Positivity matters because how you are feeling will make or break your day.
Some days it’s really hard to see how this can be done. When you are working on a problem with few or undesirable solutions or when you give too much focus to the news media and see a dark and dismal world it is difficult at best to find and feel positivity.
Sometimes it just feels like it will take too much work, too much effort, and so it is easier to just sink into depression, give up the effort it takes to find and create positivity. Let all your negativity wash over you, and let that dominate your feelings.
Does anyone want to feel bad? I don’t believe so. As I often say – nothing worth having is ever easy. You are going to have bad feelings, you are going to be blue and you are going to be frustrated and angry and negative. It is part of our nature.
How long do you let the negativity linger? This is the key. I have the power to control how I feel. I can choose to allow my negative feelings to be dominant and to take me off on a dark and unpleasant journey…or I can acknowledge them, address them as necessary, and then let them go.
Because we have nostalgia for the past and an equally powerful affinity for goal setting for the future, the here-and-now is often left to just happen. We go along with the current of the happenings around us, and we allow the positivity or negativity around us infuse us. Why take control when you don’t have to?
Why? Because like attracts like. Because if you are feeling negative you will attract more negativity and negative situations to your day. We’ve all experienced this…you get out of bed feeling disillusioned, you read another news article about government lunacy, you get caught in traffic on the way to work, you get into an argument with a coworker, you spill your coffee on yourself…and so on and so on and down it goes.
Rather than allow these things to build up and generate even more negativity, we need to take stock of them, acknowledge them…and move past them. Easier said than done, but not impossible. When you awake feeling disillusioned, question why and explore that. Don’t focus on the stupidity of the government. Use time in traffic to listen to music or take the time for yourself. Either avoid the argument with the coworker or seek common ground between yourselves and if you do argue don’t leave the matter unresolved. Laugh at the spilt coffee but don’t berate yourself for being a klutz.
There is no perfect solution. Positivity often seems to take a lot more work than negativity…but building is more fulfilling than destroying, and positivity feels better than negativity.
Finding positivity is not hard, it just requires action. Knowing that positivity matters, we can choose how we focus on our day, and to find ways to empower ourselves. When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings. We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings. When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for. Gratitude leads to happiness. Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude. Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.
This is the sixty first entry of my Positivity series. It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone. Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.