The Ramblings of the Titanium Don

Explorations of Conscious Reality Creation and Other Matters

Month: December 2013

Pathwalking 104

Today I wish you love and joy, peace and happiness.

Today should be no different from any other day.  Today should have no greater emphasis, no deeper meaning, no sharper focus than any other day.

Today is Christmas day.  All around the world this day is celebrated in a wide variety of ways.  Whether you attend Mass, have been furiously shopping the malls for gifts, or living somewhere between these extremes, the greatest emphasis that emerges from this particular holiday is love.

Cliché though it may be, love really does make the world go round.  Love is the single greatest, most powerful emotion we can experience.

To spread love to a wider world, it has to begin with me.  If I cannot love myself, how can I possibly share love with anyone else?

The problem is, we have become suspicious of love.  We do not trust it, we do not accept it for its good, we get caught up in being afraid of its loss.  But if we stay focused on the negatives, if we let fear overtake us, we cannot know love.  If we cannot know love, how can we share it?

In walking my own Path, I have had to really analyze what it means to love who I am.  In order to choose, know and walk a path, I have to choose to get to know myself.  If the self I come to know is not someone that I love, then it is up to me to change that, and to learn what I need in order to love myself.

Today is celebrated around the world, and whether you are a Christian or not, you cannot escape the power of the intent on this day.  Rather than allow our focus to be on consumerism and presents and toys and what we want to get, or for that matter on what we are giving, we need to consider love and all the other positive emotions we can.

Today should be a day of gratitude as well.  We need to be grateful not just for the things in our lives, but for the people, the opportunities, the intangibles.  We need to not just go through the motions of stating our gratitude, but of really FEELING it.

Most importantly – today should be no different from EVERY SINGLE OTHER DAY.  We are obsessed as a society with putting the emphasis on singular days to celebrate things, but really we should celebrate thankfulness, love, peace, joy and wonder every day.  We need to take our narrow focus and widen it, broaden it to be more inclusive, more welcoming, more freeing.

Pathwalking is about choice, about control, about freedom.  The reason why I believe in choosing my own path is not just for my own wellbeing and happiness, it is for feeling more positive, more loving, and more grateful for all that I have and all that life can offer.  I choose to share Pathwalking with you because I believe that if we ALL can find our own paths in life, and we can all be happier with who we are and what we do, this world would be a better place all around.

Christmas should not be the only day we reach out to friends and family, spend money on gifts and express love in elaborate ways.  This should be an everyday occurrence.

Beyond love and gratitude, there is peace.  Leaders around the world speak of peace most frequently on Christmas Day.  Wouldn’t it be really great if they put the same effort into speaking about peace like this the rest of the year, too?

This one day should not be the only time this is our focus.  Love, joy, happiness and peace should receive our attention every day.  If we give more energy to the good, we can bring more good into the world.

This is a part of the Pathwalker’s journey – to see and to understand the importance of such positive energies.  Taking a positive trek through the world to be happy with your own choices is pretty much the point.

Can you take the positive energies of this day and share them EVERY day?


This is the one-hundred fourth entry in my series. These weekly posts are specifically about walking along the path of life, and my desire to make a difference in this world along the way. Thank you for joining me.

The first year of Pathwalking is available in print and for your Kindle.

Pathwalking 103

Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”  – Albert Einstein.

As a Pathwalker, I choose my path every day.  I have a course plotted, an idea in my head for where I am, where I want to be, and even how I want to get there.  As I have stated before, there are numerous twists, turns, bumps in the road, diversions and other incidentals that will occur along any given path.

As much as it is important to accept and make what you can of any such obstacles, it is equally important to recognize when the path you have chosen may in fact be wrong.

Sometimes these encounters along the journey will alter and shift a course without actually changing it; but sometimes they are omens and portents of a need to rethink and maybe even choose anew the path you are on.

Another important thing to take into account is that at any given time, you are likely not on a single path, but multiple paths.  While often this can be a harmonious pursuit, sometimes there are conflicts between the paths you are on that require attention and subsequent adjustment.

When you walk a path, and it does not work out as you wish, sometimes you need to give it another go.  However, in particular if you are stubborn and willful, it may be that you need to recognize that this path is not the right path, and you need to stop trying to walk it, and choose another.

You have been telling me for almost two years that I can make whatever choice I want.  Now you are telling me that I might be wrong?  Why bother if I cannot get it right?  Why bother to Pathwalk?  Doubt is a part of the human condition.  Cynicism and skepticism are to be expected from an aware mind.  The key to Pathwalking is not success of the path, it is making the choice to take your own path.  It is choice and control of your own destiny.

If I have made a choice to take a path, I am Pathwalking.  If that path is not getting me to the intended goal, and I choose to continue on the same path, I am Pathwalking.  If I disregard or underplay issues I see with my path and continue along it unchanged, I am Pathwalking.  If I choose not to change the path I am on, I have made the choice, and am still Pathwalking.

This is where I have to acknowledge that not all my choices are perfect.  I am only human, I cannot foresee everything ahead of me in any given situation.  I may be taking responsibility for my choices and control of my life, but that does not guarantee that the choices I make are good, or correct, or right.  It is wholly possible that I am making the same poor choice(s) again and again, expecting different results; and while that has me Pathwalking, I may not be doing so effectively.

Every single day you make choices.  Every single day you are faced with decisions that will have greater or lesser impacts on your life.  But you cannot always know if the choices you make are the right choices, are the best or worst choices, are good or ill, are right or wrong or somewhere in between the extremes.

It may take a while to see and then recognize that the path you are on is not working.  When and if you reach such a point, it is up to you to be accountable, and decide whether or not to continue on the same wavelength, or to start something different or new.

It begins with recognition.  I’m on a path that is not making me happy or this path is not getting me any closer to my goal or this is not an enjoyable journey.  When you recognize this, it goes to accountability.  I am making this choiceFor good or ill this is where I have brought myself.  I am here because I put myself here.

After you recognize and take responsibility for an issue with the path you are on, it goes to action.  I need to choose a new direction or I need to continue, but with these changes or it is even possible that the answer is I need to continue this same path.  Whatever the answer may be, you have recognized and gotten back into communication with yourself.

I have said before, and will likely say again: it is VERY important that you ask yourself How am I, how do I feel, what am I thinking and similar questions regularly.  This simple but necessary step will help you to see more clearly where you are in relation to where you want to be and where you are going.

Pathwalking is hard work.  Plain and simple.  It is not easy – but I firmly believe that nothing worth truly having is easy.  It is not a one-time operation, it is a constant activity.  But despite imperfections and flaws and twists and turns and bumps and obstacles and so on and so forth, Pathwalking is still how I want to choose for my own life, my own fate, my own destiny.

Lastly, remember that one of the main reasons to make your own choices, take your own control and walk your own path is to be happy.  No one can be happy all the time, but there is a contentedness and satisfaction that is true happiness that comes of knowing you are in control and choosing to live life on your own terms, rather than anyone else’s.

Are you on paths now that make you happy?


This is the one-hundred third entry in my series. These weekly posts are specifically about walking along the path of life, and my desire to make a difference in this world along the way. Thank you for joining me.

The first year of Pathwalking is available in print and for your Kindle.

Pathwalking 102

Along your chosen path you will encounter a wide variation of people.

Some you will simply pass by.  Some will be allies, some opponents.  Friends, acquaintances, family, lovers, other dreamers will come into and in many instances depart from your life.

As we grow and change so to do our associations.  Friends become lovers or enemies or fade away or simply remain friends.  Family become closer or more distant, those once close are lost and those once lost become close and so on.  Like our path, like every aspect of life, the people we are surrounded by change.

Like the choices and controls I work to take with Pathwalking, so too can I make choices with regards to the people in my life.  Do I let a given person in close, or hold them at a distance?  Do I let them into my inner circle and share every aspect of who I am, or do I keep them at arm’s length, or further?  How do my choices effect the way I walk my path and otherwise live my life?

My Pathwalk I share readily, as evidenced by these weekly posts.  I am more than happy to share with you or anyone at all the process of the journey I am on in this life.  Once in a while I even divulge rather personal aspects and ideas about my own chosen path to illuminate points of the process.

How each of us groups the people in our lives is not really all that important.  Friends, family, acquaintances, what-have-you, we each put different names on different people and groups of people as well as specific associations with those groups.  The meaning of these groupings will be deeply personal and unique to every individual.

What does crossover between everyone is how a person in your life affects your thought process, your path, and sometimes even your actions.

While Pathwalking is a singular, personal philosophy, it cannot be denied that we are social animals.  We seek other people to socialize, to bond, to connect, to procreate, to share life with in a myriad of ways.  No matter how you categorize the people in your life, you will encounter influences.

These influences will be presented in one of three forms.  Positive, negative, and neutral.  Each will serve a purpose in any given person’s life, and the role each plays can and will change.  Since almost everything in life is not static, so too are the attitudes, influences and overall associations of the people we encounter along the way.

It is important to recognize how everyone you encounter supports, ignores, or opposes your path.  The reason for this is simple – if you know how someone else is towards you and your life, you will better judge what influence, advice, inspiration and attitude – if any – to take from them.

It is very important to note – as with many of the ideas I present here, this concept frequently shifts.  Everyone has good days and bad days.  A generally positive person who is a good influence may have a time of negativity, and present ideas that are not good for you, and vice versa.  Welcome to human nature.

It is important to recognize whether you are working with a positive, a negative, or a neutral.  I have mentioned this prior with regards to ideas and other aspects along a given Path, but it is equally important with regards to people, and how they effect and influence and help or hinder us.

People who are positive towards you and your path are important.  They will be supportive, they will care, they will cheer you on and help you find and keep your way.  Whether they are a lover or someone you just know from the internet, the positive people are a necessary support in Pathwalking.  They and their attitude and influence will be helpful in keeping you on your path, and for both gathering and sharing ideas along the way.

People who are neutral towards you and your path are important.  They may or may not offer support, they may or may not care, they may or may not cheer you on.  This does not lessen their importance in your life.  Sometimes you simply need a person to be there, whether or not their attitude and influence is of any help with Pathwalking.  Sometimes we need to know what we do has no effect on anyone else or their attitudes.

People who are negative towards you and your path are important.  They may be unsupportive, they may not care, they may discourage you and maybe even obstruct your way.  These people are still important in your life.  Why?  Because they provide an example of who and what you do not wish to be.  That’s not intended to be mean or cruel in any way, it goes with the notion that to know positive, you have to know negative.  Negativity may not be intentionally malicious – we all know people who tend to view the world in a more negative than positive manner.  But knowing this is not someone who supports your path will let you better handle their attitudes and influences accordingly.

Having this kind of knowledge about the people in your life will help you to judge in what way, if any, you allow them to influence, share, support, and overall be a part of you and your path.   It will also better help you recognize whether you are a positive, neutral, or negative in the lives of the people you are associated with.


This is the one-hundred second entry in my series. These weekly posts are specifically about walking along the path of life, and my desire to make a difference in this world along the way. Thank you for joining me.

The first year of Pathwalking is available in print and for your Kindle.

Pathwalking 101

Who is in control of your life?

That is where choice comes in.  That is what Pathwalking takes ahold of.  Control.

We often look at the world and see who is control of what.  Some of the controls we perceive are pretty enormous, like which corporation controls your elected officials, and what organizations are controlled by the government.  Some are more personal, like the spouse who seems to be in control of your friend and his or her actions and such.

Pathwalking is not simply about choice, but also a matter of control.  By making your own choices, you are taking control.

Control is, I find, an oft misunderstood concept.  Misunderstood, I say, because all too frequently we believe in our lack of it.

That is out of my control.  I cannot control his or her actions.  I have lost control of the situation.  They are controlling him/her/you/me.

The truth is, you only have no control if you ALLOW the control to be in the hands of another.

Choice and control are not so far removed from one another.  Life is full of choices, and many of those choices are a matter of taking control of a given situation.

We need to recognize and acknowledge that we have more options to choose, and thus control, over all the things that happen in our lives.  We need to empower ourselves, and make the life we desire to have.

Yes, I must allow that there ARE matters beyond my control.  But they are wholly external.  I cannot choose how other people are feeling, I cannot force anyone else to see things in my way.  I have no control over the weather, greedy people, or any other such factors.

By the same token, and of equal importance, I CANNOT, and should not, have control of others.  If I want to be free to make choices and control MY destiny, then I must respect the rights of everyone else to do the same for themselves.  I may disagree with their views, I may argue to influence them to my way of seeing things, but I have no control over them and their destinies.

This brings up the topic of accountability.  Many people in our society today refuse to be accountable for anything.  They would rather blame someone else or pass on the responsibility to other forces.  This comes back to the subject of control.  We are ready to give it away frequently, rather than take it on so we may guide it as we would want it to go.

I have been Pathwalking weekly for nearly two years.  I have been consistent with putting my thoughts here ever Wednesday.  Both times I failed to get this out on time were due to circumstances that were, in fact, beyond my personal and immediate control.

Rather than let that stop me, I am taking what control I can, and still sharing my Pathwalk with you when the things that are beyond my control no longer present an obstacle.

We need to remember that the things we can control, we should control.  As people often point out, it’s the little things that become the big things, and are usually of the greatest importance when the day is done.  As such, how we let ourselves feel, what choices we make for our sustenance, our companionship, and our interactions with the world around us are for our personal control.

These are not matters to give away to the world around me.  These are the things that make me who I am, and when I choose them for myself, I am taking control.  I want to live the life I would choose, and I want to direct my own destiny.  I want to be in control.

Control should not be feared.  Control of your own life should be embraced, and something everyone should strive for.  Control of your life leads to the empowerment of your life.  Empowerment leads to contentment, and ultimately, I believe, to happiness.

Who is in control of my life?  I am.  I am responsible for my choices, accountable for my actions, and the person ultimately responsible for my own contentment and happiness.  By taking control of my own life, I can be the best person I can be, not only for myself, but for the people I care about.  That is what control of my own life lets me have.

Who is in control of your life?


This is the one-hundred first entry in my series. These weekly posts are specifically about walking along the path of life, and my desire to make a difference in this world along the way. Thank you for joining me.

The first year of Pathwalking is available in print and for your Kindle.

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