I love you.

This is the most powerful phrase in the world. It can lighten our step, it can change our mood, it can make our world better in ways beyond measure.

I used to be terrified of this phrase. The implications behind it, the commitment, the expectations. I didn’t want to say it because I know that it can be ever changing, that it can be impermanent, and that it can be as destructive as it can be powerful.

Patch and Thalia together

But that’s not love….that’s fear. Fear is not just the path to the Dark Side, it is a tool that gets used again and again to control, to make people choose things they don’t actually want and that are against their best interests, and it gets used to shape our world.

Love is not fear. But in many respects they are the opposite sides of the coin. One of the many many reasons I think Paulo Coelho’s The Alchemist is a favorite book of mine is this line right here:

“My Heart Is Afraid that it will have to suffer,” the boy told the alchemist one night as they looked up at the moonless sky. “Tell your heart that the fear of suffering is worse than the suffering itself. And that no heart has ever suffered when it goes in search of its dreams.”

We are so afraid that in the process of loving we will experience suffering, we skip the love. We fear broken hearts, we fear that love will change and end and that it will hurt. Nobody wants to suffer, and fear is equally as powerful as love. The tug-of-war between these forces frequently can go either way.

I chose many years ago to stop fearing love. Love takes on so many forms and it is so amazingly healing and powerful that even when it crashes and it goes awry, I am still better for having experienced that love.

Fear destroys. Fear tears apart and fear belittles us. Love builds. Love knits us together and love grows us. Yes, I cannot deny love can come with pain…but love is not suffering, love is joy. Love is healing.

I love you. I don’t just write that here as a meaningless homage to the idea of love – I write this because you need to believe it. I DO love you. I may not know you personally, but I love the spark within you. I love what you are capable of, I love you for your potential and the love and joy that you bring to other people in the world. That is what love is – unabashed, unafraid, happiness and joy and ultimate positivity. I write this every week because of my love for you, and because you can never have too much love in the world.


My friends, my family, my random readers I may never meet, please don’t fear the most powerful phrase in the world. Embrace it, utilize it so we can work together to build this amazing world instead of dividing and tearing it all apart.

Finding positivity is not hard, it just requires action. Knowing that saying I love you can change the world for the better, we have a most powerful tool. When we express our love, in whatever form that takes, we ultimately empower ourselves. When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings. We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings. When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for. Gratitude leads to happiness. Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude. Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.


This is the one hundred seventh entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.