The Ramblings of the Titanium Don

Explorations of Conscious Reality Creation and Other Matters

Month: February 2016 (Page 1 of 2)

Positivity: Leap Day

Only once every four years do we get this extra day.

There are so many things we can do with an extra day. It is an additional twenty-four hours of possibility, potential, opportunity and all manner of positive things.

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We are all obsessed in this society with time. Linear time in particular. Because we all have schedules for our days we are constantly chasing time.

Time to get out of bed. Time to eat breakfast. Time to go to work. Time for a break. Time for lunch. Time to go home. Time for dinner. Time for that TV show I enjoy. Time for bed.

As such time feels as though it is constantly slipping away from us. We are frequently looking for more time, because we often run into the familiar problem of “I don’t have enough time.”

This year has provided us with a WHOLE EXTRA DAY! That’s an additional twenty-four hours of time! Thus this is an opportunity for us to take advantage of the extra time and use it to do something positive, something that will make us feel good.

It’s just another Monday. This extra day means nothing. If that’s how you want to approach it you’re absolutely correct. I prefer to try to see this as a special day, an extra day upon which I can create something positive, a day of more time that I can take advantage of and find positivity in.

For a select few this is the only day on which they get to celebrate their actual, factual birthday. Imagine being born on a day that only comes about every four years? Sure, you pick a day to either side of this special day to celebrate, but your ACTUAL birthday is only every four years! You get to be considerably younger than the years may tell.

This is all about approach. How do you approach time, how do you see the hours, the days, the weeks and years go by? Is it just an endless, routine, set stream? Or do you seek to find something extraordinary in the ordinary? Just because it’s another Monday does not mean it is not nor cannot be extra special, since it’s a whole extra day of the year.

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Time does not need to be an enemy or a point of contention, it can be something we can all use to create, to discover new things, to explore our world and to build positivity.

Let this extra day be a day to experience some fun, some joy, some happiness. Make Leap Day a special day where you allow yourself to enjoy all the possibility and opportunities before you.

Finding positivity is not hard, it just requires action. Knowing that we have this whole extra day this year, we have an additional opportunity to seek positivity. When we do what we can to make use of all of our time, we can better enjoy our day, and in so doing empower ourselves. When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings. We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings. When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for. Gratitude leads to happiness. Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude. Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

 

This is the one hundred ninth entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

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Today has not gone as planned.

It has not gone badly, just not as I intended for it to go.

What do you do when you have a plan or an intent for your day, or your week, or your year and it gets derailed?

How can you still choose your path when you are clearly off of it?

I have said more than once that sometimes the diversions on your path are actually where you need to go. Sometimes these twists and turns and forks in the road redirect you somewhere better than you intended.

Of course, conversely, sometimes they lead you somewhere you really DON’T want to be – but that doesn’t mean that you are not supposed to be there.

How am I still walking on my path when I am somewhere I don’t want to be?

This is one of the more challenging aspects of Pathwalking. There are a number of things in your life that you can control. However, there ARE numerous things over which you can exert no control at all.

If you planned a grand hiking expedition and there is a hurricane, or you suffer an unexpected injury and have to utterly change your plans, or the person you were working with completely flakes out on you, this can force you to change your path, as you have no control over these things.

Due to circumstances beyond your control your path has to change. A lot of the time this is where people lose their desire to walk a path of their own choosing. You think, to hell with that, it didn’t get me anywhere – or – that was a total failure – or, worst of all – see? I have no control over my destiny what-so-ever!

I know how frustrating this can be. I have had the plan in place because I thought the path I was on was right and true…and then it was gone. Not through any direct action on my part, but due to the unpredictability of other people and events.

What is the point if you are still a victim of circumstance?

That right there is the point. Victim. Are you a victim, or do you instead choose to find a new opportunity? Just because things have not gone according to plan does not mean that you have failed, or that you are a victim – unless you choose to be.

Too many people allow themselves to be victims in this life. They blame this that or the other thing for their circumstances and they don’t choose for themselves but to suffer. People accept things that they actually could change, but because in the moment it seems bad or because of long-term after-effects they believe they are powerless.

We all have bad days, we all have instances where things go horridly wrong. I certainly did not choose when I was crossing that street over fifteen years ago to be hit by a car. I did not choose to spend that time I spent bound to a wheelchair for transport. I didn’t choose to experience all that pain.

What I DID choose at that time was to not be a victim. I chose to fight. I chose to struggle and persevere to speed my recovery and return my life to my control. I chose not to curl up in a ball and wait for death, I chose not to just let things happen as they may, I chose to push, to fight, to press and to accept nothing less than total success.

Today may not have gone as I’d planned for it to go. That’s why this is being put out as late as it is. However, rather than lament this I am working with it, and adjusting accordingly.

I can’t control the weather. I cannot control other people and their needs and expectations and emotions and actions. I cannot control anything but what I am thinking, how I am feeling and what I am doing. I can only control these things about my life, but in knowing this I can choose if the path that I was on is no more what I am to do next.

This is where it is so vastly important to be mindful of the here and now. Awareness of where you are at is how you can adjust when where you want to be changes, or when something you have no control over shifts matters in a way you’d prefer it didn’t. Because you are awake and aware of your immediate circumstances you can change with more ease than if you are living in the past or only for the future.

The journey is often of more important than the end result because so many things beyond our control can effect it. People, places and things can greatly change our paths in ways we didn’t expect. The dream job offer in paradise, the unexpected love interest, the failed relationship, the surprise inheritance you didn’t count on can massively alter your plans and also change your expectations and circumstances.

When your path does not go as you would want it to, be aware of whether you allow yourself to be victimized by that, or to choose to move on and make different choices. Because you have control over how you feel, and how you think and act based on your feelings, you always have options, and new paths before you.

Do you allow circumstance to victimize you when what you’ve planned doesn’t work out?

 

GOAL LOG – Week 7:

Diet: Tracking what I am eating daily. Starting to improve on my choices.

Exercise: Fencing happened, got to the gym twice and I took a good long walk one day as well.

Writing: Six days of writing. Managed to surpass my goal.

Progress happens!

 

This is the two-hundred seventeenth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas and my personal experiences in walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my personal desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available in print and for your Kindle.

Positivity: Words

Think before you speak.

How many times have you heard or read this phrase? How many times has it been directed at you?

I believe if more of us took the time to follow this idea, we would live in a world that is less divisive, less angry, less full of fear.

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All too often people just speak off the cuff. They don’t consider their words, they don’t care just how powerful they may be. Yes, I am very specifically talking about politicians here. So much of what comes out of their mouths is so very phony, so completely false that it is deeply disturbing that we empower them to do anything.

Words are powerful. They can start war or bring peace. They can spark fights or they can calm nerves. What we say is so much more important than we often give it credit, and yet we are frequently watching people flounder because of half-truths, denials of reality and lies.

The importance of being awake and aware in this life is that you don’t just do whatever comes to mind. You think it out, you consider your actions. I recently felt inspired to post this to Facebook:

Encourage instead of criticize.
Love instead of fear.
Suggest solutions instead of pointing out problems.
Be proactive instead of reactive.
Be accountable instead of seeking blame.

If we each take a moment to shift our approach to our life experience to the above, I truly believe we could make the world a much, much better place.

How often do you read posts from people that get you angry? How often do you see things online that make you sad, or fearful, or otherwise disturbed? We have become so enamored of facing off against negativity that we don’t realize how much more powerful using positive statements can be.

This is a matter of approach. Think before you speak in 2016 can also directly translate to – Think before you post. Before you put that negative statement out there on FB or Tweet it or share it across the Googleverse, THINK about the impact you are having with whatever it is. Do you NEED to add to the anger, to the fear, to the loathing, to the ever-present negativity out there?

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Taking positive actions, like thinking ahead before you speak/post/share can change the world.

Finding positivity is not hard, it just requires action. Knowing that words convey immense power, we can choose to use them to build or to destroy. When we consider our words carefully, thinking before we speak or post online, we can make the choice to use words to empower ourselves. When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings. We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings. When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for. Gratitude leads to happiness. Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude. Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the one hundred eighth entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

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Find your happy place, and enjoy some time there.

We all have them. That place that we get to where the world is perfect. That spot where we are in absolute contentment, feeling alive and whole and where time can just stand still and we feel as if might want to live there forever.

That is your happy place. I think there are many different happy places for most people, but they are not just an abstract idea or a thought, they are a place where you are without care, without worry, without fear, in harmony and content and, dare I say, happy.

We live in a world that is far better at telling us why we should be angry, why we should be upset about this thing or that thing, why we should resist, fight, and generally be distressed about this thing or that thing. Doesn’t matter if it’s the economy or politics or celebrity shenanigans, we focus on the upsetting, disturbing and the negative.

It is hard to feel good when you are inundated with so very many reasons to feel bad. It is hard to be happy when the world wants to make you angry. It is hard to be building anything together when the world suggests you should tear it all apart. It feels like a struggle, it feels like we have to put so very much effort into every little bit.

That is why we need to allow ourselves to spend time in our happy places. This is why we need to retreat to these places where we are deeply contented so we can recharge our batteries.

What are these happy places? For obvious reasons these will be different for different people. My happy places are not going to be the same as your happy places and vice versa. Certainly there will be overlap and similarities, but what makes me feel best is not likely to be the same as what works for you.

Let’s look at some general happy places. Lying in bed cuddling with your lover. Just sharing the intimacy, no worries, no cares, just floating there together in calm. Standing under the shower letting the water run over you. Just listening to nothing but the sound of the spray and being utterly in that moment, no concerns, no demands, just time. Reading that book that just sucks you in, absorbing you so deeply into the story that you lose all track of time and forget even where you are physically doing that reading.

Finding that happy place is something I have taken for granted and forgotten the importance of. Last night I was on the road home pretty late, not a lot of cars on the road, it was a dark but clear night. I was cruising along, blasting some of my favorite music in the cabin of my car, and singing. As I rolled along a one-lane highway singing my heart out, I realized I was in my happy place. I had no concerns, I had no worries, time just flowed and I was in that perfect peace, that great comfort where I was relaxed, in the moment, and happy.

That’s one of the key things that makes up your happy places. These are places not in the then, but in the now. Happy places are immediate, they are a moment in time in the here-and-now where you are utterly content. You can’t necessarily plan for them, you just find yourself within them.

I didn’t set out to do anything apart from drive home last night, but in that journey I found one of my happy places. When I got home I was at peace, I was feeling revitalized, I felt as if I could take on anything that came my way.

All too often we forget about our happy places. All too often we reach a point where we know we have to move on from that place, and rather than give thanks for that time and leave contented, we feel cheated and we leave right into a less positive state of mind.

What this boils down to is one of the main elements of Pathwalking I often return to. It is so very, very important to live in the now. To be awake, to be aware, to be present. My happy places are great and wonderful spaces I arrive in at that moment, and they are to be savored, but they are not necessarily where I can live, much as I may want to. Knowing that they are there, knowing that they can be brought out at any time, I can seek them out and find them again.

Further, in knowing that there are these happy places and that they are ever-changing and always in motion because they happen in the now, we have infinite room to find and create more.   There are new happy places to be found, to be enjoyed and to cherish after they have gone. We should not lament their passing, we should express gratitude for having them.

Gratitude is one of the keys to manifesting. When we are grateful for things and show that gratitude, it usually leads to more of those things. To reach more of those happy places, whatever they are, we need to be grateful for them after we have left them.

We all have bad days. We all face trials, deadlines, matters we’d prefer to avoid, times when we wish things were better than they are. Nobody is alone in going through that. But we all also have the ability to find our happy places, and to feel the joy and allow ourselves to experience them when we do.

Why do I want to walk a path of my own choosing? Because it’s not just about having control over my own destiny, it’s about finding what makes me happy in this life. I want a life of new things to learn, endless possibilities, joy and happiness. There are always experiences to be had. Having spent some quality time in one of my happy places, I think I have a better understanding of how great that can be.

Where are your happy places?

 

GOAL LOG – Week 6:

Diet: Still tracking what I am eating daily. Seeing I still need to give more consideration to my choices.

Exercise: Fencing happened, and got to the gym twice. Still need to exercise more frequently.

Writing: Five days of writing. Look at that, I met my goal last week.

I need to make more of this process.

 

This is the two-hundred sixteenth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas and my personal experiences in walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my personal desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available in print and for your Kindle.

Positivity: Expressing Love

I love you.

This is the most powerful phrase in the world. It can lighten our step, it can change our mood, it can make our world better in ways beyond measure.

I used to be terrified of this phrase. The implications behind it, the commitment, the expectations. I didn’t want to say it because I know that it can be ever changing, that it can be impermanent, and that it can be as destructive as it can be powerful.

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But that’s not love….that’s fear. Fear is not just the path to the Dark Side, it is a tool that gets used again and again to control, to make people choose things they don’t actually want and that are against their best interests, and it gets used to shape our world.

Love is not fear. But in many respects they are the opposite sides of the coin. One of the many many reasons I think Paulo Coelho’s The Alchemist is a favorite book of mine is this line right here:

“My Heart Is Afraid that it will have to suffer,” the boy told the alchemist one night as they looked up at the moonless sky. “Tell your heart that the fear of suffering is worse than the suffering itself. And that no heart has ever suffered when it goes in search of its dreams.”

We are so afraid that in the process of loving we will experience suffering, we skip the love. We fear broken hearts, we fear that love will change and end and that it will hurt. Nobody wants to suffer, and fear is equally as powerful as love. The tug-of-war between these forces frequently can go either way.

I chose many years ago to stop fearing love. Love takes on so many forms and it is so amazingly healing and powerful that even when it crashes and it goes awry, I am still better for having experienced that love.

Fear destroys. Fear tears apart and fear belittles us. Love builds. Love knits us together and love grows us. Yes, I cannot deny love can come with pain…but love is not suffering, love is joy. Love is healing.

I love you. I don’t just write that here as a meaningless homage to the idea of love – I write this because you need to believe it. I DO love you. I may not know you personally, but I love the spark within you. I love what you are capable of, I love you for your potential and the love and joy that you bring to other people in the world. That is what love is – unabashed, unafraid, happiness and joy and ultimate positivity. I write this every week because of my love for you, and because you can never have too much love in the world.

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My friends, my family, my random readers I may never meet, please don’t fear the most powerful phrase in the world. Embrace it, utilize it so we can work together to build this amazing world instead of dividing and tearing it all apart.

Finding positivity is not hard, it just requires action. Knowing that saying I love you can change the world for the better, we have a most powerful tool. When we express our love, in whatever form that takes, we ultimately empower ourselves. When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings. We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings. When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for. Gratitude leads to happiness. Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude. Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the one hundred seventh entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

Musings on writing projects and getting readers

How do I draw in more readers?

I have now published four books. It began with the first year’s worth of Pathwalking, including some extra bits (which largely came from this blog).

The second was Seeker: The Source Chronicles Book I. First in the fantasy series I’ve been working on now since 1998. Due to the nature of the story I targeted it not just to lovers of Fantasy, but to young adults. It is certainly no more violent than many other works for YA out there.

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A little more than a year later I published Finder: The Source Chronicles Book II. I continue the story of The Seeker of the Source, new location and many new characters. Expanding upon a world I’ve been writing in for nearly eighteen years now.

In the middle of these I published Vortex Pilgrimage. Not my normal style, an homage to Paulo Coelho’s style and the notion at least is based on many of my life experiences.

Come May, I intend to publish my 5th book. The first novel to follow the short story I wrote for Spells and Swashbucklers called The Vapor Rogues. This is more time in my Steampunk world, and I am hoping that I will be bringing the book to The Steampunk Worlds’ Fair. This composition will be called Clouds of Authority – A Vapor Rogues Novel.

Beyond these five I still blog every week here – Mondays I present Positivity, on Wednesdays its Pathwalking. All of the writing I do covers a fairly wide range of topics.

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I have more finished books. Harbinger: The Source Chronicles Book III is in fact complete, but unedited. Clouds of Destiny – A Vapor Rogues Novel is also complete but unedited. As I strive to write regularly my main focus has been on a wholly new sci-fi epic, though I am not quite halfway through Guardians: The Source Chronicles Book IV.

Writing. I write. Fantasy, sci-fi, Steampunk, other fiction, self-help or philosophy or New-Age or whatever you’d call my blog posts. I love to work at a job that utilizes me for either business writing or SEO blog and site writing or working on press releases and manuals and anything else that lets me write stuff.

I have the books, now the question is getting them out to a wider audience. I need to figure out how I can spread the word about all of my completed work, and increase my sales. I would love nothing more than to be able to write my novels full time.

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This returns me to my original inquiry – How do I draw more readers? There are book promotion sites out there I can utilize, but they are not free. I can send messages across social media to all of my friends and to the circles beyond. I can use PPC tools with Amazon and Kindle and Facebook to spread the word and draw more sales. It’s not a lack of options as much as picking and choosing where to spend money and convincing my friends to spread the word for me to try to increase my sales.

This is the downside to going the non-traditional route. I am my own publisher, I am my own marketing department. I get to put it all together, and I get to sink or swim based solely on the effort I put forth to make this what I want it to be.

This is the path I want to walk. This is the thing I want to give most of my time to, this is the thing I most want for my life. I want to have a broader audience read and enjoy my work, and I want to be able to spend more time writing and producing those works.

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If you have not done so, please explore my work. Further, if you do, please leave reviews – more reviews become tremendously useful when it comes to Amazon’s metrics. And if you enjoy what I do – please share with YOUR friends, so that I can spread the joy and give my heart and soul to the craft.

Thank you for your continued support!

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I have never chosen the conventional path.

Before I came up with the idea of Pathwalking, I still never managed to conform to any normal path. This goes back a long, long ways as I examine it.

As a kid I was not like the other kids in a number of ways I read at a higher level, I came from one of at the time few single-parent homes. I never quite meshed with the religious community in which I was raised, I always felt like an outsider, never really a part of the goings-on in the groups.

When I got to middle school and high school I was a geek. A nerd. I sang in choir, I acted in the plays and built the sets after school. I was never an athlete, I was part of a crowd that relished in playing Dungeons and Dragons and drinking highly caffeinated soda til the early hours of the morning.

I found a group where I sort-of belonged. I developed a circle of friends and had people with whom I would hang out during those years.

Then came college. Unlike the majority of my friends, who either had another year or two of high school or chose to attend a college within a five hour drive of home, I went halfway across the country. I started again, I knew nobody and was on my own.

Even after I chose my major, I still was on an unconventional path. I didn’t really hang out with other people in my degree program, I focused my attention elsewhere. I was something of an outsider, a total nonconformist within what is traditionally a tight-knit albeit competitive circle. I gained a ton of life experience attending college on my own so far away, though I still was looking for who I was and what I wanted to be.

After college I found work. That’s what you do, right? Go back for more schooling or go find a job. I found a place to live, I found a job. I tried to work within that framework, and I muddled through.

I went from one job to another. I moved around every five to seven years. I never landed that job that utilized all my skillsets, never settled into one place for more than a year or two.

Then the unexpected. I was in a serious accident that hospitalized me for a while and took a year to fully recover from. I had to rebuild myself physically.

That experience is probably where I first began to see this idea. I hadn’t formed it, I certainly didn’t put a name to it, but there was something there. I came out of that a different person, someone who had faced the possibility that there were things I could never do again – and refused to accept that.

For the first time I manifested my reality. I saw myself fully healed, I saw my life returned to what I wanted it to be. No exceptions, no other reality…and that was how it went.

Over the next several years my life continued much as it had before. Bounced through a couple different jobs, never really found my place. I had begun to establish some real roots, started to connect with people whom I am still friends with now. I began to see that my path was not going to ever be what anyone else would consider ‘normal’.

Trials and errors. I started to look at what I was doing and to embrace that the unconventional path might be what was right for me. I never chose the easy way, and I started to think that was because I never wanted the easy way.

I majored in theatre. I wanted to be a director. I worked in radio, I wanted to be a DJ. I started writing fiction when I was nine years old, I wanted to be an author. None of these choices are easy paths, none of these are what someone might call normal. All of them have risk.

For a long time I made no choice. I didn’t pursue the path of the director because I found I only really enjoyed theatre when it was not the life-sucking all-encompassing experience that professionals worked in. I was a lot happier with theatre as a hobby.

I was unwilling to relocate to the middle-of-nowhere USA to work for a crappy little radio station. I couldn’t get more than a temp gig as a DJ in upstate NY, and I was afraid to completely restart my life again. I let that fall by the wayside, and retain an ear for 90’s grunge music and fond memories of cutting and splicing reel-to-reels.

I would start to write, then stop. Then I started again. One day I started a scene that evolved into a book that evolved into a series. Two books done and published, one complete and unedited and the fourth underway. I chose a path.

I started Pathwalking as a practice and began to flesh out this life philosophy over four years ago now. One of the elements of this experience has been to embrace that mine is and always will be the unconventional path. That is who I am, and that is what helps me to choose my direction.

Why am I writing about this today? Because I am at something of a crossroads in my life. My paths have led me to a place of uncertainty, and I have been struggling with depression and questioning the choices that have brought me here. Getting caught up in the “what ifs” of life can be disconcerting, but more it can be soul-crushing. Second-guessing what you did before is no way to choose in the here-and-now or to decide on what you want in the future. The key is to accept the choices, accept all of your successes and failures and then to learn from them going forward.

Mine has been the unconventional path. I recognize this, I am working on accepting this, and as such I am prepared to continue making choices that feel right for me, but most importantly that make me happy.

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man.” – Polonius, William Shakespeare’s Hamlet.

Have you taken conventional or unconventional paths?

 

GOAL LOG – Week 5:

Diet: I am tracking what I am eating daily. Working on paying more attention to my choices.

Exercise: Fencing happened, but only one trip to the gym. Need to exercise more.

Writing: Four days of writing. One was only a few lines, but that is still writing.

Continuing.

 

This is the two-hundred fifteenth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas and my personal experiences in walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my personal desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available in print and for your Kindle.

Positivity: Fighting Depression

Despite working to maintain and promote positivity, sometimes depression is unavoidable.

I know how this works. You put the energy and focus into maintaining a positive mindset, you use the many tools available to build positivity – and yet you still get sat upon by the black dog of depression.

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What do you do with that behemoth breathing in your face?

Depression is not something to be denied or ignored. If you have depression, It is a part of your psyche that you treat in one of a myriad of ways, but never completely get rid of. You can keep it under control, you can keep it at bay, but you cannot just eliminate it and have it be gone for good. But you can control it instead of letting it control you.

I have been coping with depression for pretty much all of my life. I know there is a chemical imbalance in my system, and I have it under control more often than not. But we all have moments, we all have triggers that will set us off, that will tip the balance and take away control. Even the best antidepressants can only do so much when that happens.

How are positivity and depression linked together? Because focusing on positivity gives me a light at the end of the tunnel. It makes a place where the darkness that is bouts of depression seems escapable, and where you can find hope and reasons to work through it and return to balance.

I’ve written about many tools we can employ to build positivity. Well working to build positivity is an excellent means to work your way out of depression as well. Expressing gratitude can build positivity as well as pull us out of the discontent depression brings on. Using attitude shifters employed to build positivity can draw us out of that unsettled state and help return us to balance. Knowing there is hope and that there are positive things to be focused on can show us ways to get out of that unhappy state.

You are not alone. We are so very many who are fighting the same battle, wrestling the same demons and working with those same struggles, and we are in this together. That is a positive. I know how alone depression feels, I know how hopeless it can seem – but I also know that it is a temporary state, and that I can move beyond it and find positivity in a myriad of things.

I accept that I will sometimes succumb to depression, and I’ll berate myself and I will curl up in a ball on the couch for a while and shut out the world. But I also know that there are numerous good and positive things out there, and that I can get through this and find them again. I also know that I am not alone, and that we all have the strength and the mindpower to overcome this state and to see that there is always new possibilities, and positive things that will make me feel ok again.

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I know this can seem impossible. I know how much this feeling can suck. I also know that we are capable of amazing things, and that we can and we will be ok. The actions of seeking positivity can work as a natural antidepressant.

Finding positivity is not hard, it just requires action. Knowing that bouts of depression happen even when you work to be positive, you can see how to overcome them. When we know that employing tools to find positivity also can fight depression, we can use the same tools to empower ourselves. When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings. We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings. When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for. Gratitude leads to happiness. Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude. Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the one hundred sixth entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

Pathwalking 214

Even when you are actively Pathwalking, there are responsibilities you cannot just ignore.

I can imagine how some people may see the idea of Pathwalking as slacking. Choosing the thing you want to do over the things you should be doing – but that could not be further from the truth.

There is still responsibility and accountability when it comes to Pathwalking. In fact, I could even argue that that is what it is all about.

This week I am posting late. Normally this is out there for you to read early in the morning, because that is the deadline I set for myself. Every Wednesday morning, without fail, for over four years now. Yet this week it’s coming out late.

No, I am accountable to no one but myself when it comes to this blog. I set the deadlines, I set the goals, I do all of the work in placing this out there and maintaining it. I am accountable to nobody but myself and my readers.

Yet it still matters very much to me that this be done every week, around the same time. I don’t like when I post it late because I have a goal to meet and the day and approximate timing of these posts is something I take as seriously as any other responsibilities in my life.

However, that being said – sometimes you have things you must do that cannot be avoided, that are also on deadlines that trump what you have planned. This is where it’s entirely possible to be traveling upon more than one path at a time and they might intersect.

So now what do you do?

This is why while it is really useful to be able to multitask, it is also very important to be able to prioritize. When your paths and responsibilities intersect you have to choose which to travel and contend with.

I am still walking a path of my choosing because I am the one making the choices about how to walk that path, and what responsibilities I need to take care of now and what I can delay. Today, unfortunately it was this post that got delayed.

I had a meeting I needed to attend. It was early, and I did not get out of bed early enough to write a post for this week. Yes, I often try when I know this is going to be my situation to write the post ahead. Unfortunately, I was too tired last night to come up with a good topic to write about.

Yes, if you ever wanted to see a glimpse into the inner workings of my brain, this does usually take on a topical bent the directly correlates with immediate happenings in my world. When I write about this journey what I intend to write comes out entirely based on what I need to explore for myself.

This is about responsibility. I have been maintaining my new goal log for a month, and one of those goals is to get to the gym at least twice a week. Since the meeting I attended this morning happened to be in the town where my gym is located, I took advantage and went there.

This week’s Pathwalking topic is late because I had to take a look at my total responsibilities for this morning and choose which took priority. I went to my meeting and then the gym and then worked to put this out there.

Pathwalking is not about denying responsibilities or accountabilities, it is about choosing them. I am choosing what I am responsible for, and being accountable for these things at the same time.

Certainly there are things I would prefer not to deal with. We all have bills, we all have obligations because we made choices – and we as such are responsible for seeing them through.

This is about choosing for yourself. Even when those choices involve things you don’t want but have to do, you get to choose to be accountable and responsible and you do them.

I thoroughly believe the world would be a much, much better place if more people were responsible and accountable. How often is blame cast for problems, how frequently do mistakes get swept under the rug, how many times do we look to higher powers to solve our issues rather than be accountable for them ourselves?

All you have to do is look at many examples of American government and elements of our corporate culture. Nobody takes responsibility for anything, and they certainly don’t care to be accountable either. It’s all about blame, it’s all about pushing away responsibility and accountability. Can you imagine just how much these entities could do for the world if they just acted responsibly instead of in their own very selfish interests?

Pathwalking doesn’t get you out of being responsible and accountable for your actions, your plans, your paths in life. It is about taking control, making active choices and as such taking on the responsibility for your own destiny and accountability for how you live your life.

Are you accountable for who you are and what you do?

 

GOAL LOG – Week 4:

Diet: I continue tracking what I am eating daily. Still working on keeping with it and sticking to it. Trying to be more cognizant of my choices.

Exercise: Fencing happened twice last week, and a lot of walking, but I did not get to the gym at all. Still need to exercise more.

Writing: Only got in a day’s worth. I need to put more time in my writing.

Onwards and forwards!

 

This is the two-hundred fourteenth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas and my personal experiences in walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my personal desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available in print and for your Kindle.

Pathwalking 214

Even when you are actively Pathwalking, there are responsibilities you cannot just ignore.

I can imagine how some people may see the idea of Pathwalking as slacking. Choosing the thing you want to do over the things you should be doing – but that could not be further from the truth.

There is still responsibility and accountability when it comes to Pathwalking. In fact, I could even argue that that is what it is all about.

This week I am posting late. Normally this is out there for you to read early in the morning, because that is the deadline I set for myself. Every Wednesday morning, without fail, for over four years now. Yet this week it’s coming out late.

No, I am accountable to no one but myself when it comes to this blog. I set the deadlines, I set the goals, I do all of the work in placing this out there and maintaining it. I am accountable to nobody but myself and my readers.

Yet it still matters very much to me that this be done every week, around the same time. I don’t like when I post it late because I have a goal to meet and the day and approximate timing of these posts is something I take as seriously as any other responsibilities in my life.

However, that being said – sometimes you have things you must do that cannot be avoided, that are also on deadlines that trump what you have planned. This is where it’s entirely possible to be traveling upon more than one path at a time and they might intersect.

So now what do you do?

This is why while it is really useful to be able to multitask, it is also very important to be able to prioritize. When your paths and responsibilities intersect you have to choose which to travel and contend with.

I am still walking a path of my choosing because I am the one making the choices about how to walk that path, and what responsibilities I need to take care of now and what I can delay. Today, unfortunately it was this post that got delayed.

I had a meeting I needed to attend. It was early, and I did not get out of bed early enough to write a post for this week. Yes, I often try when I know this is going to be my situation to write the post ahead. Unfortunately, I was too tired last night to come up with a good topic to write about.

Yes, if you ever wanted to see a glimpse into the inner workings of my brain, this does usually take on a topical bent the directly correlates with immediate happenings in my world. When I write about this journey what I intend to write comes out entirely based on what I need to explore for myself.

This is about responsibility. I have been maintaining my new goal log for a month, and one of those goals is to get to the gym at least twice a week. Since the meeting I attended this morning happened to be in the town where my gym is located, I took advantage and went there.

This week’s Pathwalking topic is late because I had to take a look at my total responsibilities for this morning and choose which took priority. I went to my meeting and then the gym and then worked to put this out there.

Pathwalking is not about denying responsibilities or accountabilities, it is about choosing them. I am choosing what I am responsible for, and being accountable for these things at the same time.

Certainly there are things I would prefer not to deal with. We all have bills, we all have obligations because we made choices – and we as such are responsible for seeing them through.

This is about choosing for yourself. Even when those choices involve things you don’t want but have to do, you get to choose to be accountable and responsible and you do them.

I thoroughly believe the world would be a much, much better place if more people were responsible and accountable. How often is blame cast for problems, how frequently do mistakes get swept under the rug, how many times do we look to higher powers to solve our issues rather than be accountable for them ourselves?

All you have to do is look at many examples of American government and elements of our corporate culture. Nobody takes responsibility for anything, and they certainly don’t care to be accountable either. It’s all about blame, it’s all about pushing away responsibility and accountability. Can you imagine just how much these entities could do for the world if they just acted responsibly instead of in their own very selfish interests?

Pathwalking doesn’t get you out of being responsible and accountable for your actions, your plans, your paths in life. It is about taking control, making active choices and as such taking on the responsibility for your own destiny and accountability for how you live your life.

Are you accountable for who you are and what you do?

 

GOAL LOG – Week 4:

Diet: I continue tracking what I am eating daily. Still working on keeping with it and sticking to it. Trying to be more cognizant of my choices.

Exercise: Fencing happened twice last week, and a lot of walking, but I did not get to the gym at all. Still need to exercise more.

Writing: Only got in a day’s worth. I need to put more time in my writing.

Onwards and forwards!

 

This is the two-hundred fourteenth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas and my personal experiences in walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my personal desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available in print and for your Kindle.

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