The Ramblings of the Titanium Don

Explorations of Conscious Reality Creation and Other Matters

Month: August 2015

Positivity: The Good

Sometimes it’s really easy to lose sight of the many good things we have in our lives.

If you are reading this, chances are you live in a place where you have freedom, where you are encouraged to think for yourself, where you have opportunities to grow and change and to do and be the things you desire.

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When I watch the news of the world I sometimes get caught up in just how awful some people’s lives are. The thousands upon thousands of refugees with no homes, the people living in war torn nations where food and electricity are scarce, the people living in places where heavy-handed regimes dictate the majority of their lives for them.

If you are reading this, then like me you are more fortunate than these people. You have the means to surf the web and educate yourself, you have the ability to change your life in a manner that brings you the most opportunities.

Yes there are some awful, negative matters across the globe that impact us in various ways. Focusing on them and giving them energy and attention does not help them, or us. We can send messages to the people in power asking them to do their jobs and do something, but even that does not help us to be and feel more positive.

I am not trying to be cold or callous or uncaring towards those who are suffering out there. But I can’t help them or anyone if I do not recognize and acknowledge my own world. It is not petty and small or even selfish to take time to find positives in our own lives, because when we feel more positive we can help to spread positivity to others.

On a more personal level, there are times when I get caught up in seeing all those terrible things out there, and forget to be grateful for my life. I sometimes neglect to be properly grateful for what I DO have, and to express that gratitude. Gratitude goes a long ways towards building positivity, and it is something easily given that we withhold for reasons unknown.

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Sometimes this whole thing seems ludicrous. Sometimes it is easy to question what it’s all worth, and to wonder if it matters in the end. The reality of this is that it does, and we should be grateful for what we have and to give more focus and attention to the good things in our lives. The positivity this generates can and will spread, and we will gain more things to feel good about as such.

Finding positivity is not hard, it just requires action. Knowing you have a surprising number of good things in your life, you can give them more focus and expressions of gratitude. When we recognize all the good things we have and we give them more attention than the bad things out in the world, we empower ourselves. When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings. We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings. When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for. Gratitude leads to happiness. Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude. Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

 

This is the eighty-third entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

Seeker – Kindle Countdown Sale

In celebration of my birthday next week, I have decided to do a FREE promotion of Seeker (The Source Chronicles Book I) for the Kindle.

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I would GREATLY appreciate if you would spread the word to all your friends!

Seeker (The Source Chronicles Book I) – FREE for Kindle September 2nd and 3rd  (next Wednesday and Thursday) in celebration of my birthday!

Denied his powers, a prophesied sorcerer must reclaim what he’s lost. Caught up in a rebellion between a powerful King and his equally strong-willed daughter in a land where sorcery is forbidden, he must reclaim his abilities so he might reach his destiny to restore the glory of sorcery lost in a tragedy five millennia ago, to prevent the forces of chaos from overrunning the world.

Seeker (The Source Chronicles Book I) is a young adult/fantasy novel.

 

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Do you have a tendency to second-guess yourself?

I do. It has often been, as far as I can tell, one of the main causes of my indecisive moments. I make a decision, sure…but then I second guess it.

Pathwalking is about choosing a path and making your own way. I have the idea, I have the notion I know what I want to do with the given path. But…but what if I have it all wrong?

It was recently pointed out to me that I do this subconsciously. As we were travelling somewhere this past weekend, Google Maps suggested a route I was wary of. I took it, but kept wondering if I should have chosen a different option, as there were three available.

I didn’t simply let it go, I questioned it for some time. How much longer will this take if I chose wrong? How bad will these roads be? What if we were better off going one of the other ways? I somehow let that really drill into my brain.

Why did I second guess? What difference might the other routes have made? As was pointed out to me, even if I chose a bad route, we would still get to our destination. Sure, it may be slightly longer or slightly shorter, but we were on the road and the destination would be reached.

This opened up some thought processes that I had not really given proper attention to. How many times have I been on the path but wondered if I should have chosen another? How often along the path I am walking do I wonder if an alternate path to the same goal may have been better?   What’s more – how often does my questioning cause me to neglect the path I have chosen as I fret about missed paths and the goal at the end?

This is one of the places where I stumble the most in my life. I do not live as thoroughly in the now as I should, and as such I may be on a given path – but am I just going along with it while letting my mind drift to think about the goal or to think about the other path options I could have chosen? Or am I neglecting this path by considering other goals I should have striven for or…or…or…can you see how this can spiral out of control?

I start with a path, I make my choice…and then question what I have chosen. I do this far too often, and it was a simple question about an unrelated matter that made me analyze this. Why do I so frequently second guess myself?

Part of this is confidence. Am I confident in the choices I have made? I would like to be able to say yes, but the truth of the matter is, no, I am not confident about my choice. Even when I am working on a path I am certain is the path I SHOULD be working on, I still do not feel confident. I often find myself frustrated because I have a hard time just deciding and going with it.

Where does this come from? I can’t entirely be sure. I don’t know that there is some deep-seated matter of something in my past that serves to explain this problem. This may however be related to one of the Four Agreements I often get tripped up on:

Don’t take things personally. I know that I have a tendency to worry about how my choices and my actions might effect those around me. I might cause them hurt, or I might cause them disappointment. I might fail to live up to their expectations of who and what I am.

That’s a problem. I do not need to live up to anyone’s expectations but my own. I alone know who I am and what path I should care to walk. It is for me alone to figure out what that means and where that might take me. Those outside influences cannot know what is best for me because what they know of me is limited by their interactions and experiences with me.

I have long struggled with this particular issue. This stems from not just fears of success and failure, but fear of abandonment. What if I succeed? What if I fail? Will the people I care about abandon me over my foolishness?

This is the thing I most need to learn to let go of. I am walking my own path, and rather than be worried what negative effects this might produce, I should instead be focusing on the positive. I am choosing my own destiny, not allowing another to do that for me. I am taking control of my own life instead of allowing someone else that power. I can have more freedom to be the most genuine me I can be, and rather than be concerned about how this could go badly, I should be focused on how this WILL go well.

I alone know what I want to make of my life, and I am being judged by no one who matters other than myself. I need to not be so judgmental of myself, because I would not want to be so harshly judgmental of others in the same way. That matters. Why do I treat myself as lesser than I might treat others?

I need to be more aware of my choices, and stop second guessing them. I know that I am on the right paths, and I know that my choices might be imperfect, but they are never permanent and always fluid. I can make of this life whatever I wish, and I need to be more decisive and less uncertain and walk my paths.

How do I stop second guessing myself? I need to make and stick with my choices more decisively. I need to be aware of my mindset AFTER the choice, and not rehash it over and over. I need to remember who I am, what I want, and that I can manifest the life I would choose with thought, emotion and intentional actions. Second guessing is of no good to choosing and walking my path, and I need to remain keenly aware of that.

I need to add a step to my Pathwalking. Thought. Feeling. Intentional actions. DECISIVENESS. No more second guessing – if I choose poorly, I just have to choose anew down the line.

What would you do if you found yourself second-guessing your plans?

 

This is the one-hundred ninety first entry in my series. These weekly posts are specifically about walking along the path of life, and my personal desire to make a difference in this world along the way. Feel free to re-blog and share.  Thank you for joining me.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available in print and for your Kindle.

Positivity: The small stuff

How do you find positivity when you are thoroughly inundated by negativity?

I am frequently amazed by just how many negative things can be found across the internet. In especial, social media is frequently used as an outlet to complain about politics, social dynamics and other life matters. I see so many more complaints than commendations, it can be rather disheartening.

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This is of course the reason why I started this particular weekly post. I needed to put something positive out there to see if I could help to turn the tide.

The problem is that negativity begets negativity. The more negative things we put out there, surprise surprise, the more negative things we receive. When we get focused on that, it can be hard to see positives in the world.

But life is full of more positives than negative, when you look at the small stuff. Sure the big picture worldwide stuff can be scary and a real downer, but when we give it our focus and attention we just help to make it bigger and scarier and more dominant.

So let’s look at the small stuff that is so much more positive. You’re alive. You are reading this. You have the sky above you. You have things for which to be grateful. You are able to make choices about the life you want to live. You can seek out positivity over negativity. You have the power over your own life right here for the taking.

Yeah yeah yeah, heard it all before. So what? The thing is, when we start by focusing on the seemingly mundane, small positives in our lives it turns out we will discover more and more positives. The smaller positives will lead to larger positives. Starting small is the key to getting greater empowerment and more positivity for yourself.

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Another means to combat negativity: think before you post. Whether an e mail or a tweet or a meme to Facebook or whatever, think about what you are putting out there. Is this something positive or negative? Am I showing a positive and supporting something or a negative and opposing something? Be aware of what you are giving in order to be aware of what you want to be getting.

When we make more conscious and conscientious choices about where we give our attention, we have the opportunity to decide if we will seek positivity or negativity, and we can further choose which of these to share with the world at large.

Finding positivity is not hard, it just requires action. Knowing you can take the seemingly insignificant small stuff that is good and give that your attention, you can use it as a stepping stone to greater positives. When we can find greater positives in our lives, we can use those to empower ourselves. When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings. We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings. When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for. Gratitude leads to happiness. Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude. Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

 

This is the eighty-second entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

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More than once I have reiterated that no one but you can choose your own path.

For some people this is really easy. They just KNOW without any doubts who they are and what they want to be. They answer whatever calling they receive – whether it’s to be a doctor, a member of clergy, a pro athlete, an artist, a teacher and so on.

For some, they go where they are pointed. Someone at some point told them that they should do ‘x’ or that opportunity ‘y’ was what they should choose. Though it was not exactly their heart’s desire, they went with it.

For some we just have doubts and uncertainty about which of our skills we should pursue. We may have different skills that present different callings, so we have a harder time choosing.

In college I found multiple avenues I wished to explore. I got really heavily into radio, I was majoring in theatre with a focus on directing, I was writing. When the four year ride was over, I looked at what I could do, and realized that I was filled with uncertainty about what I should choose.

This is something I have talked about before. I floundered for years because while on the one hand there were aspects of stability in my life, on the other I could not hold still if I tried. I chose for many years not to make any real choices, so I moved from home to home and job to job and relationship to relationship, finding occasional satisfaction but never truly settling.

True fact – I have never lived in one place for more than 10 years. A specific area, sure, but actual place I called home? Nope. I suppose having this even in my childhood made the notion of truly setting down roots sort of alien to me. But I digress.

This has been an amazing year for me thus far. I have received accolades, gotten married, published a couple books, finished another novel, continued Positivity and Pathwalking weekly. On numerous levels this year has been spectacular.

I have chosen this month to take a leap of faith, and focus on walking my own path. This is scary because my path is full of uncertainty, and I have been struggling with what this means to me.

I am, on the one hand, completely certain that I am supposed to be doing this. All of the signs and portents point this way, so I feel that I am on the right track, heading in the right direction, and doing what I should be.

On the other hand, though, my inner skeptic screams at me with doubts. You’re out of your mind if you think this will work. You can’t earn any money this way. You are not worthy of this. You are a failure and will never be able to do this. Do you really think you deserve to succeed here? All these negatives stand in my way, and have done so before.

There are paths others are pointing me towards. One I am certain I do not wish to take, despite the skills that I have in that direction. I know that I am able to do just about anything that I want to do, it’s just a matter of doing it.

Too long I have allowed my own doubts and indecisiveness dictate my life. I need to spend time with my inner skeptic, my negative self, let him say his peace – and then let him go. I don’t need to hold onto this part of myself, because it does not serve me.

How do you intend to do that? I need to meditate. I need to stop letting doubt and fear lead me to depression, and I need to take charge of how I am feeling and what distractions I allow to get in my way. I am the only one inside my own head, I am the only one who truly knows my mind, so this is on me.

I do not have to completely go this alone of course. I have my friends and family, and I have you. I know that sometimes this ride gets crazy, and my words get jumbled, but I share my experiences with Pathwalking because I have no doubt that you also go through these same issues.

Last week I talked about depression and how all-consuming coping with that can be. But it can be coped with, and we can find our way out when it hits us. We just have to acknowledge that there are issues in need of resolution.

I know how to make this work. I know how to manifest my desires into reality. Clarity of thought. Purity of emotion. Intentional action. I have to release my inner demons, I need to disperse my doubts and keep on track. I have to move past planning and act on what I know I want.

I need to take what I want out of the future and place it firmly in the now. I need to stop waiting for it to happen and see it as complete. That is the step I find hardest when I am in the space between, and I know full well what it is and what I need to do with it.

Is there a point to your ramblings here this week? Yes. The path before me is for me alone. Yes I share aspects of it with others in different ways, but it is still mine. Only I can choose it, despite the wants and desires of others. I know who I am, I know what it is I want, I just need to do the work and make it happen. I alone have the power here, so it is up to me to empower myself and walk this path.

This is my path. I have chosen it, and I am certain it is the right choice. I know what action is required on my part to go with the thoughts and emotions to truly live the life I want.

Thanks for following along in my ramblings this week.

Are you walking the path you wish to be on?

 

This is the one-hundred ninetieth entry in my series. These weekly posts are specifically about walking along the path of life, and my personal desire to make a difference in this world along the way. Feel free to re-blog and share.  Thank you for joining me.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available in print and for your Kindle.

Positivity: How do you feel?

How do you feel?

You probably get this question or some variable of it a lot. How are you? How you feeling? How’s it going? It is also highly probable that more often than not you either ignore the question, or give a non-committal eh or ok or fine or good or such.

This is a more important question than we give weight to, and it is in truth a powerful tool for generating positivity.

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How DO you feel? It’s fine to give a monosyllabic answer on the surface, but it is surprisingly important that you actually are aware of your emotion. How you are feeling will either take you down a path of positivity or negativity.

Do you feel tired? Cranky? Annoyed? Sad? What emotion is lying there beneath the surface? Conversely, are you feeling awake? Content? Pleased? Happy? How you are feeling is going to determine if the experiences ahead of you will be positive or negative.

This may seem overly simple, but it is far more powerful than we realize. Just being aware of how you are, in fact, feeling, will majorly impact if you will experience good and positive things or bad and negative things.

The primary reason this is so important it this: you can control how you feel. You can control if you are feeling positive emotions or negative ones. Certainly circumstances and outside influences will create situations that will cause an emotional response, but you ultimately have control of what emotion you take in and hold on to.

When you recognize you are feeling negative emotions, you can either choose to hold onto those emotions, or to find means to shift that feeling to positive. I do not know anyone that actually WANTS to feel bad or depressed or unhappy. Sure, there are moments when we want to wallow in sorrow, but those moments always pass and we seek better for ourselves.

By actually taking the time to think about and acknowledge to yourself what you are feeling when someone asks, you become aware of your feelings, and you make the first step in taking control of them. This allows you to make the choice as to whether you want positivity or negativity. I know which one I prefer.

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You are gifted with this power. Human emotions are rich, diverse and complex…and totally within our grasp and control. We get to choose how we want to feel, and we can work to have good feelings when we are feeling bad. This is a really incredible power we are able to wield.

Finding positivity is not hard, it just requires action. Knowing how you feel, you have the ability to take control of your feelings, and choose if you feel bad to work on changing that to feeling good. By acknowledging how we are feeling and gaining control of that, we thoroughly empower ourselves. When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings. We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings. When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for. Gratitude leads to happiness. Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude. Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

 

This is the eighty first entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

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One of the largest obstacles any Pathwalker will come across is depression.

Today we are going to explore a new avenue, because I am not sure it gets the attention it deserves. Depression afflicts FAR more people than anyone realizes.

The first and most important thing to recognize here is that none of us who suffer depression are alone. All of us experience different reactions and have different triggers, but depression is a lot more common than I think most people are willing to acknowledge.

What is depression? Depends on the person. For some it is a state of sadness, a feeling of incompleteness that makes no sense logically but emotionally is like a dull and constant pain. Like pain, some people experience depression more sharply, for some it is dull. For some it is occasional and for others it is chronic. No matter the label or the kind, depression can be as debilitating as any pain, but to the naked eye is completely invisible.

I believe that depression is one of the reasons people choose to let life live them, rather than making the choices for themselves. When you are struggling with depression there is a simplicity in not making major life decisions or sometimes even minor choices that can be appealing. When depression makes it even harder to go about a given day, it feels easier to let the pattern carry you, and not put forth the effort of conscious reality creation.

Unsurprisingly, this is backwards. Taking the time and making the effort to be awake and aware and conscious will help with depression. This can be akin to stretching a muscle that is pained, and requires you to push past that pain, but as such it is similarly helpful towards recovery.

I can think of no one who completely and totally has overcome depression. You can knock it down, stave it off, change it. You can certainly lessen it. But depression never completely goes away. It lingers, it has certain triggers, and it often feels like it makes absolutely no sense.

I am no expert on this topic, but I have lived most of my adult life with depression. I’ve done therapy, I’ve done a couple rounds of drugs to treat it. I have used meditation and exercise to overcome it. I have in many respects created Pathwalking as a means to work through my depression with focus on consciousness and by being more aware of my emotions.

My triggers are different from yours, most likely. We all have different things that set us off and that generate negativity, which in turns sparks depression. It is an infuriating feeling, because it frequently makes no sense, seems to defy logic and reality and circumstances. When you are surrounded by people you love and who love you that nagging sensation feels totally ridiculous, and that in turn worsens it. Vicious circle, anyone?

What can I do with this knowledge? First – I think it really helps to know none of us are alone with this struggle. It feels like we are alone because this is an entirely internal matter. Yet so many of us cope with this on a regular basis that acknowledging it is ok, and that we are not horridly messed up due to this goes a surprisingly long way towards working with this.

For many years I worked on discovering the roots of my depression. Where did it come from? Why was I having this issue? I have come to realize that it’s a combination of matters, and I was able to identify many of its origins. All well and good, until it creeps back and hamstrings you again.

What is more important than uncovering and working on the root of depression is dealing with the immediate matter. Yes, it can be useful to know what triggers depression, and then work to avoid it. If I want to be depressed all I have to do is read about the upcoming US elections and the stunningly awful Congress and other such matters. Avoiding these, and in many respects avoiding what I perceive as uninformed opinions from some on these topics, keeps me in a better headspace.

More importantly, when I recognize I am feeling depressed I need to not just let go and let life happen around me, I need to work even harder to wrest control. I need to put my focus on the reality I want to consciously create. I need to intentionally choose my path and work to walk it. Depression often ramps up fear and negativity, both of which I have mentioned many times before will throw you off course.

Easier said than done. True. When I am feeling depressed I have a much harder time maintaining my focus, and I get more easily frustrated by how ineffectual I feel. Unlike other emotions which I can take control of and be aware of, depression is a much trickier matter. Depression is a unique and often inexplicable amalgam of pieces of emotions I can barely make sense of, let alone grapple with. Knowing this goes a long ways towards working with it however.

Most importantly, and the reason why I am writing about this today, is to acknowledge that we are not alone. I think if we more open in discussing this state of being, and we share our experiences with it we can overcome it more easily. This struggle does not make any of us lesser, unworthy, or undeserving of the happiness and joy life should hold…but depression can make it feel that way. Knowing this is something everyone struggles with in one form or another, and talking about it instead of sweeping it under the rug can go a long ways towards finding more effective ways to overcome it.

Acknowledgement, gratitude, sharing and avoiding negativity are means to overcome depression, and means we can all do together. I struggle with this beast just like you do. I am grateful that I have a means to communicate this. I will share with you my own experiences when I can. I won’t post to social media negative things you might find a need to avoid.

We are all in this together, so let’s do what we can together to overcome depression when we’re feeling it.

Do you recognize that you don’t need to go at this alone?

 

This is the one-hundred eighty ninth entry in my series. These weekly posts are specifically about walking along the path of life, and my personal desire to make a difference in this world along the way. Feel free to re-blog and share.  Thank you for joining me.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available in print and for your Kindle.

Positivity: Everybody Matters

Everybody matters.

Black or white, male or female, big or small, fat or thin, rich or poor, gay or straight or in-between – you matter.

We all are important in our own ways, and we all have an equal deserving of rights and protections and such. Everybody matters.

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Some communities, groups and cultures are more privileged than others. This is true whether you care to accept it or no, but for some the struggle to matter is easier and does not require added work or attention. No one group is greater or lesser than another, and as such all matter.

This is a tremendous positive in the world. We all matter, we are all important and all worthy of not being taken for granted. No one should be marginalized or degraded or disregarded based on skin color, gender, sexual preference, religion or any-other artifice.

This is not to say that everyone should get participation awards. Merit is a thing, and not everybody wins just by showing up. This is a law of nature, and while we can work to fabricate something else we are going to have winners and losers. But both the winners and the losers matter, as each is still worthy of being treated with fairness and thought.

Whatever end of the scale you may land on, you matter. Your life, your aspirations, your hopes and dreams and goals all matter. You deserve to be treated with respect and dignity, no matter your social class, you employment, your race, religion, creed, convictions or what-have-you.   Everybody matters.

When we recognize that everybody matters, we can empower more people. Empowerment is nothing but positive, and that goes a long ways towards building self-sufficiency, peace, prosperity and ultimately happiness. Empowered people know that they matter, and they in turn have the opportunity to empower even more people. This starts a chain where we don’t need the false accolade of equality through participation awards, but knowing that you matter win or lose.

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Recognizing that everybody matters would allow us to share more abundance, prosperity and happiness.   Some groups may need to stand out more clearly in order to show us this truth, but it is not inappropriate for them to do so. Black lives matter, gay lives matter, the lives of the poor matter – all statements to the effect that everybody matters. Period.

Finding positivity is not hard, it just requires action. Knowing that all lives matter, we can work together more to help empower the disempowered and make the world a better place. By acknowledging the importance of all lives, we empower not only others, but ourselves. When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings. We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings. When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for. Gratitude leads to happiness. Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude. Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the eightieth entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

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As you are reading this, I am on vacation.

One of the things I am doing on this vacation is to relax, reset, release negativity and work on finding and walking the Path I most desire.

Yes, I have a reasonably good idea of what paths I wish to be on with my life. I know what my intentions are, and I know what I want to create for my life. I have, over the past few months in particular, really been feeling as if I am on the cusp of a fairly major shift. All the signs and portents are pointing towards it, and I am excited by the prospect of it.

However, it may come as no surprise to you if you’ve been reading along the past few weeks that I am still trying to work out the hows. How am I going to get from here to there? I know where I am now, I know where I want to be. I know that I am choosing a path to take, but how will I walk it?

I reiterate time and time again that consciousness creates reality. I know it, I believe it, but I still don’t always trust it. I get caught up in my need to know how I am going to make this happen, so I get lost in the process and I don’t reach the intended destination.

So here I am, on vacation, working on resetting. I am working on using my intentions to set up what it is I want to make manifest. I am setting out the paths I want to take.

What does this have to do with Pathwalking? Everything. Pathwalking is conscious reality creation. It is choosing the destiny I most desire, rather than letting someone or something else choose for me. I am striving to be aware and awake and to make my own choices in life.

Further analysis of Pathwalking has shown me that there are aspects of the process that are pretty set in stone, so to speak. To walk any chosen path you have to take these steps along the way:

Find the idea. What is my goal? What is it I want to manifest, what am I striving to achieve? I’ve mentioned before this needs to be based in reality, because if you want to be a doctor but hate being around sick people, you won’t get to that goal. Is my goal truly the idea I want to make manifest?

Set the intention. I am seeing more and more that before you move past the thought, you need to set an intention. What does that mean? It means more than just thinking “I have this idea” you give it more power with “I intend”. Intention as a step past the idea, its more formed. It involves more action, as intention starts you towards emotion far more readily than the simplicity of the idea. Whereas just an idea might be passive, and intent is active.

Feel it. To consciously create reality you have to think it (idea and intention), then feel it. You have to feel out what you want, how you will feel from making your desire manifest, how it will feel when the goal is achieved. Feeling allows you to know that your intention is what you want, and that you are on the path you truly desire.

Take inspired action. Last week I went into pretty thorough detail how action and inspired action differ. Inspired action is part of the goal of Pathwalking, and feels right and good and positive. Action alone is not what you need to make your dreams manifest. You have to feel the action, you have to feel that the action is part of making manifest the goal of the path you walk. This is why the action should feel inspirational.

Live in the now. This has always been a challenge for me, to let go of the past and not focus on the future and live in the now. I know where I have been, I know where I want to be…but it is really important to be in the here-and-now.

Why is the here-and-now important when you are walking a path to a goal? Because if you are not here, if you are not aware of the world around you, you cannot manifest. You cannot create anything intentionally if you are not aware, and that means you need to be in the present.

So many people in the world today just go with the flow. You see them letting life live them, you see them chewing on misinformation and accepting a reality that is not realty. They are barely aware of other people in the room with them, let alone themselves. I firmly believe that if more people were aware, we’d all be living richer, more abundant and happier lives.

These are the things that go into absolutely every path you might choose to walk. Idea/Thought. Intention. Feeling. Inspired Action. Awareness of the now. Without employing these I am unable to manifest anything.

So here I am, on vacation, working on letting go of my negative beliefs, and taking these five steps towards truly manifesting what I desire. I am using this time to reset myself, and to focus on what path I truly wish to walk. What is it I really desire to make manifest? That is worthwhile. That is a goal to set for myself.

I know I am on the cusp of manifesting the life I want. I am using this time away to regenerate my energies so that I can take those five steps to find and walk the path I would choose. I have the idea and the thought, I have the intention and the feeling. I am working to take inspired action and more thoroughly live in the now and be aware.

Pathwalking is worthwhile. Manifesting what I want from this life is something I believe to be healthy, and powerful, and empowering not just for me but anyone else I can share my process with. Empowerment can be spread, and I think that can go a long ways towards making this world a better place for everyone.

Do these steps for Pathwalking resonate with you?

 

This is the one-hundred eighty eighth entry in my series. These weekly posts are specifically about walking along the path of life, and my personal desire to make a difference in this world along the way. Feel free to re-blog and share.  Thank you for joining me.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available in print and for your Kindle.

Positivity: Turning Negativity Around

What do I do when I am surrounded by negative people?

That’s a really good question. What DO you do? In especial when you have no means by which to escape them (co-workers and family come to mind here).

This is not too dissimilar in respects to news articles and social media posts calling attention to negative things, except those you can delete and ignore. How do you deal with other people’s negativity and not have that impact you?

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Every situation is different of course. But I have a couple thoughts on how to turn matters around and find/generate more Positivity.

Redirect. Try to change the topic of conversation, try to introduce something positive or pleasant or otherwise happy.

Don’t engage. When they try to get you to converse with them about that person or that negative thing or what-have-you, don’t let them engage you in the conversation. Avoid the topic and try to shift the engagement to something else. Redirect.

Gratitude. Talk about things for which you are grateful. Verbalize these things and give thanks for them, say how grateful you are for these good things and ask those around you to express things they are also grateful for.

Confront. I am not suggesting you be in any way negative or cruel, but some people simply do NOT realize how negative they might be. So you might need to point it out to them as gently as you can, so as to bring it to their attention. You might even convince them to change their approach.

Excuse yourself. Come up with a reason to walk away and remove yourself from the situation, even temporarily. Trouble with this is that the negative person will still likely be there when you return, but if the other four ideas I have mentioned above are no good for you, then it might be your best pursuit.

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The main thing is to not let those negative people change your attitude and your own focus to negativity. Yes, this is certainly easier said than done, but it is still totally doable. You can’t change someone else’s feelings, but you CAN change and control your own. The key to handling negative people is to keep yourself positive and not give in to their negativity. You always have choices.

Finding positivity is not hard, it just requires action. Knowing that you will sometimes encounter negative people, you have options for how to deal with them. By choosing an option to keep yourself from joining them in feeling, thinking and acting negative you empower yourself. When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings. We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings. When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for. Gratitude leads to happiness. Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude. Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the seventy-ninth entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

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