The Ramblings of the Titanium Don

Explorations of Conscious Reality Creation and Other Matters

Month: January 2015

Pathwalking 161

What happens when you run out of choices?

The truth is, you never run out of choices. However, sometimes a situation reaches a point where the options available to you all appear to be undesirable.

We forget that we are currently the product of our past thoughts and actions. Who we are at this moment is directly related to who we have conjured ourselves to be.

What does that mean?

If, as I regularly posit, consciousness creates reality, then what we are thinking about is what we get. Because by-and-large we are not experts at living in the here-and-now, we wind up a product of the then and there. What we were thinking about at some point in the past has brought us to this place, here and now.

For some that is not a bad thing. The now is a good place. For some, though, the now is in need of work. This is why it is important to recognize this, and as such get to work on the things you want to change.

Won’t this create a loop? Won’t I always be the product of past thoughts and actions? Yes, and no. If you are more conscious of your thoughts and actions you will find that you are better at being who and where you want to be. When you are choosing your path, you are directing your thoughts and actions actively instead of passively. As such you will find that you are less likely to be displeased with where you find yourself regularly.

Which brings me to another aspect of this notion. When you are working on your thoughts and feelings, it is important to put them in the here-and-now, rather than in the future. If you are wanting things ‘soon’ or ‘shortly’ or ‘down the line’ or what-have-you, you will find yourself always reaching for them but never quite getting to them.

This is one of my biggest personal issues. I know what I want, I make the choices I make to garner it…and then I still see it always in the future. I see it ahead, I see it coming…and it always seems to remain just ahead of me. I never quite manage to get there.

I see good things on the horizon. I make mention of how I can see my desires just ahead of me. And, surprise surprise, they remain just out of reach, just ahead of where I want to be now. So close…and yet…

So the key here is to consider your thoughts and actions, and place the things you want in the NOW. You need to think of those things you are working to manifest as already being here, already with you, already achieved.

How does that work? That seems contradictory. My problem is that I agree…that does seem contradictory. But when I have put this notion to the test I have found that, truly, I do better being in the here-and-now with the things I want to manifest in my life when I put those things now instead of into the future.

This boils down to language, and more often than not our personal internal dialogues. We are always thinking, always feeling, always running facts, figures, ideas and abstracts through our minds. I have previously written about taking more control over thoughts so that there are fewer contradictory ones getting in your way. This is a direct aspect of taking that control.

When you are thinking ‘I will do ‘x’ when I have that money’ or ‘after I lose all this weight I will get a new wardrobe’ or ‘when I succeed’ you are using very specific language, and more directly approaching with a future tense. The key here is to put these thoughts into the present. Think instead ‘I am doing ‘x’ with the money I have received’ or ‘I’m excited about my new wardrobe’ or ‘with my success’. Put the notions here and now, instead of ahead of yourself.

That sounds ridiculous. These things have not happened yet. That may be true, but because consciousness creates reality the more you put things ahead, the more you will find them never quite within your reach. This is about your internal dialogue, which is what you are thinking and feeling. If you are thinking about lack and loss instead of abundance and gain…which do you think you are more likely to manifest?

What happens when you run out of choices? Again, you never run out of choices. To help keep your options open it is a good practice to work on knowing what you are thinking and feeling. From there you can work to maintain a present rather than future dialogue with yourself, and you will find that when you are more in the here-and-now than in the then-and-there of either the past or the future, your choices are more wide and variable, and as such more desirable.

Do you think to yourself about what you want in the past, the now, or the future?

 

This is the one-hundred sixty-first entry in my series. These weekly posts are specifically about walking along the path of life, and my personal desire to make a difference in this world along the way. Feel free to re-blog and share.  Thank you for joining me.

The first fifty-two weeks (Year One) of installments of Pathwalking is available in print and for your Kindle.

Positivity: Choice

There are always choices.

Sometimes they don’t seem to be ours, and sometimes they are hard to even get a good look at, but there are always choices available to us.

No matter how bleak a situation may be, there will be choices available to change it. Some are surprisingly simple while others are immensely complicated. But they exist, none-the-less.

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People often become mesmerized by what they are told by outside influences. They are told there are limitations, they see that there are few to no options before them, they are told it is all beyond their control.

But this is completely untrue. There are always choices, always options to be had. Of course, if you are already in a really sub-optimal situation you may not like your choices…but you still have them.

Humans are truly unique animals. We don’t just cycle through life surviving, we get to choose from a mind-boggling array of options. We can choose where we want to live, what we want to do, whom we want to be with. We can choose from day-to-day things like the foods we eat and the clothes we wear to grand notions like where to place ourselves and our career paths. There are practically infinite choices around us.

We are not so restricted as we are often lead to believe. We have choices, but we have become complacent and conditioned as such to give those choices to others. Choice is not an abstract idea as much as we think it is, choice is part of what has made the human race the dominant species of this planet.

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It is in exercising choice that we can improve our lives. One choice that should seem obvious – things that make us feel good. Things that make us happy. Choose things that are positive and build even greater positivity.

Sometimes this is easy, but when it is not that is not the time to ignore it. Work to see your choices, and work to choose more frequently for yourself. Know that making choices is a surefire way to create more positivity for yourself, and thus make more positivity for us all.

Finding positivity is not hard, it just requires action. Knowing that we are never without choices, we have the ability to greatly empower ourselves. When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings. We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings. When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for. Gratitude leads to happiness. Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude. Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the fifty-second entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

Pathwalking 160

Disappointment happens.

It is something we cannot avoid. When there is something we want or desire or have our hopes about – and that thing does not happen – disappointment occurs.

This is a part of human nature. When we have our wants and desires denied us, we become displeased and we cannot help but feel disappointment.

Yes, I have stated here rather frequently that you feel what you allow yourself to feel. I have also stated that you should never disregard and ignore what you are feeling, but rather let it happen…then move past it.

Lingering on negative feelings will only draw more in. So while you will feel disappointment, how long you allow it to fester and how long you let it be without redirecting, channeling or otherwise acting to do something about it is wholly up to you.

How do you move past disappointment? Myself and a lot of my friends are currently asking this very question. We thought something we had all desired to see happen would, and when it did not we were disappointed en masse. When even a possible alternative presented to us turned out to not be we did not receive any consolation. So here we are, disappointed, and wondering what can we do?

As per usual, I have no simple answers. But these are some ideas I believe that we can all work with.

Redirect. I am feeling disappointment. But rather than just let those negative emotions settle into my life and dominate my actions, I can choose to take a new direction. I can find a means that will help me move past my disappointment, and let me feel positive again.

What will make me feel not disappointed? How can I turn this experience to my advantage? Maybe that which I desired was not as good as I might have hoped for, and now I can go on from my disappointment to build something even better.

I can redirect the disappointment I am feeling to something I can make use of. I can work to build something that will make me feel better. Redirect the feelings.

Channel. Take that negative energy and use it for something else. Use it to start something new. Maybe a new path on the same line, or even a whole new direction entirely. Rather than let the negativity of the disappointing situation gain ground and build up cynicism and bitterness, you could channel that energy into something else.

Channel that feeling into something you can make use of, or into something more positive. Take whatever measures you can to release the disappointment, channel it elsewhere and use that new positive energy to move forward upon a chosen path.

Take action. Don’t just wallow in your disappointment, do something. Maybe you can do something to address the disappointment, in especial when you are dealing with an outside influence. If someone or something let you down, you can take some kind of action to work with it.

There are lots of actions you can take. You can address the person or people who have caused you this disappointment in a constructive way, or you can take an unrelated action to create forward momentum and move past the disappointing situation. There are, undoubtedly, scores of other options to be had.

One note of vital importance. I stated above about addressing matters with constructive actions. This also applies to channeling the negativity and redirecting the feelings. It is important this is a positive approach. If you take on a destructive action, if you redirect your disappointment into rage and if you channel the negativity into different negativity, you will only find new ways to acquire even more disappointment, and worse.

That’s not to say you should not get angry, disappointment can certainly lead to anger, in especial where outside influences beyond your control are involved. Go ahead, be mad…but don’t let it direct you towards rage and destruction…instead release it, and build something even better.

Disappointment is a strong feeling. When you’ve been let down, and more when you are not alone in that emotion, it is easy to let it grow and generate more negativity. Be aware of this feeling, and let it run its course. But don’t hold onto it, don’t grasp at it…use it to do something different, use it to chart a whole new Path.

We are only human. Things are going to happen along the way, with any paths we are on, that will cause us to feel disappointed. It is unavoidable, but rather than let it rule our lives and direct our actions, we can choose what to do with this feeling.

Disappointment happens. The question is, when it happens, how do you deal with it?

 

This is the one-hundred sixtieth entry in my series. These weekly posts are specifically about walking along the path of life, and my personal desire to make a difference in this world along the way. Feel free to re-blog and share.  Thank you for joining me.

The first fifty-two weeks (Year One) of installments of Pathwalking is available in print and for your Kindle.

Positivity: Community

Community is an amazing concept.

Community can mean so many things. It can be as small as your family and as large as the nation you call home. It can include an identifying factor which can help you explain to others how you view life and the world around you.

But community is really all about those whom you are closest to. Community in the sense I write of here is the group of people who have your back, who will lend you a hand when you need it, who will help when you are hurting or in some way in need of comfort, validation or assistance.

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For example – I know a township that suffered a pretty devastating flood. But rather then fall apart, the people of that town came together from every aspect of the community, whether they were citizens, municipal employees or business owners. They worked together to bring everything back together and to restore the town to be even better than it was before the flood.

Another example – I belong to an organization where people who don’t even know you will offer a ride, open their home and lend you a hand with whatever you need, just because. We all practice the same hobby and all have the same historical sensibilities, but beyond that we span a vast swath of more mundane communities.

Community has often gotten lost in broader definitions like nationalities and religions and such, but in its smaller form it is people whom you both help and will be helped by in both need and plenty, and all for the greater good.

Our sense of community is sometimes misdirected, sometimes trapped in exclusionary ideas and practices. We do not need to keep others out for our communities to be strong. When we act together to improve our lives, we all get net benefit results. When we are part of an open and welcoming community, we are part of a great generator of positivity. But when we are part of a closed community, shunning others and spewing hatred and distrust, we are generating negativity.

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Community to build positivity is beneficial to everyone it touches. You are probably already a part of a community that strengthens you. Take comfort and happiness in that, and let it build positivity.

Finding positivity is not hard, it just requires action. Knowing that we can be a part of a community that will help accept us and help us and let us provide assistance as well can generate vast amounts of positivity. When we take part in growing good communities, we work together to take our focus off of negative things, so we can focus instead on positive ones. We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings. When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for. Gratitude leads to happiness. Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude. Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the fifty-first entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

Pathwalking 159

You are not the product of your environment. Not unless you choose to be.

I get to choose who I am. I get to decide what kind of person I am, what kind of person I want to be.

No matter my upbringing, the environment in which I live, the social circles in which I interact, I alone am wholly responsible for who I am and who I want to be.

There are a lot of messages out there, often espousing that certain groups of people are bad. Whether that is defined by skin color, religion, gender, nationality or what-have-you, groups of people are being lumped together for the purposes of scapegoating and disenfranchisement.

The thing is, we are all individuals. We are not products of any certain doctrines unless we choose to be. We can choose what kind of a person we want to be, and we can choose whom we wish to be associated with along the way as well.

Let’s begin with a paradox. Nobody’s perfect, and everybody’s perfect. Perfection, like beauty, is in the eye of the beholder. We are all terribly flawed, but at the same time we are all completely perfect.

How can that be? These are opposites, you can only be one or the other. Are you who you want to be? Are you happy with who you are, or at work on altering the things you want to change? Are you aware of yourself, what you want, what you are thinking? You are a singular creature, a singular intelligence, and in your own makeup you are perfect.

You are also imperfect at the same time. You see someone wealthier, healthier, with a better job or in possession of something you are not. You need to gain or lose a few pounds, you need to make changes in your lifestyle. Flaws to be corrected.

The question is – are these flaws your imperfections, or the perceptions of imperfections on the part of others?

Because we have this amazing ability to control change and to choose for ourselves whom we are and who we wish to be, we are inherently perfect. There are no other animals on this planet who can make such diverse choices (that we are aware of). Our lives are not just survival and continuation of the species, our lives involve growth, change, discovery and expansion.

People see a certain environment and instantly see all who are a part of it to be similar. Even though there is a wide range if disparity amongst those within a given environment they are often still all lumped together. How many people do this with, for example, Muslims, women and homosexuals as groups?

The thing is, just because you are a woman or a Muslim or a homosexual does not mean you are like any other within that particular environment. You are unique, you are perfectly imperfect in your own ways. But more importantly, you choose how you are associated with that group or not.

Deeper than this, how we have been raised by our parents and caregivers may have initial influence in both who we are and who we will be. What escapes a lot of people is that once you are aware of yourself, you can now choose who this makes you.

What does that mean? Do you choose to be a victim or a victor? Do you blame your life circumstances on your parents or others or do you live as you would best choose?

There is never one true way. I have emphasized that all throughout the Pathwalking process. My way is not your way, your way is not his way or her way and so on. What IS universal to it all is that we have choices. There IS a way, there is another way, and we can choose to be in control…or not.

It is important for us each to realize that we are not a product of our environment. While we may take some comfort in being lumped in with a certain group or groups, we must not allow that environment to overcome our personal identity. It is far too easy to get lost in the background, and as such to lose the path.

Yes I am referring to the idea of environment from two distinctly different applications. Nevertheless, the statement remains the same. You are not a product of your environment, unless you choose to be. Take this into consideration when you view others, and before you wind up passing judgments. It is amazing just how important this notion is, and what it can mean to you.

Do you view yourself as a victim, or do you have accountability for who you are and would choose to be?

 

This is the one-hundred fifty ninth entry in my series. These weekly posts are specifically about walking along the path of life, and my personal desire to make a difference in this world along the way. Feel free to re-blog and share.  Thank you for joining me.

The first fifty-two weeks (Year One) of installments of Pathwalking is available in print and for your Kindle.

Positivity: On The Right Track

It is good to learn when you are on the right track.

When you have been working on a project, no matter if it is work related, personal or somewhere in between, there is nothing more positive than learning you are doing it right.

There are so many things we strive to do every day. Some are ludicrously simple, while others are difficult and time consuming. But when we are hard at work on a given thing, and we are shown that the process we are working with is right, this makes for amazing positivity.

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Everyone likes positive affirmations. We all love to find that we are doing things that we are doing right, well, and/or correct. There is reassurance, there is the knowledge that the effort being expended is in no way in vain.

Who tells you if you are right or not? You may read something that shows you the process you are working with is correct, you may have a peer or family member point out the rightness of your effort. But most importantly, you yourself realize that you are on the right track, and that you are getting fulfillment from whatever thing it is that you are at work upon.

We all have things that we are doing. We all have projects we are at work upon for various reasons and in various ways. We all have things that occupy our time, sometimes long-term and sometimes short-term. These things can be done endlessly, these things can be done by need or desire, but doing the work on these things and learning they are being done right makes them all the better.

I recognize that this is an extremely vague concept. What is the ‘thing’? How do you quantify being on the ‘right track’? What determines this? The simplest answer I can give is this: you gain the acknowledgment of the notion that you are doing what you are doing in a right and positive way. This is not thought, this is emotion. You feel right, you feel good, and thus you feel positive.

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For example, let’s say you have a work assignment consuming much of your time. When you learn that you are doing that assignment right, and that you are heading for the desired conclusion, and you are given certain assurance that this is so, you gain that sense of being on the right track.

It really is a matter of assurance and acknowledgment.

Finding positivity is not hard, it just requires action. Knowing that we are on the right track with a given project provides assurance and the realization that our work is not for naught. When we know we are on the right track, the positive feeling this provides can give us focus on more positive feelings. We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings. When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for. Gratitude leads to happiness. Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude. Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the fiftieth entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

Pathwalking 158

With the choice of any new path, there will be risk.

Most of us spend at least some, often really much, of our time in the familiar. We find a comfort zone, and we do what we can to stay within it. It is a safe place to occupy, and it feels like a good fit.

The problem is, things change. This is probably the most unavoidable fact in the entire universe. Everything will change. It may be unbelievably slow change, but nevertheless change will happen. You cannot evade it, avoid it, resist it nor misdirect it forever.

One of the ideas behind Pathwalking is that it can serve as a mechanism to direct and control change. In choosing our own paths and our own directions, we take control of our lives, and walk paths of our own choosing. As such, we often make change.

But that does not mean we do not get drop out of gear into neutral from time to time. Everybody likes when they can just go with the flow, there is less effort, and less struggle, and once in a while it is truly pleasant to just let life live you. Sometimes it is even very much the nature of your current chosen path to just let it flow, and to ride the current along.

Sometimes, though, we find ourselves too long in that current. We have drifted too far out or too far downstream, and this is not in fact where we intended to be. So now we have to return to the struggle, and it just seems that much harder than it was before.

Keep in mind that change is a constant. It happens, sometimes visibly, sometimes far beyond our controls. Life moves forward, and forward motion is change.

When you find that you might have allowed yourself to become too complacent and too long out of control of your choices and your path, the first thing to do is to take stock. Where am I? How did I get here? Is this where I want to be? If no, what do I need to do to get to where I want?

But the most important thing here to do is NOT to begin self-recrimination. Damn. I totally lost control! There I go messing everything up and failing again! How did I land here, where I tried not to? How did I do this to myself yet again?

Avoid letting such thought patterns take root. First, because they do you no good in making change. Berating yourself for mistakes or for foolish choices or no choices actually holds you in the place you do not want to be. Second, because they are statements of negativity. There is nothing quite like negative energy to prevent any and all growth and change.

Positive energy is more powerful than negative energy. Positive energy creates strength and builds where negative energy saps strength and destroys. That said, it is much wiser to accept that you are not where you want to be and begin to focus on where you want to go. Putting the energy and focus on the how and why of what you don’t want will keep you in that place.

Leaving our comfort zone, in especial when we realize it no longer suits us, is challenging at best. Here you are in this familiar and pleasant place, and now it has to be left behind. It is hard not to think, What if I never feel like that again?

I find that when I am on a path I have chosen and I am walking it as I would desire I am in my true comfort zone. There is something particularly comforting in being not only on a given path, but on that path because I put myself there. Sure, the comfort of the familiar and routine can be nice, but after a while it becomes dull, hum-drum, and unsatisfactory.

Again, that is not to say that SOME down-time along any given path is not a good thing. It absolutely is. The key to this, like so very many things in life, is moderation. Choose Pathwalking time, but also allow some time to let your mind, your body and your spirit get some rest so that you may continue to choose your path as changes occur. Let yourself be prepared to choose what changes you need and want, so that you might be making choices that guide you along your path.

Yes, there is risk when you choose a new path. That is pretty much an unavoidable fact. But life is not meant to be just a day-by-day unchanging event. We are creators, and we have made amazing things of our world. Imagine what else we can create when we focus more energy on a path that might make us content and bring us satisfaction. Imagine what it would feel like to be choosing something that makes you feel good and gives you a great sense of accomplishment.

Yes, there are going to be risks, because that is part of any change. When you are choosing what changes are being made you are taking control, and that will always create a greater reward as you inevitably move forward.

Are you on your path, or in need of taking a risk and making change?

 

This is the one-hundred fifty eighth entry in my series. These weekly posts are specifically about walking along the path of life, and my personal desire to make a difference in this world along the way. Feel free to re-blog and share.  Thank you for joining me.

The first fifty-two weeks (Year One) of installments of Pathwalking is available in print and for your Kindle.

Positivity: Refocus

Do you plan to have a good day, or a bad day?

Do you wake up looking forward to all the possibility the day represents, or in dread of what is to come?

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This is where is it vitally important you know what you are focused on. If you intend to have a good day and explore new possibilities and expect good things, that goes a lot further towards making that your reality than if you expect a bad day and more problems and bad things to come your way.

This is, once again, not just thought…intent is about feeling. If you feel like everything is terrible and life sucks and you cannot win, you will find more often than not you are right. But if you feel that everything can potentially be good and life is full of possibilities and you can win, you have your focus in the right direction.

This is something that can be particularly challenging to a lot of people. Inundated with awful news and world tragedies, working a less-than-perfect job, health and financial issues often put us in the negative frame of mind. But when you give that all of your focus, you can’t fix it…you fixate on it. This in turn continues a spiral of negativity that seems, for many people, harder and harder to escape.

When you find yourself focused on negativity, you generally will see more negative things crop up around you. So it is really important that you notice where your mindset is. If it is on things that make you feel bad, unhappy, distressed, anxious or what-have-you, take a moment and do whatever you can to break that and instead find things to focus on that make you feel good, happy, relaxed and empowered.

Remember, it is not just about thought. I can think about positive and good things until the cows come home, but if I do not FEEL positive and feel good feelings I will be spinning my wheels and traveling nowhere.

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I previously covered the notion of attitude shifters. Putting some of these into your own bag of tricks will help you to refocus when you are not feeling as you want to be, and to change your mindset and your feelings in such a way as to change your focus for the better.

The next time you are upset about a bad situation, world news, your weight, your income or what-have-you, take a close look at what you are focusing your attention and intention on. If your focus is not what you want to see from your life, take this opportunity to refocus, and shine more light onto more positivity.

Finding positivity is not hard, it just requires action. Knowing that we can change what we are focused on, we can work with this to alter how we are thinking and feeling. When we get ahold of our thoughts and feelings, we can focus on positive ones. We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings. When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for. Gratitude leads to happiness. Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude. Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the forty ninth entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

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