we look at, the things we want are of less import than the feelings they will generate.  Things give us feelings, which we often overlook or disregard.  More often, though, we think the having of certain things will make us feel a certain way, which is actually backwards.

When it comes in particular to the desires we are frequently led to believe that the thing will make us feel a certain way.  Having the thing will make us more popular or better regarded or will improve our life in some way, and thus make us feel more happy and joyful and excited.  But in truth, when we feel more happy and joyful and excited by our lives it actually gives the thing desired the value, not the other way around.

When you give and feel more positivity you get and feel more positivity.  When we want more things or new things or designer things it is important to feel gratitude for the things we already have.  When we have no gratitude for the things in our lives we are unable to draw new things.

Why do you want a new car?  Because it will make you feel safer and freer, maybe?  Why do you want a new home?  Because it will make you feel more comfortable and more content, perhaps?  The thing itself is not what is important, it’s the emotion generated by the having of the thing that matters.

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Gratitude for what we have now is important to having newer or different things.  Additionally, it’s hugely important to recognize that we are not in competition.  We don’t all want the same things, so why do we so readily believe that we have to compete with one another to acquire and have them?

The important question is how will having these things make us feel?

Finding positivity is not hard, it just requires action.  Knowing that we all want and need things because of the feelings they create within us, we can be grateful for what we have now.  When we are grateful for what we have now, but acknowledge what having different things will mean to ourselves on an emotional level, we empower ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

 

This is the one hundred fourteenth entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

In relation to Positivity, check out my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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There are a lot of different things on my mind, and it is causing me to lack in focus.

Some are pretty big picture, way out of my personal control matters.  Some are very much in the here-and-now.  And some are dreams, desires and destinations I want to reach.

Everybody gets caught up in this.  We all have personal matters, professional matters, and worldly concerns.  As I analyze this, I am beginning to think that we often allow the things that are furthest from our control to be the center of our focus, and wind up not where we actually want to be.

Take elections, for example.  Nobody anywhere in the world looking at the American election process happening right now isn’t disturbed.  This is just so ugly.  There is little to no civility, the discourse is almost anti-intellectual and the mechanics of the whole show are pretty unpleasant.  It is a topic that will spur discussion and argument and garners vast amounts of attention.

Beyond the elections there are some other pretty awful things getting attention currently.  Restrictive, backwards laws being enacted, open racism, bigotry and outright hatred being spewed and laws being made to support this ugliness.  Can’t turn on the news, scroll through any form of social media or even hold a topical discussion without being exposed to these things.  Liars, cheaters, scam artists, people who want to control everyone else are always being pointed out to us.

I’m not even going to go into global matters.

Suffice it to say, most of these things are WAY beyond my control.  I can’t do anything about them, except to vote in said elections, maybe campaign for people I support, maybe write editorials and letters about the things I am finding disturbing.  But apart from that, this is something I cannot control.

Except for how I let it affect me.  If I talk about it, explore it, focus on it and give it energy, then let it upset, depress or anger me it becomes my problem.  It distracts me from the things which I should focus on, which can help me to change the bits that will most impact me.

One of the challenges I am constantly faced with is striking a balance.  How do I balance out my focus so that the things I should be working on and with get more of my attention?  How do I take my mind off the things I really can do very little about, and to work on the things I can take control of?

This is a part of why I have been working on daily meditation.  Every time I quiet my mind in this manner I reset my thought process.  I can still the anxiety, the concern, the depression and hit the reset button.  I can make use of meditation to refocus my attention towards more of what I need to improve my situation.

But when I am just doing the things I do daily, and I am not in the process of meditating, how can I better keep my focus on the things I can control?

This is the problem I am having in finding and maintaining my focus.  I scroll through social media sites, I hold conversations with friends about the happenings of the world and I get distressed.  I start to feel bad, anxious, unhappy.  And I know I need to find ways to change that and turn my focus and attention to things I can control.

So how can I work with this?

First – I need to spend less time reading through social media.  I don’t need to scroll all throughout my Facebook feed and see all the news posts.  I know this.  I need to do a better job of acting on this.

Second – I need to stop more frequently and ask myself How am I feeling?  If the answer is not good, well, content, or happy I need to ask myself Why am I feeling this way?  It won’t take too long, but it will change my focus and I think it will allow me to get a better handle on what I am thinking about because of what I am feeling.

Third – I need to work on my intentional actions.  I need to not just do things for the sake of doing, but because I want to do them.  I need to look at my options more and make choices that will help me to feel good, to keep my thoughts clear and to get me to the places I want to be in this life.

With all three of these the important thing is the doing.  They are here, they have been written – now I need to truly ACT on them and make them happen.  Back away from all the time online.  Ask the questions about my feelings more regularly and work on keeping my thoughts and feelings in the positive.  Explore the available actions to me that will tie them all together and allow me to well and truly choose and walk the Path I most desire.

Nothing to it but to do it.  Do or do not, there is not try.

What do you do for your focus?

 

GOAL LOG – Week 13:

Diet: I’m still tracking my intake, and working to cut back my carbs and sugars.

Exercise: Fencing happened twice, and I got to the gym four times.  I again exceeded my goal, and am happy about that.

Writing:  Five days of writing and editing.

Meditation: I spent at least 5 minutes meditating six days last week. I did not find or make time for mediation during the weekend.

Gratitude: I wrote out 5 things to be grateful for three days last week.  I want to work on doing three to five things daily.

Progress!

This is the two-hundred twenty third entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas and my personal experiences in walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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There are a lot of different things on my mind, and it is causing me to lack in focus.

Some are pretty big picture, way out of my personal control matters.  Some are very much in the here-and-now.  And some are dreams, desires and destinations I want to reach.

Everybody gets caught up in this.  We all have personal matters, professional matters, and worldly concerns.  As I analyze this, I am beginning to think that we often allow the things that are furthest from our control to be the center of our focus, and wind up not where we actually want to be.

Take elections, for example.  Nobody anywhere in the world looking at the American election process happening right now isn’t disturbed.  This is just so ugly.  There is little to no civility, the discourse is almost anti-intellectual and the mechanics of the whole show are pretty unpleasant.  It is a topic that will spur discussion and argument and garners vast amounts of attention.

Beyond the elections there are some other pretty awful things getting attention currently.  Restrictive, backwards laws being enacted, open racism, bigotry and outright hatred being spewed and laws being made to support this ugliness.  Can’t turn on the news, scroll through any form of social media or even hold a topical discussion without being exposed to these things.  Liars, cheaters, scam artists, people who want to control everyone else are always being pointed out to us.

I’m not even going to go into global matters.

Suffice it to say, most of these things are WAY beyond my control.  I can’t do anything about them, except to vote in said elections, maybe campaign for people I support, maybe write editorials and letters about the things I am finding disturbing.  But apart from that, this is something I cannot control.

Except for how I let it affect me.  If I talk about it, explore it, focus on it and give it energy, then let it upset, depress or anger me it becomes my problem.  It distracts me from the things which I should focus on, which can help me to change the bits that will most impact me.

One of the challenges I am constantly faced with is striking a balance.  How do I balance out my focus so that the things I should be working on and with get more of my attention?  How do I take my mind off the things I really can do very little about, and to work on the things I can take control of?

This is a part of why I have been working on daily meditation.  Every time I quiet my mind in this manner I reset my thought process.  I can still the anxiety, the concern, the depression and hit the reset button.  I can make use of meditation to refocus my attention towards more of what I need to improve my situation.

But when I am just doing the things I do daily, and I am not in the process of meditating, how can I better keep my focus on the things I can control?

This is the problem I am having in finding and maintaining my focus.  I scroll through social media sites, I hold conversations with friends about the happenings of the world and I get distressed.  I start to feel bad, anxious, unhappy.  And I know I need to find ways to change that and turn my focus and attention to things I can control.

So how can I work with this?

First – I need to spend less time reading through social media.  I don’t need to scroll all throughout my Facebook feed and see all the news posts.  I know this.  I need to do a better job of acting on this.

Second – I need to stop more frequently and ask myself How am I feeling?  If the answer is not good, well, content, or happy I need to ask myself Why am I feeling this way?  It won’t take too long, but it will change my focus and I think it will allow me to get a better handle on what I am thinking about because of what I am feeling.

Third – I need to work on my intentional actions.  I need to not just do things for the sake of doing, but because I want to do them.  I need to look at my options more and make choices that will help me to feel good, to keep my thoughts clear and to get me to the places I want to be in this life.

With all three of these the important thing is the doing.  They are here, they have been written – now I need to truly ACT on them and make them happen.  Back away from all the time online.  Ask the questions about my feelings more regularly and work on keeping my thoughts and feelings in the positive.  Explore the available actions to me that will tie them all together and allow me to well and truly choose and walk the Path I most desire.

Nothing to it but to do it.  Do or do not, there is not try.

What do you do for your focus?

 

GOAL LOG – Week 13:

Diet: I’m still tracking my intake, and working to cut back my carbs and sugars.

Exercise: Fencing happened twice, and I got to the gym four times.  I again exceeded my goal, and am happy about that.

Writing:  Five days of writing and editing.

Meditation: I spent at least 5 minutes meditating six days last week. I did not find or make time for mediation during the weekend.

Gratitude: I wrote out 5 things to be grateful for three days last week.  I want to work on doing three to five things daily.

Progress!

This is the two-hundred twenty third entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas and my personal experiences in walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

Positivity: Kindness

A little kindness could change the whole world.

With all the animosity, racism, sexism and outright hatred being shouted so loudly of late, we each need to do our part to show more kindness.  This could change everything.

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I think it’s safe to say that we all want to live decent, comfortable, happy lives.  I don’t know anyone who wants to struggle, or to be in a constant state of fear, or to be miserable.   I think that some people hate like they do because they are afraid, because they feel intimidated and disempowered, so they channel anger and hostility because that makes them feel something more powerful than the powerlessness of fear they don’t recognize for what it is.

We all can do something about this.  Instead of spreading intolerance and being harsh, we can take a moment to be kind.

People can be infuriating, both on a personal and a global scale.  I often say that while I like certain individual people, over all the human race disturbs and distresses me.  That is an unfair statement on my part, and I need to practice more kindness myself.

Why?  Because directing meanness at someone usually creates more hostility and anger and hate.  Why do we think that more hate is the answer to hate?  We need to practice kindness, because that is what I am pretty sure we would all prefer.

Consider this – you wake up in the morning feeling out-of-sorts.  You’ve slept poorly, you go to work and you join everyone complaining about the upcoming elections.  This is unfair.  That is terrible.  Why will no one do anything about this issue?  How does that make you feel?

Now consider this – you wake up in the morning feeling out-of-sorts.  You’ve slept poorly, and you go to work and ask your coworker how their weekend was.  How are your friends and family?  Want to get a cup of coffee?  Want to split a donut with me?  Let me help you with that bag.  Wasn’t that episode of that show awesome?  How does that make you feel?

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This is not a grand, sweeping, ginormous change we have to make.  It’s a matter of redirection.  If we want to experience more acts of kindness in our lives, we need to give more kindness.  It costs nothing, but it is priceless.  Kindness is nothing but positivity, and I am pretty sure we can never have too much of that.

Acts of kindness are empowering.  The more we empower others, the more we empower ourselves.  I can see only good things that will come of that.

Finding positivity is not hard, it just requires action.  Knowing that we all want to experience kindness from the people in our lives, we can work on practicing more acts of kindness ourselves.  When we are kind to the people around us, friend, family, or random stranger, in empowering them with kindness we empower ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the one hundred fourteenth entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

In relation to Positivity, check out my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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