The Ramblings of the Titanium Don

Explorations of Conscious Reality Creation and Other Matters

Month: April 2014

Pathwalking 122

There are signs and omens all around us, and we often miss them.

Yes, I am about to get hooky-spooky on you, but please stay with me.  Once more I am going to explore an incredible paradox of our existence.

Last week I wrote about the importance of critical thought.  I explored why we all need to not just act, but really give time and energy to analysis and critical thinking, before we form opinions and make various decisions.

However, on the opposite side of that coin, we ALSO need to learn to read the omens better.  We need to recognize the signs and portents, and we need to learn to better recognize our instinct and how we react to the world.

Psychology and sociology often explore the notion of nature versus nurture.  What are instinctual versus learned behaviors?  When do we lose sight of the things we simply KNOW and put more emphasis on analysis and study?

As children we develop the ability to critically think along the way.  Young children have a sense of instinct and know how to read the natural world in ways adults completely cannot conceive.  As we get older, and are taught not just thought, but HOW to think, we lose our ability to know and read the natural signs of the world.

What on earth are you talking about?  Science has been exploring for decades the notion that animals have certain instincts about the world around them.  For example, birds take flight before a storm, or dogs seek shelter before an earthquake, or other wild animals seem to avoid getting caught in a tsunami.  They simply KNOW something is coming, and they react.

We also have instincts built into us, but we are taught to ignore them, and to give more thought to any given subject.  We forget how to read the omens, and the only language we readily recognize is that of the native speakers around us.

Paulo Coelho spends a great deal of time in his book The Alchemist talking about “The Soul of the World” and the “universal language” that ALL creatures, every animal, vegetable and mineral speaks.  Despite the fact that this is a work of fiction, there is truth in the concept.

Once more we return to the fact that EVERYTHING begins with the same component – energy.  We are all energy in form, and so is everything else both seen and unseen in our world.  As such, we are all one, and we are all connected.

Still with me?  The point I am getting at is that we need to remember how to read the signs, how to see the omens of the world around us, and also apply critical thinking to our lives.  Before we form our opinions and develop our ways and beliefs, we need to not just intellectualize our world, but FEEL it as well.

I don’t know anyone who has not experienced that sensation of KNOWING you were right.  You had this notion, this idea, this FEELING about something or other, and when it was proven there was a deep satisfaction in the premonition of it.  It held up to your analysis, it withstood all tests before it, and you came to the realization you had always known.  It feels perfect, it feels great.  All the stars are aligned as you knew they would.

That is heeding the omens, and listening to instinct and recognizing signs and portents.  They are not always these immense abstracts like you get in religious texts or prophecies or great works of fiction.  They are, however, there, all around us, and we can learn to better sense them, recognize them, and act upon them.

Of course, as with most paradoxes, we need to strike the balance.  Seeing omens and signs and portents and acting strictly on instinct can have unintended consequences just as much as over-thinking and over-analyzing can.  But critical thinking about what you are feeling can bring you to the place you most desire to be in life.

Life is a mix of thought, of idea, of feeling, of action.  These things brought together make our daily lives happen.  It is the energy exerted that takes an idea and turns it into an invention.  It takes the concept, makes it a prototype, which leads to the device that expands the possibility for generations to come, whether in a physical or other manifestation.  Sometimes we can read the signs, sometimes we need to critical think about and explore the notion, and when these come together we can change the world.

Know that there are signs and portents and omens, and remember that once we knew how to read them easily.  They are still there, and always will be, and it is good when you are walking your chosen path to be able to read them.

Do you follow the omens you encounter?


This is the one-hundred twenty second entry in my series. These weekly posts are specifically about walking along the path of life, and my desire to make a difference in this world along the way. Feel free to re-blog.  Thank you for joining me.

The first year of Pathwalking is available in print and for your Kindle.

Positivity: Moonlight

If sunlight provides fuel by day, moonlight provides fuel by night.

The moon had been personified in song and story in so very many ways.  Sometimes called He, sometimes called She, the moon is more to us than simply an immense rock orbiting the Earth and effecting our tides.  The moon is a quintessential part of the lore of almost every culture in the world.

The moon has its many phases, showing us different shapes and faces.  Crescent, half, full or new, the moon is ever-present, no matter how much of the sun’s light it reflects back to us, and no matter what time of the month we are measuring.  Many cultures measure time with the cycles of the moon.

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The moon can be seen in many colors.  These can cause the natural satellite to be named Harvest Moon, Blue Moon, Blood Moon and so forth.  The moon at night is a source of inspiration equal in power to the sun in day.

Many years ago, during a canoe trip down the Delaware River in New York state, we laid out our sleeping bags to camp for the night.  We watched in wonder as the moon arose over the river, larger than the sun, impossibly close, impossibly bright.  The moon dominated the night sky, and made it nearly as bright as day.

The moon is the inspiration of innumerable songs and stories.  The full moon, for example, is the trigger of lycanthropes, turning them into wondrous and terrible creatures prowling the night.

The moon has on many a night provided me with a source of well being, and suffused me with positive energy.  The moon has been a guide, both physical and spiritual, on many a journey.


I find that even if I am feeling alone, dismayed, disturbed, or otherwise discontent, a warm night bathed in moonlight will reawaken my positive energies.  Whether it is dominating the sky or blending in with the stars, moonlight brings a sense of peace and wellbeing that can go an incredible distance in the generation of Positivity.

Finding positivity is not hard, it just requires action.  Knowing that you have that beacon of warmth and comfort in the dark of night reinforces your positive energies.  This natural wonder of our world reflects light when the sun has crossed below the horizon, and a sense of renewal and restoration to the mind, the body, and the soul through the darkness.  Moonlight can inspire and amaze, stir wonder and amazement, and all of these things build up Positivity.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.


This is the thirteenth entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to reblog and spread the positivity.

Pathwalking 121

Critical thinking takes time and energy.

We live in a society where things happen almost impossibly fast.  We can communicate instantly across the globe, we can pull up the weather on our smartphones in seconds, we can research information across the internet with a few keyclicks and so on.

We have come, as such, to expect instant gratification.  We want what we want, and we want it NOW.  We get caught up in our mundane routines, and we let them carry us along without pausing very often to explore whether we want to go with this flow or find another.  We live in a society that has come to accept a victim mentality, where accountability and intellect are considered rebellious and dangerous and extremist.  We are always on the go, always in a rush, and we are led to believe there is nothing we can do about it.

This is simply not true.  We CAN do something about this.  We have so very much more control over our lives than we accept.  We have the power to be empowered by ourselves, and we do not need to let anyone else do our thinking for us.

Now here’s the rub.  By and large, critical thinking takes time.  It is not something that fits in with our society, it is not an instantaneous process we can simply breeze by.  Critical thinking requires a process of discovery, of analysis, of exploration, contestation, and either acceptance or denial of the idea once the steps have been completed and the notion evaluated.

Last week I looked at The Fifth Agreement by Don Miguel Ruiz and Don Jose Ruiz.  The fifth agreement states plainly – Be skeptical, but learn to listen.  It does not matter whether you ascribe to the rest of the philosophy espoused in the agreements, this one can be literally translated to think critically.  It is only with critical thinking that we can take and have control over our own lives, and our own destinies.

Pathwalking is not about making blind choices and pushing with simple faith and positive attitude to attain a goal.  Pathwalking is not about taking control and trying to live life in a way that is strictly counter to the norm.  Pathwalking requires critical thinking.

I can’t just look at the paths before me, close my eyes, and choose.  If I do that, I wind up back at the crossroads, because in truth I made no real choice.  There will ALWAYS be paths, always be choices, and for every action this is an equal and opposite reaction.  I have explained before that Pathwalking requires analysis, it requires exploration, and as such it requires critical thinking.

This is an ongoing process.  Practically no decision is final, practically no choice cannot be reversed, we can discover along the way that any given path can be changed, altered, even discarded for another.  This is why critical thinking is so deeply important.

News headlines today are sensationalist and misleading.  Modern journalists, or probably more importantly modern editorial staffs, are aware that the more catchy and sensational a headline, the more likely someone will buy it.  They also recognize that in our busy, high-speed no-time world, many will never go past the headline, and take what is there as cannon.

This is why we need critical thinkers.  If we analyze what we are being fed, if we critique the information and stop to really examine our world, we can see where the cracks are.  We can see what the problems REALLY are, the ones underlying the sensationalist ideas and partisan notions we are being fed.  We might begin to judge and choose more regularly for ourselves, and to make this world a better place.

Everyone is entitled to their opinion.  The problem with opinions and our world today is just how often critical thinking has not been employed before they are formed.  The headline tells you about problem “X” or issue “Z”, and an opinion is instantly formed before any exploration of the story has occurred.  You might wind up forming your opinion based on less than a fraction of fact, and then go on and perpetuate a fiction.

Pathwalking and choosing my own destiny, my own way, my own present requires critical thinking.  I have to not just make uneducated choices for how I want to live, I have to apply critical thought, take the necessary steps, and see if this really is the path I want to choose.

Why should I take the time and expend the energy for critical thinking?  Because when you analyze your choice and critique it from multiple angles, you will find more satisfaction in it.  I know from my own experience that when I have critically thought about a given choice, once made the choice provided the fulfillment I desired in the first place.

If we use more critical thinking and spread the idea around, we can open more eyes and show more people that while you are entitled to your own opinion, it is imminently more worthwhile when it is formed thoughtfully and following analysis rather than spontaneously without basis in fact or reality.  As we think critically and take back control of our own lives, we can show others the benefit of doing the same, and the optimist in me believes the positivity so generated can make the whole world a much better place.

Let me conclude with this: Don’t take my word for it.  Critically think about it.  Analyze it.  Poke holes in the idea if you can.  I believe if you do this, my point will resonate with you, and you will find on your own that the time and energy spent in critical thought is well worth it.

What are you thinking about now?


This is the one-hundred twenty first entry in my series. These weekly posts are specifically about walking along the path of life, and my desire to make a difference in this world along the way. Feel free to re-blog.  Thank you for joining me.

The first year of Pathwalking is available in print and for your Kindle.

Positivity: Sunlight

I don’t know about you, but I am solar powered.

I love the sun.  I love the touch of sunlight on my face, and I love it’s warmth upon my skin.  There is something very refreshing, calming, and enlightening about sunlight.

Many a day has been improved when I have stepped into the sunlight.  The brightness of course in certain circumstances can be a bit overwhelming, but for the most part it is an incredible feeling, and it can generate amazing positivity.


Scientifically speaking, we know that we humans need sunlight.  The sun regulates our sleeping and waking cycles, it provides Vitamin D that nourishes our skin and our overall wellbeing.  Unlike plants which get their energy directly from sunlight through photosynthesis, our solar nourishment is more indirect, but still very necessary.

Everyone has a different relationship with sunlight.  Some people turn red as a lobster from the slightest time beneath the star’s rays.  Some people turn a deeper shade of gold or brown or bronze in sunlight, and relish in the glow that might produce.  Still others simply have no real reaction to the sun, and like show no outward signs of its hidden support of our wellbeing.

Like most things in life, sunlight should be absorbed in moderation.  We need to be mindful of ultraviolet rays and the danger of overexposure and the unfortunate effects that might produce.  This does not, however, negate the positive energy that sunlight generates.

Sunlight has inspired numerous songs, stories, myths and legends.  The sun provides us with not just light, but enlightenment, illumination, and a source of togetherness that spans every one of us no matter our race, creed, color or whatnot.  We all live under the sun, and beneath its caress we grow, and change, and evolve.  Sunlight all by itself can turn the negative to positive with a subtle touch, as it can drive darkness from our eyes and our hearts and souls.

This is not, of course, a one-size-fits-all matter.  There are some who find greater Positivity in moonlight, starlight, or even under an overcast grey sky.  But sunlight feeds the flora of our world, and that in turn feeds us in innumerable ways.  Sunlight is the ultimate reactor for generating positive energies.


I find that even if I am feeling alone, dismayed, disturbed, or otherwise discontent, a few moments of sunlight will reawaken my positive energies, just as the sun awakens the body from sleep.  Whether under the sky or through a window, sunlight brings a sense of peace and wellbeing that can go an incredible distance in the generation of Positivity.

Finding positivity is not hard, it just requires action.  Knowing that you can seek out the warmth and comfort of sunlight reinforces your positive energies.  This natural wonder of our world brings life to everyone and everything, and a sense of renewal and restoration to the mind, the body, and the soul.  Sunlight can inspire and amaze, stir wonder and amazement, and all of these things build up Positivity.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.


This is the twelfth entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to reblog and spread the positivity.

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Recently I read The Fifth Agreement by Don Miguel Ruiz and his son Don Jose Ruiz.  This is the follow up to the wildly popular book The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz.

These two books present the idea that we come into this life open, but along the way we make “agreements” with how to live.  We relinquish control to outside influences, and we allow our belief system to be massively complicated and colored by the world we live in.

The concept of these books is to help the reader to gain control of their life, to better choose how to live it.  This is very much in line with Pathwalking.

The five agreements are as follows:

1.) Be impeccable with your word

2.) Don’t take anything personal

3.) Don’t make assumptions

4.) Always do your best.

5.) Be skeptical, but learn to listen

The basic concepts stated in the five agreements are completely inline with Pathwalking.  While the whole Toltec vision and approach may not work for everyone, these five ideas can have a profound impact on your everyday life.

For the purpose of Pathwalking, let’s look at how these would work.

Be impeccable with your word.  I translate that to mean be true to yourself.  Don’t tell tall tales, don’t speak ill of others, don’t be a liar, don’t make promises you cannot keep – be true.  It is amazing how easy it is to let your thoughts about others derail how you view the world – being impeccable with your word and watching not only how you speak, but how you THINK can make a pretty huge difference in walking your Path.

Don’t take anything personal.  This is very straightforward.  When others judge you, or treat you unfairly, or are outright mean to you, they are often projecting their own prejudices and viewpoints.  Most of the time this isn’t targeted at you in a personal manner, so you should not dwell upon it and let it affect how you go about in your life.  How many times in Pathwalking have I expressed this along the way?

Don’t make assumptions.  This is huge.  We look at the world in a certain way, we think we know how certain things work, how tab ‘a’ fits into slot ‘b’, and we assume based on our pre-existing knowledge similar situations will fit that mold.  One of the tenets of Pathwalking is choice.  We are choosing the life we want, and in the process breaking molds and norms and such frequently.  I am always on the lookout for the assumptions others make about me and my choices – but it is probably more important I not make assumptions about others, either.  Everything is unique, and even similar experiences are never perfectly the same.

Always do your best.  I think this can be readily interpreted as Yoda states, “Do or do not, there is no try.”  Don’t half-ass things, don’t give lip service to effort, do the best you can.  You will get far more satisfaction from fully living than half-way living.

Be skeptical, but learn to listen.  These ideas, whether you choose to see them as tenets, philosophies, abstract concepts, hokum or however else you view them – these ideas should not just be taken with a grain of salt.  Consider them.  Do these ideas resonate with you, or do they sit badly with your mindset and approach to life?  Listen to all the ideas, but skeptically.  Think about it, consider it, but take it with a grain of salt and don’t outright accept it.

There is a wisdom in these five ideas that is very much in line with the philosophy of Pathwalking.  The “Agreements” presented by Don Miguel Ruiz and Don Jose Ruiz align well with my own way of seeing the universe, and how I wish to live my life and walk my own path.

I do, however, recommend reading both The Four Agreements and The Fifth Agreement.  They contain a large amount of great information, and go much deeper into these five notions that I will do here.

What tenets do you take most to heart along your path?


Please note – it is with utter respect and gratitude that I cite the works of Don Miguel Ruiz and Don Jose Ruiz here.  The Five Agreements above are wholly theirs, and I am only presenting them here as a compliment to my own Pathwalking philosophy.  I in no way claim any credit in their creation and presentation.  Should there be any legal issues with my sharing them here and associating them with Pathwalking, I will remove this post.

Thank you, Don Miguel Ruiz and Don Jose Ruiz.


This is the one-hundred twentieth entry in my series. These weekly posts are specifically about walking along the path of life, and my desire to make a difference in this world along the way. Thank you for joining me.

The first year of Pathwalking is available in print and for your Kindle.

Positivity: Fantasy

Sometimes the mind needs an escape.

Fantasy is a wonderful means to that end.  Fantasy, in its many and varied forms, can not only provide an excellent escape for the mind, it can also awaken new ideas and deeper creativity.

I love being able to experience fantasy.  In addition to all the amazing and wondrous things we humans can create, we can develop stories in incredible places on worlds that only come to being from creative minds.


Throughout history fantasy has been a means of escape.  In ancient Greece Aristophanes was entertaining crowds with works of fantasy.  In Elizabethan England William Shakespeare was creating an abundance of comedies and tragedies.  Today, we have an amazing array of media providing us fantasy on a multitude of levels.

Books, theatre, television, movies and the internet offer us endless fantasy to escape from all the negativity of the world.  Sometimes multiple media can provide a different viewpoint on the same subject.  A perfect example of this is Peter Jackson’s movie variation of JRR Tolkien’s Lord of the Rings and The Hobbit.  Another, and the inspiration for this particular topic, is George RR Martin’s Game of Thrones (Song of Ice and Fire) Series in booth print and television.

Since my childhood fantasies have sparked my imagination.  As a very young child it was Star Wars
(Episode IV)
, and the opening where a ship comes flying in from above being blasted at by a larger ship behind.  I was hooked.  As I got older I read and watched more fantasies, and between space operas and Dungeons and Dragons I found the best escapes from things that made me unhappy or feeling negative.

There is nothing like a great scene in a book to get your mind going; or that epic musical score to evoke emotions; or that amazing cinematography to spark the color of your own imagination and make you feel alert and creative.  Fantasy provides so many means to finding Positivity, it is a pity we don’t allow ourselves more time to escape and reset from the mundane world.

Beyond the places we can take our minds in fantasy, there are many places we can take the body as well.  Whether in a live-action role playing game, a Civil War re-enactment, events with the Society for Creative Anachronism, or some Con or other – we can choose to dress up as someone other than who we are, from a time or place real or imagined, and be someone else for a while.


One word of caution.  Like any drug or escape of any kind, it is possible to lose yourself in fantasy.  Within limits is all well and good to escape and give the mind something else to do, but leaving the real world and losing yourself in the bargain is not worth it.  Like all good things, moderation needs to be kept in consideration.

Finding positivity is not hard, it just requires action.  Knowing that you can turn to fantasy to escape the everyday for a time is a tremendous comfort.  Knowing that you can choose a fantasy to escape to, you can make time to let your mind wander and reset.  You are empowered with the ability to enjoy fantasy and allow for the creation of Positivity.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.


This is the eleventh entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to reblog and spread the positivity.

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Nobody wants to disappoint anyone else.

Just like all the other feelings, you cannot control whether someone is disappointed or not.  Yet we all work incredibly hard to make certain we don’t upset and disappoint the people in our lives.

Whether friends, family, coworkers or even the Powers-that-be, we are all constantly striving not to disappoint.  We change the way we approach things, we change our intentions, we shift our schedules and we sacrifice to avoid disappointment.

Not surprisingly, the person we usually disappoint is ourselves.

We have become so concerned about the impression we make on others, and working to not be a disappointment, usually the person we neglect the most is ourselves.

Disappointing ourselves is far more destructive than disappointing others.  We don’t often see it this way because we are led to believe that it is in our best interest to not disappoint the people in our lives.  We are certain that our purpose is to accommodate everyone else…so we inconvenience ourselves.

We make sacrifices.  We change our plans, change our intentions, alter our goals in order to avoid disappointing other people.

If Pathwalking is about choosing our own paths, and controlling our lives, then isn’t working not to disappoint others the opposite?

I have no doubt this seems counter-intuitive.  But you will discover that the more you disappoint yourself, the more you will wind up disappointing others.

Just like you can rely on no one but yourself to make yourself happy, and just like only you have control over how you feel; if you disappoint yourself you will likely disappoint others more.

Part of the problem we encounter is that we need other people.  There are very few of us who prefer to simply be alone.  We are social animals.  We form groups, we create families, and these are usually among others who share some of our values, goals, ideas, or general view of the Universe.  In order to keep those groups cohesive, we strive to not disappoint or be a disappointment to these people.

Welcome to a wonderful paradox.  We do not want to disappoint or be disappointed, and there are certainly times that these will require actions that oppose one another.  Choose to disappoint, or choose to be disappointed.  What do you do?

I am writing of this due to personal experience.  I am currently planning a life-event that requires a great deal of organization.  Having shared aspects of the plans with various people, I have caused disappointment in that there is disagreement about what I want to do.  Certain people believe that my choices are inappropriate, and they are causing conflict.

The question I am faced with is – disappoint myself, or disappoint others?  If I accede to the disappointment of others, I will be in turn be disappointed.  If I refuse, they will be displeased that I would not do right by them.

Who’s life is it, mine or theirs?  I can’t please everyone all the time, and no matter what course of action I choose here, someone is bound to be disappointed.  Should that someone be me?  I have to go with no.

Selfish?  I do not believe that is the case here.  This presents the line in the sand we come to in avoiding disappointment.  But if I am walking my own path, making my own choices, and accepting control of my own emotions – then why should I disappoint myself to avoid disappointing others?

If you compromise yourself, if you let others influence you when it comes to their feelings, you start down a slippery slope, and you will be constantly facing this challenge.  While in this specific instance I do not believe I am being selfish, it is very possible anyone on the outside will see that I am.

Just as I cannot live your life for you, you cannot live my life for me.  I cannot control when you feel disappointed in me, but I CAN control when I feel disappointment in myself or others.  Pathwalking is about knowing this control and accepting that choice sometimes has a price outside of ourselves.

One alternative thought on disappointment.  Given the paradoxical nature of this, sometimes disappointing others will actually show you where you will inevitably disappoint yourself.  Analyze what it is that is causing the disappointment in the outside influencer, because it is possible they are seeing something you are missing.  Follow no-one blindly, including yourself.

Shakespeare said it perfectly.  “To thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man.”

How do you handle disappointment/disappointing others?


This is the one-hundred nineteenth entry in my series. These weekly posts are specifically about walking along the path of life, and my desire to make a difference in this world along the way. Thank you for joining me.

The first year of Pathwalking is available in print and for your Kindle.

Positivity: Inspiration

Inspiration comes in many forms.

Different things inspire different people, of course.  People can find inspiration in any of the five senses.  The taste of chocolate.  A piece of music.  The smell of fresh brewed coffee.  Sunlight in your eyes.  The feel of silk beneath your hands.  That sense of comfort and love from those closest to you.  Any of these alone or in combination can spark the imagination and inspire great things.


Inspiration has been personified throughout history.  The Nine Muses of Greek antiquity, for example.  Each Muse was believed to provide inspiration to writers, artists, great leaders and the like.  Even to this day we use the term “finding my muse” when we speak of a quest for inspiration.

What if, along the way, you become uninspired?  What if you find it hard to be inspired?  What if those things that brought you inspiration before no longer hold the magic they did?

Everyone and everything changes.  Life today may be similar to life yesterday and seem the same tomorrow, but every day is different.  Sometimes this is subtle, such as the weather and ambient temperature.  Sometimes this is not, like an unexpected relationship or some kind of tragic event.  No matter what it is, life is never the same from day to day, even when it feels as though it is.  As such, what inspires you now may not inspire you later.

Because inspiration can come in so many forms you can always find something new.  A new stimulus to the senses can have a different effect on you, and awaken a new inspiration.

Inspiration is how our world can be changed for the better.  Inspiration led to the design of monolithic architecture, sculpture, paintings, poetry and grand works of entertainment.  Inspiration is why George Lucas created the Star War universe.  Inspiration led Martin Luther King Jr. to declare to the world “I have a dream” and Ghandi to seek independence for his nation.


Inspiration is not always so grand.  Inspiration can be the reason you get out of bed in the morning.  Inspiration can cause you to clean your home.  Inspiration can help you ask that person out and begin a relationship.  Inspiration is what leads you from one path in life to choose another.

We can always seek out and find inspiration.  When we do, we can use this to find, create, and have a more positive, healthy attitude and life.  Inspiration may at times be elusive, but it is always out there, whether it finds you or you find it.

Finding positivity is not hard, it just requires action.  Knowing that you can be found by inspiration or find inspiration of your own lets you awaken possibility.  Knowing that you have inspiration, great or small, can empower you with the ability to open yourself to wholly new and different experiences.  You are empowered with the ability to be inspired and create Positivity.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.


This is the tenth entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to reblog and spread the positivity.

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Other people do not determine your worth.  You do.

The old adage is true – you cannot please everyone all the time.  You are going to do things that are going to upset and alienate and maybe even infuriate other people.  It cannot be helped – this is just a part of human nature.

Choosing your own life and walking your own path is going to have pitfalls and perils, ups and downs and so on.  People will not understand you, will not understand your actions, and will not accept that you have the right to choose for yourself.

Because we have a deep need to be accepted by others and to win approval for our actions, it is easy to let others determine our worth.  It is stunningly easy to let the opinions of others overcrowd your thought process and determine for you your worth as a person.

It is hard when those people are random acquaintances, but even harder when they are friends.  Harder still is when they are dear, close friends or even family.  They likely do not mean to judge you, they believe in all likelihood that they have your best interests at heart.  Still, that does little good when your worth as a person gets called into question and makes you feel bad.

You ARE worthwhile.  You are deserving of the good things in life you desire.  You have incredible value as a person, no matter what anyone else believes.

This is one of those great universal truths.  EVERYONE has worth.  Everyone has value.  Our morals may be different, our beliefs may not align, but that does not lessen anyone else, or you.  We can agree to disagree, and frankly we should.  No two people are alike.  But even with that said, we all have worth.

There are an incredible array of negative messages constantly broadcast about the worth and worthiness of people.  The haves versus the have-nots.  The rich versus the poor.  The religious versus the atheists.  We wind up in competition to determine worth.

People love competition.  The professional sports industry, be it baseball, football, basketball, soccer or what-have-you generates obscene amounts of revenue.  People get obsessive about rooting for their home team and choosing their favorite players.  We see competition played out in massive events where the winner takes home an impressive paycheck and often hero status.

We love to make competition personal.  We wind up competing with people for jobs, for love, for power, for things both consequential and inconsequential.  The outcome of that competition is often the basis of where we get our idea of worthiness or worthlessness.

Competition between two teams for entertainment is one thing, competing with one another for inconsequentials is quite another.  We have somehow managed to convince ourselves that we live in a world of lack, a world of not enough, a world where artificial limitations become the accepted truths of life.

We find ourselves determining our worth based upon our homes, our jobs, our associations, our education and other tangibles.  We also determine our worth based on social status, education, intelligence, wisdom and other intangibles.  We use these things to also determine the worth of others, and pass judgment from there.

Pathwalking is about choosing the life you want to lead.  The thing is, those who do not choose their own paths are no less worthy of finding happiness and contentment than those who do.  People who allow others to control their lives for them are no less worthy than those who wrest control for themselves.

This is not to say that everyone should necessarily get a trophy just for getting out of bed every day.  Mediocrity is a far cry from exceptionality, and we should not just reward everybody for the sake of sparing their feelings.  However, winners or losers, brilliant or middling, fat or thin, short or tall, everyone has their own worth.

Not only do other people not determine our worth – remember that likewise we cannot determine the worth of others.  There is no need to compete, there is no need to compare what makes any of us more or less worthy – everyone has worth.  Everyone has value.

You are a worthwhile person, and you deserve to have the life you most desire, to walk the path you want to choose, and to enjoy everything life has to offer.  No one but you can determine this to be true.  Choosing your own path to know your own person and discover and live a life you want most will only work out when you accept that you ARE worthy of it.

Do you believe you are worthwhile?


This is the one-hundred eighteenth entry in my series. These weekly posts are specifically about walking along the path of life, and my desire to make a difference in this world along the way. Thank you for joining me.

The first year of Pathwalking is available in print and for your Kindle.

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