The Ramblings of the Titanium Don

Explorations of Conscious Reality Creation and Other Matters

Month: November 2015

Positivity: Your Potential

You have more potential than you realize.

I have no doubt you have seen this somewhere before. I think every single self-help concept in existence makes this particular statement. All the new-age teachers and concepts like The Secret and The Law of Attraction say it. This does not make it any less true.

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This applies to everyone. It is a simple fact. Some days it is just harder to see and recognize and acknowledge than other days.

We live in a society where most of our leaders prefer to disempower us than to help us realize how much potential we each have. Why? Because they think power is finite, and they want to hoard it to the best of their abilities.

You have more potential than you realize. No matter how difficult your day may be, no matter the obstacles in your path, you can change your world. You have more control than you know, and you have the most power to empower yourself.

The catch is that you have to choose to empower yourself. You have to recognize your own strengths and your own weaknesses in order to take what actions are necessary to empower yourself.

We all have routines and patterns we follow in our days and weeks, but we also have the power to change them. We can break from our routines, and we can create new patters to choose for ourselves the lives we most desire to have.

Recognizing that you have more potential than you realize is filled with Positivity. This idea can help us to build better things for ourselves, to make more of our own choices for our own lives, and that is hugely positive.

Do you want to control your life, or give that control to someone else? I think people don’t see how little it takes to give away our own empowerment.

We may not recognize we are doing it. Did you hear the thing about that person in the office? Isn’t that person terrible? If you respond in the affirmative and then spread the story to another coworker, but prior to that story you had a different opinion of the person in question – you have given away your power. Did that story REALLY change your opinion of the person in question, or did you just accept someone else’s take at face value?

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When we accept as true things we do not examine for ourselves, or when we allow the opinions of others to become our own opinions without real consideration – we have allowed another control.

You have more potential than you realize. This is a powerfully positive notion that we can all give focus to, and thus build more Positivity, and better lives as such.

Finding positivity is not hard, it just requires action. Knowing that you have more potential than you realize, you have far more options for how you choose to live your life. When we better see what we might be capable of we empower ourselves. When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings. We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings. When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for. Gratitude leads to happiness. Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude. Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the ninety-sixth entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

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Consider reality.

What we call reality is not the same for everyone. We might believe that it is, but in truth it’s really not. My reality is nothing like yours, or his, or hers, or anyone else’s, really.

Even those we are closest to do not share our reality. Oh unquestionably they intersect, but that doesn’t make them the same.

Let’s take Thanksgiving for example. For some this is a day where family comes together and eats much tasty food. For some this is the remembrance of a time when the native peoples were taken advantage of and subsequently driven from their homes and otherwise mistreated. For some this is a day where you make lots and lots of money because consumerism drives you. For some, it’s a day just like any other day.

There is no right or wrong in this, because we are all in different realities.

Because no two realities are alike, this is why we can manifest virtually anything. We can create the world we want to live in, because what we are actually building is our own personal reality.

Let’s look at other examples. For some people reality is a man and a woman have a relationship, and marry and produce kids. For some people reality is a man and a woman have multiple relationships. For some people a man and a man have a relationship, or multiple relationships, or…the possibilities here are endless.

The point of this is that reality is different for each of us. What we believe and how we view the world is going to create, build, and even destroy our reality.

Pathwalking is the act of consciously creating reality. I frequently use the phrase consciousness creates reality. Well, this is why reality can be changed.

If that’s the case, how come people are poor, how come we have war? The scientific/metaphysical explanation is that is everything is at its base core energy. All energy vibrates and vibrates at a frequency. So even if there are an infinite number of frequencies, we might still be vibrating at similar ones.

We spend more time unaware of our surroundings than we do aware. I mean true awareness, asking ourselves questions and considering our actions, our thoughts and our feelings. Because of this, we often get caught up in group reality. Even though my reality is different from yours, we may still have common elements dictated by outside forces.

Where we live, what religions or philosophies we subscribe to, what gender we identify as, what gender we are attracted to places us in group realities. Society loves to box people. Look at the American political parties. While they are largely the same, one leans left of center the other right of center. However, the parties are a blanket under which all platforms must lie, which is why little to no individuality amongst politicians stands out from the blanket of their party lines.

Reality can be changed. But those big, overarching group realities cannot be changed unless the individuals that fall within them change. If I identify myself a certain way, that creates my reality. When I identify with those groups, I have made that part of the reality I experience.

These are the importance of I am statements. I am white. I am male. I am straight. I am short. Right there I have put myself into four group identities – skin color, gender, sexual orientation, height. Many of the aspects of my reality will be colored by these ways in which I identify myself, and thus create my reality.

Do these need to exist? Yes, because we all have separate identities. Society both encourages and discourages that, however. It is that particular schizophrenia that makes life often far more complicated and difficult than it actually needs to be. The difference lies in self-identity versus group identity.

If I accept someone else’s label of my reality, then it becomes mine. I believe that a lot of times we don’t realize that we take that level of ownership into our hearts and minds, and as such build these realities that, frankly, we really don’t want.

How do I create a reality I desire? I have been working on this for some time now, and learn new ideas constantly. This concept, that reality is only what I make of it, gives me new tools to consider when it comes to creating, finding, and walking the Path of my choosing.

Consider reality. What ways do I identify my world on my own, and what ways do I climb beneath the blanket of the groupthink? This is important, because I believe that if more of us consider our own personal realities, and take more actions, give more thoughts and consider more feelings in that regard we can effect and even change group reality.

It has happened before. The identity of one blanket group reality has shifted and changed, and they can and likely will change again. Accepting our own control of reality empowers us to choose for ourselves, and this will build better things. When individuals are more empowered, they in turn help to empower groups they are a part of.

Before you make your reality based on group reality, consider if it’s what you want, and how you wish to be identified. We have more power and more capability to make our own realities than we realize. Before we attack those groups for change, let’s start with ourselves and our personal realities.

How do you think of your own reality?

 

 

This is the two-hundred fourth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas and my personal experiences in walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my personal desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available in print and for your Kindle.

Positivity: Compassion

Compassion is something we all crave. We want the people around us to take our hopes and dreams into account in their actions as much as we might consider theirs in ours.

What is compassion? Dictionary.com defines it thus:

feeling of deep sympathy and sorrow for another who is stricken by misfortune, accompanied by a strong desire
to alleviate the suffering.

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When we see people suffering we want to step up and help them. We want to do what we can to better their lot, because that is what we would want them to do for us.

Compassion is not a weakness. It is a strength to show depth of emotion.

We are all one. That’s the simple explanation for each and every one of us. The divisions we experience, whether it be nationality or gender or sexual orientation or skin color are all artificial. We see injustice and pain and suffering all caused by misunderstandings that come of these slight differences, and we sometimes let our fear of our differences get the better of us.

Just because they look different or love differently or speak a different language or worship in a way different from our own they are not lessor nor greater than us. Those that are unlike how we are in whatever way it may be do not deserve to suffer, they do not deserve to tormented or disregarded or treated unequally. They deserve compassion.

Compassion is one of the things that separates us from the rest of the animal kingdom. We do not just exist on survival of the fittest, we strive to help all of our race to survive. We can raise one another up or tear each other down. We can turn our backs on those who are suffering or we can show compassion and try to lend a hand.

Fear is easily exploited. Fear of the unknown is used as a weapon against compassion. I have yet to see a situation where showing fear instead of compassion made anything better or anyone stronger.

Compassion allows us a chance to work to improve the lot of another. I do not know of anyone that would not want the same to be done for them if they were suffering in return. Showing compassion for the plight of others is deeply positive, and feels a whole lot better than fear.

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Fear of the unknown simply because it is different is irrational. Before we lash out at the things we fear we need to consider if our actions are based in compassion and logic or fear and irrationality.

Consider how fear makes you feel negative whereas compassion makes you feel positive. Which do you prefer to experience?

Finding positivity is not hard, it just requires action. Knowing that compassion can build greater positivity in the world, we can choose it over fear and irrationality. When we choose to show compassion for the suffering of others we empower them, and in empowering others we empower ourselves. When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings. We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings. When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for. Gratitude leads to happiness. Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude. Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the ninety-fifth entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

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As I walk my own path, I do not do so ignoring the paths of others.

My path is unique, as is yours, his, hers…everybody’s. However, no path is more important than another, and no one of us is any better than the rest. We are all equal, and we are all one.

Society has become utterly obsessed with division. We are split along lines of gender, or sexual orientation, or rich and poor, black and white…take your pick.

Scientifically, it does not matter. X-Ray through the skin and you will see bones and internal organs that are so minutely different as to be unmistaken and called the same. No matter the variations, we all have the same parts and pieces underneath.

Spiritually, it does not matter. We all have hopes, dreams, goals and desires. We have our beliefs and prejudices and so on and so forth. No matter what identity we use on the outside, we are all one. We all have souls, we all have paths we will walk in this life, whether we choose them or they are chosen for us.

It is, as such, important to treat other people as you yourself wish to be treated. This is not just about the people around you, your friends family and co-workers, this is the general notion of people.

We are inundated with stories of people mistreating people all the time. Whether we are talking about terrorists killing to expand fear, or racists and bigots threatening civil liberties, or slave larborers, or children abused and neglected; the bad news is virtually inescapable.

What’s worse is that we wind up calling out whole groups of people based upon fear and discomfort and the differences between us. We sometimes see bad beyond the incredibly small number of perpetrators of that bad in whole groups of bad people.

I believe that most people want to feel empowered. That’s what all of it comes down to. Some people see empowerment by doing things for themselves and taking the initiative to improve their lives. Some people think that they can rely on people outside of themselves to provide them with that empowerment. And then there are some people who feel they are empowered by disempowering others.

As much as I wish to choose and walk my own path in this life, I recognize there are people who actually prefer to let others choose for them. Why not? Sometimes it does look like it will be a whole lot easier to let other people choose for us, and to direct our lives so that we don’t have to deal with it.

I understand that for some people, they simply don’t want to have the responsibility to empower themselves. It is not easy, it can be frustrating, it can be infuriating sometimes. It can be especially complicated when you are faced with numerous obstacles both tangible and intangible to overcome.

Some people have been so hurt that they feel any sense of empowerment is not something they can do for themselves. Too much pain, too much suffering, so they would rather just give it over to another.

I believe that happiness comes from within, not from without. I can’t rely on anyone else to make me happy, I have to find it in myself first. I have had a lot of experiences over my lifetime that have shown me this, and I share this notion every week because I believe that in doing so, I can help others on their paths with the struggles we inevitably all encounter.

I say that overall I am not a judgmental person. For the most part, this is true. However, I still manage to get myself caught up in the fervor of the negative news. There are organizations and groups that I will point to and express my opinion as to their position in this world. I say things about them that perpetuate and frankly expand the problem.

Terrorists are individuals. Politicians are individuals. Each one has chosen their own path, and though in many instances I thoroughly disagree with that choice there is probably very little I can do to dissuade those individuals. They alone can make that choice.

Unfortunately many of these individuals strive to disempower others in the process of empowering themselves.   Though every individual can choose for themselves how they wish to live their life, it is never right to disempower others in the process. You don’t empower yourself by taking power away from others.

Frankly, the opposite is true – empowerment of the self is empowering to others, and you gain far more by helping others than you do by taking. Building up is far more powerful than knocking down. Sometimes knocking down looks easier, but once you’ve knocked something down you have no structure, and the process of rebuilding can be fraught with challenges. Whereas if you are building something up, you have structure and more to go on.

Your path is not my path, but I will encourage you to do what you feel you need to do for your life.

I am going to break from my normal means of Pathwalking to address something I have been recently disturbed by. In reaction to the recent terror attacks in Paris, several politicians have expressed their unwillingness to take in refugees.

Here is the tie-in to Pathwalking: The refugees have fled rather than sacrifice the ability to choose paths for themselves. Instead of remaining in a war-torn, bombed-out nation where they must choose between bad and worse, they have given up the lives they know to choose a new path. They didn’t flee to spread more terror around the world, the fled to get away from it and start over. Rather than be disempowered by others they chose a very hard and difficult path to empowerment.

As I walk my own path, I do not do so ignoring the paths of others, no matter their circumstances. I also know that there are far, far more difficult and heart-wrenching paths to be chosen, and I respect that no matter how great or small it may be.

How do you view the paths of others?

 

This is the two-hundred third entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas and my personal experiences in walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my personal desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available in print and for your Kindle.

Positivity: Build Peace

Positivity is a key to peace.

Chaos, disorder, negativity are the weapons terrorists employ. They work to make us fear those who are different from us, to change who we are and what we do, they use terror and fear to sew doubt, discord and disharmony in the world.

Peace is possible. When we think, feel and take inspired action to create positivity we keep the fear and terror at bay, and as such we build for ourselves a better world.

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We cannot allow the horrid things of a few fanatical whackjobs dictate policy and color our attitudes towards a larger group of people. We cannot let the hatemongers and warmongers run society. We have the ability to do better than this, and we can choose to make a better world for ourselves as such.

It can be very hard to find positivity in the face of almost overwhelming bad news. Natural disasters, horrific inhuman attacks on innocent people, people using these awful things to attempt political gain make us feel angry, sad, bitter, disconnected. How can we possibly find positivity in this?

We are here. We are alive, we have opportunities all around us. We have the chance to take the negative feelings we have and turn them around, find the things that make us feel positive. We can use attitude shifters and creativity and mood changers and gratitude amongst the endless tools available to us to rebuild positivity.

It is ok to feel these negative emotions towards the bad things we are aware of. But we have to choose if we want to be dominated by and languish in the negative or try instead to create positivity and work to improve our own lots.

It starts with each of us, on our own. It starts from within. I am the only person who can take the responsibility for how I feel, and I alone can choose to find things that make me feel positive. I can find things that will turn my mindset away from being focused on what I do not want and what makes me sad to what I do want and what makes me happy.

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When we let hatred and fear and anger dominate our attitudes, no matter the scale, we only get more of these things. We have to seek out love and assurance and joy to be our dominant attitudes, and in the face of negativity this is particularly challenging. But we are all up to that challenge, and we each and every one of us can choose positivity.

Just like negative begets negative, and positive begets positive, war begets war and peace begets peace. The negative forces want us to react to them negatively, because then they are empowered. We ultimately have to choose if we really want to give them that power, or if we are better off empowering ourselves. Finding and creating positivity is one of the paths to peace.

Finding positivity is not hard, it just requires action. Knowing that positivity is an element of peace, we can use it to build a better world, and to disempower the hatemongers. When we choose to react with positivity instead of negativity we empower ourselves. When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings. We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings. When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for. Gratitude leads to happiness. Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude. Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the ninety-fourth entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

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How do I go about taking responsibility for my own empowerment? There are several ways to make this happen, which I would like to share with you this week.

The first step is that we need to acknowledge our own accountability. How? By taking responsibility for our thoughts, feelings and actions. Nobody can control anybody else, unless you allow someone else to be in control. As such, you and you alone are the responsible party when it comes to your life.

Once we take responsibility for our own thoughts, feelings and actions, be they in the past or present, we are now accountable for where we go from here. Taking accountability means we understand the need to think before we speak, look before we leap; and even when we don’t and we mess up we accept that we are the one responsible for that.

I cannot emphasize enough how import accountability is. Why do our so-called leaders make up stories, evade the truth and outright lie? Because they know we’d never let them lead if they fessed up to all they do. Accountability becomes problematic, and society as such is not so good with this. We, as individuals, can do so very much more with our lives when we are accountable and responsible for who we are.

There are actions we can take that help us be empowered. These actions may seem somewhat trivial, but I assure you they are of far more import than we often recognize.

Gratitude. Time and again I come back to this topic, because there is nothing more powerful than gratitude when it comes to Pathwalking, or any other thing we want to create for our lives. When we are grateful for what we already have, from the tiniest detail to the grandest ideal, we generate positive energy that will allow us to have more. If we are not grateful for what we have now, how will we ever appreciate the things we want?

Thanking is as important, if not more important, than being thanked. Gratitude is not just words, it is feeling behind the action of expression. And it is very powerful and empowering as such.

Criticism. No one is a fan of criticism, even the constructive kind. However, when it comes to empowerment it is important to know when you are being critical instead of complimentary. This is not quite the same as expressing gratitude, this is more a matter of how you view things. Do you find fault, look for issues and problems with things, or do you find strength and benefits when you look at yourself?

Know that we are all our own worst critics. It is important to be mindful of whether you are more critical or more complimentary to yourself. That is part of the responsibility in making your own destiny.

Positive vs Negative. Notice how frequently I write about the importance of positivity versus negativity? This is really important to be responsible for. Why? Because whether you view things positively or negatively will seriously effect what you will be capable of manifesting.

Do you see things as broken or fixable? Do you see the world as empty or full? Do you think bad things or good things initially about anything? Taking responsibility for this process can really go a long ways towards building more and better empowerment.

Self-talk. We often neglect just how we view ourselves, and the importance of this. You need to be accountable for how you think about yourself, and how you talk to yourself. Are you more likely to be kind or cruel? Are you loving or self-deprecating? Do you talk to yourself generatively, or condescendingly?

Be responsible when you are talking to yourself. If you are starting out negative or uncomplimentary be aware of this and change it. Taking control of all this is hugely powerful towards empowerment.

Do vs undo. I have written before about the importance of approach to manifest change. Specifically, why it is so important to request things be done instead of undone.

Both good things and bad things will happen, period, end of story. Some are in your control, some not. However, when the things you do not want come about, attempting to undo them won’t manifest what you want. It is vitally important instead to do something different, or to do a thing that will help with what you want to create.

Energy can neither be created nor destroyed, it simply changes form. If we cannot destroy energy, the single basic building block of everything in the entire universe, how can we destroy what has already happened? I can’t be undone, so it is of far greater value to put my energy into doing something new.

These are just a few of the things in this world that empower us. Certainly there are others, but these are a great starting point when you want to focus on responsibility and take accountability for your own life. This is how we gain control over our destiny, and we set about walking a path of our own choosing.

I won’t lie, this is not necessarily easy. It requires, at least at first, a lot of forethought, and often changes in approach that might seem small and silly, but really they are not. I believe that relying on myself for my own empowerment can only help me to live a better life, and in so doing better help others do the same.

We really can create our own lives, despite what “they” might try to tell you. Empowerment through awareness of the now combined with thoughts and feelings and intentional actions will make us all far happier than any power from without could ever do.

Do you empower or disempower yourself with how you think, feel and act?

 

This is the two-hundred second entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas and my personal experiences in walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my personal desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available in print and for your Kindle.

Positivity: Be Wacky

Sometimes you just need to be wacky.

You need to be unusual. Different. What others might call strange.

We all have moments when we do things that are not the norm, and get called out on them. We do things that are unusual, that don’t track the same as what everyone else is doing. We do silly, crazy, bizarre and absurd things from time to time.

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Rather than deny, disseminate or divert attention from these, we should embrace them. It is our differences and the things we do unlike anyone else that make each of us the unique person that we are.

Embrace your weird, wacky, strange, off-kilter irregular self. It is extremely freeing to not be working to fit a square peg into a round hole. It is empowering to take this on, and as such it builds positivity.

I do not know anybody who needs to be serious all the time. From the so-called lowest to the highest, we all release steam or do things that might be considered strange and wack-a-doo, but this is not something to get upset about or to hide away from. Embrace the fun, and let the positivity flood in.

Despite the many attempts of people to tell us we should fall in line and stop being so strange, it is ok to let yourself be yourself. You are you alone, nobody else can be you like you can. This may seem obvious, but I cannot tell you how many people I have met who strive to be a person they think others desire them to be.

We put too much emphasis on normalcy, on being a person who meets a certain standard of respectability, of acceptability in our society. I won’t deny that there are times and places for certain behaviors and protocols to be followed, but that means there are plenty of times we can and should let who we are be free to be.

There is tremendous positivity in being the genuine article. I am the only one who can find my happiness, I alone know who I am at my very core, and I am the one who can be wacky, weird, a bit off, sorta flip, strange and even odd-looking. The empowerment that comes from embracing this aspect of myself is incredible, and has gone a long ways towards helping me to improve and expand my life experience accordingly.

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Different is not bad. We should not fight over the differences between us, we should all accept our individuality, and we should let ourselves have more fun. How is more positivity in the world anything but good?

Finding positivity is not hard, it just requires action. Knowing that you are in charge of who you are, you can embrace the things you do that others might call wacky, weird, or what-have-you. When we embrace our eccentricities and we allow ourselves to be who we are instead of who others might things us to be, we empower ourselves. When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings. We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings. When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for. Gratitude leads to happiness. Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude. Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

 

This is the ninety-third entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

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Responsibility is not a dirty word.

We often look at responsibilities we have with dread. Let’s face it, there are many things that are a must which most of us would prefer not to do. Trips to the DMV, visiting the doctor or dentist, standing in line at movies or concerts, sitting in traffic because we have to get to wherever it is we are going.

Responsibility seems to frequently be lumped into negative things. We see this as a thing that we have no choice but to do, and we dread and lament it, and we struggle with it and resist it and begrudgingly make it happen.

Responsibility is another place where we have choice.

Pathwalking is about choice. We are on our paths to find and create our own destinies in a manner of our own choosing. The simple truth of this is that we are taking responsibility for our lives.

We live in a society where responsibility is often seen as consequence. All you have to do is look to our so-called leaders, and watch them deny, deflect and outright avoid responsibility. This puts the notion of responsibility into a negative place for us, so we in turn work to not have to cope with this idea.

When we let go of this notion, and instead take responsibility, and make of it what we want, we can in fact do incredible things with it. It is by taking responsibility for our own lives, our own hopes and dreams and goals and identities that we make our individual corners of the world into a better place.

Responsibility allows us to empower ourselves. It is the chance to truly make choices in our lives, and to hold ourselves accountable for them.

Which is the next issue many have with responsibility. When I am responsible, I alone am accountable. Accountability, as I have written before, is another concept despised by many, because it is seen as life-changing and negative.

The truth is that neither responsibility nor accountability are negatives. Not unless we see them this way. They are actually tools of empowerment, which we have available to us for improving our lives and controlling our destinies.

When all is said and done, a lot of how we will live our lives comes down to empowerment. Do we each take and use our own power, or do we give it away and squander it on other things, people and situations?

We see all these material things, and often connect them to the immaterial. We see what wealth can provide and connect it to happiness. We see a stable and good relationship and connect it to feeling love. We see people surrounded by friends and connect that to joy.

I am not denying that the material things help with the immaterial. The issue here is that we have it backwards. Yes, these external material things can help us with the immaterial, but the truth is that the latter is what will bring us the former.

The car, the house, the relationship won’t make me happy? That’s not entirely the case. They will be a part of happiness, but it is really only by our own empowerment that we create the immaterial, and it is for the most part the immaterial we most desire.

Yes, I don’t think I know anybody who would not prefer to be financially well-off, in perfect physical condition, and in good relationships. But more than that, most of us want to feel good, to feel happy, to love and be loved, to be in a positive emotional state.

This is where responsibility comes to roost. When we recognize that we alone can create and control how we feel, then we can take that power and the responsibility that comes with it to better ourselves. We can choose things that make us feel good, we can take actions that empower us, and we can walk whatever paths we desire to.

When we let our emotions be controlled by others, or when we are lost in thought only about the lives of those around us, or we only act for the benefit of people besides ourselves, we leave the responsibility for how we will feel to the ethers. When we do not take responsibility for these things, we do not control them and we find ourselves less happy, discontent and dissatisfied with what we have.

We are, each and every one of us, empowered to walk whatever paths we might want. No matter what “they” tell us, we are the ones who know what it is that will make us feel good. We alone know our own thoughts, how we feel, and what actions we might wish to take to better our lots in life.

I know how easy it is to feel out of control. I know how easy it is to feel disempowered. I know what it is like to be afraid that I cannot do the things I wish and that I will be unable to be successful, or happy, or what-have-you. I can, knowing these things, choose to pass the buck and not take responsibility for them, or I can acknowledge the responsibility, and from there I can be accountable and take control to create better.

How do I go about taking responsibility for my own empowerment? There are several ways to make this happen, and I will get into that in depth next week.

Responsibility is not a dirty word.

Do you take responsibility for finding and walking your own paths?

 

This is the two-hundred first entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas and my personal experiences in walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my personal desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available in print and for your Kindle.

Positivity: Adulting

Adulting does not need to be arduous.

There are some major advantages to being an adult. You can come and go as you please, you get to choose your own bed time, you can hang out with any friends at any time in any place and there is nobody but you to tell you no.

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Yes, I know that with adulthood comes certain responsibilities. We have to work jobs to buy food and clothing and housing and to pay for fun things we might prefer to do with our time. I also know that sometimes this is seriously lacking in fun.

The thing from childhood I think we often leave the most behind is joy. Not pleasure, not happiness, I’m writing about that elation, that joyful feeling when you did something you had never done before for the first time. That feeling of utter accomplishment when you were told “good job” or “well done” and the like.

All too often we take our daily activities as utterly unforgiving and ho-hum. I read various social media posts about failing to “adult” today or having issues with “adulting” due to appointments or meetings or other activities that we must be responsible for but might otherwise prefer not to do.

Quite the paradox how as children we look so forward to growing up, and then when we do we lament no longer being children. For a lot of people, this feels like a no-win situation.

Rather than focusing on what we no longer have, or being distraught about some aspect of adulthood, we should revel in it. We can find so much positivity in the control we have over our own lives, now that we are adults. We forget just how many choices we have, how many options every day can present to us.

It’s very easy to get caught up in the routines that we have and responsibilities we might prefer to avoid. We have a choice, however. Rather than becoming displeased or letting the things we would prefer not to do overwhelm us, we should instead look at the opportunities. We should focus on the fact that, hey, we might have things we must needs do, but they don’t have to be awful.

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Yes, there are going to be times that this is completely unavoidable. If you don’t want to go to the dentist, be stuck in that meeting, deal with traffic court, stand in that line, make that phone call but it is something you must do, move through it. Give it the focus it requires at the immediate time, but limit how much you attend to it before or after. Remember, we can choose how we want to feel. We can allow an unwanted situation to stick with us and ruin the rest of the day/week/month/year, or we can choose to accept it, acknowledge it, then work to let it go.

Adulting can be hard, no denying that. But we can choose just how we wish to feel about it.

Finding positivity is not hard, it just requires action. Knowing that you looked forward to being an adult as a child, you get to choose how you feel about the less-desirable aspects of adulthood. When we work to move past the negativity of the things we do not want, we take control of our situation and thus we empower ourselves. When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings. We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings. When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for. Gratitude leads to happiness. Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude. Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

 

This is the ninety-second entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

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