The Ramblings of the Titanium Don

Explorations of Conscious Reality Creation and Other Matters

Month: November 2014

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Everyone is walking a path.

The difference between a self-identified Pathwalker and anyone else is choice. Someone practicing Pathwalking is choosing their life, choosing the trail they will journey upon.

Everyone is on some kind of path. Everyone moves along in their life, whether they are living life for themselves or letting life live them.   All of us will have three identical experiences in the world we occupy. Birth. Life. Death.

The where and how of birth will vary, but the overall mechanics of the process are the same. This is also true of death – the time and manner of passing will be dissimilar for us all. We have very little control over these aspects of our existence – but the middle, the longest portion – life – we have the ability to be in charge of that.

Certainly how we are brought up, the way our parents have raised us will influence our adult life. However, even as children we recognize that there are choices, and choices all bring about different effects. Choose to obey your parents or choose to act out, we learn the difference between praise and punishment.

Once we reach the point on our lives when we begin to identify ourselves, where we start to know just who we are and what we are made of, we begin to be more cognizant of both our options, and what will happen with any choices that we make.

Unfortunately it is also around this time that we begin to learn about limitations. We are shown not an abundant universe, but instead a world of social ladders, haves and have nots, rich and poor, strong and weak and so on. We are told there is a place for everything and everything has its place, and we will also have to accept limitations on our lives as such.

Despite decades of advancement and social change, we still live in a society riddled with divides. We see emphasis not of what unites us, but of what separates us. White and black, male and female, straight and gay, rich and poor, religious and atheist, old and young…we see competition, we see conflict, we see struggle to overcome artificial limitations and differences placed by a minority that the majority silently allow to hold power.

I began to explore this idea because I wanted to not be a sheeple. I did not want to let life live me, I wanted to choose my own destiny. I wanted to find a non-competitive, self-empowering means to take control over my life.

I share this idea every week not because I want to force anyone else to my point of view or lead some sort of army of self-aware do-gooders to bring everyone else in line…I share this notion weekly because I want to help spread empowerment for the good of us all. I repeat time and again that the how and direction of my path will not be the same as yours…but that you can choose for yourself.

We have become complacent in this day and age in a number of ways. We have allowed a small number of greedy, self-serving individuals to dominate the political and business world, and we have allowed a rather myopic, dated vision of life determine for too many people their day-to-day existence. I believe it is because too few people understand the importance of self empowerment that we still face sexism, ageism, racism and worse.

When we examine the options before us for paths we may choose, we develop the ability to control our individual destinies. When we take control of our own destinies, we become empowered. Empowerment means we learn not only the path we have the option to take, but also who we are going to be as we travel upon it.

There is no one cure for what ails our society today. Rather than fighting against the things we do not want in this world, we need to change our focus and work to build the things we do want. We should work for the things that will make the world better, rather than against the things we are unhappy with in the world today.

Pathwalking involves seeing the world for its possibility, for its potential. I know it will not be easy, and I know that sometimes it looks outright impossible. But this life is my life, and I am going to be the architect of my destiny. I want to enjoy what life has to offer, and I believe that I can choose for myself.

Rather than focus on injustice, it is better to focus on what we can individually do to have justice. Rather than fear, we need to focus on love. Rather than hate, we need to focus on mutual understanding. Rather than try to change what we have no control over, we need to focus on the things we can take charge of. That is what conscious Pathwalking is.

Everyone is walking a path. The question is, are you choosing yours, or letting someone else choose for you?

 

This is the one-hundred fifty second entry in my series. These weekly posts are specifically about walking along the path of life, and my desire to make a difference in this world along the way. Feel free to re-blog and share.  Thank you for joining me.

The first fifty-two weeks (Year One) of installments of Pathwalking is available in print and for your Kindle.

Positivity: Thanks Giving

This week we will be celebrating Thanksgiving (at least in the United States).

I want to ignore both the moral issues of the Colonists and Native Americans, as well as the modern-day commercialization of the holidays overall, and focus on the words and the intent. Thanks. Giving. Giving Thanks.

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I have said that Thank You are the two most powerful words in the English language after I AM. While the specifics of this particular day may not be to everyone’s satisfaction, I think the concept is something we can and should get behind.

Life is imperfect. We all have people with whom we do not get along, we all have issues and things that cause us displeasure and worse. The issue that comes of this is that we should not allow ourselves to get so focused on all the negative – we need to focus on the positive. Thanks giving is about creating gratitude, and gratitude is a conduit of Positivity.

As we watch the atrocious political landscape of the nation deteriorate, and we are inundated with endless negative news about economies and terrorist organizations and pandemics and other scary things, we have to change our focus and instead look at what we have. What do we have to be thankful for?

It may be as simple as being here, awake, alive and breathing. It might be your family, your friends, your job. It might be the things you own or the travels you undertake. It might be something tremendous and impressive, it might be something small and only meaningful to you.   Whatever we have, we should give thanks for it. Giving thanks should not be a once-a-year idea, it should be a daily action.

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I am not saying we should ignore those awful things out there. We have to be aware of them if we are going to change them. But we do not need to let them be dominant in our lives, we can take our focus away from negative happenings, and instead find positive. Do you know anyone who wants to live an awful life afraid and unhappy? Of course you don’t.

Let’s turn this coming American holiday into an international Day of Giving Thanks. Let’s stop allowing our differences divide us further, and instead work on being thankful for all the great things this world has to offer us ALL. Let’s focus on the meaning of the words thanks and giving, and work together to build something greater for us all from here.

Finding positivity is not hard, it just requires action. Knowing that we can ignore the less salient qualities of this event and instead focus on the importance and the words Thanks and Giving, we have powerful tools at our disposal. When we know that we can employ those tools to express gratitude, and expressing gratitude creates positive feelings, we can help to dissolve negative feelings. When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for. Gratitude leads to happiness. Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude. Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the forty third entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

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Do you take the easy path, or do you challenge yourself?

This is an interesting question because I think a lot of people misinterpret the phrase “challenge yourself”. People sometimes want to do a difficult and complex thing because it is challenging, not because they actually have the desire to do it.

How do you define challenging yourself?

This idea is when you have something you are passionate about, but it may be a new or different approach, or it may be a wholly new thing for you to try. It might be something you have never done before, but you are going to work at it anyhow because it interests you.

Take, for example, National Novel Writer’s Month. Every November there is a challenge to write 50,000 words. You have 30 days, make the words happen! As a writer there is a challenge, because this is a lot of words to parse out on a daily basis. Also, this is about quantity, not quality.

I have over the years completed this challenge several times. For me, an added challenge of this has been either working in a genre I do not normally write, or choosing a perspective that differs from my usual. Most of my work is Sci Fi or Fantasy, but I have written a humorous narrative/memoir and a technothriller. Most of my fiction is written in third person, but for NaNo I have chosen to write in first person.

These are challenges within the framework of something I love. I write a lot of different things in a lot of different situations, and I have used this opportunity to try something unusual.

What about a challenge in something you have never done before? I’ve tried my hand at this as well. Not so long ago I tried a first attempt at some leather tooling. I created something using a medium I have never used before, and I tried something new.

The reason I bring this up is because when you choose your paths, sometimes the choices before you are easy and sometimes challenging. There are certainly times to choose the former over the latter, but I would suggest it is always wise to really examine what that choice will mean.

Why is this important?

One of the reasons to choose your own destiny and to walk your own path is because you want to experience the abundance and fullness of life. There are so many possibilities, so many things to see and do and learn. When you get caught up in the daily routines and you let life choose for you, it is easy to lose sight of this. Worse, it is easy to fall into the trap that you think you’ve chosen your path, when you have not.

This is why it is vitally important to constantly be asking yourself questions. How do I feel? What am I doing? Where am I going? What do I want from this path? When you stop asking questions it is surprisingly easy to lose sight of the path, and to then fall off of it.

The other problem that may crop up is this. Paths shift. They fork. They go off in completely different directions than we thought. Sometimes the path we have become comfortable with is not actually the choice we should be making anymore, and the time has come to choose anew.

One note of caution here. When and if you find yourself in this situation, don’t waste your time getting upset or depressed or otherwise distraught. As I have said rather frequently, the journey is easily as important, if not more so, than the goal at the end. Berating yourself, getting upset because of a lost path or any other such negative reaction will stall you further. Let it go. Move on.

Some paths are easy. They are obvious, they are subtle, and they are laid out like a ten lane highway you have all to yourself. There is nothing wrong with that. Sometimes, however, the lack of challenge is a sign that perhaps this path you are on is not right for you, and the time has come to choose another.

Another note of caution here. Virtually nothing is impossible. However, and this is important, you have to REALLY, TRULY want what you want. I mentioned this before in Pathwalking 148, when I explored the necessary elements that go into manifestation. If you are challenging yourself with your path, be certain that you think about it, feel it, and take action to make it happen.

Some days the challenging path with be easy and the easy path will be challenging. That’s just the way the universe works.

Sometimes the right choice is the easy path, sometimes it’s the challenging one. Either way, choose wisely. You are more powerful than you know, and you are more capable than you realize. Your destiny can be your own, when you make choices to control it.

Are you walking an easy or a challenging path?

 

This is the one-hundred fifty first entry in my series. These weekly posts are specifically about walking along the path of life, and my desire to make a difference in this world along the way. Feel free to re-blog and share.  Thank you for joining me.

The first fifty-two weeks (Year One) of installments of Pathwalking is available in print and for your Kindle.

Positivity: Cleaning

Sometimes it seems like a chore, but there is nothing like cleaning to create a more positive environment.

When you clear away the clutter, vacuum up the dirt, dust the shelves, whatever you do to clean your space, it changes the feeling. That change can create a huge amount of positivity.

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I find that when I let my space go; when the clutter on my desk becomes a precarious stack of paper and and books and stuff – I find it harder to concentrate. It is difficult for me to work on whatever projects I might have before me, and my concentration fails easily.

When I cannot concentrate it is hard to get work done. This frustrates and upsets me, and when I get frustrated and upset I start to feel negative…and you can probably guess what happens from here. Once I feel bad, it is a challenge to reclaim feeling good.

Dusting the particles off my desk and my shelves, vacuuming the carpets, clearing off all that accumulated paper makes me feel better. It clears my space up and refreshes and renews it.

Cleaning your space goes beyond the physical environment you are in. It opens up fresh channels, allows in new energy. Though I am majorly over-simplifying the concept, this is part of the root of the notion of feng shui. The way you keep your space will help you to draw in good energies.

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Have you ever noticed how good you feel when you get out of the bath or shower, fresh and clean? Isn’t that the same sensation when the space you occupy, whether you home or car or office, is cleansed? What we do in our physical space will have an often surprising effect on our mental and emotional state. As such, cleaning makes us feel better.

For some there is catharsis in cleaning. The act itself is a pathway to taking time to examine one’s situations, to explore your own space in a more critical way. How often when you clean do you uncover something you were not expecting, but that was misplaced sometime before? The physical change opens up doors to the emotional, and anything that helps us to feel good is a positive energy factor.

Finding positivity is not hard, it just requires action. Knowing that cleaning has not only a physical effect on us, but also a mental and emotional one, the act can go a long way towards changing how we feel. When we know that cleaning can help remove not only clutter and disorder, but negativity, we can help to dissolve negative feelings. When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for. Gratitude leads to happiness. Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude. Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the forty second entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

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When you are traveling upon your path, you should do so with confidence.

Confidence is not just applicable to emotion, but also to thought and action. You can think, feel and act confident, and it is important to recognize the subtle differences between these three forces.

This is a complex concept, in especial as it’s not simply emotional, intellectual, or physical, but covers all three of these fundamentals.

For people who have issues with self esteem, this a particularly difficult notion to content with. Self esteem and confidence are very much tied together.

What IS confidence? Dictionary.com defines it thus:

noun

1. belief in oneself and one’s powers or abilities; self-confidence; self-reliance; assurance:  His lack of confidence defeated him.

2. certitude; assurance:  He described the situation with such confidence that the audience believed him completely.

Confidence is not just something you hold to yourself, it is projected. When you speak of something you believe in, when you express passion for something, when you know all the facts without a doubt you have confidence.

When you choose a path, it is important to have confidence in your choice. If you are uncertain of your choice, if you are uncomfortable explaining what you are doing – the lack of confidence may become apparent, and it can be more difficult to take the journey.

How do you build confidence? This is an important question I have been struggling with for some time myself. It goes hand in hand with self-esteem, which is also something I’ve contended with. Here are some thoughts on creating confidence.

Action. Believe it or not, this is the easiest way to begin to build confidence. Take action. Straighten your posture. Speak clearly and be decisive. Dress smartly. I am a leader in a civic organization, and while I often feel as though I am in way over my head, I work to not let that show. I dress for success, put on a professional outfit and as such show confidence in what I am doing. This helps me to feel more confident, and when others see me this way it helps me see myself as such.

I do need to add a note of caution here. There is a fine line between confidence and arrogance. It is important that when you are acting in a confident manner, you don’t get cocky. Confidence is dressing smart and carrying yourself with surety, arrogance is being a know-it-all and not allowing for anyone else to have a valid opinion. I think a lot of people who are just trying to show themselves as confident overdo it, and thus come across as arrogant.

Thought. Think confidence. If you are confident that you have a good plan or a wise idea, if you are confident in thinking about the certainness of your path, that goes a long ways towards building confidence. If you think it will fail, if you think you can’t succeed, if you second guess yourself this destroys confidence. Think confidently. Acting confidently, I find, leads to thinking confidently.

This is where you can tell the difference between confidence and arrogance. If your thoughts are confident, but still open to change you’re in the right place. If your thoughts are confident but utterly locked in, you may be on the verge of crossing the line to arrogance. This leads to the last aspect of this:

Feeling. Feel confident. Be certain. Be assertive. Be knowledgeable. Know what you know, and let yourself feel good about yourself. This is where confidence rests. When you think and act confidently it will help you to feel more confident. Unlike a lot of other concepts where feeling comes first, with confidence I have found the feeling often comes last.

When you feel confident, you will find that you can more easily walk any path you choose. You will also be better equipped to handle changes in your path, and to make any necessary adjustments. Confidence also shows other people your faith in yourself.

Once more, I caution you against over-confidence. You will know if you are feeling confident because it will make you feel good. Over-confidence will not make you feel good, it will actually make you feel uncertain and will chip away at your actual confidence. You will also know based on how people are reacting to you if you are coming across as confident or arrogant.

Acting, thinking and feeling confident will help you walk your given path with more clarity and surety. This can be a challenging idea, but it can make everything in your life easier to contend with, good and ill.

Are you confident?

 

This is the one-hundred fiftieth entry in my series. These weekly posts are specifically about walking along the path of life, and my desire to make a difference in this world along the way. Feel free to re-blog and share.  Thank you for joining me.

The first fifty-two weeks (Year One) of installments of Pathwalking is available in print and for your Kindle.

Positivity: Help

There is great power in both helping, and allowing yourself to be helped.

Some people see needing assistance as a weakness. They see needing other people to do whatever it is they are trying to do as a sign of failure. But the truth is, we need people. What’s more, there are going to be times when we need help from people. Further, there are times when giving aid is equally important.

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I don’t know anybody who can do everything. I know a lot of people with a lot of different skills and a variety of talents. But nobody I know can do everything. As such, situations will arise in our lives where we cannot find answers or solutions to problems without help.

Some people find accepting help a difficult idea. For some psychological reason beyond my own understanding, we find it easier to give help than to ask for help. Somehow, the notion of giving aid to another is one of strength, while accepting aid is one of weakness. But either way, giving or receiving, there is great positivity in helping.

How is help a positivity generator? Because when you give someone assistance, you feel grateful for being able to make their life better, or help them solve a problem. On the other side, when you have an issue and someone helps you resolve it, you feel grateful for their assistance. Gratitude is one of the most positive forces in the universe, and a massive building block for positivity.

Helping someone else seems easier because it shows your own abilities, skills, and knowledge base. You have the answer to that problem, the connection another person needs, the ride to the airport, or even the shoulder to cry on. It is harder for some people to accept that someone else can provide the answer you seek, someone else can help you network, you might need someone’ shoulder to cry on. We are only human, and help, given or received, is a positive thing.

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Which brings me to the one caveat in this. It is important to know the difference between receiving help and taking help. Receiving is help that is accepted at face value, no expectation of reciprocation, no price. You receive that help with gratitude. Taking help is help that comes with a price, tit for tat, and the person helped is ungrateful for the aid. This notion is a further contributor to why some are less comfortable with being helped. But if you give gratitude for help received, you are not a taker.

Finding positivity is not hard, it just requires action. Knowing that both giving help and receiving help are generators of positivity, you can open yourself up to more helpfulness on either side. Allowing yourself to provide aid and to receive aid will build up positive energies, and help to dissolve negative feelings. When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for. Gratitude leads to happiness. Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude. Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the forty first entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

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How do you remain optimistic and focused on the path in the face of injustice?

When you see that the world seems to be going mad, and the bliss of ignorance seems to be reigning supreme, how do you keep at it?

The short answer is – you simply do. You have a path. You have made a choice. Keep at it.

The longer answer is – some days it feels as though nothing you do will matter. You watch the struggles of friends and families and even perfect strangers across the world, and you can easily begin to feel defeated and overwhelmed.

The important thing is to remember that Pathwalking is about only you. This is about your choices and your decisions, and the life you are working on creating for yourself.

I created this notion for me, but I am sharing it because I believe it is larger than I am. This idea that we can live our lives and be in control, rather than letting life live us and having no choices is not new by any stretch of the imagination. Others have shared this idea in different packaging, often much slicker than mine and sold at a premium. However you view it, one of the hardest things to keep in mind is that you cannot do anything about anyone else’s path.

We are dominated by largely disturbing news. Our so-called leaders are much more fond of ruling through fear, more often overblown concepts of only slightly problematic issues, than effective problem-solving governance. Our leaders prefer us ignorant and afraid because it makes us better followers.

Pathwalking is about the individual struggle to control my own destiny. I do not want some smarmy politician or some fanatical religious zealot or anyone else for that matter to be choosing my life for me. I also believe that I can have a pretty amazing life full of wonder and excitement when I do this. My ideas made manifest through my thoughts, my feelings and my actions.

This past week or so has been a reminder of how influential outside forces can be. I have been witness to situations that have caused me to be disappointed in people, both as individuals and as a society, on a personal and a philosophical level.

I have to remind myself that while I share Pathwalking with the world, I cannot expect anything more than for people to join me on this journey, and take their own path. As much as I talk about the dangers of outside influences I want to BE one. Even though that would, I believe, be a positive influence, I am still striving for something that I can’t actually have any control over, and that is dangerous.

Part my chosen path is to share this idea, to help you to see paths and make decisions about choosing them. I struggle with this, as I share regularly, but persevere. I have had many compliments about the work I am doing, and the ideas I share. And yet part of what I want to accomplish is to be someone people look to in order to lead. The issue this causes is that I get disappointed and forget the importance of not taking things personally when I read the news and see the backlash against free thinking and it gets to me.

I am one man. I cannot influence anyone else, I cannot choose another’s path. I have to live MY life, for myself, and I can only control my own thoughts, emotions and actions. I cannot do more than share the concepts and ideas with you, I cannot make you take them into your life and share them with others and thus spread the concept further.

I have to remember that Pathwalking is an idea that everyone everywhere can use. I can share the sense of empowerment it enables, I can show how manifestation is possible and that we can make our lives better. I can only control how I feel, and as such I need to do a better job.

I am letting negative outside influences effect my emotions. I am allowing my feelings of disappointment overwhelm my ability to focus on positive feelings, and that is in turn making me feel even more frustrated. I have to take a step back, take a breath, and take back control.

My path is not yours. Your path is not mine. I alone have the power to choose for me, nobody else can do that. When I began to take this journey I found that I am a more well-adjusted, overall happier and more mentally fit person when I choose my own way. I have to remember that, and I have to take a deep breath, and alter my focus.

I cannot ignore what is happening outside of me. Nor, frankly, should I. But I can choose how much or how little I can let things influence my day, influence my thinking, and I can choose how this makes me feel. Breathe deep, slow down, think it through, and while still acknowledging the things that make me feel bad, do not absorb them into myself.

Easier said than done. But it is up to me to decide, and up to me to choose how I let the world outside of myself influence my own life. I would rather take control of my emotions than let the world harden, upset, and defeat me. I am making the choices.

Do you control your feelings, or do your feelings control you?

 

This is the one-hundred forty ninth entry in my series. These weekly posts are specifically about walking along the path of life, and my desire to make a difference in this world along the way. Feel free to re-blog and share.  Thank you for joining me.

The first fifty-two weeks (Year One) of installments of Pathwalking is available in print and for your Kindle.

Positivity: Pride

They say that Pride goeth before the fall.

Certainly being prideful and boastful and over-the-top can be a huge generator of negativity. However, in moderation, a little pride is a positive thing.

We have become so enamored of the mediocre and equality for everyone that we are loathe to take pride in a job well done. We have to be more humble than proud when we accomplish or achieve something. We have to be wary of the perception of others.

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I am not saying that pride cannot be negative. Some people get so full of themselves when it comes to pride that they give it a bad impression. However, this does not mean that one should not take pride in what they do. What’s the point of doing a particularly good thing if you cannot at least be a little proud of it?

Moderation with this, as with most things in life, is the key. You should allow yourself to be proud of what you have done, but do not boast, do not brag, don’t mention it at every chance you get. Let other people see it, let other people ask you about it, and then show them why you are proud.

Being proud and being prideful are different animals. The former is something we strive for on a regular basis. The latter is something to be mindful of, and avoid if possible.

Feeling proud makes you feel good. You feel as if you have done something that is worthwhile, you feel as though you have contributed to the world in some good way. How can that be a bad thing? Having pride in who you are and what you do is just a part of confidence, after all, and that is not a bad thing either.

Yes, Pride is one of the so-called “Seven Deadly Sins”. Again, this is the braggart, over-blown pride that no one likes to encounter. Being proud of yourself, and proud of your friends and family and those around you is not a bad thing. It engenders positivity.

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I think that is an important part about the positive aspect of pride. It is something not to be hoarded, but to be shared. You can be proud of those around you, and proud of your own accomplishments in equal measure, and that type of pride is an excellent generator of positivity for everyone.

It is okay to be proud of the person you are. It’s ok to be proud of your achievements, just like it is okay to be proud of the people in your life and their achievements. Moderation and knowing where the line between pride and pridefulness exists can go a long ways towards building more positivity for everyone.

Finding positivity is not hard, it just requires action. Knowing that having some pride in what you do is a good thing, you can be proud of your achievements. Allowing yourself to be proud will build up confidence, which helps to create more of the good feelings that will dissolve negative feelings. When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for. Gratitude leads to happiness. Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude. Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the fortieth entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

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